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And it certainly won’t keep you from being bullied in the future. Self-blame is just another form of rejection. So stop blaming yourself for the bullying and let the situation go. Instead, focus on your healing and what you can learn from the situation.
Learn how to reframe your thinking. How to Stop Blaming Yourself for Being Bullied at Work Many people blame themselves for being bullied at work or at least think they must have done something to warrant itand have a hard time holding the bully responsible for their aggression. Stop the cycles of self-harm and pain with a new thought pattern. When you talk to yourself differently, your brain starts to create new thought patterns, and in this case, replace the negative ones with more positive thoughts. 5. Start Loving Yourself.
Showing yourself self-love and self-care also helps to prevent you from blaming yourself excessively. Examine how you spend your time. Ask yourself whether you’re devoting enough energy to your hobbies, your passions, and your well-being. Many people simply drift into a pattern of meeting the needs of other people. Anyone can experience bullying in their lives.
Never blame yourself for what’s happened. Don’t mentally accept the nastiness just because a bully has directed it at you. Deal with any irrational feeling of blame by writing down how you’re feeling, drawing how you feel, doing exercise, or going out for a walk.
Direct Your Anger Positively. If someone blames you for something you have no control over, you need to ignore the actual content of what’s been said, identify the type of abuse. Examine your role in the bullying.
There may be a chance that you unintentionally pinned yourself as the victim. Maybe you thought ignoring your sibling’s behavior would cause them to stop, but it actually encouraged it instead. Or maybe you have played along hoping that by seeming unfazed, they would lose interest.
Taking away the blame without taking away the responsibility keeps us accountable to ourselves and the world around us without setting us up for. If you know who’s bullying you, bring along a trusted witness, such as a co-worker or supervisor, and ask them to stop — if you feel comfortable doing so. According to Namie, “ You can’t stand your ground as readily, since there’s a power dynamic,”.
Also, Namie suggests that “ You need to break the silence with co-workers. Chances are you’re not the only person [being bullied], and you can use your collective power to mobilize as a group. ”.
List of related literature:
|from The Spectrum Girl’s Survival Guide: How to Grow Up Awesome and Autistic|
|from The Boys Body Book: Fifth Edition|
|from Bullying Scars: The Impact on Adult Life and Relationships|
|from What’s Happening to Me? (Girls): For tablet devices|
|from Fitness for Life: Middle School|
|from Undoing Depression: What Therapy Doesn’t Teach You and Medication Can’t Give You|
|from Asperger’s on the Job: Must-have Advice for People with Asperger’s Or High Functioning Autism, and Their Employers, Educators, and Advocates|
|from George and the Blue Moon|
|from The Awesome Autistic Go-To Guide: A Practical Handbook for Autistic Teens and Tweens|
|from ADHD and Me: What I Learned from Lighting Fires at the Dinner Table|