When Sex Hurts, You’re ready to Seek Help


Experiencing Sexual Pain? Could a Bumper Device Help?

Video taken from the channel: The Doctors


Blue Foundation Eyes On Fire (Official Music Video)

Video taken from the channel: TOPSIFY Danmark


Will it hurt to have sex after having a baby?

Video taken from the channel: IntermountainMoms


What to Do When Sex Hurts | Health

Video taken from the channel: Health Magazine


Can painful sex be treated?

Video taken from the channel: Provincial Health Services Authority (PHSA)


Pain and Itching After Intercourse

Video taken from the channel: center4menswomensuro


What to Expect in the 1st Trimester: Q&A with Belly to Baby

Video taken from the channel: St. Louis Children’s Hospital

Painful intercourse leads to anxiety about intercourse, which leads to more muscle tension and more pain. If this sounds familiar, please seek help. Do not feel like you need to be “strong” about the pain—it may not resolve on its own.

The following tips may help you or a loved one cope if you are living with dyspareunia or CPPS: Relaxation. Lube is the first line of defense when sex hurts. Water-based lubricant is typically the safest for sensitive skin. It’s also the easiest to clean and won’t stain your clothes or sheets. If your relationship needs help, consider talking about the problems outside of the bedroom to see if resolution can be reached or consider seeing a.

Feeling pain during sex could be a sign that something is wrong. Here, experts explain the possible causes of painful sex and the solutions that can help. Help save lives. Pain during intercourse is generally not an emergency. A woman should seek care in a hospital’s emergency department if she experiences any of the following symptoms: New onset of pain or pain more severe than previous episodes and that lasts more than just a few minutes; Bleeding following pain, particularly new onset or severe pain.

“Pain during sex is one of the most common things patients ask about, but most of the time, it’s caused by something temporary that can be treated,” says Alyssa Dweck, MD, an OB/GYN in Westchester. When it comes to sex injuries, Dr. Moore says she hears about vaginal soreness most often. “Soreness will recuperate with time,” she explains. “But you have to stop doing whatever you’re doing to. Embrace it, because while sex may hurt now, the route to healing will be found by learning how to make your body feel good–not by ignoring your body. See Your Sex Life as More than Just Intercourse When sex hurts, it’s awfully hard to look forward to.

Read answers to common questions about what to do if you’re no longer interested in sex, how to handle painful sex, STDs, and more. Subscribe 7 Frequently Asked Questions About Sex. There are a lot of myths around sexual activity, one being that your first time having sex will hurt.

Although minor discomfort is common, it shouldn’t cause pain — whether that’s vaginal, anal.

List of related literature:

Painful Intercourse In women, painful intercourse can be caused by vaginal infections, insufficient vaginal lubrication before intercourse (usually the result of not being sufficiently sexually aroused), and anxietyproduced spasms of the muscles surrounding the vagina, which makes vaginal penetration painful.

“Health & Wellness”
from Health & Wellness
, 2008

Some women experience dyspareunia, defined as pain or discomfort during sexual intercourse, which can be related to perineal problems.

“Mayes' Midwifery E-Book: A Textbook for Midwives” by Sue Macdonald
from Mayes’ Midwifery E-Book: A Textbook for Midwives
by Sue Macdonald
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

When sex is painful for a woman, a physician may have trouble locating the source of the pain.

“The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex” by Clifford L. Penner, Joyce J. Penner
from The Married Guy’s Guide to Great Sex
by Clifford L. Penner, Joyce J. Penner
Focus on the Family, 2017

Women may lack their usual arousal with its resultant lubrication and relaxation of the pelvic muscles, leading to a conditioned, uncomfortable spasm of the vaginal muscles (vaginismus) resulting from recurrent painful sex.

“Body Renewal: The Lost Art of Self-Repair” by Jay Glaser
from Body Renewal: The Lost Art of Self-Repair
by Jay Glaser
Lotus Press, 2010

Doctor, I can’t have intercourse because it hurts!

“The Textbook of Clinical Sexual Medicine” by Waguih William IsHak
from The Textbook of Clinical Sexual Medicine
by Waguih William IsHak
Springer International Publishing, 2017

Painful sex is not normal and does not have to be tolerated.

“Psychology and the Challenges of Life” by Jeffrey S. Nevid, Spencer A. Rathus
from Psychology and the Challenges of Life
by Jeffrey S. Nevid, Spencer A. Rathus
John Wiley & Sons, 2009

The pain or injury associated with an abrupt resumption of sexual activity can lead to a secondary female sexual dysfunction of dyspareunia or vaginismus (respectively, painful intercourse and severe contraction of the vagina – see below).

“An Introduction to Gerontology” by Ian Stuart-Hamilton
from An Introduction to Gerontology
by Ian Stuart-Hamilton
Cambridge University Press, 2011

sexual pain can help the practitioner have confidence in discussing this area of distress with women and their partners.

“Conn's Current Therapy 2020, E-Book” by Rick D. Kellerman, KUSM-W Medical Practice Association, David Rakel
from Conn’s Current Therapy 2020, E-Book
by Rick D. Kellerman, KUSM-W Medical Practice Association, David Rakel
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

Obviously, pain during intercourse has numerous physical causes (e.g., in various medical conditions and after surgical procedures), but functional dyspareunia refers to pain with no demonstrable physical cause.

“Psychiatry for Medical Students” by Robert J. Waldinger
from Psychiatry for Medical Students
by Robert J. Waldinger
American Psychiatric Press, 1997

For the woman, professional help may be necessary if she has difficulty getting aroused, is unable to experience orgasm, or has pain during sex.

“The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment” by Clifford Penner, Joyce J. Penner
from The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment
by Clifford Penner, Joyce J. Penner
Thomas Nelson, 2003

Oktay Kutluk

Kutluk Oktay, MD, FACOG is one of the world's foremost experts in fertility preservation as well as ovarian stimulation and in vitro fertilization for infertility treatments. He developed and performed the world's first ovarian transplantation procedures as well as pioneered new ovarian stimulation protocols for embryo and oocyte freezing for breast and endometrial cancer patients.

Mail: [email protected]
Telephone: +1 (877) 492-3666

Biography: https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/kutluk_oktay/
Bibliography: oktay_bibliography

View all posts


Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

  • I’m 7 weeks post partum and I’m still sore down there when I try to masterbate or use a dildo with lube.I had my baby really fast (2 hour labor and 2 pushes to get him out, doctor didn’t have time to get in the room) and I had a 2nd degree perineal tear. It really upsets me hearing horror stories of how I could be like this forever

  • What about excessive itching everywhere? I am in the second trimester and have so much itching since the first trimester. My doctor and midwife don’t know why and can’t help me.