Strategies for Smashing the News of the Miscarriage or Stillbirth

 

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Enlist a Friend or Relative to Break the News. If you had a full-term stillbirth and have a lot of people waiting for news that they aren’t aware will be bad, see if you have a friend or relative who might be willing to make the calls for you. Having someone else spread the word could take the pressure off of you so that you can take your time dealing with the news yourself. Here are some things you need to know about miscarriage and stillbirth.

Tips for Coping With a First-Time Miscarriage or Stillbirth 1. You did nothing wrong. After suffering through a miscarriage or stillbirth, you might seek out reasons for why you lost your child. BREAKING NEWS.

Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. 9 Ways To Respond To The Grief Of Miscarriage Or Stillbirth. 05/10/2015 08:32 am ET Updated Dec 06, 2017 Miscarriage statistics indicate around 15 percent or a little higher in confirmed pregnancies. That’s a lot. When I am diagnosing a miscarriage, I look the patient in the eye and say as gently as I can “I am so very sorry, but your baby does not have a heart beat.” I avoid the medical terms of fetus and embryo at this stage, because to this family this isn’t an “embryo,” this is their child.

image sources: hope and miscarriage. Breaking the silence: A link-up for babyloss moms to share our stories about miscarriage, stillbirth, or neo-natal death. If you’ve lost a child and have written about it, please link up your story below. If you’ve written multiple stories, feel free to link each of them individually. Using data from the National Survey of Family Growth, Gold and her team analyzed 7,643 women who reported 13,593 pregnancies to conduct the first national study to establish that parents have an increased risk of breaking up after a miscarriage or stillbirth.

Faith said that first and foremost, bereavement doulas are there to shatter the misconception that miscarriage and stillbirth are just something to get over. “Birth and bereavement doulas are. Generally, assuming mom is otherwise healthy, doctors will recommend waiting two to three menstrual cycles after a miscarriage, stillbirth, or full-term delivery, according to Babble, which quoted Ann Douglas and John R. Sussman, MD, authors of the book, Trying Again: A Guide to Pregnancy After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Loss. From breaking news to debate and conversation, we bring you the news as it happens. oneroof.co.nz.

Little life, big loss: Miscarriage, stillbirth and neonatal death in New Zealand. Miscarriage Risk Factors for Teens. Teenagers are at an even greater risk of miscarriage and complications from pregnancy than the average adult woman. With so many teens not knowing they’re pregnant until much later in pregnancy, or not seeking prenatal care in order to keep the pregnancy a secret, their risk factors become an even greater.

List of related literature:

Practice tip: Foetal abnormality or miscarriage Prior pregnancy loss, miscarriage, foetal demise, neonatal death or genetic or chromosomal abnormality in the current or a prior pregnancy often requires professional counselling with grief counsellors, support groups, therapists, and genetic counsellors.

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The grief that can come with a miscarriage is real, no matter how early in pregnancy you lost your baby.

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Allow yourself and your partner to mourn the loss of the baby, no matter how early in the pregnancy it occurs.

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by Mathew Miller, Sharon Perkins
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A visit to discuss all the results of the stillbirth evaluation and counseling regarding potential subsequent pregnancies is also recommended.

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from Creasy and Resnik’s Maternal-Fetal Medicine: Principles and Practice
by Robert Resnik, MD, Robert K. Creasy, MD, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2013

Talking with another woman who has herself experienced the loss of a pregnancy can be particularly helpful.

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• Allow them time to grieve for the pregnancy loss.

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from Maternity and Pediatric Nursing
by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
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• Discuss with the family the importance of grieving the loss before becoming pregnant again.

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by Elizabeth S. Gilbert
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

Talking with others who have been through similar experiences, sharing memories of the pregnancy and the baby, and gaining an understanding of the normality of the grief process can be very helpful.

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from Maternity and Women’s Health Care E-Book
by Deitra Leonard Lowdermilk, Shannon E. Perry, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

Although it is not unusual for some couples to want to initiate a pregnancy immediately after experiencing a stillbirth, it is best to counsel them regarding acting with haste.

“Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy, Fourth Edition: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner” by J. William Worden, PhD, ABPP
from Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy, Fourth Edition: A Handbook for the Mental Health Practitioner
by J. William Worden, PhD, ABPP
Springer Publishing Company, 2008

A subsequent visit to discuss results of the stillbirth evaluation and counseling regarding potential subsequent pregnancies is also recommended.

“Creasy and Resnik's Maternal-Fetal Medicine: Principles and Practice E-Book” by Robert Resnik, Charles J. Lockwood, Thomas Moore, Michael F Greene, Joshua Copel, Robert M Silver
from Creasy and Resnik’s Maternal-Fetal Medicine: Principles and Practice E-Book
by Robert Resnik, Charles J. Lockwood, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2018

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  • My heart goes out to you and your family. I pray that you will have more kids sometime soon. God gave you a great/ sad story. I love that you are so open about it. You have inspired me. You will see your kids again someday in heaven. I’m praying for you and your family. God has a plan for the rest of our lives and yours as well. Thanks for sharing with us.

  • I gave birth 2 weeks ago to my little one and I thought I would share my experience to those mommas who are expecting. I live in southern California and was advised by my hospital to call ahead before going in. I was taken in to a triage room on my own and was only allowed to call my partner inside after being assigned a birthing room. I was allowed to keep my partner for the entirety of the delivery up until the day I was cleared to go home (I had vaginal delivery). As far as I’m aware at least in Cali, momma’s are allowed to take in one support person with them for birth, but be prepared for the both of you to stay in your room until you’re discharged. Food was provided for the both of us and every hospital staff that came into the room had the proper PPE every time. I was also afraid of birthing alone, but that was not the case and I haven’t heard of that happening elsewhere. It’s a scary time to be pregnant, but my hospital made sure to take in all precautions to keep us all safe during birthing. You’ll make it through this!:)

  • You glossed over a really important point at 3:55 this was a study of people who had Corona virus WHO ALSO HAD PNEUMONIA which I believe is basically the worst 15% of Covid cases. A full 85%(est) of Covid19 patients do not develop pneumonia. So this brings two important questions. How do these results compare to people who have mild cases of Covid19, and as a control group, how do these results compare to pregnancies that occur in women who developed non-covid pneumonia. My guess is that pneumonia, on its’ own, would greatly increase some of these outcomes without the covid.

    As far as statistics, with that small of an n, you would need to have really large numerators for it to even be looked at. 1/12, 1/8 is just bad science to make any judgments…. even that 5/31 would be questionable.

  • Oh yes it hurts especially when we are trying to have a child for the first time, and miscarriages get in between it is very sad, I think about it every day.. I had my second miscarriages on my job in bathroom in Manhattan where I usually worked….yes…my best friend was the one I cream for at the time while sitting on the toilet and heard when it came out.. I scream I said oh my God, and a friend that was in the bathroom went and call my best friend from her office department, we work in the same department at the time..

  • Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry for your losses. I also experienced 2 infant losses recently. We got pregnant with twins through IVF. At 21 weeks we lost our first daughter due to pProm—she was stillborn. Almost 3 weeks later at 23+5, I delivered our second daughter and she lived 98 days in the NICU. She overcame all obstacles she faced linked to her prematurity. She was doing so well and we were going to bring her home soonish. Until one day she got very sick. She had a volvulus and had emergency surgery. It went well, so they thought, until her heart rate wasn’t beating fast enough during recovery. She became acidotic and bled out. I held her in my arms as she passed away. Our hearts were shattered into a million pieces all over again. The pain is unexplainable. We miss our girls everyday.

  • I just went through an early miscarriage last month and this video helped me to further deepen my gratitude for the healthy daughter we already have, for the blessing of an early miscarriage, for the fact it only happened once so far, for the baby never having had a heartbeat, for the community that exists through social media, for the therapy i am already receiving and for all the other blessings i am lucky enough to experience. Thank you for sharing your story and inspiring mothers and fathers how to move on with unimaginable pain. You are an incredible person, all the love ��❤️

  • I had 2 miscarriages last year. I often wonder how I get through it. The only thing that keeps me going is by trying to be happy for those who are close to me. Sometimes it’s hard not to be jealous. But it is not their fault that I’m having these problems. I know I will have my day soon. I’m about to start my surrogacy journey! So I’m not giving up.

  • this might just be a weird observance i just noticed or the easter egg. Is your tag it? I don’t remeber it being in any other videos. It also could be the sloth though so i have no idea.

  • I’m so happy I watched this! My daughter in law has been concerned about her pregnancy. You gave the available information in a clear, understandable, organized way. Very reassuring!

  • I just found your channel and I’m so happy to have some new and GREAT content to binge through this stay at home process. Being pregnant and being home/off work for like 5 weeks has really been hard. THANK YOU for actually giving the info and explaining it in a way that’s digestible and not scary. I’d much rather have the “I don’t know” answers than misinformation. Due in September and hoping this all relatively blows over by then!

  • My aunt had a baby the day after Easter after three days of labor. She has a ton of medical issues and is tiny so my family was already very worried about the outcome. Adding Covid 19 while she lives in a heavily effected area made us even more scared. My aunt was able to have a vaginal birth to a healthy baby boy. Little chungus was 9lbs 10oz and a month later mom and baby are both healthy and happy. This is a scary time but everything will be okay and my smiley, active, baby nephew Kyler is proof

  • I get my info about Covid-19 from CDC and Dr. Seheult on the MedCram YouTube channel. He is an intensivist and the updates are heavy on biochemistry, medication discussions, and relevant journal article review. I’m adding you, MDJ, because medcram doesn’t talk about OB and Covid-19 risk.

    Update 62 on medcram today discussed possible reasons for hypoxemia when a patient’s pneumonia isn’t severe enough to cause it. Though SARS-CoV-2 is acquired via eyes, nose, and mouth, and attacks the lungs, it also infects the entire body’s endothelial cells causing other problems such as blood clots and reduced oxygen exchange in the alveoli. The biochemistry of ACE2 and angiotensin 2 could cause issues that effect pregnancy and could increase the risks you discussed in this video. It’s early in this disease, so we don’t know exactly what risks are increased by what percentages Correlation is not necessarily causation, either. We need more data!

  • Any new information on this topic? It has been a few months and I have found out I myself is pregnant. So now I have been trying to follow this information.

  • Thank you for giving such factual information!! Also, can you please react to Raising the Barr’s labor and delivery story? She’s a smaller YouTuber and it’s an old video, but it’s intense and I’d really like to see you react to it ��

  • This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. Having a miscarriage after 7 yrs of infertility is devastating. I will seek therapy as I’m still mourning my loss.

  • I’m 35 weeks and I just found out that my baby will die pretty much at birth, due to a more severe form of Hypoplastic left heart syndrome. I’m finding it’s getting harder day by day. I thought I would be resilient, and I have been, but every day gets harder as things are “normalised” and I have to keep on going at work. I have no idea how you coped with this twice! You are amazing xx

  • After my fist son, I get pregnant 13 years after had last son who is now 15 years old. I Thank God, because. I Give birth to my last son with one ovary, one tube, half of UTERUS….a miracle baby boy. I have two sons only.. thank GOD ABOVE for such MIRACLES. For my two prince.

  • Dr. Richard Bartlett, a Texas doctor, reverses Coronavirus Symptoms In 100% of Cases with inexpensive treatment: Budesonide Inhaled With Nebulizer. He says budesonide has been used safely for over 20 years to prevent asthma attacks even for preemie babies and the elderly. He explains that France is now studying a similar approach. Spain and England have announced that they will also test this approach.

    Dr. Bartlett questions why the World Health Organization followed Communist China’s example which led to such disastrous results in the US and Italy. Instead, they could have followed the more effective and less expensive example of Japan, Taiwan, and Singapore which does not require a lockdown, masks, social distancing, contact tracing, or a vaccine.

    Dr. Bartlett explained that NIH is currently testing this approach and their results will be available in October. However, he believes that NIH is conducting the study in a way that is designed to fail. When Debbie pointed out that Americans are being told to wait for a vaccine, Dr. Bartlett said he believes that people’s lives are being sacrificed for an agenda because an effective vaccine is not possible or needed.

    Dr. Bartlett said, “When you have the government is telling you it knows more about what’s good for your health than your doctor, that’s socialism, that’s communism”. He says we should go with a winning strategy rather than masks and social distancing.
    Dr. Bartlett’s main message is “Don’t be afraid of COVID-19! There’s a quick inexpensive treatment!”

    Dr. Richard Bartlett does have a channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHBiz5wMLRiQwBoMdzYbLVw
    Dr. Richard Bartlett does have a website with his full protocol: http://covidsilverbullet.com/

  • I’m at 30 weeks now, and definitely concerned about everything, but mainly because there is just not enough data to know what to think. I’m just trying to take it a day at a time, and hope for the best outcome. Praying for my baby and everyone else out there who are sick or scared at this time.

  • I’m 14 weeks pregnant and just received a positive test result ��…so far I feel like I have allergies or a head cold and a dry cough…

  • Could this woman be any more confusing & waffling in her delivery. How about just stating simple facts and getting straight to the point with how Covid 19 affects pregnancies? That’s what people really want to know, & what is useful for them to know at this time!

  • I’m 11 weeks and being pregnant during COVID is hard enough and working on a hospital is even harder is difficult not to be come fearful when I’m watching all the sick people. Thank you for the amazing videos is great help for me

  • Women may be more directly affected by a miscarriage having carried the child, but having lost a child due to miscarriage myself, I believe it a bit extreme to say that miscarriage is unique to women. Parents have children together, and though every pregnancy does not involve a father directly, the ones that do have just as devastating an affect on the father. I experienced loss, I grieved, and I moved on. It takes two to make a child, and it affects two to lose a child.

  • Thank you for sharing your story. Right now I feel like I am drowning in grief. My son would have turned 4 months yesterday. He passed away at 3 weeks due to late onset gbs. He was perfectly healthy. Everything happened so fast and my life has been changed forever ������

  • I wish they included more folks in the studies before they published it. I know there are a lot more patients with Corona virus from all those three illness in different countries.

  • ya know what, i might be a 20 year old male (not pregnant fyi) but this is IMPORTANT im glad your educating people in these hard times so that people can feel safer

  • I’m 32 weeks pregnant with covid 19 I have shortness of breath and a strong cough thank god I have not had fever ob told me to keep a healthy diet and if anything go to the er but my baby girl moves so much so I know she’s okay I’m just praying that my next test it’s a negative before I give birth

  • Something else that concerns me about how data like this is presented is that these numbers are only taking into account cases where woman were hospitalized for pneumonia during pregnancy and that pneumonia was determined to be caused by a SARS-COV-2 infection. That doesn’t take into account women who were hospitalized for pneumonia for other reasons and what their outcomes were, as another commenter posted. But additionally, there are likely many many women who successfully continue to be pregnant or have given birth in the last two months who are or have been infected by the virus during this time and either haven’t experienced any symptoms at all, experienced only mild symptoms and never attributed it to COVID-19, experienced more severe symptoms but were never hospitalized or even experienced severe enough symptoms to be hospitalized but were never tested for the virus (which we know is a huge ongoing issue). I’m just not comfortable putting any confidence in research that makes conclusions about an entire population, when they have only been able to study a tiny and very negatively biased percentage of them. I don’t think any real statistics can be determined about the studied effects until the sampling includes all the representative populations of pregnant women in more accurate proportions.

  • I’m curious. We’re any asymptomatic pregnant women included in this study, or were only seriously ill women included? I would like to see if a woman who has covid but is asymptomatic would have the same risks.

  • I want to use this means to let the world know that all hope is not lost Getting pregnant after having tubes clamped and burned, I know IVF and Reversal could help but it way too cost, i couldn’t afford it either and i so desire to add another baby to my family been trying for 5 years, not until i came across Priest Babaka, who cast a pregnancy/Fertility spell for me and i got pregnant.l hope that women out there who are going through the same fears and worries l went through in GETTING PREGNANT, will find your contact as i drop it here on this site, and solution will come to them as they contact you. Thank you and God bless you to reach him email via: [email protected] gmail.com or Facebook at priest.babaka

  • Hi doctor mama jones! I was wondering if you would react to this video? It’s a vaginal delivery of twins! Here’s the link. https://youtu.be/v7izSkC9DvI ❤️❤️

  • I hope you continue to do update videos on these risks over the next few months. We’ve been planning to start trying for baby #2 in August and at this point with the available information we are still thinking thats what we’ll do but I want to stay up to date with any new information regarding this area.

  • Can you do a video (or have a section of a video) about mother’s having to do their obgyn appointments alone and possible solo delivery? I don’t understand why they are forcing healthy fathers out of these experiences and my heart is broken. I’m so angry. It’s not fair, my baby is just as much my husbands baby as mine.

  • In many countries there are recommendations to deliver baby by cesarean if mother is covid positive. Assumption is that cesarean decreases risk of transmission to the baby. In Poland often they take away baby until mom’s results come back negative, horrible idea

  • I don’t know if you’ve done this or not but can you do a full video explaining the different types of IUD’s and their benefits and drawbacks? I’m contemplating getting one but because of covid right now I can’t ask my OB! Thank you so much!

  • Thank you for sharing your story. You are truly a strong woman. I’m here if you ever need to talk. If you don’t mind I’d like to share my story.
    My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 14weeks. My second pregnancy I gave birth at 35 weeks to a beautiful baby boy whom spent just over a week of his very short life in the NICU where according to the autopsy is believed that he caught the deadly disease (whooping cough) that ultimately we lost him to at 25 days old. We didn’t know that, that was what was causing his health issues until it was too late.
    Each person has their own way of dealing with loss. At my “breaking point.” Where I was seriously considering suicide because I felt that I had absolutely no reason to be here anymore and that I would never feel any better, a person in my non-religious loss group said to me “You know how you feel right now? Do you want your parents to feel that if you decide to take your life?” It was so blunt, but it made me really think about what I was considering and I knew in my heart that I would never wish this hole in anyone’s heart, not even a worst enemy. So that was the day I turned everything around. Yes, I still have my hard days, but had I decided that day to go through with taking my own life I wouldn’t have the amazing little boy that I have today. Each day that passes it’s easier to deal with the holes that are forever in my heart.
    R.I.P. Alex 01/15/10
    R.I.P. Liam Anthony 04/18/15 05/13/15

  • I just had a miscarriage three weeks ago… this movie helped me so much… knowing that I’m not insane and a crazy person…. I don’t feel anything I’m numb…. thank you

  • I’m so irritated about this virus! I’m starting to second guess my decision to try and conceive right now. I just fear I’m running out of time. Im going to be 35 this year and my husband is 57. We don’t want to wait much longer since he’s already so much older. This is all just horrible timing. Do you think I should wait?

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  • Can you please do a video on placenta previa and the complications/what to look out for? Especially when doctors have started rescheduling follow up appointments because of covid19

  • I am still sad. I had a miscarriage of my first baby a year ago. I have been trying to get help but i feel very lonely. There are no support groups and the few are during business hours. I seek theraptbbut the therapist kinda “giggled” on some things I shared. I looked for support on instagram, I made a comment regarding my fear to retry for pregnancy and I was terribly judged. My hear goes out to all those women whom had had miscarriages. I never knew something like that could happen to me. I still cant fing the answers and I still can’t get over my fear…. I regret not getting pregnant un my 20’s… I did everything people said it was “the right thing” Worked, going to school, got my degree, travel, wait for the right guy, not settle etc etc…Now that I did all that Imiscarried..

  • this is one of the most traumatic experiences i have ever seen, i have a video uploaded on my youtube page of my personal experience, my heart goes out to all mothers, your not alone!

  • Jordan your story is so heart breaking. You are such an inspiration to me and so many others. If you are able to get through what you’ve been through then I can make it too. Thank you for sharing. And Alex thank you! ❤️

  • I’m currently 25 weeks pregnant your videos have helped heaps glad new zealand has gone down to level 3 which means my husband can be there with me I just hope we keep going in the right direction only 3 new cases of covid19 today

  • Oh wow, Jordan, my heart goes out to you and your husband. I am so sorry for your incredible loss. You have such amazing strength. I don’t even know how I would get through that. I wanted to comment here in to let you know about another amazing mama named Lindsey Dennis. They lost their two beautiful daughters like you but due to another condition. Like you, she is incredibly strong. She has a blog called Vapor and Mist and I feel like if you aren’t familiar with her story, you both should connect.

  • I’m only 13, so of course I’m not trying to have a kid, but I’m a rainbow baby after my mom had 5 miscarriages. Its hard to explain, but in a way I feel survivors guilt. like, I shouldn’t be alive. It’s hard sometimes, but I’m trying to help myself get better. if anyone has advice I’d love to hear ������

  • Is embryo adoption an option for Jordan? Although she didn’t say, I’m guessing that there is some genetic condition that caused two losses that could possibly be avoided by using adopted embryos. This is so heartbreaking. No one should have to experience that kind of loss even once….. twice is unthinkable.

  • Is this study solely for mothers currently infected while giving birth? I had covid during weeks 9-10 but have since tested negative.

  • I think the Caesarean section rate might also be influenced by OBGYNs who want to avoid transmitting SARS-CoV-2 during vaginal delivery

  • i would love to hear your opinion on giving birth during covid-19, and thoughts on restrictions of delivery example husbands needing to leave directly after birth or in some cases not being able to be there at all. also support people unable to be present during c-sections and lack of support during prenatal appointments such as ultrasounds. i feel so strongly that women should be entitled to that time with their partner during ultrasound and post delivery. i’m curious on other people’s opinions

  • I know this video is 3 months old but I’m almost 37 weeks and one week into COVID-19. I also have gestational diabetes. I feel like I’m a walking science experiment.

  • I’m about a week out on being in the second trimester. For me it’s very worrisome what will happen when i do eventually end up having to give birth.

  • My beloved sister should have turned 18 years old the 29th of December. She lived for 30 hours. I was 6 ( almost 7) when it happened and i remember it as if it was yesterday. Miss her a lot.

  • Heyah! I have a friend near her due date! Right now, their concern is the possibility of walking out the hospital infected with COVID-19. Although, the possibility may be low, her husband is willing to perform an at-home birth.

    Do you have any tips in case there came a time for an at-home natural birth?

  • Currently 35 weeks and 4 days with my first. I’m really anxious about hospital policy changing even more. My baby is currently breech and will most likely require a c-section if he doesn’t flip himself, and with current hospital policy, I will have to go in alone since no support people are allowed in the operating room. I am scared my wishes won’t be honoured like delayed cord clamping and skin-to-skin because of the limited resources available in this current climate.

    My husband will be able to meet up with me while i’m in recovery, but I’m not sure what is going to happen between the time I am in-surgery and afterwards

  • Alex thank you for addressing this topic. I lost my son 9 years ago at 4 mos old due to premature birth and I wish I had found resources like this at that time. I am just finally seeking professional help to come to terms with our loss. Knowing others are out there that can help to heal is comforting. Thanks for all you and your husband are doing through your non profit!

  • Hiii I basically just binged all of your vids lol. Can you talk about not cutting a baby’s umbilical cord at all so it can naturally fall off (they’re called lotus births)? I always thought you HAD to cut an umbilical cord but I watched a video of a lady who didn’t.
    I found the link!!!: http://www.barcroft.tv/off-grid-attachment-parenting-all-natural-approach-to-child-upbringing-brighton-uk
    Maybe you can react to the whole vid?

  • Still, if you’ve suffered a miscarriage (or an ectopic or molar pregnancy). It’s important to remember that you have the right to grieve as much or as little as you need to. Do this in any way that helps you to heal and eventually move on. Turn to your partner for support. Remember that he or she is mourning the loss of a baby too but may show that grief in a different way. Sharing your feelings openly with each other, rather than trying to protect each other, can help you both heal. If you’re religious, ask your pastor, priest rabbi or spiritual leader for guidance. Perhaps you’ll find closure in a private ceremony with close family members or just you and your partner. Sharing your feelings through a support group, like the one in Bio tex group chats, with a friend or online. With others who experienced a miscarriage can also be a comfort. Ask your practitioner to recommend a therapist or bereavement group to help you through this difficult period. Since so many women suffer a miscarriage at least once during their reproductive years. At least 10 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage. You may be surprised to find how many others you know have had the same experience as you but never talked about it with you, or maybe never talked about it at all. If you don’t feel like sharing your feelings. Or don’t feel you need to, don’t. Do only what’s right for you.

  • Thank you!! I’m in school to be an Ob nurse and hopefully an ObNP soon! I think you should react to an episode of House MD with the pregnant photographer because it even gets me mad ��. Keep up the great content❤

  • PLEASE HELP I havent been able to set up an appointment yet (1st day of last period -march 13th) 4-16 I found out I’m pregnant. I have hypothyroidism and idk if this is gonna be ok or not. I’m also moving to Missouri in 3 weeks and want to set up an appointment there. I also (when I found out) immediately quit smoking, caffeine, alcohol and sugar. Is any of this going to effect me? This is obviously my 1st pregnancy and I’m a little nervous about these things but especially my thyroid. Thank you

  • I had four miscarriages before I could keep the fifth child from miscarriaging thanks my GYN DR. MAX JEAN. HE HELPS ME TO HAVE MY FIRST SON IN 1992. AND I WAS SPOTTING WITH MY FIRST SON…MY DR. PUT ME ON BED REST FOR THREE FULL MONTHS,. I WAS OFF MY FEET FROM WORK, THREE MONTHS, TO KEEP ME FROM HAVING MY FIFTH MISCARRIAGE. THANKS AGAIN DR. GIL JEANS..A GREAT DR. He is still my GYN.THE BEST DR…

  • A lot of these articles are also preliminary results so the results have the possibility of being not wrong but not quite right. The fact that it’s a systemic review of three diseases makes it a bit iffy to me and the covid-19 data is new and probably needs updated. A good amount of covid-19 papers aren’t properly peer reviewed right now. The studies are too quick and dirty for me to generalize anything with their data.

  • Thank you for your level-headed, well-reasoned explanation and a lesson in realistic assessment of statistical data! IMO (PARTICULARLY knowing what a hot-button issue this is right now) the article writers showed poor judgement in how they wrote their abstractthey drew some really broad conclusions on the basis of incredibly limited data, and they really should have qualified those statements better.

    My niece is giving birth this month (fingers crossed), and even though she’s supposed to be going to a children’s hospital that doesn’t treat COVID-19 patients, it’s certainly been an additional stressor. (Not to mention, the quarantine restrictions mean she may not be able to have her doula on hand for the birth, and her mother won’t be able to be with her as originally planned.)

  • I am a loss mom. My son would have been 4 this October. As his birthday approaches, it is always more difficult for me. I totally agree about the push forward mentality. I always think that my son is watching me from heaven and I want him to be proud of how his mom perservered, that’s what gets me through everyday. not to mention, I was blessed with my rainbow, who makes me feel like I have a part of him always with me as well. Thank you for sharing your story, it definitely helped since it can feel so lonely at times.

  • Bless your heart. It’s so so very hard. We’ve had loads that just happened and then my farthest one was 21 weeks but we knew she was really sick and incompatible with life. Hers was easier to process because I understood why I couldn’t keep her. Pushing on after was definitely hard but I wanted a baby so bad that I couldn’t stay stuck in my grief.

  • Can you do a video about undiagnosed breech presentation? I just experienced this! Spontaneous labour, I went from 4-8cm in 1.5 hrs, my midwife ruptured me for thick mec and low and behold, there was a bum when she examined me and not a head! So I went for an emergency c section. I would love it if you would please make a video about this! ❤️

  • Another thing to consider with covid-19 is that many of the people currently being diagnosed are those who have more complicated cases due to a lack of widespread testing. People who have a higher risk of complicated courses of covid-19 are also those who have a higher risk of pregnancy complicationslike diabetes, hypertension, obesity, etc. The link may not be causative but instead there is a confounding factor.

  • Would you be willing to do a video on “blighted ovums” and “missed miscarriages” I just recently had a D&C done (March 24th) and still very confused. Like why someone could have a missed miscarriage etc.

    I would appreciate it so much!

  • https://7news.com.au/news/human-interest/bangladeshi-woman-with-two-uterus-gives-birth-to-twins-a-month-after-first-child-c-981449

  • I lost my daughter on October 2 2019 she lived for just under a day I never got to hold her,kiss her or watch her grow up I miss her every single day

  • Thank you for sharing this! My heart goes out to you both and anyone who has experienced infant loss. I wish my mom had these resources and stories when she lost my brother and sister over 35 years ago.

  • I got a question that is really bothering me. I am 5 foot 5 and about 100 pounds pre-pregnancy (30 pounds underweight).. Well, im pregnant with my second child and i’ve been having a hard time with doctors and comments that they are/have been making to me.
    1st one being about my weight.. the first ob I went to was all oh you cant be pregnant because your to light and your probably just missing your periods because of your weight. then the second doctor had said how i have to gain weight that im killing my baby it’s my fault (pretty much making me feel bad about naturally being under weight) Is there any good way to gain healthy weight during pregnancy (besides eating 4 large meals a day)?

  • I’m currently 7 months and your videos are such a help in these trying times. Your videos have made me feel so much better. Thanks for all you do.

  • I feel like another important point when looking at things like x% increase in y risk doesn’t mean that risk is now x percent. If the risk for something was say, ten percent, and the risk increased by 30 percent, the risk for that is not 40 percent, it’s 13 percent. I’ve seen a lot of people confused by this when looking at data for a variety of things, so it’s definitely an important distinction. While this study is interesting, as stated in the video, this is a ridiculously small sample size to be able to draw any conclusive data from. While we don’t necessarily understand the full effects of COVID-19, it is a respiratory infection and as such any complications or increased risk in pregnant people are likely going to be along a similar trend line as other respiratory infections. Overall, while interesting there’s nothing you can really do besides let medical professionals do their jobs, they have a greater understanding of how to handle situations like this and should ultimately do what at the time of treatment is best.

  • I had the virus very early on my pregnancy, at the time i didn’t know i was pregnant. Baby seems to be fine but i still worry about it and if I ever get the virus again ��

  • I have a friend with the same story but just lost the two babies its had and I just don’t know how I can face her everyday and tell her all is well

  • So encouraging. My husband and I just suffered our second 2nd trimester loss in 6 months. The loss of our son Samuel and daughter Harriet is just so difficult but you are absolutely right…push forward. God bless xx

  • Thank you for this video! I really appreciate that you’re talking about the data available, and breaking it down.

    Is there any new data about pregnancy and COVID-19? All of the COVID-19 studies in this analysis came from China, which is fine but… maybe limiting?

  • I just lost my baby at 19 weeks n 5 days old.this was my second ivf transfer.the first one didn’t work and this one ended in a stillborn.For anyone out there that’s doing ivf with icsi and gentetic testing on your embryos let me tell you things can still happen. I went to 14 weeks with all perfects tests and scans.the baby was healthy n measuring perfectly. after my last 14 weeks scan all was good with baby and my next scan and visit was for my 20 week scan.at 19 weeks n 5 days I had a midwife apt and acouple days before that I started spotting so I called my midwife n she said its fine and if bleeding gets heavy go to the ER but I’ll see you in acouple days.so at my 19week 5 day visit with her there was no heartbeat so went straight to the hospital to find out the baby died and was measuring at 15 weeks.they induced labour and I gave birth to him.the doctors cheaked him over and said his skull looked not developed and he had a bulge in the back of the neck.this is probably why he died,I didn’t want to get an otopsy because I didn’t want his body to get intact.I just dont get how this could of happened to him when I got all that checked out and all was good!? I’m devastated that I carried him for 5 weeks him being dead and I had no idea! no symptoms at all! just started spotting acouple days before my 20 week scan.My mom said I guess God wanted me to spend a longer time with him.You are so strong,thank you for sharing your story with us.

  • Can you please react to greys anatomy season 7 episode 21 there is pregnant women and her baby is tangled in her intestines and I would like to know more info on that. Only if you want too��

  • From someone who has taken statistics, has a statistics professor for a dad, and is in a profession that is huge into using research and reading statistics, thank you for breaking down the stats. I’m also interested (not finished looking at the video) on if they used a Chi-squared test. They’re really good at showing what factors are MOST likely to be related (correlated) to an event. For example, it can appear that one variable is the most important looking at the statistics, but the Chi-squared reveals its actually complicated or more likely related to a different stat.

  • i have had five miscarriages and do not have a child. i am 48 now and divorced. i have been followed by a fertility expert but there was nothing to be done… my ex husband was absent emotionally… i am in montreal but we do not have any miscarriage therapist or even group therapy for this sort of grief.. i feel like a complete failure as a woman…it seems cruel that animals and plants flourish at my touch, but a little baby… all i ever wanted…could not stay in my womb…i had very regular periods, and still do…. i dont know how to get out of the shame trap…. i had little support and always felt uncomfortable to discuss my deep heart wrenching torture inside my soul…all i ever wanted was to hold my children…

  • God is pushing me to share a fb live….today on the death of our foster baby, today she passed 9 years ago, she was 8 months old. I just keep praying. Hide me behind the cross lord and let someone else have hope today after loss. So thank you!!!

  • I’m sorry this is t related to the video topic but is anyone else having trouble setting notifications for this channel? It tell me it’s “for kids only”…wtf?

  • I saw on one of your other videos that you like funny baby name stories. So to cheer you up in this crazy time I’ll tell you the name of a guy I want to high school with because I think it will make you laugh, his name was “Braxton Hicks”! (Really!) His last name was Hicks and his parents decided to call him “Braxton” because apparently there were a lot of false alarms during the pregnancy. It’s probably good that he did not go into medicine but became a musician.

  • Great interview! Jordon, I’m so sorry for your devastating loss. My advice for all of us who have been through loss of any kind is to ALLOW ourselves to grieve. ❤️

  • I once had diabetes which made me confused and I didn’t know what to do until someone introduced me to Mrs Maria she’s and herbalist I messaged her on [email protected] gmail.com and now am free from diabetes she gave me a medicine that made it disappear am so happy… all thanks to [email protected] gmail.com

  • Thank youI just had a miscarriage during my first pregnancy. This was far more informative and comforting than any of the limited information provided to me by treating health care providers

  • Thank you for sharing your story Jordan, it was brave and strong and inspirational. Your message about positively choosing not to let grief consume you is a powerful one and a good reminder ��

  • We dealt with loss our son was stillborn Apr 22nd 2016 @ 35 weeks. We had our rainbow baby girl 3/29/2018. I started a support ministry S.A.I.L survival after infant loss @ my church Blueridge United Methodist Church in Houston, TX. It was refreshing to I wasn’t alone. I also saw a therapist who had miscarriage so she knew loss too. You are anazing for sharing your story

  • I’m not pregnant, but I find your videos so informative and well researched! So many scare mongering, over exaggerated articles in the media right now and small scale studies with an abstract like this do not help.

  • Can we please get an updated video on Covid-19? I’m currently 19 weeks, my husband is positive & we have no idea what to expect. He got one of the worse COVID-19 cases in the surrounding population of his job and were concerned about me being around him etc. help?

  • I’m shocked actually of how much miscarriages are not talked about. I cannot speak for everyone/everybody but talking about it is helping me. Talking to my boyfriend about it because we shared that devastating and traumatic experience together. We saw our miscarriage happen and that is the part that will always hurt. We started the “what if” conversation and to be honest that does not help much it just made us sadder than what we already were. We talk about future babies because we are going to try again. HOPE & BELIEVE have been our words since we walked out of the hospital feeling lost and confused by what just happened. Tuesday you go in to your OB/GYN appt. and she tells you Congratulations your pregnant and by Friday your baby is gone. That is how quick it happened. We cried so hard but the first thing I said to my boyfriend is we have to talk about it. I don’t know who needed this but HOPE & BELIEVE…. Mark 11:24

  • So heartbreaking �� Jordan, I’m so sorry for your losses! Alex you and Philip are truly a blessing coming forward so openly and Sharing your journey of infertility and losses. You both have opened an avenue for others to talk, share, cry and grieve. When I lost my 3rd baby in 1991and my 4th baby in 1993 (I had 2 children already) it wasn’t discussed. I remember feeling so lost in my own grief and very lonely. You don’t know how many times I was told you have two children 5 months and 18 months already, just move on. I remember crying to my mom saying we just wanted to have 1 more she wrapped her arms around me and told me you need to have faith and if it’s gods plan you will have another baby. But in the mean time she pointed to Nicole and Brian and told me have fun and enjoy what’s in front of me and relax and pray make god and my family my center everyday. Thankfully I did go on to have my rainbow �� baby girl 2.5 years later it was a pregnancy I cherished, every symptom I had the good, the bad and sometimes the ugly even the early bed rest because my HCG levels were very slow rising and I was told the baby may not make it. So I did everything I could and prayed dear god I will take what ever you bless me with, please let this baby live. She was born at 39 weeks and completely healthy at the time. At 6.5 years old we found out she was hearing impaired due to a constant infection I carried while she was in utero and antibiotics I had through the whole pregnancy. But she was my beautiful Olivia Brooke!She is now 23, wears hearing aids and a nurse. I wish their was someone like Alex and Philip to laugh, cry and talk to when I was in my mid 20’s. My husband was understanding but he grieved differently then I did. I’m now 53 and a stay at home Nana to my 3 oldest daughters 3 children a mom is what I always wanted to be and now I get to be a nana to a 8 and 6 year old girls and their little brother now 2.5.

  • This was so incredibly difficult to watch, but I’m so grateful I did. Thank you for making this video. I know it took time and research and heart. Thank you for your good deed. Heaven bless you and your wee ones!!!! ����❣️

  • My son died in my stomach in March and I had to give birth and I held him and my daughter held him. It was the worst thing I have experienced but we did get answers and that gave me an odd sense of peace (of course it took me until recently to find that peace). Now I have had 5 miscarriages with two in the later terms. I was able to get pregnant when I was 18 and although not planned she has been my heart and soul and held my hand through each miscarriage. My husband went back to work Monday even though we lost our son on Friday. I felt so alone and I still do some. We are trying again and it is bittersweet. We think we have solved all the health problems but it is still so very scary.

  • would love you to do a tribute video for this poor nurse who took her own life. I think help should have been available or did she even ask for it, but its so so sad and probably loads of doctors and nurses seeing the volume of death you never see had GOT to get to some of them. May she rest in peace. https://nypost.com/2020/04/28/nyc-er-doc-lorna-breens-suicide-leaves-friends-colleagues-shaken/

  • This channel is soooo important.
    And I am so impressed!
    It so important!
    To give words to find a way to help people.

    This story helped me.
    It will help many others.

    So nice done, tecnically; light, backgrlund, sound.
    Your interwiew voice, tone, questions perfect.

    It shows that you both are full of knowledge. The two inn front og the camera. And him behind camera.
    Very nice, profetionally (maybe spelled wrong…) work!

    And the most important: you are all able to give advice connected from your hearts.

    Keep up the good work!

    From a viewer from northern parts of Norway.

  • Hi, I know that you are an OB GYN but can you give your medical opinion on what the following video says about treating Covid like high altitude sickness?
    https://youtu.be/Rzu1AJRZJEI

  • I’m 17 weeks pregnant and tested postive for COVID-19 on July 2nd, but I was already very very sick. I lost my appetite which caused me to lose 10 pounds, I lost my sense of taste and smell, had fevers,had trouble breathing, my entire body felt like I was hit by a truck so I was in pain, and couldn’t get out of bed. After a week in a half my symptoms got better and 3 days before I was gonna get re-tested for the second time I was no longer having symptoms. When I re-tested my results came back postive, AGAIN. The thing is during that time I was sick I worried that something was wrong with my baby. I had so much anxiety and depression, that I would have panic attacks and started having a hard time to sleep. I pushed and pushed my OBGYN to be seen because I didn’t know how my baby was. The nurse finally spoke to my doctor and he said yes, he wanted me to be seen because prior to testing postive the first time, I saw my OBGYN in the beginning of the month of June. So, we’re in August, its been 2 months since I lost saw him, I was 9 weeks when I last saw him. I had a follow up appointment but thats when I tested postive and had to inform them, and was tested postive again, so yeah. Finally, I will be seeing my OBGYN tomorrow, August 5th, I have to remain in my vehichle, have my mask on, call them when I’m outside so they can check me in, and it will be an in and out appointment.

    I am very nervous for tomorrow, I’m just like, what if their is something wrong with my baby? All these what ifs scenarios are going through my head that I’m starting to feel the anxiety creep out and can feel my heart beating fast and palms start to sweat. I’m taking deep calming breaths and listening to relaxing background to help with my anxiety. Its just, its been 2 months so much could’ve changed, what if me getting COVID-19 and getting sick changed the health of my baby ������ now I’m crying as I think more and more because no one really knows how COVID-19 affects baby’s in the womb, my doctor didn’t when I asked him.

  • Mama DJ, I am wondering your thoughts on heart rate/ oxygen monitors like the Owlet! I’ve read that they are being disregarded by medical professionals because they might lend a false sense of security ��

  • Ugh I am such a baby. I just clicked on the video & am already crying.
    Almost a year ago, I lost my baby, and this time of year has been so hard for me. Harder than I expected.
    Thank you guys for creating this channel. I’m so proud of you guys.

  • I’m non-binary and I really wanna get my uterus, ovaries, and breasts surgically removed. Just like COMPLETELY removed. I want them OUT. I hate them and want my ovaries to be burned to ashes. I don’t want my genes to be passed down.

    But trying to be diagnosed with body dysmorphia just to get the surgeries is still such a struggle.

  • “I don’t want infant loss to define me”

    I suffered a miscarriage last summer and it broke me. I kept thinking, “this shouldn’t have happened! I don’t want to be another statistic!”
    Much love to you both.

  • My friends. You are loving and valiant, compassionate and bold, and it’s amazing to watch you guys as you bring so much light to this world. Thank you for loving us so well!