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Pain during intercourse is a troubling secret for many women. They might have intercourse about as often as other couples do but hide the pain from their partners. For a small number of people, “genital fit” can be a cause of pain during intercourse—meaning your partner’s quite large, and you’re extra petite. Lube can. Active vaginal infections, such as yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, or some STDs, can cause vaginal discomfort during intercourse.

If painful intercourse is relatively new, pay your OB/GYN a visit to get things checked out. Painful sex can make you worry. Anxiety reduces lubrication even more and may cause you to clench the muscles of your vagina during sex. If sex becomes too painful, you may avoid it entirely. Beyond the immediate effects of the pain itself, pain during sex (or simply fear or anticipation of pain during sex) can trigger performance anxiety or future arousal problems in some women.

Worry over whether pain will come back can diminish lubrication or cause involuntary—and painful—tightening of the vaginal muscles, called vaginismus. In many cases, sex can be painful when lubrication is not sufficient. In these cases, the pain can be remedied with the use of a lubricant, such as KY or by changing up your sexual script in the. Dryness can not only make sex painful, it throws off the vagina’s balance of good bacteria, which can result in infections that contribute to painful sex. ‘Try using a lubricant if dryness is causing you pain during sex. Many conditions may cause pain during sex.

Once atrophy is advanced, they’re less helpful and may be irritating, as you’ve experienced. The most likely effective treatment is localized estrogens like the most recently approved lmvexxy, which is a vaginal insert. There are also localized estrogens available in cream, ring, or tablet form.

Applying lubricating gels to the outer sexual organs, the vulva and labia, as well as using lubricating products in the vagina may be helpful to some women and ease pain during intercourse. Sex toys, such as vibrators or dildos, may also be useful. The first port of call for women suffering from painful sex is usually the GP, who will check for infection or injury and make a referral to a specialist if necessary.

However, those suffering from painful sex can also visit a genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic.

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Painful Intercourse In women, painful intercourse can be caused by vaginal infections, insufficient vaginal lubrication before intercourse (usually the result of not being sufficiently sexually aroused), and anxietyproduced spasms of the muscles surrounding the vagina, which makes vaginal penetration painful.

“Health & Wellness”
from Health & Wellness
, 2008

You can prevent the pain by changing positions during intercourse to avoid hitting the cervix and doing exercises to strengthen the pelvic floor, or by working with a pelvic floor physical therapist.[41] Do not continue to engage in any sexual activity that triggers pain, because pain perpetuates more pain.

“Enjoy!: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women” by Joyce J. Penner, Clifford L. Penner
from Enjoy!: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women
by Joyce J. Penner, Clifford L. Penner
Focus on the Family, 2017

For such women, painful intercourse can also be a problem and this can be treated with OTC lubricants or prescribed products (e.g. oestrogen creams).

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Painful intercourse, or dyspareunia, may be the result of lack of arousal but is most often due to physical factors such as pelvic infection; anatomical conditions; congenital deformities; or vaginal atrophy due to inadequate estrogen exposure.

“Infertility Counseling: A Comprehensive Handbook for Clinicians” by Sharon N. Covington, Linda Hammer Burns
from Infertility Counseling: A Comprehensive Handbook for Clinicians
by Sharon N. Covington, Linda Hammer Burns
Cambridge University Press, 2006

The pain or injury associated with an abrupt resumption of sexual activity can lead to a secondary female sexual dysfunction of dyspareunia or vaginismus (respectively, painful intercourse and severe contraction of the vagina – see below).

“An Introduction to Gerontology” by Ian Stuart-Hamilton
from An Introduction to Gerontology
by Ian Stuart-Hamilton
Cambridge University Press, 2011

Depending on the cause of dyspareunia, counselling, extra lubrication, vaginal HT cream, or antidepressants may be prescribed, and surgery to expand or repair the vaginal opening is occasionally needed.

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Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

Some women experience dyspareunia, defined as pain or discomfort during sexual intercourse, which can be related to perineal problems.

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from Mayes’ Midwifery E-Book: A Textbook for Midwives
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Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

sexual pain can help the practitioner have confidence in discussing this area of distress with women and their partners.

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from Conn’s Current Therapy 2020, E-Book
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Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

Work with a physician who treats dyspareunia—painful intercourse.

“The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment” by Clifford Penner, Joyce J. Penner
from The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment
by Clifford Penner, Joyce J. Penner
Thomas Nelson, 2003

Deep pelvic disorders such as infection, tumors, and cervical or uterine abnormalities can cause pain with intercourse.

“Pathophysiology: The Biologic Basis for Disease in Adults and Children” by Kathryn L. McCance, RN, PhD, Sue E. Huether, RN, PhD
from Pathophysiology: The Biologic Basis for Disease in Adults and Children
by Kathryn L. McCance, RN, PhD, Sue E. Huether, RN, PhD
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

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  • Adding lubrication to the mix often helps with this. And as weird as this sounds… improving the man’s penis skin texture helps a lot too. This will cut down on friction and dry spots etc. He can do this by applying a penis skin moisturizer every day. These are kinda like hand cream for the penis and work really well. In my opinion, Man1 Man Oil is the best one out there. Check it out ladies and gents.

  • I would have liked to offer a dollar per month on Patreon.
    “The minimum price for this tier is $3.00”
    Not looking for perks. I like your channel and what you do.

  • This content needs a serious update. The issue of women’s sexual arousal is really not emphasized enough nor talked about. Sex is painful when the woman is not turned on and hardened yes, a woman’s clitoris needs to be aroused, too! Oftentimes the pain doesn’t need to be “treated” at all but simply either the moment or the the partner or both is wrong! Women are often raised not to listen to the cues coming from their bodies, or ignore the fact that they are not turned on enough it takes more time than for men and their partners rush and force themselves upon women. Even if enough talking is involved and things are not rushed, the chemistry still might not work and women’s bodies are not aroused enough. The result is painful sex for women and/or no orgasm. So really before we start to talk about “vaginismus” diagnoses, we really need to make sure that the precondition not only wetness in vagina/vulva but also hardened clitoris was met in the first place! This is really important and never the be merely assumed or dismissed in sex education, as female arousal and pleasure sadly is even today. It would be really important @TherapyinaNutshell for you to edit this video accordingly! Otherwise, by talking about vaginismus, you are uncounciously supporting a very harmful Christian fundamentalist bias of pathologizing and diagnosing wives who cannot have sex due to ‘vaginismus’, which in fact just a mismatch in body chemistry of the couple: a female body saying no to their husband’s body. Oftentimes this happnes when sex is taking place only after the marriage. There is no need for treatment or diagnosis there if the women are not turned on.

  • Hi, I used a product called vagi-wave to help me. I tried all sorts of things before this hypnotherapy visits to clueless gynaecologists etc. There is loads of things on this website which may help.

  • My long time partner is very well endowed. The only time it doesn’t hurt is during menstruation. It’s so frustrating that they have so many cures for men’s conditions but not for women!

  • I’m 52 and I’m going through menopause and this pain is new to me.It feels like razor blades.It just started a couple weeks ago and the bf isn’t having any of.We had great sex life that we both enjoyed…I’m desperate for answers and any advice before I go to the doctor

  • between the other problem is oxalic acid in food, look up Sally Norton and her experience!!! Oxalate is a crystal that loges into tissues and can cause pain.

  • Amazing Book to read: * “ Restoring the Pleasure by Joyce Penner and Clifford Penner”. It’s so informative and detailed, highly recommend it!

  • I hate this myth that women take longer to get aroused than a man.
    This is pretty much nonsense IMO.

    Basically if you’re not naturally lubed, you’re just not into him. You might even have thought you loved him. But your body is saying otherwise

  • Thank you for the suicide prevention line in the description,its nice to know that even on a video not about your still an amazing doctor and go the extra bad with words but honestly i think your brilliant

  • 4:10 Women ARE NOT, on average, “slower to get aroused and lubricated than men”.

    Studies, initially using IR cameras, but later precise sensors, ALL found that women took no longer to reach any stage of arousal in response to visual stimuli than men. In addition, when self-pleasuring sans edging women took no longer, on average, to achieve orgasm (e.g. 65% in under 3 minutes).

    At the heart of this misconception is comparing apples to oranges (e.g. erections vs lubrication). For example, women get clitoral erections actually slightly faster than men, and men produce peak lubrication (pre-cum) with the same average delay as women. In short, comparing an initial stage of arousal of one gender (erections) to a later stage in another (lubrication) makes no sense.