Parenting Stress and Depression Risks


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A parenting stress study by Florida State University professor Robin Simon and Vanderbilt University’s Ranae Evenson found that parents have significantly higher levels of depression than adults who do not have children. Though many parents of young children across demographics are feeling increased levels of stress, two subgroups may be particularly at risk for clinical levels of anxiety and depression. Parents of young children are reporting alarming increases in anxiety and depression during COVID-19. This is not only a risk to parents’ mental healt. Parental depression is a pervasive problem, and a large and growing body of research shows that it is a major risk factor for difficulties in a child’s life, says Megan Smith, PhD, co-director of the Parenting Center at the Yale Medicine Child Study Center and director of the New Haven Mental Health Outreach for Mothers (MOMS) Partnership.

If depression causes additional stressors such as marital problems or job loss, children also suffer. When children grow up in stressful or uncertain environments, they can develop their own behavioral or emotional problems. Defiance, anxiety, or depression are common outcomes.

Also, parenting stress and depression influence child’s behavioral problems. These results suggest that identification of children at risk for ADHD and development of parental education programs would contribute to the prevention of behavioral problems and aggravation of the ADHD symptoms. About 1 out of 6 Americans will experience symptoms of depression at some point, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). And if depression happens to affect a parent.

It is not known exactly why some children develop anxiety or depression. Many factors may play a role, including biology and temperament. But it is also known that some children are more likely to develop anxiety or depression when they experience trauma or stress, when they are maltreated, when they are bullied or rejected by other children, or when their own parents have anxiety or depression. Having an immediate family member with depression or a mood disorder can increase your risk for depression.

The Stress-Depression Connection Stress whether chronic, such as taking care of a parent with Alzheimer’s, or acute, such as losing a job or the death of a loved one can lead to major.

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In addition to behavior problems later in life, “these infants have a significantly increased risk of developing learning problems, and may themselves be more vulnerable to depression or anxiety as they age” when compared to children of mothers who were less burdened by mental health and high-stress issues.

“Trauma Through a Child's Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing” by Peter A. Levine, Maggie Kline
from Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing
by Peter A. Levine, Maggie Kline
North Atlantic Books, 2006

Results indicated that mother’s parenting stress and negative affect (anxiety and depression) significantly predicted early childhood anxiety.

“Evidence-Based Psychotherapies for Children and Adolescents, Second Edition” by John R. Weisz, Alan E. Kazdin
from Evidence-Based Psychotherapies for Children and Adolescents, Second Edition
by John R. Weisz, Alan E. Kazdin
Guilford Publications, 2010
from birth these infants may be more difficult to care for, adding stress to an already anxious mother, and more likely to have an elevated stress response, both of which increase vulnerability to depression.

“Handbook of Depression, Second Edition” by Ian H. Gotlib, Constance L. Hammen
from Handbook of Depression, Second Edition
by Ian H. Gotlib, Constance L. Hammen
Guilford Publications, 2008

Parents report increased stress, including concern for the child’s survival, fear of incompetence in assuming home responsibility, inadequate respite care, lack of time for other children and spouse, social isolation from friends and extended family, constant work, and fatigue.

“Wong's Nursing Care of Infants and Children E-Book” by Marilyn J. Hockenberry, David Wilson
from Wong’s Nursing Care of Infants and Children E-Book
by Marilyn J. Hockenberry, David Wilson
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2018

Many children protected from experiencing stress and developing coping skills are likely to be vulnerable to stress in later life and unable to cope effectively with life events (eg, relocation, marriage, death).

“Psychiatric Nursing: Contemporary Practice” by Mary Ann Boyd
from Psychiatric Nursing: Contemporary Practice
by Mary Ann Boyd
Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2005

First, stress outside of the parent-child relationship (including marital problems, occupational concerns, and financial stress) can undermine the quality of parenting, mainly because of the effects that these stressors have on parental emotion.

“Encyclopedia of Human Behavior” by Vilayanur S. Ramachandran
from Encyclopedia of Human Behavior
by Vilayanur S. Ramachandran
Elsevier Science, 2012

If parents present depression, stress and anxiety, young children are more likely to model their parents and also be depressed, stressed, and anxious.

“Encyclopedia of Family Health” by Martha Craft-Rosenberg, Shelley-Rae Pehler
from Encyclopedia of Family Health
by Martha Craft-Rosenberg, Shelley-Rae Pehler
SAGE Publications, 2011

While maternal depression is a “risk factor” for children’s healthy development, there are “protective factors” that may help compensate.

“Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia” by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
from Parenthood in America: An Encyclopedia
by Lawrence Balter, Robert B. McCall
ABC-CLIO, 2000

That is, when stress and challenge are high for parents, they generally have an increase in emotional and behavioral problems, which in turn affect family functioning and increase risks for children.

“The Science of Adolescent Risk-Taking: Workshop Report” by National Research Council, Institute of Medicine, Board on Children, Youth, and Families, Committee on the Science of Adolescence
from The Science of Adolescent Risk-Taking: Workshop Report
by National Research Council, Institute of Medicine, et. al.
National Academies Press, 2011

Parents who grieve inappropriately may leave their children a legacy of psychosocial problems, such as difficulty with separation, independence, and control (e.g., school phobia and toilet training); failure to thrive; and sleep disturbances.

“Merenstein & Gardner's Handbook of Neonatal Intensive Care E-Book: An Interprofessional Approach” by Sandra Lee Gardner, Brian S. Carter, Mary I Enzman-Hines, Susan Niermeyer
from Merenstein & Gardner’s Handbook of Neonatal Intensive Care E-Book: An Interprofessional Approach
by Sandra Lee Gardner, Brian S. Carter, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2020

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  • You’re an angel. I’m in tears. I always knew that isn’t important for kids to understand that what’s going on is not their fault. But knowing it’s ok to talk openly to my kids, is so relieving thank you Kati

  • What if you are a single parent. With a disability and a mental health issue. With no support network. At all. My son is 17 now… We do talk openly. And my childhood was pretty emotionless so have tried to make those changes to not repeat that cycle… But as other videos have stated the paretified child…(me) probably still is lacking in skills and not even recognising them. Does concern me That the damage might be done inadvertently… Sometimes I wonder however if it’s just OK to Fk up every now and then as I’m Human too. Going to go next week to see about a referral for talking to someone.

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