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When you interact with the grandparents as babysitters, treat them just as you would treat any responsible adult entrusted with the care of your children. That means no subtle insults or digs and no references to past arguments. Avoid sentences that begin with, “You always ” or “You never “. However, I do think there are a few situations involving grandchildren when grandparents are justified in setting the ground rules they expect to be followed.

Use o f digital devices. Grandparents can decree “digital-free” zones and times in their own home, for example, banning texting and reading emails at their dinner table. The Grandparents’ Guide to Babysitting 1. Respect your grandchild’s routine. While your grandchildren aren’t strangers, you may not live with them on a daily. Set boundaries.

Good boundaries make good grandparents. Talk about expectations first and then set some rules that work. If there’s resistance to rigid rules, create some concrete guidelines—and be sure to present them in a positive way.

Can grandparents look after grandchildren now? Technically yes, as the new rules in the latest easing of lockdown in England state that two households of any size can meet up indoors, and people. Grandparents allowances: make sure you claim pension benefits for babysitting Many people may be missing out on future state pension benefits because they’re unaware of grandparents allowances. Your kids grandparents can be the most trustworthy babysitters.

But sometimes when your mother or father is taking care of your child it causes emotional and logistical issues. Steer clear of these five pitfalls to avoid when grandparents babysit. Not Setting Expectations Any Ground Rules.

Setting ground rule and expectations right from the start is one of the best ways to get off on the right foot. Each parent has to decide for. Robyn Barker, author of Baby Love, thinks that using grandparents for regular babysitting is a slippery slope to exploitation. by REBECCA SPARROW. Well, this is awkward. Apparently grandparents around the country are in the midst of plotting a coup.

Grandparents can certainly swaddle a newborn—after all, it’s a great way to calm a fussy baby. But it’s important to do so safely. Swaddles that come with zippers or Velcro closures make it easy to get a proper wrap, but if you have traditional swaddle blankets, take a minute to show baby’s grandparents how to swaddle correctly.You don’t want the blanket coming loose while.

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Explain (even if you have before) how much you want them to spend time with the baby, but how their breaking the rules you’ve established is confusing her and upsetting her schedule and the family equilibrium.

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• Before heading out on a family trip sit down with your child and his siblings and explain that there is a new house rule.

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Set out the house rules Parents should have an honest and open conversation with the grandparents to explain the house rules.

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For instance, don’t introduce a nice, sensible 7:30 pm. bedtime the very week you plan to let her stay up until 10:00 with the grandparents on Christmas Eve, or are going to have a horde of entertaining young cousins camping out in your backyard over the Fourth of July.

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Introduce the sitter as a friend “who wants to visit with you” and not as a sitter.

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If you are starting in a new babysitter or day care situation, stay with the baby for at least the first couple of visits, and let her see you hanging out with the caretakers.

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You want them to get the message that they are safe in the care of the babysitter and that you leaving for a few short hours is not a big deal.

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A grandparent’s “take-charge approach” may not be welcome by new parents who are testing their own parenting roles, and family conflict may ensue.

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We also inform them that they are welcome to come into the setting at any time, that they can stay and play with their child during their settling­in time and also during their child’s time with us.

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It won’t hurt children to be a little more respectful to the grandparents, if that’s what they want, have their meals on a different schedule, or be kept cleaner or allowed to be dirtier.

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  • I don’t know about that babysitting but I will watch my grandkids when it convenient for me. I’m getting too old to be running behind does hard headed kids that don’t want to mind. I raise my kids it 2020 I got things to do like living my life to the fullest

  • When it comes to unimportant stuff, I don’t care. But safety issues? I only let people watch my child if they care about the safety stuff as much as I do.

  • Yes, when they want to babysit. When my only child have a baby w/ a nice young lady I’m going be glad to babysit. I want to be a good grandma. I wish he get it popin. I like her! Frfr��

  • Absolutely agree! Setting boundaries and ground rules are so very important even if the grandparents don’t like it they need to respect your decisions. it makes sense as you carried that baby for 9 months then gave birth and invested all that time with your body chasing and preparing for motherhood etc its your baby do as you please. But the problem is if they don’t listen and disregard your boundaries and want to tell you what to do, how,when,where and there way is better than yours then its a problem you need to remove yourself from until they respect you and your family.I can’t stand intrusive people let alone family who are overbearing and controlling,its a very quick way to loose seeing me and my family as i have no problem cutting ties until respect and trust is formed knowing my child will be safe and our values morals and principles in raising that child is practiced in a way it won’t confuse them.

  • I told my son I’m not a babysitter. I raise you and not raising no more. If they working and the child is to young to be in school I MIGHT babysit but you not going to take advantage of me. They will pay me every week. I get them when I want them. I see these grandparents raising their grandkids because the child dont want the responsibility and the grandchildren cursing the grandparents out beating them up. I know people in that situation. It couldn’t be me because I let my son know I would stomp him out and my grands will know that too.

  • Grandparents are a relic of the past. Big Momma is dead and has a weave, fake nails and 2 “ eyelashes and is in Vegas with tight leather on. They are just as “F” up as the kids they raised.

  • Some just take advantage of grand parents now R they going 2 take care of grand mom or pa when they get old N sick change their diapers? N grand parents R the only ones that love them kids the most. Some mom N pa have health Problems N keep it 2 themselves N don’t want 2 say anything about it n should not b caring 4 children. bring ur children 2 grand parents 4 advice n care cuz they no they been there. The first child young parents need help if they don’t no how 2 care 4 a baby. Grand parents will show U how. GOD bless them.

  • The village has been broken…my mother worked and took care of my two year old twins �� along with help from my sister when I moved across the country for 6 months BUT I paid her bills!!!! Lol! It’s give and take NOT just take. I would do that for them in a heart beat. Right now, my sister and I take care of my father and take turns taking him to dialysis 3 days a week that’s an hour away…We cook all his meals and make sure he’s not left alone…TAKE CARE OF YOUR PARENTS!!! ESPECIALLY IF THEY TOOK CARE OF YOU!

  • No you are not obligated to do that.. every situation is different but if I ask my mom to help me out for sometime to take care of my kiddos but still in a manner of respectful with sweetness humbling my self to help me out again and if i have big cash i will rent a nanny they will be the one who will takecare of it but along with my parents, immediate family is the best for me not the nanny..i believe Grandparents should take whatever opportunities present themselves to help parents become the best parents they can be and raise the best kids they can raise.. God bless you

  • I agree, just because your children have children that doesn’t make you a babysitter,but by the same token, just because you get old, that does not automatically make your kids and grand kids elderly care takers.

  • I’m having this problem��my grandparents are so intrusive they don’t let me go out…like they are my parents…. i’m 18 YEARS OLD NOW and i sweeear to god i have never ever went to a friend’s birthday becauuuse they don’t let me…even nooow at this age!! my mom is in another country…and my grandparents and my mom don’t get along….my g.parents never talk to me like there is no complicity or TRUST!

  • She ain’t never had the catwoman cussing lma. I watch my grandbabies on my own terms. I have a full time job and like to do things. Hot Flashes lol. Check my poem out called menopause if you want to.

  • Only if we want or NEED to. Not just because their parents want a night out and think we’re handy and don’t have a life of our own. We reared ours, you rear yours. Ask, but don’t get upset if I’m not always in the mood.

  • Heck No, I’ve did my job. However I pick up my grandson every other weekend just to give the parents a break. This grandmother still works.

  • They should not have to watch them but if the parent is focused and really taking care of those kids a parent should hopefully want to help but they have lives also and should be compensated for their time

  • Hell Naw!!!! Ask granny (or grandfather). Never ASSUME!!!! It would be cool if you give grandparents some compensation for watching them, especially if does inconvenience them. They have a life too. Willie D you are on point. You have to be responsible for your children.

  • MY GRANDMOTHER ‘S AUNT RAISED ME FROM 1 MO.OLD NANA WAS 63 YR OLD WHEN SHE GOT ME. I WAS WITH NANA ALL MY LIFE. MY MOM AND DAD WERE MARRIED 1 YR BEFORE THEY HAD ME. MY MOM WASN’T MOTHER MATERIAL.MY MOM GAVE ME TO THE BEST PERSON FOR THE JOB. THESE SITUATIONS ARE NOT GENERAL EACH CIRCUMSTANCE IS DIFFERENT.

  • I was young(under 20)when I had my 2 children wasn’t sensible but we made mistakes(of the horizontal kind) but I never expected my mom or my now mother in law to take on our burden(which they wouldn’t anyway). Their father and I worked shifts him day me night because he worked nights and I worked days and it was hard and a struggle but we came through it put ourselves through college/university and 20 plus years later we have a nice house holidays and a good life unfortunately we still have 2 pain in the arse children but they’re at uni and hopefully they won’t move back when they finish(we may move country and not tell them��)

  • No, there is no obligation to babysit. If grandmom asked on her own fir the kids then ye but dont throw the kids on her. No, I would not want money.

  • No one has ever raised neither 1 of my 3 kids I have never put my babies in no daycare I don’t trust them I’m a boss I make my money at my house where my babies At/m and I’m a dam good money It’s about priorities

  • Hello if she’s only going to work I would help out but if she out doing other things than she would have to pay I’m sorry lol Happy Holidays

  • Hey there blessings to you and your family! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas! I’m with you sis lol! I get my grandbabies when I’m ready to spend time with them no cost to them! But if you can pay a babysitter or daycare you can pay me!! Great topic sis!❤����

  • IF THE PARENTS ARE DRUGED OUT OR DRINKING TO MUCH AND THE CHILDREN WOULD HAVE TO BE PLACE IN THE STATES HANDS, AND BIG MA AND PIG POP IS HEALTHY TO STEP IN THERE YES DO SO! BUT TO BE HORSE ASSING AROUND ON THEM STREETS OR YOUR NOT WORKING LAYING UP WITH ALL THE TIME IN THE WORLD, NO BAE, YOU GOT LIL NOOK NOOK TODAY BLESSINGS AND SHUT MY DOOR TIGHT WILL AS YOU GO!! LOL