9 Things Parents Should Not Say When Disciplining a young child

 

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Here are nine things you should never say when disciplining your child: 1. “You act just like your mother!” Telling your child his misbehavior reminds you of someone else – whether it’s the other parent or some other person whose behavior you don’t appreciate – isn’t helpful. You Weren’t Respectful. Parents ask their children to respect them, but they sometimes forget that respect should be a two-way street. One of the most common mistakes parents make when disciplining children is yelling, speaking in a harsh and angry tone, or even insulting their children. The younger a child is, the longer it takes for a lesson to sink in. “Studies have shown that the odds of a two-year-old’s repeating a misdeed later in the same day are eighty percent no matter what sort of discipline you use,” says Murray Straus, Ph.D., a sociologist at the University of New Hampshire’s Family Research Lab.

8 Things a Parent Should Never Say to Their Child Threatening violence or the loss of love might seem like obvious no-no’s, but there are more subtle phrases just as damaging. Time-out pros understand this discipline tactic is a measured response to antisocial behavior. Whatever your child’s age, it’s important to be consistent when it comes to discipline. If parents don’t stick to the rules and consequences they set up, their kids aren’t likely to either.

Here are some ideas about how to vary your approach to discipline to best fit your family. Ages 0 to 2. It’s never acceptable to blame a child for a divorce, even if arguments over the kids contributed to the breakup. It’s also not acceptable to make your child feel guilty for ailments you have.

Avoid statements such as “You’re giving me a headache.”. The parent may say things like, “because I’m the Mommy, that’s why.” This is a less effective form of parenting. A permissive parent shows lots of affection toward his or her child but provides.

Shutterstock. Even if your kid is saying something that you believe to be less than completely true like, “I hate you,” it’s still important that you don’t try to dismiss their feelings. “‘You don’t feel that way’ is one of the worst things parents can say to their children,” says Karen R. Koenig, MEd, LCSW. “Parents should validate children’s feelings even if they don’t agree with. “A big mistake many stepparents make is over-disciplining a child in an attempt to gain respect,” Barrow says. “This often backfires and causes the kid to despise them.

Discipline tips worth trying with preschoolers Never ask more than twice: Here’s how it works: • Ask once nicely (“Please put your toys away”). • Ask a second time, but warn of a negative consequence if your child doesn’t listen (“I asked you to please put your toys away.

List of related literature:

Parent 5 explained that she spanks her daughter not for the sake of hurting her or taking out her own anger on the child, but to scare her mostly from making the same mistakes.

“Chinese Conflict Management and Resolution” by Guo-Ming Chen, Ringo Ma
from Chinese Conflict Management and Resolution
by Guo-Ming Chen, Ringo Ma
Ablex Pub., 2002

For example, the parents are asked what to do if they want their child to stop screaming, slamming the door, or throwing breakable objects.

“Parent Management Training: Treatment for Oppositional, Aggressive, and Antisocial Behavior in Children and Adolescents” by Alan E Kazdin
from Parent Management Training: Treatment for Oppositional, Aggressive, and Antisocial Behavior in Children and Adolescents
by Alan E Kazdin
Oxford University Press, 2005

3 “I will send my child to a room alone for 10 minutes after every tantrum.”

“Saunders Q&A Review for the NCLEX-RN® Examination E-Book” by Linda Anne Silvestri
from Saunders Q&A Review for the NCLEX-RN® Examination E-Book
by Linda Anne Silvestri
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

7 Do not talk to, look at, argue with, or scold your child while your child is in time-out.

“The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years” by Lisa W. Coyne, Amy R. Murrell, Kelly G. Wilson
from The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years
by Lisa W. Coyne, Amy R. Murrell, Kelly G. Wilson
New Harbinger Publications, 2009

Six items are stated as to affirm spanking as an appropriate disciplinary tool.

“Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts” by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, Murray A. Strauss, George W. Holden
from Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts
by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, et. al.
SAGE Publications, 2000

For example, “Please get the toy out from under the couch” is a four-step process: 1.

“Asperger Syndrome and Long-term Relationships” by Ashley Stanford
from Asperger Syndrome and Long-term Relationships
by Ashley Stanford
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2003

“I will send my child to a room alone for 10 minutes after every tantrum.”

“Saunders Q&A Review for the NCLEX-RN® Examination E-Book” by Linda Anne Silvestri
from Saunders Q&A Review for the NCLEX-RN® Examination E-Book
by Linda Anne Silvestri
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

Responses to two items using a 4-point scale of 1 (never) to 4 (very often) were combined into the harsh parenting measure: “Your parents hit you or threaten to do so” and “Your parents threaten punishment more than they use it.”

“The Social Ecology of Resilience: A Handbook of Theory and Practice” by Michael Ungar
from The Social Ecology of Resilience: A Handbook of Theory and Practice
by Michael Ungar
Springer New York, 2011

But number one on the list is “My child doesn’t listen to me.”

“Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery” by Judy L Arnall
from Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery
by Judy L Arnall
Professional Parenting Canada, 2012

Parents should be asked what they do when their child cries inconsolably or has a temper tantrum and whether there is a “safe area” in the home in which the toddler can play, away from the stove, stairs, or electrical outlets; this obviates the need to “spank” to teach the child a “lesson.”

“Advanced Pediatric Assessment” by Ellen M. Chiocca
from Advanced Pediatric Assessment
by Ellen M. Chiocca
Lippincott William & Wilkins, 2010

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  • I can completely agree on the “you’re so smart” one because I stress out enough as it is and my parents saying that, just puts more pressure on me

  • I always try to make my parents happy but my brother makes them stressed and I try everything to make them happy but everyone tells me that I should get myself out of their business but I can’t beard to see my parents stressed and sad.

  • You guys really show a great example of how to be a motivator in a kids life. Awesome work keep it up.

    You guys should hookup with Super nanny, an work together she also has her own YouTube channel. If you teach some your stuff to her you guys will be like a super squad of parenting an maybe you should join her on some of her missions an we can learn in real time with you guys it will be very interesting to see how you guys would work with children.

  • Going to school that’s not the case in 2020 you just eat your breakfast and then you go on that computer not so hard anymore right

  • My mum: u can be anything u want when u grow up
    Me:i want to be a footballer
    Mum:no

    My dad on the other hand
    My dad:u can be anything u want son
    Me:i want to be a footballer
    Dad:why are u wasting time and talking bout this? Go out and train boy,ur gonna be the next Kai Havertz

    I love my dad

  • I love how you make absolutely relevant videos. Thank you. You have inspired me to start my own channel too. I am a teacher and a mother to a three year old. I would love some support and love from people like you and other mothers here. Thank you for making videos and helping us out! We love you.

  • TIMESTAMPS
    #10. “You’re okay.” 0:50
    #9. “I’m so fat!” 1:50
    #8. “Hurry up!” 2:47
    #7. “Don’t be sad.” 3:50
    #6. “Let me do it.” 4:50
    #5. “You’re so incredible!” 5:52
    #4. “Good job!” 7:10
    #3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04
    #2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02
    #1. “I’m so proud of you!” 9:55

  • Parents cannot accept that they are wrong… My mother is now spoiling my brother… When I try to say something about it she blames me and that he learns all of that from me and also that I am becoming more arogant day by day. My brother seeing this and behaves badly with me, he doesn’t respect me. Now yesterday she said she would stop my education and that I am still living under her roof… I cried the whole night but that didn’t bother her even now she is behaving rudely with me…
    Btw I belong to an Indian family

  • I have anxiety social anxiety and my dad says I can’t hold ur hand all the time but the thing is he does not understand cause he does not have it and I find it hard to ask a simple question to someone like for a pair of shoes (shoe size) I can’t do it cause I’m too shy to do so unless it’s talking about something ik about a hobby I do for something than I open up but any other time I can’t really do it that easily I’m 14 btw and an girl who was bullied for nine years which caused this anxiety in the first place my mum on the other hand has better understanding about it than my dad does I just can’t see why he can’t be better at understanding or at least he could try to help me with it at least