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Don’t believe the return-to-work-after-maternity-leave myths!Here are five to kick to the curb! I’ll Feel Refreshed When I Go Back: The only person that’s refreshed after maternity leave is the dog.; Pumping is Hard: Pumping can be difficult, but it’s not hard.Give it. Your employer can’t force you to return to work after maternity leave, but you might have to pay back some or all of your maternity pay. Many women face a dilemma over whether to return to work after maternity leave. On the one hand, they might enjoy their work, want to advance their careers, or simply need the money.

Chances are your baby will still be waking at night to eat when you return to work. If you were exhausted on maternity leave, now imagine having to get up at 6 a.m. and function in an office all day. If you plan to return to work before your baby is six weeks old, know that working more than 20 hours per week will leave you feeling exhausted. While going back to work after maternity leave feels like the most monumental leap you can think of as a new mum, the good news is there are certain things you can do to make the transition easier.

Today I have Coaching and Mentoring Specialist Julie Leach to share some strategies. When I went on maternity leave, I set my out-of-office email at work to say that I’d be returning February 2017. At the time, those 12 months felt like an eternity.

I figured once I got a handle on the whole baby thing, I’d have plenty of extra time to do all the things I’d been meaning to get around to for years—like finally organize the junk drawer and clean my home computer. Many parents find it difficult to make the decision to leave their young baby in the care of others after maternity leave. Sometimes this is necessary if the family needs the income. Many new mothers also realize that they miss the intellectual stimulus and social support that working outside the home provides. Here are the words I couldn’t find at the time for this new mom and all of the other new moms going back to work after maternity leave.

Please share it with any new moms you know and let them know we understand. We’ve been there. You still build up (‘accrue’) your holiday entitlement during maternity leave. This means you could return to work with a lot of holiday to take.

It’s a good idea to agree with your employer before you go on maternity leave how you’re going to take your holiday. For example, if you take a year of maternity leave and did not use any holiday before you went off, you could have a. You’ve been on maternity leave for 26 weeks or less.

You’re entitled to return to the same job after maternity leave if you’ve been away 26 weeks or less. Your pay and conditions must be the same as or better than if you hadn’t gone on maternity leave. It’s unfair dismissal and maternity discrimination if your employer says you can’t return to the same job.

A 2015 British report published by the Equality and Human Rights Commission found that women face discrimination when returning to work after a standard 12-month maternity leave, in the form of being given less-challenging work.

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Also, an employer may not terminate workers because of pregnancy, force them to go on leave at an arbitrary point during pregnancy if they are still able to work, or penalize them in reinstatement rights, including credit for previous service, accrued retirement benefits, and accumulated seniority.

“Family Law: The Essentials” by William P. Statsky
from Family Law: The Essentials
by William P. Statsky
Cengage Learning, 2003

If you don’t have to go back to work for financial reasons after that first six weeks or three months or whatever, deciding when or whether to go back requires enormous self-knowledge as well as courage, because it’s so difficult to find the right balance between your own needs and your baby’s.

“Mother Daughter Wisdom” by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
from Mother Daughter Wisdom
by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
Hay House, 2006

If mothers took their own leave and all the leave reserved for sharing, they could spend about nine months (6 weeks + 29 weeks) at 100 per cent compensation before going back to work.

“Gender Inequalities in the 21st Century: New Barriers and Continuing Constraints” by Jacqueline L. Scott, Rosemary Crompton, Clare Lyonette
from Gender Inequalities in the 21st Century: New Barriers and Continuing Constraints
by Jacqueline L. Scott, Rosemary Crompton, Clare Lyonette
Edward Elgar Publishing, Incorporated, 2010

Keep in mind, too, that you’re entitled to use some of your leave during your pregnancy if you’re not feeling well.

“What to Expect When You're Expecting” by Heidi Murkoff
from What to Expect When You’re Expecting
by Heidi Murkoff
Workman Publishing Company, 2016

Those returning to work after a period of sickness or from maternity/parental leave may find it helpful to have a session on what changes have been made in their absence.

“Introduction to Human Resource Management: A Guide to HR in Practice” by Charles Leatherbarrow, Janet Fletcher
from Introduction to Human Resource Management: A Guide to HR in Practice
by Charles Leatherbarrow, Janet Fletcher
Kogan Page, 2018

When I had my last child, I realized that I should have been allowed a leave on the prior pregnancy.

“Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All” by Sharon Meers, Joanna Strober
from Getting to 50/50: How Working Parents Can Have It All
by Sharon Meers, Joanna Strober
Viva Editions, 2013

Before the FMLA was enacted in 1993, the majority of employed women did not receive paid maternity leaves, and new parents used other leave time, including paid sick leave, vacation leave, and shortterm disability leave.

“Infancy: Development from Birth to Age 3” by Dana Gross
from Infancy: Development from Birth to Age 3
by Dana Gross
Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, 2018

American moms who were allowed to take maternity leave or were given some flexibility after having a baby often explained that they owed it to their employers to work right up until childbirth and to dive back in when they returned.

“Making Motherhood Work: How Women Manage Careers and Caregiving” by Caitlyn Collins
from Making Motherhood Work: How Women Manage Careers and Caregiving
by Caitlyn Collins
Princeton University Press, 2019

When you return to work, you’re entitled to go back to the same job on the same terms and conditions as when you started your maternity leave.

“UK Law and Your Rights For Dummies” by Liz Barclay
from UK Law and Your Rights For Dummies
by Liz Barclay
Wiley, 2011

Another mom had the opposite experience: “I thought I’ll just take 2 months off and I’ll go back to work.

“Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby’s First Year” by Mayo Clinic
from Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby’s First Year
by Mayo Clinic
RosettaBooks, 2012

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  • So you let your company pay you through 2 pregnancies while not working then quit? Sounds like a perfect example of why companies shouldn’t hire women who plan to get pregnant. How is that fair from the employer’s perspective?

  • Hi Laura. Thanks for the video. My maternity leave is coming to an end and I’m considering going back to work part time ( two days a week) but I still feel guilty. My son will be looked after by family but I still feel mummy guilt and I don’t know why�� it will be financially beneficial, and 15hours a week is not a lot. So why do I feel like this???

  • I went back to work part time when my son was 2 months old and it was far too difficult so I had to stop. I felt like I had something to prove by going back to work due to my age at the time (20), in retrospect it was too much too soon. Now I work on the weekends and my partner works during the week we juggle childcare so luckily I get to work and be a stay at home mum. It is really tough leaving your baby to go back to work, but like you said you are doing it for them. We wouldn’t be able to go on family weekends away, play groups etc. if we weren’t both earning xx

  • I went back after my son was born and I quit 6 months after. Eleven years have passed, I now have three sons. I never regretted being a sahm. I am having the time of my life! It is challenging but so worth it!

  • Feeling lucky living in the UK with a long mat leave. My baby is 8 months old and I’m not planning on return until he is 12 months old. It feels too soon to be thinking about work right now. I can’t imagine going back after just four months �� bless you xxx

  • Thanks for the Video. My little boy has just turned one and I decided not to return to my job, for a number of reasons. I’m finding it hard to fill my days and other friends have gone back to work after their maternity leave, I don’t have family around either. I’m not sure if I should start looking for something parttime as I’m not sure I can be a stay at home mum. Feeling guilty writing this ��

  • I’m a first time mom. Been with my baby for three months and one week. I recently finally went to work. And I cried on the way to work and to sleep. I won’t see him until next week. I never realized how hard it is to do this.

  • Great advice! We don’t have babies yet, TTC now but the plan is for me to go back to school after mat leave so I’ll need all the help then! Going to download that app it looks awesome.

  • This was so helpful, i’m returning in a week (also my second time) and this time feels far scarier for some reason! perhaps because its been extra lonely with the COVID restrictions/lockdowns.. it’ll be strange to be out of the house, without the kids x

  • Laura, thank you for sharing! Ok going back to work this Monday & my anxiety levels are hitting the roof, it was really good to hear your prospective. And I like the whole thing about making a plan. That’s super helpful.x

  • thank you for posting this video. I recently had a change of plans where I won’t be able to be a stay at home mom as soon as i’d like and i’m devastated. really dreading being separated from my baby when i go back to work so I found this video encouraging so thank you and thank you for your prayers.

  • Im staring my new job on monday! Im so excited but so nervous �� thank you for your advice�� new subbie here. Hope you can support back and looking forward to more videos from you ����

  • I’m happy for you and your decision for your family and also selfishly happy if it means we continue to get more of your inspirational content #winwin ���� xx

  • Good for you!! You don’t have to justify your choice at all but it was good to see it broken down and how you’re going to manage things. Looking forward to more videos (and Instagram stories of course) ☺️

  • My little girl is currently 6 weeks old and I’m already dreading returning to work in November lol! I am dropping a day though from 4 days to 3, to hopefully achieve a better work/home balance but the thought of 3 10 hour days in a row away from my baby is hard to swallow at the moment. I’m going to try and push it to the back of my head so I don’t spoil these precious months with her xx

  • Hi. Thanks for the vid. Did you have to pay back your maternity pay when you decided to quit your job? My partner is thinking of doing the same thing. Thanks!

  • Thanks for this video Laura. I go back to work in June. I didn’t have a particularly great start to motherhood but now I want to spend every second with my little girl before I have to go back. Trying to make the most of our time together:)

  • I remember your crying and dreading days of going back to work BUT look at you now!!! Simply amazing and with such positive and great advice to new moms! Love hearing them and thumbs up for sharing such great tips!!! #loveyourvlogs

  • This was brilliant! Routine so true, it is hard to start, but you’re so right… Once it becomes the norm, you don’t think about it.

  • I don’t even have kids, but I love these types of videos!youre such a lovely person, it’s like sitting have coffee with a good friend:)

  • Great video:) I was dreading going back to work too, I work part time now and I go through phases most of the time I’m like this isn’t bad at all, it’s good to have adult conversation and I’m only here 3 days etc and then sometimes i feel really sad and just want to be with my daughter all the time! It’s hard but we have to do it!:) xx

  • I’ve been a stay at home mom with my first two boys and now 7 years later I’m leaving my 3rd boy at 6 weeks for work and it’s all I’ve been dreading thankfully his daddy will have him until I get home and he goes to work. I cry when I think about those 8 whole hours without him though so I’m glad I’m not alone! I just keep thinking it will get better and it will I’m just a worry wart as it is. I hope all the other mamas get through it and all is well!! ❤️❤️

  • Good for you you’ve made the right decision I always thought you’d be a great professional organiser helping people working for yourself on your own terms xx

  • I’m from America and I need to go back after 6 weeks, I’m pregnant and I’m sad about it already. Your video helped me feel a bit better

  • Thank-you so much for sharing your personal story. This has helped me more than you know. I’m due in March 2017 and I was struggling for awhile and this was very helpful:)

  • I love your baby’s name and I thank you for this video I find myself searching for help during this emotional journey of motherhood and going back to work ❤️ and I to find it comforting talking to other moms and customers that have experienced this it gives me hope and courage I say that to say whoever is reading this we are mothers and we’re strong we can do this!

  • Being a mom is a very hard and emotional job but we make it through and do what we have to do! Mothers guilt is horrible but we adjust!

  • I go back to work Thursday and I’m not coping well. My baby will be with my mother but I’m just so sad! I haven’t been away from my baby for more than 2 hours!!��