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Setting limits removes—or at least greatly reduces—arguments, backtalk, and discussion. It doesn’t mean kids won’t try to get their way, but knowing what the boundaries are, and being reminded of them when they try to test you, helps cut down the amount of back and forth and wiggle room your child will create as he tries to convince you to give him what he wants. How to Set Healthy Boundaries so Your Children Will Listen Keep It Simple. Boundaries are about setting rules. When it comes to kids and rules, less is more – especially when your Establish Trust.

Establishing trust is all about leading by example and being consistent in. In a teacher-student relationship, a teacher might set healthy boundaries by choosing to keep their personal lives separate from their professional lives by not telling their students too much about their private lives (Bernstein-Yamashiro & Noam, 2013). Here are 4 tips that will help you get there: Define your boundaries. To develop boundaries for yourself, you have to know what you value, think and where you stand.

Make your expectations known. Make a list of what you expect for yourself in relation to your kids. Think about what you Get your. Involve the kids in boundary setting Have a family meeting. Family communication gets everyone involved in setting the boundaries.

When children share ownership of the rules, they’re more invested. Setting emotional boundaries is an important part of developing healthy relationships. Parents who teach their kids about boundary setting contribute to.

Teaching Boundaries: When you’re raising kids to have healthy boundaries, it’s important to allow your children to have and express their own feelings. This one can be pretty tough as it isn’t unusual for some parents to try to suppress a child’s healthy behavioral expression. Kids safety is a parent’s responsibility, so is creating a healthy boundary around them.

Exposing children to objectionable content can be dangerous. Take an active step today to set parental controls on your child’s device by setting healthy boundaries for kids on mobile devices. How to establish healthy boundaries in children. We all accept the lifelong benefits offered by healthy boundaries, but the challenge is often in the how. Establishing healthy boundaries can, at times, be challenging, but there are some easy ways to start the process, including: Setting rules, limits and routine.

Setting boundaries is about giving yourself agency and empowerment. Here are exercises, questions, and methods to try when setting boundaries with your friends, co.

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Define the boundaries, preview them before the event and remind the child throughout the activity.

“The Autism Discussion Page on Stress, Anxiety, Shutdowns and Meltdowns: Proactive Strategies for Minimizing Sensory, Social and Emotional Overload” by Bill Nason
from The Autism Discussion Page on Stress, Anxiety, Shutdowns and Meltdowns: Proactive Strategies for Minimizing Sensory, Social and Emotional Overload
by Bill Nason
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2019

This approach gives the preschooler a choice and some control while maintaining boundaries.

“Nursing Care of Children E-Book: Principles and Practice” by Susan R. James, Kristine Nelson, Jean Ashwill
from Nursing Care of Children E-Book: Principles and Practice
by Susan R. James, Kristine Nelson, Jean Ashwill
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

Provide boundaries, limits and protection but within these let your child exercise some control.

“Nurturing Attachments: Supporting Children who are Fostered or Adopted” by Kim Golding
from Nurturing Attachments: Supporting Children who are Fostered or Adopted
by Kim Golding
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2007

Healthy boundaries will also help you down the road when it comes time to set them for your children.

“The Mindful Mom-to-Be: A Modern Doula's Guide to Building a Healthy Foundation from Pregnancy Through Birth” by Lori Bregman, Stefani Newman, Molly Sims
from The Mindful Mom-to-Be: A Modern Doula’s Guide to Building a Healthy Foundation from Pregnancy Through Birth
by Lori Bregman, Stefani Newman, Molly Sims
Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale, 2015

Consistent boundaries give children security, and enable them to know what responses to expect from their carers.

“Forest Schools & Outdoor Learning in the Early Years” by Sara Knight
from Forest Schools & Outdoor Learning in the Early Years
by Sara Knight
SAGE Publications, 2009

● Consistent boundaries, expectations and routines (within which each child can then relax and have the freedom that they need in order to learn effectively).

“Planning in the Moment with Young Children: A Practical Guide for Early Years Practitioners and Parents” by Anna Ephgrave
from Planning in the Moment with Young Children: A Practical Guide for Early Years Practitioners and Parents
by Anna Ephgrave
Taylor & Francis, 2018

Boundaries give children a sense of security, while flexibility offers children the freedom to discover, explore, and play, all of which have been associated with problem solving.

“Encyclopedia of Creativity” by Mark A. Runco, Steven R. Pritzker
from Encyclopedia of Creativity
by Mark A. Runco, Steven R. Pritzker
Elsevier Science, 2020

Part 3 shows you how to set healthy boundaries with your teen.

“Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No” by John Townsend
from Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No
by John Townsend
Zondervan, 2009

For example, how do you set boundaries for kids?

“Tough Cases: Judges Tell the Stories of Some of the Hardest Decisions They’ve Ever Made” by Russell Canan, Gregory Mize, Frederick Weisberg
from Tough Cases: Judges Tell the Stories of Some of the Hardest Decisions They’ve Ever Made
by Russell Canan, Gregory Mize, Frederick Weisberg
New Press, 2018

Create those spaces as best you can for each child; give them their own retreat where they can dream or reboot.

“Voyaging With Kids: A Guide to Family Life Afloat” by Behan Gifford, Sara Dawn Johnson, Michael Robertson
from Voyaging With Kids: A Guide to Family Life Afloat
by Behan Gifford, Sara Dawn Johnson, Michael Robertson
Pardey Books, 2015

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  • I have class of 30 first graders, its afterclass where they write homework and play while waiting parents. They are 6.5 till 7y old. Have 4 kids who hit each other all the time. Often with no reason. Just go to smw and kick them and their stuff or push each other. One of kids is laughing at teachers face, yell loud in middle of class. When i say him to stopand that he will get extra task or get time out he just starts laughing and says jeej i want tasks. Other kid punches everyone who is on his way girls or boys. Also often not provoked. No idea anymore what to do since by the time i make one behaved others start again.

  • You are not far!! I’m going to have to get ahold of you for consultation. Do you do virtual? Seems like it could be ineffective on my three yo

  • I don’t even bother with people since I’m always misunderstood. I just keep to myself. If I got anything to say, I write it on my phone. In real life, I just keep my mouth shut.

  • Wonderful video, thank you. Question about minor breach and repair sequences ( 5:32). How do I do this without just giving in to what they want. I would love to hear some examples of this or any suggestions or insights how I can implement this.

  • I ALWAYS TREAT YOU BETTER THEN MYSELF NOW WE WILL HAVE A PLACE WITHOUT RENT STRESS…DO NOT BRING ANY DEPRESSION HOME OVER SOMEONE ELSE DONT BE SNEAKING PHONE CALLS TO THIS PERSON THE MIN I WALK OUT THE DOOR…IF YOU SEE THIS BEHAVIOR IS UNAVOIDABLE THEN STAY WERE YOU ARE…..I CAN FIND A MILLON NICE GIRLS WHO WOULD WANT TO LIVE WITHOUT FINNIACIAL STRESS…SEX WAS ALWAYS UP TO YOU THOSE RULES WONT CHANGE…YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO YOUR OWN HAPPINESS….GET A JOB OR TAKE UP A HOBBY UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES U OPEN THE DOOR UNLESS IM HOME AND IF YOU NEED SPACE TAKE THE SPARE KEY AND I WONT BLOW UP YOUR PHONE YOU HAVE A KEY COME HOME WHEN UR READY….

  • Can you do a video about cyberbully?? I’ve beeb cyberbullying with my former bestfriend and It hurts me so much. I dont want to be depress but he’s posting so much negative on social media. Please help me.

  • Basically like training a dog.
    Smh…an only child is very NASTY experience though and they rule the roost for sure.They are in my view are SELF ENTITLED ROTTEN BRATS.I have been dealing with one and it’s sooo annoying.This one is emotionless BRAT!
    I’ve tried all what your teaching and THIS ONLY child is a NASTY customer still.I have been sexually assaulted and constantly harassed by my exes ONLY child LJ in Surrey British Columbia Canada.His FATHER Geordie Craig has a child and youth degree but does NOT step in when his son violates my space on the regular by putting his head INTO my boobs and slaps my ass WHEN his dad not looking then lies about not doing that…what do I DO??!??!?!?! I am terrified of this brat that I have NEVER went BACK there.

  • As someone with autism, it’s not that I don’t respect someone’s boundaries, it’s that it’s hard to see what those boundaries are, and where the line is. Sometimes i don’t really know when to stop, and unintentionally let my brakes slip. I don’t want to ask what someone’s boundaries are either, because i’m afraid i’ll look like an idiot.

  • i can’t be far away from my enemies at school because i have to be in the same room as them and that is WAY too close!
    i’m glad i’m homeschooled now

  • Sorry but you are a dreamer. The first system works. The other two doesn’t with biggest part of kids.

    The big problem is also the decadence of the western. It is not about the house it’s spread. It’s in the TV, it’s in the movies and in everywhere.

    Dialog is only when they are formed and ready. Relationship and dialog undermine your authority with them.

  • I have noticed far too often that far too many people from all walks of life simply expect everyone else to conform to their set of boundaries especially when those boundaries are never mentioned or are vague at best. The worst instances I have encountered are those with a herd mentality that blindly follow whichever leaders they have regardless of the detriment to one or a number of people.
    Often people will mistake setting boundaries with using “you always” or some such accusatory statement to single out, chastise, & attempt to shame others into giving into their demands.
    Some of the worst instances I have witnessed are the ever elusive “things everyone knows” that are never discussed or talked about.
    I am aware I pointed out some of the most “toxic” instances though those are the ones I have witnessed enforced vehemently and often violently. There is always a much darker side and I have found exposing such behaviors to others is how we all can confront and take measures against such openly hostile (sometimes covert) behaviors. I am not trying to bum anyone out just giving some warnings and calling out bs where I find it. Be well.

  • And let me tell you this. If I have to cut individuals off for my well being and my peace of mind so be it. I do not like invaders in My dimension how about that?! I’m trying to protect MY peace.✌�� ��������������������

  • I know that not many people will see this but I just wanna ask for some advice. I’ve known this person for about 6.5-7 years and as we’ve gotten older she’s been alot… meaner. She only calls or texts me when she needs compliments, emotional support, or askes what she should post on instagram. She’s always handing out with a girl she knows always talks bad about me but ignores it. She always calls me stupid, idiotic, ugly, and a hoe. She says she has anxiety but dosen’t show it, I can understand that but, she dosen’t have any symptoms of anxiety. So, what should I do?

  • My grandmother’s belt was the psychologist for her grandsons. We all grew up respecting people and Excellent human beings. Parents are in charge 24/7 no games.

  • Yes, I agree with all of it but HOW do we do that. Concrete tips and advice that is what we need. I get the theory but HOW do we implement it cause this only stresses me further when I discipline or try to intervene and I know I should be doing it differently but don’t know how it this given situation. Doesn’t help that dialogue really isn’t something my two year old is good at yet.

  • How do you deal with a strong willed child who has brain damage? She appears to function at about a developmental age of four. Physically she is 12. She has epilepsy which is recently controlled with meds and a vagus nerve stimulator. Unfortunately her latest thing for expressing her unhappiness with a situation is to hit her parents. She understands when she is “being a bad girl” so she gets that her behavior is not correct but she doesn’t control it. She is an only child and the parents are not particularly equipped to deal with this.

  • With toxic people that like to bounce in and out of my life I ignore their efforts on trying to communicate with me. Period. I refuse to entertain negativity in my adult life

  • That’s funny. When my mother murdered my older brother and social services sent me to child psychologist, he diagnosed me with A.D.D. and O.D.D. along with mild Retardation and encouraged by foster family to berate & segregate me for wanting to explore the world and inquire about choices.
    Now I’m 30 living on disability with no education.
    Thanks clinical psychology, you sure did fix my life!
    More labels and drugs please!
    That fixes EVERYTHING!
    [sarcasm]

  • I set a boundary and then my mother refused to respect it. We aren’t speaking because she resorted to attacking me (privately and publicly) because of it. I’m 40 and this is still not something I can get her to do… I’ve lost hope it will ever happen.

  • Thank you for the great information! My little one is intense, spirited, oppositional, and may have adhd. I have twin infants and he takes three times as much energy. Despite this I’ve tried to parent through attachment parenting and positive parenting. Like you said I find it’s better if I stay loving, positive, and calm. I try to listen and acknowledge as much as I can. I find walking miles with him leading and being present help. Schedule are important as well. I always try to be consistent with my patience so he can always trust I’m supporting him but it’s exhausting and I’m finding it difficult to give equal attention to the other children. I believe he may have sensory issues and I may take him in for ot evaluation. Thx!

  • The only time my teens cooperate is when I cannot take it anymore. I listen and I set boundaries etc. And until I cannot take it anymore and I get pissed is when they finally help!!! Why!!!!?????
    I have a list that will take 20 mins tops a day if EVERYONE works as a team!
    However when I get home it’s not done over half the time.
    I have to either clean or leave it like it is until I can do it.
    This hurts us because I am not getting quality time with them because I have to clean.
    I am a full-time student and I work full-time.
    I have tried so many different approaches.
    I don’t even want the house �� I am okay with it just picked up clothes off the floor and it simply looks lived in I don’t expect perfect.
    My nerves are shot.

  • I wish I had found this years ago my daughter was unruly and difficult. Turned out she had sensory issues. Now after months of OT and continuing efforts at home we don’t have nearly as many struggles with her. We definitely have had to learn tons of different parenting techniques with our crazy crew. We also have a child with Autism.

  • My dad’s girlfriend thought that I should be able to read her mind and know exactly what she’s thinking with her bs. She would get upset with me and be passive aggressive, till it would turn into full on mental abuse. Still though, even if asked what’s the issue etc, she wouldn’t say what the issue was. When that’s all it takes to fix the issues she’s had. I had to have a talk with my dad, telling him this is someone he should end the relationship with (cause I felt like they were literally trying to get between me and my dad and they were causing me mental scars). He compromises, cause he thinks everyone deserves a chance and thing’s are stressful in general cause of Covid and other things. So instead of ending, things are put on pause. Which ok, that’s fair. Well the next day his girlfriend runs into my room and grabs me by the neck. She didn’t harm me, but she attempted to provoke me into fighting her off (I didn’t, im not a violent person in any sense, and if anything i was just shocked and scared and confused). Reason i’m posting this is I want to ask: Would a person who is bottling up their issues/problems, explode to the point that they physically try to harm someone or stage a fight? or is that something that only a Toxic person would think to do?

  • Dialogue? They have very limited language skills and even fewer capacity for self reflection. “No. I don’t want to!”. “Why not?” ” I just don’t”. This means they are making themselves the authority figure here. But parents are, not them!! Parents know what is good for a child and children don’t. That is why children are not in authority and parents are.

  • You are a awesome! It’s so much to learn to be a good parent! Will watch all of your videos! Love them all! I wish you have books written by you!

  • I refuse to listen to people’s problems. even my friends. I will accept only close friends and myself. other people’s baggages, I won’t bother!

  • Really like the way you talk and explain. I agree it would be good to have concrete example. Good explanation of different parenting.

  • It’s called grey rock, if you’re in a position say at work where you can’t find another place to work, or even family where they don’t respect your boundaries or even bully you repeatedly, react minimally until you can find something else. With family you can still cut contact and make it clear what’s tolerable. With work you have to just grey rock until you can find a better place. Toxic people don’t often change.

  • tfw you only exist for other peoples use and pleasure so you cant put up any boundaries without feeling guilty and annoying and “cringy”

  • I really wish, you were able to see my son he has melt down anywhere with anyone, DSS thinks the best thing for him is adoption I don’t agree at all I’m currently trying to get him back he’s just now starting medicine, time will only tell he’s 5 and I don’t think any of this is fair but I love the way you explain things I think you’d understand my son’s anger….like I do.

  • I raised a kid with ODD that has turned out good. Do not negotiate with an ODD kid no matter what anyone says. They see that as giving them authority over you. It not only changes how they see you but scares them. They know they should not be in charge! But be a great listener and dont sweat the small stuff like he says

  • I’m 23 & what I’ve learned along my self-healing journey is that love should never cost me my physical, mental, or spiritual health. Loving someone else should never require me to betray myself.

  • This video is epic!!! Should have millions of views, for real. It really bothers me when my family tells me that I should be spanking my kid to get her under control because I understand the complexity of the mind and I know there has to be a better way. Thank you for adding this gem to my tool kit. The instructions I need at the time ALWAYS show up perfectly! Ty!

  • Yes, some fascinating theory but I agree with other posters who have said that there must be more practical real-life examples for it to be applicable.

  • How do you set boundaries with a parent who has complete access to your phone and demands to know all of your passwords to all of your devices?

  • Please help me
    I am getting crazy my mom doesn’t respect my space
    She is controlling everything
    Please i cant more carry on
    I don’t understand why she is always doing it
    She says she is always right and that i am wrong
    I hate it
    She takes away my peace
    I wanna peace and healthy mind
    I love her but she thinks k am 2 years old
    I am 30 years old

  • As a grandparent, when my grand girls experience a meltdown, staying calm, acknowledging their misbehavior, and listening is a great start.  I am focusing the scene now.

  • I feel as so people are judgemental and forceful towards me most of the time.
    But when I say no, they start to question it.
    Maybe I need to explain myself a bit more so that they get a better understanding of how I feel lol!
    It’s difficult for me because I’m unable to read body language due to my visual impairment and I don’t know how they are going to react afterwards.

  • To me the kid is the priority. He is the future. I am the past. Let him set the boundaries that fit him! I don’t mind. It is easy to say because free kids are easy to handle. They are uncomplicated. They want to explore. Parents are secondary (unless they are denied by boundaries). When they are free, they stop being clingy.

  • How do I work on this though. I am strong-willed so are both my children they argue with me about everything tooth and nail even when I remain calm. They choose not to listen and it pushes me to the edge and I have no choice but to yell and put my foot down and tell them I will not tolerate this Behavior. but it’s caused a huge strain on our relationship. I feel like I’m disciplining more than enjoying my time with my kids while they’re young. I tried to do something simple like pick a movie for all of us to do movie night and they argue about the movie and refuse to make a choice together. I end up canceling it altogether because they’re arguing too much so I have to send them both to their rooms. then they go in there rooms and they yell more throw an even bigger tantrum and Destroy things. After that Im left frustrated not knowing what to do anymore.

  • I support you in that, but I began to see the problem of negotiations when I saw my son standing and negotiating and arguing with the trainer instead of doing the instructions. I don’t may be this was because it was his first time or just will continue talking and asking more than doing instructions.

  • According to my mom this is not clear enough communication: “I’m an introvert who is currently unable to recharge. I need some time and space.” I told her this 2 weeks ago and she’s been trying to get me to talk about what is really going on and claiming that me not talking means that I am simply rejecting her and shutting her out and that she is the victim. Even when I told her communicating is a real struggle and that it takes so much energy out of me when I am suffering from the introvert burnout she just can’t see my perspective. Yesterday she blew up in my face and started throwing around accusations (like “you’re mean!” and; “this isn’t how you treat people!”) just to hear from me that it wasn’t anything she did wrong. And she justified getting angry by saying that “I hadn’t been clear enough, so I left her no choice”. I am so exhausted.

  • If only I had this resource in high school maybe I wouldn’t have suffered so much from people trying to tale advantage of me☺️but its always good to learn and reflect

  • Can you make a video on how to know when to set boundaries? I love to help people but I don’t want to be taken advantage of. I never know where to draw the line