Mistakes Parents Make When Disciplining Children

 

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Common Mistakes You Weren’t Respectful. Parents ask their children to respect them, but they sometimes forget that respect should be a Disciplining While Angry. There are some things that simply should not go together, like drinking and driving or writing Being Inconsistent.

You reprimand your. Cooperation. Child discipline is not about parents dictating their child’s every move or imposing their will like a dictator over his country.

Parents can sit down with a child—even a child as young as 5 years old—and get her opinion on what she thinks about certain rules and consequences in your household. Here are 10 mistakes parents make when disciplining their child:` 10 Trying to be the child’s best friend instead of parent Every mom or dad wants their child to believe they are the best thing. However, at times this can be taken too far, for example, when mom or dad tries to be the child’s best friend, leaving parenting out of the picture. You do not have to be scary to discipline your child effectively.

In fact, it is counterproductive. Your child will perceive that you are attempting to establish your authority when the truth is that you don’t even need to. You are the parent, and you have authority over your child. 4. Yelling and shaming your kid. This one is so, so hard to avoid, especially when you have a strong-willed child who challenges you on every little thing.

However, after researching the effect of harsh verbal discipline on children, I am making avoiding yelling a priority when it comes to improving myself as a parent. Saying things like “we can’t afford new shoes like the other kids because we come from a poor background” reinforces to your child that most of life’s circumstances are out of their control. Ignoring a kid’s signs is one of many discipline mistakes parents make all the time, but fixing them can make a huge difference in the parenting experience.

We asked the experts to reveal the most. Although parents try to introduce the whole world to their children, they make mistakes that may affect their children for life. Learn about a set of common mistakes that new parents make when raising their children, according to a report by authors Maria Zavolukina, Olga Khudyukova and Ekaterina Jabanovic, published by the American website BrightSide. But yelling is one of the least effective forms of discipline. Kids don’t hear the words; they just hear the anger.

Worse, after all that yelling, they rarely change their behavior (and you feel like a monster after seeing the frightened look on your child’s face). for Parents / Disciplining Your Child Disciplining Your Child. Reviewed by: Lauren M. O’Donnell, PsyD. Larger text It’s natural for parents to want to rescue kids from mistakes, but in the long run they do kids a favor by letting them fail sometimes.

Kids see what behaving improperly can mean and probably won’t make those mistakes again.

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Researchers also assure us that most parents don’t use a single discipline style across the board; they tend to respond differently to different kinds of misbehavior.2 But perhaps the more interesting question is how parents come to decide what constitutes “misbehavior” in the first place.

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from Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
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However, parents make a number of other discipline errors.

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The parents’ disciplinary style teaches them that unquestioning obedience is the best way to manage interpersonal differences and to solve problems.

“The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach” by Alan Carr
from The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach
by Alan Carr
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Perhaps not; for example, researchers have found that the children of parents who routinely resort to physical punishment often initiate more aggressive acts than do the children of parents who rely on alternative methods of disciplining undesirable conduct (Bandura & Walters, 1959; Dodge, Pettit, & Bates, 1994).

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from Child Development: A Thematic Approach
by Danuta Bukatko, Marvin W. Daehler
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For example, the parents are asked what to do if they want their child to stop screaming, slamming the door, or throwing breakable objects.

“Parent Management Training: Treatment for Oppositional, Aggressive, and Antisocial Behavior in Children and Adolescents” by Alan E Kazdin
from Parent Management Training: Treatment for Oppositional, Aggressive, and Antisocial Behavior in Children and Adolescents
by Alan E Kazdin
Oxford University Press, 2005

At an early age, as a result of mistakes parents make in raising their children, especially when they use destructive criticism and physical punishment, the child begins to lose his or her natural fearlessness and spontaneity.

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These techniques may reflect changes in parents’ attributions about the degree to which children should be expected to manage their behavior and also a greater tendency to regard misbehavior as deliberate intent and, thus, as warranting both parental anger and punishment (Dixetal.

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from Natural Conflict Resolution
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University of California Press, 2000

It is easy for parents to revert to these disciplinary strategies, because they may produce behavior change more rapidly than positive reinforcement.

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Consistency is so important, in fact, that it is generally more effective for parents to implement a consequence for a half hour and follow through with it than it is for them to take something away for a month and go back on their word after a couple weeks.

“Advanced Techniques for Counseling and Psychotherapy” by Dr. Christian Conte, PhD
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In these families, parents had given the child the sense that nothing he or she did could ever be right, so discipline was not an issue.

“The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them” by Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D.
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  • give your kids what they need, not what they want. It’s our job to prepare them to deal with the issues and problems of the real world so they can one day do the same for their children.

  • Just use the belt it worked in the pass. now kids have no respect for authority their elders or parents. kids need strict military discipline! it is better to discipline them now then to bury them later.

  • For me, I understand number 2 and 3 the most. I’m 33 now and I can still her My own mom saying,”There is no way you can be depressed, you get everything you want, you have a home and clothes. There is no reason for you to be depressed, there is no such thing.” It took me leaving my abusive mother to finally understand that I can be depressed and that these feelings are real, regardless of what I have or don’t have.

    As for number 2, it wasn’t shaming in public but it was shaming. My mom used to do my homework and projects. Now this may sound like a kid’s amazing dream but its not. My mom only did this to prove she was smart. But what this did to me was make me unprepared for school and how to study. When I got into the 8th grade, she couldn’t do the work anymore it was to hard. I’m not making this shit up. Now why did I tell you all this? Well getting back to number 2, when I had to take tests, she used shame and abuse to try and get me to learn.

    Her favorite was calling me, ‘stup”. “Come on Stup we went over this three times already, how can you be this fucking stupid, ‘stup’?” “thats it from now on when I speak to you, your new name is ‘Stup'” She did hold to those threats. There was more to it, but all I can say is, I understand these mistakes from the child’s point of view more than I care to admit. I try to do my best everyday, but sometimes, I just feel like I’m not smart enough even though everyone around me ashores me that I’m not stupid and I do great things. I have always tried to take things one step or day at a time. Please, I know we are only human but if you have kids try to take what they think is serious, seriously. Don’t handicap them like my mom did to me.

  • You uploaded this abit too late, my parents couldve seen it if it was uploaded about a decade ago

    Edit: my comment says it was posted a week ago but i swear it wasnt, i swear i watched this in 2017 but the video says it was uploaded on the 2nd of jan 2018?!?! If this happened to you too reply it! Thats creepy