The Reasons Women Experience Feelings of Guilt While Pregnant

 

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You may be feeling guilty or worried about having sex during pregnancy. Many moms are worried that sex will hurt their baby (It won’t). Others feel guilty when they don’t feel “in the mood” or that their pregnancy is interrupting their sex life with their partner (It can, but that’s okay, too).

Nearly all women experience more fatigue than usual at some point during their pregnancy. Take it as a message from your body. It’s telling you to rest, and you should definitely listen.

Lack of support can exasperate symptoms When Lucy Howard was pregnant with her second child she says she felt immense guilt for not being joyful. It’s time to shed light on some of those “unsavory” — but fortunately, usually pretty fleeting — feelings that many women experience during pregnancy, because they are very common and. Depression during and after pregnancy is common and treatable.

According to a recent analysis by CDC external icon, the rate of pregnant women with a depression diagnosis at delivery increased by seven times from 2000 to 2015.Additionally, recent CDC research shows that about 1 in 8 women experience symptoms of postpartum depression. Having a baby is challenging and every. During pregnancy, hormone changes can affect the chemicals in your brain, which are directly related to depression and anxiety. These can be exacerbated by difficult life situations, which can result in depression during pregnancy.

“Hormonal changes play a huge role in your moods during and after pregnancy,” explains Lucy Puryear, M.D., a clinical assistant professor of psychiatry at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston and. The truth is, women often experience a range of emotions during pregnancy, even if they and their partners are excited about the baby and planned it from the get-go. They might have mood swings. We experience 5 hours a week of guilty feelings.

One study found that if you add up all the moments you spend feeling mildly or moderately guilty, it adds up to a pretty significant chunk of time. Why Many Women Experience Feelings of Guilt During Pregnancy. By Robin Elise Weiss, PhD, MPH How Mothers Can Survive Taking Care of a Toddler While Pregnant.

Fact checked by Andrea Rice Why You Have Mood Swings During Pregnancy and How to.

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Ruminating about the cause of the pregnancy problems, many women blame themselves for real or imagined wrongdoing, such as failure to comply with minor medical instructions (e.g., missing a daily prenatal vitamin), sexual intercourse, or temporary ambivalence about the pregnancy.

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Many women have ambivalent feelings during pregnancy, regardless of whether the pregnancy was intended.

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Because of the ambivalence of the first trimester, many feel guilt associated with the negative thoughts they may have had about the pregnancy or its timing.

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Elsevier Health Sciences, 2007

The guilt is sometimes brought on by ambivalence, because miscarriage often occurs during the time when the woman is unsure about the pregnancy.

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Elsevier Mosby, 2012

Most women have ambivalent feelings during pregnancy whether the pregnancy was intended or not.

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from Maternity and Women’s Health Care E-Book
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Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

They feel responsible for the outcome of the pregnancy and are protective and supportive of their partners.

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Feeling pressure to act happy and positive, the newly pregnant woman may feel deeply ashamed of these emotions and very alone.

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Elsevier Science, 2010

Some women feel responsible for the miscarriage, blame themselves for the loss, and feel excessive guilt and shame.

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from Handbook of Consultation-Liaison Psychiatry
by Hoyle Leigh, Jon Streltzer
Springer International Publishing, 2014

Many women also feel anger toward other women whom they perceive as having easy or “normal” pregnancies.

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by Karen J. Carlson, Stephanie A. Eisenstat, et. al.
Harvard University Press, 2004

They remind us that the personal, relational, and social contexts of the pregnancy all matter greatly to a woman’s psychological experience of and acceptance of the pregnancy.

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from Handbook of Infant Mental Health, Fourth Edition
by Charles H. Zeanah
Guilford Publications, 2018

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  • It really angers me when people say “Little girls are the best” Errrrr no, a healthy baby is the best, sex is irrelevant! You’ve got the same attitude as me, boy great, girl -great.

  • Abortion for me is much worse than the cartels that dismember people…

    U make me sick just killing weak humans. Then u say u were violated…well u have courage to take a baby or fetus human life but u don’t have courage to fight back during violation…

  • You are glowing I’m playing catch up today. You are going to be great. You & your husband will be amazing parents. No one is ever ready it’s no manual! Long as you do your best & love your child & protect her!

  • Hi Abbey! I love your videos and this one was really cool. I know you’ve done what I eat reviews on pregnancy which are awesome but I’d also love to see you do some what i eat in a day review videos on people who are restricted diets due to medical conditions.
    Here are some channels I watch that have what I eat in a day videos or if you find people youd rather do i’d love to see that to!!
    wild gut project (low fodmap)
    gabrielle laccasse (IBS)
    melanie murphy (IBS
    chloe barbu (IBD)
    chumchum (IBD)
    Izzy Kornblau (Gastroparesis)
    Steph Bruce (allergies)
    Isabelle’s Odyssey (MCAS & low-histamine)

  • Yes please make a video about what not to say to a pregnant woman. I got so many annoying comments! “Are you sure it’s not twins?!” “Wow you’re about ready to pop huh?” (At 5-6 months pregnant)

  • People who preach about loving yourself, who then proceed to shame and guilt trip women for getting an abortion so they can lead a healthier life.

    Don’t ever have kids, please.

  • Abby I really love your content, and I admire how positive and strong you are. I can only imagine how hard it must have been to keep making videos and working while going through your miscarriages. I’ve also been going through serious challenges in my own life between death and turmoil in my family, covid/job stress, and my own mental health battle with OCD. You are such a positive and soothing presence and your content provides such a nice distraction from everything going on. Your WIEIAD commentary also helps me understand what balance and healthy eating really mean, and what a positive relationship with food can look like/to not be fooled by toxic wellness and diet culture. I wish you the best on your pregnancy journey and bless your family! ❤️

  • Hi Abbey. Not sure if you changed your hair but if you did, that razor collarbone cut reeeally suits you.

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    For a boy, what about, Jacob
    For a girl, Hannah
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  • MY BODY MY CHOICE

    A fetus cannot survive on its own. It is fully dependent on the motheres body, unlike born human beings. Even if a fetus was alive, the “right to life” doesn’t imply a right to use someone elses body. People have a right to refuse to donate their organs, even if doing so would save somebodys life.
    The right to life does not imply a right to live by threatening somebody elses life. Bearing children is always threatening to the mother’s life. A “right to life” is, at the end of the day, a right to not have somebody elses will imposed upon your body.
    Do women not have this right as well?

  • I love your stadium analogy with the whole crowd cheering you on, I think every woman deserves that experience when they are pushing, it must be really encouraging!

  • I’m the same way about delivery. I have four(birth center births) and I was never a big fan of pregnancy but labor was fine to do again and again.

  • as i am watching this i am eating a grilled cheese sandwich. yesterday i had only potatoes for dinner. I cant eat any vegetables except for cucumber. i tried spinach and i felt like dying. i usually love spinach

  • Ahahah DId you really enjoy giving birth? I have recently read an awful sharing about how painful and ruining this process for a woman’s body, and it scared the h*ll out of me.
    And you’re so freely saying: “Ah, I loved it! I asked to do it again!”:D
    You are just the best <3

  • My birthed son is 12, my bonus son is turning 15 and we are pregnant! Yay! We’ve been trying for awhile so it was a wonderful suprise. But anyway my 12 yr old has said he wants a sister, just not a sassy sister lol & one that behaves.
    We just found out it’s a girl & I’m so excited! We thought about waiting and on one hand I wish we would have but on the other it’s been 12 years & I just needed to know lol.
    My son is a huge Mario fan (who isn’t?) & my husband tells him we are going to name her Rydette bc his name is Ryderlike Toad & Toadette. He doesn’t think it as funny as the hubby ��
    Btw I’m kinda terrified about having a girl. Our boys have been so easy, like amazingly easy… This pregnancy has already been A LOT different, forget morning sicknessIt’s all day sickness.
    I have been craving watermelon, lots of watermelon. I also think it’s bc I’ve been so sick, it’s hydrating.

  • Are there any names that you love but that your husband has vetoed? I know you don’t want to tell us your kids names (which I fully support) but I’d love to know your taste in names.

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  • We have decided on a boy and girl name for this baby. Before we settled though, I liked the names Pearl and Laurence. Take care✨��

  • We in the Same boat love I was in tears last night thinking the same things but WE got this no matter what you always have my support I’m in my second trimester and this my first too we got to stick together much love ������

  • Could you do or direct me to a body positivity video?? You talk so well on it and as a teen girl that’s a topic I find really hard to deal with and would love to hear what you have to say more on it. Love your videos and congrats on the pregnancy!

  • I feel that Buzzfeed is an unreliable source(even for some trivial topics) and ultimately, has no business making a video about a very, very serious topic, especially considering that they are extensively left winged. Information on this should be taken from an other, more qualified source. And please keep in mind, Buzzfeed usually makes light hearted videos, they must have had a reason/agenda for making this video.

  • Is it weird I had no food cravings or aversions while pregnant? Especially since while pmsing I always crave sweet. In the first trimester I just felt sick and didn’t want to eat anything and in the third I felt like there was no room for food and couldn’t eat heavy things. But this sensation of really liking or hating some food just never came

  • ok so when a child gets ræped what do you do
    A. let the child have the baby at the age of 12
    B. abort the baby becuase the child wants a childhood
    C. abort the baby becuase of B and also there is no such thing is fetus pain even though
    the nervous system is developed. also we don’t want the child to have to go such rough pain during labor
    becuase the child is 12.

    p.s. buzzfeed is literally full of conservatives so they ofc support trump

  • Great video, thanks so much for sharing your pregnancy details with us!
    I would love to learn more about your birthing story and what made it so amazing that you can’t wait to do it again?? Any tips to share on how to prepare for the birth? Love your vlogs!!

  • This article explains why the research touted by Natural Cycles regarding its use as a contraceptive is flawed and puts women at risk of unplanned pregnancy: https://srh.bmj.com/content/44/4/307.full I can send you the full article if you are interested as I’m subscribed to this journal.

  • @mia.beckk:if I had an abortion i’d never forgive myself..it’s so sad to think that people actually get them and throw away a possible human life

  • currently trying to get pregnant, I really want a boy. I’ve lost both my father and my older brother who where named Michael so I want to have a boy and name him after them. Other boy names I like are Jeremiah, Ezra, and Daniel.

  • I gained 34 pounds with my first. I ate sooo much in the third trimester. I’m kind of a little worried about gaining even more if I ever have a second. It would be worth it though ��

  • You really do provide the best content! It always seems so relevant to where I am in my life haha. Thank you for all your hard work!:)