Signs That The Child’s Coach Is really a Jerk

The red pill that I swallowed earlier this year by my now ex-fiance was the hardest thing I’ve done. I denied the truths that were blatantly slapping me in the face. I lived for my women, not for myself, and I suffered without even realizing it.
In the beginning, I felt a loss. Then I felt denial. Then I felt extreme anger. Then I felt hate. I then felt a deep depression. Through all these stages, I stepped back and reassessed everything and accepted my mistakes and realized it was myself that allowed this to all happen and that it was my responsibility to not let it happen again. Once I was freed though, it felt like a weight was lifted. It was the most profound and liberating thing I’ve ever experienced.
I now have a mission. I want to get serious about my photography. I’ve poured my everything into it and it fulfils me more than any woman ever has. I’ve been challenging myself and it’s been a struggle at times, but in the end, it’s always worth it.
As a former HUGE simp, I only wish I could save the other men in my life, but the truth is too much for some. I think the true way forward is to be burned so badly that it inherently shakes you to your core. You have to be completely destroyed before you can rebuild yourself better.

The Vampire by Rudyard Kipling A fool there was and he made his prayer(Even as you and I) To a rag and a bone and a hank of hair (We called her the woman who did not care) But the fool he called her his lady fair (Even as you and I) oh the years we waste and the tears we waste And the work of our head and hand, Belong to the woman who did not know (And now we know that she never could know) And did not understand. A fool there was and his goods he spent (Even as you and I) Honor and faith and a sure intent, But a fool must follow his natural bent (And it wasn’t the least what the lady meant), (Even as you and I) Oh the toil we lost and the spoil we lost And the excellent things we planned, Belong to the woman who didn’t know why And did not understand. The fool was stripped to his foolish hide (Even as you and I) Which she might have seen when she threw him aside (But it isn’t on record the lady tried) So some of him lived but the most of him died (Even as you and I) And it isn’t the shame and it isn’t the blame That stings like a white-hot brand. It’s coming to know that she never knew why (Seeing, at last, she could never know why) And never could understand.

I must b a pimp cause they keep coming back for more. Hahaha ���� i treat em like the bitches they is n never take no shit from any of em. F*** disney. tnx for teaching all the punks how to b a man when theys dealing with them hoes

Hey, Clay. So my situation has been updated. She asked to be her best friend because she told me that she regrets the decision of breaking up because she lost the person that is very important to her. I said I’ll think about it, I became cold and talked about her rebound, and she said that she’s sorry for breaking my heart, and she said her depression is coming back. Her rebound didnt comfort her, and I was the one who did. She told me that she misses my comfort and she can’t decide on the person she wanted to be with. She wants the rebound because she wants to try out a new relationship, and she wants me because she misses the fun times and my comforts that she misses so much, but only as a friend. The next day, she saw my tweets ranting about her rebound, talking shit about them and she became so distant. She seened me in chat, and in the next few hours, she told me that I was disrespectful because of “backstabbing” her, blaming her about the break up and the rebound relationship in my rants on twitter. I keep saying that within only a few weeks they already have a rebound. But then she told me to “respect her decision” and it’s “her life”. We agreed that we become best friends again, and agreed to fix the problem, and gaining our trust again. She told me that we should continue it tomorrow, and that tomorrow is today. She greeted me “morning”, and I responded back, but after that I told her that we should continue the conversation of fixing the problem but she still seens my messages. I dont remember doing everything wrong this time. It’s like she’s avoiding me again. Edit: we normally talk now, as “best friends” she doesnt initiate contact from now on so we dont chat much often, but earlier I got a call from her, and told her that she had a bad dream. I tried calming her down and comforting her, we talked and calmed her even more, and she said she’s tired and I let her sleep. Is this a sign of mixed feelings or the hot and cold thingy? Is there a chance that she still has affection for me even just a little bit?

Love your videos, ALWAYS speaking the truth! You’re the only YouTuber where ALL your videos are amazing, always full blown content ����
Cheers Matt ��

Teach it brother. U speak the truth. Ive been a simp. That ends today!! Time for us to act like men. Im putting my balls back where they belong. LOL.

I just make sure I’m there for my son. I make sure that I communicate with him regularly. I make sure to spend time with him. and I work to keep him out of the disagreements that his mother and I have. it’s been crazy at times but I’m learning as I go. definitely not easy…..

You are simping because you are giving them free money only fans and other webcams sites and recently pissed off a feminist of a woman who went to school with said I had a couldn’t pay or get it for free lol oh please ��

The two important terms and concepts that I mention in this video are: parental alienation syndrome and parentification.

Parental alienation is the process, and the result, of the psychological manipulation of a child into showing unwarranted fear, disrespect or hostility towards a parent or other family members.

Parentification is a type of role reversal, boundary distortion, and inverted hierarchy between parents and other family members in which children or adolescents assume developmentally inappropriate levels of responsibility in the family of origin that go unrecognized, unsupported, and unrewarded.

(Definitions from Wikipedia)

…Since the recording of this video, I’ve read the book “Divorce Poison” by Dr. Richard Warshak and frankly, it’s a MUST read for any parents that are trying to “co-parent” with a narcissist or other type of manipulative person. Here is a link to my notes on the book if you are interested (but I highly recommend reading the full book, as it’s chock full of info): http://www.thriveafterabuse.com/book-club-notes-on-divorce-poison/

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John 8:44
Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

The way it looks like, women just have to be attractive, but guys and men have to know all of these god damn type of social behaviors

Going through this now but my children have not seen their father in years so they don’t remember him. Since I’m going for child support, he most likely will get visits. I worry about the physiological manipulation so I go back and forth (in my mind) about what and what not to say to my children. Good advice in this video. Thank you!

Matt great video and review of key points! I saw that Bezos’ ex is giving away billions of dollars in divorce settlement money that she never really had to work for. She’s trying to project what a good woman she is and SJW but her only contribution to Amazon is that she was married to the founder and the US Divorce Court awarded her billions. Bezos is one of, if not the biggest SIMP ever! He gets divorced after hooking up with a 45 year old mother when he could have any 19 year old he wanted with his resources!

Pimpology gets so boring. No challenge. Pure unadulterated attraction is where it’s at. After sex…blah…blah…blah. it is so unfortunate when a woman only has sex to offer a man. It’s like…what do I get…???!!����������

If you ever encountered a manipulator. Dont backoff. Show him that you know he is a manipulator from your behaviour. Be it by anger or by cruel and ruthless eye contacts. What will this do is that he or she will not use these creepy manipulating tactics over you having knowing that you also knew these things. This will make them uncomfortable.it really works, when anyone is uncomfortable, his or her mind is not clear about what to do. Its works untill you dont met God of deception and manipulation.

Thank you…this is a huge thing I’m trying to learn right now. My son is only 3 right now, but I know these tools are soo important to use now, to build this foundation. It’s so scary, everytime I send him with his Dad. Our son has seen us me go through some of the most confusing emotional and mental abuse, I know it’s effected him, I feel so much guilt for allowing my toxic relationship to go so far for so long around my child. These videos, have been literally, mine and my son’s life saving advice and support. Please keep these videos coming, I’ve researched millions of videos on this topic and I find yours to be the most clear and to the point videos, and the most useful. Everyone says to just take me kid and disappear, that that is going to be the only way to protect my son from becoming a narc himself or become a victim like I had been, and well l, ill admit I still am. His father isn’t a typical narc, I’ve learned he has multiple distinctions, it’s extremely complex, and so confusing, ups and downs and back and for the, I’ve struggled for 5 yrs now just to grasp wtf he’s doing or why, so I fall back into his toxic patterns occasionally, getting wrapped up in my inability to stop emotionally reacting to his manipulation and gas lighting, all the rollercoaster head games that get me tangled up in his false reality. I just know, using the tools I’ve gained from these videos, has helped me so much grow stronger and you’ve helped me recognize what’s going on, and how to resist, and how to help my child grow the ability to know right from wrong when he’s with his narc father. I know that in choosing to keep the relationship between my son and his father, I am going to constantly be having to strategize every tool possible to protect my son and myself from the devastating effects the narc can inflict on partners and they’re children. My son is only 3, so who knows, my decision to co-parent, may end up changing depending on how well I’m able to maintain my distance,my strength and how well my son is capable of learning how to cope and understand what dysfunctions his father has, to grow healthy habits with his relationships. Totally on point with pointing out how important keeping the communication open and honest and to really put down a strong foundation for my son’s emotional security while with me, to really focus on making sure my actions match my words. Which I’ve struggled with a lot during the most difficult times trying to get away from my son’s father without having to leave my son with his dad, I was financially dependent on his father, and have been extremely stuck, I literally had to live in my car at first to get away from the emotional abuse, and i had tried taking my son at that time he was only 2, and that was the hardest thing I’ve ever tried to do in my whole life, I broke down probably the second night trying to care for him and not having even a bathroom to go into to go potty or change, just was an absolute nightmare, and I ended up bringing my son back to his father’s house to have him stay there while I worked on gaining my balance back and my independence so I could have my son with me in a safe environment. Almost 2 yrs later, I’m still not completely on my own two feet, but my Mother has opened her arms and doors to me and my son to stay in a spare room, sacrificing her sewing rm,lol. So grateful. Cus the damage that’s been caused surviving this kind of abuse, has been the most difficult thing I’ve ever had to learn how to heal from,let alone how to stop and prevent the abuse, to regain my sanity, my stability,my confidence, to recognize I’m not a bad mother as my son’s father repeatedly kept trying to engrave in me, cus there has been so many times that I’ve had to just walk away and not take my son, cuts I had no where to take him to be with me. I can’t provide for him, and that has been an extreme weakness and vulnerability my son’s father will use against me and emphasize on to break me down, trying to get me to call back into the toxic patterns and come back to him and the home and financial security. Anyways, thank you, I just really appreciate all your videos, they’ve been so helpful in providing me the validation and assurance that I’m doing the right thing and I’m going to be capable of surviving this with the tools to provide my son to protect him from becoming another toxic human in this world. Thank you, I wish I could buy the book you’ve mentioned, i don’t find many good books on this topic at the library that I can check out for free, it seems like most lliterature on this topic is expensive and can be kind of hard to accrue.

h clay Gt A weird situation for you to analyze. I found out my ex was cheaing on me. the girl im guessing didn’t kNOw about me and I obviously didn’t know aBout her. I wAs kind to her and explainexdc who I was dating thE Same guy the same time and gave her proof of relationship and I apologized to her. I didn’t know about her….>. her response was weird…… I got one reply I DONT TaLk to him anymore….