How you can Know If you are a Excessively Strict Parent


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Parents, this is what could happen if you’re too strict on your child…

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How DANGEROUS Are Strict Parents?

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What To Do When Your Parents Are Over Protective?

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If you’re too strict, your child is likely to lie in an effort to avoid punishment. 2  Your Child Has More Restrictions Than Other Kids There’s nothing wrong with having different rules than the other parents. But, if you’re always the strictest parent in the crowd, it could be a sign that your expectations are a bit too high. 16.

Your child withdraws from you. Strict parents may set up an environment where kids don’t feel comfortable coming to them about problems they might be having. 17.

Your child has no downtime. If you schedule every minute of your child’s day with chores and activities, you are probably too strict. Children need some time to themselves to pursue their own passions. Here are 16 signs that you are too strict with your kids along with suggestions for what you can do about it.

1. You make too many rules. Nancy Darling, PhD, a psychology professor at Oberlin. If you couldn’t get out of your parent’s house quick enough, it’s probably because they were strict. If you can relate to any of these signs, you were definitely raised by strict parents: 1. It’s their way or the highway. You know the frustration of always having your suggestions and opinions shut down.

2. You had a bed time. The worst. The consequences of having strict parents. Children who have overly strict parents may display the following characteristics: Perfectionism.

This depends on the parents’ character, and the personality and capacity of every child. Some children set out to meet their parents’ expectations and manage to do so through optimal performance. So, look out for these signs of a strict parent: Your child is the first one to leave a party and come back home. You set a time for your children/teens to come back home from a party, and it is so early that they are the first ones to leave every party.

You do not allow your child/teen to have a sleepover or hang out at night. Below are 15 signs that show parents who are too strict with their kids. 1. Too Many Rules.

Too many rules are never a good sign. There is no way to keep track or enforce them all! Instead, set fewer rules and focus on the important ones.

Be consistent in reinforcing and reminding. This Quiz Will Reveal How Strict Your Parents Were With You. Show of hands if you weren’t even allowed to **think** about getting your ears pierced. Confront them with respect, and let them know how you feel.

Set your boundaries and let them know, again respectfully, if they have crossed lines. Consider seeing a therapist if they still try too hard to manage your life. You can steer the relationship with your over-controlling parents if you set limits with a little tact. Reference. Do you have strict parents?

50 Comments. There are many different types of parents in the world, some are strict, some are average, and the rest are letting-loose. A few are even exceptional.

If you want to find out about the inside scoop of your parents, you’d better thank God that you.

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In chapter one I told you about a study finding that HS parents tended, on average, to use authoritarian (strict) or overly permissive parenting styles a little more than the ideal, authoritative style.

“The Highly Sensitive Parent: Be Brilliant in Your Role, Even When the World Overwhelms You” by Elaine Aron
from The Highly Sensitive Parent: Be Brilliant in Your Role, Even When the World Overwhelms You
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For example, when I simply say to my teenage daughter, “I know that you’re perfectly capable of being responsible and sensible while I’m out of town, and I love that about you,” I remove the “authoritarian parent” label and treat her the way I’d want to be treated.

“Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao” by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
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by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Hay House, 2007

Most modern parents, when asked, regard themselves as being strict.

“Teen Brain” by David Gillespie
from Teen Brain
by David Gillespie
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Then, as the maturing child demonstrates that he or she can be trusted to behave appropriately, you can gradually allow increased privileges with less and less parental control.

“How to Really Love Your Teen” by Ross Campbell
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by Ross Campbell
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At any rate, I was thinking about this, and I came to the opposite conclusion: I think your strict parenting forced me to be more independent.

“Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother” by Amy Chua
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Your parents trust you when you go out on weekends, and tell you that you’re a good kid.

“Strong Mothers, Strong Sons: Lessons Mothers Need to Raise Extraordinary Men” by Meg Meeker
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by Meg Meeker
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It takes me a while to realize that French and American parents also use the word “strict” quite differently.

“Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting (now with Bébé Day by Day: 100 Keys to French Parenting)” by Pamela Druckerman
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When they’ve asked to stay out past their normal curfew and you’ve said no, most teens aren’t satisfied with the answer, “Because I said so.”

“Your Teenager Is Not Crazy: Understanding Your Teen's Brain Can Make You a Better Parent” by Jerusha Clark, Dr. Jeramy Clark, Earl Henslin
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My parents were very strict on one level; on another level they were very open.

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A ridiculously early curfew will only make your teenager doubt your trust and could lead him to resent your hold over him, causing him to rebel.

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  • my mom is very strict on me, then complains saying i’m not independent. How am i suppose to be independent if you don’t let me do anything. I can’t do anything. If i want to have my hair a certain way or use a bandana with my braids it’s a no. I’m not allowed to wear nails, i can’t wear off shoulder tops and can’t wear shorts or anything that shows my shoulder in public. There’s so many more things lmao.

  • When your phone rings and you jump and you feel scared shitless because you think your parents are calling and for some reason that means your going to be in trouble when half of the time they’re calling for nothing.

  • So I feel like none of my friends understand my situation, so I wanted to ask you guys?
    I’ve always known my parents were overly strict, but this summer and over the course of COVID it just is getting worse. I can’t talk to them about anything cause they never negotiate, or apologize. That is probably typical for any parent (?) but they keep restricting anything and everything. Can’t go out with friends, but on the rare occasion I’m allowed to, my mom or dad is ALWAYS there. The reason being something completely ridiculous such as “they may have a different lifestyle and we don’t want you exposed to that.” Listen, I grew up thinking all their views and opinions were right, but my best friend taught me to form my own opinion before blindly believing them. That really opened my eyes and now I am so much more open minded in my opinions (accepting all genders, situations, sexualities, religions, etc.) and I really found out a lot about myself. But if I ever say anything contrary to their belief it’s me “believing the insidious lies of modern society” (this is just me talking about feminism btw). On top of any other problems with my family there is alwayyssss yelling/screaming. I was used to it since I was kinda brought up that way but like I realized it wasn’t so normal? I have the same freedoms as when I was 5, and it keeps getting more restricting. I won’t liste everything but I hope you get the idea? I feel like maybe this is why I am such a socially awkward person in general? Idk sorry for this rant, I hope someone can help (if it’s toxic, abusive, or just a normal family)?

  • meanwhile my parents are letting me go an hour away to stay at a friend’s cabin next weekend, the group composed of four guys and two girls. not that my parents are particularly lenient in general, but i think it helps to have a strong personal relationship with them.

  • My parents will never understand because ” they know better than myself” and they will say how cruel and ungrateful I am. They are very emotionally manipulative, and I am cursed to have them ��

  • This is good channel for anyone who is in trouble especially helicopter parents but in the end the parents are gonna say eh we don’t do that

  • tHe worst thing is, kids watching this video who have hElicopter parents might be unabLe to talk about it, because their Parents monitor what they say and do in the internet.

  • Hey look its mom Ah 64 apache attack helicopter loaded with 8 atgms 2 aim 9x missiles and 4 gbu 65’s circling above “skies are clear sending in bomb load”

  • What I thought was strict, was emotional abuse. Twenty years of my life, I’ve aimed to please my elders and be a good girl. They’ve gone far as controlling who I hang out with etc. Now, eventhough I don’t have a social life, my grandma suspects me of shit that I’m not even capable of doing. Nothing is ever good enough for her. Maybe one day in my 20s, I ought to have a rebellious phase. It’s been seriously delayed… oh wait, I have BPD, I’m sure that comes close. Despite how much I hate their ways and how my mood fluctuations will affect future relationships, I love them for giving me what my parents lack

  • I got protective grandparents. I’m almost 17 and still haven’t got my permit all they say is worry about school. They treat me like a little kid.

  • I developed a drinking problem to cope with a mother that is controlling, overprotective, always critizing me, talking sht about me to others. Then she tells me I’m spoiled. I quit drinking and play video games, she now complains about that. I cant do anything right

  • From what I see in the video, some helicopter parents provide affection and care. Well, my helicopter parents only provide nagging. It sucks.

  • My mom isn’t proud of being overprotective so when we go places she tells people that I’m allowed to do things by myself but when we get home she makes me sit in the house all day and I can’t talk to people outside the household

  • I really wish my parents weren’t like this. I missed out on a lot as a teen and it shows in my now 20’s. I don’t understand anything about myself or most things. It’s a heavy thing to deal with.

  • My friend once told me she could tell my parents were strict because of some of my behaviors.
    I can’t look adults straight in the eyes.
    I apologize for literally anything, even if it technically isn’t my fault. (Which is funny, as my father’s favorite saying is “Dint say sorry, just don’t do it!”)
    I’m willing to break any rule when I get the chance, but will have a full blown panic attack if I even think my parents found out.
    I’d panic when I got a B or C.
    I also can’t say no to people anymore and I don’t have an opinion. It’s whatever the person I’m talking to wants.
    Also, yelling had become a trigger for me that can make me spiral.
    Table manners are such a big deal at my house, that I was locked in my room for not having perfect manners. You can only imagine how much of a big deal manners is to me now. I have to be perfect, because my parents say so.

    Yeah, my parents kinda messed me up.
    Edit: 10:35 My mother literally did this. Points were a thing in my house until she got tired of dealing with it.

  • If it isn’t for my dad I would actually be able to go out with friends and walk around the neighborhood. I cant see my friends outside of school or go to that shop that’s 4 minutes away from my house. I am 14 and my whole life is just school and home My dad gave me anxiety without realizing it I am to scared to tell him because he’s abusive.

  • I had to break myself if the “I need to get as much of this as I can because I don’t know if I can get more” mentality. It has kind of caused me to hoard unhealthy food. Sometimes it would just go bad because I didn’t really need it. At some point you’re just like “am I getting this because I want it or because I am afraid of not being able to get any?”

  • I’m 14 years old and my mom used to abuse me and speak me and I have mental problems depression I hate relationship with my mom!!! I cuss a lot and I have low self-esteem!������

  • I was listening to study music once. The house went quiet all of a sudden an my parents noticed that i was listening and they got really mad. They wanted to take away my PC just because i was listening to study music

  • Literally nearly flipping your car cause its wet out and apologizing to the first responders. ��
    Being told your depression and anxiety is from other medical conditions. Not because your parents divorced when you were young and because your mother was a helicopter mom who yelled at you for asking for help but also for not asking for help.��

  • When your not even an adult an wasn’t allowed to watch YouTube until last year despite always being told you were mature for your age and now your here realizing that not only do a lot of these fit you but your on your way to others despite always seeing your parents in a great light and blaming your anxiety and introversion for these traits not realizing your an “introvert” because your never given the chance to walk farther then the end of the street: well shoot

  • My parents have literally ruined my life. They give me no privacy whatsoever. I can’t even go to the bathroom, change clothes, or shower without one of them bursting into my room. I used to lock my door a lot, but they said if I continued they would take my door off it’s hinges. They also are very controlling over my electronics. They read all my messages, look at my YouTube history, search history, etc. I don’t even do anything bad, I’m a kind person, I’ve never cussed in my entire life, (I’m at an okay age to do so, but it’s forbidden in my house) I watch, search, and read pretty innocent things as well. I am severely depressed, and have bad anxiety issues. And yes, I have been diagnosed so my parents are aware, but they aren’t aware that it’s because of them. So, because of my depression, I stay in my room a lot (like a lot since quarantine.) I am on my electronics a lot, playing video games, talking to my friends, etc.. Those things make me extremely happy since it’s an escape from reality. But, my parents had to ruin it by setting up screen time limits. Now, I understand they want me to get out of bed, but this did not help. I have around 25 minutes on most of my video games, and an hour on Discord, which I use (or used) to talk to my friends, lastly, I have 15 minutes on YouTube (trying to write this quickly if you haven’t noticed.) these screen time limits just worsened everything. But, it doesn’t end there. I usually take my devices everywhere to avoid my parents getting them. But one day I decided to leave my iPad and my laptop upstairs, bringing only my phone with me. Now, you see, I have one friend that I am very close with, we tell each other everything. It also just so happens that they are questioning their sexuality and gender. I totally support them, since I myself am sort of a closeted Pansexual. From my parents reading my texts, this did not go well with them (they’re homophobic). But I just shrugged it off, since they can’t really control my friends. This friend also happens to suffer from depression and anxiety as well, which made us feel safe to open up about our problems to each other. Now, the both of us have never said that this was a problem, we’ve said to each other multiple times that talking to one another makes us happy. Anyways, when I walked back upstairs I saw my dad in my room. I knew he was going through stuff. I was correct. I looked at all of my apps that were open and my messages were open on that friend’s contact. It made me really upset, especially at myself for not bringing my iPad with me. I continued on with the day though. Okay, this is where it all went wrong. The next day, was pretty normal for the majority. I woke up, talked to my friends, played video games, etc. But my life literally crumbled apart when I went downstairs for dinner. Now, this was already a rare occasion, so I was anxious just to be around my parents. All was fine while I ate, but once I got up, ready to leave, my dad told me that him and my mom needed to talk with me. I tried to act like I didn’t hear him, but he stopped me. I gave up and stood still near the stairs, waiting to hear the same thing. But it wasn’t. My parents told me that they were cutting me off from that friend I mentioned earlier because our friendship was toxic? I’m still confused about their logic. Anyway I tried to reason, which ended up in me getting yelled at. When my parents stopped talking. I ran upstairs to my room and just cried. I checked my phone, trying to text one last message to my friend, but it was too late, my parents had turned my internet off (I’m not allowed to have data.) I decided to try my laptop and iPad just in case, but nope, I had no internet. This may seem like nothing to a lot of people, but since being on the internet was my only source of happiness, it was the end of the world for me. I cried in my room for about a week or so while my parents set even more parental locks and what not on my phone and iPad. I’ve just gotten my iPad back (no WiFi.) and I’ve managed to smuggle it to my grandparents house (staying there for a few days) where there is WiFi. Sorry to anyone who actually read this, I’ve read the comments here and some people have it way, way worse than me. But, I needed to vent somewhere. Also, sorry for any typos lol.

  • Cut myself for the first time because of this, I can’t tell them anything. I always have to tell my friends online about everything, go to them for advice because I trust them more than my parents. I’m rebellious, failing in school, and they are so headstrong that they don’t realize it even when I give them examples. I just can’t, what do I do… they are involved with everything, and they make it seem less because they give such bad punishments. If I do something wrong, it’s straight to taking my freedom away, because no freedom means more results right?

  • If you explain to your parents that they are acting toxic they will just be more toxic. And I know that because my mom is a karen. Literally and figuratively.

  • Well, I fall into this category. I’m not very social and most of the time hide in my room all day. And when I do come out and want to do something out of the house, I’m limited to about 3-4 days a week, with only being out for a couple of hours. Not to mention that I hide things very well. I’ve been depressed since 6th grade(now in 10th) and have a constant mask up. All. The. Time. I have a small group of friends that I play D&D with, but other then that I don’t have many friends. I have severe trust issues because my mom, at the flick of a switch, can change her mind about anything and will use anything against you. Didn’t do your chore right? No electronics for a few months. And with having friend who for the most part don’t have a landline or minutes on their cell phone, it’s hard to keep them. Not to mention having a bedtime of 9pm and always waking up tired. Not to mention I’ve never slept over at someone’s house that wasn’t family or family friends. Not to mention that she tells me that I’ll never make it in the world, no one’s gonna care about you, you’ll be crushed within a week. I have considered a few times to moving out so I don’t have to deal with what I said above and more. I have friends who I know would gladly take me in: )

  • I feel like weeping, I never had a childhood. because I never enjoyed being a kid because I felt so depressed, neglected and ignored. I feel like my spirit has been stolen I was forced to adapt to my mothers and other families paranoia and most of the times I just stayed in my room, playing the PS or draw and just lived in my own world where I can be free in a different form.

    Seriously, if you are an overprotective parent.. I hope you can live with the fact that your children will resent you. Deep inside they will, they never know what it’s like to be young and experience opportunities for a good life.

    I don’t want relationships because I want to avoid having freedom altered or have someone call/ask me and ask where I’m at or where I’m going I become annoyed when ppl show the slightest concern towards me, wether if it’s justified or not. I want everyone who is controlling to stay away or I no longer want to talk to people who deny me something that within my rights. Simply because I don’t want to deal with anyone who display behaviour that is similar to my parents.

  • i live in a safe small town in the middle of nowhere and my mother won’t let me go anywhere unless i’m under constant parental surveillance and if she knows the parents. i am old enough to drive but i’m not allowed to walk on a sidewalk especially not when it’s dark outside. not only does she have no respect for my privacy, she doesn’t trust me even though i’ve given her no reason not to. she refuses to acknowledge my age and the fact that i’m graduating in less than two years. she “wants her little girl back” so much that i have no independence. i’m not even allowed to dress certain ways. i’m not allowed to see most of my friends because they’re all “bad influences”. she will always think that i am to young to make decisions no matter what my age is. i wish i had some control over my life. i can’t wait until i can move out.

  • i’m not allowed outside ever without them i cant see my friends, go for walks by myself, or even have my own opinions i’m constantly slut shammed by my mom bc i have always been ig rlly sexually open? idk how to explain it, ive told them many times the way they treat me is draining nd i’m both anxious and depressed, they tell me to stop being a spoiled brat and keep my mouth shut. My mom even says if i hate it so much just kill myself…

  • Now I might sound crazy but my parents are very strict with rules and limitations. I was 12 when I had a rebellious age against them for at least 4 months where things neutralized eventually. Now currently at 14 yrs old, I sometimes want to rebel on certain rules and its probably the most challenging thing to make sure I don’t rebel(for my parents). I end up doing it sometimes but it doesn’t last too long since they can calm me down. They also can’t give very strict punishements now �� because they know I’ll just rebel unless theres logic in it.

  • my parents grounded me for fighting with my brother and he didnt even get in trouble for it. they took my phone away and they went through it. that i think if completely screwed up because it is a complete invasion of my privacy

  • I’m only 13 and I can relate my mom tell me that I can’t go out with friends my dad never shows me attention until I get bad grades and he’s mad at me for some reason my brother makes him more proud and he’s only 1 my mom wants me to do so many things in life my mom is also buying cameras so that she can see if I’m sneaking out or not or she stays up all night until I go to sleep I have a timer on my phone that I just got it off for the summer I’m not allowed to do another to my hair or wear anything I want. I have to go to sleep before 2:00am. She check my phone. I can’t have friends without her knowing who they are so I have no friends. My dad said my brother was his favorite so yea.There’s more but ✌��

  • Mom’s mind: “I’m really good at this”
    kid: *sobs*
    Mom: “honey you ok?”
    Kid’s mind…

    “What the heck mom!”

  • Remember,
    HITLER’S MOTHER was a helicopter parent! Hitlers elder siblings died at a young age, so she gave him too much love when he was born. After her death, he was devastated as he was highly connected and kind of dependent on her.

  • My parents are wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy to controlling, they think that if I go outside alone ill get kidnapped, or might get run over by a car or something, like, seriously? How does every single one of my friends get allowed to go outside by themselves and I’m not allowed to? I don’t throw tantrums most of the time and I’m pretty sure im on stage 2, so, WHY?! Why am I not allowed to do something that an average kid is supposed to do? What should I tell them?

  • My teacher taught us that parenting and rules are a balance between freedom and protection. The hard part is getting the right balance. Helicopter parents don’t understand this balance, and instead go for protection too much

  • Never letting you go out without a guardian and then getting mad at you for not knowing how to navigate without one, you always have to work it up to make a demand (if you do make one at a rare ocassion), instantly getting a no without any reason when you propose something, always being told you’re wrong when you tell them something they said or did that hurt you, getting yelled at for asking something you really want to do even if you have all the justified reasons and safety precautions and everything, getting guilt tripped because “your older brother had it so much worse than you. He would get slapped so much” and so that’s why you should stay under control, being told to shut up when you’re crying of hust ignored, never learning to say no to anything anyone ever tells you to do even if your brain gets maxed out on stress because of it, also always doing something told to you because then you get guilt tripped with the “I’m asking you to do this ONE thing for me”, getting used to the yelling and shouting at the house, seeing other parents who are talking to each other normally and being nice to each other and thinking it’s odd, thinking it’s weird that so many kids are allowed things they want to have sometimes. These are just some of the things lol
    Source: me:(

  • Mom: don’t hang out with mentions friends names
    Me: why?
    Mom: don’t talk back to me. If I say no then it’s a no. You don’t need to know everything.
    Me: um…. Okay I guess

  • I once got roughly reprimanded for staying outside and riding my bike around the neighborhood for “too” long. I have a huge neighborhood though so it takes alot of time and energy to go around it. But because I guess I was 3 minutes too long, my mom thought that I had gotten in trouble, or as she said ” you need to be careful, you could have gotten human trafficked”. I literally live in one of the safest communities in the district ��( not saying that it still can’t happen tho).
    The point is, scenarios like this are one of the main reasons why I have such terrible Anxiety to the point where I can’t sleep half of the time.

  • This is why I don’t like my helicopter parent
    1.cant hang out with my friends until marriage
    2.cant move out until marriage*cause they think that women’s that move out are [email protected]
    3.have to listen to my mom or else I’m dead boyfriends until marriage makup until in in my 20s dying hair until 50 getting close to a dog
    8. Can’t touch pets
    9. I have no opion sex before marriage parents go through my phone every thing and my mum stalks my social media’s account *I wonder who told her my accounts

    There’s like 100 more but I can’t go on forever
    The sad part in my family my mom doesn’t Belive in female rights cause men can do whatever they want but in my family they always judge the females

  • not being able to make decisions is very problematic and damaging. this leads you to having intense anxiety, being overly cautious about everything, needing to learn everythinf you can about a situation and asking people for their reviews before you make a decision, not ever being satisfied with anything because of the uncertainty an fear of the unknown of what the other choice was.

  • i have life360 on my phone which is annoying because i cant really do much but i understand, i have screen time which does really really annoy me because i cant facetime friends or whatever and my phone doesnt turn on until 9am and goes off at 10pm but i only have 4 hours i can use between that time. i also am not allowed a charger in my room which is annoying and once right this is acc true i was one minute late home! even though he can track me and i got my phone taken away for a week! am i overreacting or what?

  • Perverse narcissistic parents will be in denial and reject your negative feelings over the whole situation on yourself which will only accentuate the low self esteem

  • My dad worked a lot(still does) and my mom was the helicopter parent. I’m the only girl and youngest child of three. My brothers had a lot more freedom than I did and I didn’t know how negatively my mom’s hovering affected me until now. I’m paranoid, I feel like I’m constantly being watched or talked about, and my mom tells my business to our whole family. College became a way for me to experience life and the world for myself. If i never came to college I would still be in my room, still so naive, still living vicariously through the TV, and still being constantly watched by my mom even in my twenties.
    I’ve also realized that if you are naive, even your parents will use it to take advantage of you. From this I learned to stop taking my mom’s word and just do my own research. You’ll save yourself from constant embarrassment.

  • To add onto the whole “holding back tears” thing…. what about learning how to cry silently because when you could finally let your tears go if your parents heard u would would be in trouble…..

  • Nobody relates to me, except you guys. These videos make me feel less lonely. Thank you guys, you don’t know how much this channel means to me.❤️

  • the problem is, if i were to talk to them about their helicopter parenting, they would get defensive and try to remind me of all the good things they’ve done and the bad things they’ve protected me from and make me feel bad about it.

  • Me to my strict parents:why would you strict me so much!?

    My parents: B I B L E

    Me:okay so i probaly a atheist

    My parents: SON WE NEED TO TALK

  • The only things my parents have Taught me:
    How to hate myself
    How to not feel pain
    How to fight fire with fire
    How to sneak out
    How to lie
    And how to rebel��

  • My parents are strict I’m only 13 and I can’t hang around my boyfriend I mean I get that but sometimes I just wanna go to his house just to hang out and steal his hoodies��

  • I‘m 15 years old and have some really overprotective parents. I understand why they act like this and that they want to protect me. In fact, I appreciate their love and they treated my 20 year old brother the same as me. The thing is, that my brother had a good childhood, but didn‘t really socialize with other people, because he wasn‘t aloud to go out with friends and even go to trips. I don‘t want to be treated the same. I want to be more mature, but it‘s just too hard for me ;; I always try to not get into arguments with my parents, but I just can‘t help it. I know gettin more mature is a part of growing up, but they are just asking me to do things all the time, so that I can‘t do things on my own. It‘s just so complicated ;^; I always thought, doing things my parents asked me to do, is a sign of controlling and not cooperating. I don‘t like to be controlled and I even wanted to do a job (ofc just a little job) so that I can prove, that I can be mature. I don‘t want to do things they were expecting me to do, but something way beyond their expectations. I think I just need a little motivation:> I don‘t want to sound like a rebellion, but I don’t like being obedient. I rather find a way to convince my parents to let me do more things and to trust me, even if I have to do some work. I apologize for my long text, I just wanted to share my opinion and my own experience. And i‘m also sorry for my bad english. I‘m from Germany 😉

  • I feel like this is more just normal parents…OVERPROTECTIVE parents just don’t have a chart, they also think other people are gunna do bad stuff, we literally can’t do anything about it if they trust us but not other people.

  • My parents are pretty strict with grades and stuff, like when I was in 1 sr grade I got 98/100 on this really hard chinese test but I missed 2 points because I wrote 令 instead if 今 and boy were my parents MADDDDD.

  • My parents didn’t want me to have sleepovers. When I had a boyfriend,at 16 years old, my mother shouted at me and made me think that it was the worst decision I had ever made because it would ruin my future. ( The guy is a freaking angel and is really sweet and smart )
    I couldn’t go out more than once a week and I needed to be home before everyone else did.
    If I did something wrong my mom would shout at me and call me all kinds of names. She would say something like ” You are so stupid, or stubborn, or selfish”.
    However, I think I am starting to care less about what she thinks.

  • My parents have taught me that if I don’t want anyone seeing anything I type then you need to do a private tab.
    That they will always compare me to another person and when I try to show them the bad in the person they think I’m being a bad person.
    That they could care less if I lose all my friends bc they hover over me.
    I’m not allowed to talk to one of my friends bc she’s “a bad influence”.
    But the truth is that I always acted so innocent around them but at school it was normal.
    and now fricking quarantine has no time away from parents which means they are glimpes of the real me and r blaming it on my friends. ��
    But they r trying to help me but they need to watch this video, it would enlighten them a lot.

  • I’m 13 my dad would let me go places but my mom won’t let me go any where and tells my dad no and SHE KEEPS SMUTHERING ME, BABYING ME, AND FAVORITING ME BC I’M A GIRL and I don’t think that she thinks I’m capable of doing things on my own…

  • Hello, i had a fight yesterday with my parents over playing in my ps4, i had this problem with them since i was a kid they always restrict from playing video games especially console that are obvious i mean that plug in in tv, and i understand that they were protect me but now being at the age of 20 and being a college guy i study in pharmacy am in 2nd year i literally dont understand what they are thinking, beware that i live in third world country somehow arabic one so its not easy to live by myself in this age most people here leave their parent house after marriage and some even continue to live with them.
    Okay so its was 2am my dad woke up and found me playing he told me why im not asleep and just the fight started and mom woke up too and told him even to break my ps4, its just fking sad it didn’t hurt me taking away my ps4 as much as the way they treated the problem, like im 20yo not a 10yo kid we can talk and try to find a solution
    Am not a guy who to out and who would be in this corona situation i spend my whole day either studying or scrolling in my phone or playing video game
    They just dont understand that its only my source to pleasure myself i have big pressure from my study i have a lot to learn and in the end of the day i like to have 1h or gaming well u get the idea its not like i play for 15h or idk its only 1h or 2h.
    I am so sad and mentally broken i can’t even I’m in this situation they just don’t know what life its like for a 20yo there’s much worse than playing a videogame i suffer from suicidal thoughts since i was a kid and now those thoughts are growing bigger and bigger there’s other addiction, its hard to live in a 3 country because this is what 99% of people my age face they have no choice ( there’s literally no work so living alone its not achievable), �� i hope u understand my problem

    Sorry for my english its my 3rd language and sorry if i made this long

  • This doesn’t really have to do with this in particular but does anyone else’s parents sure watch what they eat ALL the time and when they eat? Like I’m a KID who is in pretty good shape and I’m also pretty active playing 2 sports (soccer on a team and golf) yet my parents always NEED to watch what I eat when I eat. Like I’ll be eating an orange at like 9pm and my dad just stares me down giving me that “disappointing” look.

    Bc of that I’m always scared to eat BUT WHEN I DON’T EAT they think I’m anorexic.

    Like what the freaken-

  • I’m 15 and my mom is sooooooooooo overprotective like I can’t even get something from the next aisle from the grocery store she acts like I’m going out of state or something and when I ask her can I go take a walk or something she starts giving me a HUGE lecture about all the things that could happen to me I’m 15 years old and she treats me like I’m 5 years old ��

  • You guys wanna know something? Well my parents are connected to my YouTube account which means they now what I’m watching commenting (lol I know my parents can see this hi dad) but I made sure that they wouldn’t know what I was doing hehe, you heard me dad! I am shisui uchiha, stealthy I know my parents moves, ninjaaaaaaaaaa

  • My mom is so overprotective. She has not let me leave the house in 3 years. I am forced to share a room with her and can’t even go to the bathroom without my mom watching me. I am turning 18 in a few months and my mom is not allowing me to move out. HELP ME

  • Traveling. Kids who like their parents talk to parents, visit often and don’t need to talk about their backstory, they are confident.

  • I try to have a civilized conversation with my mom but she cuts me off or thinks that I don’t know. I think I’m at stage 2 but I don’t get treated like it

  • hello i have a question, i hope you reply. so i have asthma and apparently covid affects me easier. in my school there is social distancing and have masks. i tried out for my drill/dance team this year but now they won’t allow me to participate because of covid. i understand that this could affect me but if i decide to quit after making the team i can’t tryout ever again and i’ll receive no credit for my class. they judged me because the said “you care more about a hat and pair of boots than your own life” yet again they make me go to the cities and towns with the highest cases and make me go to populated places to run errands. how can i convince them to let me be on my dance team? all of my friends, my whole dance team and random people in school go to school, and i can’t..

  • my story (almost a year later tbh)

    so i have strict parents, but honestly it runs in our families/blood. im VERY mixed but i do have a lot of carribean in me, the main method used in our families/blood was the belt (god the flashbacks i-) and if we’re lucky scolding. honestly worse than spanking. never wanna get hit by a belt again. i feel bad cuz, my parents and their parents obviously had it way worse, so on so forth, so they kinda just wanna take it out yknow? i dont blame em. ever since the ‘no child abuse’ law thingy came out, lmao it basically turned us white. i honestly would not consider it child abuse, its just in our blood kinda, but whatever. this all happened AFTER we experienced all the spanking (thanks a lot government) but hey, my lil sis wont experience it ig. but shes a lil brat and deserves it more than we did im so mad

    i do have a LOT of mental health issues, they were caused by the strict parenting but honestly i think it got worse cuz of people mainly. not my parents. but i did have quite a few traumatic experiences and they were started by them (still love my parents tho).

    i wouldnt say im aggressive or whatever, more like the opposite. i dont want to hurt people in any way, and i prefer to listen to rules (with personal exceptions ofc.) but thats just me. the strict parenting helped me in that aspect ig.

    ‘its the phone!
    a common trope in strict parenting is the electronic stuff. honestly i dont blame’m lmfao. online people are cruel, they seriously mess some of us up (im messed up if you havent gotten the hint). but then again, its on the parent for letting the child online, no? personally id say a good age for a child to have an electronic would be like 13teen years, what not yeah? not so young that they’re literally a fetus and the online world is raising them, but not so old they’re having a mid-life crisis.

    i dont think all strict parents are bad! juststrict. they wanna do smth, but they’re doing it a bit wrong. personally, i love my parents! i truly do, i know they tried their best and taught me the right-from-wrong and what not:) though their methods were a bit questionable. i was a pretty problematic child; i got mad VERY often and had lots of mental break downs, very sensitive child.. i still have those things but at least i got to control my anger:’D i dont blame them for getting mad at me haha.

  • My overprotective parents actually taught me a pretty useful thing. They unintentionally taught me to lie perfectly lmao. Unfortunately, just recently I realized that out of 100% of what I tell them only 10-15% is true. Just afraid of telling them any true details of my life since 4th grade

  • I been babied in my past and now I finally got over it and… my mom is freaking annoying because of my anger and she a little bit overprotective & half Annoying lol

  • 2 weeks ago After watching this, i took a pen and a paper and sit with my parents and made them understand the hiking idea.
    But I changed one thing, i told them
    I know you both love me and wants the best for me and you want me to see the best view ever, but if you kept forcing me to take a way that i don’t like or it’s very boring n sad for me, I WON’T enjoy the view at the end, let me take risks ( not the very bad ones ), let me taste the flavour of life
    They were choked when heard that from me, and now they became a very chill parents


  • bruh i told my mom about how you can pick up the expo marker ink and she really said “ oh you be careful with expo markers, you can die from sniffing the ink” and i know you can but is she really concerned about expo markers like

  • I used to break my parents orders and do what I wanted and I would fight with them every day and it would be so bad; they couldn’t ground me, if they kicked me out I would be happy, and I wouldn’t care. Be aware the only thing we would fight about is the time I have to be home by; I couldn’t care less because I knew what I was doing was right. I would work til 8 then go to my friends and enjoy my time till 3AM. When I started caring they wouldn’t have reasoning they just wanted what they say to be. That’s why I advise who go out and just enjoy their time without doing the things that you where brought up knowing it’s wrong to break the rules and have fun.

  • it’s getting so unbearable I can’t do anything at all anymore they’re just so controlling. I can’t see my boyfriend of two years outside of school and if I do a parent has to be in the room at all times, they won’t let me go to any of his family parties and I just give up

  • My parent doesn’t let me do what i love, my family keeps telling me to study, and I really feel like suicide, I cry almost everyday, and I don’t feel like myself at home

  • I’m 14 and I’m really scared if I won’t get freedom when am older,right now my parents treats me like I mean it’s like they won’t even let me meet my friends…

  • My mom gets mad at me for listening to the music I like. I enjoy metal and literally 90% of my family listens to some sub genre of metal. For some reason she gets mad when I listen to it which I really don’t understand. She doesn’t make me delete the songs, she just yells at me for listening to “that disturbing music”. My older brother listens to the same bands as I do and he never got in trouble for it

    I know just use the excuse “I think I should learn it in bass” then she leaves me alone. My dad doesn’t care what music I like, he fine with whatever I do as long as it’s not going to harm me or anyone. Music is the only thing my mom is over protective about. She trusts me enough to stay home alone and take care of my dog, bird and older siblings while she is gone for 3 days.

  • I’ve battled depression for many years, due in part to my mother. I told her that she is the reason, and she shrugged it off and told me she wasn’t. She’s toxic.

  • My parents: you need to spend more time with others
    Me: can my friend come over?
    My parents: no
    Me: well can I go to their house?
    My parents: no, you have to stay here!

  • Things I learned from my strict parents:

    How to be introverted

    Respect a man even if he disrespects you

    If a man hits you it’s ok

    If you don’t clean you are disgusting

    If you put baggie clothes you are a whore (I’m not kidding)

    If you get a septum pricing you are a pig

    The man is in charge (jokes on them I’m a lesbian)

    If your children are misbehaving you have the right to beat them

    So far I don’t agree with the things I said so far

  • This is me and my brother. I moved out of my parents home at age 21. But my mother still continued to hold manipulative, abusive power over me. I got married at age 24, and even then I still allowed my narcassistic, horrible mother control over me. My husband and I bought a house in another city, over an hour away from my parents, and that helped IMMENSELY, but it wasn’t until I got pregnant with my first child (at age 27) that I began to realize that my mother was an abusive, narcassistic, manipulative, selfish and greedy woman. I realized my mother did not have my best interests at heart. I cut off all contact with her, as well as contact with my father, who enabled her because it was easier than going against her. When I think of my own daughter, I can’t even imagine doing to her what was done to me. Always remember: a REAL mother wants the best for their children. A narcissist, abusive mother just WANTS. For herself.

  • My parents do spunk me but how they treat me when they are having fun with me is awesome and it’s given me higher self asteem and better friends

  • My parents: “You aren’t going out by yourself or go with friends because I don’t trust you!”

    Me: “ok…”

    My parents: ” Why can’t you order food for yourself?! Why can’t you do anything by yourself?!”

    You’re raising a human being, not a dog. By being so strict, you’re essentially castrating your kids into having no social skills. Everyone needs to learn how to be independent, so don’t infantilize your child to keep them on a tight leash.
    I love my parents, but I resent them for that…
    and saying that “physical discipline” is necessary for raising a child.
    It’s stuff like this that makes me never want to have kids. Not because I hate children, but I’m scared of becoming EXACTLY like my parents.

  • I’m 16 and I dont think I’ve been to a freinds house my whole teen life. My mom is worried I will be abducted or will try to do anything without my phone when I go outside becuase she has a tracker on me and if it’s off for any reason I get a angry phone call. She wants to personally meet the parents of my freinds before I do anything with them but she hates people and doesnt want to meet strangers

  • My mom keeps forcing me to go out with the family and I keep telling her I don’t want to go out to eat in public during a worldwide pandemic… �� I barely make my own decisions now

  • I’m a helicopter parent and I resent most of what you say. It’s not bad to watch over your child and make sure they don’t get hurt and help them prevent making mistakes. On top of that, you have left out what helicopter parents do. We prevent our child from getting hurt and we then tell them what they did wrong and how they can prevent it in the future. Other parents let their kids run free and wild and meet the wrong kids and questionable adults while we keep the child safe and let them grow up in a safe environment. Yeah, we give the kid virtually no freedom for there entire childhood, but would you give your child freedom when taking into account the world you live in? when you have a five-year-old or seven-year-old child, then come talk to me. but before then, go fu*k yourself.

  • 3:19 I’m quite introverted and don’t tend to like the big high school parties. I go to an all girls skl and don’t take the bus �� and do a lot of remote hobbies (as in just like me and a teacher or something) so I don’t rlly meet boys and stuff or talk to them much. So does that make me you know socially inept is that a problem? I don’t really think it is but it might be ����‍♀️

  • i cant ride a bike i cant meet with friends i cant go to school without a mask i can’t go to the store,

    if im more than 30 seconds late from somewhere im grounded i can’t stay home alone i can’t have tik tok,instagram i can’t stay up after 21:00 i can’t make my own breakfast i can’t drink to much i can’t be out after 16:00 i can’t go for walks alone

    im 13

  • Trust parents are strict to the extent i get goosebumps and dizzy when they shout.not to talk about the trauma they left me with…

  • My parents are to overprotective of me having the video game fortnite because it is too addictive please can you help me to try to persuade them to let me have it.

  • But what do you do if you try to cooperate but you parents go back on their rules? My mom has always said my whole life “I don’t care if you go out just telling me where you’re going and around what time you’ll be home” so I tell her I’m going over my boyfriends house, where she has his address and his phone number in case she cant get ahold of me, and tell her I’ll be home around 12-1am like I normally do. Well then I go and do that and I come home and she gets mad at me for hanging out with him or being out too late even though she’s never given me a curfew and I was home during the time I said I would. Or the time I told her the night before I was going to hang out with my boyfriend and she yelled at me because ” I have to tell her days in advance” even though that was never the rule. How do I cooperate when she changes the rules when its convenient for her? (I’m 20 years old btw if that helps)

  • I am 12 right now, my parents literally are trying to ban every single video game, trying to convince me to do something “constructive”. Banning me from Discord and trying to cut my YouTube time, forcing me to focus solely on academics. They aren’t even giving me any time. Just excuses. I am beginning to hate my life. My dad is mocking me whenever he gets the chance, and they have banned me from watching gaming videos on YouTube. Please help.

  • I’m 14 turning 15 in August, and I’m at stage 1 still, and I’m thinking of being more mature and studying more and learning more. They always make me “turn in” my phone at 9 pm. I don’t like it because I want to wake up early. What do you think I should do?

  • I don’t have strict parents but my friends can’t use the app for like one hour but the they’re phone stops because of an app their parents put on the phone

  • And also one thing that burns the Xbox and further kids faces you know what would have happened kid want to get really angry and learnwhen was so angry he actually burned his Xbox and then it in the kid took out money from his dad’s credit card with them in half and then and bought a new Xbox and green their daddy was trying to return it is as if the box was ripped

  • I actually got to stage 2 and my patents let me be outside until 11:30 but then out of nowere they just reduced it to 10:00 and now am back to stage 1

  • Does anyone have some advice for strict parents? I am a 14 year old girl with such strict parents I’m suicidal and want to kill myself. I have depression, anxiety, ocd, and adhd. My parents blame it on my phone and school. They are my problem. They know I struggle with a lot of things but they choose to ignore it because they dont want to deal with it. They scream non stop about how I’m not perfect, how I dont get straight A’s how I’m too lazy and a disappointment. They wish I was just like them. They are homophobic, racist, toxic parents. I cant catch a break from them and its exaughsting. They dont let me do anything! I’m lucky I even have my phone to have watched this video. My parents are so traditional and old school, they are super super Christian. They are ruining my life and I’m not sure what to do. Being strict doesn’t do any good, I wish parents saw that. If you have any advice please respond to this, I would really appreciate it.

  • my dad is very strict and yes because of the way he raised me i didnt start drinking smoking or taking drugs but what it also made me afraid to ask if i could go to partys go out with friends stay out late and all that… in the end he always said yes but the next day i would always get yelled at or he would have an attitude against me which after a few times made me feel like i cant enjoy my life and make him proud so i stopped being a social guy and got drepressed now i myself am i father and i want to give my child what i never had

  • I’m 14 and

    -Not allowed to use social media, until I become 18
    -Not allowed to get a phone.
    Not allowed to use my iPad if school is open.
    -Not allowed to hangout with friends other than school.
    -Not allowed to talk to my friends by text (in mom’s phone) or by call.
    -Not allowed to talk to guys (even as a friend).
    -Not allowed to go somewhere without my parents (not even school trips)
    -They always expect me to be good at studies, if I don’t, idk what’s gonna happen to my life then…

    I know there are still a lot of people with more overprotective parents than mine, and it makes me feel sad for all of us������

  • i felt like killing myself at some points but i never shared it with anyone. i have amazing friends even better siblings but my parents … not so great. they keep a roof over my head, feed me, make sure i’m clean, but they dont let me do anything and they expect me to me the happiest person in the world. they only let me go places if an adult is with me. my siblings stay out until 5am, travel, have sleepovers, get in trouble with the police but they are still allowed to do whatever they want but i’m not allowed to go to a friends house. or even on walks by myself. i haven’t done anything to lose their trust yet i’m trapped in someplace i’m supposed to call “home”. school was my only escape but i don’t have that anymore. i’m yelled at and punished if i even try to talk about it to them. i cry about this everyday of my life. they don’t understand how much their hurting me. i cant even go out to throw away the trash by myself. not to mention my dad getting mad at me for using my phone and talking to my friends on facetime. i’m home all day by myself, i don’t know what he expects me to do. i feel so empty. i don’t want to be alive anymore. i would rather be with god rather then this. but in islam it’s a sin to kill yourself. so that’s not a option. i thought about running away so many times. but i’m too scared about how my life’s gonna be at “home” again when i’m forced to return. someone pls help.

  • …to be honest… my life wasnt the worst
    but it was not pleasant either…it was draining… and terrifying…
    i dont want my kids, or anyone, to feel judged by what they can do, or who they love

  • Around 6 mins when he is talking about the maturity axis he is mixing up maturity with age. Saying the highest maturity is when ur an adult implies that you can’t be mature as a teenager

  • Not to strict at childhood but now I am a lazy head cuz of my math problems and childhood homework so now I just lie on the couch and scroll through YouTube

  • Im stage 3 and im always told by my parents how sensible i am and how i am much more mature than everyone else. But it seems like a still have very little freedom. What should i do?

  • Not trying to diss my Mom and Dad but they do go way to overboard pyschical harm all because I got a 96%. This is why school is the best place for me. Though, I cant be mad at them I guess. They do give me a house and food though I would rather live in the street

  • 2:31 yeah your Right 100% on the philippines They will smack you and they are strick to there children. And my sister suffer stress and need a psychiatrist to help here, On the other hand Me. Suffering at Depression,stress and pressure on life. And am a bit mean to other poeple to and my own parents to.
    But they still dont know.

    Am trying to control my self to be me But I cant help my self if my parents trust me a stop being a asshole sometimes. I know being a parent is hard but please take care of your child properly and put them on the right track and way.


  • I had great parents and boundless freedom. I still ended up on drugs and in fights. Maybe you should do a video on how people should treat one another. Especially young people.
    This is privileged youth talk here. “Blame the parents”. Making excuses for your behavior.

  • Also putting the blame on yourself for things that have nothing to do with them. I do this all the time. If something goes wrong in the house I blame myself even if its not me because my parents blamed me for everything without fail.

  • My parents neglected my mental health, they then worried i had a mental disorder, now, they neglect it again. They are complicated..

  • Parents: Yells at kid
    Parents: Why are you crying?
    Kid: You yelled at me.
    Parents: Stop crying! smacks
    8 years later… (The kid’s eighteen now!)

    Parents: I wonder why my kid wants nothing to do with me?

  • I’m literally doing the same exact thing in my bed right now, staying up late on my phone in my covers. It’s 2:19 in the morning on Easter too ��

  • my parents want me to get good grades, they chose something for me even if i dont want… but i am living like that but i start to be mad at them

  • This is a meme that should not be taken seriously

    Parents: spanks me with belt
    Me: stands
    Parents: still spanking me with belt
    Me: stands then fights back

  • I’m 20, and I have never been allowed to go out alone. I don’t throw a tantrum, I never really want stuffs that others dogames or phones or anything. What bothers me is their behavior is making me depressed, destroying my self confidence. I think I have social anxiety. Being mature isn’t helping at all. My father doesn’t talk to me, he’s always formal, mother says I’m a girl, I’m dumb and have to get married anyway. I really need help..
    Not to mention hanging out with friends has never happened in my whole life, in fact noone wants to be my friend because I’m too boring for them. It’s so so depressing, at times I want to end everything, be freed of this… And I now they’d still blame me for that

  • Guys, there IS a way… I ACTUALLY have an emergency plan for leaving home, My laptop is ALWAYS charged to full, I have a list of things that I CAN bring, AND i have more a 1000 dollars of savings lol

  • Well I can’t really talk to my parents because of my trust issues and my mom finds everyway to bring up my depression and sxcidal thoughts in the conversation…..I just can’t talk to her normally……

  • i can for sure say my parents are authoritative. compared to others, my case may not be so bad, but understand that just because you have stricter parents doesn’t mean my parents aren’t strict.

    1. bedtime is 11:00. (that includes all technology being taken.)
    2. no sleepovers.
    3. no girlfriends.
    4. straight a’s and that’s it.
    5. no going out with friends.
    6. i can’t close my bedroom door unless i’m sleeping.
    7. i can’t lock the bathroom door when i’m in there.
    8. random rules pop out of nowhere and i’m expected to know them even though i’ve never been told them.

    although i understand that my parents just want the best for me, it hurts to know that while my friends are together making memories that’ll last them a lifetime, i’m just stuck doing nothing.

  • Well, my parents are good ones, but I still remember when I told a secret to my mom and she told it to all the family.
    And from that day I don’t tell anything I feel to my family
    (It’s not a joke, its real:v)
    (I know I am late)

  • If they are strict when it comes to discipline and be talented then it’s a good idea. Anything else is just stupid. A kid never asked for you as a parent and if you don’t do their best for them then you should be ashamed of yourself.

  • jackie Brewton thank you. I have had 6 sexual partners so far and I am 22 years old. decided to stay celibate now until I meet my husband. I have made these poor choices due to not having a dad in the house.

  • Me: Mom I have headache.
    Mom: It’s cause of that darn phone!
    Me: But I hit my head on the window.
    Mom: Maybe you weren’t watching out and hit your head cause of your phone.
    Me: But the window opened himself cause it’s windy outside and hit my head.
    Mom: You could see that if you weren’t watching on your phone.

  • Parents: Yell at their kid, complain about them right in front of them, mock them for their interests and hobbies, spank them, take away their things, not let them make their own decisions, pretty much making it clear they’re not allowed to be themselves and hide from them

    What the parents think they’re doing to their kid: Disciplining them, teaching them to behave

    What they’re actually doing: making the kid antisocial, low self-esteem, poor mental health, indecisive, teach them to lie on the spot, hear for foot steps, hide their things, their opinions, and their choices

    What the parents think is causing them: tHoSe DaMn ViDeO gAmEs AnD tHaT dAmN pHoNe

  • I grew up with strict parents, I’m 21 and I love having sex because I’m getting shown love and attention. All I want is love, support and someone I can just enjoy being with. Hence why I’m an introvert but do have 3 friends who take me out sometimes but feel out of place, I go along with and have a blast. I go too bars because people there have a similar life too me and have great energy. Once I’m fully satisfied from my sex life, I will consider finding someone to be with who is similar too me with a help of my friends

  • Bro this is crazy. My parents are so strict they won’t let me have my phone at night or tv during the summer and I can’t wake up no later than 12 ohh and I have been sleeping at 9 for 10 months during school and waking up at 6:30 but I can’t oversleep during summer. Just 2 more years u til college and I’m gone ��

  • I felt this. You’re always on egg shells with people who you don’t need to be because they are more understanding. You think you’re going to get yelled at for spilling something or making a mistake, so you go around thinking everyone is like that because it’s how you grew up. It’s not the case. You just had shitty parents.

  • I’m 18 and I’ve never been to a sleepover before. My mum and dad have met all of my friends that I’ve know for 7 years but I’m still not allowed to go. I tried to speak to my mum so that she would trust me more but she ended up getting angry with me. At this point I might just tell her that I’m going to go anyways but I don’t want to upset my parents or go against them.

  • My parents are kind of strict but I know they do that because they love me ��

    Hi mom/dad if you see this

    ILY ��

    *P.S: When am I gonna be able to walk alone?

  • my parents won’t let me, close my door, unless im changing, no boyfriends until im 50 years old, no going to party’s, no hanging out with friends, no social media, no texting, no crushing on boys.

  • Me: i have been to the office 198 time (its true) and i have been spanked 456 times so…
    Block o: get the anti depressants and drawing paper
    Me: yay drawing

  • my dad did a lot of things in this video on me and my siblings set for my half-brother Ethan apparently since he was was born by someone else he is the Angel and me and my siblings are devils or something but yeah I became rebellious kid!

  • About the “asking permission for every single thing” is sooo true. I’m an adult now and I’m still trying to break that habit.

    I have many pet peeves because of my parents and I’m really impatient.
    E.g I hate the word “must” because my father always says it. It bugs me.

  • I’m 10. My mom won’t let me even pick my own clothes to wear to school, I can only go on my phone for 40 minutes a day, no texting, sleepovers, etc. I’m really sad. Sometimes they blame me for everything even if I have an explanation they don’t care… I just go in the bathroom, cry cry cry cry. I’ve tried to kill myself but I thought maybe if I be “good” (I am I listen to everything they tell me) but it doesn’t. They compare me to my brothers, friends, cousins, and other family.. and compared me to the fastest swimmer in the world! I’m pretty fast for my age and I cant believe that thy would do that. They’re still my family; I still love ‘em. Sorry for all of you guys that go through overprotective parents too (oh and when I find money they won’t let me use it, and they buy the clothes that they like for me, I can’t pick.):(

  • I resent my parents a lot and I shut them because they feel the need to know my every more or and everything do it gets so annoying to the point where I cut my parents off completely

  • Don’t you just hate it when you are trying to prove a really good point and your parent hits you with the “Don’t talk back!” it’s just there way of getting out of a heated argument that they know you would have won. Also when they get mad at you for something you never did and you try to tell the truth and they say “Liar!” when you are not? Parents are like this, I made them feel better about me by not even talking to them until they confess that they love you and wish you were never quiet. Sounds harsh but trust me, it works.

  • I have strict parents and the first thing I learned how to do was lie like a pro. So I find it super surprising when others with similar parents don’t know how to lie. Other than that I agree with literally everything in this video.

  • I grew up with a strict father, once I took therapy when i was 15-16 I began changing and standing up for myself, it took a long time, but little by little I’m getting rid of these old habits. I understood he wanted to protect me but he took it too far at time, it’s whatever, I’m good

  • My parents may be strict and slap my cheeks when I misbehave but I know they do it out of love I love them to but bro they’re also mexican my cheeks are red

  • I constantly feel spoiled. ;-; Am I spoiled? IDK. I don’t think I behave like a spoiled person. I think my mom thinks I’m entitled because she’s always saying things like, “Why don’t you know how to cook? When I was your age, I was-” I feel like she expects me to act like a grown-up, yet treats me like a child. And I always feel useless, like I’m doing nothing with my life. (The only real thing I have going for me is ny smarts.) I sometimes wonder if I’m going to grow up to be a deadbeat living on the street, or if I’ll have to wh*** myself for money. Sorry for this long rant, I just had to get it off ny chest.

  • This made me cry lol, all of these are so incredibly true for me. I’m going to be moving out due to this and they’ve been trying to guilt trip and manipulate me into not doing it. For the past five years I’ve only gone out like once or twice a month. And only to the grocery store. I have to decline every invite to anything cause they don’t approve. I’ve found someone who makes me feel like I’m not so alone anymore but it’s my entire family against me. I don’t know if they’ll ever understand.

  • Hi so this is my story and I hope that maybe someone could help me: so I am 15 years old and when I went to 5 grade I was always alone and it cause me several times diarrhea I don’t know why, so I don’t talk to people because I am afraid that they are gonna talk bad of me and I don’t know what to say, so my parents are a different situation (my mom still washes my hair and brush it, I can’t close de door, I can’t go outside in a wedding because my mom is afraid that I can be kidnapped, I can’t stay home alone, and she’s also aggressive like one day my parents were fighting and they my mom push my dad, every time they argue I cry or when I someone yelled at me, my dad he doesn’t care about us, he doesn’t help at all, beat in animals…) so I also started having some wounds in my head and I can rip out my hair easily, I don’t have friends and if I am close with someone I always stop talking with them, I am always answering bad at my mom because I get angry, they are always criticizing everything I do, and they say that I do things very slowly and that I’m from Alentejo ( a city in Portugal)they also say that I have to take vitamins and I need to go to the psychologist and so I just think that I can’t handle it anymore like sometimes I think of killing my self but I don’t do that only because of my sister and I want to have kids and others stuff oh I am also premature I was born at 25 weeks

  • girls who are raised with strict fathers are more likely to become THOTs and engage in unprotected sexual intercourse and experience Teen Pregnancy

  • 23 here. Treated like I’m 10. I can look after myself perfectly fine, yet they still insist on being as authoritarian as possible with me.

  • My husband had these strict parents and he compensates for his lack of identity through heroism. It’s horrible….if he’s not in control he can’t trust anything. He’s a horrible father with standards that are unfair!!

  • Hah, this is alllllll true. Im not about to vent, but ill only say that SOMEONE is a little violent, yells, makes threats, and has a short temper.

    Honestly the other is the only one keeping me together.

  • I really hate it when my parent hated me for watching tv as an entertainment because when he was a child, his family can’t afford one and when he and his sibling went to the neighbor they weren’t allowed to touch the tv, only the grown ups are.

    I really hated this reasoning since we actually own a tv and constantly become angry at me when he caught me. The only reason I can watch tv is with my mentally-disabled brother (the only one who has the “right” reason to do so as a distraction). Our family owns the tv so all of us has the right to use it. The only form of entertainment he saw as an actual entertainment for me is joining a sport in summer (forcing me to play tennis but luckily he agreed to let me join swimming, my favorite, last summer) or joining a school camping(good think I do enjoy it) or a school contest (I don’t join contests a lot because I ain’t doing it just for his happiness)

    Can’t wait to grow up and move out. I can finally play a pokemon game and have a movie marathon without anyone saying “Has that has something to do to your study?” as if it’s a bad thing just because he never experience it in his youth.

  • Mom: Stand up for yourself once in a while!
    A day later
    Me stand up
    Mom: ArE yOu TaLkInG tO mE bAcK?!

  • I feel suffocated with my parents rules. My mom started skipping school when she was 15 y/o, she began smoking, drinking and getting tattoos. My father did the same thing, both of them met at young ages. My mom was abused so I get why she rebelled, but what I don’t get is the fact that my parents won’t even let me go to the shop (it’s one crossing away from our house). I can’t go out with my friends, I can’t have friends that are boys, I can’t do anything a normal teenager is privileged to do. It’s sad, I’m trying to tell and come out to my parents about being bisexual but I know I will get frown upon. I hate how my parents are trying to turn me into some school, working machine while I’m here crying myself to sleep because I’m stressing over the fact that I’ll never have freedom.

  • The holding back tears thing. Oh man. I don’t consider my parents to be extremely strict, but whenever I needed to cry I would go to my room discreetely and let the tears come out as silently as I could. That’s because I knew if they saw me crying, they’d nag me incessantly to know why I was crying and then if I did tell them, they’d laugh at me cuz that’s “not something to cry about” and “when you grow up you’ll have way worse problems than that”. If I didn’t tell them tho, they’d yell at me.
    So I just learned to suppress my emotions as much as possible and to not go to my parents for emotional support

  • My mom often tells me that I’m “not allowed” to get mad just because I did something and she overreacts.
    Every human has a right to get mad at some point I their life, who the fuck does she think she is? My mom?! I can change that real quick and run away, and I have done so before. Strict parents create bad teens such as myself. Will I change? No. I’m too pissed to give a shit

  • The bible says according to Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” it also says ” “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12. Respect goes two ways.

  • So 18 and 19 years old are still teens right?
    But they just have the power and ability to do anything they want I guess but they are still teenagers right?because 13= teen so 18 = teen ��

  • the eating story is relateable, my mum had a rule when i was younger that we could only eat “unhealthy” food on the weekends. this led to excessive binge eating and eventually an eating disorder (with my sister). thankfully she got help, but it can still be difficult for the both of us.

  • I don’t get the intent; how do you spite someone (ie: your parents) if they aren’t even aware of what you are doing?? To me “spiting” is best when you say “see, ha! I am doing this, you can’t do anything about it”. I think this young lady is just looking for an excuse to get down with boys, is lonely and has low self esteem issues. The poor thing needs some counseling. It may even be possible she was sexually abused.

    I am not a parent (I am gay/50s/partnered), so I can only speak as an outsider and someone who wished to be a Dad someday if the opportunity opened up: Speak to your children, develop that relationship with each one (just like Miss Brewton says) and talk to them about WHY you wish to be strict with them. If you just violently spank the hand of a child and raise your voice in anger when they are reaching for a hot skillet on the stove without saying “my dear, that will burn you”, they will want to do it again; especially when you aren’t looking. Talk to your daughters (and sons; to make them responsible young men) and explain that you struggled as a teen, you had premarital sex and it didn’t go well (unintended pregnancies, abortion, forced marriage, single parenthood and poverty, etc); or offer up examples of date rape to inform them WHY you fear for their safety.

    Most teens aren’t ever aware (nor even considering) that there are predators out there, rapists, young men who may want to just hurt their daughters with no intentions of dating them or being with them… so much that our young women have to deal with today. And then bring in AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases that are sometimes easily cured with an antibiotic but some that linger forever (hepatitis, genital warts, etc). It’s up to the parents (and dare I even say Fathers; not just Mothers) to develop a caring relationship with EACH child. Once you devote too much attention to one, the others will feel left out and want to rebel. No favoritism should be allowed in a family or parenting. Make the time for each one so that they understand that your strictness or better yet, your expectations are because you LOVE THEM and don’t want to see them hurt or dead.

    Thanks Jackie for this informational video. Keep up the great work!

  • My sister would spank me and lock me outside for half an hour and one time I said the s word trying to say shoot and I was locked half and hour outside and during this time it was raining then she forgot me and my dad found me curled against the door all wet

  • Since it was not mentioned in the video, I want to ask: Who else thinks that others know better and can do everything better? (not just parents, but also friends, lovers, everyone… )

  • Idc if this offends anyone I’m saying it as it is strict parents don’t know how to accept responsibility they love to blame and take their frustrations out on their children for example let’s say the have a bad day at work they will take it out on their kids it’s not cool and they have to change their behaviours as it impacts their children to be sneaky scared lie not speak to them and do things parents wouldn’t dream of their kids doing

  • I hate both of my parents, today when my dad hugged me I pushed him away because I couldn’t breathe, then he kept trying to hug me again but he put all of his weight on the back of my neck, and then I got in trouble and my dad played the victim while my mum didn’t care that my dad almost broke my neck, it wasn’t my fault that I couldn’t breathe and then I had to apologise even though I did nothing wrong, and my dad didn’t even apologise to me and my mom didn’t care that my neck was is serious pain, it’s always like this, whenever one of my parents do something wrong they play the victim and then I have to apologise. My mum always body shames me, calling me fat and she only cares about my looks, she hates that I’m a tomboy and tries to convince me that girls should wear dresses and makeup.

  • My mom does not let me go anywhere she wont let me change my room although I just want a comfortable place to be in I can’t even go for a walk I’m always having to keep my door open its never good enough until the things fit her standards I cant go to sleepovers or a friends birthday party I can’t even leave out the driveway this Quarantine made me realize I don’t do anything in my life! like I get it that is parent job to protect but she be going over board. Its so annoying because when we are around our family like she like be trying to make me seem perfect but I’m no but truthfully I’m ready to turn 18 I don’t really have much friends she always comparing me to my sister or my dad she never compares me to something good. it makes me feel I have nobody to talk to… 7/21/20

  • On our Tumblr, a follower asked about the effects of helicopter parenting. We recognize how important this topic could be because of the harm that a helicopter parent can cause, we decided to release this video a day early. Hope you find this video helpful and share it so that more awareness can be brought to the attention of bad or toxic types of parenting. But of course, there may or may not be right or wrong way of parenting, but we can agreed that some are more harmful than good on some level.

  • My girlfriend is affected by “helicopter parents” and I’m trying to maker her see it by doing my own research on it to show her facts on the matter

  • My dad died when I was only 10 and now my mom thinks she is the only one affected by his death she really gets on my nerve when she says she has depression and Im a kid I wouldnt understand, Im 13 now and I cant go outside to do volleyball practice she makes stupid excuses where its either too hot or someone might kill me I really hate her and at this point dont call her mom anymore

  • My parents won’t let me hangout with my cousin because of corona, but go on vacation where thousands of people are hanging out at. Now please tell me how can I hang out with my cousin.

  • I’m 17 & I want to go to college next year but my family won’t even let me walk to the corner store by myself because their scared something bad will happen. Bad things do happen. But I don’t want to be caged.

  • Not strict, but my mum hated me liking anything “popular” from when I was like 5 to 11, and so now when my friends are like omg do you remember “x”? I loved “x”! And then I have to say “oh, I never really liked it.” So it really takes away from conversations with my friends, and I am so behind in “popular” or “trendy” stuff now:(

  • My parents blame ME for being the way I am now. Not knowing THEY were the ones who made me end up like this. They always say they try to be good parents.. but they didn’t realize the were actually screwing me over. Now I’m in a world of trouble, just as all the ones stated in the video, from things THEY caused and I have to try and “fix” them. It’s so twisted. Hopefully we make it out alive children of Helicopter parent/s, overcome and undo everything that has already be done

  • If people have kids and just end up doing this to them and robbing them of a healthy childhood because of their own fear, control issues, or pride issues, then they have no business being parents. I’m glad that it feels like society is starting to become more aware of this, however slowly

  • my parents giving my freedom made me such a good child, I wasn’t rebelious like other kids, I noticed the ones who has strict parents were so rebelious

  • I live w m grandparenrs and their strictnest just basically made me not even know who i am. I remember in 3-5th grade the cool little guy who liked to hang out with friends and meet new people now i even forgot how to introduce myself and initiate a conversation with someone, i dont like meeting people, i decline almost all of my friends calls and text’s, cuz i know i wont be able to go anywhere, literally anywhere, and i dont want to tell my friends always that i cant go out and now they are not even my friends cuz we cant even talk and meet up, most of them faded away alongside with my personality. I only go cycling alone or with my only friend, but i have to goo home by 9 or else im in trouble, while kids my age, (im soon to be 16) are going to parties simce they were 13-14, having fun, going to the town, enjoying life, drinking, smoking, doing drugs, not even going home. Im not saying these are good things but im someone who would never do stuff like this, i just want to hang out w my friends or go to parties to have fun, not to destroy myself, but im not allowed to. Never.
    It got to the point where i wanted to sneak out but im afraid ill disappoint my parents and grandparents but hey dont realise they are creating a monster out of me

  • I’m 16, I get straight A’s every year, I never get in trouble and when I ask my parents to go somewhere I never lied to them. Yet I still can’t do somethings regular teenagers do����‍♀️. I feel suffocated and I really don’t want to grow up to resent my parents because I can’t do things my friends are doing…Yo girl needs HELP. I can’t wait till I go to college����‍♀️��✌��

  • Let me tell you how helicopter parenting affected me..
    1) I turned into an antisocial, introverted geek.
    2) I got low self esteem ( as mentioned )
    3) I lost interest in everything ( like hanging out with people of opposite gender can make you confident and mentally stable. But I’m an exception. My parents won’t allow me to do that. I’m starting to hate everything)
    4) leave about the opposite gender, I’m not even allowed to talk much with my buddies or go to their homes.
    5) I get offended again and again, I cry when no ones monitoring me.

  • One time i got my phone taken away because i couldn’t concentrate on homework and my little brother throws tantrums every time he loses in a game and nothing happens I:

  • My desi parents don’t want to see a boy next to me until marriage.

    They don’t want me to go to any sleepover ever.

    I can’t stay in a friend’s house more than half an hour.

    What’s up with this parenting.

    This is making me hate them so much!!!!

  • I’m literally 18 and I hate having strict parents. I can’t do anything around them. I can’t hangout with my friends that long nor stay up late on the phone with them. They fucking compare me with other stupid ppl or my fucking cousins. They treat me like baby,and they keep fucking “if u keep having this attitude u will never get far in life. “ u will b the first person to cry in my front of me when u lose or job. They think I won’t secede in life nor have a good job. They think I’m hopeless. I never committed something bad in my life. I never escaped from my house at night. I never opened my legs for some dudes and I never did drugs in my life. And they get mad for the stupidest shit.

  • I have strict parents so I’m not allowed to:
    Text boys
    Go to the convenience store by myself
    Have sleepovers
    Have a social media account
    Go to mall with friends
    Enter other people’s homes

  • You know what’s worse then snapping. Becoming so used to the fact of what they have done to you that you forgive them even though they still do it.

  • My mom has reportidly been manipulative my whole life. She’s always living like she’s dieing or something. She’s insanely controlling. I have to take initiative.

  • help, my parents keep taking my electronics. and i need to talk to my friends, i dont have the best relationship with my parents during quarantine. ever since they started taking my electronics ive started making threats, getting angry, yelling at them, punching the wall, etc. this wouldnt have happened if i had my electronics. they might break my iphone 11 and give me my 6 which barely works. ive started getting suicidal too, i need to talk to my friends during quarantine. its a lonely time, we need some type of social interaction. at night when i had my phone, i was slowly learning how to sleep earlier. but now they took that away and i get no sleep, have been cutting myself many times. and now i try to steal my electronics back, they are teaching me bad things from taking away my electronics. i almost suicided as well. i know i might be dramatic but i need some type of interaction with people at least.

  • Feel this rn, my mom is anytime i try to do anything its texts every mintue “where are you.” “Did you make it,” keep in mind im driving while she doing this, even flying somewhere with my friend its always the same thing

    “Its not that i dont trust you i dont trust other people.”

    And anytime i bring it up she acts like im the bad guy and makes me feel bad for just wanting to live my own life��

  • I would not even care about the strictness or even the different rules for everyone. What created hate in my heart was the constant change of “yes you can” to actually “no you can’t”. I hate inconsistency.

  • Parents be so uncomfortable with these type of conversations with their child that saying no altogether just seems more fit �� maybe talking to your child and not disregarding their feelings is so much better.

    “No, you can’t”
    “Because I said so”

    LMAOO huh?

  • It’s awful because I feel anger towards them every single day of my life and I don’t know how to resolve it. The resentment is eating me up but I don’t know how to talk to them either. I have absolutely no life skills and my mother despises the fact that I’m an introvert. And she blows up when you tell her: “maybe your upbringing had something to do with it.”

  • Becoming numb to harmful words or yelling. Never asking why. Never saying no. Never letting themself cry. Never fighting back. Freaking out about the smallest failures. Saying sorry at the smallest mistake. Amazing reflexes.

    I grew up in an awful family, so I guess some of this might not be strict so much as abusive, but idk.

  • My parents won’t allow me to go anywhere for over 2 days without calling them every night. Last week I was at a hotel with my friend and her parents and after I called my mum I started crying because she kept on telling me that I need to be more mature. She keeps saying that I’m not allowed any social media like tik tok or instagram because there is inappropriate stuff online, and yeah, I understand that. I understand her reasoning, but it’s like she’s saying I will search that stuff up on purpose because I’m not ‘mature’. And I’m going to stop talking here because if not I will start crying….

  • In hs only time I got to hang with my friends unsupervised was REGENTS WEEK. I’d pretend we had school that day, leave in uniform to go hang. Like a lot of you have said below, I’ve become a world class lier. I would make a list of the lie and details �� and stick to it. I’m 22 now and don’t have to anymore but find myself almost lying when my parents ask where I’m headed out. I only feel bad that my hs aged brother can’t lie for shit.

  • I have very suffocating parents.. All decisions even the person they want me be with.. They choose even that.. I don’t have a life

  • I get why my parents are strict because there are bad people out there these days but when I’m older I hope it’s not as strict because I don’t wanna be single my whole life

  • I showed this to my parents they thought I’m giving them a lecture, i just want their opinion. Got banned for using phone for 1 month.

    I’m a guy
    I’m 18
    And I’m probably gonna get the Rule Hammer from them.

  • ive been grounded for a month. ironically the month my friend for 5 years moves across the country. is this too long of a grounding for getting an F.

  • Tbh my parents used to with my older sibling we really stricted that they didn’t know about sex until they like 17 and they’re religious and growing up I felt peer pressure be apart of the religion but after a while I hated it and decided to think for my self a do what I want its MY live not my parents

  • I may not be as old as you guys butI’m 13 and my parents are always using there excuse that I’m a teenager. Don’t you just love life?!

  • -Hey y’all. To those who have parents who are controlling, abusive, neglectful, or anything of the sort, you are NOT alone!

    -I believe that I have a controlling parent who tends to pick out what clothes I should wear (clothes that everyone else ends up liking but, NOT me), and restrict me for doing “certain” activities with friends because she thinks about my safety…In which I understand and all but, it’s very frustrating.

    -So, I just NOW turned 17 and I am planning on “re-creating” those moments that I have missed out in my childhood nor teen-years with friends once I turn 18!

    -I thank those who actually read this comment and I believe, NO, I know that soon, your time will come!!!

  • Wow im lucky my parents dont spank me. I mean im 13 and i havent said a swear word once. And yet i got bullied once but still didnt swear. Im lucky

  • What’s extremely frustrating is when they try to “relate” to you by saying things along the lines of “I used to be just like you when I was your age,” yet don’t actually bother to put themselves in your shoes and don’t bother to adjust their ways that could benefit both sides.

  • I act like this (apologizing, asking only to be able to do much (except in my own home), being scared to ask, ect) this is from bad teachers and my grandma for 2 years was abusive and my mom has had a few issues but she’s alright now and doesn’t put a lot of restrictions, I’m not graduated out of school (not college normal grade school), which I believe is good cause I’ve been taught to self regulate because that’s how parents should be also a parent should not just be somewhat strict/ very strict and then just stop it WILL NOT TURN OUT WELL.

  • I am going to send this to my aunt because she is like my mother but my mom is not a strict but my aunt is strict so I will send this to her

  • What it feels like to have a strict parent?

    They don’t trust you
    They believe others than you
    Base on my own experience ��
    I can still can keep going but nah-

  • My mom wants me to “be happy”. But yet, I want to be a game creator, and every time she asks me what I want to do, I tell her that. Then she’ll like brush that idea out the way and say some shit like “u ever thought about a lawyer, or engineer”. I’ll say “yeah, but I don’t wanna do that”. Then shell get quiet. Also, whenever she will tell me not to do something, I’ll ask why, and she’ll say “because I said”. What does that tell u guys?

  • My older brother got punched in the face by my parents because he was taking out trash and got in trouble because he took the trash from down stairs first and this is no joke, it actually happened before:/

  • Another sign that someone might’ve had strict parents is when they try to control others just to feel like they have control of their life. I had a friend who had insanely strict parents who wouldn’t let her go out with friends or allow friends to come over to their house (even though we lived right next door to each other) or just be a normal teenager. My friend got jealous of how much freedom I had and the amount of friends I hung out with in and out of school and she tried to be the “dominant one” of our friendship and control who I hung out with (which didn’t work out). When she realized she couldn’t control me, she spread rumors that I did awful things to her (which I didn’t) and it ultimately lead to the end of our 12 year friendship.

  • My parents:No tv when your grounded no sleepovers no friends birthday parties no closing your door take care of your sis 24/7 they cuss me out alot why are you not like all the girly girls no eating at night your already fat your only 11 why are you such a smart ass. Me:Has depression cant sleep has anxiety feels like my parents dont care wanting to kms stressed has outbursts at them because of being pressured to do what they want in my future.
    Parents:Your fine…shake it off….

  • The thing with the clothes always fascinated me. I never tried to do that. My parents would always just randomly show up at my school to check on me. And it didn’t matter what age I was. 13, 16, 18…. They even started to do that when I went off to college. That was when I moved far away.

  • Now I know my parents are the best parents. They don’t spank me, and when they do it is because things are really out of hand. They allow me to say my own opinion. And they are okay if I have low grades sometimes (probably because I got 98 at math). I’m happy because my parents aren’t strict and they didn’t spoil me. I hope that other people are as blessed as I am
    Coming from a kid from the Philippines

    now let’s talk about raid shadow legends

  • My parents don’t allow me to do/like these things:

    1. Cut my hair into a Pixie. (I am a closeted genderfluid person, who wants to have a cut that allows me feel like all genders)

    2. Have an interest in true crime. (Which I love!)

    3. Won’t let me dress how I want. (I want to wear colonial style, but I hate dresses. So, I started telling my mom I wanted to wear more masculine colonial outfits. She said, “You’re not a boy.”)

    I want to be free and happy. But they’re controlling my life and making me be one way.

  • I’m 14 and my parents track everywhere I go and sometimes she’ll show up at where I’m at randomly and watch me..I feel like I’m constantly being squeezed like I can’t breath..I can’t really hang out with my friends bc she thinks that ima get kidnapped or something..I tried talking to her about it calmly but she doesnt wanna hear me she just talks and it ends up in a argument..she doesn’t know she’s hurting me like I honestly feel like I’m depressed bc I see my friends going to places and when I ask if I can go they say no..I feel like I’m alone

  • Growing up in a Chinese household, I was one of those kids who was “Free” my parents work at their buisness 10am-11pm every day. I only see them for a few hours at night (but we dont really talk) then I go to bed for school. Basically I grew up pretty independent learning to cook/clean/laundry before 10yearsold along with my siblings. I remember writing a 5 page essay of wanting “strict” parents. Because I wanted to feel noticed and love by my parents.

  • My mother is just the queen of strict parents. She does not let me go anywhere even on our own hose terrace bcoz she thinks I’m just going there to stare someone. She does not let me go with my frnds anywhere, she rules my clothing, she rules my whole life. From my childhood itself she has controlled me like this and now I have realized that I have a huge lack of confidence I even feel shy to greet the guests coming in our house and now when I am grown up she always blames me that why I am not like other girls but she never understand that she is the only root cause behind this problem. Plzzzzz give me some solution other than to make her understand bcoz she never listen to me. Myself surbhi!

  • Strict parents raise children who are mostly abusive, disrespectful of personal space and boundaries and/or self-harming, bad decision-makers and good liars.

  • My Dad: SoPhIA diD yOu dO YoUr hOmEwOrK?!?!
    Me: Yeah
    My Dad: REvIeW aGAiN aNd sTarT yOUR nEXt yeArs hOmeWorK
    Me: we don’t have homework for next year I don’t know.
    My Dad: Calls the school

  • I’d like to say that although my parents are extremely strict and I sometimes resent that, they have always made their reasoning perfectly clear and I’m always able to understand where they’re coming from even if I don’t agree myself. Certainly I’ve missed out on a lot of good (and bad) things because of how tight they are but I’ve always known that whatever it was that they were saying it was out of their care for my wellbeing. That’s the most important thing for me.

  • A while ago my mom got frustrated with me for having a different political opinion than her, and she told me to give her my phone. I was shocked but told her “Mom, I’m 22, and this is my phone. I bought it. I’m paying the monthly bill. It’s not yours.”

    She was completely speechless, then got mad and walked away ��

  • I cant even go outside in the front yard alone i cant even stay up all night i cant even go to my grandparents house who is 3 miles away even when they come.over

  • Parents always think like they’re the smartest, they’re the most experienced, they’re the ones who know everything.
    they sometimes don’t, it’s because of their greediness of becoming parents.

    They always want everything. They always underestimate their kids.

  • My parents being strict
    Me: * A ten yr old child who is depressed, sad, has stress in life, hates life, wishes to not live, never has a phone thats why my mom and i always fight because of me using her phone for important things and they are STILL blind sided that i really need a phone, wants to live somewhere else, always says ‘im fine’ when im not, always regrets life, cries in a room always without my parent knowing.”

  • What strict parents think they teach us: discipline, respect, good manners
    What they actually teach us: the urge to rebel, how to hide things, and disrespect.

  • 1. I can’t stay at any friends house for a sleepover
    2. I can’t have Snapchat
    3. I cant text boys

    They aren’t that strict lol it’s just those things

  • I remember once when I was like 9 I put a balloon on my stomach as a joke and said “dad look I’m pregnant lol” and he sat me down and had a lecture at me saying that “ohh if you were pregnant we would help u…” And I get it was advice But I was freaking 9 and having a joke like tf!

  • No sleepovers no boyfriends no taking the bus on my own or without them no Bs must become doctor MUST MARRY A MAN THEY APPROVE….

  • My mom is ok, she’s understanding and caring, but i have mixed issues with my dad…
    Im jealous that most people have such great dads that care for them…
    Try having a dad that blames you for everything and is never there for you at most time
    Try having a dad that only gives attention at your younger sibling and cursing at you and your autistic sibling
    Try having a dad that has anger issues and always annoyed at you

    i experienced those things and i just want to get out…

  • I’m almost 20. I’m still not allowed to dye my hair an “unnatural” color. I’ve always wanted purple hair, but want to be in the medical field and know once I start in the workforce, I will never be able to do it. I’ve purchased purple hair dye online to my college address, but due to COVID-19, I will be dying my hair at home. I have strict parents (almost stereotypical Asian mom) but honestly, my roommate explained to me like this. “If you’re almost 20 and the most rebellious thing you’ll have done is dye your hair a temporary color, I think your parents are really lucky. Some college kids our age are alcoholics, druggies, flunking, pregnant, and/or worse. I think, in the bigger picture, purple hair is a blessing of a ‘teen rebellion’”

  • my mom: go take a shower
    me:but I just did
    me: it’s dads house tho
    mom:NO PHONE

  • My friends and my teacher and everyone else found out I have strict parents when I got a b on my report card and had a mental breakdown and started crying because I knew my mom was going to be really REALLY mad and either make me feel like a disappointment or just take everything including my phone away

  • My parents gave me depression, anxiety and even schizophrenia/ psychosis because they wouldn’t let me hang out with anyone they didn’t likeso my brain developed “friends” for me. And they go and blame my friends for my mental health instead of realizing their mistakes. She also wont let me leave the house until I get an associates/ bachelors degree and I didnt even wanna do college.


    Parents: *Strict as hell, wont listen to your side of the story, wont listen to what you have to say because they think they are right.*

    Also parent: why dont you ever talk to me! You never leave your room

  • I mean I guess I love my parents but I have a deep resentment over never being able to do the things I wanted to do or have the freedom to make my own choices. With quarantine it’s even worse.

  • Well it depends mostly on your up bringing and what you were surrounded by
    as far me, i was a kid that was “Sparked, for not listening to my father that lived states away and taught me to stand up for myself, Don’t Allow people to push you around, and i took him very literal. And started to not listen to my “parents” and started becoming a light rebel(Note: i followed most of the laws), but as for parents or just parent most of the time. now i live my life i untended to be free, i don’t nessesarry live my life controlled completely so i now try to bend all the “Rules”, and it has worked pretty well some of the more important people in my life like me for bending the rules then allow me to fully do it, because i am such a friendly person …

  • Bruh I’ve never had a “curfew” because I was never allowed to go anywhere without my parents or my friends parents and they always picked me up and dropped me off ����

  • I have a question about this my parents aren’t that strict about most things but when they say no it’s hard to change their minds.i am 12 and I love fitness I have bought a pull up bar with my own money but they won’t let me youse it without their supervision.wich normally would be Okey if it won’t the fact that my workout time collides with my time my dad comes back from work.i spent the next week spending hours of research about persuading strict parants.i talked about haw much it would mean to me if they let me youse it unsupervised I made a lot of compremises like they could make sure it’s sturdy before I youse it and I keep the door open at all times.they say that they don’t want me to FALL OF THE PULL UP BAR like how do you do that long story short they said no and shatterd my dreams so I need help to fix this please I would mean a lot

  • Kids living under strict or abusive parents can end up living in fear or become rebellious. I ended up rebellious btw but I often see that many end up with their lives in fear from parents

  • I realized I have strict parents when at the age of 9 I would have anxiety attacks when at the end of the school year I had an A instead of an A+ because my mother always told me that if I wasn’t perfect in every subject it ment I was a failure.

    Edit: ik this video is old and sorry if I made any mistakes, English is not my native language

  • I relate so much to over apologizing, plus im obnoxious… raise your voice slightly at me in a non playful way and ill burst into tears:’)
    Edit: Grammar

  • My dad told me when to drink my milk at dinner, would hide the l remote when he was at work and said id you dont find it by the time i get home your grounded, i would freak out and look for it all day. Ill never forgive him for doing shit like this. Because it made me pretty different and now i hate everyone in my family. Burn in hell.

  • I thought I was raised strict but I honestly cant relate to this. Especially the one about not being good leaders. If that’s the case, i wasnt raised strict, or as strictly as I thought. My parents praised independence and nurtured leadership. We’re all just very…introverted haha. We didnt go out much so I can def relate to not having wild stories but in this time of quarantine it’s a running joke in our family group chat that we were built for isolation ��

  • My parents are in the middle. They aren’t strict but they aren’t the nicest. I’m sorry for the people whose parents are ridiculously strict.

  • My parents are good parents they take good care of me they take responsibility to keep me healthy and they help when I’m feeling upset they let me have freedom when I want. I’m not saying that they let me go riot.

  • My parents aren’t very strict. Usually dads wouldn’t let their daughters wear short shorts or like skirts. But he allowed me to. And when I would hang out with a boy he’s like “oh my god is that your boyfriend?!” It would be so awkward because most of the guys I talk to, I don’t really find them attractive �� my dad is literally like my other mom.

  • A lot of people think I have strict parents, but really I’m the strict one with myself. I have this thing where I see rules even if there aren’t any. I need help.

  • My mom is actually amazing. First of all she doesn’t believe in the whole video games or being on you phone os bad for you. Second she hates school just as much as i do. She actually took me out of school and had me do online classes because of all the stuff that was happening at school (weed, vaping, fights, homophobia and transphobia, and the gang there). Also she’ll let me know when she needs help or not and if she says she doesn’t need any, she won’t say “WHY IS NO ONE HELPING ME”. I wish y’all had my mom. Let me know of you want to be adopted and I’ll ask her!��

  • honestly, i cry a lot. I cry a stupid amount over stupid things whenever im not around them because ive never been allowed to cry. And also my mental health is shit but im not allowed to say anything because the second i even have the courage and confidence to try, she starts crying to me about how im a disappointment and how i make /her/ feel bad and how im not allowed to need help because her anxiety is bad. she actually told me that im not allowed to see a therapist because she was considering going on anxiety meds which is the stupidest shit ive ever heard. Im constantly told that im not good enough or mediocre at best and screamed at when (for some strange unexplainable reason) i spend most of my time in my room and on my phone instead of being around them. i apologize an absolutely unbelievable amount and i CANNOT SAY NO. unless its about me doing something that could get me in trouble. if they think i like someone they get all happy and excited and scream at me and force me to tell them. and also life 365 or whatever its called constantly tracks me. im always disrespectful even when theyre the ones pushing me to the brink of self harm. im longing for the day i can go to college or move out. so yeah be nice to your kids or theyre gonna probably not want to be around you or tell you anything at all.

  • Not gonna lie having strict parents has taught me ALOT
    Hiding stuff
    Hearing footsteps
    Being able to hide emotions
    How to sneak out
    Lip reading
    Being able to not react when you get slapped

  • When my mom saw that I was self harming she praticly screamed at me for like an hour and a half that was how she disciplined I instantly stop self harming. her technique freaking works I can tell you that much

  • Hi, I’m dealing with strict parents and I am 20 years old this year. Suddently this video came across and I decided to watch it. I just want to say that this video is really helpful for me to understand my parents perspective. It’s hard for me to live with strict parents because until now, they are still thinking I’m at stage 1. I just hope I can have fun at this age.

  • I’m 17. Cook all my meals, exercise daily, do chores, always supportive and kind. Which is a shift, I used to do none of this last year when 10pm was my curfew and I would have sleepovers all the time. Now I’m more mature and a better person and my curfew is 5pm. I don’t really understand, her main concern is that I will get killed. She says not to trust anyone and that’s why I can’t leave the house. Kinda hard since in less than a year I’m planning on living on my own. I just want to learn from experience, reading books at home only does so much. After rereading this I realize it is because she thinks I’m such a good person now that she doesn’t want me to go back. But I don’t think she understands that the people I hang out and talk to now are totally different and just like me. So there is no going back

  • I’m so happy that I have a noT so strict mom.
    And yes, if i would grow up with my father, i would be a HUgE rebel.
    Now I’m just a rule-breaker. Lol-

  • 3:19 wasn’t invited to any and no one liked me like that. Never dated anyone and I’m 17 now. Never been to a proper party. Last parties I went to were those indoor play area ones when I was 10. It’s not that my mum wouldn’t let me, just don’t get invited.

  • Me being friendly and talkative around my friends.
    Mom: why are you so talkative nowadays? You were so disciplined back then.
    Also me being silent and awkward around my relatives.
    Mom: Why can’t you talk? They are your relatives after all.
    Me: BRUH

  • my parents:
    Study now, have fun after college
    No boyfriend until 22
    Cant meet boys
    Has to be in a group of 3 or more at all time
    Cant wear shorts or tank tops at home
    smashes my phone because i was on it ‘too much’
    smashes my iPad because i cried about my phone
    steps on my headphones because i talked back
    there’s more bur i cba

  • Lol my mom is super strict.

    For example, candy/chocolate. “Candy isn’t for children. It gives you cavities” as soon as I got into high school I was allowed to eat sweets, I went over board and…yeah

    My mom is strict but she has gotten less strict with my younger siblings. I wasn’t allowed to use the internet on weekdays unless it was for school work and it would be shut off at 10pm when it’s time for bed. And internet was off if my mom wasn’t home to monitor what we were doing. (That was when I was in high school) all electronics got taken every night, sometimes we can only get our phones and stuff back on weekends.

    My siblings get away with I would have gotten punished for. Eating candy and junk food. Staying up till 4am. Going out on weekdays. Being on my phone all day.

    And tbh I think my mom is only heavily strict on me cause I’m the oldest, a girl and wasn’t planned. I’m prob being punished for being born cause she isn’t as strict for any of my other siblings.

    Like she as soon as I finished high school she either wanted me to get a job and help with her bills or move out. Nagging me everyday. Calling me a disappointment. But as soon as my brother finished high school she ignored him. Didn’t really cared what he did as long as he washed the dishes. He would spend all day playing video games buy as soon as I lay down if get yelled at. It was the same thing everyday. But it’s better now ig, she stopped yelling at me for using the internet

  • They say they trust you. But they don’t, and I’m responsible and can drive really well! and I’m 15. But my parents want to hold me back. They don’t trust me with there life. It sucks. So much. I may be wrong but idk.

  • My parents are strict. I really relate to being super apologetic and always crap my pants when they come towards my room. They’re super nosy and always get mad at everything I do, they’ve never said sorry or come in to check on me after yelling at me or spanking me. They have a very old mindset on parenting but the difference is that they don’t really seem to care about my mental health or emotions at all. They’re like very toxic friends, if you don’t agree with them you get tormented and yelled at.

    Edit: As I was writing this my mom stormed in. I know that there’s nothing I can really do to make them give a crap about our relationship, but I hate not having a friendship or relationship with my parents because they think “we shouldn’t be your friends.” I need a second opinion, I really need to know if I even have a right to say this. (I’m 11)

  • I’ll let you know if my parents are strict after they decide if their parents are strict. (I’m 25 and they’re both over 65 and still listen to their parents.)

    Also: 7:05 is 100% me. I get no joy from finally completing a long task because every step of the process was a nightmare.

  • My dad doesn’t like me to have friends, he probably thinks I will go for drugs or commit crime if I hang out with them, but when I start online friendships and gaming so that I don’t feel so lonely, he gets mad at me

  • Im 13 and the snooping in my phone and if u want to chat with my friends the wach me its pretty anoying and then say that they are free to let me do anything

  • 1:54 I have to ask for permission just about every single time other people in the house make lunch or dinner (and I live with dad, Stepmom and her daughter ), cause most times it isn’t for me (it’s most likely for my dad or “step” sister’s boyfriend) and I have to make my own food…. I’ve only just stopped asking if I can eat something nearing the 10th day of quarantine…. Also that alone should show you how quarantine is going:/

  • I’m 28 and my mum is still like this, I’ve honestly not lived life how I said have in my 20s because of my mum making me feel restricted. I’m not allowed to go holidays myself encase I get “raped or killed” she doesn’t like me going out to drink or with friends because it makes me vulnerable. She comes to my door and shouts through the letter box if I don’t answer my phone. We live next to each other so she will do it of i don’t pick up coz she thinks probably laying dead or something. She once called the police because i was out and didn’t have my phone with me. I was at a friend’s for the day and she calls the dam police to boot my front door in. It’s really bad and I need try and move away from her and start new. I’ve got so much more to see in this world.

  • I’m 15 and get my phone taken at 10 every night. I keep an Ipad in my room and get on it secretly after that time. I’m terrified of messing up. My mom and I will be having a normal conversation and then she says something passive aggressive and I have to try not to cry or I’ll get made fun of. I want to leave the house.

  • I cant do anything. Im 15 and im not allowed to go to the corner shop without my mum watching me. They always ask why im bored but i cant even play Xbox,Talk to my Freinds,Go outside. Then i say i have nothing to do and they always say”Clean or do extra work” they expect me to do things i cant do because of them. So i sleep and then i get woken up by my dad because im lazy. I WOULDNT BE LAZY IF YOU LET ME DO ANYTHING

  • My parents were strict on me but somehow I still got my freedom somehow because I found my ways and kept doing them until it was normal. Before I always had to ask to go out and then I started just leaving. I’m 18 now do it doesn’t matter what I do. I did have to be sneaky tho. Never went to parties nor do I want to and I’m also not in a hurry to drink or any of the sort. I think I turned out pretty normal. I’ve always been independent and I’m an only child

  • Min ting okay jeg vil bare spørge dig hvad hvis nu at jeg har en sygdom i mit øje som jeg har det skidt vil det er ikke noget klamt mit øje og nu er der en skygge.der kan den flyve det er bare gider du fortælle om dig inn K imod det er-Lere har ikke fundet af det nu bare prøv prøv prøv prøv klager det er stresse

  • 4:47 is literally me. It’s really frustrating, because my home used to be emotional and physically abusive when I was little, and now it’s just mentally exhausting/borderline abusive. I just want to leave. I genuinely cry thinking about what it would be like to be away from my family, and I make plans to disown most of them as soon as possible.

  • first of i want to say you are very beautiful, second i grew up with probably the best parents in the world i mean i know everybody says that but my mom and dad never beat me, never punished me for anything, i mean ofcourse they yelled but than they apologize i mean my relationship with my parents is amazing we support each other and we love each other and they taught me alot of important things in life which i am thankful for that, i mean i,m a regular kid well not kid anymore i,m almost 23 but my point is i grew up in a middle class neighbourhood, not rich not poor just in the middle and my parents did alot of things for me and showed me alot of love and compassion and made me happy, and i mean the thing is this even thou sometimes my Folks are too good to me i never stabbed them in the back and never acted like a spoiled brat and just betray them in any way, never lied to my parents about anything literally i say spill everything to them cause i can’t lie and i don’t want to, and sometimes i get sad for some children cause i see them with their parents on the street i mean the way their parents talk to them it,s like they Talk with an animal or i don’t know it,s an Ugly picture, i feel like this is the problem for some Parents they don’t want their kids to end up like this or that you know but the thing is when they are being so Strict and mean to their kids, their kids eventually end up that way and i don’t know i mean you will always have Rebel Kids no matter what, i’ve never done something intentionally to piss off my parents, but i am very Stubborn i am a Stubborn person i am stubborn as it gets lol, i don’t know i mean there will always be Strict parents and just parents who don’t know how to raise kids and what to teach them, there will always be parents who act like they know what,s best for you, they will always be parents who punish you for the most ridiculous things, there will always be parents who beat you like it,s a Normal thing to do, but there will also be the Loving parents who support you in any decision you make and just show love to you like no other person

  • Always making me apologise.
    Even when they do something wrong they will still make me apologise to them because it’s always somehow my fault that made them do it.
    Like they could trip and spill whatever and I would apologise to them because I didn’t move the big heavy table that’s always been there
    (True story)

  • I am from Philippines where parents are normally strict…but I really think that it’s too much…I am 18 and I can’t even taste my own freedom. I can’t even have a boyfriend cause they judge every man who is courting me and they always wanted to be involve in my own relationship like C’mon., Really?

  • Why the hell does reading all this makes me feel so vulnerable!!!
    I can relate to many of this things but now that I am starting to discover my true self…….and working on my personality I am much better..
    Important things I had to learn
    1) Love yourself (eg: don’t just take the shit people say to you, you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to, stop belittling yourself)
    2) Say NO and be affirmative (I still struggle with this especially when someone can manipulate)
    3) Working or doing things that makes you feel good about yourself or just improving oneself (eg: I started to work out and put efforts on my looks too, complimenting myself and admiring my body in the mirror it really boost my confidence)
    4) Stop being too friendly (it’s because I have been taken advantage of so freaking many times that the only way to keep them away is to intimidate them)
    5) Out in public, stand straight with a poker face and only talk when necessary (I am totally the opposite with my friends but we all respect each other)
    There are more but that’s it
    Edit: 6) If you don’t stand up for yourself no one fucking will…!!!

  • My parents have, for my entire life (16 yrs), “protected me”, which basically means denying me the ability to live my own life and experience the world. Yet when I try to confront them, they give me tiny examples of how they do (like being able to text people when I got my first phone at 15), and they make me feel guilty about resenting them. They also (whether intentionally or not) blow off my opinions on their parenting as “every teenager hates their parents” or “every teenager thinks their parents are overprotective” or some BS. That plus they tell me about how I have no right to question their parenting style because I’m too young, or something like that.
    I need to get out of the house, but I have nowhere to go, nowhere that I can be totally free of them without also sacrificing my current life and entire future.

  • I’m extremely good at lying, and I can manipulate people really easily because my dad did it to me and my siblings all the dang time. I’m also really good at talking to adults, because I know how to seem as innocent and as perfect as possible, but the moment I make a mistake, I start to get really upset and self deprecating. Also, I have issues with authority figures now, and I can’t wait to move out when I go to college.

  • My mom had this weird thing where after hours and sometimes days of begging she’d let us use the computer and then get mad at us cause we didn’t ask permission to play music or watch a video lmaooo

  • Not sure if this was said or not already but, you can tell if someone had strict parents if they go overboard with drugs, alcohol, sex. Instead of gradually being introduced to these things at a normal rate they will just abuse them big time once they finally have the freedom to do so. They show very little restraint, and very little regard to their own health and body.

  • Man my life is getting harder day by day�� i am just 13 and next month i will turn 14…. But the problem is
    My parents are very toxic cause
    Since i was a child like around 5 or 6
    My parents never used to allow me to go outside and play+my parents never allowed me to go on any school trip!! + They put me in a tution which was hell for me in that tution i used to get beated by my tution teacher. And they never taught me how behave when i finally left that tution when i was around 9 or 10 i didn’t knew that how to behave i didn’t had any friends!! And i used to imagine friends in my mind and i used to talk with my imaginary friend

    And then my school teacher noticed this habbit and then in a parents meeting my class teacher talked about my this happit and then

    My mom was like we are really sorry!! But then also she didn’t realized this!!

    And then my teacher used to think that i am mentally ill

    After a very long time!! When i was in
    6 grade i wanted to go for the school trip
    And my mom was like no and then i asked her “WHY” she replied i know better than you u have no good friends then i cried a lot and then

    Things were not good at all
    I learned how to behave like a
    Gentlemen and i made some good friends

    And when i realized this that my parents are wrong it was too late

    And ever i try to discuss this with them they keep saying no

    I am so depressed �� idk what to do?


  • I believe being strict is fine as long as you do not humiliate the child. No parent should name call or body shame their child. A parent should always give a reason for their concern to their child on why they shouldn’t do what they are asking. I must say it’s hard to be a parent, I am not a parent yet but I understand they just want the best for us, they don’t want to hurt us intentionally, they want to protect us. Be loving to your parents, they will go away one day and then you will become a parent and understand where they were coming from.

  • This is my parents for sure all my life they haven’t let me do what i wanted and. Now that I’m moving out they have just been on my case about it. I got a job offer in another state. Lately they have really been giving me a hard time and im just ready to get out of here

  • I can’t say not ot authority figures either I understand and if I did the smallest thing wrong boom screamed at then I’m told stop crying now I just hide all my emotions but things are kinda better now

  • bro im so fed up with this kind of parents. i can’t even wear an earring bcz they thought that i wanna be a gay person when i just wanna wear it for fashion just like my friends. i can’t even go to my friend’s birthday party. im very fed up with this kind of life. i just wanna grow up and study overseas bcz i wanna get over with this shit life and just pay their kindness as soon as possible

  • My parents don’t want me to be with my bf (im 20 btw) and my boyfriend is the only person that kept me from suicide and doing drugs… So i think they should really rethink about letting a broken child like me to have the only person that can keep them alive and focus on their future. My parents thought me how to lie and they get so mad when i lie to them. I’m 20 years old and im too scared of doing something that my parents wouldn’t approved bc i know that they get it their way im so scared off telling my mom how much i love my bf and how good how supportive he is. I can’t share my happiness with them. I tried so hard to please them on everything but that left me emty and i dont know who i am. Also i have very bad anxiety and im depressed for many many years to the point that my body can’t take anymore.

  • A lot of parents really do be beating the crap out of their kids and then wonder why later in life the kid grows up to be someone who says stuff like “Oh I can’t wait until I get my first child so I can beat the crap out of them”
    Like no
    You’re just making kids who grow up wishing they could have revenge on you for beating them all the time when they were a kid, so they take out their frustrations on their own kids instead of seeing a damn therapist.
    It’s a crappy and vicious cycle.

  • I have depression caused by my parents���� I love them ofc..But i dont feel happy anymore..they’re too over protective that i cant do the things that make me happy�� i hope i could feel happiness someday��✨ Maybe it feels like heaven��❤️ How bad i cant be happy like you����

  • Growing up, I was raised in a Christian household. So basically I was restricted of many things. At first it was, no social media, no boyfriends, no going out. But slowly I was allowed to have social media, I dated a few times without them knowing, and I went out with permission. But along the way I found out I was gay, I was scared out of my mind. My style changed too. My parents absolutely hated it, they wanted to raise a child that was a good Christian. They wanted to plan out my life, but instead. I learned to lie, I’m gay, I hate being feminine, I love going out with friends and I love art but my parents hate what I draw. They hate the music I love too, my dad used to be like me, but my mom wasn’t. She had very strict parents, and I also developed severe anxiety, i felt trapped and unheard. I cried constantly at night and I would cut myself, it was all Bc my parents hated anything I did. They didn’t accept my style my music and my art. They would put me down and tell me to be more girly and I hated it. And everytime I tried to defend myself they didn’t like it Bc i “talked back” or was being “disrespectful” it was always like that, and they still don’t know I’m gay and I’m hiding it well. Until recently I finally started opening up about why I liked certain things, but I never mentioned being gay. And it felt like they finally actually listened to me, but I slowly realized they didn’t. They still hate it. And I can’t do anything. The only reason I keep going is Bc of my sister, she’s the only one that understands. And also my closest friends, the only people in the world that understand me. I love them dearly. I still feel trapped, they’ve don’t so much for me, but they don’t listen. And they don’t change. They wanted a good Christian child that listened. But instead they got a gay, rebel child who knows how hide things and lies a lot. But I’m not ashamed. I love who I am, and I can’t wait to move out. Until then I’ll keep fighting for myself, and for my voice to be heard.

  • My dad is overprotective. I’m 15 and he won’t let me hang out with friends, go out, or even go to the store. I have to go to bed every night at 7:00 PM and he will whip me with a belt if I don’t obey him.

  • Not sure If I had “strict parents” or anything but, almost every time I make a decision or do something I always have the thought of “what would my mom think?” Because she constantly judges me and makes comments on everything I do. Yet she claims she doesn’t �� I’m literally scared of anything she says about me.