Understanding and Supporting the Emotional Aspects of Giftedness (2/8/2012)
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Since the other children have not generally agreed to follow the rules of any one child, that child will be seen as bossy. However, when gifted children play together, this is not usually a problem since all the gifted children will attempt to make up complex rules. Bossy behaviors appear as children begin to explore power in a social context with peers and within the parent-child relationship. These behaviors originate from the desire to organize and direct the behavior of others. Bossiness may be rooted in the following motivations: A child has a great idea in mind and she needs others to bring it to life. (“Put the castle over here.
That doesn’t stop some people from claiming that such a child has oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Or a gifted child’s perfectionism might cause her to want everything in perfect order: everything organized by shape or color or size. That behavior may lead some people to believe that child has obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Bossiness in gifted children usually comes from some internal need or trait, such as the need to organize or the love of complex rules.
A gifted child might also get impatient with the inability of the other children to keep up or to pay attention. Many gifted children also have a strong sense of right and wrong and believe that being treated as less than an adult is grossly unfair. Their frustration can lead to a number of behavior problems. They can get angry or rude, and even become bossy and demanding.
Why Gifted Children May Have Behavior Problems. I f your child is constantly bossing you and his siblings around, if he resists all your requests, if he doesn’t seem to have the ability to follow, it is because he is begging for you to let him lead.. When we call our children bossy, we do what we do each time we use an adjective to describe a human being: we diminish the entire experience of life into a single word that. One big reason why children are bossy is that they are simply mimicking behavior they see every day. Not to say that you rule your home with an iron fist barking out orders at every turn, but your preschooler knows that you tell people what to do (specifically him and his siblings) and wants in on the action.
All children need some control over their lives. Often, a child who is bossy to other children and even adults is in need of extra control over her life. Because she is unable to control certain life events she is reaching to regain control of other areas and people in her life.
The thing is, in my years of working with children and parents, I see the same mistakes made over and over again that actually lead to the problem getting worse, not better. Some of the mistakes I see parents making have to do with completely misunderstanding the nature of bossiness in kids and why they act that way. Yes, gifted children feel guilty about being gifted.
They recognize their own talents and may feel a yearning to give it back or share it with others in some manner. This might manifest in good social behavior where they help out others and contribute to causes, but when powered by guilt, they might go the extra mile and lead to being taken advantage of as well.
List of related literature:
|from Positive Psychology: The Science of Happiness and Human Strengths|
|from Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia|
|from Living with Intensity: Understanding the Sensitivity, Excitability, and Emotional Development of Gifted Children, Adolescents, and Adults|
|from 21st Century Psychology: A Reference Handbook|
|from Einstein Never Used Flash Cards: How Our Children Really LearnAnd Why They Need to Play More and Memorize Less|
|from International Handbook of Giftedness and Talent|
|from Writer’s Diary Volume 1: 1873-1876|
|from Some of My Best Friends are Books: Guiding Gifted Readers from Preschool to High School|
|from Encyclopedia of Educational Leadership and Administration|
|from Bright Not Broken: Gifted Kids, ADHD, and Autism|