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6 Tips to Reduce Your Child’s Behavior Problems Ensure Your Child Understands Why Her Behavior Is a Problem. While it may seem your child should “know better,” talking Explain Why Behavior Is a Problem and What Will Be Done About It. Clearly state the problems caused by your child’s Model. 10 Simple Ways to Improve Children’s Behavior (Home and School) 1. Verbally acknowledge children’s efforts.

Tell your child/student (s) specifically what he/she did that you are proud 2. Use positive body language to show approval for positive behavior. Positive body language can include a smil. Dr. Mudd recommends these strategies for helping your child tame his or her aggression: Stay calm. “When a child is expressing a lot of emotion, and the parents meet that with more emotion, it can increase Don’t give in to tantrums or aggressive behavior. For example, if your child is having a.

Before I talk about ways to help with child behavior problems, I want to share a story with you Little Suzy recently started Kindergarten. Within the first several days of school, the teacher noticed that Suzy was quite defiant when asked to follow instructions in the classroom. There are many things you can do to teach your child impulse control skills. 6  One simple way to reduce impulsive behavior is by praising your child each time they think before they act or speak. Say, “Great job using your words when you felt angry today,” or “That was a good choice to walk away when you were mad.”.

When you react or respond to your child’s bad behavior, you are encouraging her. Stay positive. When you consider your child as a problem, you cannot find effective ways to deal with his behavior.

Focus on rectifying the behavior. Be consistent in your reaction or responses to your child’s behavior. More importantly, be consistent in the consequences to drive the point home.

Studies show that kids are more likely to improve when their parents adjust their own expectations, get support, and reduce their own stress levels. For more information, see my article about parenting kids with aggressive behavior problems, and these tips for relieving stress. 7. Create conditions that foster positive sibling relationships.

How to stop it: Make your child aware of her behavior. Tell her, for example, “When you roll your eyes like that, it seems as if you don’t like what I’m saying.” The idea isn’t to make your child. Sometimes, health problems such as poor sleep, trouble breathing, poor vision, difficulty hearing, or learning problems can cause behavioral or emotional symptoms, or make them worse. Your child’s healthcare provider may want to find out if your child has any health problems before referring your child for therapy. When you think your child’s behavior might be a problem, you have 3 choices: Decide that the behavior is not a problem because it’s appropriate to the child’s age and stage of development.

Attempt to stop the behavior, either by ignoring it or by punishing it. Introduce a new behavior that you.

List of related literature:

The eight tips below can help protect your kids from stereotype threat.

“Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes” by Christia Spears Brown
from Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes
by Christia Spears Brown
Potter/Ten Speed/Harmony/Rodale, 2014

(3) Assertive discipline: Parents can use non-coercive and effective discipline practices to promote child pro-sociality and alter problem behaviors.

“Preventing Crime and Violence” by Brent Teasdale, Mindy S. Bradley
from Preventing Crime and Violence
by Brent Teasdale, Mindy S. Bradley
Springer International Publishing, 2016

Most of these suggestions are supported by common sense and by what we know about general ways to develop good habits in children.

“The Battle Over Homework: Common Ground for Administrators, Teachers, and Parents” by Harris M. Cooper
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by Harris M. Cooper
Carrel Books, 2015

Guideline 3: Praise your child for actively coping and using the new skills they are learning Positively reinforcing a behavior increases the likelihood of that behavior being repeated.

“Handbook of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Pediatric Medical Conditions” by Robert D. Friedberg, Jennifer K. Paternostro
from Handbook of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Pediatric Medical Conditions
by Robert D. Friedberg, Jennifer K. Paternostro
Springer International Publishing, 2019

In Part Three, you’ll learn several highly effective ways to boost your child’s good (“green-light”) behaviors, curb annoying (“yellow-light”) behaviors, and immediately stop unacceptable (“red-light”) behaviors.

“The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful and Cooperative Oneto Four-Year-Old: Revised Edition” by Harvey Karp, M.D.
from The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful and Cooperative Oneto Four-Year-Old: Revised Edition
by Harvey Karp, M.D.
Random House Publishing Group, 2008

Part 3 presents information on teaching responsible behavior to children directly, the use of positive practice, the importance of practicing behaviors before they are needed, and teaching self-discipline.

“Resources in Education” by National Institute of Education (U.S.), Educational Resources Information Center (U.S.), National Library of Education (U.S.)
from Resources in Education
by National Institute of Education (U.S.), Educational Resources Information Center (U.S.), National Library of Education (U.S.)
Department of Health, Education, and Welfare, National Institute of Education, 2000

Child: 50 Ways to Improve Your Child’s Behavior and Attention Span Without Drugs, Labels, or Coercion.

“Teach Your Own: The John Holt Book Of Homeschooling” by John Holt, Pat Farenga
from Teach Your Own: The John Holt Book Of Homeschooling
by John Holt, Pat Farenga
Hachette Books, 2009

There are numerous books and articles on behavior modification to teach parents ways to improve their childrearing practices.

“Behavior Modification: What It Is and How To Do It” by Garry Martin, Joseph J. Pear
from Behavior Modification: What It Is and How To Do It
by Garry Martin, Joseph J. Pear
Taylor & Francis, 2019

The most obvious of these would be discipline routines that parents create to dissuade children from ‘acting out’, throwing temper tantrums, and to help them learn the basic rules of the household.

“Encyclopedia of Infant and Early Childhood Development” by Janette B. Benson
from Encyclopedia of Infant and Early Childhood Development
by Janette B. Benson
Elsevier Science, 2020

In phase three (Steps 5–7), parents learn how to reduce children’s disruptive behavior using discipline and environmental structuring.

“Introduction to Abnormal Child and Adolescent Psychology” by Robert Weis
from Introduction to Abnormal Child and Adolescent Psychology
by Robert Weis
SAGE Publications, 2017

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  • I have autism and I am 16 and I have really bad anger issues and I don’t know how to control that I don’t want to see a therapist or whatever

  • Hi mary. My brother just turned 5 and he has extreme hyperness problems. He pulls our hair,pinches us and kicks us, hard. He hurts us on a daily basis and also has speech delay and chooses to ignore us when we try to tell him that what he does is wrong. He listens to my parents for just 10 sec before he returns and starts torturing us again. He hasnt been diagnozed with autism but he is said to be really hyper. Any advice on how to reduce (or stop) this behaviour?

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  • These tips are very helpful! What do you think about playing soothing music or sounds while putting children to bed? I taught preschool and found that this could be very helpful in helping 20 3-4 year olds get some rest in the middle of the day.

  • My son will be 4 in November. He’s been in feeding therapy, speech therapy, and occupational therapy since he was 20 months old. He frequently gets jagged on the “easy foods list” you mentioned. If we provide him with the easy foods frequently, how do we prevent getting stuck on certain food items? For example, hot dogs are an item on his easy food list, but if we give them to him, even occasionally, he gets stuck on them and will eat nothing but them for anywhere as long as a week to months. His longest food jag has been on chocolate chip granola bars. He would eat nothing but them for every bit of food and he did this for roughly 3 months. We went through over 90 granola bars per week and a half. If we refused to give him granola bars, he would starve himself. The longest he’s gone without food is 63 hours.

  • Thanks for your help
    My child is 2years and 8 months he had speech delay and he still waiting for diagnosis
    He was eating most of our food before even if it was very difficult but 3 month ago he had fever and respiratory infection and after that he refuse all food he was eating before
    He just want milk and choclate even if he is hungry he dosen t open his mouth to eat.it is imposible to eat even little amount of vegetables or meat witch he was eating before

  • Hi! Do you have books about all these! I learn easier.. I have 2 ASD children and I am also(didn’t know it before just recently learned and I am 40).

  • Have you found that this truly worked for children who were diagnosed with O.D.D.? Their brains are not “wired” the same as kids without this disorder so “praise” and “punishment” really doesn’t and cannot work for these children. A child without this would respond in a favorable way and the outcome would be as hoped for. I am curious to know how many children your strategies were tried on (and how many actually had success in following through).

  • What can I do? My son is three and now he speaks but he wants to tell everything before he sleeps, it may take hours. What is better to do stop him or not, if not he will talk for hours.We also read book before, he says about other things different.

  • My son has been hitting himself since he was 3 years old… He is now 26 and still doing it. I’ve begged through out his school life for him to have a behavioralist. Each time… His behavior isn’t bad. Each time it’s been noted regarding his hitting. Now, it’s really back fired on us. He hits himself in every mood… Good, bad, things he enjoys, things he don’t enjoy… Basically like stemming. My son is basically non verbal. He even started having seizures just 2 years ago. I’m just pissed that I feel he should have had help years ago when the behavior started. I’m pretty sure, 23 years later… That’s going to be hard to stop now.

  • Mam, my son is three, and his having lot of problem behaviour like hitting me or slapping me since the time the schools have closed and his therapy has stopped. What do I do?

  • Thank you helpful! My daughter is 7 she’s starting to hit at me, usually when she can’t have her way. It’s scary, but I let her know she can’t do that and I hug her and says “ Mommie loves you ok.

  • I have a six year old son who wants me to lie down with him in bed. He goes to sleep quickly but as soon as i get out of his bed he wakes up.he then comes to my bed n sleeps there. If i take him back to his bed he again wants me to lie down with him………
    Pls help

  • Hello i have a 5 year old and he has trouble going to sleep also. He wants to constantly run or walk back and forth. He wants to also play alot at night time. He refuses to stay in bed and comes into our room. It has been difficult because we also have a 3 month old. Help any advice would be appreciated.thanks for reading and responding.

  • My teenagers hits me and shut down won’t talk when I tell him what to do. Like cleaning,answering to me or even take a shower.. I don’t like that he hit me he’s 14 and taller than me.

  • My brothers 8 and he Hits me kicks me and my 13 yr old sister I’m only 11 and he’s always kicking our mom and us also we are tell him stop It hurts nothing works ��

  • im suffering every night with the last step which is gettin him back to bed but it seem meanings lost becouse im tired with it one month with that is realy crazy what can i do more?is there any solutions!!.

  • I have autism and I find a lot of comfort in a weighted blanket. You can get them in lots of sizes and weights. It’s very soothing! If there is trouble with physical contact, but they are having issues, the weighted blanket can be used similar to a hug; releasing endorphins, without the person to person contact.

  • Hi Dr. Barbera. I have a 16-year old non verbal severely autistic boy. He was tolerable 6 months ago. Suddenly last September he started hitting himself so hard on his forehead, hips & ankles. Hope to have private convo w/ you.

  • Tank you for your videos. I’m Norwegian, which means I’m extremely direct, but I’m trying to give constructive feedback:-p

    1. You talk way to much!:-P There’s nothing remotely related to the issue of hitting before the 2 minute mark. Nothing.

    2. Again, you talk to much!:-p actually, for me at least, the whole video was just a waste of time. I learnt nothing, and we got the diagnosis 2 days ago. The only thing that might be interesting was the 3 seconds it took to say “download my free 3 step guide”.

    Obviously you’re very knowledgeable, and I thank you for sharing your knowledge by all means, but I hope you’ll talk less and get more to the point in your videos 😉

    Best of luck, I’m off to download the guide 😉

  • My son is 2 and my daughter is 5. My son hits my daughter. What can I tell my daughter to do when he comes after her? He’s not speaking or able to understand any consequences so I don’t bother with that. I usually redirect but I want my daughter to learn to stand her ground while remaining peaceful and non violent instead of running to me or crying and accepting the abuse. She usually cries and keeps getting hit and rarely comes to me. So what can I teach her?

  • Hi my grandson is almost 4. And he use to play with toys. But don’t anymore. All he does is open close doors. And if you have baby locks on them he. Will ho and slap anything that makes a noise. Like fridge, stove,dishwasher, wall heaters. The whole time he is inside. She takes him out in a stroller. Because he runs away. And she has a 2 year old. And a other on the way. The two year is fine. No autism. But he starts to act like his older brother. And hits things
    Is there away to stop the older one with autism. From hitting things non stop. He does it non stop the whole time he is awake. His mom goes over and says no. But he keeps doing it
    Need help to stop this before school thanks

  • I’m 16 and i still lay in bed with two 5 feet soft toys haha i got diagnosed with autism a months ago and now i know the reason why i do all these things

  • My niece is 5 years old, severly autistic, non verbal, and only hits when she doesn’t get her way. Surely we all shouldn’t just give into this bad behavior? We are all just at a loss.

  • Or when he having a tantrum he lied down and starts rolling his head and dosent see what he is doing I’m scared he will hurt himself on a car or toys which are on a floor

  • Hi Mary, thanks for uploading videos it really helps us to teach our child.

    My son is 2 years 9 months old and having ASD, he show tantrums while walking on streets and always asks to carry him after 2 min walk. Could you please guide us on this.

    Also he is having special interests in playing with plant leaves, onions and straw’s or similar objects.

    If possible create videos for these issues.

  • I work as a substitute teacher. One time I was called in and asked if I could be an instructional assitant for the day and I would still get paid as a substitute teacher (which obviously pays more). I was assigned specially to one student who kicked me twice and threw a toy at me. I was surprised that none of the adults (who actually had known him for months) said anything. They didn’t say anything at all. They didn’t even say no. I was about to ask them, “Is it illegal for you guys to say no?” I never went back to that school because I highly doubt it’s illegal to say no.

  • What about adults with autism? I work with a guy who is 31 and autistic and when he doesn’t get what he wants, when he wants he throws a hissy fit. I feel like his parents spoiled him and never taught him violence is not a way of self meditation.

  • Now i m in belgium from 2016.And i have one more question or you can say complain that i was knew that my son have some problem from his age 1n half i consult with dr.but dr says its normal till he had an crises in front of nurse than they decide to take advice from nurologist or psychiatrist they advice me to give him risperdal and melatonine for slipping and calming but now its not helping just my family is suffering and as a mother i m loosing my all relation.thats all i hope u understand wat i want to say.

  • Doctor,my child can mostly tolerate hard and or crispy foods such as crackers,and chips..she only eats at times chicken for protein.her vitamins come from baby cereals and 1brand of baby food.most of the time she drinks milk..she would cry or be upset by just looking at foods..she wouldn’t even try to taste them.she was initially diagnosed with ASD.

  • My cousin hits everyone but what’s dangerous is he likes to hit people with things (controllers and toys). And he does it out of the blue and smiles about when he gets you. He also saw a clip from a show where a man hit his wife and he said “ I like him”. His mother does nothing about it and if he hits me they won’t tell him off,so when I do tell him they take his side. He’s only 6 but if they keep not addressing it I’m afraid when he becomes older he will be very violent.What should I tell him when he does hit me or others?

  • Have you ever realized why almost all Whites love and consume  a gigantic amount of sugar(especially processed) on a daily basis? Sugar is like a drug and the Caucasoid race as a whole, love sweets because it gives them a similar effect of drug use. They are drug addicts as majority of them have always been, historically speaking, doing illegal drugs.

  • i have autism brother that love game so much…. they always turn on the audio to loud…..my brother angry if they dont get any game..but if they got game… they really happy… im feel bad so much…. about 5-4 years experiencing this thing with my family…especially my mother… always care much to my brother and my mom dont have time to make their work………. only god can make this peacefull even we have go to find doctor and make operation…but still same…… i have bad life and half beautiful life… i wish i have a normal life like u all… ��