Speaker: Denise Gottfredson, Professor, Department of Criminology and Criminal Justice, University of Maryland. Date: April 2, 2015. Description: Dr. Gottfredson focuses on the broader aspects of school climate, such as teacher and administrator engagement and understanding of children’s behaviors in the school context.. Mini-Conference Webpage: http://peabody.vanderbilt.edu/research/pri/miniconference.php. Follow Vanderbilt on Twitter: https://twitter.com/vanderbiltu, on Instagram: http://instagram.com/vanderbiltu and on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vanderbilt.. See all Vanderbilt social media at http://social.vanderbilt.edu.
Webinar presented to help schools create a safe and kind environment for their students. Experts explain how to measure and understand your school environment and use the science of kindness to motivate students to stay engaged. Also discussed is a one week initiative to unite schools through kindness.. You’ll hear from experts from:. Kids for Peace http://www.kidsforpeaceglobal.org. The National School Climate Center http://www.schoolclimate.org. The Random Acts of Kindness Foundation https://www.randomactsofkindness.org
The CSRA Saving Our Students group is teaming up with the Richmond County Board of Education to tackle the bullying problem, and provide a healthy school climate.. .
“Bullying is a problem everywhere. The elders are being bullied, there’s bullying in the workplace. So of course, there is bullying in schools,” says the groups founder, Annettea Mills.
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School personnel tend to intervene logically by educational means. Themed days, bracelets, sweaters, posters… We understand here that educational interventions are essential to reduce bullying at school, but impossible to think that they will end it! We learn the role of the teacher when comes to intervene with a situation of intimidation and how to detect, intervene and act as a trusted builder rather than a safety officer. I have the privilege to speak full time on bullying.. -I get to travel accross Canada every year to speak in french and english.. -I have different speech directed to reach the younger and the older students from elementary schools, high schools students, parents and teachers.. -I speak to more then 100 schools every year. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
Bullying is a serious problem that can affect children’s mental health. But with these psychology strategies, teachers and parents might be able to prevent bullying at school.. Hosted by: Brit Garner. -- Support SciShow by becoming a patron on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/scishow. SciShow has a spinoff podcast! It’s called SciShow Tangents. Check it out at https://www.scishowtangents.org. -- Huge thanks go to the following Patreon supporters for helping us keep SciShow free for everyone forever: Avi Yashchin, Adam Brainard, Greg, Alex Hackman, Sam Lutfi, D.A. Noe, Piya Shedden, KatieMarie Magnone, Scott Satovsky Jr, Charles Southerland, Patrick D. Ashmore, charles george, Kevin Bealer, Chris Peters. -- Looking for SciShow elsewhere on the internet? Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/scishow. Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/scishow. Tumblr: http://scishow.tumblr.com. Instagram: http://instagram.com/thescishow. -- Sources: https://search.proquest.com/openview/737f1c16dca0d963a442bb2c80c9d97c/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=48217. http://njbullying.org/documents/Ttofi2011.pdf. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2435211/. https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/amp-a0039114.pdf. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.4073/csr.2009.6. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/12789140_When_Interventions_Harm_Peer_Groups_and_Problem_Behavior. https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42380-019-00019-5. https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/uk/17/03/schoolwide-sel-prevent-bullying. http://www.episcenter.psu.edu/sites/default/files/news/Durlak%20et%20al.%20(2011)%20meta%20analysis%20SEL.pdf. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/259452909_Effectiveness_of_the_KiVa_Antibullying_Program_Grades_1-3_and_7-9. http://www.kivaprogram.net/program. https://phys.org/news/2017-10-bullying-finnish-wayin-states.html. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Stevie_Grassetti/publication/319417778_Teacher_factors_contributing_to_dosage_of_the_KiVa_anti-bullying_program/links/59e3b3f70f7e9b97fbeb028f/Teacher-factors-contributing-to-dosage-of-the-KiVa-anti-bullying-program.pdf. Image Sources: https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/three-gm172213345-3282688. https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/caucasian-guys-and-mix-raced-girls-meeting-outdoors-gm1166760647-321520315. https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/young-woman-in-counselling-session-gm541118054-96739243
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Improving School Climate to Help Prevent Bullying WHAT is school climate? School climate refers to the quality and character of school life. 1. The more positive school culture is, the better kids. will be able to learn. 2. i e valuing each person as a contributor. A y l e s. d l by adults for students engaging everyone e involving students.
Building a positive school climate. School climate can be difficult to define, though possible to measure. It is the “felt sense” of being in a school, which can arise from a greeting, the way a problem is resolved, or how people work together; it is a school’s “heart and soul,” its “quality and character.”.
Bullying harms kids in nearly every way imaginable. It disrupts their learning; it causes them to suffer anxiety and depression; and it undermines their feelings of safety and connection to school. New understandings of bullying are based on relationships and connect directly to the growing appreciation of the role of the social climate within schools and its connection to bullying. Bullying can occur for many reasons.
Some children are more likely to be targeted, for example, based on disability, 23 sexual orientation, 24 gender identity, 24 weight, 25,26 race or religion. For instance: A recent national survey of school climate found that more than 80 percent of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth reported some form of bullying or harassment at school. Build a Safe Environment A safe and supportive school climate can help prevent bullying. Safety starts in the classroom.
Students should also feel and be safe everywhere on campus—in the cafeteria, in the library, in the rest rooms, on the bus, and on the playground. School climate is a broad, multifaceted concept that involves many aspects of the student’s educational experience. A positive school climate is the product of a school’s attention to fostering safety; promoting a supportive academic, disciplinary, and physical environment; and encouraging and maintaining respectful, trusting, and caring relationships throughout the school community. To effectively prevent bullying, schools need to understand positive school climate, use reliable measures to evaluate school climate and use effective prevention and intervention programs to.
When a student is harassed or belittled, be it in school or online, that abuse not only affects their personal outlook, it also often impacts the climate of the entire school or school district. Often a poor school environment becomes a breeding ground for bullying and other safety and discipline issues. The way that a school responds to bullying incidents leaves a lasting impression on the victims, the bullies, the parents of students and the surrounding community. There is a wide range of possible responses, many poor, which is why it’s important for a school to have a well-thought-out plan in place before a bullying incident occurs. BullyBust: Promoting a Community of Upstanders.
The National School Climate Center’s BullyBust: Promoting a Community of Upstanders is a nationwide campaign that has reached 4,500 schools.BullyBust provides free supports to schools to help students and adults become part of the solution to end harmful harassment, teasing, and violence in our nation’s schools.
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Establish a climate that encourages bystanders to speak out against bullying behavior.
By creating a climate in which students learn positive behaviors and problem-solving skills, in which they have meaningful interactions with adults, and in which they feel fairly treated, schools can reduce student misbehaviors.
It is designed on the premise that proactive enhancements to school climate can reduce incidents of bullying and empower students, teachers and families to prevent bullying behaviour (Cross et al., 2012; Pearce, Cross, Monks, Waters, & Falconer, 2011; Smith, Pepler, & Rigby, 2004; Ttofi & Farrington, 2011).
The first proactive step you can take is to assess the level of cyberbullying occurring in your school and the impact it is having on the student body and educational environment.
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Getting picked on from infancy by one’s own parents who blame the infant for all of their stupid, miserable adult mistakes (despite being born years into the marriage) is far far worse, because the worst bullies of all are waiting at home for the poor kid.
In elementary my school tried to teach something called “a bug and a wish,” aka this bugs me and I wish you’d stop. It did nothing but make it impossible to use that phrase ever. I’m in high school now and last year someone in staff who tries to resolve student issues suggested that to me and it left me speechless. The professionals can’t even tell when their system is broken.
In early teenagerhood, my little brother got repeatedly bullied, teased, his things stolen, his bike broken. My mother took an appointment with the school headteacher to report the bullying. Reaction? “Oh, we know… it’s a problem… but also… I mean, look at him!” Same when I was bullied myself and went to the head monitor’s office. “Of course this is happening to you, young lady, look at you!” I’ll spare you the part when the teachers proceed to list in detail everything wrong with our appearance (not even behaviour, except maybe shy/submissive body language that was obviously DUE to being harassed every single day). (And no, we weren’t dirty or scruffy, or anything ostentatious in any way). Good luck fighting bullying when teachers actively take part in it…:(
I’m a teacher and the hardest part of bullying for me is recognizing it. Are they playfully teasing or are they bullying? I crack down hard when I detect it.
Hm. There was (almost) no bullying when I was a kid. (I live in central Europe.) The children spent the majority of time with their families. (Parental leave can last up to 4 years.) The teachers were not responsible for teaching social skills, they simply focused on their subjects. We had a few “mean kids” who were somewhat on the bullying side but nobody liked them. Bullying was simply not a popular behaviour, you weren’t considered a hero for being mean to others. (It may be different these days though). Maybe it’s about the parents, not teachers I think the vast majority of families still teaches young children to be nice to each other. I see it everywhere like if a child punches someone on a playground, the mom intervenes and says “no, how would you like it if they punched you?” etc.
I’ve never had a bully everyone was my friend I mean they did fight with eachother but not me I think this video doesn’t apply on me lol Lucky me? (Nah man srsly I really wanna be bullied so I can fight back I’m getting bored) (I rarely fight my friends when they take things too far but after that nothing happens they are afraid n stuff…)
I don’t understand why doesn’t this society forbid this? I grew up in Latín societies and never experienced or witnessed this type of cruel harassment. Why doesn’t the schools have a no bumlying policy? I I don’t get it.
Learning and training empathy sounds like a really good strategy and is so important.
My understanding is that bullying (or mobbing) is a kind of reproductive strategy. The strongest bully gets the best mates. That is why the social darwinists in charge don’t really want to change it unless their own child is affected. Then they want their child to toughen up and climb up the pecking order instead of creating a more egalitarian and peaceful society. I mean just look how underfunded schools in many countries are. I believe long term we as a species have to adapt to our changing environment though because we simply can’t afford to be a society of wolfs any more. The stakes are getting too high. I’m not sure if that can be done through culture alone or if long term we’ll need to filter out genetic traits like sociopathy and raise the emotional and technical cognitive abilities so more people are able to learn and understand our increasingly complex society.
“Children who were bullies have a higher chance of growing up to have lower self-esteem and a higher risk of depression.” Hey, hi. I hear you talking about me.
Teachers in the US are so badly underpaid & overworked, with a crap-ton of things expected of them that should rightly be on the parents. Expecting them to intervene in bullying? Good luck, especially if you’re dealing with a school in a very conservative area that victim-blames.
I was in elementary school when bullying formally became illegal in ohio. they sat us all down in the gym and explained the law (as best as you can to a bunch of kids). All it really did was teach the bullies “as long as your bullying/harassment can sidestep this narrow definition, we won’t stop you.” Things got significantly worse after that school assembly.
Being bullied sucks. In the first grade I was bullied verbally and sometimes physically, although the physical bullying was only done by one specific boy.
It hurts real bad, and the teacher didn’t help. She was honestly just as big as a bully as most of the other students were.
Mostly they teased me about being weird and traits that I know recognize as being apart of my autism and ADHD, but I didn’t have a diagnosis back then. They called me an elf because I was short and said I was as pale as a ghost. They never did any of this to my face but I could hear them. They were only 2 feet anyway and their whispering and laughing wasn’t quiet at all, and I very sensitive hearing.
My teacher was just as bad. I got in trouble for rocking back and forth in my seat and other fidgeting that I did to help myself pay attention, but she never noticed the girls whispering mean things about me to each other and laughing.
Someone who I was friends with in kindergarten had left me to hang out with the kids that were new to the school that year who also happened to be the ones who started the bullying. I wonder if she realized how much those people were bullying or how much that hurt, even if I don’t really blame her. I didn’t ask though. I didn’t know how to.
I had a point but I no longer remember what it is. Regardless, bullying sucks and some kids are more likely to be bullied then others. Younger me didn’t know how to stand up for myself, and communicating that there was a problem was hard for me because I didn’t know how to do that. Saying “tell someone” is all well and good, but it really is easier said than done. I didn’t trust my teachers to do anything, and I didn’t feel like there was a point to tell my mom and dad because they couldn’t go to school with me. Even when I tried people didn’t understand what I was trying to say. “Just tell them to stop”, like that wasn’t one of the first things I tried. Telling them to stop made it worse. Ignoring them didn’t make them stop either. I can think only one instance where someone got in trouble for hurting my that year. Once even though it happened the entire year.
My family moved to a different part of the state the year after that, I went to a school were people were a lot nicer, although I still struggled making friends the students and staff there were kind.
Bullying sucks, and kids like me are more likely to be affected by it. Look out
Like teachers really have the time to hand hold all the kids. What about getting the parents involved. You know, the ones that think their little angel could never be a bully.
When I was in grade school and again in high school, I was bullied by some of my teachers, and other school administrators (over 20 years ago). This was knowingly done. And when I was in high school, the school refused to do anything about it. They chose to blame, and punish me (and the other victims) instead. What is the suggested way to combat that type of bullying? It can’t exactly be brought to anyone’s attention.
Teachers in the US are overworked and underpaid, so it’s no surprise that any study would fall flat. And that seems to be by design to starve the beast and push for more privatization.
There are also cultural influences that you have to keep in mind. In many places in the US, police and teachers sometimes harass and bully students of minority races. People with different sexual orientations and gender identities face legal discrimination that rewards bullying behavior. So it’s bigger than any intervention
Mabye teaching psycology to kids in school could make victims & bullies realize why the bullies are bullying, and mabye stop it. It’s alot more important to for society to learn psycology than history, imo.
‘The Social Animal’ has some interesting points about bullying. Basically you could exploit someone’s self justification to make them think the never enjoyed being a bully to begin with if you can cause them enough cognitive dissonance by making them stop bullying but not for a super obvious/scary external reason (so for a very mild incentive instead of to avoid a sever punishment or for a major reward… that’ll only work as long as they’re being watched).
I was bullied all throughout school and there was only one thing that helped me, and it sounds super cliche and a little crazy, but laughter. When people verbally harassed me I would retaliate by laughing at them and leaving. Or I would comment on how they could do better with their insults and turn it into a game. Or I would pretend I didn’t hear them and walk away. I also dressed very goth/punk since gr.5 onwards, so that probably helped make me look a lot more intimidating, so physical bullying seldom happened.
I also had to stand up for my friends a lot (who all had bad home lives as well). Teachers would rarely do anything and the men were the worst! They’d always say things like, “He just had a crush on you” or “Kids will be kids”. Essentially teaching these children abuse is okay and equals affection/normalcy. Ugh. No wonder my mom was constantly fighting teachers/principles. At least I had a mother in my corner. I can’t imagine how I would have been without her, so many of my friends struggled…
throughout my education from 1st all the way to collage.. everytime time when a bullying incident happens the school/collage steps in to fix the situation and prevent it from happening again. so the solution is within the school.. but in the other hand the school personal should be well trained to handle these issues.
We had to pull my daughter out of school because the bullying was so bad (8th grade). The tipping point was when we found out that her teacher was contributing to it. Now she’s in a school where the teachers are proactive and every negative event is taken seriously and dealt with immediately. She feels safer and there’s no systemic bullying.
Most effective way is just to beat their faces in, telling makes it worse doing nothing keeps it the same, I’ve been to 12 different schools all the same things, pick on new kid new kid crys bullies go harder I beat their faces in get suspended for 3 days don’t got worry about bullies at that school anymore I might be emotional but I can sure as heck fight
Sometimes nothing you can teach a bully will make them stop, they’re doing it because they want to be cruel, they want the feeling of power over others. The only thing you can do is fight.
when I was in elementary school it was around the time that schools were implementing a zero-tolerance policy and I kept to myself and didn’t really have many kids because my dad was unfaithful to his wife which everyone knew and my mom was hurt by it. seeing her cry like that killed me inside and I just kept to myself. one day some kid started just hitting and kicking me and I just stood there and took it because I knew if I fought back I would get in trouble not to mention I couldn’t stomach hurting someone else like I got hit and I was a strong kid and had to watch my temper. I did nothing and ended up with bruises yet I get punished with getting suspended and lectured by adults that thought I did anything. kids are wickedly cruel but adults are worse, you look to them to protect you or help you but they never do and in fact, cause more harm by locking kids in windowless small rooms because you were “disruptive”, alone and feeling guilty and not knowing why.
compassion is so needed in our society it just sickens me that we treat each other so bitterly over the dumbest stuff… one thing that stuck with me being raised by cartoons pretty much was from the show Doug, when his dad said to him “show me a man that resorts for violence and I will show you a man who has run out of good ideas.” I understand when people are at their wit’s end that they give in to their frustrations and lose their sanity for a moment and can do what in normal terms would be thought of as unthinkable… but given the frustration and not knowing what else to do you just want it to stop and you end up smacking the back of your child’s head so hard that their vision goes for like 10 seconds, it’s what my dad would call a “tuneup”. I don’t hate him for it but he showed me how to never treat another person. we are all flawed creatures and forgiveness is important.
kids start out dumb but it is our teaching them and being good teachers that can mean all the difference to a kid… they learn quick.
congratulations to whoever actually read this long comment! and if you or someone you know has gone through similar things, know that you are not alone and there are good people out there <3
I don’t even know what bullying is at this point. I was ostracized and reviled for most of my childhood for a multitude of reasons. But, because I was a girl with an obvious physical disability… it was never physical. I had next to no friends growing up and people were very mean and scheming… trying to bring the “teacher’s pet” (me) down. I didn’t think it was “bullying” I thought it was part-and-parcel of a cut-throat world. I stood up for myself and fought back I never saw myself as a victim. So was that bullying or not? I came from a community very different from the US… I don’t know what to make of anything. Sometimes I wonder if I was just asking for it all…. other times, I wonder why everyone was always so apprehensive and unstable around me. I have trouble trusting anyone now. Also have pretty severe depression and anxiety. Correlation or causation or none of the above? Idk. Idk what narrative I must tell myself when someone asks me about my childhood.
Getting picked on from infancy by one’s own parents who blame the infant for all of their stupid, miserable adult mistakes (despite being born years into the marriage) is far far worse, because the worst bullies of all are waiting at home for the poor kid.
In elementary my school tried to teach something called “a bug and a wish,” aka this bugs me and I wish you’d stop. It did nothing but make it impossible to use that phrase ever. I’m in high school now and last year someone in staff who tries to resolve student issues suggested that to me and it left me speechless. The professionals can’t even tell when their system is broken.
In early teenagerhood, my little brother got repeatedly bullied, teased, his things stolen, his bike broken. My mother took an appointment with the school headteacher to report the bullying. Reaction? “Oh, we know… it’s a problem… but also… I mean, look at him!”
Same when I was bullied myself and went to the head monitor’s office. “Of course this is happening to you, young lady, look at you!”
I’ll spare you the part when the teachers proceed to list in detail everything wrong with our appearance (not even behaviour, except maybe shy/submissive body language that was obviously DUE to being harassed every single day). (And no, we weren’t dirty or scruffy, or anything ostentatious in any way).
Good luck fighting bullying when teachers actively take part in it…:(
I’m a teacher and the hardest part of bullying for me is recognizing it. Are they playfully teasing or are they bullying? I crack down hard when I detect it.
Hm. There was (almost) no bullying when I was a kid. (I live in central Europe.) The children spent the majority of time with their families. (Parental leave can last up to 4 years.) The teachers were not responsible for teaching social skills, they simply focused on their subjects. We had a few “mean kids” who were somewhat on the bullying side but nobody liked them. Bullying was simply not a popular behaviour, you weren’t considered a hero for being mean to others. (It may be different these days though). Maybe it’s about the parents, not teachers I think the vast majority of families still teaches young children to be nice to each other. I see it everywhere like if a child punches someone on a playground, the mom intervenes and says “no, how would you like it if they punched you?” etc.
Why am I watching this?
I’ve never had a bully everyone was my friend I mean they did fight with eachother but not me
I think this video doesn’t apply on me lol
Lucky me?
(Nah man srsly I really wanna be bullied so I can fight back I’m getting bored)
(I rarely fight my friends when they take things too far but after that nothing happens they are afraid n stuff…)
I don’t understand why doesn’t this society forbid this? I grew up in Latín societies and never experienced or witnessed this type of cruel harassment. Why doesn’t the schools have a no bumlying policy? I I don’t get it.
Learning and training empathy sounds like a really good strategy and is so important.
My understanding is that bullying (or mobbing) is a kind of reproductive strategy. The strongest bully gets the best mates. That is why the social darwinists in charge don’t really want to change it unless their own child is affected. Then they want their child to toughen up and climb up the pecking order instead of creating a more egalitarian and peaceful society. I mean just look how underfunded schools in many countries are.
I believe long term we as a species have to adapt to our changing environment though because we simply can’t afford to be a society of wolfs any more. The stakes are getting too high. I’m not sure if that can be done through culture alone or if long term we’ll need to filter out genetic traits like sociopathy and raise the emotional and technical cognitive abilities so more people are able to learn and understand our increasingly complex society.
“Children who were bullies have a higher chance of growing up to have lower self-esteem and a higher risk of depression.”
Hey, hi. I hear you talking about me.
Teachers in the US are so badly underpaid & overworked, with a crap-ton of things expected of them that should rightly be on the parents. Expecting them to intervene in bullying? Good luck, especially if you’re dealing with a school in a very conservative area that victim-blames.
I was in elementary school when bullying formally became illegal in ohio. they sat us all down in the gym and explained the law (as best as you can to a bunch of kids). All it really did was teach the bullies “as long as your bullying/harassment can sidestep this narrow definition, we won’t stop you.” Things got significantly worse after that school assembly.
Being bullied sucks. In the first grade I was bullied verbally and sometimes physically, although the physical bullying was only done by one specific boy.
It hurts real bad, and the teacher didn’t help. She was honestly just as big as a bully as most of the other students were.
Mostly they teased me about being weird and traits that I know recognize as being apart of my autism and ADHD, but I didn’t have a diagnosis back then. They called me an elf because I was short and said I was as pale as a ghost. They never did any of this to my face but I could hear them. They were only 2 feet anyway and their whispering and laughing wasn’t quiet at all, and I very sensitive hearing.
My teacher was just as bad. I got in trouble for rocking back and forth in my seat and other fidgeting that I did to help myself pay attention, but she never noticed the girls whispering mean things about me to each other and laughing.
Someone who I was friends with in kindergarten had left me to hang out with the kids that were new to the school that year who also happened to be the ones who started the bullying. I wonder if she realized how much those people were bullying or how much that hurt, even if I don’t really blame her. I didn’t ask though. I didn’t know how to.
I had a point but I no longer remember what it is. Regardless, bullying sucks and some kids are more likely to be bullied then others. Younger me didn’t know how to stand up for myself, and communicating that there was a problem was hard for me because I didn’t know how to do that. Saying “tell someone” is all well and good, but it really is easier said than done. I didn’t trust my teachers to do anything, and I didn’t feel like there was a point to tell my mom and dad because they couldn’t go to school with me. Even when I tried people didn’t understand what I was trying to say. “Just tell them to stop”, like that wasn’t one of the first things I tried. Telling them to stop made it worse. Ignoring them didn’t make them stop either. I can think only one instance where someone got in trouble for hurting my that year. Once even though it happened the entire year.
My family moved to a different part of the state the year after that, I went to a school were people were a lot nicer, although I still struggled making friends the students and staff there were kind.
Bullying sucks, and kids like me are more likely to be affected by it. Look out
Like teachers really have the time to hand hold all the kids. What about getting the parents involved. You know, the ones that think their little angel could never be a bully.
When I was in grade school and again in high school, I was bullied by some of my teachers, and other school administrators (over 20 years ago). This was knowingly done. And when I was in high school, the school refused to do anything about it. They chose to blame, and punish me (and the other victims) instead. What is the suggested way to combat that type of bullying? It can’t exactly be brought to anyone’s attention.
Teachers in the US are overworked and underpaid, so it’s no surprise that any study would fall flat. And that seems to be by design to starve the beast and push for more privatization.
Finland: All white people: anti-bullying program works, of course.
USA: People from different races: anti-bullying program fails miserably
Ethnostates proved once again theyre the best, as always.
There are also cultural influences that you have to keep in mind. In many places in the US, police and teachers sometimes harass and bully students of minority races. People with different sexual orientations and gender identities face legal discrimination that rewards bullying behavior. So it’s bigger than any intervention
Mabye teaching psycology to kids in school could make victims & bullies realize why the bullies are bullying, and mabye stop it. It’s alot more important to for society to learn psycology than history, imo.
‘The Social Animal’ has some interesting points about bullying. Basically you could exploit someone’s self justification to make them think the never enjoyed being a bully to begin with if you can cause them enough cognitive dissonance by making them stop bullying but not for a super obvious/scary external reason (so for a very mild incentive instead of to avoid a sever punishment or for a major reward… that’ll only work as long as they’re being watched).
I was bullied all throughout school and there was only one thing that helped me, and it sounds super cliche and a little crazy, but laughter. When people verbally harassed me I would retaliate by laughing at them and leaving. Or I would comment on how they could do better with their insults and turn it into a game. Or I would pretend I didn’t hear them and walk away. I also dressed very goth/punk since gr.5 onwards, so that probably helped make me look a lot more intimidating, so physical bullying seldom happened.
I also had to stand up for my friends a lot (who all had bad home lives as well). Teachers would rarely do anything and the men were the worst! They’d always say things like, “He just had a crush on you” or “Kids will be kids”. Essentially teaching these children abuse is okay and equals affection/normalcy. Ugh. No wonder my mom was constantly fighting teachers/principles. At least I had a mother in my corner. I can’t imagine how I would have been without her, so many of my friends struggled…
throughout my education from 1st all the way to collage.. everytime time when a bullying incident happens the school/collage steps in to fix the situation and prevent it from happening again. so the solution is within the school.. but in the other hand the school personal should be well trained to handle these issues.
We had to pull my daughter out of school because the bullying was so bad (8th grade). The tipping point was when we found out that her teacher was contributing to it. Now she’s in a school where the teachers are proactive and every negative event is taken seriously and dealt with immediately. She feels safer and there’s no systemic bullying.
Most effective way is just to beat their faces in, telling makes it worse doing nothing keeps it the same, I’ve been to 12 different schools all the same things, pick on new kid new kid crys bullies go harder I beat their faces in get suspended for 3 days don’t got worry about bullies at that school anymore I might be emotional but I can sure as heck fight
Sometimes nothing you can teach a bully will make them stop, they’re doing it because they want to be cruel, they want the feeling of power over others. The only thing you can do is fight.
when I was in elementary school it was around the time that schools were implementing a zero-tolerance policy and I kept to myself and didn’t really have many kids because my dad was unfaithful to his wife which everyone knew and my mom was hurt by it. seeing her cry like that killed me inside and I just kept to myself. one day some kid started just hitting and kicking me and I just stood there and took it because I knew if I fought back I would get in trouble not to mention I couldn’t stomach hurting someone else like I got hit and I was a strong kid and had to watch my temper. I did nothing and ended up with bruises yet I get punished with getting suspended and lectured by adults that thought I did anything. kids are wickedly cruel but adults are worse, you look to them to protect you or help you but they never do and in fact, cause more harm by locking kids in windowless small rooms because you were “disruptive”, alone and feeling guilty and not knowing why.
compassion is so needed in our society it just sickens me that we treat each other so bitterly over the dumbest stuff… one thing that stuck with me being raised by cartoons pretty much was from the show Doug, when his dad said to him “show me a man that resorts for violence and I will show you a man who has run out of good ideas.” I understand when people are at their wit’s end that they give in to their frustrations and lose their sanity for a moment and can do what in normal terms would be thought of as unthinkable… but given the frustration and not knowing what else to do you just want it to stop and you end up smacking the back of your child’s head so hard that their vision goes for like 10 seconds, it’s what my dad would call a “tuneup”. I don’t hate him for it but he showed me how to never treat another person. we are all flawed creatures and forgiveness is important.
kids start out dumb but it is our teaching them and being good teachers that can mean all the difference to a kid… they learn quick.
congratulations to whoever actually read this long comment! and if you or someone you know has gone through similar things, know that you are not alone and there are good people out there <3
As a teacher, I appreciate this. I’ll look into my own practice and see how much of that I do, and try adding more of it if needed!
I don’t even know what bullying is at this point.
I was ostracized and reviled for most of my childhood for a multitude of reasons. But, because I was a girl with an obvious physical disability… it was never physical. I had next to no friends growing up and people were very mean and scheming… trying to bring the “teacher’s pet” (me) down. I didn’t think it was “bullying” I thought it was part-and-parcel of a cut-throat world. I stood up for myself and fought back I never saw myself as a victim.
So was that bullying or not?
I came from a community very different from the US… I don’t know what to make of anything. Sometimes I wonder if I was just asking for it all…. other times, I wonder why everyone was always so apprehensive and unstable around me.
I have trouble trusting anyone now. Also have pretty severe depression and anxiety.
Correlation or causation or none of the above?
Idk.
Idk what narrative I must tell myself when someone asks me about my childhood.