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Mean people. Gross! If only someone would invent a force field for nice people that would make negative vibes bounce off and land in a bush. Until then, here are five phrases you can use to ‘keep the power’!

1. “Why are you spending so much energy trying to make me feel bad? I. 5 Subtly Mean Phrases Bullies Use.

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These bullies use their words to torment, even when they may not have any actual power over the victim. Passive-aggressive or covert bullying. Ni says this is infrequent but “in some ways it’s the. If you want to spot a bully, you should watch out for some of these telltale phrases. “I’m not a bully. I’m just honest!” Many bullies tend to use this as one of their main excuses.

They will use the guise of being ‘honest’ when really they are being brutal. This is the way that they justify the awful, mean things that they say to others. These 10 Phrases Are an Insult to Everyone’s Intelligence I can even use it as collateral in case I want to get a loan to buy something at Prada.

This phrase has somehow come to mean: “I. Some forms that mean-spirited teasing or bullying can take include: Engaging in hurtful name-calling or shaming of some sort such as fat-shaming and slut-shaming. Making cruel or nasty statements about another person. Dishing out putdowns disguised as jokes. Using sarcasm to ridicule another person.

Bullies are not accepted here, bullies are the one who should fear. 2. Tell bullies to go away, that we won’t accept them in any way. 3. It is only fair to treat others with care. 4. The size that really matters is the size of your heart.

5. Treat others like you want to be treated. Sometimes, bullies use anger to try and control others. Sixty-one percent of individuals say a bully has used “presumably” uncontrollable mood swings in front of a group as a way to try and. These subtle signs are all used to create an emotional reaction, usually anxiety, which establishes greater control and power over the victim. Deceit.

Repeatedly lying, not telling the truth, concealing the truth, deceiving others to get one’s way, and creating false.

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An example of the last would be claiming that being the troublemaker one is accused of being by the bully is a good thing for the department since change is needed.

“Organizational Socialization: Joining and Leaving Organizations” by Michael Kramer, Michael W. Kramer
from Organizational Socialization: Joining and Leaving Organizations
by Michael Kramer, Michael W. Kramer
Wiley, 2010

The/ go around witha sign hanging out, ‘I’m out of sorts this morning,’ or ‘I’m just feeling bully—got my deal through.’

“Slang and Its Analogues Past and Present: A Dictionary Historical and Comparative of the Heterodox Speech of all Classes of Society for More than Three Hundred Years with Synonyms in English, French, German, Italian, etc.” by Anonymous
from Slang and Its Analogues Past and Present: A Dictionary Historical and Comparative of the Heterodox Speech of all Classes of Society for More than Three Hundred Years with Synonyms in English, French, German, Italian, etc.
by Anonymous
Library of Alexandria,

But they also muddy the waters: gateway behaviors can be used to tease, to be mean just once, or to bully.

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by Elizabeth Kandel Englander
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“Your tactics might have been more subtle than shoving a kid up against a wall and threatening to thump them, but anything that involves forcing people to act against their will counts as bullying in my book.”

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by Robert Muchamore
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The last are those most explicitly bullied, at least by reputational jeering and pointed exclusion.

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“I have something to say to you I’m not referring to the bullies Or the ones they pursue.

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“I’ve seen them before, they’re just bullies.

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Questioning can work well, too: “Do you think bullies earn more or less respect from their friends?”

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by Elisa Medhus M.D.
Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2011

Writing down specific definitions for harassment and bullying will leave no loopholes.

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(Bully goes a distance off curling up to sleep without a word) I used to wash Troubles mouth out with soap when he used bad words.

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  • Bullied must raise the issue to the authorities like parents and teachers. Know your worth, you are human who deserved to be treated well. Fight for your right to express who you are! Do not allow anyone to make fun of you! And lastly, DO NOT BE LIKE THEM!

  • A lot of this is good advice, but is not applicable in the UK. In the UK you have the right to have a rep with you. And if it is a disciplinary they are SUPPOSED to give you a written summary of the allegations a week before a disciplinary hearing… If they have not then state your rights.

    It is highly unlikely that a co worker will stand up for you and even if they do there is no guarantee of outcome, but I have been in the situation with a boss that was an out and out bully. He moved to another department and started on some poor 17 year old kid. Someone told the kid that I had, had issues with the same guy and the kid came to see me early one morning. Fortunately, my friend and a union rep were in the lab when he sought me out and whilst the union rep did not hear all of what was said he did hear me mention his name and point him out.

    My friend asked me at break time what had been said and her response was ‘yeah that guy is a real bastard, you really need to tell the main union guy about it to cover your own arse and so that the union knows this guy is still bullying people’ That evening when no one was around I went to the main union guy who gave me a copy of the company ‘dignity at work code’ and asked me to pass it on to the kid. The next morning I went in and saw the kid in his section, the only other person around was another friend of mine who happened to be training the kid, I gave him the paperwork with a copy of the company jobs sheet on top and instructed the kid to put it in his personal locker or his car and to read it at home. The kid asked what he should say if he walked into the bully and he took it off him, I told him that he was safe at the moment because his bully was usually late in, but if he walked into the bully then he should say that it was from the union, because the management can not punish the union for giving him documents that the employer should have given him.

    Kid takes no notice and waves around document and some brown nose grasses him up to the bully boss and he then tells the bully boss that I had given him the documents. I do not know this, but some time later the kid comes into our lab again early in the morning. This time he starts to say that he has been subject to more bullying and the bully’s sidekick that towers over the kid has threatened to punch him and he is scared, I tell him that he pretty much has 2 choices, join the union and get their help or go back to his job agency and ask them to find him another position as the current one is just not a good fit. He is still gibbering on about being frightened of the bully and I tell him to stay out of the bully’s way as much as possible and not to be alone with the bully. He says that he is still frightened that the bully is going to hit him and I tell him that it is extremely unlikely that the bully would attack in front of witnesses and this is why he should not be alone with him. The kid says what should he do if he does attack and I simply said then you are backed into a corner and you will have no choice, but to defend yourself, but this is why I am advising you to either involve the union or find a way out of here, because if you get in a fight with this guy, it is you that they will fire.

    Unbeknown to me the bully boss had seen him talking to me and asked him what it was about and the next thing I know I am subject of a disciplinary hearing, making out that I had told the kid to ‘kick shit’ out of his bully. This was quite an incredible accusation, given that for a start off the kid was about 5 foot 6 inches tall and the bully was about 6 foot 2 inches in comparison. I had 4 witnesses. My friend and the union guy who actually saw the kid initiate conversation with me and could tell by the tone of voice that he was complaining and whom I had actually confirmed what the conversation was about to, the first time he came into our lab. The main union guy who I had related the incident to, who had asked me to furnish the guy with the ‘dignity at work’ policy. And also my other friend who had seen me hand the kid the policy document. This last witness also said that she asked the kid why he had lied and made a statement that I had told him to kick the shit out of his bully, the kid said that the bullies told him it was that or he would be out of work. ALL OF THIS IS GIVEN IN WITNESS STATEMENTS.

    But despite the fact that telling the guy to kick the shit out of his bully does not make sense in light of giving the kid a copy of the companies dignity at work code and telling him to seek help from the union, who are better able to help the kid than me and it does not even make sense from the size difference alone. The company decided that I had tried to cause trouble by trying to involve the union and that I had tried to incite the kid to assault a member of the workforce. I was issued with a final written warning for this and told that if I talked about what had gone on that I would be dismissed. Frankly, I should have walked then, but I contacted a lawyer and they sent a threatening letter to the kid telling him to retract his statement, the kid, being beyond stupid and not realising that these gits were not going to stop bullying him, showed the letter to the bullies and they fired him. I should have walked then, but the issues was then employer references, I had got a friend to get references from them and they were such that there was no chance that I would get a job. I just had to suck it up and save up for them firing me, which they eventually made some absolute bullshit up and fired me. This time when they started the disciplinary proceedings, I went off sick for 4 months and they had to pay me for all of that time, well I was working a 60+ hour week and doing on call but only got salary of £17,500 per annum, so to be honest I was only getting what they should have paid me in the first place, still at least I won that little victory.

    When they finally sacked me there was still outstanding pay and those references were obviously pretty awful. My union was involved and threatened a tribunal and the reply was that if we went down that route and lost then they would personally pursue me for the costs. The advice came back was ‘don’t do it’, they have offered to pay your outstanding wages and they will provide you with a neutral reference in exchange for you signing a non disclosure agreement. In other words we will throw you some chicken feed in exchange for you selling your rights to stand witness when our bully bosses unfairly sack other people, I told my union you can go tell them that if they are not decent enough to pay people what they owe them in the first place then that is between them and their consciences, but my principles are not up for sale they can go stick their underhand gagging agreement up their jaxxsies. My union rep said I should accept the deal and I said that I did not want to sell out my mates for 30 pieces of silver and my union rep said you are not selling anything it is them that owe you the money, but she said that I pretty much had to accept it or the bullying would not stop and the employer would be likely to contact any future employer and screw up my future employment.

    And by the way my ex boss PETE if you are reading this, how is your new job at the coffee shop, bit of a come down from being a department manager to serving folk coffee and cleaning tables. Yeah that is right I know all about it and I see from the negative comment about you on Trip adviser saying that you are rude and abrupt that you have not changed one bit, hope they give you plenty of crappy toilets to clean. And you know how your alcoholic daughter got done for being three times over the drink drive limit, take a wild guess who shopped her to the police. Yes, that is right, you are not the only person who can bully people. Do I feel guilty. No. Because I know that I was targeted unfairly by you and that you either lied about me or twisted someone else’s arm to lie about me, the big difference is that you bullied me for just trying to make a living, where as I got a selfish.[where did she get that from] and dangerous young lady off the road who could have killed someone. And yes I did figure out why you bullied me, remember how you used to boast about how intelligent your daughter was, you had us all thinking that she was some sort of Oxbridge candidate, but all the graduates in your old department had a mighty good laugh at her linkedin profile, there is exaggerating and then there is EXAGGERATING.

  • 2:00 “Play around”

    Seriously? A bully who is 7 feet and you are 5 feet 6 inches verbally harasses you and in your defense you want negative reinforcement? That’s just asking for trouble and puts you into much harm. I would just be direct, communicate the bullies error, and report them to upper management. Don’t make it difficult than it seems. A bully wants you to react and feel the need to give into him or her.

  • lol where were you 2 days ago haha. this is good mate. excellent its similair to the CIA training they call it Verbal Judo u can youtube it

  • I am a Author, Writer, I have written to ENCOURAGE, and INSPIRE others.

    I have written Poetry, articles, I am a Author,
    I have written many articles, to AVERT, Prevent, the violence harm of others.

    I am no different than any other man, or woman, who dislikes harm to others.

    I am No different than any other man or woman who dislikes harm to children.

    I am No different than any other Author, Writer, Poet, and those who work in professions of Service, Protective Service, First Responders, and wishes write to protect women, and men, and children.

    I am No different than any other, Writer, Author, Poet, or first responder, public Safety personal, who spends their time and efforts to help others.

    I am No different other than the actual fact, that, I have had actual real, direct, person to person face to face threats from persons in, have been in positions of authority these actual threats to make my life difficult.

    I write in many times to prevent harm, and avert harm beforehand.

    This way others can make choices to help prevent, and prepare people to prevent any potential harm.

    I am NOT a person who would harm anyone else, I am just as any other first responder who wish is Provide protection, Safety, Well being.

    I like people, this why I write to ENCOURAGE and help others, in many ways, throughout my life.

    There are many people throughout our history who have a innate sense to help others.
    I innate sense to Prevent harm.

    I have innate sense to Protect agaist the violence, hurt, and harm of women, children and men.

    These people were allowed to help others in our history.

    I am not trying to be great,

    I am just trying to live with the innate sense to help others, in whatever positive ways I can.

    I have only desired to help others since I was at a very young age.

    Not everyone likes the idea that I wish to help others.

    I have been told why should you Care about others.

    I would never try to hurt anyone.

    I am Protective person who desires to help others.

    There is a reason why I have repeated this information NOT difficult to figure out why.

    WHY HAVE I WRITTEN REPEATEDLY, THE REASON IS VERY OBVIOUS, their are those who wish to Slander, lie, create situations, and or deliberately lie to cause problems.

    Note from May 25, 2018, 1:15 PM[Blue]
    Note from May 16, 2018, 2:52 PM[Blue]

    I Jason Sandifer, Have Prayed Concerning the following Written below has been previously in various media formats in similar version this is a Reposted.

    I still believe that there has been a VERY INTENSE CONCERTED Efforts to make myself (Appear,) and be (Depicted) in a very (Negative light), VIA EXPLOITATION of Situational Circumstances in some circumstances in which I am NOT in control of.

    (This may be a Direct Result )of several prior (Actual) (Direct Threats) (Verbal)

    (Actual Face to Face conversations) stated to (make my Life Very hard, and difficult for me, via some Persons of, and in Authority, and maybe a direct retaliation, and as to EXPLOIT any occurrences of Homelessness, or Situational circumstances, hardships, difficulties, including any loss of employment, layoff, and or any occurrences of unemployment.

    *****For a Very literal Example it was stated to me DIRECTLY
    Face to face, (Actually) told to me (Directly) that I looked like I “belonged in a cage, like an orangutan”, and the person had the ability to ( “make this happen quite easily”).

    This only just one of many such like Threats I have received Directly via persons of, or in Positions of Authority thru the years. I have done absolutely Nothing Wrong.

    *Yet precarious situations come to me. (Randomly) Not the other way around.

    I DO NOT have any medical issues I am healthy.

    *I am NOT Depressed
    *I am NOT on any medications, NOR have I ever been on a regimented prescription medication schedule, I have Never, Ever been on a regimented prescription program other than antibiotics for a cut 15 years ago or so.

    *(I Do Not Seek Trouble at All). Yet by some,
    *I have been many times (Treated like a Criminal) (repeatedly).

    (I have) also been
    for Family, Friends, and Acquaintances, for
    their Well-Being and Safety.

    *In Everything that I Write, Wrote, and have Written, or Speak about it has been to Encourage, and or Help, and or to be of Service to someone else.

    I have moved on, and will continue with Pursuing with My Hopes and Dreams, despite the many (Precarious Situations), Situational Circumstances, and also (MANY, MANY DIFFICULTIES) which I have faced.

    *Although this has been a Serious Threat and Issue.

    *I have also been (Highly Concerned for Family, Friends, many Acquaintances), (for their Well Being, Safety and Protection)

    Jason Sandifer-(Advocate for the Preservation of Life), (and for
    Advocate, Reposted Message

    Author, Advocate for Humanity,
    Jason Sandifer, Michigan-(2020)

    Advocate for Humanity,
    Anti-violence advocate of Women, Children, Men

    Author, Jason Sandifer,
    6/23/2020, 7/23/2020
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  • okay, my opinion, and happy to chat about it.

    1, 2, and 3 can be a sign that an AMAB person is flirting with you but that doesn’t make it okay.
    if these things are making you uncomfortable it should not be excused by saying “it’s okay he’s only flirting”
    now this can be mitigated by telling them you feel uncomfortable and then it’s on them to respond. i can also appreciate that that might now be an option because they are making you feel uncomfortable and possibly unsafe.

    lastly this is to the guys doing weird things. if you want anyone to like you then help them to know they are safe. you’ll get a lot further then inappropriately touching them.

  • This guy in my life, makes fun of me, pulls my hair, watches me from afar, but averts his eyes when I look up, playfully throws things at me, picks lint off me, got really quiet ( we used to talk a lot) but NEVER asks me out. So it’s weird. Seems he likes me, but ultimately does not.

  • Had an a**hole of” Boss-turd” who said rhat other were talk about me. So l spoke the the other co-workers but the Boss-turd got wind of it, then said it was people from other departments. To which l “name name’s or l would take it “sh** stirring bullshit”. From which he said ” l cant divulge that information”. I tben said ” Was this a formal issue or infomal”. Then he was quiet, then he said again ” l cant divulge that information”. From that point l knew without doubt he was totally bullshiting.

  • A kid got arrested at our school for skipping the classes once.
    Aaaaaand what if the teachers made the stupid decision to put you in nearly all of the same classes as your bully?

  • Without trying to support her at the end she should just say that the difference is that indeed she is trying to offend him but is he also trying to offend his students?
    Cause it’s another thing when u do it on purpose.

  • You are only INFERIOR if you allow yourself to be…or report to HR then wait for the response…then when HR doesn’t do jack then you get a lawyer to put together a Cease and Desist letter and serve it to them as a SURPRISE! and sit back and don’t look like a scared dog but a Wolf… take a stand or sit down and deal…I take a stand…

  • so my crush told me that he doesn’t wanna be in a relationship but aPpArEnTly he stares at me in class and looks at me up and down and is just being fridget


  • I got bullied by being insulted but that’s nothing I also got beat up and attacked twice and in those instances the reaction should be fight back and hurt them though like badly I also got videos made about me until I go them back as well yes not reacting does work but for those instances show them what it’s like

  • interesting analysis of the interview. About the interview itself: the professor is, given his decades of reading, learning and writing, ofcourse intellectually superior to an all round journalist who has the mission to represent the common people. But ok even if he is intellectually superior (say, in his domain), why the arrogant, ‘laid-back’ and misogynist attitude of Peterson? What is even more alarming, are the comments. There seems to be a massive stored male anger out there, waiting for the narrative of Peterson to be mined. The reactions of male Peterson fans illustrate how the real world still works. Even Western liberalised/enlightened societies remain, in a more or less subtle way, profoundly misogynist. So maybe Peterson is right in saying that there has not been much of an evolution since the time “there were not yet trees”. He is just another man in the tradition of Otto Weininger (who killed himself at the age of 23 in 1903) “No men who really think deeply about women retain a high opinion of them; men either despise women or they have never thought seriously about them.” All this is in the body language of Peterson. Did nothing really changed since John Lennon sang “We make her bear and raise our children, And then we leave her flat for being a fat old mother hen, We tell her home is the only place she should be,Then we complain that she’s too unworldly to be our friend.”

  • I’ve been in this environment for about 2 years. Had to hire an employment attorney to prevent my own suicide. I’ve never been spoken to or treated this way in my entire life.

  • It’s not cost effective to lose staff. Try to keep staff at all costs. Communication and acknowledgement of the problem and having the group come up with ways to resolve it is the best thing to do. It’s like treating both of your kids the same. And letting the bully know that you know what they are doing. And to stop it now. Is best.

  • 1.he makes fun of you��
    2.he avoids you when sober��
    3.he can’t help but touch you��
    4.remembers weird details ��
    5.he stares deeply in your eyes ��
    6.he makes weird excuses to talk/see you��
    7.his hands are in weird places��
    8.his eyes are dilated ��
    9.he is pursuing you����

    Have a good day��

  • hi victor, thank you for sharing this video on bullies. does these types of responses can work on female bullies as well because unfortunately i happen to be surrounded by a swarm full of them and it seems to affect with my emotional wellbeing as a young introverted woman because i dont do well with confrontation as well wanting to get too involved in the lives of other women. i love keeping a distance from other people when it comes to pursuing my own goals or hobbies.

  • My coworker hated me and got the boss to hate me. I did a good thing and it was turned around on me I couldn’t believe it. I got yelled at for doing extra that hurt no one at all. It is insane. The bully boss is retiring. But her wicked trainee is still in place. She still hates me but the great thing is I have an excellent review I basically got a 100 perfect score on my review from my boss. Then whispers from her favorites and I’m under the bus. Just crazy making my feelings are really hurt because it’s so wrong. The injustice is real.

  • Yep, what is your primary concern exactly? That’s the easiest and fastest way to find common ground and communicate your point through intention.

  • i don’t know whose opinion i actually agree with, I just like seeing a person’s debating skills and everyone in the comment section seems to be far right and i’m: scared

  • There’s this one guy he teases me everyday he’s only nice to me if I’m in a bad mood but he always starts trouble with me idk if he likes me or not

  • I’m not a particularly good debater, or good with my words. So I’ve learned to compensate with violence. Sometimes you have to go with your strengths.

  • My crush is not really shy but just reserved. He’s so hard to read �� I don’t want to get my hopes high, but my friends always tell me that just go for it, but I’m scared to get hurt ��

  • She is the perfect example of how many women try to win arguments by controlling the conversation/assumed narrative, instead of debating facts and dissecting what is true. These people aren’t seeking the truth. They are seeking VALIDATION for their feelings/values. They assume they are right because it “feels” right. They are not looking for facts or rational explanations. They are looking for excuses/narratives to justify their feeling.

  • There’s this shy awkward guy that I’ve liked for a while that has been doing these.. but he just recently got out of a serious relationship and I’m not sure if he genuinely likes me or if he’s only looking for attention ��

  • i say
    i dont do anything because Its not like i have ppl to back me up becuz my bully has like abunch of minions by her side and i dont have friends so i choose not to pick fights

  • This is textbook what happened to me. I just settled a very large class action lawsuit with the company on wage and break violations. Almost a million dollarsthe feeling is fabulous

  • I don’t think colleagues will stand on your or the bully side. They’ll try to stay away from the issues between you and the bully.

  • An older kid on the bus beat me up and followed me to my house and racially abuses me for being Irish. I don’t know what to do because I have to get the bus

  • It’s the both the charge nurse and the unit manager. I had to shared my concerns with the educator, the nurse recruiter even my mentor. Turns out the educator was part of it also and the recruiter did not give two cents. I was fired.

  • This happened to me, one was sitting ready to type my answers, I had no idea what it was about, it was as if I was in a Police Cell

  • I started a new job a few years back. One of the managers would come in my office and make sexual comments and even made physical jestures (shoved his crotch in my face) more than once. I complained to Human Resources. HR manager called me in his office and says to me… Do you like working here?
    The place is toxic as hell.

  • There is this guy who I kinda like and he stared at my boobs one time and the other at my lips altought i wore a glossy lipbalm. He is making fun of me, tries to bring me to laught and jerking around but he is this like all the time to everyone. He just texted something a bit naughty well i think it was just fun and he didnt say it direktly but I am still not sure if he is flirting with me!!?! Help!

  • I helped get a bully fired who’s last name was on the side of the building.
    Work your tail off. The owner will notice. Sooner or later the owner will ask what you think of the bully. Briefly state facts with no emotion.

  • Keep copies of that tape recording like 5 or 6 copies
    One gose to the lawyer one goes to the state eeoc office and other state agencies

  • I made a complaint about 1 of them bullying me then all of a sudden 2 days later I was accused of bullying all 3 of them. I guess I made it to the manager before they did. I see how they are trying to set me up. I have never bullied anyone. Ever. I did not know if I should be angry or hurt. I was floored. I can tell you that.

  • Lol my gay friend is trynna flirt with me even tho I’m a boy too and I think he thinks I am gay but I’m not… (btw he stares at me in class. Also the weirdest thing in class what that he started at me THROUGH HIS HAIR!)

  • I felt like someone I have known for 2 years was flirting with me because he kept only talking to me when no one was around just joking around.

  • I remember when I was 14 years old and started working at Burger King. We were told that after the guest had ordered we were to ask “And What else?” as opposed to “Will that be all?”. The reason we did this was because people usually added something to their order, thinking they had not ordered enough food. It worked like a charm but in hindsight I feel kind of bad.

  • This is currntly happening to me& I wish I knew where to begin…
    The bully realizing I’m not even being phased by her petty lies& defamation attempts is now targeting the vulnerable clients/ consumers to get to me, that’s where I draw the line! The rumor & lie mill about me has been going on for years… the Truth always comes out hence why I still have my job!
    I do my job w/o complaints from any clients (clients: the only people who should have any opinion on my job!). The only problem is the supervisor dont seem to communicate with the client but instead with everyone else who has 100% NOTHING to do with me or my job… I dont get it!?

  • I had been getting bullied ever since whistleblowing…every 2.5 months I was getting reprimanded and verbally abused/humiliated. Had a 4:1 where all four heads of management verbally assaulted me. (Mind you our local organization employs less than 20 employees but somehow there are 4 heads of management.) I was calm…a week later passed now I’ve been fired. ��

  • I appreciate this video, but seriously, no job is worth going through this BS. I just let them talk and get my unemployment check, I just have to find another job and thats it, job is not life, remember that

  • Take a relaxed posture if the discussion gets aggressive
    Break the questions down when your opponent asks severe questions (blames) in one breath

  • I was bullied for 12 years until I finally had enough of it, I killed him and his dog….. good times though. Hes stopped bulling though!

  • I saw this interview and Cathy wore me out with her insanity. I had no real opinion about her as a person prior to watching, but a very negative view of her by the end of it. She made a fool of herself.

  • I believe it’s more of a psychological bullying now…id rather deal with what I did as a school boy than what my nieces go through with the verbal torment

  • right so this boy always punches me so I turn around and then he just smiles and then he always tries to fist bump me a lotttt what does this meannnn ��������

  • Once I was in a party and a dude approached me, sayed he liked my shirt, stood there for a while and then put his hand on my head, that was sooooo weird hahahahah

  • Excellent video but I think that every person working in the world needs to watch this video millions not just 71,000 views. Add a lot of these meetings are a “surprise” under a different topic and when you arrive it is a “you will be fired meeting” (you will not have preparation time). Does not just happen on Friday afternoons. Trust your gut and if you feel something yes collect emails, etc. Also voice record on your phone discreetly (tell then you are muting the phone).

  • That gotcha was deserved tho. Not for cathy but for jordan. I mean that must have been pure relief to say that, after successfully navigating through the minefield cathy laid out for him to cross.

  • I went to the ethics compliance officer regarding criminal misconduct at the company and two days later I got the ambush meeting exactly as described in this video. The feds came in a year later and my bosses lost their jobs despite written employment contracts. They should have all gone to jail.

    Corporations in the US today are nothing more than racketeer influenced and corrupt organizations that need to be strictly regulated and prosecuted by the government. And people wonder why the corporations supported Trump’s cheating to win the elections.

  • Audio record the meetings and any bullying. Upload it to social media / youtube with company name anonymously. Nobody will touch the company. If more people did this it would make allow so much change.

  • Oh I didn’t get that opportunity I was called into a meeting and immediately terminated because I complained about someones prejudice remarks with witnesses too.

  • I came here for the touching part. I am 13 and I like this guy and we were sitting together and I go “I want a hedgehog” then he goes “I want a snake” then he continues to swerve his hand on my shoulder for like 12 seconds And then we were in band and I go “I hate the 2nd saxophone part” then he starts patting my arm for a long time. And today he touched my hand. I know no one cares but my family wont listen to a word I say so I will tell you people

  • This is spot on. I’ve been through this before and am going through it right now. I’m waiting to get let go. I flat out refused to sign my Written Warning. It contained several accusations that were false.
    From now on I’m recording every conversation I have with anyone at my job.

  • Met a guy at work and he stared at me during a meeting for way too long. I tried looking away and when I glanced back he was still staring. Really unnerved me…but I have felt other signs he might be into me. I’m currently using the be mean thing…as I figure out if I want it to be “flirting”

  • Only a man firm in his stance and having ripe views cannot fall in such traps because they never forget what they said and what they stand for, their views are defined and concrete. A man having undefined views can easily stagger in such debates, as he’ll fall in these straw man strategies very easily. And men having defined views often use the strategies you mentioned to trap the others in a debate, and it definitely doesn’t take much effort to put them down. But these men are also very good at avoiding being trapped by these strategies because a man who knows how to play also knows how not to be played.

  • Lol tf he calls me ugly and then says “well you aren’t pretty” and idk he’s so weird he says “good night” and i say “k” and he just says “damn okay” or when he leaves for soccer practice “will you miss me?” And I say “no I won’t shithead” he just says “good cause I won’t miss you either”
    Idk what this guy is up too

  • I’ve got autism so I have faced a ton of bullying at work. I don’t even want to work anymore because the costs of the paychecks is enormous. Being demoralized, hazed, and subjected to a hostile work environment is health harming and no paycheck will be worth that.

  • Sooo the guy I like flirts with everyone I feel like. He could even flirt with an inanimate object. For fking sakes. Life is complicated �� I don’t think he knows he does it.

  • How can the first one be ok? Devaluing a person to increase personal value is never ok. Actually it is more of a set up for a toxic foundation.

  • He also gave Cathy an indirect «acknowledgment» by saying «pursuit of truth» instead of «to protect your position». That was the first brilliant move. Then, he moved to the acknowledgment of her doing a good job by not having to think about being offensive. It’s a compliment, which there is truth in. A journalist is respected for seeking the truth and daring to ask difficult questions. These compliments are pivotal, not because she needs it for her ego, but because of the «respect» for her in her general profession, despite the persona she took on in the debate. So awesome

  • This happened to me as a Trainee at the Veterans Benefit Administration in Milwaukee. It was horrible. They hire vets, say they will train and then you sit in front of PowerPoint classes. Then you are told your performance is never good enough and fired like a dog on the street. A Disabled Veteran. I’m still traumatized. Check out the Indeed and Glassdoor reviews. I’m suprised there hasn’t been a decent Congressional inquiry. Soon there will be more criminal acts committed.. Veteans doing this to Vets so they csn pad their wallet.

  • Great phrases. My power phrases are
    1. Thanks, you have a very good intuition
    2. Sorry, what did you say? My penis is too big

    But I’ll add yours to my list:)

  • I need help,so I have all classes with this boy. In math ystr he walked by me and w like locked eyes, and I just turned my head. But then in science we were doing a thing and the teacher said she would randomly pick one to read, and he said pick callie’s. Then after he read some of the thing he said you should make callie read next. There is other events too. My friends say thats flirting. Is it?

  • I’ve been bullied for nearly my entire life!
    Story 1: I was in 3rd grade. This girl and I had to sit together on the bus and she was mean! She always slapped me, ripped my homework and called me names. I tried to tell the teacher, but the teacher always hated me for some unknown reason.

    Story 2: 4th grade. I was outside during recess, just minding my own business. All of a sudden this boy ran up to me and stayed to beat me up. I called for help, but the supervisor just stood there… And laughed at me.

    Story 3: middle school. I was different. I loved to read, that was all I ever done during free time in class and lunch. I was bullied and teased EVERY. DAMN. DAY. for my weight, acne, and my autism. One day I was in gym class and it was free time and we were allowed to sit in the hallway if we wanted. I was minding my own business and these group of boys came up to me and called me fat, ugly, and so much terrible names. I walked away, locked myself in the private bathroom in class…. And just let it all out. One day I met this amazing girl. She was my only friend and we were inseparable. We’re still friends to this very day!

    Story 4: Junior high. I was in social studies, taking notes and minding my own business, then a group of guys was throwing a ball made out of tape at me and let me tell you that fucking hurts! What was the teacher doing about this? Nothing! He absolutely ignored me!

    Story 5: Freshman year, possibly the worst. There was this boy, he always teased me and he didn’t even knew my name. He made fun of me for being slow during the 10 minute jog in gym, he always screamed in my ear, and always found a way to make me feel worse about myself. The same boy in health class and even got his friends to join, teasing me on my weight and stuff. I started to starve myself and try to eat as less as possible. I still had my best friend since middle school by my side….. Until she came out as bisexual to me. I was so happy she trusted me and was brave enough to come out to me and it made our bond stronger…. Until her parents figured out. Her parents are Christians and they are mean. They told me I couldn’t see her anymore…. And my world just stopped. My only friend since middle school was taken from me. I couldn’t handle it anymore. I… Tried to end myself. My father found out and had me take to a facility to get help. The other patients at the facility were nice people, but the employees weren’t. The employees were always yelling when we were trying to sleep, the food made me sick, we only had thin bed sheets to keep warm, the beds were hard as rocks, it was the worst. I was lucky to get out early. When I went back to school the bullying didn’t stop. I tried to talk toy counselor for help, but she tried to get me and my baby sister taken away. She failed. Luckily I was able to talk to my friend again (without her parents knowing) and from that point on I had trust issues. I refused to try to make new friends, I never asked the teachers for help if I was stuck on a problem, I barely even talked to my own family.

    I don’t self harm or starve myself anymore. My only friend is still by my side and if it wasn’t for her, my cousin, my older sister, and my mother…I’d probably be dead by now and you wouldn’t be reading this story. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I don’t ask for likes, I don’t ask for sympathy, I don’t ask for attention. I ask…for whoever is reading this to please smile. Tomorrow is a new day! Don’t let yesterday ruin your today.
    Yesterday is history tomorrow’s a mystery!

  • what if all of these signs are there but the touching part is just playful
    btw he gets super weird and just says smthg mean or out of context when we are talking

  • my crush makes fun of me alot and we play fight alot and i really like him and his best friend and some of his friends told me he has a 100% crush on me and while we fight he keeps smiling and laughing and now i dont even know if he likes me or not he sometimes acts kinda weird��❤

  • Workplace bullying is and has been the disease in the 20th century workplace for quite some time. The symptoms are workplace shootings and more. A man or woman’s livelihood is based on their income and when you play juvenile games with grownups in the workplace then more tragedies will occur. We live in a click or club mentality society. This behavior in the modern workplace won’t stop overnight.

  • There’s this guy at my high school and he’s kinda mean to me a lot. He said I looked like a drug addict when I was tired, he kicks my chair (he’s 15, not 5, facepalm) and one time he ruffled my hair when he walk passed and messed it up (we’re not friends so this is weird). It’s literally so annoying. I wish he would just make conversation instead.

  • I think my crushes friend likes me. He talks to me a lot, talks to me about random stuff, he sometimes touches me. I haven’t looked at his eyes though to see if there are bigger. I’ma edit this, when I find out. And also he stares at me sometimes.

  • I’m being bullied because of my medical condition, I had one of these meetings recently, I used to work from home for a full pay check, I got transferred to another dept and they took it away to work from home, now I make 400 a month lost my home of 25 years, the HR person said we’d like to offer you a Full Time 5 day a week position, I’m like I am full time I’ve been here 31 years plus, they know I can only make it into work 2-3 days due to my condition, she said no severance pay for all these years, I said bull, she said okay I’ll ask corporate and get back to you, it’s been 3 weeks still no word, but I have this hanging over my head.. ugh…

  • Projection is all this people have, and is funny how they come as sexual predators later one, they are what they project to others.

  • Yes.. Yes… I had this happen. They didn’t like my performance and that’s fine and they can just tell me i’m terminated or fired and everyone gets on. with life But no, The dickhead boss had to setup a meeting with 2 hours notice and ambush me with all these exaggerated criticisms and it was almost like he was putting on a show or acting performance. If I had pulled out a recorder he would have stuttered and been confused. I probably could have even stood up as he was a small guy with a Napoleon complex. Using the techniques you mentioned you can cause a bully to get flustered and confused.

  • Wow so much info about bully!
    Actually physical bully go learn some martial art n try to defend yourself without much action n less hurt to the bully.
    wat is the best martial art to defend from bully without causing alot of action n hurts

  • Some guy in my class always called me fat but then when my friend asked him who was the hottest girl in the class he said me like wtf

  • I used to go to her office for 5 minutes before going home and asked her how she was doing eventually bring her an ice coffee until she said please stop bringing me stuff ��

  • my class mate and i (btw im a female) played roblox me and him played adopt me this is what he texted me “BED” thats what he said he also did this role play thing like this $e,x with doll it was just gross he started to texted me saying uh uh uh then when he sit on the sofa he texted me saying Mary come sit on me (thats my name btw)does that called flirting? He also took his shirt off i told him to stay away from me then he put his shirt back on and i said thank u he texted me and put the “����”im not sure if his flirting with me but i seem like he is because why would a guy do that its just weird

  • I’m in middle school right now
    And I get bullied on my drawings
    I love drawing
    I draw monsters like ghidorah and Godzilla
    I also get left out of games with my friends
    I am getting to the point where I am about to snap
    What makes it worse
    Is that my school’s number 1 rule is no bullying
    Then a kid said something that almost cost me a really close friend, who was a girl
    Now I get bullied on the fact that I don’t play certain video games

  • So I was in class and this guy keep squeezing a girl’s thigh and I wanted to help but idk if she liked it but like she was playfully saying stop

  • It takes too much mind power in every aspect to be and act like him. He’s a innate thinker, maybe things could have been different if confronted by a more psychologically powerful person.

  • My crush keeps taking my phone, and wants me to come over and take HIS “phone” from his pocket…. wtf is he tryna do lol �� great vid

  • In NZ the union delegates work in the best interest of the organisation. Most of the union delegates are workplace bullies. The issue that is coming into people’s minds is the notion of ‘value’. Witnesses will lie to become value for the organisation. Also, the health and safety people only work in the best interest of the organisation their purpose is to get all of your information to create a case against you.

  • Thank you!! You helped me with a bully Ambush that happened today. You gave me strength to do what I needed to do. My friend in HR was actually on the side of the bully. Can you imagine..I am ready to fight and then move on…

  • One of the biggest issues with PIPs in my opinion is it immediately creates an even more adversarial relationship. When you are put on a PIP you are put in the impossible position, either just take it and hope for the best, which almost never ends well. Or if you decide to rebuke what is said about you it means one of two things, either prove your boss is wrong or prove that they are a liar. Either puts a BIG target on your back. And if you thought things were bad before get ready because your boss is going to dial in on you.

  • I had a meeting like this this week without any warning I was completely caught off guard how do move forward on that, do I speak to a higher person

  • Excellent video. I would say though that you still have to have a tough mental persona to even get through an ambush meeting like this after preparing yourself. Corporate management can be truly psychotic. I handed my notice in, but didn’t even attempt to complete it after being warned by a third party that the managers were going to make life as difficult for me as possible during the four weeks. My mental health was on a knife edge and I knew they would march me out with security at some point.
    While on site they have every advantage. Walk away and fight back legally if and when you feel able to.

  • i have a questionanyone that survives one of these bully ambushes would you even want to stay? wouldnt it be extremely awkward to continue working with them or even depressing?

  • To the Narrator……The gotcha moment is the only moment Jordan needs to have. She knows at this point that she does agree with him. She is however a TV personality, with fans who adore her as the Sword wielding female that is out leading the charge for women. The discussion continues in an adversarial way because for her it has too. He knows, they both know, that she agrees with him on that topic. The next thing for her to do, and we see this in her long pause in the Gotcha moment” was to wonder if she may actually agree with him on even more topics. She was forced to contemplate those questions later, in the meantime she returned to her character as the fighting for women host. You rate him at A+ for his performance, which seems somehow low. What rating do you give her? I rate her at an A, for being embarrassed on television, and all of the digital world (Forever) and climbing back on her heroine horse and continuing to do battle with the intelligent word smith male in front of her.. Bravo for her..Jordan is an excellent listener. That’s why he can survive these types of one on ones. He has been listening to people for a very long time. He is a fascinating person. If I had a bucket list I would love to debate something with him, just to have the pleasure of being convinced that I am wrong, about something, anything..lol Good Day..

  • I was targeted before I became self-employed five years ago.  But other people’s employment disputes seem to find me for some reason; no employer or employee is perfect and usually my solution is to advise the employee to look for another job.  If it has already ended up in court and it looks like a stitch-up I have no problem with bullying bullies and their lawyers; got a couple of “special projects” on the go at the moment!

  • The guy who has a crush on me doesn’t talk to me cuz hes scared that he’ll say something stupid and that I eont like him anymore but I like him either way

  • My crush kinda makes fun of me
    I mean he told me I look 5 (I’m 12) ��and every time he sees me he says hi (my name )
    Also he calls me this nickname that my friend told him but when I got angry he apologized

  • A lot of weird things were happening in my office over the past year and a half, the last was two weeks ago, this whole time I never felt at ease, I always thought that they were trying to build a case to fire me. Well this past Friday it actually happened. It was a crazy termination meeting, the main suspect wasn’t in attendance at all, was her Boss who could care less. This meeting just came out of the blue, 15 minutes before the actual meeting. Took place at 3pm, I already worked 6 hours by that time. No lunch. I knew it was something fishy. Now I have to try to negotiate a severance agreement and get my unemployment. Should have known. Manager was the first to speak, she spoke for 20 seconds and said a bunch of stuff that wasn’t true ending in termination, then the HR Rep finished the meeting. It was super weird. I was told to log off my laptop at home immediately. This was an ambush. I left out a lot of info here. I should have left that company about 6 years ago.

  • Truth isif they want to push you out, they will and you only have one recourse: leave. Fake an injury and get out before they start a vendetta against you. This happens especially when you uncover something illegal they have been doing. Best to claim you just got very ill and let them fire you for not coming in. You discard yourself basically.

  • I just recently found your channel. Your videos are great and hilarious. Thanks for the great advice….your wife is a super lucky lady. ����

  • Dang your good I listened to a lot of people but yours is spot on right on the money. Mine which is the plant manager can not stand the fact that I’m the undisputed master of 3 departments.from the ground position to managing. He likes to play mental chess and is always attempting to propose a better decision. His “better decision” is usually crap and in the end I’m the guy who picks up the pieces and puts everything back together. Usually at the expense of me and my teams weekends. I’m salaried so it’s at my expense. I’m past sick of it. Good day to all.

  • Here’s a story if you nothing else to do with your life

    Some group of kids usually hits me at break, lunch, class, etc. and sometimes they called me fat and poke fun at me just because I play Minecraft and usually I don’t react and just stay “stop!” peacefully. But a few weeks back one guy punched me in the face and I punched him in the eye almost to the point where my family could’ve got sued and pushed him into the school benches and he ended up go to the doctor. The teacher caught me and I got suspended for THREE days. I told my parents everything and they were actually proud of me for what I’ve done. Nowadays no one dares to even touch me.

  • Understand guys, this is how most women are. They argue, they don’t and can’t debate, they feed off drama and imbalance. Never fall into her trap.

  • Is there a different way a guy teases a girl he likes and a friend. I can’t always read people, situations and the air right sometimes and so i can’t tell if someone if flirting with me cause maybe he treats all his friends or people he meets and gets along with like same humor type like this. I have both guy and girl friends and we joke around and tease each other. So how is it friendly teasing and flirty teasing? Hmmm

  • Most hr dept and Bully bosses are narcissists.. don’t let your emotions and feelings get involved.. act calm and take notes.. documentation is the key to get all the evidence you need to sue them.. narcissists are very predictable and stupid with what they say and do. Document everything and gather all emails and texts and witnesses. Don’t tell anyone what your doing. Then contact an attorney and file a EEOC claim.. these people are everywhere.. it’s easy money if you do these things and you win…

  • And always remember it’s not silly or embarrassing to change your mind if someone is acting like they are victorious because you deciding you might’ve been wrong means that they are just rude people

  • I was only there 6 months. 100% set up. You cannot be smart or ambitious. Training sucked. These people are evil. It was hurtful at first but good they pushed me out. I got PIP at five months work. Absolute joke. They did this to countless people, mostly Veterans. I got the Friday termination.

  • Thank you, Dr Namie for this. My ambush is in 3 days. I’m up at 3am watching this as I can’t sleep any more. It’s been so hard at work since I lodged a complaint about Management bullying me.

  • wait um so i have this boy in my class and he looks at me,and he makes me laugh what does it mean when he makes you laugh and last time he wanted to do sex with me

  • Very informative sir. I’ve faced such a situation in India at a Multinational company. However I felt that the HR was on the side of the management. How do I react to such situations where, behind closed doors the bully and the HR ganged up on me. 2 team leads and a manager joined hands and discussed everything with the HR before calling me for the meeting..and forced me to voluntarily resign that instant..I wish I had seen this earlier

  • wish I had this info 15 years ago. here’s how I handled it. I told them to reschedule the meeting so I could have my attorney present. I was “demoted” and half my job was given to someone else. but they didnt try to fire me again.

  • You can always walk out of the meeting room if needed. If you feel uncomfortable. If the odds are against you.

    That document would not stand up in court. It been shot down by under threat from bosses.

  • I had an Ambush Mtg as a relative at a nursing care facility. Exact in every way. I knew and prepared. Recorded it all and transcribed everything. Best thing I ever did. Learned everyone’s position. Stated firmly that I wanted Mum out with numerous examples of concerns. Kept calm all the way through. Finally I got her out of there into a good facility. Focus on the best outcome for you and how best to achieve that NOT on defending all the allegations against you..

  • Clever Jordan making sure that he maintains his own conversational pace and not being carried away by the antics of that desperate little karen.

  • So accurate fitting name of what I’ve experienced now1:1 ambush meeting. Need to activate the union. Have had to prepare a defender for 2 hours based on a late night email sent. Looking for other opportunities….

  • I love it when young people realize things I’ve known for decades. When emotions rule, reason flees. Unless there is a hard and fast reason behind the emotion. If there isn’t the emotion is a mild form of madness.

  • This scenario, with the false courtesy, is to triangulate the victim.

    They will lie, and then look you in the eye denying it when there is a witness.

  • Great video!
    I think Jordan’s gothcha moment was brilliant though because he explained and defended her position after he said it

  • My cousin came for me cause i accidentally coughed on her.

    And she was mumbling under her breath and i told her to say it to my face and she told me to come there i didn’t because i know her breath stank and because when people are in my face i straight up go crazy on them and i don’t like her anyway so why not fight her later lmao.

  • With all due respect, all of your advice here is only helpful, if the person being bullied plans to sue. Do you really want to sue a company that doesn’t want you to keep your job? Hell no. This video should be about how to plan your exit from this company where you are not wanted and get to your next goal. Refine all your skills and accumulate all of the knowledge that you can to take to your next position. Dr. Namie, you approach this from a victim’s perspective, but really this should be approached from a perspective of power on behalf of the person, who is going to a much better place.

  • I’ve had secretary and department manager and leads etc told by store manager to not be nice in any way to associate and new employee s

  • I would say go talk to the person. I would open up like “hey man, if you have something in your heart you wanna pull out, we can step outside and correct that.”

  • Bout three years ago at a company I should of had a future at. Along with black guy who played the racist card on me when I’m not racist or being racist, but sure did get me to have to go see a psychiatrist to find out I was not a racist person which im not. I wasnt even talking to this guy but to another white guy and the other guy was few Isles over in warehouse. This guy gives orders while he wants to just sit on a still. Then was bullying from him from then on while the warehpuse manager knew of what they are doing which after i went to GM telling him the truth and when this guy over stepped his bounds he didn’t even get a slap on the wrist. This company like so many others dont keep there promises of anything. Then for almost last year they were trying to get rid of me amd always my word against theirs. Stating reason i didnt get an opening I know i killed the interview to move up in the company but they gave me that people say I’m difficult to work with when I communicate but noone else does and this was the GM and HR double teaming me and wish I knew what I do now. But now where im at where I spoke up of things nothing has happened and i get racist treatment from a assist manager who is Mexican and the manager Who thats white has used me without saying names either directly or indirectly used me as example to everyone before start of shift. Latest thing is I’m being setup by some other guy who was vague expecting me to read between the lines and respond with yes that he claims he knows what something is for how I get times for what has been done to me and i dont play around. Say that he has heard some things but yet again no one come to me about anything and second job get told that things being said about me but cant or wont tell me whats being said. Gave me his number telling me to call him and repeating saying do the right thing. Also have to say he claimed that he doesnt really amswer to anyone which makes it even fishier like this gotta be a setup. Just remembered got written up for being late coming back from lunch cause I had to go to the bathroom before i got clocked out for lunch and they don’t care and they complain for having to cover me to go to the bathroom when they only have to work positions for like hour for breaks and they just stand around and talk. Many times when two people working on one machine and they want to be lazy make us break eachother out notice them standing and talking while watching us. Noone e er pays consequences now days and I have also been isolated when ever possible. Im trying to figure out how high up in company this goes. People need to pay for this shit not real workers who gets fucked and how friends and family shouldn’t be involved in business for how one group is all friend’s and boss has family who snitches and noticed how everytime when who breaks me out makes mistakes then comes tells me about it. Waiting for that fuck to do that again.

  • I’m a passionate person and have Italian in my blood (not that all Italians are like this). I would be leaning forward, my tone would go up (as friends have attested to) and would be all flustered at her accusations. I was brought up in a very conservative restrained English community so there is a constant battle between the two aspects of my personality. I am constantly at battle and aware of this whenever I am trying to share my opinion or prove a point. By the way, I’ve very open as well to changing my perception of things, but you have to be respectful and good at holding a conversation while sharing your opinion or point of view. Debating is an art for sure, but personality traits play a factor on reception and delivery of ideas. Being educated helps and can back you up, as long as you’re confident in your research background. You can never be prepared enough. And awareness of what to expect, what questions might be asked, goes a long way in your preparedness.

  • 10:10 You’re assuming Cathy is interested in an actual dialogue here. Jordan understood she was pushing an agenda which is why he was amicable throughout most of the interview, but at the end when her motives have been made rather apparent, he let her have it. The gotcha wasn’t directed at her personally, but at those (including her) who were working to make out the narrative that Jordan and his followers were bad people. That gotcha was to appeal to Jordan’s audience and any undecided people who wanted to see a winner in the argument.

  • Thank you for this. I am currently going through this in South Africa. This has given me a different perspective on things which will be very helpful.

  • Dang wish i utilized 5he points in this video. This happened 2 me recently and everything happened as he described in this video EXCEPT HUMAN RESOURCES “COULDNT MAKE IT” to the ambush according to the director.

  • Good video, but nothing Jordan could have said would have brought her around. She is anti wh ite to the core and full of hatred for them. Pretty much everything she does in some way attributes blame to us for major issues and stoke up resentment while discretely protecting her own group from any criticism.

  • Hello, thanks for your video. I got a call from the boss today. He gave me a FAKE agenda! He completely ambushed me about my performance. I did not have a time to explain my specifics. I will just stop working on all my projects and do what he wants. Here is the kicker…he started 2 months ago and has never spoken with me face to face.

  • As a chess player, I don’t know how to feel about there being a whole other arena of conversation that’s basically bullet chess but with words

  • OK, let me help you, walk up to her and ask, “Did you notice I was flirting with you? I really like you but I’m really bad at flirting so even if you don’t like me so much, would you give me advice on flirting?”

    No woman can resist telling a man what to do and a man wanting to flirt her way indicates he might take advice on other matters like how men should behave in bed!

    Always ask a question, she will answer out of politeness or she isn’t worth pursuing, keep asking about her and say little about yourself, she wants to know you have a job and are not an addict and then she wants to talk about herself, encourage her.

  • I’ve played this game for so long with these tyrants until it’s played the [email protected] out, it’s old and getting pretty boring and so damn petty, I lost my first sabotage and was caught off God, my second one I seen it coming with my eye’s wide open and was willing to roll over on everyone that broke company polices and I survived that by retaliation, heads rolled as I put a lawyer on lay away just waiting on all hell to break loose, now it’s the quite before a sneak attack storm and I don’t hear or see not one peeping sound from anybody feeding me any crap, but that’s okay I’ll wait as I continue to stand my ground against this gang stalking stalkers that sweat your every move and get on your every last nerve, and just to think all of this because your not a [email protected] kisser a follower and a brain dead zombie, sooner than later the robot’s will be replacing all of these human tyrants it’s less drama, these work places are getting worse every year it’s a miracle I made it this far

  • I had something similar happen to me in the past. The production manager where I was working went after me in a very sadistic way. He had a history of doing the same thing to other people. I managed to roll with the punches until I found a new job. I then gave my 2 week notice and letter of resignation. In my letter of resignation, I detailed the bullying that was going on in a professional concise way. Two weeks into my knew job I got a call from a friend at my former job that bully production manager got fired!

    Ironically, I’m going through a similar situation again. I got called into to an unannounced ambush meeting. Ridiculously false accusations were levied against me. They gave me the “some have said” line and a character assassination. They couldn’t give real examples of my actual work performance being inadequate. I have been going above and beyond at the job and I think some people there are intimidated by that. The truth is my boss is a total hypocrite and could work on some character development. Insecure people like to project because they’re too afraid to reflect. Luckily I already have plans lined up and I think this is just a sign to move on. We all own ourselves. We work voluntarily to survive. Don’t fall for the smoke and mirrors people in positions of authority that result to bully tactics definitely aren’t truly above anyone.

  • With the millions of better paying jobs available, After not being able to sleep untill 5:00
    in the morning.
    I decided to right a letter of resignation.
    Although it has indeed affected me.

    And this was treatment from an org that calls itself a church.
    I was an excellent new hire too. Was moving along very well.

  • Eyes also dilate for more reasons then love someone like if you hate them too! Makes that lil complicated now huh? “According to Charles Darwin, who had conducted a study on the dilation of the pupils in 1870s, the moment you fear something or someone or a particular situation, your pupils expand to such an extent that they automatically focus and pay attention to look for a solution” quote from a website about eyes doing this for love but yes also for hate of someone. Well shoot guess u gotta read the person and air of the situation.

  • I am accused by my manager for a careless mistake my colleague made. My manager was not happy that I defend my reputation, at the mean time, I don’t even trust her to tell her what happened after I remembered. Manager later became very upset when I suggested there should be a witness when she talks to me. I concern if I report this rather heated conversation to HR, I will be seen as a trouble maker. Do I go straight to the union?

  • Been there, been that. I, am flexible and nake plans, so head held high with a smile and See ya’! I don’t base my self worth on any one else’s opinion or treatment of me.

  • um like were 4 girls in a class with 20 boys.
    when i drop something or need a pen or pencil theres these 5 guys always helping me or giving me what i need its strange but really nice also idk why they dont help my bestie too they should D;

  • I was being bullied at work. Thought I was a pussy and it made me a better employee, turns out they were not fucking with me they really did fire me. I wish I had watched these videos first.

  • Yo, I’m a dude and become a big baby b*tch when it comes to a crush. Can’t look her in the eyes, don’t have the cahonas to ask her out b/c I don’t wanna sound creepy etc. So legit if yall girls make any sorta moves and he agrees he probably likes you; however, if he disagrees its a 50/50 split that he either doesn’t like you or he is just a big baby b*tch like me ��

  • I went through this for years. I had no idea of what it was at the time. Everything in this video is absolutely correct. My bullying at work caused me to attempt suicide. I took them to tribunal and lost, as they lied. My manager was someone who did everything whilst there were no witnesses around. I lost my job, house and car repossessed. I still have PTSD about the abuse.

  • what do you do when your crush sits with his legs spread around me??? He usually sits with his legs closed but sometimes it’s open when he’s around me ;-;

  • When someone is trying to verbally bully you but they are to retarded to realize I have 4 years of experience about dealing with toxic brain dead kids on the internet making me a intellectual.

  • I was constructively dismissed around the time of the recession when I was working in a graduate level job in a UK aerospace company. Long story short, a French colleague had my back during that time and gave me a heads up on the managers’ plans to get rid of me (she overheard them talking) and I was able to prepare for what was coming to a degree. I am still friends with this person today and have visited her in France:-)