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Source: https://www.spreaker.com/user/kate_scharff/episode-18-discipline-during-divorce-par. Divorcing parents want to support their kids and minimize pain. But being a good parent sometimes means taking unpopular positions. And what if you don’t have a cooperative co-parent who supports your philosophy? In this episode, Kate and Jane offer practical and empathic advice for handling even the most complex and emotionally fraught divorce discipline challenges.
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Discipline Mistakes Divorced Parents Often Make Competing to Be the Favorite Parent. After a separation or a divorce, it can be really tempting to want to be the good Not Being Honest About a Child’s Behavior. Sometimes, a parent will insist, “He always acts great at my house. But Talking.
Even parents who only have custody of their kids on the weekend should have and enforce rules. They sometimes let their children get away with too much because they feel guilty about breaking up the family. Let’s look at some other mistakes that divorced parents often make when it comes to discipline: Not being honest with your co-parent about.
Divorced parents make a lot of mistakes, but so does everyone. You are only human, which means you’re imperfect. Mistakes are okay as long as you learn a lesson from them and grow as a person.
It’s also helpful to remember that as divorced parents, you can avoid making these mistakes as you go through the most difficult trial of your life. Criticizing your ex spouse is one of the most common and destructive mistakes. Each divorced parent must realize – divorce is the separation of two people. The third one (your child) is to not stop loving one parent and even more so cannot be called a “traitor” just for their love and attachment to both parents.
Making Children Communicate For Parents Some parents are so frustrated and angry with one another that they go to the extreme of simply refusing to communicate with one another after the divorce. They make their children carry messages back and forth between them so they do not have to speak directly. Every divorce has unique characteristics making the experience different for each person.
That said, there are a handful of mistakes we find are common occurrences in a divorce. Sometimes parents avoid disciplining children because they feel bad after a divorce. However, stressed out kids need discipline more than ever.
Provide plenty of positive attention and reassurance. Keep your discipline consistent so your child knows what to expect at your house. Parents ask their children to respect them, but they sometimes forget that respect should be a two-way street.
One of the most common mistakes parents make when disciplining children is yelling, speaking in a harsh and angry tone, or even insulting their children. Giving and asking for respect in return is one of the cardinal tips to remember about disciplining children. 2. Whether you agree with your parents’ discipline-style or not, the choices you make today as a parent are due in part to how you were raised. Without new knowledge and outside influences, parents are often predisposed to repeat the same patterns of behavior as their parents.
The 5 Worst Mistakes People Make During Divorce. Going through a divorce is an overwhelming experience. If you are going through divorce or have gone through it, I am sure you will agree that the initial sensation is of being flooded by emotions, things to handle and tough, very tough decisions to make. where parents are denied of their.
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It could be that marital conflict, maladapted parents, dysfunctional relationships, and inept parenting already have taken their toll on children’s adjustment before the divorce occurs, or that divorce may be, in part, a result of having to deal with a difficult child.
Similarly, when children observe their parents’ divorce, they are likely to learn the if-then rule that goes “if you have problems in your marriage, then you get divorced.”
Results such as these suggest that the effects of divorce on children’s conduct problems are robust, but there is also evidence indicating that family processes (such as parenting behaviors) associated with divorce also exert important influences on adolescent behavior.
Second, child-rearing disagreements in general, and disciplinary issues in particular, remain a source of continuing conflict between the divorced parents.
Children who have good coping skills before the divorce are more likely to adjust favourably to it; effective coping skills allow children to accept the finality of the divorce, not blame themselves and remain hopeful about the future (Pedro-Carroll, 2005).
This research suggests that behavioral problems are caused not by the divorce itself but by exposure to conflict between the parents both before and after the divorce (Stewart, Copeland, Chester, Malley, & Barenbaum, 1997).
The parenting skills taught in this session (and reviewed and reinforced throughout therapy) stress the importance of the parents “not getting hooked” into the child’s attempts to manipulate, control, and compulsively replay prior dysfunctional relationship patterns.
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My parents got divorced when I was a teenager. It was messy and led to legal issues that I wont get into. My dad always bad talks my mom. My mom always does the opposite. But to this day, it always feels as if me and my siblings are the reason their marriage failed. That we caused the damage which lead to the bad mouthing. But now I know. It isnt and it took…so long for me to realize that.
Being a step father was the hardest thing in life I have ever done. I love her kids as much as I do my own which means I had high expectations of them along with that came not always being the fun parent. When it came to parenting people were always telling my wife that they weren’t my kids and that I was to hard on them which ultimately headed towards an unwanted divorce ��
Lmao, my dad would intentionally crush every dream I ever had by telling me I either wasn’t good enough at said things, or that it would leave me poor and unhappy in the end. All because he wanted me to go to college and do what he does. Now he wonders why I don’t tell him about my life.
My mum would always tell me the world was a nice shinny happy place and if I was nice to people they would always be nice to me and If anything bad did happen she would either tell me just to “pretend it didn’t happen” or ” I must of imagined it”.
My mom kinda does this, but i dont hate her because i’ve seen the things my dad has done and my DAD even CONFIRMs things my mom has said and i know….
Deep down i know their relationship wont last, im the last tread in their relationship and i feel like if the pandemic wasnt here my parents wont be too….
I never got any positive feedback from my parents. They don’t express their feelings much. I used to daydream all the time that people would talk positively about me. That they are impressed. My self esteem is really bad and I have anxiety.
getting mad when they don’t understand something, instead of trying to understand me never allowing me to question anything, i got in trouble at school and work because i never ask questions so i seem disinterested not understanding or accepting anything they can’t personally relate tho, ”this is not how i experience this, so it can’t be how you experience it” always having to obey no matter what, i still cant say no to anyone no matter how much i don’t want to do something, or if it can hurt me or something making us believe they are all knowing and all powerful getting mad at me for not looking happy, i’m not happy, i’ve had depression for as long as i can remember, i don’t know what happy even feels like saying they support me, i have several physical and mental disabilities, but when any kind of symptom shows they get angry at me for not being normal excusing the way they treat us because ”when you have kids you can treat them like this too” neither me nor my brother even want kids screaming at us for doing / not doing something, but when they do the same it’s ok because they are parents always insulting our weight, half my life i was underweight and was constantly insulted about it, now i am overweight and the same happens, i’m never good enough giving impossible tasks like breaking metal with our bare hands or digging out treetrunks with giant roots, and when we ask for help because we just cant do it they say ”not my problem, get it done” always telling us to do things we don’t know how to, refusing to explain how to do the things, and then getting mad we did it wrong
Grade 6, across the school board IQ testing. Everyone in my school got their test results except my family. I overheard my parents talking about it. Dad-Well we don’t have any kids to be ashamed of Mom-true Dad-what do we do about Denny’s score? (Me) Mom-we don’t tell anyone! Evesdroppers never hear any good of themselves, well I thought i was mentally handicapped and gave up on trying at school. When I was 36 I was in an accident, I was sent to see a bastard Dr. I demanded to be sent to a psychiatrist if my pain was in my head, sent for EQ testing, well to make a long story short I wasn’t mentally handicapped. Thanks parents!
I’m currently being ignored by my mother, I came out as non-binary. Her first rection was to invalidate me, she has done it everytime ive come out (panromantic asexual non binary). She has invalidate my anxiety and multiple other things. Shames me for picking, I have dermatillomania. If something’s wrong with my younger sister her first reaction is to help her, when something is wrong with me, nothing. All food is portion controlled and I get shamed for wanting to eat more Bc I’m hungry. She basically ignores me until she needs something done and dosent use my name and/or pronoun. She has fricked up my sister and i so bad that both of us are scared of her. My dad freaks out sometimes but nothing bad ever comes out of it and he apologizes after and is willing to help us. My mother didn’t even put down her book when I asked if I could talk to her. Thank you if you’ve gotten this far, you really didn’t have to read this it’s kinda messy. I hope you have/had a good day!
My parents always told me to hit back if someone hits me. I didn’t understand why they were dissapointed when I had to go to detention instead of recess for punching a girl who hit me first.
Story of my life…������I’m crying right now ����������I was 12 years old when they finally seperated…..I had no friends to talk about it back then…or now…no one to talk to I used to cry so much every night….also because my dad’s sisters we not good with me at all…they used to say stuffs about mom alot in front of me and curse me everytime and when I was with mom..she used to talk trash about dad.. I was hurt hopefully I’m 16 now stronger and matured than before
You know…I’m kind of in the same situation. My dad is bad mouthing my mom and my mom is bad mouthing my dad…but in my opinion my mom is really the bad guy here. She never does anything in the house she always cares for herself and herself only and buys expensive stuff with my dads money that he worked on all day and night. She buys dresses, shoes, jewelry and she already has all those kind of stuff! And the worst of all is that she’s cheating. My mom is kind of a spoiled brat, I can’t lie…my parents are going to divorce soon but I have a younger brother and sister and we still don’t know who will go with who…
My parents did this since I was 7 when they first split �� I haven’t watched it yet but I’m interested if anyone will step in. No one stepped in for me
My parents are in dire need of a divorce and blame me for their fighting. I take the heat of their tempers away from my younger siblings so they dont grow up depressed and suicidal like I have. DONT BLAME YOUR KIDS FOR YOUR PROBLEMS!!! This is why I ain’t ever having kids or having a relationship
Also treat your kids with the respect you want them to give to you. No point screaming at them to show you respect if you’ve never shown them that respect. Same with house rules, follow the rules you set to ensure your kids know that your not being a hypocrite.
Privacy needs to be valued for everyone. If you value your chikds privacy, they’ll value yours. (This only really applies to older kids)
Also keep your opinions away from your child. They will have those opinions then for the majority of their life whether they like it or not. Let them choose their own opinions on topics and you can discuss it with them when they are heading into their mid to late teens as they are mature enough to have their own opinions. This goes on stuff such as homophobia, politics, the opinions on their other parent if you’re divorced or separated, or just keeping the kids out of arguments between you and your s/o
This wasn’t malicious in any way, and wasn’t really even their fault. I was born two years before my sister, and less than three years after her I had another sister. Around that time I was diagnosed with high functionality autism(it was hilarious to see my moms face as she had flashbacks to all my quirks and complaints). Maybe another three years later my parents divorced, got shared custody, with my brother being born after(my mom was pregnant before the divorce.). My mom has always said her biggest regret raising us is that she didn’t space more time between having us so she could adjust to being a mother, let alone the mother of an autistic child.
Parents are divorced (when I was 1yo). My mother could not inspire me intellectually (I do not think it even occurred to her that I could be more until I was in my late teens) and my dad wanted me to be a physical power house so I could help him lift engine blocks and shit in his auto shop. Then my mother pushed me into college promising to help me every step of the way until I graduate only to crap out on me after the first quarter.
I will forever wonder what their long-term plan was but if I wanted to do something or go somewhere when I was a teen they’d tell me no because I “was too naive.” And then they did nothing to help my naivete.
I’m not against being honest with kids about the other parents character, but not with venom or in public. My best friend’s mom was abused and cheated on and she never said anything to him about it, so he blamed her for making his dad leave. They’ll never be as close as they could have been if she had been honest about his Dad’s heinous actions.
I have watched and studied along with several of these videos, I have become a better husband and step father through these videos. Thank you. I still have a long road but it is worth it all.
This is exactly what happens to me, my mom always told me that she paid my father 9,000 dollar and that my dad is never here for me but My dad has paid my mom around 3 MILLION DOLLARS! My mom is also super homophobic and Transphobic and I’m a Transgender AND I’m also a Pansexual and she tells me she’s my “Allie” but she tells me I’m wrong for being Pan and trans but my dad has always been there for me and when I came out he bought me a flag and told me “I’ll always love you” and he’s the person I go to when I need help.
Thank u Jimmy Evans for this word. I am having so many problems in my marriage as my husband has 3 children. 2 are older they are nearly 30 yr old and one is 30 something yr old. He also has a daughter who is 13 yr old. And her mother is making sure I am not included in my husbands daughters life. She speaks negatively about me to her daughter. She always has done this every tine she saw me she had her daughter with her and she would speak negatively about me as soon as she saw me and their daughter heard. My husband is tasking his ex partners side and keeping me away from their daughter. His daughter knew me from age of 4yrs old and me and her had a close bond. Her mother didn’t like it from back then an caused a problem and stooped me being with him when he has her. She trying to control our marriage and what we do and my husband allows her to. Yet I ask him to do something and he doesn’t do it. He very rebellious to me yet he does what his ex wants. She includes their daughter in conversation that she shouldn’t even be involved in and now his daughter doesn’t like me and is causing problems now. I feel my husband sides with them and he is not standing duo for me at all. What can I do. He menst to share everyone in his life with me. And he is not doing this. He knew how I was with his daughter. N now he is very mean to me when I say I care about her. He is behaving wrong to me. I feel they are all coming against me and husband also. He is meant to be for me. Yet he is against me Cos of his ex. He very much influenced so easy by her. Why is this. Ache dictating what happens in our marriage
They always told me that they are so proud of my and told me I‘m so talented (I‘m not lol) which lead me to not give my best in school.. or it’s just laziness ����♀️
My dad was way overly supportive of my singing, to the point where it looped right back around to oppressive. Because I didn’t sound awful, he’d make me sing all the time to everyone at any place bc “you never know who knows someone”. In line at the grocery store? Sing for the cashier! Playing with friends? Sing for their parents! At a distant cousin’s FUNERAL? I’m sure her grieving mother would feel so much better if she just heard you sing Amazing Grace!
The only times I ever wanted to sing was at karaoke, and he ruined that too when he called little 10-12-ish year old me “a selfish bitch” for finally refusing to sing some stupid duet with him that I’d always hated and found creepy (it was a love song. with my *father*. what the fuck made him think I’d find that fun?)
Years later, I finally tried going to karaoke with him again and he stood in the middle of the dance floor while I was singing and went “louder!”
My mom talks bad about my dad alllll the time. She thought it’s a joke but I honestly don’t feel good about it. There’s this one sentence my dad told me made me so much admiring him: your mom might not be the best wife but she’s definitely the best mom any child could ever have, so love her with all you can.
For me its my mom always tells me be positive or dont worry about it. Never will she acknowledge that what I’m struggling with is valid. Plus I’m very big into video games and I’ve been able to get extremely good to the point of reaching grand masters in a few games. But that doesnt matter cause its just a video game.
As someone with divorced parents, I can relate to this on some level. My parents never trash talked each other and are still on good terms. But parents don’t understand how much it hurts when they talk bad about their ex spouse in front of their kids. If you have ever done that or still do that, apologize and stop. That is still their parents and your kid still loves them.
Im leaving this situation. My life is misareble, terrible… only way we can to see is be divorce. My husbad does’nt Works together or looking for professional help.
I hid my bulimia for 2 years from my parents cause I was scared I was disappointing my parents but now my mum is helping me get into an autism psychologist to help with my bulimia I’m autistic
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My mum was/is a recovering alcoholic. Shes going through a relapse right now and its driving me insane. I’m an only child, she’s a single mum and shes been drinking all my life, until she went to rehab when I was 18. But now shes had a relapse and she’s the sort if drunk who rambles on about stupid shit, is messy and dirty and of course it’s my fault if I snap at her because I long got tired of her bullshit years ago. Then she blames for her stupid drunk assery and makes me feel depressed and worthless. But of course, I’m the one with the problem and I’m a vile terrible person because I’ve had to put up with her irresponsible neglectful and emotionally abusive bullshit for 20+ years. I’m doing a lot better now, I do martial arts and I’m working towards some GCSEs, but my mum still hurts me as I’m unable to connect to people properly bc I’ve long suspected I have Avoidant Personality Disorder due to the neglect. Fun.
its funny because this is actually true for me and im the kid, but this is NOT what its like at all.. usually the kid doesn’t care about the rude comments..at least i don’t care
22:28 THIS. I have proven to myself by now that I do indeed have a decent work ethic…at my job…but I wasn’t really exposed to a majority of chores until practically college so I abhor most of them
It feels really suck to be stuck in the middle. It’s especially getting worst when your parents aren’t divorce but they do bad mouthing about each other everyday.
Wow look at those African people how nice they are being I couldn’t imagine anyone being racial, I think people are not racial it just sometimes the attitude could cause a person to act racial
I understand what the kid is going through there. my parents fought all the time when they were married to the point where my older sister and I wanted them to get a divorce. my parents divorced when I was 13 because my dad cheated on my mum and of course that opened my eyes a lot because I’m a girl and little girls love to think that couples will be happy and live happily ever after but unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen so I didn’t really understand why my parents were divorcing like I thought yeah they fought a lot but I thought they would work stuff out and make the marriage work but no.
now that I’m 21 and more mature, looking back I can understand why my parents divorced in the first place and I’m actually glad they did because my dad used to punch me in the face when I was little if I ever made a little mistake with anything like if there was a little dirt on our refrigerator that I forgot to clean, he would lose his temper and either slap or punch me across the face and yell at me for it just ’cause that’s how his own dad treated my dad as a kid and honestly if my parents did stay married and never got divorced, I either would’ve begged my mum to sign me up for self-defence classes so I could defend myself and be less afraid of dad or I would’ve needed to see a school counsellor
My parents got divorced when I was a teenager. It was messy and led to legal issues that I wont get into. My dad always bad talks my mom. My mom always does the opposite. But to this day, it always feels as if me and my siblings are the reason their marriage failed. That we caused the damage which lead to the bad mouthing. But now I know. It isnt and it took…so long for me to realize that.
Being a step father was the hardest thing in life I have ever done. I love her kids as much as I do my own which means I had high expectations of them along with that came not always being the fun parent. When it came to parenting people were always telling my wife that they weren’t my kids and that I was to hard on them which ultimately headed towards an unwanted divorce ��
Lmao, my dad would intentionally crush every dream I ever had by telling me I either wasn’t good enough at said things, or that it would leave me poor and unhappy in the end. All because he wanted me to go to college and do what he does. Now he wonders why I don’t tell him about my life.
My mum would always tell me the world was a nice shinny happy place and if I was nice to people they would always be nice to me and If anything bad did happen she would either tell me just to “pretend it didn’t happen” or ” I must of imagined it”.
My mom kinda does this, but i dont hate her because i’ve seen the things my dad has done and my DAD even CONFIRMs things my mom has said and i know….
Deep down i know their relationship wont last, im the last tread in their relationship and i feel like if the pandemic wasnt here my parents wont be too….
I never got any positive feedback from my parents. They don’t express their feelings much. I used to daydream all the time that people would talk positively about me. That they are impressed. My self esteem is really bad and I have anxiety.
As a bonus mom who has taken on four bonus children this is the kind of message that I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing it with us.
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getting mad when they don’t understand something, instead of trying to understand me
never allowing me to question anything, i got in trouble at school and work because i never ask questions so i seem disinterested
not understanding or accepting anything they can’t personally relate tho, ”this is not how i experience this, so it can’t be how you experience it”
always having to obey no matter what, i still cant say no to anyone no matter how much i don’t want to do something, or if it can hurt me or something
making us believe they are all knowing and all powerful
getting mad at me for not looking happy, i’m not happy, i’ve had depression for as long as i can remember, i don’t know what happy even feels like
saying they support me, i have several physical and mental disabilities, but when any kind of symptom shows they get angry at me for not being normal
excusing the way they treat us because ”when you have kids you can treat them like this too” neither me nor my brother even want kids
screaming at us for doing / not doing something, but when they do the same it’s ok because they are parents
always insulting our weight, half my life i was underweight and was constantly insulted about it, now i am overweight and the same happens, i’m never good enough
giving impossible tasks like breaking metal with our bare hands or digging out treetrunks with giant roots, and when we ask for help because we just cant do it they say ”not my problem, get it done”
always telling us to do things we don’t know how to, refusing to explain how to do the things, and then getting mad we did it wrong
and there are many many more
Grade 6, across the school board IQ testing. Everyone in my school got their test results except my family.
I overheard my parents talking about it.
Dad-Well we don’t have any kids to be ashamed of
Mom-true
Dad-what do we do about Denny’s score? (Me)
Mom-we don’t tell anyone!
Evesdroppers never hear any good of themselves, well I thought i was mentally handicapped and gave up on trying at school.
When I was 36 I was in an accident, I was sent to see a bastard Dr.
I demanded to be sent to a psychiatrist if my pain was in my head, sent for EQ testing, well to make a long story short I wasn’t mentally handicapped.
Thanks parents!
I’m currently being ignored by my mother, I came out as non-binary. Her first rection was to invalidate me, she has done it everytime ive come out (panromantic asexual non binary). She has invalidate my anxiety and multiple other things. Shames me for picking, I have dermatillomania. If something’s wrong with my younger sister her first reaction is to help her, when something is wrong with me, nothing. All food is portion controlled and I get shamed for wanting to eat more Bc I’m hungry. She basically ignores me until she needs something done and dosent use my name and/or pronoun. She has fricked up my sister and i so bad that both of us are scared of her. My dad freaks out sometimes but nothing bad ever comes out of it and he apologizes after and is willing to help us. My mother didn’t even put down her book when I asked if I could talk to her. Thank you if you’ve gotten this far, you really didn’t have to read this it’s kinda messy. I hope you have/had a good day!
Wow I didnt realize my mom ever do the same, I hate my dad for years, but now I think “well maybe my dad let me down, but let the hate go away””
My parents always told me to hit back if someone hits me. I didn’t understand why they were dissapointed when I had to go to detention instead of recess for punching a girl who hit me first.
Story of my life…������I’m crying right now ����������I was 12 years old when they finally seperated…..I had no friends to talk about it back then…or now…no one to talk to I used to cry so much every night….also because my dad’s sisters we not good with me at all…they used to say stuffs about mom alot in front of me and curse me everytime and when I was with mom..she used to talk trash about dad..
I was hurt hopefully I’m 16 now stronger and matured than before
You know…I’m kind of in the same situation. My dad is bad mouthing my mom and my mom is bad mouthing my dad…but in my opinion my mom is really the bad guy here. She never does anything in the house she always cares for herself and herself only and buys expensive stuff with my dads money that he worked on all day and night. She buys dresses, shoes, jewelry and she already has all those kind of stuff! And the worst of all is that she’s cheating. My mom is kind of a spoiled brat, I can’t lie…my parents are going to divorce soon but I have a younger brother and sister and we still don’t know who will go with who…
My parents did this since I was 7 when they first split �� I haven’t watched it yet but I’m interested if anyone will step in. No one stepped in for me
OML I THOUGHT THERE WAS FOOD ON MY IPAD SCREEN I TRIED SCRATCHING IT AND IT DIDN’T COME OFF THEN I LOOKED AND IT WAS THE LITTLE WWYD SIGN XD
My parents are in dire need of a divorce and blame me for their fighting. I take the heat of their tempers away from my younger siblings so they dont grow up depressed and suicidal like I have.
DONT BLAME YOUR KIDS FOR YOUR PROBLEMS!!!
This is why I ain’t ever having kids or having a relationship
Also treat your kids with the respect you want them to give to you. No point screaming at them to show you respect if you’ve never shown them that respect. Same with house rules, follow the rules you set to ensure your kids know that your not being a hypocrite.
Privacy needs to be valued for everyone. If you value your chikds privacy, they’ll value yours. (This only really applies to older kids)
Also keep your opinions away from your child. They will have those opinions then for the majority of their life whether they like it or not. Let them choose their own opinions on topics and you can discuss it with them when they are heading into their mid to late teens as they are mature enough to have their own opinions. This goes on stuff such as homophobia, politics, the opinions on their other parent if you’re divorced or separated, or just keeping the kids out of arguments between you and your s/o
I have rambled on enough so you get my points
This wasn’t malicious in any way, and wasn’t really even their fault. I was born two years before my sister, and less than three years after her I had another sister. Around that time I was diagnosed with high functionality autism(it was hilarious to see my moms face as she had flashbacks to all my quirks and complaints). Maybe another three years later my parents divorced, got shared custody, with my brother being born after(my mom was pregnant before the divorce.). My mom has always said her biggest regret raising us is that she didn’t space more time between having us so she could adjust to being a mother, let alone the mother of an autistic child.
Parents are divorced (when I was 1yo). My mother could not inspire me intellectually (I do not think it even occurred to her that I could be more until I was in my late teens) and my dad wanted me to be a physical power house so I could help him lift engine blocks and shit in his auto shop. Then my mother pushed me into college promising to help me every step of the way until I graduate only to crap out on me after the first quarter.
I will forever wonder what their long-term plan was but if I wanted to do something or go somewhere when I was a teen they’d tell me no because I “was too naive.” And then they did nothing to help my naivete.
I’m not against being honest with kids about the other parents character, but not with venom or in public. My best friend’s mom was abused and cheated on and she never said anything to him about it, so he blamed her for making his dad leave. They’ll never be as close as they could have been if she had been honest about his Dad’s heinous actions.
I have watched and studied along with several of these videos, I have become a better husband and step father through these videos. Thank you. I still have a long road but it is worth it all.
This is exactly what happens to me, my mom always told me that she paid my father 9,000 dollar and that my dad is never here for me but My dad has paid my mom around 3 MILLION DOLLARS! My mom is also super homophobic and Transphobic and I’m a Transgender AND I’m also a Pansexual and she tells me she’s my “Allie” but she tells me I’m wrong for being Pan and trans but my dad has always been there for me and when I came out he bought me a flag and told me “I’ll always love you” and he’s the person I go to when I need help.
Thank u Jimmy Evans for this word. I am having so many problems in my marriage as my husband has 3 children. 2 are older they are nearly 30 yr old and one is 30 something yr old. He also has a daughter who is 13 yr old. And her mother is making sure I am not included in my husbands daughters life. She speaks negatively about me to her daughter. She always has done this every tine she saw me she had her daughter with her and she would speak negatively about me as soon as she saw me and their daughter heard. My husband is tasking his ex partners side and keeping me away from their daughter. His daughter knew me from age of 4yrs old and me and her had a close bond. Her mother didn’t like it from back then an caused a problem and stooped me being with him when he has her. She trying to control our marriage and what we do and my husband allows her to. Yet I ask him to do something and he doesn’t do it. He very rebellious to me yet he does what his ex wants. She includes their daughter in conversation that she shouldn’t even be involved in and now his daughter doesn’t like me and is causing problems now. I feel my husband sides with them and he is not standing duo for me at all. What can I do. He menst to share everyone in his life with me. And he is not doing this. He knew how I was with his daughter. N now he is very mean to me when I say I care about her. He is behaving wrong to me. I feel they are all coming against me and husband also. He is meant to be for me. Yet he is against me Cos of his ex. He very much influenced so easy by her. Why is this. Ache dictating what happens in our marriage
They always told me that they are so proud of my and told me I‘m so talented (I‘m not lol) which lead me to not give my best in school.. or it’s just laziness ����♀️
My dad was way overly supportive of my singing, to the point where it looped right back around to oppressive. Because I didn’t sound awful, he’d make me sing all the time to everyone at any place bc “you never know who knows someone”. In line at the grocery store? Sing for the cashier! Playing with friends? Sing for their parents! At a distant cousin’s FUNERAL? I’m sure her grieving mother would feel so much better if she just heard you sing Amazing Grace!
The only times I ever wanted to sing was at karaoke, and he ruined that too when he called little 10-12-ish year old me “a selfish bitch” for finally refusing to sing some stupid duet with him that I’d always hated and found creepy (it was a love song. with my *father*. what the fuck made him think I’d find that fun?)
Years later, I finally tried going to karaoke with him again and he stood in the middle of the dance floor while I was singing and went “louder!”
So yeah, I don’t sing much anymore
My mom talks bad about my dad alllll the time. She thought it’s a joke but I honestly don’t feel good about it. There’s this one sentence my dad told me made me so much admiring him: your mom might not be the best wife but she’s definitely the best mom any child could ever have, so love her with all you can.
For me its my mom always tells me be positive or dont worry about it. Never will she acknowledge that what I’m struggling with is valid. Plus I’m very big into video games and I’ve been able to get extremely good to the point of reaching grand masters in a few games. But that doesnt matter cause its just a video game.
As someone with divorced parents, I can relate to this on some level. My parents never trash talked each other and are still on good terms. But parents don’t understand how much it hurts when they talk bad about their ex spouse in front of their kids. If you have ever done that or still do that, apologize and stop. That is still their parents and your kid still loves them.
Im leaving this situation. My life is misareble, terrible… only way we can to see is be divorce. My husbad does’nt Works together or looking for professional help.
I hid my bulimia for 2 years from my parents cause I was scared I was disappointing my parents but now my mum is helping me get into an autism psychologist to help with my bulimia I’m autistic
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My mum was/is a recovering alcoholic. Shes going through a relapse right now and its driving me insane. I’m an only child, she’s a single mum and shes been drinking all my life, until she went to rehab when I was 18. But now shes had a relapse and she’s the sort if drunk who rambles on about stupid shit, is messy and dirty and of course it’s my fault if I snap at her because I long got tired of her bullshit years ago. Then she blames for her stupid drunk assery and makes me feel depressed and worthless. But of course, I’m the one with the problem and I’m a vile terrible person because I’ve had to put up with her irresponsible neglectful and emotionally abusive bullshit for 20+ years. I’m doing a lot better now, I do martial arts and I’m working towards some GCSEs, but my mum still hurts me as I’m unable to connect to people properly bc I’ve long suspected I have Avoidant Personality Disorder due to the neglect. Fun.
its funny because this is actually true for me and im the kid, but this is NOT what its like at all.. usually the kid doesn’t care about the rude comments..at least i don’t care
22:28 THIS. I have proven to myself by now that I do indeed have a decent work ethic…at my job…but I wasn’t really exposed to a majority of chores until practically college so I abhor most of them
It feels really suck to be stuck in the middle. It’s especially getting worst when your parents aren’t divorce but they do bad mouthing about each other everyday.
Wow look at those African people how nice they are being I couldn’t imagine anyone being racial, I think people are not racial it just sometimes the attitude could cause a person to act racial
I understand what the kid is going through there. my parents fought all the time when they were married to the point where my older sister and I wanted them to get a divorce. my parents divorced when I was 13 because my dad cheated on my mum and of course that opened my eyes a lot because I’m a girl and little girls love to think that couples will be happy and live happily ever after but unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen so I didn’t really understand why my parents were divorcing like I thought yeah they fought a lot but I thought they would work stuff out and make the marriage work but no.
now that I’m 21 and more mature, looking back I can understand why my parents divorced in the first place and I’m actually glad they did because my dad used to punch me in the face when I was little if I ever made a little mistake with anything like if there was a little dirt on our refrigerator that I forgot to clean, he would lose his temper and either slap or punch me across the face and yell at me for it just ’cause that’s how his own dad treated my dad as a kid and honestly if my parents did stay married and never got divorced, I either would’ve begged my mum to sign me up for self-defence classes so I could defend myself and be less afraid of dad or I would’ve needed to see a school counsellor