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January 11, 2019 January 11, 2019 admin Leave a Comment on 8 Ways to Discipline Your Child Without Spanking Spanking is one of the most widely debated parenting topics. While most pediatricians and parenting experts don’t recommend spanking, the vast majority of parents around the world admit to spanking their kids. Give your child plenty of opportunities to move their bodies and work their minds.

They’ll be less likely to misbehave, as a result. Let your child go outside to burn off energy or dedicate a special place inside where they can play. Try keeping fun coloring books, puzzles, and games nearby to keep them preoccupied. If your child has pushed you to the point where you feel you can’t respond without spanking or yelling, take some space. “Depending on a.

Throwing a toy = Take away the toy until they can prove they respect their/your things for 24 hours (longer for older children). Although, no matter how you choose to discipline, you should always follow up with a talk, preferably a calm one explaining to them: Why their behavior was unacceptable. What they should do instead. Future consequences if they continue.

There are several different ways to discipline your child without spanking. However, you must consider the uniqueness of the given situation before employing them. Nevertheless, here are four different ways you can teach your kid a lesson without necessarily pulling out the proverbial rod. 1. Use the timeout method.

This method involves taking. Spanking when needed was an effective form of discipline for us. The title alone told me that this article would be one-sided with an agenda.

Child abuse is bad. No one advocates child abuse. Discipline is good.

If you don’t want to spank your kids then don’t. Otherwise, use spanking rarely but use it when needed, and do it in an. Continued Discipline Techniques. What you choose may depend on the type of inappropriate behavior your child displays, your child’s age, your child’s temperament, and your parenting style.

Spanking is one such form of discipline. Does spanking children work? and 17 percent did not consider spanking a problematic way to discipline a child. Parenting Without Punishment: A. 80 Ways to Discipline Your Child Without Spanking Kindle Edition by Abigail Zeman (Author) Format: Kindle Edition.

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While some desperate parents resort to yelling or spanking to control their children’s unruly behavior, Barbara Unell and Jerry Wyckoff, Ph.D., authors of “Discipline without Shouting or Spanking,” say that these forms of discipline can reinforce the kind of behavior parents seek to correct 1. Shouting or smacking reflects a lack of control and teaches children that aggression is.

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The key is that, with toddlers, on average, nothing works without repetition, including spanking.

“Current Controversies on Family Violence” by Donileen R. Loseke, Richard J. Gelles, Mary M. Cavanaugh
from Current Controversies on Family Violence
by Donileen R. Loseke, Richard J. Gelles, Mary M. Cavanaugh
SAGE Publications, 2005

As the chart makes clear, spanking is associated with one outcome that parents seek—immediate compliance.

“Parenting: A Dynamic Perspective” by George W. Holden
from Parenting: A Dynamic Perspective
by George W. Holden
SAGE Publications, 2014

Six items are stated as to affirm spanking as an appropriate disciplinary tool.

“Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts” by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, Murray A. Strauss, George W. Holden
from Handbook of Family Measurement Techniques: Abstracts
by John Touliatos, Barry F. Perlmutter, et. al.
SAGE Publications, 2000

I’d like to add one more thing to this third principle for discipline: keep calm and spank anyway.

“Why Children Matter” by Douglas Wilson, Nancy Wilson
from Why Children Matter
by Douglas Wilson, Nancy Wilson
Canon Press, 2018

So, although I’ve added a Toddler Toolbox at the end of this chapter, I want to cover what I have discovered to be the most effective tools up front: spankings, routine, choices, redirection, tone of voice, and lots of lovin’.

“Creative Correction” by Lisa Whelchel
from Creative Correction
by Lisa Whelchel
Focus on the Family, 2011

Would the authoritative parenting style allow the use of spanking as a means of control?

“The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home” by Jack O. Balswick, Judith K. Balswick
from The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home
by Jack O. Balswick, Judith K. Balswick
Baker Publishing Group, 2007

Discipline: A Positive Guide for Parents.

“The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach” by Alan Carr
from The Handbook of Child and Adolescent Clinical Psychology: A Contextual Approach
by Alan Carr
Routledge, 1999

3 Spanking is a form of child abuse and should be avoided.

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Discipline should guide, correct, strengthen, and improve the child’s choices.

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from Journey Across the Life Span: Human Development and Health Promotion
by Elaine U Polan, Daphne R Taylor
F.A. Davis Company, 2019

What about parents who do these things and also spank?

“Beating the Devil Out of them” by Murray Arnold Straus
from Beating the Devil Out of them
by Murray Arnold Straus
Lexington Books, 1994

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  • Thank you so much for this informative video. It is much needed in our society. Parents who were spanked say they turned out okay. If you are now an adult and still have not developed the skill of self control you are not okay. You need to work on developing that skill. It is sad that your parents did not teach it to you.

  • I was spanked, and not once for a second did I think my parent hated me. They explained to me why they were spanking me. They taught me I’m result to bad action you get spanked.

  • That’s a false statement by this person in this video
    She is clearly a anti-spanker
    That doesnt always work
    Time outs don’t work
    it’s up to parents to discipline their children the way they chose and not this anti-spanker who uses excuses on using spanking will cause frustration and hatred towards pArents

  • The so called “studies” shes talking about probably came from real child abuse victims and kids who didn’t get spanked at all. How about interviewing any CEO or successful figure in this world and I promise you more than 75% of them probably got spanked and whooped when they were younger.

  • LOL! That’s why we have so many bad spoiled kids these days. Parents just count to 3 or put them in timeout. The younger me would love to have parents like her because I know I could run all over her. But I was disciplined the old fashion way with spankings and I turned out to be respectful, plus my parents didn’t spoil me. I know when the time comes to have children, they will be obedient and won’t throw tantrums in public. I swear, kids have it made these days. Leave it to the PC society to tell you how to raise your children.

  • Do you realize not spanking your kids is leading up to the spoiled little brats that think they can tell you what to do and they’re the child and you are the adult and you need to step up yes I do give warning first but I do not want my child to be selfish ignorant ready and a bitch so I do think my kid I don’t give a f*** what you think so maybe you should reconsider that

  • I think the violence in black youth is because of poor parenting. Spanking teaches kids to react violently when someone does something you don’t like.

  • Spanking does teach a lot of things. I dont think that ignoring behavior, redirecting behavior, giving choices or showing time out work

  • Hey parents, I found this video. Please watch it. We need to know this info to protect our kids. 
    How Elliot Rodger Retribution is Biggest 3 Psych Diagnosis
    The book is blowing me away. It is changing my whole perspective. 

  • I was spanked and yes I was a very well behaved child but I battled psychological problems as result. I feared my dad and thought he was mean and didn’t love me. I also learned to suppress my feelings. As a result, I became a sneaky, people pleaser. sitting down with me and explaining why my behavior was wrong and telling me what to do in the future would have done wonders for me.

  • I was NOT spanked as a child and guess what? I became a teenager and knew I could walk all over my mom and get my way. I’ve grown out of it…took a while since that’s all I knew but I did. They become defiant when you let them get away with stuff. Time outs were a joke. I’d laugh in my mom’s face and get right back up.

  • All well and good if you have a reasonable child. I of some kids who drive their parents, day-care staff and other children up the wall. They have no discipline because their parents molly coddle them and never give them a good old fashioned bollocking. Hitting is ineffective. Taking away their favorite things works.

    In my day we’d never dream of giving teachers and parents cheek, either. If you stepped too far out of line you got “6 of the best”. Nowadays you can’t even give them lines!

  • When done consistently and are the right time, time outs work. Don’t give up. Keep putting them in time out until they cooperate. Don’t put them in time out when they won’t do something you say though. Take away their privileges and ground them for 2 days after they did what you told them to do. Giving them time out when they refuse to something let’s them be lazy. Also, don’t hand everything to them. A gift by you every once in a while is fine, but have them work for everything else.

  • I WAS SPANKED AS A CHILD AND SO WERE MY SIBLINGS AND WE DIDN’T TURN OUT TO BE VIOLENT PPL… CHILDREN NOWADAYS NO THAT THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH MORE THAN WE COULD BECAUSE SPANKING IS LOOKED DOWN ON.. TIME OUT AND TALKING THINGS AWAY DOESN’T WORK…. I SEE PPL GETTING CURSED OUT AND HIT BY THEIR KIDS IN GROCERY STORES (MINE WOULDN’T DARE) & PARENTS ARE TALKING TO THEM CALMLY THREATENING TO NOT BUY THEM A YOU AND TALKING AWAY PRIVILEDGES AT HOME, AND THE BEHAVIOR CONTINUES AND SOME TIMES ESCALATES… MY KIDS KNOW BETTER THAN TO HIT ME…THESE CHILDREN WE’RE YOUNGER than 6, so imagine how they’re going to treat their parents/caregivers when they get older…Spanking, not beating is necessary….

  • Is there have closed captioned for deaf parent to learn this video? Looking forward to watch this someday when there is available closed captioned for us. Thank you for sharing the video but no closed captioned and hope available soon.

  • My mind always goes back to spanking the child when they do something wrong. I feel like I need an example of an appropriate response to negative behavior for EVERY negative behavior.

    If anyone can help me, I’d appreciate it. What do I say or do when they hit? What do I say or do when they curse? What do I say or do when they do not come when called?

  • Anyone else find it funny how whenever the dad loses his shit he develops a lisp of rage?

    “Jimmy, stop eating!”
    “…JIMMEHY! STHAP! EADEEEEEEN!”

  • This lady is illogical in what she says. I got spanked but I didn’t learn that hitting is okay from being spanked. I learned that hitting was okay when I learned the hard way that punching a bully in his face and winning a fight actually stops bullies. I was never picked on again. So if society wants children to stop hitting people, they need to stop the bullies who do it. Not the parents from parenting.

  • Being a parent changes your approach to all things in life. A child should never experience the kind of emotional pain spanking causes. Now that I am a parent I realized how much pain I endured as a little kid and how tremendous effect it still has now in my adult life. Kids need be kids, a child needs positive direction, opportunity to make good choices without fear, a child should be allowed to FEEL. Parenting is not easy it’s a rollercoaster ride but everything is possible with kindness, LOVE will always win!

  • It is your parental rights and responsibility to discipline your kids even if it means giving them a proper spanking on their butts
    It’s not up to this anti-spanking lady to tell you otherwise

  • Parenting takes a lot of well-balanced thinking. Work and other things can take our focus away from child-rearing, as raising our babies can be a fulltime job more days than not. When kids repeatedly hit or pull on pets, we can only tell kids to “not do that” so many times before you realize that all life needs defending. One or two spankings may take care of it for a moment, but learning is an ongoing process.

    Especially if your animal is defending itself. We have the most mild mannered Yorkie, who has never nipped or growled. He will lick the kid’s face to destract them, and then he will run away and try to hide when they persist to bug/hurt him. Our grandson had the priviledge of climbing on a huge dog, that the kids pulled on and bounced on. However, this is not an ideally or a safe way to train a child to live safely amongst animals. Many animals do not want anyone near their face, especially when eating, because they feel that they are challenging them. I’ve seen to many kids in the news with facial tears. Who’s fault is it? The parents or the kids or the animals? Animals, no matter how domesticated, are still unpredictable animals. Kids only learn what their parents and peers teach them. So, parents, it’s your job to teach them early on, to respect everyone”s space, and the proper way to introduce themselves and ‘live’ with animals.

    So, we have tried everything, and one child made the doggy cry for a year. Finally, we’ve had a week without the dog crying. With persistence and consistency, whatever it may entail that’s parenting made with love.

  • Richard NOT KathyCould it be that this belief is based on the false assumption that every child is exactly the same and a universal standard of discipline IS effective on all children? I suppose laymen like myself should have to remind you that CHILDREN are individuals.Contrary to modern, progressive belief, that is not a bad thing either. What works for one kid does not exactly work for another.I certainly do not believe that spanking should EVER be the first resolve of a parent or custodial guardian. However, I also do not for one moment believe the option should be completely taken off of the table for parents AND educators. Take a look at the sudden explosion in crimes committed by youths today. Just in the last 25 or 30 years their behavior (with some exceptions) has gotten progressively worse. And give kids credit for having some intelligence. Nobody knows how to play the system better than a kid. They know that for the most part no one can spank them anymore, thus leaving no REAL ultimate means for enforcement of rules and at best, time consuming and ineffective means of discipline. When all other avenues are exhausted and proven ineffective, a spanking NOT A BEATING OR ABUSE could be warranted. That does not necessarily constitute child abuse, but inferior minds at CPS and in our laughable judicial system don’t know the difference, thanks to people like you who demonize good parents for using that option. There IS a right way and a wrong way to administer it of course. Intelligent people know that. Does it teach a child that hitting is okay? NO, again give em credit for having SOME intelligence that YOU don’t have (doctor). It does however teach them that there are unpleasant results for constant disobedience. A spanking today is a lot better than a 10’X 6′ prison cell tomorrow. doctor ( and I use this term to address you with great reluctance) you should really get out more. Go see the behavior of today’s children at a restaurant, the mall or even the grocery store. Theses new methods of discipline aint working when someone else’s lil bundle of joy becomes a thorn in my side, and if you have any sense, which i question, it would irritate you too. An even more disturbing trend though since a good ole fashioned paddling is no longer an option is that now, parents at a loss for an effective medium of discipline are starting to become part of the madness their child exhibits when in public. Thus giving me and everyone else around them a splitting headache. Did you take a correspondence course to become a doctor? If it cost more than a $1.25 you paid toooooooooooooooo Much! Don’t take my word for it though. Why don’t you go and ask a teacher in the public school system how their stress level has been lately.

  • No offense but i like the original one better lol u guys were great though! keep it up! you’ve got a bright future ahead of you:)

  • wtf the second one is better your one is shit im not trying to be meen but your one is wrong because it has 8 but the second one has 7 so your one is bad ok don’t go cry ok