How you can Navigate Tricky Mother-Daughter Relationships

 

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Mother-in-law relationships may get all the press, and the jokes, but mother-daughter conflict is all too common. Many times the root of the conflict is the mother whose heart does not recognize that a daughter is “grown.” When a mother fails to acknowledge her daughter’s adulthood, a family rift can occur. Mother-in-law relationships may get all the press, and the jokes, but mother-daughter conflict is all too common. Many times the root of the conflict is the mother whose heart does not recognize that a daughter is “grown.” When a mother fails to acknowledge her daughter’s adulthood, a family rift can occur. Keep reiterating how much you appreciate her as a mother, and redirect any friendly talk to the dynamic that you’d prefer.

If she brings up a topic that makes you squirmy, you can even tell her straight out that you’re not comfortable discussing that with her, or that you feel it’s inappropriate. Let your daughter know that you need to hear her voice occasionally, but you’re fine to text when she wants to say hello or ask a question. Or let your Mom know that you’re busy and texting helps you manage your time better. The compromise helps both of you feel comfortable in your communication methods.

Keeping an open mind and fostering a non-judgmental atmosphere on both sides will go a long way in building a healthy relationship between mother and daughter. Respect, learning to say that you’re sorry and a lot of love is what builds and maintains that bond!If your daughter confides in you, keep the information confidential. While it may be tempting to share what you’ve spoken about with others, doing so is likely to lead to a breakdown in trust. How to navigate a tricky relationship with a sibling Philippa Perry.

02/02/2020. Bow crane collapse: Mayor warns ‘lessons must be learned’ as union boss calls for ‘urgent’ investigation. How to navigate a tricky relationship with a sibling.

I am 42 and have always had a difficult relationship with my sister, who is six years older than me. Over the years, I have helped her with house moves, break-ups, money problems and even, on occasions, taken in her children when they were too much for her. and if parents do not take. Try to see your relationship with her not as a mother/daughter one but as a relationship between two women. She is a woman placing her expectations on you and you feel hurt because she is not meeting the expectations you have placed on her.

Six ways to navigate tricky relationships. By Tracy Gesare 26th Oct 2018. ALSO READ: Couples ‘should wear masks while having sex’ amid coronavirus pandemic.

List of related literature:

Mothers often mentor daughters by reading books together.

“Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe” by Meg Meeker
from Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe
by Meg Meeker
Regnery Publishing, 2019

Explore this archetype—the mother as a goddess—and take time to question your own feelings about mothers and your relationships with mothers.

“Wicca: a Year and a Day: 366 Days of Spiritual Practice in the Craft of the Wise” by Timothy Roderick
from Wicca: a Year and a Day: 366 Days of Spiritual Practice in the Craft of the Wise
by Timothy Roderick
Llewellyn Publications, 2005

For some women, this exploration can bring up mixed emotions, but it is an opportunity to get to know another side of your mother and possibly heal wounds and unresolved feelings from the past.

“Yoga Mama, Yoga Baby: Ayurveda and Yoga for a Healthy Pregnancy and Birth” by Margo Shapiro Bachman, Vasant Lad
from Yoga Mama, Yoga Baby: Ayurveda and Yoga for a Healthy Pregnancy and Birth
by Margo Shapiro Bachman, Vasant Lad
Sounds True, 2013

Although there is little research on turning points in children’s relationships with their fathers, research reveals several common turning points in mother-daughter relationships.

“21st Century Communication: A Reference Handbook” by William F. Eadie
from 21st Century Communication: A Reference Handbook
by William F. Eadie
SAGE Publications, 2009

But it may be hard for your mom to accept that you are also a mother now, not just her daughter, and that you need space and support to figure out your own way of doing things, as does your husband.

“Natural Health After Birth: The Complete Guide to Postpartum Wellness” by Aviva Jill Romm
from Natural Health After Birth: The Complete Guide to Postpartum Wellness
by Aviva Jill Romm
Inner Traditions/Bear, 2002

A paper by Janet Surrey (Chapter 2, this volume) discusses the ways mothers bond with their daughters and how they teach their daughters mothering behavior with some expectation of mutual caretaking and mutual empathic interactions.

“Women's Growth in Connection: Writings from the Stone Center” by Judith V. Jordan, Stone Center for Developmental Services and Studies
from Women’s Growth in Connection: Writings from the Stone Center
by Judith V. Jordan, Stone Center for Developmental Services and Studies
Guilford Publications, 1991

As an adult, you can discuss this with her and show her that you accept her growing need for independence, even as you welcome her desire to maintain closeness to you.

“Father Hunger: Fathers, Daughters, and the Pursuit of Thinness” by Margo Maine, Craig Johnson
from Father Hunger: Fathers, Daughters, and the Pursuit of Thinness
by Margo Maine, Craig Johnson
Gürze Books, 2010

Mother-Daughter Wisdom will show you the way.

“Mother Daughter Wisdom” by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
from Mother Daughter Wisdom
by Christiane Northrup, M.D.
Hay House, 2006

As you continue becoming a separate person in your own relationships, you will also see positive changes in your attachment to mom.

“The Mom Factor: Dealing with the Mother You Had, Didn't Have, or Still Contend With” by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
from The Mom Factor: Dealing with the Mother You Had, Didn’t Have, or Still Contend With
by Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Zondervan, 2009

Despite the growing importance of women in business, there is little research into mother–son relationships in the family firm, and even less mother–daughter relationships.

“Entrepreneurship and Small Business” by Paul Burns
from Entrepreneurship and Small Business
by Paul Burns
Palgrave Macmillan Limited, 2016

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  • My mom abuses us verbally the whole family and she doesn’t even regret for that.like we normal humans once we do some wrong we think,realise, regret but she doesn’t hav anything like that.

  • me: opening up to mom and telling every detail to her
    her: not interested, not listening and not saying anything
    her again: why are you not talking to me, don’t you love me? huhu you don’t love me
    me: insert happy and water gun emoji

  • my mom to me be always like “yOu dOnT NeED fRiEnDs YoU hAvE mE”
    me: mom please help me how to do this
    her: iM bUsY yOu CaN dO thAt yoUrsElF *watches netflix or chat withher friends laughing
    my friends: so all you have to do is this and yea and etc.
    me in school: no friends cuz my mom said no need friends so me BIG lonely and no friends to go to canteen and eat food with:(((

  • my mom used to make fun of me when i was little over things like singing badly at 8 years old or my weight and has caused me to be insecure ever since.

    i formed depression when i was 13 and when i tried to commit suicide a few years later, all she could say is “dont you know how i feel?? i feel like the shit underneath your shoe”.

    i knew then and there that my mother only cared about herself and not my feelings.

    im 23 now and when i try to open up to her and tell her how i feel, her and my dad both tag team and tell me i dont know stress, anxiety and depression. at one point i told my parents i wanted to kill myself and they laughed at me.

    i dont know how i made it this far but im glad i did. i now have a loving boyfriend that supports and loves me every way and once we have enough to move out, im never speaking to her again.

  • I know for sure I have the buddy mom and the roll reverse. I often feel like it depends on me to aid my mom or rescue her from bad decisions she put me and my sibling through. Though, wants everything to do with us, but little teaching and if so it’s anger thinking she wants our attention

  • My mom is all of those so at this point I don’t even know where to go from here. If I try to go to her to talk about it or something else she’s dismissive critical and turns in a whole bunch of mama drama so ����‍♀️

  • My mom is a different kind she’s bad with all of the family members and she abuses everyone verbally literally everyone even her own parents..I dont understand what’s her..she does all wrong and blames it on us.

  • It hurts so much to grow up lacking maternal love. I believe I became bisexual because I long for that maternal love I lacked. the wounds she put in me I can’t undo. Ever since I moved out our relationship improved a lot but I still feel she isn’t right to focus so much on appearance. She’s apologized for past incidents but sadly being honest apologies don’t take it back. But I will never admit that to her.

  • My mother always asked for my advice on serious decisions, e.g. wether or not she should divorce her husband when I was around 14. She always relied on me for emotional support and I had to care for my siblings or do chores a lot. I had to do my homework all by myself from first grade on and also made my own doctor appointments from age 12. Now she only jokes about how she never had to do anything for me since i have bin so independent and mature for my age…

  • I definitely seen my mom as a bully and enemy. I have a twin sister she would show love to her and not me she would make me feel like I wasn’t a person. Every time I fought with my sister or my brother I got into trouble she would never defend me when I knew I was right she would only defend them, and I’m the youngest although my twin is a minute to older. When I was born she gave me away to my grandparents. I believe that’s the best thing she could have ever done. But when I got to be a year old she took me back. I remember my brother and sister actually wanted to play with me and wanted to have a pillow fight. I hit my sister and she hit me and it had glass cup in it and it cut my head open. I got yelled and and smacked around because I was crying! Well yeah I was fucking crying that shit hurt! Every time I defended myself it got worse for me. My mom got tired of me and sent me back to my grandparents during the summers I was so happy and wasn’t stressed out or made to fell like I was nothing. She was emotionally unavailable to me!

  • I watched the one about bad relationships with your father but one in this video fits my dad and I’s relationship better, is that possible?

  • I feel like my mother was all of those things…I didn’t ask for that. All I wanted was a mom who loved me for me. I ran away from her to live with my father and my younger sister came with me. I didn’t speak to my mother for a year and a half. She never apologized. She doesn’t believe she did anything wrong. But she apologized to my younger sister who only got hit once. We have completely different childhood despite the 4 year age difference. Now I suffer/survived from PTSD and depression. I’ll never get my childhood back but that doesn’t mean my future child has to have that. Just sucks that I had to go through that to learn to be kind.

  • Y’all my momma just yelled at me bc her son sister used her conditioner ��������and took it out me ������said I had to replace it ��������

  • Screaming number five

    (Cough) Sorry, so uh… My two siblings have varying levels of mental detriments, but moreso my older brother. As children, my mom was usually busy with him, or was working (and so was dad). My younger sister was a social butterfly, so she could usually grab mom’s attention.

    I was just, neither. I kind of “parented” my siblings and grew up pretty sad due to a culmination of these and other things.

  • This is a beautiful restoration. I am the daughter and my mom is not open minded enough to see any perspective other than hers. She thinks I’m way out of line to want to be respected. Her response is ‘I raised you, fed you, and cleaned you’.
    All which were her responsibility.
    I will remain hopeful but until then, I will love her and work on improving me.
    Thanks!

  • My mom calls my fears childish and unnecessary, I have a severe fear of any kind of bug or insect that can sting or bit you, especially bees. Whenever I run away from a bee or something, she’ll be like, “what’s wrong with you?? You’re able to take the sting, you’re almost 12.” First of all, just because I’m 12 doesnt mean it wont hurt? Like what?? Age doesnt matter, she cried over a punch from my seven year old brother and calls me childish for something that hurts like 10 times worse than a punch from a little kid. Honestly tho, idk why bee stings hurt so much for me, because I’ve legit got hit with a metal char and barely felt it, it was sore a few days later though. Then I have a fear of worms, and yet again, she calls it childish. I can understand why this fear doesnt make much sense, because most worms cant hurt you. But I mean, come on, weve all got different fears that we csnt control. Whenever I see a worm, it’s really weird, I just freeze in place and want to run away, but can. Anyway, I wouldnt call her toxic at all, she just doesnt really understand some things I do ��

  • My mother is like a 5 years old little inresponsible girl, and I’m the adult so sometimes I get mad at her bc most of the time I have to take care of her and when I show her that she have to be responsible she gets mad at me, I can’t talk to her bc everytime we try to talk we ending screaming about the past when I just wanted to talk about how was her day, and she always change the talk to something that is not even important, I feel terrible I know that one day I’ll lost her but I feel wierd and angry is just I don’t feel right being with her.

  • Good Afternoon watching from Maryland I really appreciate this video I come from a narcissistic family and it took me over 20 years to finally say enough my mother and I don’t have a very good relationship but I am at Peace

  • I develeoped chronic illness and mum didn’t believe me. We are no longer talking. I am trying to get her to stop humiliating me in conversation. Im beyond angry she asked me how I was when i was sick in the morning it made it worse to have to say I wasn’t ok, I had told her twice this makes me feel worse. I couldn’t eat yesterday over it. I am done with her lack of empathy and I want more than ever to be able to communicate that it hurts. Of course I’ll try but I am prepared not to spend the holidays with her if it comes to it. I am trying to show her I cannot handle her behavior anymore.

  • You ladies were so blessed to have mothers who took care of you as little girls. I didn’t have that. My mother wasn’t particularly the nurturing loving caring typical mother. Due to her own motherless issues and being married to my father who was violently abusive, she was emotionally arrested in her development and did not have the capacity to mother me and the rest of my siblings. I have worked through a lot of the pain, but at 42 years old I still struggle with not having a healthy whole relationship with her. I honor, value, love and respect her though. She’s gone through so much in life. Thank you for sharing your story

  • I wouldn’t consider my mom awful, but she’s pretty selfish, she only talks about her problems, and when I try to talk about mine, she usually just treats them like there nothing and if like my problems don’t matter, but if she haves a problem is different cuz “She’s an adult”, I’d get that sometimes if she talks about bills and stuff, but it sucks when the issues she haves are practically the same as me, but she’s an adult so is different.

  • well my mom is something like this: If he scolds me and I say something, I’m answering her in a bad way, but if I don’t say anything she starts saying: “I was a girl too, I know what’s going on in your head, I bet you want to see me dead”

    Mom… if you really knew what I think you would know how much your words hurt me…

  • When your mom wants you to do something she never taught and get angry because you messed up and you’ll get scolded for not doing it perfectly.

  • My mom and i aren’t exactly close, she leaves for her job at japan and her other husband cough my step dad. She prefers my brother over me, thinking I’m always wrong. I get tense when I’m around her, i just feel like…. I want to be alone..

  • My dad died along ago and the one who truely loved me died recently..my mom did not allow me to even attend his funeral becoz he was not perfect in her eyes and it hurts me even more…my mother is a drama queen in front of relatives and friends showing all of her kindness but to her daughter not even once…guess only jesus loves me now

  • so.. my mom is controlling, criticism, fighting, sometimes joking, mama drama, sometimes dismissive (rarely), and No Boundaries… Shes all of them.

  • My mum isn’t toxic or anything but because of her work I didn’t get to spend time with her (I’m going to rant now) so basically my mum had a job were she had to go all around the country almost every night and if she didn’t she would still be working till about 12 at night. It got to the point that my mum and dad started fighting becuase of it making my dad more angry at me and my brother. I think I was deppresed at that time tbh, I wasn’t diagnosed cause my mum thinks I was beomg silly about it but yeah. But if it wasn’t for this one lady she would probably still be in that job and never see me. Becially she worked with this nice lady and one dya my mum broke down in her office becuase the might before I was crying into her arms hoping she would stay yet again and mum told this to the nice lady and she bought me and my mum and free trip to a nail salon and we finally got to spend time with her and if it wasn’t for my mum seeing how happy I was with her she would probably still be on that job. She works in a different job now but she’s still a work aholic so whenever I see her work past her work hours I get really upset and remember those horrible times, maybe it’s something to do with ptsd? But idk I don’t want to self diagnose.

  • Two conditions matched in my case….1st is the critical relationship, she never praise me for my efforts and always criticise me for my mistakes. She blames me for everything that is wrong around and According to her I can never have a good relationship with anyone. 2nd one is that I don’t seem to have any place in her priority list, she always have her own plans and whenever I try to communicate, she vocally abuse me.

  • She’s like I have many things I can do what others can’t (even though it’s not true).. she is a good mother I don’t wanna make her worse than she is, but it’s something like 2, 6 ( she’s nice in private too, so I never know when bad mom shows up), (a bit) emotionally unavailable, (a bit) 4, I feel unworthy ( a tiny bit 3). I am afraid of my mom and/or her reactions and don’t wanna tell her everything of my more private life…

  • Omg. I swear you are in tune with my life. What ever going on my life you do video. On. Thank you. I love my daughter so much. She and I argue a lot but still love her so much I need to hear this

  • I was today years old when I realized my mother is all 6 of these styles in one person. All kinds of childhood memories correlate to one of these 6 styles. acknowledge it and I make peace with that. Funny that I can across this video when I did because I have been facing all of those mommy issues and the best way to describe this process is like peeling the layers off of an onion….everyday there is something new I discover about that relationship and by acknowledging and releasing it in the moment has given me a supernatural healing.

  • When you grow up, Princess, you’ll come to the realisation that ‘your mother’ is a REAL PERSON!!! and not a ‘bit player’ in YOUR life..

  • Mom: what happened? Why are you crying?
    Me: Because [insert explanation]
    Mom:You’re being dramatic and overreacting,stop playing victim.

    Mom: What hobbies do you have?
    Me: [insert an activity that isn’t reading,learning or physical training]
    Mom: Stop. It’s degradation. Go outside/read a book.

    And then she wonders why I don’t tell her anything.

  • Hi Susan ⚘
    Is all elements beings & gods there in spirit world? & how they exist although you think there false perspective in that ��

  • When I’m feeling down and she asks me what’s wrong then I tell her she always ends up mentioning her own problems ignoring mine and make me feel like shit

  • I NEED to and have wanted to get a session with Susan for a long time!!! Thank you for all the videos that you bless us with. Many blessings to you and to everyone out there!!!♡♡♡

  • I Think it right when you keep in touch of relationship with your mother and yourslef let them had that talk with your mother and I will saying about myslfe later and mother will Apologize to younges between two daughter or son one of them will be on your side soon every mother contrlling ther younges daughter need some help this it me mic bomb thank you listeing to me I will help if i need job

  • Yeah I am 28 now and it has taken a life time to not feel the urge or guilt of not being there at my mother’s every whim. I definitely took the responsibility in the family and till this day need to practice boundaries and have moved away from her for her lack of empathy and her high ability of manipulation. It’s taken me years to not feel guilty for not seeing the toxic relationship earlier and to not feel like a bad daughter if I say No to her. My mother is a bossy woman that demands I do all her adult responsibilities for her because she needs help she is also a rival mom she has always compared herself to me and loves it when people say we look like sisters and tells me I just didn’t get her youthful look. I have distanced myself from her and I have never felt better since then.