Strategies for Reuniting By having an Estranged Father

 

Father’s Tearful Message To Daughter From Whom He’s Been Estranged For Decades

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Reuniting Estranged Fathers with their Children

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The “Shadow Life” of a Rejected, Alienated or Estranged Parent I Ryan Thomas

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FIVE TIPS FOR REUNITING ESTRANGED DADS WITH THEIR CHILDREN

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I want to reconcile with my estranged father

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Relationship Expert Troy Dunn Offers Advice To Estranged Father And Son

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1 Thing Every Estranged Father Needs to Do to Reconnect | Oprah’s Lifeclass | Oprah Winfrey Network

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Tips for Reuniting With an Estranged Father Initiate Contact Indirectly. Most of those who have been through a father-child reunion recommend that contact should be Don’t Indulge Your Fantasy. Most frequently, disaffected children have created a. If so, here are some tips on how to reunite with your estranged father.

13 Meditate On Hurtful Memories About Your Father Meditation is often used to calm, heal, and center. Reuniting with your estranged children challenges you in ways that you may never have anticipated. You are called to contain both your excitement, while at the same time, manage your fear. And then, you are called to step up to one of the greatest challenges of parental alienation.

You could say, “Tina, I’m so sorry I hurt you so badly. I know you had to deal with a lot when I was drinking. I feel Do not make any attempts to justify your action when apologizing, even if you believe you have a legitimate excuse for Remember that an effective, genuine apology apologizes. They will return, or they won’t. If you sincerely said “I’m sorry,” then you simply must just get on with your life and allow them to sort it out for themselves.

You may get what you want (reconnection) or you may only get what you deserve. Especially if you discarded their father/mother, they may consider you just as easily discarded. Tips for Avoiding Estrangement with Adult Children It is important to remember that you are no longer the parent of a child who needs direction and requires your permission.

Criticizing decisions that your adult child makes is a certain path to tension. Jolie, who was estranged for many years from her father Jon Voight, said, “I don’t believe that somebody’s family becomes their blood… families are earned.”. As long as they attribute troublesome behavior to your personality rather than circumstances, your estranged child will have a hard time believing you can relate to them differently.

Some tips to consider before meeting up with an estranged family member are: 1. Think about having a mediator present. 2. Be prepared to be rejected. 3. Ask for help if you need it.

4. Never show up unannounced; connecting with an estranged family member should be a planned meeting you are both comfortable with. 5. Tips for Reuniting With an Estranged Father. By Wayne Parker How to Rekindle a Relationship With an Estranged Family Member. By Amy Morin, LCSW Family Conflicts in Grandparenting.

By Susan Adcox How to Improve the Relationship With.

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Remember that the key to helping your children recover and move forward from the death of their father is to always and forever continue to create an environment where your children know that not only is it OK to miss him, but it’s also OK to talk about him, laugh about him, and cry about him.

“Happily Even After: A Guide to Getting Through (and Beyond) the Grief of Widowhood” by Carole Fleet
from Happily Even After: A Guide to Getting Through (and Beyond) the Grief of Widowhood
by Carole Fleet
Viva Editions, 2012

An important element in the mourning process is getting to know your father as much as you can and accepting the fact that you can never know him completely.

“Fatherless Daughters: Turning the Pain of Loss Into the Power of Forgiveness” by Pamela Thomas
from Fatherless Daughters: Turning the Pain of Loss Into the Power of Forgiveness
by Pamela Thomas
Simon & Schuster, 2009

Let Him speak to you today as you encounter His visitation.

“Praying from the Heavenly Realms: Supernatural Secrets to a Lifestyle of Answered Prayer” by Kevin Zadai, Jesse Duplantis, Sid Roth
from Praying from the Heavenly Realms: Supernatural Secrets to a Lifestyle of Answered Prayer
by Kevin Zadai, Jesse Duplantis, Sid Roth
Destiny Image, Incorporated, 2018

In their experience the best way to go on is to spend their days together, each remembering their child on his or her own.

“Handbook of Family Resilience” by Dorothy S. Becvar
from Handbook of Family Resilience
by Dorothy S. Becvar
Springer New York, 2012

He will have to deal with the absence of his father eventually anyway, and going through the grieving period together will help both of you come to terms with the death and strengthen the bond between you.

“What to Expect the Toddler Years” by Arlene Eisenberg, Heidi Murkoff, Sandee Hathaway
from What to Expect the Toddler Years
by Arlene Eisenberg, Heidi Murkoff, Sandee Hathaway
Workman Publishing Company, Incorporated, 2009

I resolved in that moment that I would maintain the family’s connection with him by reaching out to him with a letter every month.

“The Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond Ourselves” by, The Arbinger Institute
from The Outward Mindset: Seeing Beyond Ourselves
by, The Arbinger Institute
Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2016

Try to involve both parents, at times fathers can be reluctant to participate or can be forgotten about.

“Care Planning in Children and Young People's Nursing” by Doris Corkin, Sonya Clarke, Lorna Liggett
from Care Planning in Children and Young People’s Nursing
by Doris Corkin, Sonya Clarke, Lorna Liggett
Wiley, 2011

Hope and keep busy, and whatever happens, remember that you never can be fatherless.”

“Little Women” by Louisa May Alcott
from Little Women
by Louisa May Alcott
Open Road Media, 2014

We spent two sessions exploring options for confronting his father, which included inviting him to a counseling session, contacting him over the telephone, creating a video, or writing him a letter.

“Popular Culture in Counseling, Psychotherapy, and Play-Based Interventions” by Lawrence C. Rubin, PhD, LMHC, RPT-S
from Popular Culture in Counseling, Psychotherapy, and Play-Based Interventions
by Lawrence C. Rubin, PhD, LMHC, RPT-S
Springer Publishing Company, 2008

Phone calls, thoughtful notes or cards, and visits may lessen the bereaved’s isolation.

“Living Through Loss: Interventions Across the Life Span” by Nancy R. Hooyman, Betty J. Kramer
from Living Through Loss: Interventions Across the Life Span
by Nancy R. Hooyman, Betty J. Kramer
Columbia University Press, 2008

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  • I haven’t seen my kids in five year. I am sending my cars to the scrap yard today and throwing my instruments and possessions away. I’m gonna Kill myself as. Mothers day gift to my ex. Hope she is happy. Only women are people.

  • On another subject.. where do these interviews take place? Listen to all those people in the background. They even did the forbbiden thing our governments wont “allow” (shake hands)
    Its like there is no lockdown there. I like that.

  • Black women along with their white co conspirators have destroyed the Black family in America. When the government offered handouts to black women (ie: welfare, medicaid, housing, food stamps) with the condition that you must not have the husband/father in the household, it was turning point; a bribe from the devil. Je

  • I don’t know if I’m unusual, but I never told people that everything was fine with my son. He didn’t want to talk with me after his dad and I split (I was the one who wanted the divorce), and I fully blamed myself. We didn’t have a relationship for nearly 7 years. I had remarried, he had never met or spoke to my husband. One day my husband texted him, just basically saying that I missed him and loved him, and that he hoped we could reconnect. My son actually called him and came over that day! Imagine my surprise! That was almost two years ago, and now my son lives with me. I never expected anything from him, but also never gave up hope. But I also was never in denial of what was, and never lied. I’m a nanny, even if my families asked about my son, how he’s doing, etc… I would let them know, we haven’t spoken, that the divorce was tough. Don’t stop living if your child(ren) don’t want a relationship with you, but don’t give up hope either. Sending love and light to all. ��

  • This kind of damage is hard to undo. It can never be undone. He should sue that police department. It sounds like they just didn’t like him and didn’t even care that his wife was sleeping around. And that her other lovers could have been responsible for her murder.

  • Two halves make a whole. Fatherless America is about women seeking a check, the child is the ticket to that access. 75% is awful number for black America not to have a father. Then when you see the behavior of the women it makes sense. Learned behavior translates from generation to generation much like genetics.

  • I can’t believe that this man really killed his wife. He must have been framed by the real murderer. People who murder cannot be warm and emotional like this. I can’t believe that he is play-acting. He is for real.

  • I’m trying to focus on something else because that man is heartbreaking….so in that regard, I’m kinda digging his lawyer’s tie…typing that through the tears…����

  • @lemmieatit bro they need baby steps. U can’t share with those u don’t have a clue yet. Knowledge of self is step one. We still dealing with a post trama remember? The war soon done

  • jakes told this father the true because it has happen with my half brother my father died, my brother never knew him and I found my brother days after my fathers death.  

  • As someone who suffers from ptsd I can see he’s far too damaged to recover, hopefully his daughter can give him some comfort for his remaining years. God bless this man.

  • This poor guy. I totally understand what he’s going through. When people lie to cover up their own sin or whatever and they vilify somebody else to take the focus off themselves, it’s disgusting the evil.

  • Such a sad situation for this man and his daughter. He seems honest and genuinely traumatized by these events. Bless everyone involved.

  • Ive actualy went to prison and now a fugtive for trying to stay alive police beat my son told me they would kill me please help im living a nightmare

  • This is my life. Watching this now actually gives me hope and I feel like someone understands for once. Even just you helps me. ☺️ Thank you!

  • I started using energy healing for relationship blocks between my kids and I. Ho’oponopono is a good one. I got the first one back within weeks after 9 years. EFT tapping works too. I spent 5 years looking for help to get them back. It worked for a friend of mine too within 4 months. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Thank-you

  • PSA to anyone considering a print sub to Epoch Times… I am in the midst of a struggle to cancel a print subscription to Epoch Times…Problem is they don’t answer their phones and that’s the only way they allow you to unsubscribe….You can do anything on their website EXCEPT UNSUBSCRIBE!!!! They offer a “come on” trial subscription and claim you can “Cancel anytime” then make it impossible to unsubscribe….So don’t fall for it like I did…….Sadly I did have a high opinion of them.

  • Disagree, I feel its up to him to contact her, she can miss him and love him but do not proactivity seek out abusive behaviour… The universe separated you for a reason to help you… Be patient and let this situation ride and if he is supposed to be in your life the universe will guide him to you…

  • He gave this man a place to live when he had nowhere to go and then he kills his wife, just goes to show no good deed goes unpunished.

  • #ryanthomas it has been 11 years since all of this nonsense started. I have only one more minor as the other three vested out. Still to this day I have zero communication with my kids and being that they are under my ex’s roof 10 hours away they are limited to think independently. Last year at my third child’s high school graduation I was threatened by my oldest son and harassed by my ex. Although my oldest son had been threatening me, he followed me around asking questions and willing to go outside to talk until my ex stepped in and guarded the door.

    Next year, this time, my youngest graduates and we were at one time very close sharing a birthday together and so on. I just don’t know when this will end or how to take the next step. The court order said no visitation or telephonic communication with them as a minor with no exceptions but my ex has told them no contact with them ever in any way. This battle is frustrating to say the least and has taken a toll.

  • i get it, i have some sympathy for him, BUT a bid of a red flag went up when he said ” i LOVED her”….. he didnt say that he loves her, the way he said it was past tense. something seems not all right with his words.

  • I coached kids baseball for 20 yrs. The last ten years it amazed me how many of these boys never had their fathers there for when these kids were making lifetime memories that usually only mom saw. My fondest memories were things I did as a kid playing baseball and unfortunately my folks were never there. As a father years later I never missed anything and usually was a coach for my two boys and my fatherless nephew who all 3 turned out to be great dad’s. Lucky I guess but I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

  • Im crying for this man. I hope his daughter comes back to him. What a horrible scenario for both her and him.. After such trauma, they just created more trauma for that family.

  • Interesting topic to tackle here on the Epoch times. Charged in a way… I appreciate the content…. I appreciate the movement. Fathers are important. More than we admit.

  • At what point do we hold our public officials and local authorities accountable for their actions in cases like these? It never ceases to amazing me how much our prosecutors and local police get away with. At times it seems they have a license to wreak havoc among the presumed innocent.

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  • Speaking of children, has anyone seen this?
    Ukraine busts ‘human trafficking ring’ that sold BABIES to Chinese ‘single men of certain orientation’

    https://www.rt.com/news/486930-ukraine-china-baby-trafficking/

  • I know a man whose wife suddenly left him, supposedly without warning, and took his 6and 9-year-old daughters to another state. He hopes and prays every day that his daughters will contact him. He doesn’t know how to find them, as by now they have probably married and changed their names. It’s been about twenty years, he’s in his early sixties and he has grieved ever since. This is such a horrible thing to do to an innocent parent.

  • I can identify with this in many ways, as well as have personally observed these effects with various individuals in my life. I met my father for the first time last year at 32. I can’t say, though, that my feelings toward meeting mine were the same, nor do I know how to deal with him now. I’ll probably check out her company.

  • POWERFUL! PRAISE GOD! THESE ARE THE DAYS OF ELIJAH PREPARING THE WAY OF THE LORD, turning the h3arts of fathers to their sons, and sons to their FATHERS hallelujah!

  • I do not know this woman HOWEVER it is easy to get a doctorate these days regardless if you are qualified or not ( all you have to do is play the race card and plaster your way through grants and funds). This is factual and you can, if you dig a bit deeper, find it as well. As for “estranged fathers”, which makes it seem like “the dad just left” aka deadbeat dad, well 99.998% of fathers are kept from their children by the vindictive ex wife and the state. If you really want to do something about “fatherless homes”, great change all the laws and stop attacking fathers 24/7. There was a female judge in a court case about divorce case. The father was homeless (living out of his car) but despite that he still showed up to the court case. The judge said ” I don’t care if you are homeless, you are here now in your car so you have money… you have to pay or I throw you in jail”.

    There is a reason why MGTOW is growing so exponentially. Now do I say that this woman is like that? I don’t know but I find it strange that she waited until they are 30.. maybe hoping for some inheritance maybe.. Yes I am very suspicious because 80-90% of all the divorces are filed by women, women faking “domestic assault cases” because that gives them more access to money and gets easier to get a divorce and leverage… There was a great RT documentary about that in Israel but the same modus operandi is active in the US and other countries in the west as well.

    This is like re-inventing the wheel: “realize that fathers can deter their kids from going into crime”. You do not need a doctorate to realize that. Besides the MRA’s have been saying that for OVER 30years but I do not see them being show ponied upon a stage to talk about it. You want fathers and men to be a part of the family again after demonizing them since the late 60s…Add to that the injustice that is going on 24/7 in the “judicial”…. and the crimes against men done to them by not only the family court system… I wish you good luck with that.

    I know this will make a lot of people angry but it had to be said. Don’t comment angry on me but instead use said anger to fix the broken system. There is an imbalance in society created by gov and women to beat down men, disadvantage men at every turn and ONLY by making things right in the judicial system can some fences be slightly mended ( though I do not see that happening.. because women get cash and prizes out of it and they do not want to loose it, which is a hubris of all women: cash and prizes). That then doesn’t take away the millions of men that are scarred for life when they are told “you cant see your kids ever.. but you can pay for them regardless.. paypig”. nearly every divorce is filed by women. So on top of being duped by some harlot, losing nearly everything you own and your kid(s) no wonder a lot of men choose to eat a bullet.

  • For the daughter to continue to blame him is insane. She states if he hadn’t abused Tracy (he says he didn’t) she wouldn’t have been in the position to be murdered. She admits her grandmother told her that her father was abusive which I feel is her grandmothers way to absolve Tracy’s infidelity.

  • I had the last court hearing on Monday to close the case. The social worker told me that Michelle didn’t want to talk to me or see me. She said that Mikaelle wants nothing to do with me, nothing to do with my family, nothing to do with anyone from Puerto Rico and nothing to do with the entire Island of Puerto Rico. So I guess thats it, I will never see her again.

  • When news breaks,
    Epoch Times fixes the news like Fox news an abominabe corporation for an abominable ungodly lawless perverted corrupt administration and staff.

  • I wish they would talk about estranged mothers or when the mother leaves…it hurts more when a mother doesn’t want you….it has taken me years to heal from this. Thank God

  • I truly believe that he is the kind of person that COULD NEVER hurt someone the way they are accusing. He honestly seems so geniune, most people have some kind of quality where you can really tell whether they’re lying or not. I hope he finds his way back to his daughter ♥️

  • I need my family hamada contamined me by candida and virus french man who sent him to me to killing me since he and canadian saw me they made me slave and be jalous from me made me working like robot and empoisonned me by poison hamada made this and egyptain they wanted steal my money

  • PLEASE DAUGHTER!!! Do not let a killer keep you from your loving father and grandfather to your children for another single day!! Not ONE more day no not one!!!

  • Yes…..my ex has completely brainwashed my kids and I’m devastated. He has told them so many lies about me and completely made it look so real, that I don’t even know where to start cleaning up his mess. My respectful kids have become so abuse and disrespectful towards me and my family. I know it’s not their fault, but I’m so angry that he involved them in this way. It’s not fair!!

  • This literally broke my heart and made me cry. Sir we’ve never met but I love you like I love my father. I will keep you in my prayers.

  • I was adopted by Italians and they’re my family, I love them but I’m Irish ethnically and I’d like to meet my biological father and mother.

  • Hi ryan I did your course and things were really good. He started sneaking here every day. Unfortunately since this virus his father now has full control again and I haven’t seen him for 6 weeks. His attitude has gone back to being horrible to me again. I get one word replies to messages.

  • I hope his daughter comes back to him and I hope that justice is served to those who accused this man of doing something he never did.

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  • In 1990 when the death occurred and ruled a homicide, investigators thought he did it, but there wasn’t enough to arrest him because he was able to account for everywhere he had been and had numerous witness to attest to these facts. In 2016, after wondering what actually happened to her mother, their daughter filed for the investigation to be reopened. He was charged and arrested. In 1990, investigators had a woman come forward claiming that her husband, not Mr. Harris, committed the murder. This lead was never followed up on. 2020, attorneys for Mr. Harris found the statement from Mrs. Beasley, the woman who came forward as a witness that was never investigated further. They asked her if she was certain that her husband, Jeffrey Beasley had indeed committed the crime. She said yes which led to them finally questioning Mr Beasley and him confessing to the murder with details only the killer would know.

  • I think folks should be compensated for their work according to its value. So I don’t take issue with him charging for services. But I think we have to face the possibility that those who lose custodial time and are alienated partially lost because they couldn’t afford an attorney. Some folks are buying time with their kids because they can afford an attorney. This aspect of family court discriminates against working class people with no savings. What options do those parents have if they can’t afford an attorney nor the awesome services like Ryan’s? Those folks despair and decline mentally and emotionally. Very sad.

  • After all that, you suggest that she attempt to reconcile with her father? The man has deep seated issues that cannot be solved by reconciling with his daughter. He will always be an abuser. I think shes better off acknowledging what happened, and moving on. The last “event” says all I would need to hear and would be closure enough for me.

  • I truly hope this man and his daughter find there way back to each other so sad his wife gets murder a mans wife said her husband killed her but they never did anything because the system didn’t want to be wrong he was a victim n so was his daughter and I would definitely sue the department

  • The moving away question kinda helped it agreed with what I was planning to do already. I’m the one moving away in my case though.

  • I can’t pretend anymore. And I dont have s freaking thousand dollars for your program! Ridiculous! You used to be a beacon of hope. Now it seems you’ve just become about money

  • May he have some faith. God will comfort him and wrap his arms around him. The daughter will need to go to counseling and be able to heal from this. This man doesn’t deserve to be hurt and made to feel like he does. May his family come together and let them all hfeal I’m the name of Jesus.

  • Please help im living a nightmare im missing my kids please share my story im being silenced police have told lies im a fugtive please help

  • Just couldnt imagine the pain this man and most probably his daughter would have gone through. I pray they find peace and happiness for the future ahead