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How Do Parenting Styles Significantly Impact A Child’s Temperament?

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Your temperament plays a major role in how you parent your child. It’s considered one of the five factors that determine discipline effectiveness. Your temperament influences how strict or permissive you will be with your child.

It also plays a role in how much tolerance you’ll have for certain behaviors. We’re all born with certain characteristics, biological tendencies that we inherit from our parents. The balance of your personality is what makes up your temperament – how you think and feel.

Your reaction to stress or approach to risk-taking, for example, is defined by your temperament. All this will influence your parenting style. How temperament influences family life Individual differences in temperament or behavioral styles are important in family life in several ways because they affect the nature of the interactions among family members.

Some children adapt quickly and easily to family daily routines and get along well with their siblings. Research Context. Certain dimensions of temperament have been found to predict subsequent child outcomes. Specifically, negative emotional reactivity has been found to predict both internalizing problems (e.g., anxiety, depression) and externalizing problems (e.g., aggression, rule-breaking).

1 Fearfulness predicts internalizing problems, and self-regulation. Within the first few days of a child’s life, many parents will describe them as calm, easy going, demanding, or high strung. Each child is born with a temperament that influences the way they react to the world around them.

That being said, it is important for parents to remember that temperament is not static. According to research, there are four types of parenting styles: 4 Types Of Parental Influence On Personality Development Of Children: 1. Authoritarian. This kind of parenting is characterized by adherence to rules. It is a dominating style and involves a lot of control. Such parents believe in corporal punishments.

They studied mothers’ parenting styles for levels of warmth, negativity, guidance and “auto­nomy granting,” meaning how much independence the mother gives her children. They found that when a mother’s parenting style matched up well with her child’s temperament, the child experienced half as many symptoms of depression and anxiety. Temperament is a set of inborn traits that organize the child’s approach to the world. They are instrumental in the development of the child’s distinct personality. These traits also determine how the child goes about learning about the world around him.

These traits appear to. Meeting your child’s needs, soothing him with your voice and your touch, reading a book, cuddling, or any activity that involves nurturing, will do much to enhance your baby’s emotional well-being, temperament, personality, and ability to cope with stress, and whether he reaches his overall potential. 5) How Your Temperament and Personality May Influence Your Style of Parenting As human beings we all have what is called an ego.

When I’m talking ego, I’m not referring to Sigmund Freud’s structural model of the human psyche mapping out id (instinct), ego.

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Findings from the growing body of work on parenting and child temperament interactions in the prediction of various child outcomes (including internalizing and externalizing problems, and social and cognitive competence) have been mixed.

“Handbook of Parenting and Child Development Across the Lifespan” by Matthew R. Sanders, Alina Morawska
from Handbook of Parenting and Child Development Across the Lifespan
by Matthew R. Sanders, Alina Morawska
Springer International Publishing, 2018

Temperament is an inherited core of personality; personality is developed by the interaction of inherited temperament and environment, mostly parental child-rearing practices.

“Stress Science: Neuroendocrinology” by George Fink
from Stress Science: Neuroendocrinology
by George Fink
Elsevier Science, 2010

Several dimensions of child temperament, including fearfulness, effortful self-regulation, and difficultness, are associated with child adjustment outcomes and can also influence parental stress.

“Parental Stress and Early Child Development: Adaptive and Maladaptive Outcomes” by Kirby Deater-Deckard, Robin Panneton
from Parental Stress and Early Child Development: Adaptive and Maladaptive Outcomes
by Kirby Deater-Deckard, Robin Panneton
Springer International Publishing, 2017

These two dimensions initially yielded three parenting styles or typologies that varied by warmth and control: authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive.

“Keeping Students Safe and Helping Them Thrive: A Collaborative Handbook on School Safety, Mental Health, and Wellness [2 volumes]” by David Osher Ph.D., Matthew J. Mayer, Robert J. Jagers, Kimberly Kendziora, Lacy Wood
from Keeping Students Safe and Helping Them Thrive: A Collaborative Handbook on School Safety, Mental Health, and Wellness [2 volumes]
by David Osher Ph.D., Matthew J. Mayer, et. al.
ABC-CLIO, 2019

Evaluations revealed that children born with difficult temperaments developed the most emotional and behavioral problems over time; 70 percent developed serious symptoms in adulthood.

“Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children, Families and Adults” by Sumiko Hennessy, Michael Orlans, Terry M. Levy
from Attachment, Trauma, and Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children, Families and Adults
by Sumiko Hennessy, Michael Orlans, Terry M. Levy
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2014

95 Inhibited 90 Uninhibited FIGURE 11.3 Interaction between temperament and 85 discipline in the prediction of parent-rated guilt.

“Social Development” by Ross D. Parke, Glenn I. Roisman, Amanda J. Rose
from Social Development
by Ross D. Parke, Glenn I. Roisman, Amanda J. Rose
Wiley, 2019

Another look at this interaction of child temperament and parenting practices is shown in correlational studies aimed at revealing the extent to which temperament effects are moderated by parenting.

“Functional Analysis in Clinical Treatment” by Peter Sturmey
from Functional Analysis in Clinical Treatment
by Peter Sturmey
Elsevier Science, 2011

Although this parenting paradigm accurately describes the participants in these studies, it fails to include a parenting style emphasizing strict control and obedience combined with warm and responsive parent–child emotional relationships.

“Attachment Processes in Couple and Family Therapy” by Susan M. Johnson, Valerie E. Whiffen
from Attachment Processes in Couple and Family Therapy
by Susan M. Johnson, Valerie E. Whiffen
Guilford Publications, 2003

Temperament and parental styles as predictors of ruminative brooding and worry.

“Handbook of Emotional Development” by Vanessa LoBue, Koraly Pérez-Edgar, Kristin A. Buss
from Handbook of Emotional Development
by Vanessa LoBue, Koraly Pérez-Edgar, Kristin A. Buss
Springer International Publishing, 2019

Toddlers’ temperament profiles: Stability and relations to negative and positive parenting.

“Affect Regulation Training: A Practitioners' Manual” by Matthias Berking, Brian Whitley
from Affect Regulation Training: A Practitioners’ Manual
by Matthias Berking, Brian Whitley
Springer New York, 2014

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  • This is really helpful. I was raised by my mom (who I can see as possibly a narcissist/narcissism but I already moved on from the pain) and she makes me feel that we should fight in a pointless argument and make me feel that mistakes is the worse thing that could happen. It affects how I treated people before when I was in high school. Like pointing on small things that is not so important. But somehow thanks for the universe that I already have self awareness.

    Self awareness is powerful and it makes you bloom into a good person as you wish to be and to be the right people for the people who also loves you.

    But I feel that somehow I need to educate myself to be a good parent in the future. Hopefully.

  • I am watching this not because I plan to have kids (I already know I’d be a horrible parent). But I beat up my younger brother a lot from ages 2-4 (I was 12-14). I would try to restrain myself but I was always tempted to torture him and sometimes I would lose control… I think it’s because I always feel threatened around my parents and other adults so I needed to get back at the world somehow. Sure enough, he is 8 now, his school gave an online presentation on believing in yourself. I overheard my mom talking to my dad about this while I wasn’t in the room, she said that my little brother confessed he still doesn’t believe in himself. She didn’t seem particularly alarmed, and my dad responded with an “aww”, not in a sad or disappointed way, in the endearing way, like he was reacting to a cute pet video. But I think I broke his heart… and mine too, because I still cry about it now, even though it has been weeks. My little brother has always thrown temper tantrums a lot and really dislikes his parents, when he is mad he will tell them he hates his family and tries to hurt his parents. I think we will both be haunted by persistent depression… genetics and situation are very similar.:(

  • This video perpetuates the stigma against homeschool and acts as if it’s inherently not social when that’s not true. Also you mentioned really important things in your how your attachment style affects your relationships when it came to parenting. I found that interesting and I wish kinda it was mentioned and explored more here.

  • I can’t relate to any of this cos my parents barely even interacted with me.:\ I feel like she’s discussing a pretty upper-class upbringing between her and her peers. Although I think she’s right that micromanaging kids is detrimental.

  • I’m so happy that you spoke about this. I have one question about this Topic: Is there a way you can not raise your child, the way your parent did, because it could have might hurt them. If I ever will have kids when I grow up, I want to raise them the right way. Thanks in advance! ❤

  • Claiming that Homeschooling a child leads to isolation and antisocial children is not only incorrect but irresponsible. If you’re going to educate the public, first make sure you educate yourself.

  • I’m almost 21 and I still live at home and probably will until I graduate from college in about three years. My parents are BEYOND helicopter parents. I have to “sneak” to hang out with people good people. My parents are VERY strict about where I am and who I hang out with. If only I could afford to move out. It makes me so damn depressed.

  • Just her bragging about how good her parents are. doesn’t mention Baumrind’s parenting styles (authoritative | autocratic | permissive) or Macroby and Martin’s 4th style of Uninvolved parenting. interesting for hobby listening but not acedemically.

  • I hate it when people say that homeschooling makes children less social. I read a lot about homeschooling and unschooling, and I can say that institutionalization making children more social is a total and toxic myth. It’s like saying that killer whales learn more social skills at Sea World rather than in nature.

  • I had a terrible childhood and though I didn’t want to become like the person that gave birth to m, I realized that it was in me. I’ve had to work hard on myself and happy to say, thanks to awareness, I’m completely different and far calmer.

  • A lot of this resonates. I won’t go into details but growing up you think it’s just normal, it’s only when you meet people at work etc that you find out how wrong everything was. I was scared to have a child thinking I would perpetuate what happened to me but thankfully I didn’t. My daughter is the most special person in my life and love her to bits. She’s probably the only person I truly love & trust. Thinking back it was probably the way my parents were brought up and they just did the same with all of us (four kids) We all grew up wrong in some way or other.

  • tw // child abuse, physical abuse

    my grandma beat her children for years. until my dad understood that when he stops reacting (screaming, crying, anything) then she stops too. he was around 7 and 50 years after he still haven’t reacted, he never expresses his feelings, no one never knows how he deeply feel, he never ever talks about himself taking it as a joke when we ask him. he found how to stop being abused as a child, but we grew up without feelings? i’m so sad, i hope that one day maybe, he will feel the need to talk with a therapist…

  • You don’t have to do everything your parents did. My childhood was horrible, I have a daughter now and I work really hard to give her all of that what I didn’t had. And things that I liked from my childhood, I try to give her that too. My parents never went out with me to go somewhere, but with my daughter, we go nearly every day somewhere. Also I am much more softer to her, I don’t scream at her, I explain it to her in a soft voice. Of course I’m angry sometimes, but that happens very rarely actually. So if she is crying, I definately don’t try to make it worse and try to reseanable with her, even if she is not even 3, and it works. I often felt neglected when I was a child, so I really work hard for my daughters childhood

  • He will abuse his child because that’s all he knows
    Or
    He would never abuse his child because he knows what it’s like and that can break the cycle

  • Every second video on this channel makes me cry. I see that something is wrong with me. But they won’t help. They never helped me. When I ask for help, they’re not even listening.
    Please help me.
    I don’t know what to do, and where to go.
    I can’t handle it myself.

  • What everyone seems to be afraid to mention is that children don’t have to stay with their parents from the time that they can get up and crawl. Anyone will take a child into their arms and care for them because their irresistible and no one can give up the opportunity to care for a child. They should go to only the ones that love the most. Even if a child was one years old and crawled right out their parents front door there would be someone to take care of them. There would be no caveats or restrictions other than the ones that capitalists place upon a child rearing and the current fascitisation we are seeing.

  • my mom was abused and that she was a bit abusvie but stopped at 5th grade and my dad is like the last one he does the exact reverse of what his parents did like he’s very overprotective

  • Let us think and, most importantly, feel that there is no “recipe” for parenting. No matter how good/bad (there is no such terminology anyway!) we were treated, no matter how good/bad we treat our children, this will ALWAYS be the human “mechanism” of existence: as young humans to acquire behavioral patterns and “traumas” that will affect our path in life. No one can escape the path, no one can pretend they have skipped it! So, let’s take it easy and just try to do “the work” of abandoning the ego-self, and there will we be, more “ready” to be parents! Love to everybody!

  • Can you please make a video about Body Dysmorphic Disorder. ��Thank you in advance..
    PS. thank you for helping with everyone’s mental health. Finding this channel is a blessing��

  • I’m greatful for this video. When I was younger I was under the impression I wasn’t raised and vowed that when I have kids I’d be more involved, this was the warning I’m glad I had the opportunity to obtain.

  • But employers do reward people for doing a task that was expected of them. This reward is you get paid or even sometimes get a raise. Lol

    I came here for facts but instead I got this young ladies life experiences and opinions.

  • Only Jesus can truly satisfy, everything else are just wells that run dry; in Him we have purpose, in Him we find love and comfort and such a great Father, Friend, Savior. He died to save us all, believe in Him today, He is the Way the Truth and the Life and no one comes to the Father but by Him. For all have fallen Short of the glory of God, there is none that does good, No not one.With the heart one believes unto righteousness and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him shall not perish but have everlasting life ��������

  • I would love to be a mother, but I’m extremely scared about too. I could not forgive myself if I was the cause of my children’s pain

  • I know and understand how and why these childhood traumas can lead to such parenting cycles, I respectively have to say that I personally disagree. Plus as a child who has alot of traumatic memories/experiences (meaning most and more of the childhood struggles shown in this video), when you finally escape the situations it’s really insensitive and disrespectful for someone to say that you’ll turn into your abuser or date someone who abuses you. Whenever people say things like this a part of me metaphorically criples. Its like someone saying that since you were hurt alot before there is no escape from it. As a child who has been abused and bullies (physically and emotionally) I personally show more kindness/compassion/selflessness which leads to me putting others first no matter how I feel. Because I don’t want anyone to go through what I’ve had to, I want them to be safe and happy not petrified for their life every darn second. Though due to that I never really think of myself and the others around me have to make sure that I’m taking care of my own needs and necessities which makes me more of a burden, so no matter what I do I’m just a bunch of worthless trash. So please, please understand and realize how saying that really hurts us…

  • Imma just say it now, I’m super glad my parents homeschooled me.
    I’m glad I was 17 when I had to start dealing with petty drama and social standers, didn’t have to deal with as much with everyone’s bs. ��

  • Hm I can’t really tell if my parents are really bad or I’m bad and I’m looks for a piece of advice they seem to act all loving on the outside they give me hugs and try to make up for past actions (Making fun of me while I was in a eating disorder phase) they seem to get mad when I don’t accept there hugs and just turn away and then act like nothing happen the next day I don’t know what I should do

  • I’m really scared,that I’m gonna raise my children in the abusive way,that my parents did to me. So I decided not to have kids at all,that will be the best way for me:c

  • I know that I’m not going to repeat the failures of my parents and I’m sure a lot of people watching will agree with this comment. Hell, mine raised me to feel like a soldier in a war zone. Whether they know it or not, they made my life a nightmare and I can’t trust them at all. For a while I was oblivious until it was pointed out by my current girlfriend. Once I move out, I’m not letting them or any family for a while bear me for a while.