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The Miscarriage Association Helpline can be found here: https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk. If you’re here, you’re probably either looking to educate yourself on the subject or you’re going through it yourself. If it’s the first then I applaud you and if it’s the second then my heart truly goes out to you. Please remember that this is an honest account of my experience and no two will be the same, but if I can help shed a little light on what to expect then some good has come from this.. I’m sorry the video is so dark, I hadn’t planned to film it when I did, it just sort of happened (hence why I’m also wearing a slightly comical shirt), you gotta trust your gut on these things.. Lots of love, Leila xxxx
Sophie talks about the grief she felt after experiencing a miscarriage. She says that her husband, her new baby daughter and a Parents4Parents support group helped her. She says “the volunteers at the Parents4Parents group gave me back everything”. Our youth leaflet can be downloaded here: http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Miscarriage-the-facts-and-your-feelings.pdf. For further help contact the Miscarriage Association. Website: http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/support-for-young-people/. Helpline: 01924 200799 (Mon-Fri, 9am 4pm). Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MiscarriageAssociation. Liz plays Sophie. Actors in the ‘Young people talk about miscarriage’ films are sharing stories from young women who have experienced miscarriage. All actors supplied through Madcutta films.. Director: Rob Mitchell, Madcutta films www.madcutta.com. Producer: Clare Foster
In a miscarriage, the baby has stopped developing. The term “missed miscarriage” refers to a situation in which a woman is having a miscarriage but is not yet having clear miscarriage symptoms, such as vaginal bleeding, cramping in the abdomen or lower back, and the passing of tissue through the vagina. . A missed miscarriage is also called a silent miscarriage because there are usually no symptoms at all.
The pregnancy didn’t develop as it should – perhaps there is only a gestational sac but no embryo, or the embryo might have begun to grow, but stopped somewhere along the way. A missed miscarriage, also known as a missed abortion or a silent miscarriage, occurs when a fetus is no longer alive, but the body does not recognize the pregnancy loss or expel the pregnancy tissue. As a result, the placenta may still continue to release hormones, so. A missed miscarriage (MM) occurs when there is a fetal loss before 20 weeks of gestation, without showing any signs of it. A missed abortion is of two types — embryonic (preclinical) and fetal abortion.
Embryonic miscarriage occurs when the embryo’s crown rump length is more than or equal to 5cm but lacks cardiac activity. A missed miscarriage, sometimes called delayed miscarriage, is when your baby has died in the womb but you haven’t passed the pregnancy tissue yet. This might mean you haven’t bled or experienced any pain usually associated with losing your bab.
A missed miscarriage is when the embryo or fetus has died, but a miscarriage has not yet occurred. It is also referred to as delayed miscarriage, silent miscarriage, or missed abortion. Can you miscarry and still be pregnant?A missed abortion is a miscarriage in which your fetus didn’t form or has died, but the placenta and embryonic tissues are still in your uterus.
It’s known more commonly as a missed miscarriage. A missed miscarriage occurs when the fetus dies and the body doesn’t recognize the loss of pregnancy and/or doesn’t expel the pregnancy tissue. Due to this, the placenta might continue to release hormones, causing women to still experience signs of pregnancy.
Missed miscarriage may occur because of a condition known as a blighted ovum. A blighted ovum is a fertilized egg which implants into the uterus forming a gestational sac but fails to develop. On ultrasound it is detected as an empty gestational sac. Sometimes the implanted embryo will begin to form but then development stops. A missed miscarriage is a miscarriage in which the body does not expel the various elements of a terminated pregnancy, such as the fetus and placenta, for a period of many weeks – despite the fact that the fetus has died.
Because of this, women will often not be aware that a miscarriage has occurred.
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The grief that can come with a miscarriage is real, no matter how early in pregnancy you lost your baby.
Early pregnancy losses often show up as “missed” miscarriages: it can take a few weeks for the body’s hormonal signals to register the demise of an embryo and stop sustaining the gestational sac.
If you have any vaginal bleeding during pregnancy, your health care provider can help determine if the bleeding is likely to result in miscarriage or if it has another cause that does not threaten the pregnancy.
Any type of vaginal bleeding can be worrisome during pregnancy and should be assessed by your healthcare provider, but sometimes the light bleeding or spotting you experience is completely harmless and not a symptom of an impending miscarriage.
If you miscarry later in pregnancy, often after eight to ten weeks, there is a lot of tissue that needs to be passed and the risk of having some of the tissue remain inside the uterus increases.
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I have miscarriage in March 31 2020 and after 3 months we try to convince then now I’m 5 weeks pregnant with twins but today I been in hospital to check if it’s ok but the doctor say that there is no baby but I have two sac the baby didn’t develop there is nothing but amniotic fluid �� and I’m going back to hospital this 26 to clean my cervix and remove the two sac.����
Wow, I admire you so so much for sharing this and being so honest. I can guarantee this will help so many people. I am so terribly sorry you (and Rhys) had to go through this experience. Much love to the both of you… you’re such a beautiful person. ❤️
I haven’t watched one of your videos in ages because life got in the way I’m so so sorry this happened to you. One of my relatives went through something similar but it’s never talked about, so I appreciate your honesty so much because you put it out there so that something positive can come out of something terribile. Sending love xx
2 days ago my dr confermed about my missed miscarriage. I had my first appointment at 9 wk of pregnancy. Sad part was fetus stopped growing at 6th wk. My HCG level was enough high for good pregnancy. My Dr. schedule me for 2nd visit with some hope. Unfortunately the same remained same, no heart beat, no growth. Yesterday the tiny one left my womb for forever…I do not thing so, there is some thing to feel humilated or embarrassing. It took 3 hr to trigger the unpleasant process and it was totally painless. Dr. Prescribed me high dose of pain killers. I did not take a single one. For me it was like normal period. First 8 hrs heavy bleeding than very low..
Just found out I’m going through a missed miscarriage. This makes miscarriage #5. All were natural. No meds. It is especially hard because besides my husband, I have (literally) no one to lean on. Also, those who we have told have been incredibly insensitive about it. It literally tears my heart out.Thank you for speaking up about it. It helps me feel validated in my pain.
With the pain portion you where speaking about with the pills do you think a hot bath might of helped? I only mention the bath because i have endometriosis and horrendous period cramps. Like you explained, hunched, sweating, cant focus on anything but the pain, ect. Heat really helps my cramps so i wonder if that would of helped some? Im in a waiting stage to see if my baby grows so preparing for the worste. Thank you for letting us know your experience was! Much love!
Leila thank you so much for your strength and honesty while talking about thiswe have to be more open in discussing losing babies! So brave to talk so openly but so essential x
Hey Leila, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this. I’ve had this unfortunate situation happened to me last week and I was looking for a video that would put things in perspective for me. This video really helped. You are a brave woman and also very kind for opening about it so strongly. Thank you
Thank you for sharing, there are so few people who don’t share this! I went though this also and you are so right on! Thank you for making me feel a bit more normal. Of that’s the right word. I feel that I’m not alone cause I didn’t know what to expect also!!! I have felt lost for a long time, 4 days after, 9 weeks preg
Thank you so much, I found out a week ago I was pregnant and 4 days ago the doctor told me after blood tests that I am likely having a miscarriage as I have been bleeding since 25th May for a month now (25th June) so i dont know what is going to happen when i went for the scan nothing shows up but my tests for blood and urine is still positive I’m just confused really and wish I can do better for myself
OMG! Such a brave woman, thanks for sharing this with us!! I love you so much!! You’re one of the strongest women I know!! Wishing you the best!!! �������� I just don’t have words to express how much I admire you!!
I had a very similar experience. Two months ago during the first ultrasound at 10 weeks, they told me the baby had stopped developing at 7 weeks. I have had no bleeding or indications that the pregnancy had gone south, so it was completely unexpected. The gynaecologist suggested to try medication as an operation could lead to scarring or infections. The first try with the pills started the bleeding. At this point, as they told me at the hospital that I could compare it to a heavy period, I thought my miscarriage was starting. However, nothing happened for a week. Again, I received pills to try and I took the painkillers. Two hours after the insertion, the lower back pain and heavy cramps kicked in. I did not expect this kind of pain and can still not describe the feeling. Apparently it is the same feeling as going into labour. For 8 hours, I sat almost constantly on the toilet, weeping, losing chunks of blood and large pieces I could not identify. Same as you, I could not do anything to distract myself, I could not sit properly or lie down or walk. I kept throwing up, so could not keep any pain medication in. After 8 hours of pain, we decided to go to the hospital so I could get proper pain killing. Once there, I lost a very large piece in the toilet and thought I finally lost the baby. Got some painkilling and could finally rest a bit as my cramps started to disappear. A few hours later, the ultrasound showed that the baby was still there. I was devastated because I thought I already lost it. The same day I had the operation. If our next attempt will lead to a missed miscarriage, I would choose an operation immediately. Like you, I was carrying a dead baby for a few weeks. The waiting and the pain is something I would not like to experience again.
Thank you for posting. Processing my grief right now and I found your experience and your insights very helpful and relatable while I’m working through the after effects.
Just wanted to thank you for such an honest, open and detailed account of your missed miscarriage. I’ve been looking & researching this topic in preparation for my own and your video has been by far the most useful. I can’t thank you enough, also I’m so sorry for your loss x
Thank you for sharing your story. I also think it is so important to talk about miscarriage. This is my story; we found out we were pregnant with our first baby just before christmas. At a private 8 week scan there was a pregnancy sac but no baby. They referred me to the nhs early pregnancy unit who confirmed the same but said I had to wait two weeks to make sure in case I had my dates wrong. It was the worst 2 weeks of my life and I also start bleeding. It was heavy and painful and when I phoned the hospital I was told to take paracetamol and ‘ride it out’. When my final scan confirmed miscarriage I felt relieved. I had had 2 weeks to process it and just wanted closure. I was booked in for a D&C the next day under general anaesthetic which I am glad I did. None tells you that you can bleed for 3 weeks after and that your emotions are crazy due to grieving and hormone changes, I think they just presume you know this. I knew miscarriage was common but didn’t realise it would be like this. It is a life event that is traumatic. Thanks again for sharing xx
I am really shocked by the fact that the hospital did not prepare you for the amount of pain you went through! This is unbelievable to let women go through this traumatic process with so little information. You are so brave and strong Leila, thank you for this video. xx
I had a missed miscarriage. I lost my baby at 8 weeks, the baby stoped growing at 5 weeks. I had a D&C, in Germany that’s like the standard, they always do a D&C. I asked for meds because I didn’t want to have one, but they said I have to and now I’m glad I did. They made a really good job, I didn’t bleed at all after and the Dr.said I have to take 3 days of work and I should be in bed. My hCG levels were pretty high so I felt 2 weeks after that all the pregnancy symptomps and I had to go 1x week to check the levels, but after the 2 weeks everything was back to normal.
This is awful and I’m so sorry you had to go through this but thank you so much for sharing! If anyone else goes througha similar thing they will know better what to expect! Never thought about actually having to see your baby, that’s horrific x x
Thank you for a lovely video…I hav been diagnosed with a missed miscarriage and I am going to get through the process in another 3days!!! Glad I watched your video!! I am prepared!
Oh Leila, my heart breaks for you and Rhys. I read about this when you posted on patreon and cried the whole way through it. I know you both would have been amazing parents. Keep your chin up. All things happen when the time is right. I admire you for talking openly about it in hopes of helping others and I 100% agree that it should be talked about more often ��
I found out yesterday I’ve had a missed miscarriage. I was supposed to be 12 weeks exactly but I lost baby at 7 weeks. I also felt less pregnant and lost all my symptoms. I am heartbroken. Sending you lots of love xx
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am currently going through a missed miscarriage. I would have been 11 weeks today but was told yesterday that our little one stopped growing at 7 weeks. I am hoping my body can handle it naturally but your video has been so helpful! So sorry for your loss.
Thank you so much for sharing. I just found out two days ago my baby passed like two weeks ago. We barely had the chance to hear his heart beat and I assume he passed like two or three days afterwards. I feel pretty much okay, I’ve cried, I’ve told my parents and I understand it is something natural that may happen. But I still know the worst part hasn’t passed yet. I still have to take the baby out. I don’t want to have a D&C. I’m so scared they’ll just throw the baby on the garbage can (though I understand they’re supposed to ask). I still am very filled with all the love and support we are having. And listening to your story resonates with me a lot so thank you for sharing. I also believe we should talk about it more because one just doesn’t realize how common it actually is. Again,thank you for sharing ❤️
This brought tears to my eyes, you are so so brave. I’m so sorry for your loss, nobody deserves to go through this but thank you for speaking up and trying to break the stigma. Sending so much love to you both, be kind to yourself xx
Our stories are almost identical, I also found out at a private scan in Cardiff and had to book myself into the EPU at the heath. I opted for surgery as 4 weeks had passed with no sign of natural miscarriage. I was put onto a ward next to two pregnant women that were there for morning sickness. I can’t explain the horrendous physical pain nor the feeling of both guilt and deep sadness as I laid crying in the bed next to theirs listening to their nursery and name ideas. It would have been my due date next week. I admire how you have bravely spoken about your experience, thankyou ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I really needed to hear this. Just lost my baby at 11 weeks.�� baby was measuring 8weeks and no heartbeat. Words cannot describe the amount of pain and saddens I feel.
I’m so sorry you and Rhys have gone through this sending love �� I admire so much how you speak Leila, I wish more people spoke like this about these topics. My husband and I are currently going through a different time we have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years and I also wish that was something spoken about more as emotionally you are I hate to use the phrase on a rollercoaster of emotions. From day 1 I have told people that we’re trying and been open about all the tests, all the people that have prodded and looked at our bits etc as these are things we have to go through and are nothing to be ashamed about. We as women can do great things with our bodies but sometimes things don’t end well for a lot of us and the fact you are so open about it will only help others to realise they’re not alone. I feel so weird saying this as I don’t know you but I feel you would be such an amazing friend to have, you must bring lots of love and kindness to your nearest and dearest ☺️
Thank you for being so open. I had a similar experience. It’s devastating. I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I took a test in the ER Jan 2nd 2017. Because I had bled some days before that I assumed was a period and while my body was trying to pass the baby I was in excruciating pain and when given morphine. Eventually when I passed it while sitting on the toilet there was no blood. Just the sack ( with the tiny baby in it and attached placenta). I almost picked it up but out of shock and exhaustion I stared at it for a minute then flushed it and I still regret that I didn’t hold it in my hands. It makes me so sad. Miscarriage can be such a lonely experience. My husband and I had been Ttcing for about 3 1/2 years at that point. We already have a beautiful little girl (through permanent custody) but are still trying to grow our family through Ttc and foster care. We learned a lot and are greatful for how we’ve grown as people and closer together.
Thank you for sharing this…. I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant but don’t feel pregnant at all. I have two other kids and had most of the first trimester symptoms. I may be over thinking it but I just feel something is wrong.
You are right about that pain. I wasn’t even offered or advised to take pain pills, but It wouldn’t have made a difference probably. It’s the worst pain ever, but with no reward at the end. Most awful experience ever.
Laz i never comment on these, but just have to say how brave is thati hope that you have given the many women (and as much, or more so, their blokes)in this awful situation help, and hope, and clarified things that no one tells you. Take care, you guys
Hi, i had encounter missed miscarriage this time, i will ask if its danger for me having dead fetus inside till the end of this month? I was really scared and so stress right now, pls some advice
I’ve commented to you before on this subject as I went through almost the exact same thing… it was one of the worst feelings. My heart aches that someone which such a beautiful heart as yours has to know this pain, physically and emotionally. All my love and well wishes goes to you �� if I could see you and give you a big hug it would do my own soul good (but being in aus and a stranger that’s not possible ����)
Thank you for publishing this! I had a miscarriage a week ago and this helps. You are very brave and I wish you get better soon. Thank you for the raw talk and the ugly details. I hope you have a baby soon again if that is what you want and I hope to try again for my rainbow baby soon. Big hug. For anybody going thru this I have some drugs and dnc and I recommend dnc because I have control of when is happening and I didn’t wanted to experience the pain again. Dnc does cost money, be prepared for that too. God bless everybody
When you mentioned previously that you had to take tablets to get the baby out I thought it was literally puff it’s out, that’s it �� I am so sorry that you had to go through it all and most importantly for the loss.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I just went through a missed miscarriage and felt the exact same way. I was looking for any information as to how I would feel and what to expect but there wasn’t much out there. My experience was very similar to yours and I couldn’t believe the amount of pain after hearing so many times that it was going to be like a period. Sorry for your loss and thanks for openly sharing your story!
Oh Leila! I’m so touched by this and it’s so courageous of you to share your experience. This kind of education is so important for women and even men to know and you’re doing it in a such honest way. Also the way you handled this huge challenge is so brave. I send you two aaaalll my love and respect!
This is heartbreaking �� I’m really sad to hear that. Thank you for sharing this with us. You’re very strong and brave! Sending you and Rhys loads of love and positive energy! BIG HUG ❤️
I want to thank you for sharing your experience and wanted you to know that it has helped me. I recently had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks, baby had passed at around 7 weeks, and I would not have believed, but now do from experience, the emotional toll this has been and continues to be. I wish this topic was not “taboo.” If the figure of roughly 15 20% (give or take, of course, depending on health complications, age, etc.) of pregnancies end in miscarriage is accurate, then the topic should be anything but taboo and more commonplace. I wish I had known this sort of information before and that I hadn’t felt shamed to not talk about it before and after it happened. Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best
It was a pain that I will never forget.. The emotional and physical trauma that we experience is absolutely unreal. Thank you for sharing your experience with women like me because I’ve been there recently and to know that I’m not alone really does help. Thank you for being my voice because I haven’t had one.
You are such a bright star in an often very dark world. I went through this exact same thing a year ago. It was like you were telling my story. Hugs to you. Such a beautiful, brave soul. Xxx
Thank you so much for this video, I am currently going through a missed miscarriage and have been searching for honest details as to what may happen whilst I am waiting. This has really helped me. X
You are so unbelievably brave! Thank you for talking about this, and in such detail! I think people need to know about this because it’s sadly something that many people will go through. Sending love xx
You are absolutely the bravest and strongest person I know and I think this video is so powerful and well needed. I am so sorry you had to go through this and I only wish the utmost best for you and Reece. I know so many people who have had miscarriages and even people who have had two in the third trimester (another topic never spoken about). Thank you for this video, I know it is going to help so many people. Lots of love!
Thank you for sharing this story! My story (which all happened about a week ago, now) is similar, in that I was around 11 weeks when I learned at a scan that the baby had passed away two weeks prior. It’s also similar in that I passed everything naturally at home except the baby which was still inside the gestational sack when I got to the hospital. That is where our stories begin to differ. When they told me the sack was still inside, they said they could try to help me get it out at that time. The doctor simply stuck the speculum in and it opened up my birth canal. He told me to push and I only pushed 3 times, and it came out. If it had to happen, I’m so thankful that it happened in this way, because I was able to see and hold her (still inside the sack), and tell her her name, and tell her how much I love her, and all of the things that I had been looking forward to doing with her. It was very cathartic for me and helped immensely in my grieving process. My baby girl, Adelaide Opal was cremated and I’m having her ashes made into a necklace, so I can carry her with me forever. She made me a mommy, and I will forever be grateful for her short life.
So sorry you went through this. Im horrified that you went through this at home. I live in Scotland and when it happened to me I was admitted overnight, I took an oral medication, the nurses took away everything I passed in bedpans to check, I was cannulated incase I needed iv fluids and given pain killers but I don’t remember pain being a big issue. They monitored my blood pressure and reassured me regularly. As a nurse myself I’m really sad and shocked you went through all this at home. Much love and thanks for sharing ��
Ah Leila, thank you for sharing such an honest account of your experience and so sorry you had to go through all of that. We do need to start speaking about these things as even in this day and age they are still a mystery unless you’ve been through it yourself and can feel very scary. Much love to you lady �� xx
I just want you to know you have been my angel through this process. I am actually going through this right now. I have to make a decision in what I want to do, naturally, the pill or D&C. You have really been my shining light. ��
love and hugs to you. love you for sharing and appreciate. yes you are not alone, I lost 2, back to back. waking up after my d&c was horrific, I put my hand down and my bump was gone:( there are no words. all my love xxx
I understand that doctors are pressed for time but it’d be nice if they went over things a bit more thoroughly. You basically have to come with a list of specific questions (and obviously a lot of people won’t know to ask certain things). I’m sorry you had to go through this, and I really appreciate you sharing.
Thank you for sharing your story. I feel this may be happening to me for many reasons. I’ll see Thursday at the doctors. Thank you and you have helped by sharing.
Found your video while searching for a brutal honest video in regards to this as im in the begining of this:( and just want to thank you for having the strength to share your story.
I don’t know who you are but thank you so much for making an honest and matter of fact video about this. I have just gone through the same thing but before hand I couldn’t find the information I was looking for, like how much pain would I be in, how much will I bleed, what exactly will come out etc. After I took my tablets I had 2 hours of intense cramping and like you it suddenly stopped. I ran back to the toilet because I knew something was going to happen. I was not prepared for the amount of blood that came rushing out of me. It was like someone had turned a tap on. Then there was this pop and a splash. I actually fished my baby out with a spoon, although I couldn’t see her because the gestational sack was still in one piece. Of course everyone’s experience will be slightly different but I wish there was more information out there about the nitty gritty details. I am the sort of person that needs to know everything beforehand so I wish I had come across your video. Again, thank you for this and wishing you all the best x
I’m currently 8wks pregnant had my first check up at five wks Dr couldn’t find a heartbeat probably was too early so sent me to have a transvaginal ultrasound at 6 weeks still no heartbeat there was a sack but couldn’t see baby so had another ultrasound done a wk later at 7 wks still no heartbeat a sack but cnt see baby I’m going in for another ultrasound at 8 weeks and hopefully we see a heartbeat and baby if not my conclusions are the baby has died probably wks ago or maybe it’s a missed miscarriage idk…its very stressful I cnt cope at home or work especially being a Certified nurse aide during the covi 19..I just want a piece of mind about all this and I’d like to pass the baby naturally and at home gonna take a wk off work..which at this time is crucial but I cnt be stressed out by this plus caring for a two yr old..praying things work out rather it’s good or bad.
Aww, I’m sorry you went through that!! Fetus = “little one” in Latin, and so you are totally right that this your baby! The heart starts beating at 4 weeks after conception. From the moment of conception, human being. You are right. And there is a great site that can help you and many if you’d like. Pass it on: http://www.rachelsvineyard.com God bless you and may you find healing and God’s strength and peace xo
Thank you so much for such an honest and articulate video. I’m so happy I found your channel today! ❤️ from another Bristol girl xx
I’m so confused. She said she tried 2 times to get pregnant. So she meant to get pregnant and then decided to abort?? Or did I missunderstand??
I have miscarriage in March 31 2020 and after 3 months we try to convince then now I’m 5 weeks pregnant with twins but today I been in hospital to check if it’s ok but the doctor say that there is no baby but I have two sac the baby didn’t develop there is nothing but amniotic fluid �� and I’m going back to hospital this 26 to clean my cervix and remove the two sac.����
Wow, I admire you so so much for sharing this and being so honest. I can guarantee this will help so many people. I am so terribly sorry you (and Rhys) had to go through this experience. Much love to the both of you… you’re such a beautiful person. ❤️
I haven’t watched one of your videos in ages because life got in the way I’m so so sorry this happened to you. One of my relatives went through something similar but it’s never talked about, so I appreciate your honesty so much because you put it out there so that something positive can come out of something terribile. Sending love xx
Just found out I’m having a missed miscarriage today at 12 weeks. Thank you so much for being honest and sharing your experience so openly.
2 days ago my dr confermed about my missed miscarriage. I had my first appointment at 9 wk of pregnancy. Sad part was fetus stopped growing at 6th wk. My HCG level was enough high for good pregnancy. My Dr. schedule me for 2nd visit with some hope. Unfortunately the same remained same, no heart beat, no growth. Yesterday the tiny one left my womb for forever…I do not thing so, there is some thing to feel humilated or embarrassing. It took 3 hr to trigger the unpleasant process and it was totally painless. Dr. Prescribed me high dose of pain killers. I did not take a single one. For me it was like normal period. First 8 hrs heavy bleeding than very low..
Just found out I’m going through a missed miscarriage. This makes miscarriage #5. All were natural. No meds. It is especially hard because besides my husband, I have (literally) no one to lean on. Also, those who we have told have been incredibly insensitive about it. It literally tears my heart out.Thank you for speaking up about it. It helps me feel validated in my pain.
With the pain portion you where speaking about with the pills do you think a hot bath might of helped? I only mention the bath because i have endometriosis and horrendous period cramps. Like you explained, hunched, sweating, cant focus on anything but the pain, ect. Heat really helps my cramps so i wonder if that would of helped some? Im in a waiting stage to see if my baby grows so preparing for the worste. Thank you for letting us know your experience was! Much love!
Leila thank you so much for your strength and honesty while talking about thiswe have to be more open in discussing losing babies!
So brave to talk so openly but so essential x
I am so so so sorry you went through this. I couldn’t stop crying throughout. Women who go through this are so brave. My heart goes out to you Leila.
Hey Leila, I just wanted
to say thank you for sharing this. I’ve had this unfortunate situation happened to me last week and I was looking for a video that would put things in perspective for me. This video really helped. You are a brave woman and also very kind for opening about it so strongly. Thank you
Thank you for sharing, there are so few people who don’t share this! I went though this also and you are so right on! Thank you for making me feel a bit more normal. Of that’s the right word. I feel that I’m not alone cause I didn’t know what to expect also!!! I have felt lost for a long time, 4 days after, 9 weeks preg
Thank you so much, I found out a week ago I was pregnant and 4 days ago the doctor told me after blood tests that I am likely having a miscarriage as I have been bleeding since 25th May for a month now (25th June) so i dont know what is going to happen when i went for the scan nothing shows up but my tests for blood and urine is still positive I’m just confused really and wish I can do better for myself
OMG! Such a brave woman, thanks for sharing this with us!! I love you so much!! You’re one of the strongest women I know!! Wishing you the best!!! �������� I just don’t have words to express how much I admire you!!
I had a very similar experience. Two months ago during the first ultrasound at 10 weeks, they told me the baby had stopped developing at 7 weeks. I have had no bleeding or indications that the pregnancy had gone south, so it was completely unexpected. The gynaecologist suggested to try medication as an operation could lead to scarring or infections. The first try with the pills started the bleeding. At this point, as they told me at the hospital that I could compare it to a heavy period, I thought my miscarriage was starting. However, nothing happened for a week. Again, I received pills to try and I took the painkillers. Two hours after the insertion, the lower back pain and heavy cramps kicked in. I did not expect this kind of pain and can still not describe the feeling. Apparently it is the same feeling as going into labour. For 8 hours, I sat almost constantly on the toilet, weeping, losing chunks of blood and large pieces I could not identify. Same as you, I could not do anything to distract myself, I could not sit properly or lie down or walk. I kept throwing up, so could not keep any pain medication in. After 8 hours of pain, we decided to go to the hospital so I could get proper pain killing. Once there, I lost a very large piece in the toilet and thought I finally lost the baby. Got some painkilling and could finally rest a bit as my cramps started to disappear. A few hours later, the ultrasound showed that the baby was still there. I was devastated because I thought I already lost it. The same day I had the operation. If our next attempt will lead to a missed miscarriage, I would choose an operation immediately. Like you, I was carrying a dead baby for a few weeks. The waiting and the pain is something I would not like to experience again.
God bless you, and all brave women who go through this pain. Please, pray for me sisters. Im 7 weeks pregnant and my first checkup is in 2 days.
Thank you for posting. Processing my grief right now and I found your experience and your insights very helpful and relatable while I’m working through the after effects.
Just wanted to thank you for such an honest, open and detailed account of your missed miscarriage. I’ve been looking & researching this topic in preparation for my own and your video has been by far the most useful. I can’t thank you enough, also I’m so sorry for your loss x
Thank you for sharing your story. I also think it is so important to talk about miscarriage. This is my story; we found out we were pregnant with our first baby just before christmas. At a private 8 week scan there was a pregnancy sac but no baby. They referred me to the nhs early pregnancy unit who confirmed the same but said I had to wait two weeks to make sure in case I had my dates wrong. It was the worst 2 weeks of my life and I also start bleeding. It was heavy and painful and when I phoned the hospital I was told to take paracetamol and ‘ride it out’. When my final scan confirmed miscarriage I felt relieved. I had had 2 weeks to process it and just wanted closure.
I was booked in for a D&C the next day under general anaesthetic which I am glad I did. None tells you that you can bleed for 3 weeks after and that your emotions are crazy due to grieving and hormone changes, I think they just presume you know this. I knew miscarriage was common but didn’t realise it would be like this. It is a life event that is traumatic. Thanks again for sharing xx
I am really shocked by the fact that the hospital did not prepare you for the amount of pain you went through! This is unbelievable to let women go through this traumatic process with so little information. You are so brave and strong Leila, thank you for this video. xx
I had a missed miscarriage. I lost my baby at 8 weeks, the baby stoped growing at 5 weeks. I had a D&C, in Germany that’s like the standard, they always do a D&C. I asked for meds because I didn’t want to have one, but they said I have to and now I’m glad I did. They made a really good job, I didn’t bleed at all after and the Dr.said I have to take 3 days of work and I should be in bed. My hCG levels were pretty high so I felt 2 weeks after that all the pregnancy symptomps and I had to go 1x week to check the levels, but after the 2 weeks everything was back to normal.
This is awful and I’m so sorry you had to go through this but thank you so much for sharing! If anyone else goes througha similar thing they will know better what to expect! Never thought about actually having to see your baby, that’s horrific x x
Thank you for a lovely video…I hav been diagnosed with a missed miscarriage and I am going to get through the process in another 3days!!!
Glad I watched your video!! I am prepared!
Oh Leila, my heart breaks for you and Rhys. I read about this when you posted on patreon and cried the whole way through it. I know you both would have been amazing parents. Keep your chin up. All things happen when the time is right. I admire you for talking openly about it in hopes of helping others and I 100% agree that it should be talked about more often ��
I found out yesterday I’ve had a missed miscarriage. I was supposed to be 12 weeks exactly but I lost baby at 7 weeks. I also felt less pregnant and lost all my symptoms. I am heartbroken. Sending you lots of love xx
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am currently going through a missed miscarriage. I would have been 11 weeks today but was told yesterday that our little one stopped growing at 7 weeks. I am hoping my body can handle it naturally but your video has been so helpful! So sorry for your loss.
Going for evacuation tomorrow. This is the 3rd time am having missed abortion. May Allah grant me sabr & make me conceive a healthy baby
Thank you so much for sharing. I just found out two days ago my baby passed like two weeks ago. We barely had the chance to hear his heart beat and I assume he passed like two or three days afterwards. I feel pretty much okay, I’ve cried, I’ve told my parents and I understand it is something natural that may happen. But I still know the worst part hasn’t passed yet. I still have to take the baby out. I don’t want to have a D&C. I’m so scared they’ll just throw the baby on the garbage can (though I understand they’re supposed to ask). I still am very filled with all the love and support we are having. And listening to your story resonates with me a lot so thank you for sharing. I also believe we should talk about it more because one just doesn’t realize how common it actually is. Again,thank you for sharing ❤️
This brought tears to my eyes, you are so so brave. I’m so sorry for your loss, nobody deserves to go through this but thank you for speaking up and trying to break the stigma. Sending so much love to you both, be kind to yourself xx
Our stories are almost identical, I also found out at a private scan in Cardiff and had to book myself into the EPU at the heath. I opted for surgery as 4 weeks had passed with no sign of natural miscarriage. I was put onto a ward next to two pregnant women that were there for morning sickness. I can’t explain the horrendous physical pain nor the feeling of both guilt and deep sadness as I laid crying in the bed next to theirs listening to their nursery and name ideas. It would have been my due date next week. I admire how you have bravely spoken about your experience, thankyou ❤️
Thank you for sharing. I really needed to hear this. Just lost my baby at 11 weeks.�� baby was measuring 8weeks and no heartbeat. Words cannot describe the amount of pain and saddens I feel.
I’m so sorry you and Rhys have gone through this sending love �� I admire so much how you speak Leila, I wish more people spoke like this about these topics. My husband and I are currently going through a different time we have been trying for a baby for nearly 2 years and I also wish that was something spoken about more as emotionally you are I hate to use the phrase on a rollercoaster of emotions. From day 1 I have told people that we’re trying and been open about all the tests, all the people that have prodded and looked at our bits etc as these are things we have to go through and are nothing to be ashamed about. We as women can do great things with our bodies but sometimes things don’t end well for a lot of us and the fact you are so open about it will only help others to realise they’re not alone. I feel so weird saying this as I don’t know you but I feel you would be such an amazing friend to have, you must bring lots of love and kindness to your nearest and dearest ☺️
Thank you for being so open. I had a similar experience. It’s devastating. I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I took a test in the ER Jan 2nd 2017. Because I had bled some days before that I assumed was a period and while my body was trying to pass the baby I was in excruciating pain and when given morphine. Eventually when I passed it while sitting on the toilet there was no blood. Just the sack ( with the tiny baby in it and attached placenta). I almost picked it up but out of shock and exhaustion I stared at it for a minute then flushed it and I still regret that I didn’t hold it in my hands. It makes me so sad. Miscarriage can be such a lonely experience. My husband and I had been Ttcing for about 3 1/2 years at that point. We already have a beautiful little girl (through permanent custody) but are still trying to grow our family through Ttc and foster care. We learned a lot and are greatful for how we’ve grown as people and closer together.
Thank you for sharing this…. I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant but don’t feel pregnant at all. I have two other kids and had most of the first trimester symptoms. I may be over thinking it but I just feel something is wrong.
I am going through the same thing. Grieving and just took the pill… but you are right our body did the right thing. This was my first pregnancy ;(
You are right about that pain. I wasn’t even offered or advised to take pain pills, but It wouldn’t have made a difference probably.
It’s the worst pain ever, but with no reward at the end. Most awful experience ever.
Laz i never comment on these, but just have to say how brave is thati hope that you have given the many women (and as much, or more so, their blokes)in this awful situation help, and hope, and clarified things that no one tells you. Take care, you guys
Hi, i had encounter missed miscarriage this time, i will ask if its danger for me having dead fetus inside till the end of this month? I was really scared and so stress right now, pls some advice
I’ve commented to you before on this subject as I went through almost the exact same thing… it was one of the worst feelings. My heart aches that someone which such a beautiful heart as yours has to know this pain, physically and emotionally. All my love and well wishes goes to you �� if I could see you and give you a big hug it would do my own soul good (but being in aus and a stranger that’s not possible ����)
Thank you for publishing this! I had a miscarriage a week ago and this helps. You are very brave and I wish you get better soon. Thank you for the raw talk and the ugly details. I hope you have a baby soon again if that is what you want and I hope to try again for my rainbow baby soon. Big hug. For anybody going thru this I have some drugs and dnc and I recommend dnc because I have control of when is happening and I didn’t wanted to experience the pain again. Dnc does cost money, be prepared for that too. God bless everybody
When you mentioned previously that you had to take tablets to get the baby out I thought it was literally puff it’s out, that’s it �� I am so sorry that you had to go through it all and most importantly for the loss.
I love your videos and sense of humour btw ������
Thank you so much for sharing your experience! I just went through a missed miscarriage and felt the exact same way. I was looking for any information as to how I would feel and what to expect but there wasn’t much out there. My experience was very similar to yours and I couldn’t believe the amount of pain after hearing so many times that it was going to be like a period. Sorry for your loss and thanks for openly sharing your story!
Oh Leila! I’m so touched by this and it’s so courageous of you to share your experience. This kind of education is so important for women and even men to know and you’re doing it in a such honest way. Also the way you handled this huge challenge is so brave. I send you two aaaalll my love and respect!
This is heartbreaking �� I’m really sad to hear that. Thank you for sharing this with us. You’re very strong and brave! Sending you and Rhys loads of love and positive energy! BIG HUG ❤️
I want to thank you for sharing your experience and wanted you to know that it has helped me. I recently had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks, baby had passed at around 7 weeks, and I would not have believed, but now do from experience, the emotional toll this has been and continues to be. I wish this topic was not “taboo.” If the figure of roughly 15 20% (give or take, of course, depending on health complications, age, etc.) of pregnancies end in miscarriage is accurate, then the topic should be anything but taboo and more commonplace. I wish I had known this sort of information before and that I hadn’t felt shamed to not talk about it before and after it happened. Thank you for sharing and I wish you all the best
It was a pain that I will never forget.. The emotional and physical trauma that we experience is absolutely unreal. Thank you for sharing your experience with women like me because I’ve been there recently and to know that I’m not alone really does help. Thank you for being my voice because I haven’t had one.
You are such a bright star in an often very dark world. I went through this exact same thing a year ago. It was like you were telling my story. Hugs to you. Such a beautiful, brave soul. Xxx
Thank you so much for this video, I am currently going through a missed miscarriage and have been searching for honest details as to what may happen whilst I am waiting. This has really helped me. X
You are so unbelievably brave! Thank you for talking about this, and in such detail! I think people need to know about this because it’s sadly something that many people will go through. Sending love xx
You are absolutely the bravest and strongest person I know and I think this video is so powerful and well needed. I am so sorry you had to go through this and I only wish the utmost best for you and Reece. I know so many people who have had miscarriages and even people who have had two in the third trimester (another topic never spoken about). Thank you for this video, I know it is going to help so many people. Lots of love!
Thank you for sharing this story! My story (which all happened about a week ago, now) is similar, in that I was around 11 weeks when I learned at a scan that the baby had passed away two weeks prior. It’s also similar in that I passed everything naturally at home except the baby which was still inside the gestational sack when I got to the hospital.
That is where our stories begin to differ. When they told me the sack was still inside, they said they could try to help me get it out at that time.
The doctor simply stuck the speculum in and it opened up my birth canal. He told me to push and I only pushed 3 times, and it came out.
If it had to happen, I’m so thankful that it happened in this way, because I was able to see and hold her (still inside the sack), and tell her her name, and tell her how much I love her, and all of the things that I had been looking forward to doing with her. It was very cathartic for me and helped immensely in my grieving process.
My baby girl, Adelaide Opal was cremated and I’m having her ashes made into a necklace, so I can carry her with me forever. She made me a mommy, and I will forever be grateful for her short life.
So sorry you went through this. Im horrified that you went through this at home. I live in Scotland and when it happened to me I was admitted overnight, I took an oral medication, the nurses took away everything I passed in bedpans to check, I was cannulated incase I needed iv fluids and given pain killers but I don’t remember pain being a big issue. They monitored my blood pressure and reassured me regularly. As a nurse myself I’m really sad and shocked you went through all this at home. Much love and thanks for sharing ��
Thank you so much for doing this I’m 17 and I’ve really been suffering and there really isn’t much about it and I’ve felt like I can’t talk about it
Ah Leila, thank you for sharing such an honest account of your experience and so sorry you had to go through all of that. We do need to start speaking about these things as even in this day and age they are still a mystery unless you’ve been through it yourself and can feel very scary. Much love to you lady �� xx
I just want you to know you have been my angel through this process. I am actually going through this right now. I have to make a decision in what I want to do, naturally, the pill or D&C. You have really been my shining light. ��
love and hugs to you. love you for sharing and appreciate. yes you are not alone, I lost 2, back to back. waking up after my d&c was horrific, I put my hand down and my bump was gone:( there are no words. all my love xxx
I understand that doctors are pressed for time but it’d be nice if they went over things a bit more thoroughly. You basically have to come with a list of specific questions (and obviously a lot of people won’t know to ask certain things). I’m sorry you had to go through this, and I really appreciate you sharing.
Thank you for sharing your story. I feel this may be happening to me for many reasons. I’ll see Thursday at the doctors. Thank you and you have helped by sharing.
Found your video while searching for a brutal honest video in regards to this as im in the begining of this:( and just want to thank you for having the strength to share your story.
I saw my baby too… i was further along though… 16 weeks… and baby measured about 14 weeks…:( Also a missed miscarriage. Horrible and sad experience
I don’t know who you are but thank you so much for making an honest and matter of fact video about this. I have just gone through the same thing but before hand I couldn’t find the information I was looking for, like how much pain would I be in, how much will I bleed, what exactly will come out etc. After I took my tablets I had 2 hours of intense cramping and like you it suddenly stopped. I ran back to the toilet because I knew something was going to happen. I was not prepared for the amount of blood that came rushing out of me. It was like someone had turned a tap on. Then there was this pop and a splash. I actually fished my baby out with a spoon, although I couldn’t see her because the gestational sack was still in one piece. Of course everyone’s experience will be slightly different but I wish there was more information out there about the nitty gritty details. I am the sort of person that needs to know everything beforehand so I wish I had come across your video. Again, thank you for this and wishing you all the best x
I’m currently 8wks pregnant had my first check up at five wks Dr couldn’t find a heartbeat probably was too early so sent me to have a transvaginal ultrasound at 6 weeks still no heartbeat there was a sack but couldn’t see baby so had another ultrasound done a wk later at 7 wks still no heartbeat a sack but cnt see baby I’m going in for another ultrasound at 8 weeks and hopefully we see a heartbeat and baby if not my conclusions are the baby has died probably wks ago or maybe it’s a missed miscarriage idk…its very stressful I cnt cope at home or work especially being a Certified nurse aide during the covi 19..I just want a piece of mind about all this and I’d like to pass the baby naturally and at home gonna take a wk off work..which at this time is crucial but I cnt be stressed out by this plus caring for a two yr old..praying things work out rather it’s good or bad.
Aww, I’m sorry you went through that!! Fetus = “little one” in Latin, and so you are totally right that this your baby! The heart starts beating at 4 weeks after conception. From the moment of conception, human being. You are right. And there is a great site that can help you and many if you’d like. Pass it on: http://www.rachelsvineyard.com God bless you and may you find healing and God’s strength and peace xo