Strategies for Speaking for your Kids Concerning the fact That You are Dating


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Affirm your own personal commitment to your children. Consider writing each child a letter expressing your feelings and hopes for their futures, as well as your own. Realize that your children may be afraid. Kids may be scared of being or feeling abandoned as.

Most parents talk to their kids about sex at 11 or 12 years old; yet by this point, most kids already know what sex is. In fact, 42 percent of children ages 10 to 17 have seen porn online. Be sure to let your teen know you support him or her in the dating process. Tell your teen you can drop off or pick up him or her, lend a compassionate and supportive ear when necessary, or help.

For instance, a backyard BBQ with friends and your new man. You should introduce him as a friend and give your children the chance to get to know your guy in a fun, relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. It’s best not to show affection during these first five meetings.

“The talk shouldn’t be heavy and pressure-filled,” says Andrea Syrtash, dating expert and author of He’s Just Not Your Type (and That’s a Good Thing). “If you want to tell them you see more. Start conversations about what to look for in a romantic partner. Help your kids form realistic and healthy expectations for their relationships. Talk about opposite-sex and same-sex relationships. When you talk about sex and relationships, don’t assume that your teen is only interested in opposite-sex relationships.

JM: Make sure your child knows that if they make the wrong choice, you’re still there for them. Kids should know that “I can talk to Mom or Dad at any time,” they have the skills to do that, and you, as parents, give them the opportunity for that. If you put all three of those things together, you are more likely to get what you want.

By talking to your child about vaping, you may help them choose to not vape or to try quitting. Before you begin this important conversation, look for opportunities to discuss vaping with your child in a calm and reasonable way. When you think about it, there’s likely no shortage of ways into this conversation.

Look for news stories, letters. Make it clear that you’re not shaming their behavior. It’s likely that your child is going to feel embarrassed if they’ve been masturbating. If they feel like you’re shaming them, they may learn to hide their sexuality or may believe that natural urges are wrong.

Tell them that you’re only talking to them so they have the right information. The fact that your child identifies as a different gender does not mean they will take on all the stereotypes of that gender. Your child is an individual, so let their individuality lead the way.

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Introduce Your Family Standards About Dating When She’s a Tween I recently worked with a mom who was distraught that her son was “dating” a girl in middle school.

“Six Ways to Keep the
from Six Ways to Keep the “Little” in Your Girl: Guiding Your Daughter from Her Tweens to Her Teens
by Dannah Gresh, Fern Nichols
Harvest House Publishers, 2010

One important way is to listen when your kids tell you about the qualities they like in the person they date—their values, so to speak.

“How to Talk with Your Kids about Sex: Help Your Children Develop a Positive, Healthy Attitude Toward Sex and Relationships” by Dr. John Chirban
from How to Talk with Your Kids about Sex: Help Your Children Develop a Positive, Healthy Attitude Toward Sex and Relationships
by Dr. John Chirban
Thomas Nelson, 2012

date as “a friend” or, if your kids are prepared, call them your “date.”

“Dating and the Single Parent: * Are You Ready to Date? * Talking With the Kids * Avoiding a Big Mistake * Finding Lasting Love” by Ron L. Deal, Dennis Rainey
from Dating and the Single Parent: * Are You Ready to Date? * Talking With the Kids * Avoiding a Big Mistake * Finding Lasting Love
by Ron L. Deal, Dennis Rainey
Baker Publishing Group, 2012

Being actively and appropriately involved in our children’s dating life is one way we can keep the lines of communication open.

“Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids” by Greg Popcak, Lisa Popcak
from Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids
by Greg Popcak, Lisa Popcak
Ascension Press, 2014
from an early age, talk to your daughter about deep subjects and keep the conversations going as she gets older.

“Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe” by Meg Meeker
from Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe
by Meg Meeker
Regnery Publishing, 2019

Your children will understand the idea of Mom and Dad being on a date, and in later years, they will highly value the fact that you spent that time alone together and they will want to model such behavior in their lives.

“The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says About Love, Sex, and Intimacy” by Tommy Nelson
from The Book of Romance: What Solomon Says About Love, Sex, and Intimacy
by Tommy Nelson
Thomas Nelson, 1998

Introduce your children to your date in a casual way,as one of your friends.It helps if the introduction is done in a more public setting the first time—at church or a picnic—so the kids don’t feel on the spot.

“Single Men Are Like Waffles—Single Women Are Like Spaghetti: Friendship, Romance, and Relationships That Work” by Bill Farrel, Pam Farrel
from Single Men Are Like Waffles—Single Women Are Like Spaghetti: Friendship, Romance, and Relationships That Work
by Bill Farrel, Pam Farrel
Harvest House Publishers, 2008

If they are nervous, tell them what your child’s current interests are so they will have some safe topics to discuss.

“The Transgender Teen” by Stephanie Brill, Lisa Kenney
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by Stephanie Brill, Lisa Kenney
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We enjoyed telling our two sons stories about our early days of dating and marriage.

“What a Wife Needs from Her Husband: *Physically *Emotionally *Spiritually” by Melanie Chitwood
from What a Wife Needs from Her Husband: *Physically *Emotionally *Spiritually
by Melanie Chitwood
Harvest House Publishers, 2010

For single parents, dating presents particular anxieties, as young children often “screen” their parents’ dates.

“The Encyclopedia of Phobias, Fears, and Anxieties, Third Edition” by Ronald Manual Doctor, Ada P. Kahn, Christine A. Adamec
from The Encyclopedia of Phobias, Fears, and Anxieties, Third Edition
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  • girl heres a reality check since u dont get it very often….u dont know shit… you were an editor in star magazine… not vouge…not W or QH… and u talk as if u have a psychology degree… please go make kids before its too late or something geez

  • The best way is to NOT DATE her. SHe failed already, she made the wrong choice by allowing the wrong guy to impregnate her, that child will NEVER be your child, you get a part time companion while she will demand FULL TIME attention, the best way is to AVOID them.

  • Thank you for this! I’m in a counseling master’s program seeing my own therapist and the part about not dating to complete you really spoke to me

  • Don’t ever date anyone with children, unless you have children too! Children are a lot of work and money, and you deserve your own children! You’re better off alone than dating a single mom or dad.

  • Life is too short. Why date someone who has children if you don’t have any of your own. Plenty of fish in the sea. Save yourself the drama.

  • Hi my ex partner has moved on with another women and they are moving in a couple of months and the my ex partner girl friend is ready to meet my son. This is a new s situation for me and my ex partner does not communicate with me in any way does not want to talk to me but he wants her to meet my son what shall I do. can you give me any advice please it’s making it really difficult for me make that decision when she should meet my son I feel there is no respect there on the ex partner side he just talks to like a piece crap when he does talk me.

  • The interviewer is annoying �� as they are talking she’s like “ ok yea mhm right okay “ but not in a I’m interested but as in hurry up and finish talking ��.. but they gave great advice ��

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  • #KatiFAQ regarding childhood sexual abuse, do you have much experience of inner child work? I really feel that my ‘inner child’ is the suicidal one. is this normal? thank you!

  • Kids need to get disciplined and rewarded based on the level of the action Plan and simple they need to understand the importance of the different levels of wrong. I don’t beat on my kids but I will whip them as a last resort for server action. I will fuss at my son if he reaches out with his left hand, stand or sit too eye level when communicating respect women children and elderly x2 loyalty and respect

  • Shallon is so brave and I know she will get a lot of hate for this video!:) I’ve been learning a lot about Jungian psychology and how suppressing our “bad” side leads good people to do very unhealthy things. A good person needs to integrate certain “bad traits” in order to become whole and thrive in this messed up society. Otherwise, your talents will go unnoticed and all the attention seeking, wicked people will get all the credit.

  • I appreciate & like those videos in which an old & young meet to share things about life. BUT this one here is really BAD!
    I don’t think these questions are supposed to be asked to kids!

  • Ummm I get the point about learning from the Narc but this video Is kinda insensitive to the survivors.I was with a Narc and Is not something that I would want to be AT ALL.

  • I think the documents was good. Do I think she is a genius? No. She is a smart brand marketing person and Now she is reinvent herself because being dumb at 20 is cute but looking dumb at 40 looks sad..

  • No issue with interviewer at all. Where can I move to, to live around all intelligent and beautiful women/people? It appears wherever mean faced, over weight people live, the mean faced and over weight people make unnecessary issues with the intelligent/beautiful people. The mean faced and over weight people are not capable of understanding and should not be allowed to speak or live around civilized people who have higher standards because the mean faced and over weight people trash communication and decent societies.

  • This is a parents perspective of communication with their children. Teachers can learn a lot from this & it’s pretty straight forward. Teacher, coach, principal parent no matter, anyone can learn how to listen better & have more empathy for others. Those who work with kids should all illustrate this type of behavior modeling.

  • I parent my nephew because my brother has to work in a different city, and believe me… These skills REALLY work.
    This video has been so helpful, I really wanna thank you:)

    Greetings from Colombia

  • Do not do it. Everyone warned me. Everyone, but nope I thought I could make it work. Kids loved me. After a 6-year LTR it ended up with her threatening that she’d go to the police if I contacted her again. STAY CLEAR of this situation fellas. Stay clear.

  • I loved her documentary, why? Because it shows a side of her that kind of explains who she is, her multiple selves, her hardworking, and how tough she is with the guys who are not supportive of her work. The director is great, picked up all the right elements.

  • Good luck when you’re dealing with an adolescent boy with narcissistic tendencies. They don’t want to hear anything from you except YES, and OK. The word NO is toxic to them.

  • my tip is dont date its a waste of time but thats just the best advice i can give to somebody until they figure it out for themselves

    it took my friend in college 35 years to figure that out and she ended up being single with 3 children to take care of before she came to that conclusion

  • I’m an lonely extrovert that gets attached easily, and im dating an extreme introvert. Some days we text several messages, some days it’s 1 or 2. He told me at beginning this is normal. How can I get over it? He’s not doing anything wrong, its just very unique from past expereinces. with video dates he is very attentive, and during text his responses include questions and looking at me as i talk but i feel lonely.:/

  • Paris handles scandal better than anyone. The Kardashians had their reality show to whine and cry, Paris didn’t. She just kept it moving. When they found the herpes med rx in her storage unit, she never spoke about it. When she got busted with drugs in another country and she said it wasn’t her purse? Then they proved she posted the pic of that same new purse on social media, she never batted an eye. She just stands tall and keeps it moving. Absolute Queen. �� Loves it!

  • What about those of us who have never been in a relationship (or it’s literally been decades since being in one), and don’t really want to put in the effort to be in one?

  • How I wish,there will be punishments that will be implemented about bullying,racial discriminations since it is mentioned in these topics as examples.

  • After watching the documentary of Paris Hilton, I am totally convinced her days as a happy and healthy human celebrity is numbered and she will be dead within the next 5 years.

  • Took the red pill and avoided single mothers since high school.
    Also had a vasectomy. Happy knife,happy life.
    Best thing I’ve ever done.
    Not having the court system control my life no way.
    Today guys are even getting hit with child support and back pay for kids that aren’t even theirs.
    I’m also immune to divorce rape and weaponized child support.
    Can’t complain.

  • Great tips! You will know in your heart what the right timing is! You are right that one size does not fit all! Think about the kids! Great advice!

  • man: where would you go for dinner if you had to bring someone on a date

    me: whispers Mcdonald’s

    boy: Mcdonald’s

    me: Aye * fist pumps air*

  • One of the wonderful times and ways I knew I loved things about my then boyfriend (now husband of 14 years) was when we went to Octoberfest together. It was fun neither of had ever been to an Octoberfest event before. But the main thing was we stood and watched people doing the polka for awhile. He asked me if I wanted to try it since neither of us had ever done it before. I mean how hard could it be right? We were terrible we bounced into other couples and seemed more like we were imitating a pinball machine then dancing. But he laughed, I laughed and we kept right on going. Other people I had gone out with first would never have tried it second the minute it was clear we were terrible he would have stopped. Mike didn’t care that we were probably making fools of ourselves we just enjoyed the moment and went with it. I’ve dated soon many that were not that way and that’s probably one of the things I find so attractive about my husband. So yes, once you’ve dated a bunch of people that are all the same you KNOW when you see something different and decide if you like it.

  • I’m not sure but,if anyone else    is searching for  
    how to talk to your children so they will listen  try Awsomic Toddler Method (do a google search )?  Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my brother in law got cool success  with it.

  • I once befriended a married woman whose only dates with her husband were at Taco Bell. Even when her husband deployed to the middle east, she sent him an empty hot sauce packet with a pun about being hot on it. Apparently he still has it over 10 years later. The key to long-lasting love is always tacos.

  • I have the only dating tip you’ll ever need.

    Don’t date. If you need sex, there are easier ways. If you need friendship there are easier ways. I don’t get this great wish to combine the two.

  • Humans are by nature interdependent and the whole point of attachment theory is… attachment so I like the major tenants but living yourself first is a bit misleading. We do rely on others for certain levels of wholeness otherwise we would remain single en masse.

  • you were so on point with #1 #3 and #6 I never realized those ones! pretty cool that you did this video Kati, thank you!!! you’re so freaking awesome and I love getting notifications of a new video from you!!!

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  • interesting points,if anyone else wants to learn about how to discipline toddlers try Panlarko Teaching Toddlers Planner (just google it )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate got amazing results with it.

  • Do you have any tips on how we could meet actual dates besides online? I know there’s singles groups but they seem a bit overwhelming. I’m an introvert and obviously I have a lot of anxiety too. I’m scared I’ll never meet anybody.:/ Also, I love your advice about dating different types of people. I think if I wasn’t so picky about physical appearance I wouldn’t have any problems. Is there anything we can really do that could psychologically change our dating preferences?

  • dating is impossible as a mentally ill person. the boyfriend I have now I lie to about it. plus I have to “aim low” with men so they will feel like I’m better than than so will be more likely to deal with my crazy. my real best experience is to just never let them find out you are crazy. best thing to work so far for me.

  • I really liked this video. I’m terrified to go on a date because I’ve had bad experiences meeting new guys. I was raped by one, the other guy I met was all touchy feely moving his hands all over my body…. I ended up having a panic attack. Or guys want to meet me at 10 or later, I don’t feel comfortable going out past 10 with someone I don’t know or just starting to know. How can I get over my fear of meeting new guys and where does one look in order to meet guys. I’ve tried Tinder and the guys don’t respond. I tried meetme and all the guys wanted was sex. I tried plenty of fish (POF) and thats where I met the guy who raped me. So I don’t trust meeting guys from online. HELP

  • i have to stop listening because that interviewer is not listening shes just preparing her next interjection. its very annoying i want to hear the speakers.

  • @shallonlester I saw the Paris Hilton documentary & cried! I cant believe how much she went through. Also, her mom looked like she was going to cry when Paris showed her the picture on her phone & spoke about the trauma she has, but I saw no tears. She hid her face but no teas when she removed her hand from her face. thats was weird. My mom would have been crying.

  • These videos help me so much when I’m in a bad place and help me while I’m with my therapist I always think about things you say in your videos lol lovee your videos ����

  • Here’s my two cents. If you’re having trouble meeting someone and you’re a man, whatever you do, avoid online dating. Any trace of self-worth you have will vanish. After several years of everything from Match, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, etc., I have met no one meaningful. You will craft a decent profile and post nice pictures and everyone you message will either not open your message, or not respond. People will tell you to change your profile or, “post a picture with a puppy/guitar/baby in it” and you will try every version of everything and I promise you, any woman that you’re interested will still cast you into the abyss. Try to be funny, try to be smart, try to be serious, none of it works. Everyone has all the answers for you, but none of it matters. Who are these women dating? This has ruined my entire view on humanity and women. Every woman I have approached in person has rejected me and the rest of the world seems to be in some kind of relationship. Madness.

  • My mom finnally stop asking me questions about my school day or lunch in highschool. But in middle school was so terrible and lunch they would force feed us and I take meds so I couldn’t that much. So I thought how was your day and what did you eat was really rude.

  • I usually enjoy your videos but you need to slow your roll. I do not agree with you. She is not a narcissist. She clearly explained why she created the life she hasit was all as a result of what she endured. It is not her fault she, unlike the other survivors, had the money to come out of that a bit better. So very firmly, take that narcissist finger and point at self right nowyourself. Have some more respect for others, and their journey. You’ve completely diminished and discredited her bravery to come forward and talking about her personal life, goodness gracious!!

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