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How Positive Attention Helps Children. When kids receive regular doses of healthy, positive attention, they reduce their attention-seeking behaviors. Kids are less likely to whine, ask the same question over and over, or start poking at their sibling when they’ve been given regular doses of positive attention. Another way to ward off the attention-seeking behavior of non-compliance was to give your child daily doses of positive attention. Play a game together, spend time talking, or go for a walk.

Just a few minutes of positive attention can go a long way to reducing defiance. Many students with attention problems have trouble falling asleep at night. It is helpful for them to have an established routine for going to bed at night. For example, they could read a book or have a book read to them. They can engage in stretching exercises before getting in.

You can reduce unwanted attention seeking behaviors by focusing on your child’s needs for unconditional love and connection. Children feel a true sense of connection when parents slow down and take the time to be with their child, in their world. Positive feedback emphasizes good behavior. It teaches children to think. Punishment draws attention to misbehavior.

Positive feedback increases motivation. Punishment can have a negative effect on motivation. Positive feedback creates feelings of success. Punishment can cause children to feel like failures.

Positive reinforcement When a child with attention or behavior problems has a tendency to run away from parents or bolt away, there is a real safety concern. Given a large crowd of people or a busy street, safety is priority. The above strategies should be used in safer conditions.

IF BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS OCCUR: Ignore them and do not give the individual attention until he has communicated–either with prompting or independently–that he wants your attention.Ignoring the behavior can be done by quietly redirecting the child if they are in danger of hurting themselves or others, without mentioning the behavior or talking to them about it. When you reinforce your child’s good choices with positive attention, he is more likely to make good choices in the future and engage in less attention-seeking behavior. One of the most effective responses to an attention-seeking behavior is ignoring the behavior. Positive interactions might include focused, specific praise, non-verbal exchanges (e.g., smile or ‘thumbs-up’ from across the room), or even an encouraging note written on the student’s homework assignment.

These positive interactions are brief and can often be. BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS. What steps can be followed to resolve a child’s constant mis behavior? 1. If possible, meet with the child and describe in exact terms the behavior you find unacceptable in the classroom.

2. During the discussion, explain the reason(s) why you find the behavior unacceptable. 3.

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Increasing positive behavior may help reduce negative behavior because the student receives more feedback and attention.

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others, even when theoretically “negative”, can serve to increase the frequency of the learners attention-seeking behavior.

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For example, to decrease attention-maintained behavior, one might deliver attention every 5 minutes.

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A second way to increase a behavior is by applying negative reinforcement after a response is made.

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Positive reinforcement increases the frequency of a behaviour by following the behaviour with a favourable event (e.g. praising a child for excellent school performance).

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For example, the positive reinforcement of parental attention will increase positive child behavior, whether that behavior reflects assertiveness or cooperation (Chase & Eyberg, 2008).

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Positive behavior support approaches focus on creating positive learning environments and teaching alternative ways of behaving.

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The child is rewarded by the attention and therefore continues or even increases the negative behavior, although the teacher may not realize (at least at first) that the attentive behaviors are rewarding him.

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However, even when they want to increase a behavior (e.g., homework completion, interacting nicely with one’s sibling), the strategy is invariably the same: Develop contingencies that reinforce positive, prosocial behavior.

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• Effective behavior modification: positive behaviors are encouraged and repeated if they result in a pleasurable outcome.

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  • Thank you so much for these wonderful videos! My 8 year old son improved drastically today after I applied methods from watching your videos. He apologized and cried to me about his behaviors and I accepted and said it’s a new day and it’s okay now as we’re both changing for the better. I was at a complete loss before seeing these videos. Time-outs, yelling, making faces, taking toys away, and taking away privileges never worked! He got more resentful and angry. Today was truly a breakthrough! 

  • My 5 years old boy take from
    1to 2 hrs to finish his lunch or dinner or breakfast. My son after 7 spoons of food says he is full, so I have give less food. I thought maybe will help but still taking up still 2 hrs. I only cook one meal everybody. Any advice thanks

  • Thank u so much. I am a mother of 2 year old son and I am really worried about his behavior. He is getting stubborn and when he starts to cry he cries for 1 hour literally. I am worried because I want to raise him right. I need guidance. Please help.

  • Fantastic ��.. we have 2 ears and 1 mouth.. use them proportionately. You never cease to teach me new things, thank you!!! At the end you mentioned “rant, rave, rescue” can you tell me which videos you go into detail on those? Thank you again and God bless!! ��

  • The kids I’m babysitting are being so annoying right now they aren’t getting off the iPad and even when they do they refuse to do anything but wrestle and hurt each other and me, I’m only ten but I need this

  • What you call empowering there choice to me seems like a sick and twisted mind game. Of course he’d want a straight answer from you. Your giving him the illusion of power. Your tricking him. Of course he doesn’t have a choice, he ether go’s and disobeys you or stays confused/conflicted on whether he should have gone.

    If you would have outright told him he couldn’t go at least he’d have a tangible reason why. Now he has himself to blame for not going, despite your reassurances that the “power” is in his hands. Now Instead of battling you (the father) he’s battling himself, inner conflict is the worst type of conflict. It’s much easier to accept the outcome of something when it’s not in your control, if he’s anything like me he’d be laying in bed every his for a few days thinking what if.

    Would you want to risk your child developing this manipulative tactic they learn from there father and use it in his own life? It’s called a double bind, you control the outcome and both opinions are bad. You give the illusion of choice but you control the opinions all along.

    Horrible, horrible people use this trick, abusers, cheaters, liers, manipulaters, antisocial people, bullys, the list go’s on and one.

  • Other than take internet off them, I don’t really know what else, as they don’t go anywhere with the pandemic and I don’t get pocket money so kinda stuck in what other things to think of? ����‍♀️

  • So what do I do with my stepdaughter who is always angry about her school or friends and let’s it out on me by ignoring me at times?

  • 1. Stay calm, keep breathing.
    2. Remember what you control.
    3. Empower what the kids control, honor their choice.
    4. Listen.
    5. Use empathy rather than anger.

  • Not sure how we are ever going to learn from each other if we are not willing to see other people’s experience as valid and meaningful.  How can you say piss poor parenting?  She has called in an expert to help!  Food as a reward or food as a motivator….you have to start somewhere.  The parameters of reinforcement say you meet them where they are at.  If they are motivated by food, fine.  Work toward intrinsic rewards, but START SOMEWHERE.  Drives me batty to hear people tear apart solutions without understanding the problem.  ODD is not a result of bad parenting.

  • the people shaming have no no no clue how horrible ODD is. I’m literally at my wits end. I cry every day. I’m trying to find her a good Christian therapist as of now..

  • ” If you want to eat dinner, make your bed”…?? The last time I thought eating was a necessity and not a “privilege”?….Why not be smarter and teach something that actually goes…for instance…not making the bed? No video games.

  • my 3 year old does not respond to time-out or spanking or punishment. I have to guide her and redirect her emotions too. I also use trading: candy for potty. Park later for nap time..hope she learns to be structured. I just got her about 2 months ago.

  • Stubborn kids are possessed by a demon. They need deliverance instead of lying. I have seen many manifesting unclean spirits confessing theirs evil doings in the life of someone.

  • Can u just help me as to how to deal with stubborn and aggressive teen who hits her mom pathetically when not getting wat she wants and misbehaving too at the same time using slang.

  • My two adult kids knew that I was the mother and what I said was the rule. There were swats on the bottom, I would not tolerate disrespect with myself or those of authority. As an educator, I am limited to what can be done to children, one of my students that screams ODD was removed from my class by 4 teachers kicking and screaming, then when he got home his mother purchased him concert tickets if he promised to behave. Since he was rewarded for his bad behavior he came back just as defiant as he was before. My mother would have tanned my hide and I would have known better. Cant wait to retire

  • I need help. My brother 18 yrs old is in love and in a realtionship. And my parents especially my mother wishes him to study.so, she met the girl and their parents in order to control her son. He doesn’t listen to anybody and hates mom. What do we do now in such a situation being an elder daughter of the family. I am worried, I understand both situations but i am unable to control both. Help pls

  • The reason why teens and children are stubborn:
    4th grader me: Can I have a phone.
    Parents: When you are in high school. ��
    5 years later
    9th grader me: Can I have a phone.
    Parents: uhhhhh fine ����
    4th grader sister: Can I have a phone?��
    Parents: Sure thing����
    Me: What that’s so not fair.����
    Parents: Shut up other wise imma take your phone and it will be you sister’s new phone��
    Me: ������

  • Get back to old school parenting! You are in charge not the child. Dont give in to them or bribe them. You are teaching them that they are the boss.

  • My four year old says he doesn’t want to brush his teeth until one of them fall out, lol! He is so stubborn he says all the time we wants what he wants and doesn’t want what he doesn’t want. I appreciate the tips!! He’s a work in progress. He also has a high IQ for his age. Talks non-stop and has to be constantly entertained. Ahh, ha ha!

  • hey,if anyone else wants to discover how to talk to your child try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy ( search on google )? Ive heard some super things about it and my work buddy got amazing success with it.

  • Certainly several very useful strategies demonstrated in this video.  I wonder if there is a better way to prepare the kids for an enjoyable dinnerone that does not require sitting on the couch followed by sitting at the dinner table.  I suspect even well-functioning adults might take issue with so much sitting before the dinner service.  As I watched the kids sit (twice) before dinner, I got the sense that this process was awfully controlling.  What might happen if dinner was served for everybody who was ready to enjoy a pleasant meal?  Anybody who chooses not to be ready can enjoy dinner later.  The consequence is twofold.  First, the child is not able to join the family for dinner.  Second, dinner is likely to get cold.  This approach offers choices and logical consequences that does not involve so much effort to control behavior.  Offer copious praise for the kids who choose to enjoy a pleasant meal with the family.  Just a thought.

  • I remember my DAD if I asked can I go to the party he responce it’s up to you that is not what I expect him to say on the end I choose not to go hahahA

  • I was taught by a genius with discipline. And on days that someone was “acting up or out” he would say “hey let’s get pizza tonight?” And the child who misbehaved, was told “Oh no, earlier you told me by your behavior you didn’t want Pizza. It was simple and never even had to be completely followed through with. The fear of pizza deprivation was enough!

  • OH MAN, THIS VIDEO IS FOR ME. The one thing that helps the most with my toddler is speaking calmly to him (as calm as I can be) and explaining to him the reasoning behind what I’m telling/asking him to do. The other thing that works is that when he wants to keep saying no when i speak calmly, I raise my intonation (not necesarily my volume) and he gets kind of ‘woken up’ and accepts what I say. The other thing is that I’m teaching him to count from 1 to 10 when he gets agitated, we do it together and then I ask him if he feels calm:)

    Your videos have helped us tremendously, kudos and blessings to you and your work team.

  • you are contradicting your own statements. you give someone 2 choices both of which are acceptable to you as a parent. in the party case, technically you are not okay with them going. if you acknowledge that they could go, it also means, you are mature enough to accept that choice without being passive aggressive or sulking if they did pick that choice. if picking a choice you do not agree with has a consequence that feels a little manipulative to me.

  • Do children with ODD have ‘meltdowns’ similar to those with ASD? Can children with ODD be reasoned with? I have been told my daughter may have this, but I’m not too sure. The behaviours fit, but I think the motivation for the behaviour isn’t the same as ODD. She cannot be reasoned with, and telling her she can eat when she has made her bed would result in several things, none of them being her making her bed. Even were I to win one battle, it does not have a long term effect on her behaviour we would just go through the same each day, without making any actual progress towards better choices.

  • and what if they dont wanna do the bed nor have dinner? should we let them starve? or should we give them something small?? even when u ask them again do the bed and they dont do it… what should we do next?

  • One issue I have is regulating emotion. Your number 1 tip is very hard for me and my husband, “your child can’t regulate your emotions, but you can”; we both have adhd. We follow the line for a few days then everything begins to slip without realising. Our daughter is also adhd..surprise surprise.

  • I just found this channel and many issues or behavior mentioned/explained/pointed-out I recognize in our day-to-day life. We have rarely that things escalate, but I would like to still improve the way we communicate and handle situations better. However, I feel most of the tips and do/donts is for older children. My oldest is just 3 and I think most of the advice I can’t use yet, as she is mentally not in a state where she can comprehend and think it through. Do you have a playlist (I didn’t find one regarding age) or some kind of keyword when going through your videos, on which one can find only the one for younger children? Often the title speaks to what I want to improve and then I end up with advice for children of age 6 or older.
    Thank you for those videos! I have started watching 1 or 2 every day and hope the advice/tips will come to me when the situation calls for it!

  • This is some what a help for us. Unfortunately it sometimes is so hard to keep going on this way if your child doesn’t care howmuch there is on the plate. if we give him more because he wants less, it will turn in a fit. If we would give him less like the video we would make a fit for that. in every way we tried. diner, toys, to choose to play outside, inside, on his room or pcgames. it helps for a few days.. I guess our boy is a bit moer stubborn? or a bit more in his own way of going. Still though, this way is our way of rayising our kids, it helps the most but not allways

  • Staying calm and taking a deep breath… instead of reacting. Taking a deep breath can help us manage our emotions and find a better way to deal with them…great video!:)

  • my third daughter get up every morning angry she never wants to get up get ready for school i don’t know what to do don’t know when she grow up:( mother of 4 kids plus dealing with their Stubborn child so hard.

  • Love that I stumbled across your channel. Can you please do a similar video where you focus on toddler tantrums? I’m sure many of the same rules apply, but I find that some of these tips are better suited for older kids/teens. Would love to understand how to better handle my 2.5yo not listening/being defiant/having total meltdowns. Very stressful! And with another baby on the way, I’m panicking a little. Thank you!

  • These videos have helped me so much ♥️ I was raised by a narcissistic pastor and I literally have no idea how to empathize with my kids. All I ever heard growing up was basically “Stop feeling that negative stuff; you’re making me look bad.” So….thank you for these videos. Day by day, moment by moment, I’m finding my way through this parenting journey.

  • Thank you so much for putting all this time and effort into this channel and making such compact, comprehensive and high-quality knowledge available for us, you make me feel confident and secure as a soon to be mom:) Keeping the three stages of maturity in mind, I was wondering what you think of Montessori’s approach, especially her views on independence? I would really appreciate it if you could share your point of view. Greetings from Turkey, Esra.

  • Yo have a little girl tha is having a temper tantrum, I like to see if you can deal with a 9,10 11 or 13 year old that throw things, curse etc. And you can’t trick into calm down

  • I smile now when I lay down the law so to speak, and he cant stand it and gets worried very worried. haha I love it! you have been a help. now again can we please do a video on how to stop older kid from tantruming, a.k.m.throwing a hudge screaming fit. please?

  • Please explain giving examples more often. Sometimes I watch the videos but don’t know to implement your teachings. Thank you for your channel.

  • But coming from a person who HAD this disorder, these tactics would not have worked on me. I could help those wanting to stop their kids from acting out.

    1. Do not hold things over them, like privileges. I’d resent you and find a way to make you suffer. Sorry, but if you do that, it probably will end with you in mental or physical pain.

    2. Don’t raise your voice. We see that as a challenge/threat. Speak normally, and maybe as if you don’t care. (But sometimes lack of a reaction might make your kid want a reaction. So it’s 50/50 on that one, at least depending on the kid. Just do not respond negatively in any way. Think of your child like a wild animal. You won’t get far if you go up to a pack of wolves and challenge them. Not to mention, do not corner your child! Ever! Don’t make them feel like they need to act aggressive to scare you off. I know this well. Cornering them gives them anxiety and can produce a greater freak out. Or they will face mental exhaustion, which can bring about depression. Do not do it.

    3. Working for things. Don’t connect behaviour with privileges. Have them physically work for something. Say “If you clean your room, ask for something and I’ll reward you with it.” Or even say you’ll pay them. That shit works. At least for me it would have. All my mom did was scream at me to do something without a reward. I get that this is what life is now, you need to do things without much reward in general…but for a child, this creates good work ethic. It also gives them purpose in a way. (I hadn’t watched the whole video. The bed part mightttt have worked for me. But sitting quietly, being told to do that might have made me angry. For me, I’d already worked for the reward. For listening previously, I should already have been given extra for having done what I was told to do. This would involve something along the same lines of reward—another reward all together. Like dessert.)

    4. Make lists! Ask them what they would like to do that day (fun wise). And then add some chores in. Be like “Let’s do this in order and we’ll highlight everything as we complete them.” The child won’t even realize they’re doing much chores. It’s like on The Office where Pam made that chore wheel. It’s the psychology of it and the feel of rewards that will make it a success.

    5. Goes back to #1. Food is not a privilege, it should be a right. You threatening no dinner is abusive. They wont die from a day without food, but it is your job as a parent to take care of your child. Withholding food is abusive and also has given me psychological trauma. My mom would take my food and either eat it, or give it to my sister. I still have a bad issue with food, and if anyone steals my food, even a bite, I get soooooooo mad. Not only did I grow up poor, but the only food I really had she’d take away. I constantly feel like my food is going to be taken. If she threatened no food, I would say “well, looks like you don’t want me to eat anymore. I guess I’ll stop eating from today onwards.” DO NOT DO IT IF YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO STARVE THEMSELVES OUT OF SPITE.

    6. NO ULTIMATUMS. You might be threatened if you do. Seriously.

    7. No humiliation at home or in public. Creates insecurity.

  • The guide is not only for parents to learn how to behave and discipline their child, but also for the kids to observe their parents who’s changing the way how to handle them.
    I believe it’s a good start! for both of them. Thank you for sharing this video!

  • My son is 18 years and does not talk with his father neither thus my husband too, this has being going on for almost seven months now. I am between the two and now becoming frustrated, I think my husband is more of the issue here, pls help me with your advice, thanks.

  • I want to train my 7 year old to express her emotions so they wont get stored up, I was not a good parent at the beginning and I want her to know that she’s still loved, I had anger issues and dont want her to inherit these patterns…. sometimes I do yell but than appologise later, please help.. Thank you for your great channel

  • I needed this video so bad. I have three wonderfully stubborn children and all of these steps I failed at lately but boy I needed this. Thank you so much for this video.

  • Oh Dr. Paul….my sweet grand daughter who is 3-1/2 has turned into an impossible child!!!! There is no talking to her and no putting her into time out because she will not stay! She gets out of control over the smallest thing. We try ignoring and going into another room but she follows. We are so frustrated and don’t know what to do. She started school a few weeks ago and we think that’s a big part of it. It’s to the point of letting her have her way rather than a huge fight. We’re at wits end and just don’t know where to turn with this….we tried the calm talking but that does not work. HELP!!!

  • we recently have adopted our niece and nephew. she is 7 he us almost 11 and they are almost impossible. we are trying every thing. I believe they are both ODD and ADHD along with just having alot of issues from lack of parenting and all the emotional and verbal abuse they have endured. they will be starting counseling soon. it is very hard to deal with but we love them and we are trying to save them.

  • Thank you! This really helps! I have six children, one of which is very stubborn. I have found that hugs really make him feel better. Sometimes when he is disrespectful, I have him go to the garage and cool off. When he is ready to come back in, he has to hug me and say he is sorry. The hug seems to soften his heart. He then will typically open up to me and talk with me about what is truly going on. I tell my kids, everything is negotiable in life. For instance, we must clean the house together, but if they prefer to clean a certain portion of the house, if they want my help with certain parts, if they need to do it at a certain time, we can negotiate these things no problem. I just need to know. I also routinely let my kids know that I cant wait to come home to see them because it is the best part of my day. It is never my goal to fight with them. I want to get along. We are a team. This also seems to help with the stubbornness. Thanks again for all of your help! You always give me pointers that help me so much!

  • My 3-year-old daughter has always had and still has tantrum episodes every single day. It’s humiliating. Bedtime is so stressful EVERY DAY! And this is not the only time she is out of control. I have tried it all; routine, stories, positive reinforcement, games, etc., still, nothing works. We can’t figure it out… We would appreciate your input… I’m all ears!!! Thanks!!!

  • This technique is excellent to be applied at home too….or anywhere….patience..they are also learning by observing everyone…

  • When you say on a cue like what do you mean I’m trying to follow the video but it doesn’t make sense and plus I’m a student taking a childcare course at CCBC

  • i wish being an adult would automatically mean one is always in control of their own emotions. if my little boy cries and complains long enough, i get very upset too. firstly because it stresses me a lot and secondly i get sad when the lil guy is sad too:( sometimes it’s hard to say to yourself “this is for the greater good”.
    but thanks a lot for reminding me. i’ll try to better myself!

  • Having worked in a facility of children with ADHD and ODD, this is literally what we do. These behaviors are scary and yes the children will hit and break and destroy walls. But if you don’t want your child to be in medication to control behavior, this is a long and hard way to control a child that is unable to understand their own behavior. While many will have different levels of aggression, be aware that if it becomes dangerous, you should seek help.

  • Well today to be a teacher and orginize full class behavior in psychologically correct way towards childs brain and feelings You need a stainless steel nerves and…eggs.
    I would suggest rise wages for teachers to keep them motovated.

  • You would have less behavioral problems if you the ocse didnt remove the father from their lives and charge ridiculous payments so ocse and the counties can recieve federal incentive payments

  • what if your son would have chosen to go the party? how would you react, would you regard that choice too? or what would be the consequences?

  • I am worried though. This was brilliant, but what happens when you and Tom leave? Was it effective enough for these quiet dinners and obeyed bedtimes to continue?

  • Yes absolutely Agree Doctor… I myself have tried this in the past and miraculously it worked and it sure does. It’s just that we as parents need to be in control of our negative emotions all the time. The moment we lose control of ourselves, we lose it and that’s what has happened with me too. So it’s a conscious effort and work on our part to be more able to first work on ourselves and take control of the situation. Excellent video as usual. Thanks a ton for sharing it��������

  • The “gentle touch” could still look threatening to some parents or children even if its used by the teacher in a manner that is meant to gently redirect. The is the generation of sensitive helicopter parents and children, trust me.

  • What about a child who is aggressive and likes to pretend to shoot at people? This child has been moved several times to different schools, and he ended up in our classroom. Child punched another student in her face. Please help.

  • I sent my kid just turned 3 to the blended pre school nearby in USA. Almost all teachers were polite and kind. I was very curious and see group app pics that day to see how my kid was doing. All kids pics except my kid.i asked teacher where is my kid and whether my kid is ok. Teacher said it is kids responsible to come and sit. Also she secretly bullied me called me names hungry ladybug.also next day holloween craft she cut like a middle finger paste on paper and draw “U” in the border and make my kid to hold with that picture while other kids holding pumpkin photos and posted on group app. After she abused my innocent kid like that and She set my kids iPad password as “sheep”. She insulted me in the field trip.
    Point is I am old and smart enough to know I was being bullied by a racist psycho teacher..
    Even tho other teachers are polite and kind, and not aware of knowing this.I stopped my kids school and homeschooling my kid. I am typing this to lighten my heart.
    The terrible thing is other kind teachers might not know the truth or wrongly informed. It is always good to hear the two part of story and decide. For example. If a person point out an apple and say it is a pear, no one is fool enough to believe it blindly. At least they use their own conscious to just see it.
    One thing is for sure. If only the head is straight, then a tail will be going in a right direction. If a head itself in a wrong direction, then the tail will be in wrong direction inevitably. Even though I like to send my kid to free school, I am really scared. Becoz of some gossiping teachers,this incident affected my other kid who is in same district connected school.where her class teacher keep giving her whole month lunch detentions for no good reason in the end of year and mentally torture her. In repot card she put ( Positive relationship with school-NA means not improved ) Mental abuse of the kid by a teacher to take on their parents is also a sin. Poisoning other good teachers by gossiping is the disgusting behavior. Point is, if someone gossip, it is foolish to believe it right away.and take revenge on innocent souls. Everyone must understand. Plz don’t think just becoz you have power, you can do anything you want and no one is watching.
    I 100% know there is GOD and he is watching and waiting for the right time to teach a lesson to the vengeful ones. Thank you

  • Lovely Video clip! Forgive me for chiming in, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you heard about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is an awesome one off product for becoming an excellent parent without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my cooworker got amazing results with it.

  • I’m an adult who progressed from one of these.. so a big tip.. sit quietly and allow us to hear us with ourself. Chest to chest hugs. If i hit you. Tap back for physical awareness and affects of it.. then hug more with nurturing… Because you turned you heads and they felt neglected which caused a disrupted identity.. it was inevitable for my case.

  • My sister is so much worse, she hasn’t been diagnosed with anything but I know she has a problem. My parents don’t think she has any problems.

  • EXACTLY! ignoring could be the new cure to most of these illnesses some try to insert it on oneself life,i do it so much that i evolved in it i started to automatically unsee any thing/one that doesnt serves me.��

  • Great program. I loved how it really improved the children’s attitude without punishment, but instead just showing them what is expected/ acceptable form of behavior. Lovely.

  • How do these kids have ODD? Who was diagnosed? So my sister’s kid loves to eat…he would just start screaming and throw insults if this happened. Then his grandma would make him dinner upstairs or else he would start screaming at the elderly. He curses and throws things. I don’t see ODD here…just a little girl who screams a lot. My nephew won’t clean the dishes or go to school without getting into a physical altercation first. I was tasked with getting him on the small bus in the am until I told her I couldn’t take it anymore. That is ODD..these are normal kids. Or are we missing the full story?

  • Thank you for posting this. Its really useful to SEE examples rather than somebody just tell the camera ‘what you gotta do is…’. Keep-up the good work!

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  • U can manage to ignore it as a parent, but if the kid acts to seek other adults attention u cant manage their reaction -to ignore them

  • Dealing with a friend like this and feel sorry for her but as someone with my own mental illness, I cannot prioritize someone else’s health over mine

  • It’s funny, because for our kid it seems to be a game. She has some tricks, which eventually don’t work as expected because dad learns new tricks from Dr. Paul. But then she tries something else. One can actually see when she is adapting her strategy. So there are times when she wins the first second, e.g. I quickly respond as she has planned. I am very happy to have such a creative two year old. But in the evening, when I remember that cute but evil grin that she even tries to hide when she got what she wanted, I feel like I can respond better in the first second. So I would be very happy to know your advice, on how one can skip the unconscious reaction in the first second, so one can breathe consciously.

  • Riiiight…. kid only eats carrots and gives no fucks, then what? Isn’t removing steak and eggs off the menu loss of privellige, or is it teaching food as reward future eating disorder. Yeah obviously positive role modeling and guidance is helpful, sometimes though your kid is anxious about who knows what and is a complete asshole for weeks. I wouldn’t write this all off, but I’d take it with a grain of salt

  • I see alot of comments about the negativity of this video. I hope that all of you have an ADHD child with ODD so you can understand if you are commenting. I have a 7 year old who is so disruptive we cannot even take her anywhere. I am not aloud to speak to her unless she wants me to or we will have a full on war ALL day, the list is endless. Everything I do or say she finds a problem with and has a tantrum. I even told her I talked to my sister today and she threw a HUGE fit because I wasn’t suppose to tell her that. I’m not kidding when I say EVERYTHING!!! This guy is NOT saying to use food as a weapon, but rather give them a dinner of value (goodness, not amount) depending on how well they do. My children are spoiled and if you ask them what they want for dinner it will be ribeyes or an expensive restaurant etc. We are not by any means rich but I make a pretty good meal of a meat, starch and vegetable almost every night. We have tried taking away video games and tv etc as a punishment and it doesn’t work. Then they act even worse! Trying to get my daughter to do her homework without a fight is an every day challenge so I used something that I recently saw on another site and she just looked at me with a blank look and didn’t know what to do. I tend to get emotional which I know is wrong, but it’s hard when you deal with this type of behavior every minute they are awake. I calming looked at her and said “do it, or don’t do it”. I gave her a choice hoping that she would make the right decision and letting her know (in not so many words) that it was NOT up to me to complete the assignment and I didn’t care. She would be explaining to her teacher why she didn’t do it. I thought they were crazy by using this and was in shock when it worked. She looked at me for a minute, but I just said it while looking her in the eyes and remained calm and then went about what I was doing. She didn’t respond with any words but she completed the assignment without another argument. When she had me review it for mistakes I told her of a couple, which normally would not go over well either, and she just looked at me while I explained and then fixed them. It was a child I didn’t even recognize! So, each child is different with what they respond to and this suggestion is only a temporary fix until you won’t have to do that, they will learn the routine and just do it without having a consequence thrown into the equation. Turning bad behavior into good behavior is not easy and sometimes different techniques have to be tried. I have also learned that my son who is 5 with ADHD, but no defiance like my daughter, has gotten worse since we have introduced him to video games. I hate them but my husband likes to bond with him over playing and now that’s all he thinks about. We don’t allow electronics (TV, Video games, IPAD, etc) during the week with school. It is a rushed week and any extra time is family time. He is up all hours of the night and barely sleeps because he is trying to get a hold of something. I have hidden the video controls, put parental controls on the TV and hidden the IPAD. He still sneaks out of his room hoping to find something and keeps us up all night. So, bottom line is you can’t judge as many people deal with different issues and are at their wits end and willing to try anything. So, if it works great! You might use something for your child that I wouldn’t agree with nor use on my child but it works for you so I won’t criticize. Unless, it is super harsh physical punishment which this is not. Also, we didn’t see what happened behind the scenes before he went in the house. It looks to me like mom was having a hard time with dinner and them all being calm enough to eat without being disruptive so he asked what other thing she would like to see happen and she chose bed making. We have had hard times at dinner as well and sent my daughter to her room until she can return and be calm so we have a nice family dinner. Sometimes it takes a while. So, how is this different? The kids also seemed grateful for what they were served and thanked their mom. I make a great meal and alot of times I get “really? we’re having that?” any other kid would kill for what I make but mine don’t appreciate it. Rant over! lol hope this helped at least one person.

  • Ok people. It’s Postive nor negative response. If this almost like the dog whisper but not using tsst. The food: pack leader eats first because that’s what the pack leader does but the other pack members have to wait calming and patiently for their meals. Other times: if the pack choices to act negative the leader correctly ignores and turn the attention to ones who are acting positive with praise, happiness, love ect. This is important if the leader spins their attention the negative than no one in the pack survives. You they all would die. As soon as the pack who were acting up start acting the way the leader wants to see their forget what happened give out praise, happiness, love ect. never bring it up because you just reinforce the bad behavior.

  • My son had such horrible ODD that he was a danger to himself and us…. and he was five! We were able to get him medicated with Risperidone. Even still we struggle at times. He is a hundred times better, but still has moments. What I have found that works is this:

    Refuses to take his medicine in the morning. I ignore it. I leave it where he can see and get it himself. He won’t. He asks me for something usually breakfast in the morning. I explain I will be happy to do that… as soon as he takes his meds. He knows he is in a no-win, so he complies.

    Not what I would choose for him, but he will continue to learn coping skills.

  • Patient is a virtue. Sometimes you have to wait it out and let the child calm down then have the conversation seems to help me to get them back in focus.

  • I wish there were professionals like him in my country Trinidad and Tobago there is nothing for us with kids with ADHD.or Odd and it very frustrating and that hurt when you have a five year old and doesn’t listen and disruptive

  • Kudos for the Video clip! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a smashing exclusive guide for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my work colleague at last got amazing results with it.

  • Never use food as a motivator, incentive, or reward. Instead, use what they are passionate about. Each child is unique and requires different styles of parenting and motivation. Structure, however, should remain consistent. Stay calm, set expectations, and deliver consequences if needed.

  • What would you suggest for a young child who is not aggressive but will escape every time you try to get them to do homework? I already try using a reward system (if youcomplete this hw, you can play video games for example) and it only works some of the time. The kid does not throw tantrums but will run away from me and cover their ears or pretend to sleep anytime it is homework time. I feel like just letting them not do hw and not give them the reward is allowing them to escape. Is it?

  • i wish i could hit the button a trillion times god bless you for what you do! It takes a lot of work and patience as a parent of a special needs child. i always take something positive from these lessons, Great work!

  • I feel bad for the older kid. He looks fed up of his siblings and of being the example. I hope he gets enough praise for being the way he is otherwise he will learn that there’s no point and rebel eventually.

  • My stepson who is 11 years has ODD. We use a process we call pressured responsibility. For example, to get him to take a shower every morning, on his own without being reminded, we told him that if he chooses not to shower everyday, that responsibility becomes ours (the parents). He decided he was not going to take a show that day, so I took back the responsibility and made him shower several times that day, at my whim. It only took one day of this and the next day he happily chose to make the right decision and started taking his morning shower on his own without being told. We always make very clear what is a punishment and what is actual training to be an adult when he grows up. He has responded very well to this type of parenting.

    He has focus problems and medications are not an option. He was not doing well at school, as he was forgetting his books, pencils and just not present in the classroom. So to help him pay attention to details, get things done in a timely manner, feel accomplished, and be organized, we set in place heavy rules for a clean room. Military style if you will. He had to fold socks, and underwear a certain way (the way i told him) to ensure he can follow directions on a daily basis. His closet was organized by pants and shirts hanging up properly too. Bed was made everyday and that standard was also set with directions and inspection to ensure he was complying. If things were not kept in order by our standards, then the room would be turned out and he would have to put everything back the way he was instructed. I know it sounds exhausting but it worked like a charm. He kept his room in order, with detail and purpose. If he had a bad day at school, which he did alot at first, I told him that everyday when he comes home, he can look at his room and know that he did do something right that day and that tomorrow is a new day.

    With pressured responsibility tactics he has been able to self reflect and modify his behavior. His outbursts of anger and defiance are a distance past. He is self aware of his own behavior and constantly catches himself and puts himself right. He still has a way to go, but he makes progress everyday:)

  • THESE KIDS SHOULD HAVE LEARNT THIS STUFF FROM YOUNG WHY IS THIS BIG CHILD ONLY LEARNING HOW TO MAKE A BED NOW SMH IM DONE WATCHING GOOD LUCK TO ALL U FOLKS WATCHING

  • My nephew has this disorder but since hes a boy it seems worse and he screams and tells his mom how he makes her mad and he wants everything right now and his way and he never wants to sleep

  • One of my biggest issues is the kids fighting 24 hours a day it seems. I have twin boys one has aspergers and the other has o.d.d officially diagnosed. Their younger brother I believe also has o.d.d or aspergers but it is not official yet and they can’t get along to save their lives it is a constant battle. I guess because they are so close in age it’s hard for them to want to do their own thing.

  • Not certain about the points made but,if anyone else trying to find out best toddler parenting books try Loctavan Teaching Toddler Strategy (do a google search )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my colleague got amazing success with it.

  • This is super helpful. I try to read or watch something on positive parenting every day. It’s a skill like anything else and I need to mindfully put it into practise.

  • why the older boy doesn’t eat with a fork? taking away a kid’s food is punishment. an average bed made he got two mc nuggets, a good bed made he got four mc nuggets. I don’t agree for an average bed made, he has to take out the trash after dinner or read an extra page from a school book out loud to the entire family.

  • I’ve been using these techniques over 4 hours whilst watching your videos with my very ODD 8 year old little girl that would normally interrupt every 2 mins with I want I want I want and then obsession and tantrums until she gets what she wants. Amazed already! Normally the yes for her means NOW but just the change in my tone of Yes you can but we can do that…….. along with setting a timer of when and showing her on the clock when; is already life changing. She is literally playing quietly and there has been no arguments or yelling. Hoorah!!!!!!

  • too bad mom non of this would work for my daughter I’ve tried it all. she just does not care about anything. and I don’t give in and let her do what she wants. I try ignoring behaviors it just makes her mad. She mocks me at all times. all she wants is control. her ODD. is something else.

  • All of these negative commenters want to be friends with children and not their role models. I don’t treat staff at restaurants like crap then expect to be served, I would be kicked out. This is a real-world application of respect.

  • Guys, I don’t think the kids are in danger of being starved. When you have children with ODD, you can understand why you need to utilize some of these tactics for your sanity and to help your children learn to navigate the real world.

  • Nah sorry what if they’re toxic as hell and accuse you of being jealous or glaring at you from a distance or punching you saying it’s a ‘joke’ I’m not trusting ppl until I learn some psychology and spot these ppl before they even try doing anything

  • Excellent Video! Apologies for butting in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you thought about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a good one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent withouat the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate after many years got amazing results with it.

  • The thing is I want to handle my 4 years old neighbor who is really stubborn and wants to come in to our house and play with my younger sister who is 14 years old even if i told her i can let you in because me sister is still asleep

  • What about 3 year old asking permission that they want something we can’t really give or accept to give… So in this case can we really use the empower method

  • I appreciate this video! Tip 1 is everything! Being able to calm yourself and keep yourself in check as a parent is key. I’m always working hard at this with my five year old boy and even posting about it on my channel has made me even more accountable. I’d love to get your feedback on some of my story.

  • Thank you so much. This is very helpful for me to understand my elderly mother who seeks attention time to time. Now I know why all my efforts to manage this situation went wrong. From today I’ll face this better.

  • This works so well with my father esp. The dinner table exp. he’s a diebetis type 2 would means his blood sugar is too high from eating the wrong stuff. He ask for potatos very carby I did that same exact thing. Talk about hush. If he ask for cucumbers like the boy did I would have just gave my father the whole 6 inch cucumber.

  • Hey, there is a loophole in your strategy. You were assuming kids would weight pros and cons like a mentally healthy human. I don’t mean to be cynical, but there are strategies kids can use against your strategy. For instance, lying, playing dumb, deliberately being dense, convenient memory loss, going all-in with no regard…

    These are the reasons of why I’m exploiting my last resolve… googling. What can we do for the more determined kids? Thanks.

  • This life skills training works so very well! Of course there’s opposition! These children have not had previous training. We have to start somewhere. If we all start learning now, there’ll be less opposition tomorrow & the next day & the next day! Real training works! Who is in charge of your house? You or the children?:) The children are as smart as you help them to be!:)

  • You see all over social media almost every mom is posting, “I have such a perfect baby, toddler, teenager”. And it makes you think HOW is everyone else’s kids listen and mine doesn’t? I can’t speak for all but in my case all of my friends’ kids are perfect listeners regardless of their age according to their parents. When teachers complained about my child when he was 2-3-4 years old in pre-school, I remember being so upset, because I was told that he is the only kid who doesn’t follow the rules or being very stubborn. My best friend has two kids and she is always so calm I was feeling so bad about myself for reacting when my child didn’t listen.

  • This is unbearable to watch, the child obviously feels rejected by the mother, and this guy is encouraging it!!!
    You need to understand the child’s reality, not impose one on them and then push it onto them….

  • Content notwithstanding, this video is beautifully produced. One tip that is a single click for you-go to EDIT VIDEO and hit the STABILIZE button on the right. You will be very pleased with the results-the YouTube algorithm works well to remove camera shake. Again, very well-edited video.

  • My oldest son has caught on to the process of “active ignoring” and will escalate to a behavior that he knows can’t be ignored-like breaking things.  Any advice when this happens?  Thankfully, we don’t deal with as much behavior as we do in the past, but I’ve seen some stuff pop up recently and want to be prepared.

  • my daughter says because i don’t agree with her i’m not listening �� i’ve tried to make her feel heard, compromise, etc but there are times she needs to know she isn’t correct. How do I accomplish this or does it just take time?

  • The positive techniques that you use are techniques that I have always tried to maintain when correcting my children. I am a single mother (have been for almost 10yrs) of a 14yr old girl and my 10yr old son. My way of o parenting has recently been (very) tested during the past 14mths of my son’s young life. I am definitely realising that the need to adjust and expand my concepts and preconceived understanding of children’s behaviour should be a CONSTANT point of evaluation and learning in order for myself as a mother AND father to be as productive as I can.

  • Hello Dr Paul, thanks a lot for your videos and they are all very helpful. Do you have any video that talks about dealing with competitive child? My daughter is 4.5 and she wants to be the first all the time. Thanks in advance.

  • Tip #4 is the same thing as the parable about the prodigal son. In the parable, the father honored the son’s choice to leave the house and waste all his money on prostitutes and gambling. He did not try to control the son at all. But when the son realized what he had done he realized the mistake all by himself and learned the difference between right and wrong in that situation. But when the son returned to the father’s house, the father embraced and forgave him straight away because he loved him.

  • Thanks doc. My older teenager, snuck behind my back and contacted and fraternised with my estranged brother.i won’t go into the epic violent sagas behind the estrangement. She insists she will do what she wants, even though I consider this an extreme betrayal. Thanks for reaffirming the basics over control..and this being her “choice”.. (smile).. with consequences..

  • See how someone comes in and puts the rules down? This mom is lazy and keeps her kids on tv and video games 24/7. I have seen it a million times. He speaks with authority and gibes them clear rules.

  • Love this…reading your book about Kid Speak. I’m a teacher and I can see how I can use many of your ideas in the classroom. Thanks so much! Would love to see more!

  • This works if implemented early enough in a child’s life. Not so much when you get an angry 4 to 5yr old. That is used to getting their way. I’ve been punched kicked cursed you name it. I love and enjoy my job but we need new research in this new generation

  • It seems that many positive parenting strategies take a lot of conversation, which is fine but I often lack time. I struggle because I have three young children. When my 4 yo is raiding the pantry for chocolate chips, running in a mud puddle, punching his sister or spitting, I’m also trying to deal with a baby and a toddler. How can I better parent when I’m literally going from one crisis to another?

  • I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my YouTube channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. ��❤

  • I think the main point is to remain calm. don’t give into the child’s tantrum and be as sympathetic but firm as possible. break their habits as well as yours. I’m not entirely certain on the techniques but I get the point ��

  • Thank you for this, my son Fugo keeps stabbing my other son Narancia with a fork, and won’t listen to me when I tell him not to because that’s dangerous.

  • I don’t believe in using the three meals a day as a positive behavior ‘reward.’ A truly oppositional defiant child could refuse those meals. Withholding basic needs is considered abuse/neglect, and could interfere with the development of the child according to Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs. I teach special education in a self contained classroom that consists of students who have severe needs. I would never withhold lunch from them, considering it’s unethical and against the law. I would suggest to find out something else that’s highly motivating for that child. If it’s attention, flood them with verbal praise and kind gestures when they are engaging in appropriate behavior. If it’s something tangible, provide them with that reinforcer when there is compliance with a directive. Encourage communication and decrease demands when you know the request/direction is too tough to complete independently. Communicate with the child. For example, if your direction is to sit down, and the child is up and running around laughing, intentionally not complying with your directive, do not show any emotion toward that behavior. Give the same statement: “Sit down,” “Sit in the chair,” “Your direction is to sit down,” “First sit down, then TV.” It’s important to let the child know what is expected of them. It also may help to let the child know what will happen as a result of following the direction. Try not to get visually frustrated when a behavior results in the child not following the direction, instead try to use flat affect (no nonverbal signals that indicate a reaction to the behavior) while frequently restating the expected behavior. Sometimes, children want a reaction from you which can be reinforcing enough for them to continue the non-compliant behavior. Additionally, try explaining yourself in another approachsometimes children (and people in general) don’t understand the message you’re trying to conveyand it’s not their fault. Perceptions differ. Hope this helps for the others who didn’t agree with this strategy in the video.

  • I am a 61 year old, volunteer youth mentor and I was paired up with “Anthony” a little over a year ago. I have been a volunteer mentor for about 10 years and Anthony is the most challenging boy I’ve ever had to work with. Anthony is 9 years old and both of his parents are in jail. He also has a younger sister and they presently both live with the same foster parents. This is Anthony’s fourth foster home in the year that I’ve known him. Typically, I see him twice a month, for about two hours a time. As the State program has moved him around from home to home, he has been getting progressively further from where I live. We now live about 50 miles apart. As you say in the video, he is basically a good kid, and I sense he is very smart too, but he will suddenly have a fit of bad behavior, and this is usually when our time / session together is almost done. Recently, he jumped into my car, locked all the doors and began laughing and blasting the car horn. He will also thrust his hand into my pants pocket and pull everything out. He will go into the glove compartment of the car and start going through all my personal items. Whenever I go to meet Anthony, I need to “Anthony proof” the car. Other times he will be perfectly fine, we will go for hikes and he is curious about things around him. I’m determined to help this kid, but I feel that I’m in over my head. The organization that I volunteer for is of little help. I get an occasional gas card, otherwise no formal training.Besides your on-line course, can you recommend a book or something I can find at the public library? Thanks, Steve M.

  • I’m not a therapist and I don’t care to engage in my friends attention seeking behaviors he constantly gets extreme unnecessary surgeries, self diagnoses, cries over stupid solvable reasons. I’m about to walk out and I don’t think this video was helpful. I’m walking out.

  • these people who made the video are really trying to justify their evil ways smh its because most people spoil their children thats y they r like that children are a reflection of yourself you show them good ways and then the mirror effect comes into play… children also act in accordance to who they r around..Bad company ruins good morals!!! end of READ YOUR BIBLE THAT WILL HELP YOU AS A PARENT BE LOVING AND KIND!!! SHOW COMPASSION AND GIVE DISCIPLINE BE THE EXAMPLE!!

  • yeah, I tried that, but the thing is that my nephew always, it’s incredible but it is, always picks the wrong thing to play with, he is constantly turning on and off the tv, all devices in the house, I just can’t let him, he can do that all day literally. If I ignore, he will think I am fine with that?? he throws things, break them, how can I ignore that. I believe that tactical ignoring is the right thing to do but it’s very hard as children know that in advance, it’s very annoying. Any suggestions?

  • My 2 yo is giving me very tough time n em 30 weeks pregnant. My girl always remain cry. Always remain in anger. cry loudly. Always misbihaves does not sleep till 5 am she raises hand on me pulls my hairs. What should i ddo??

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  • My son just started headstart yesterday. He has never attended daycare or even been to a babysitter outside of our home. He is refusing to sit down during story time, follow directions or pick up his toys. He does all of these things at home. He smacked his teacher in the face yesterday when she insisted he stop playing and go sit down. I’m sure she was trying to force him. Today his teacher called jome saying he was refusing to keep his mask on and would have to put it back on his own face because they couldn’t do it for him because of germs. Its difficult for him to put it on his own face. He isn’t this misbehaved at home and I don’t know what to do. He doesn’t have behavioral issues normally and is being disruptive in class. I don’t know what to do! When I mention he is just 3 years old the teacher rebuttals with the statement that all the other kids are listening. The class has 3, 4 and some 5 year olds. My thoughts are that he has to stay and learn to behave and listen to the teacher and his new environment. I can keep him home for another year but I really feel that he can benefit greatly from being in school. Your advice would be greatly appreciated!

  • Thanks for the Video clip! Sorry for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 at last got excellent success with it.