Deciding If Fostering a young child Is perfect for You

 

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WHAT WE WISH WE HAD KNOWN ABOUT FOSTER CARE | 7 Things We Learned While Foster Parents

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It’s important to consider every member of your family when thinking about fostering a child. Everyone in the house will be living and interacting with the foster child and his behaviors. 5  Your children will have to share their home, room, toys, and parents.

They sacrifice a lot in becoming part of a foster family. The best first step you can take is to attend the training classes, then take stock of your skills and limitations to help you decide if fostering a child is for you. Questions to ask yourself about fostering a child. Collect as much information as you can from a trusted foster care agency and then ask yourself the following questions.

If you’ve been considering becoming a foster parent, but still aren’t quite sure, there are ways to evaluate if it’s right for you. Spend time with children (of varying ages): Volunteer at an after-school program or group home facility. In a different situation, a child may already be 15, 16 or 17 years old when placed in the care of new foster parents.

Both the parents and child may decide that it is best to let the child become a legal adult without going through the adoption process. Permanent Foster Care vs. Adoption: The Pros and Cons. Before you make a decision to foster a child, ask yourself some crucial questions to help determine whether foster parenting is a good choice for you. Yes, singles can and do foster children.

If you are single and want to bring a child into your life, take special care to have plenty of emotional support. If you are married, take care of your marriage and make that a number one. Be ready for various workers and team members to walk-through your home during visits. Also know that if a social worker comes to your home, you are required to let them in your house.

Fostering a child will bring lots of professionals into your life and home. If you’ve thought about becoming a foster parent, learn more about the process. You might decide it’s not right for you.

Or maybe, you see that it isn’t the right fit for you. Can I decide the age of the child that I foster? During your home study, you will be interviewed on the children that you feel you could best foster.

We will ask you placement questions such as age range, sex and sibling groups. The placement team will use this information to match foster children with foster homes. This is what it’s all about, after all. It’s about the child — the new life that will radically change who you are as people and fulfill your dream of becoming parents. Of course you have questions about if you can choose the child you adopt, because you want your baby to be just right for you.

Saying that you’re not brave enough to be a foster parent also diminishes what you have to offer. You are brave enough, and many children across the country need your bravery. When we handed over.

List of related literature:

The challenge is that it is necessary for foster parents to care for young children as if they were their own: Love the child, advocate for the child, and provide a nurturing, attachment-rich environment.

“Handbook of Infant Mental Health, Fourth Edition” by Charles H. Zeanah
from Handbook of Infant Mental Health, Fourth Edition
by Charles H. Zeanah
Guilford Publications, 2018

For children, the transitions to living in a foster-family environment and later to the return home may lead to emotional and behavioural problems, and both foster and biological parents may require considerable support and training to be empowered to manage these problems.

“The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach” by Alan Carr
from The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach
by Alan Carr
Routledge, 1999

The needs of foster children vary considerably from those who are adopted.The history may be offered by a social worker, and the issues you encounter will differ in variety and intensity.

“Mosby's Guide to Physical Examination E-Book” by Henry M. Seidel, Rosalyn W. Stewart, Jane W. Ball, Joyce E. Dains, John A. Flynn, Barry S. Solomon
from Mosby’s Guide to Physical Examination E-Book
by Henry M. Seidel, Rosalyn W. Stewart, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

For children past infancy, once the characteristics of the child (or children in sibling groups) are considered, the research on outcomes indicates that there is no automatic advantage of adoption over long-term foster care, provided that steps are taken to ensure a sense of permanence for carers and child.

“The Child Protection Handbook” by Kate Wilson, Adrian L. James
from The Child Protection Handbook
by Kate Wilson, Adrian L. James
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2007

For children, the transition to living in a foster family environment and later to the return home may lead to emotional and behavioural problems and both foster and biological parents may require considerable support and training to be empowered to manage these problems.

“The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach” by Alan Carr
from The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach
by Alan Carr
Taylor & Francis, 2015

However, children may be placed either for adoption or permanent fostering, as in some situations the latter option may be the right choice for children, their foster carers and birth parents, for example, when the latter continue to be involved although they are not able directly to care for their disabled child.

“Growing Up with Disability” by Carol Robinson, Kirsten Stalker
from Growing Up with Disability
by Carol Robinson, Kirsten Stalker
J. Kingsley, 1998

My family and friends would be very supportive if I were to become a foster parent.

“Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts” by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, Murray A. Strauss, George W. Holden
from Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts
by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, et. al.
SAGE Publications, 2000

Research indicates that once foster carers are appropriately supported, looked-after children are able to use their carer as a secure base; a study has shown that even children who were maltreated can develop secure new attachments toward their foster parents (Joseph et al. 2014).

“Handbook of Mentalizing in Mental Health Practice, Second Edition” by Anthony W. Bateman, M.A., FRCPsych, Peter Fonagy, Ph.D., F.B.A., FMedSci, FAcSS
from Handbook of Mentalizing in Mental Health Practice, Second Edition
by Anthony W. Bateman, M.A., FRCPsych, Peter Fonagy, Ph.D., F.B.A., FMedSci, FAcSS
American Psychiatric Association Publishing, 2019

It needs to be recognized that the psychological implications of long-term fostering are very different from those of temporary foster care.

“The Psychology of Adoption” by David M. Brodzinsky Associate Professor of Developmental and Clinical Psychology Rutgers University, Marshall D. Schechter Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine (Emeritus)
from The Psychology of Adoption
by David M. Brodzinsky Associate Professor of Developmental and Clinical Psychology Rutgers University, Marshall D. Schechter Professor of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine (Emeritus)
Oxford University Press, USA, 1990

I have been a foster parent for 30 years, fostering approximately 75 children.

“The Lost Boy: A Foster Child's Search for the Love of a Family” by Dave Pelzer
from The Lost Boy: A Foster Child’s Search for the Love of a Family
by Dave Pelzer
Health Communications, Incorporated, 1997

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  • Im only a teenager but one things i was sure about was I didnt want kids mainly because Im personally not a huge fan of toddlers and baby’s but also simply due to the fact I don’t want biological kids. I think I never truly realised to me that I could foster a teen until I watched the episodes of This is Us with Deja. I definitely want to foster teenagers when I get older and your videos are a hugeeee inspiration for me to pursue that. Reason #2 is one of my main reasons for wanting to do it.

  • Thank you so much for making this video! My fiance and I also live in Missouri and are going to start classes next year. I was wondering do you pay for anything out of pocket for your foster kids?

  • My wife and I are foster placements and the bio parents have made our lives a living hell with repeated nonstop allegations of abuse. All have been investigated and found to be without merit. They’ve called the cops so much that the cops are ignoring them. They are being left alone on visits with the children during diaper changes etc and they are trying to coach the 3 year old to say things about us and to hate us.
    No one seems to want to help us get the harassment stopped and it’s causing trauma to the kids since they are very attached to us.
    Any tips on how to handle this?

  • I’ve never fostered teens. In my area, homes for infants are so badly needed. I’ve spoken to some younger people who have fostered teens and they’ve had some incredible experiences. Maybe someday…..

  • Just came across your channel I am watching and learning about fostering before I apply and do training. I do have one random question are you allowed to take a child to church with you if you’re a church goer? Or should religion not be introduced to the kids in case they are a different belief or dont believe?? I know its probably a random question.

  • This whole situation would be beyond frustrating! Between the other caregiver creating unnecessary barriers, and the system barriers in general, there’s a lot to manage. However, as a team you both have the same goals and it’s awesome to see you both so willing to fight for Miss A. and her siblings to be together. I love that you make it about the children and not what the adults want.

  • My first time watching you guys and I did sub! I subbed bc I can clearly see that you’re in it for the right reasons and you truly care about these kiddos! My sisters and I were in Foster homes more than once so this would be my connection. I wanted to Foster or actually Adopt but my health became an issue so I couldn’t do it. I just want to say THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU who Foster because you TRULY DO care about these little souls! It’s a frightening place to be in. Being taken from your home is bad enough but being separated from your siblings can be a terrifying experience. May God Bless and Keep Each of these lil children and Each Foster Parent who comes to the rescue of these more often than not broken and damaged children. You are Appreciated and Loved by the children that come through your homes…Please know this. 😉

  • I never wanted to foster teens, I only wanted like 0-5 but since I’ve been watching the crazy middles and the crazy pieces (and now you guys) I feel like I almost exclusively want teens. My husband and I don’t have any kids but we have 12 nieces and nephews and we are only 26 so I feel like we would be able to relate to them and also create the stability for them.

  • I just connected with a county social worker and will be looking into being a foster parent here in California. Thank you so very much for your video! All the best to you and your kids.

  • We just finished our final fostering class last night… we have TB tests, physicals, fingerprinting, and rabies updates this week and next and then we are close to finishing up our application!

  • You guys are doing good work! Keep doing it! These kids need more like you! The system is broken and its people like you who can fix it!

  • Foster Mom here too! The system is broken and does NOT always put the kid’s best interest first. �� I don’t understand why things like this can be so friggin’ hard sometimes. Ugh. I wish our county would let us talk about our foster experience publicly like this! Does your agency know about your channel?

  • I’m a 31 year old single male and have been wanting to become a foster/adoptive parent for years. Thank you for all that you do and for making these great videos!

  • Kind of feels like you’re airing your personal drama out to the world… I normally love your channel but this video gives me a bad taste in my mouth

  • Got certified finally!!!! My age range is 6 to 12, or I should say was because I just said yes to a 17yr old placement. I figured if she is anything like Miss A this is going to work out. ��

  • Great insight. My sister adopted her two children and we love those who support child like this in anyway. Love your channel! New sub from Travel Global, check us out so we can grow together!!

  • I don’t know much about the foster care system so thank you for educating me by posting this video. I can’t believe the many hoops you have to jump through just to allow these siblings to have a sleep over! Hopefully what’s best for the kids is kept in the end ❤️

  • This speaks to my soul!!! As a new foster mom with two kiddos for 6 months now…. I am constantly the “bad guy”. Im getting so mad that no one seems to care!! Thanks for being real:-)

  • You both are awesome! While I am not a foster parent. I am a mentor (have been a mentor) through a not for profit org in Chicago for the past 2 years, and I totally agree that being an influence and having an impact on their lives through stability is sooooo important and needed. You guys are incredible and are spreading a good message and example.

  • I have always thought about being a foster parent. I am going to look and see if there are info session in my state to see where I need to start.

  • Okay so I am a education student. I know a lot of what you said really related to my choice in grades to teach. I want to teach 8th to 12th grade because of the impact you can make with the students.

  • I don’t want to be super negative but the window being behind you is back-lighting you so that your faces are a bit shadowed and I think it would be clearer if you had a light on your faces to counter that

  • Why thrift store? I thought parents were given enough money to be able to buy new clothes and fresh healthy food for the kids. Don’t go saving mode with their money!!

  • My mother is filling out all the paper work to be a foster mom, Im 16 and it’s just my mom and i in a 4 bedroom house, So our age range is going to be 4-13. I brought the idea to her because of your channel and how real you are about fostering, talking about the challenges and the good fostering brings. �� Thank you guys sm.