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Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research. Perhaps, a new study suggests. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. THURSDAY, June 15, 2017 (HealthDay News) Could your smartphone prompt a toddler tantrum?

Perhaps, a new study suggests. Young children. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships.

Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. [post_ads]Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. Child Behavior Management looks that a kid’s misbehaviors when parents focus on their smartphones rather than the time they are spending with their kids.

Kids Misbehaving When Parents Focus On Mobiles. about 170 and tried to understand whether use of tech instruments by parents gives rise to child behavioral problems. Results do suggest. In addition to simply reducing the amount of time that kids spend looking at the screens of smartphones and other electronics devices, parents should take care to schedule annual eye examinations for their kids, teach them to position devices at an appropriate distance from their faces when using them, adjust the brightness of devices and instruct them to take breaks every 10 to 20. (Reuters Health) Parents who are constantly checking their phones for texts, emails and cat videos may be more likely to have kids who misbehave than.

Several recent research studies show the damage parents can do when they’re physically present, but distracted and less responsive because they’re attending to their smartphones. Study #1: Moms.

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Earlier the problems were pertaining to their naughty behaviour but now most of the parents have complained about mobile addiction and it has been growing day by day severely.

“Education on Digital Cultural and Social Media” by Dr. S. Saileela and Dr. S. Kalaivani
from Education on Digital Cultural and Social Media
by Dr. S. Saileela and Dr. S. Kalaivani
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Ironically, one factor that has played a role in pulling parents out of parenting is our reliance on devices.

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from “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility
by Ramani S. Durvasula Ph.D
Post Hill Press, 2019

Is it because the rise of smartphones has made permissive parents of us all?47 Certainly, we are seeing a rise of authoritarian rhetoric in political circles, but this has done nothing to stem the tide of internalizing and externalizing problems.

“Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society” by Stuart Shanker
from Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society
by Stuart Shanker
University of Toronto Press, 2020

Overall, these studies suggest that parenting quality is directly affected by technology use in terms of decreased responsiveness and perhaps harsher parenting when parents do respond.

“The Oxford Handbook of Cyberpsychology” by Alison Attrill-Smith, Chris Fullwood, Melanie Keep, Daira J. Kuss
from The Oxford Handbook of Cyberpsychology
by Alison Attrill-Smith, Chris Fullwood, et. al.
Oxford University Press, 2019

Second, parental effect on children’s excessive use of smartphone is an important issue.

“Internet and Technology Addiction: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice” by Management Association, Information Resources
from Internet and Technology Addiction: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice
by Management Association, Information Resources
IGI Global, 2019

And some parents might be surprised to know that children could also be critical of their peers’ inappropriate use at certain times (e.g., if some children were on their smartphones when the social occasion was such that other children co-present felt they should interacting face-to-face).

“The Oxford Handbook of Mobile Communication and Society” by Rich Ling, Leopoldina Fortunati, Gerard Goggin, Yuling Li, Sun Sun Lim
from The Oxford Handbook of Mobile Communication and Society
by Rich Ling, Leopoldina Fortunati, et. al.
Oxford University Press, Incorporated, 2020

These processes evolve from earlier discipline, communication, and problem-solving processes at home, now extended to activities not immediately under parents’ (and other adults”) purview (Kerr & Stattin, 2000).

“Causes of Conduct Disorder and Juvenile Delinquency” by Benjamin B. Lahey, Terrie E. Moffitt, Avshalom Caspi
from Causes of Conduct Disorder and Juvenile Delinquency
by Benjamin B. Lahey, Terrie E. Moffitt, Avshalom Caspi
Guilford Publications, 2003

Failing to enforce rules might also indicate that parents do not often update strategies as their children become more independent electronic technology users.

“The Psychology and Dynamics Behind Social Media Interactions” by Desjarlais, Malinda
from The Psychology and Dynamics Behind Social Media Interactions
by Desjarlais, Malinda
IGI Global, 2019

Finally, resisting is an attempt by some parents to stop what they see as the inexorable march of technology into their family’s life.

“Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out: Kids Living and Learning with New Media” by Mizuko Ito, Sonja Baumer, Matteo Bittanti, danah boyd, Rachel Cody, Becky Herr Stephenson, Heather A. Horst, Patricia G. Lange, Dilan Mahendran, Katynka Z. Martínez, C. J. Pascoe, Dan Perkel, Laura Robinson, Christo Sims, Lisa Tripp, Judd Antin, Megan Finn, Arthur Law, Annie Manion, Sarai Mitnick, David Schlossberg, Sarita Yardi
from Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out: Kids Living and Learning with New Media
by Mizuko Ito, Sonja Baumer, et. al.
MIT Press, 2019

While there is empirical evidence on the patterns of Internet and cell phone use by adolescents, less is known about the characteristics of the families that incorporate these technologies into their families’ activities, and what kind of shared activities are replaced thereby.

“Computer-mediated Communication in Personal Relationships” by Kevin B. Wright, Lynne M. Webb
from Computer-mediated Communication in Personal Relationships
by Kevin B. Wright, Lynne M. Webb
Peter Lang, 2011

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  • Simply put, It’s important to give kids encouragement and praise when they exhibit good behaviors. It’s great to hear this sort of thing. I don’t want to be an angry adult with kids. I’ve found at times I fall into the trap with my nephews.

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  • I haven’t heard ONE funny thing out of any one of their mouths!!! BUT they can’t seem to STOP laughing at themselves!!! What a bunch of idiots!!! No wonder I’ve never heard of them!!!!

  • Once at least 2 guys started screwing around in that waiting room I would know they were apart of a bigger “something” immediately

  • Wonderful advice! I’m struggling with my 12 year old son & I’m at a loss… Thank you for posting this video, it’s given me so much to think about!

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  • Thank you! This was helpful. I am a 23 y/o male, and the ‘difficult teenager’ in my life is not my own child, but my ‘teen-aged’ kid-sister! Her father is absent, and our mother—although she does try (atleast these days)—has never had the best parenting skills. I grew up without a father myself, and I was definitely the “crash-dummy” child. But my sister told me early on that she looks up to me as a “father-figure” of sorts, and I take that role very seriously! (Even though I didn’t necessarily ask for it, I’m happy to oblige— especially if it means that my sister might have a better shot at a good life than I had!) but she’s in those years where she wants to be oppositional to EVERYTHING! It’s hard for me to balance being the “cool older brother who has her back” but also the “man of the house”, and the person who sometimes has to get onto her about things like school & chores and whatnot.. But I found this information very useful! Thank you again!

  • Hello, what if my husband interrupt about I learn to you. Husband always agains with me. And show how bad I’m to my kids. So my kids don’t lessen to me.

  • That “physical prompt” stuff. I.e. holding the uncooperative child in place has pretty much universally been deemed a bad idea. Not expressing an opinion on it myself. I don’t know. But I do know its not done anymore.

  • for some reason white people can,t control their children. the parents are afraid of their brats. oh i wish i could get my hands on those little monsters.

  • I’m glad I found this! I have two daughters 18 and 15. I am a single mom. The good news is they don’t give me headache at the same time, they alternate!!! ����‍♀️

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  • I think this I might work, but my fear is my child has just learn to do without things he wants in order to do and act as he wishes. Could it be because I’ve been to strict in the past?

  • This was very good fuel for thought, anyone who is listening to this channel is at least willing to try to learn something new as an adult and I congratulate them for getting this far for now

  • Wow after listening to so many videos, this has been the most helpful. The T chart was an amazing tool for visual understanding. Thank you so much.

  • Disgusting video. You totally rounded us up into one “nutshell” group as if we’re an annoying dog. You don’t know what it’s like to be a teenager these days. Why not try and HELP us through the problem, because MY parents make it impossible for me to talk to them. Shameful.

  • Dr. Jenkins, I wish I had known about you when my “angel” son was in 7th grade. In middle school and currently a rising Junior, I know believe all/most children will go through these challenging years. I can handle the physical needs, but the mental needs, “Oh boy!” Although, my husband and I have figured it out to choose love and positiveness, we do not want to fall into the trap of enabling, just because we can. Thank you for your advices. You have the qualifications, experiences, and a great way of communicating. I am now a subscriber.

  • It all sounds so logical and achieveable, but it doesnt help you when there is just a big “F*** you” on the other side, no matter what. I really gave it up. I dont have the endurance anymore to fight or discuss any of my decisions. Little things, like a “Pls don’t wear your dirty shoes in our house.” and as an answer:” she just went the whole way through the house in her dirty shoes.” And this is just a tiny example. You can copy it for nearly every situation. The only way for me atm, is to ignore everything completely, other wise we would have fight, after fight, after fight. And this is something I really could not handle. I am a peaceful person, and I really dont like to fight all day long, it burns me out and makes me ill. I am now just waiting for her to move out. Isn’t this sad? Sry for my english, it is not my main language.

  • I really appreciate this video but this is difficult. How many of us can really feel we can show unconditional love when all interactions of daily life are defined by such a transactional relationship.

  • Well, I’ve watched a lot of parenting videos from a lot of channels, and have yet to find anything that references the problem I am having and how to fix it.

    I have an very unloving marriage. My husband has bipolar depression and he goes through very aggressive mood swings with me. He was very abusive to me in the past. He is less abusive than he was, but he is still extremely verbally abusive to me. He used to accuse me of cheating on him, and flirting, even though he admits I actually gave him no reason to believe these things. In actuality he is the one that has cheated on me. Yet, he would call me all sorts of names, cuss, scream at, and threaten me. Now that I am older, heavier, and less attractive, he rarely accuses me of cheating, but he still verbally attacks me, because I am supposedly “trash,” “a useless excuse for a human,” “a piece of sh**,” a “cu**,” a “bit**,” “a loser,” “worthless,” a “nigg**,” etc. He says these things in front of the kids too. I have tried to take the kids and separate from him in the past, but I always ended up having to go back to him before I got court ordered child support, because I was on the verge of being unable to pay rent and/or utilities. Truthfully, neither he or I can afford to support the children if we separate, because we will both have separate rents and utilities to pay.

    Anyway, lately, the things he says about me have rubbed off on the kids. The older kids are very disrespectful toward me and the younger children. They are not usually like that to my husband or to each other; and they are always nice to people outside our family. But, when they do something they shouldn’t, such as being extremely rude to the smaller children, and I tell them they should stop and I try to reason with them as to why the way they are behaving is wrong, they just mock me, yell at me, insult me, and sometimes call me names. Then I will try to send them to their room or take away privileges (like using their cell phone, or not allowing them to play video games, or not allowing them to go to their friends’ house for dinner). But, they will tell me I can’t tell them what to do, because their dad is the boss and he’ll take their side and let them do whatever they want. I tell them I am their mother and I will discipline them when I see fit.

    One of them literally told me, “If you don’t like what we do, just ignore us instead of disciplining us. If parents love their kids they should let them do whatever they want, because it’s better for their kids to grow up to be annoying adults than for the kids to grow up to hate them.”

    Anytime I lecture them about something they’ve done wrong they tell me I’m “punishing” them. As if telling them how their inappropriate actions affect others and reasoning with them on what they could do instead, is a punishment. I am not talking about harping on a subject and nagging. I’m talking about just mentioning it to them right after the did something wrong.

    The other day, my older son brought my younger son to tears, because when he asked him to play with him, he told him he was an “annoying loser,” and “No one likes you. Go die in a hole.” I told him he had to apologize. He then told me I was a “loser,” an “worthless,” and “no one cares about you,” and that supposedly everyone “sees you’re nothing but fat, lazy, trash; because all you do is stay at home with kids,” (he was talking about his two sisters that are too young to go to school).

    I told him he wasn’t allowed to use his cell phone. He played on it as I told him this, and said he doesn’t have to do what I say. Of course, his dad said he could continue to play on his phone. I told my son that I am his mother and I do have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that both myself and his father have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that even though his dad was saying he didn’t have to listen to me, he knows in his heart that he does. I reminded him that when his dad tells him to do something, or not to do something, I never tell him he doesn’t have to listen to him, because it’s disrespectful and rude for one parent to do that to the other. I told him I expect him to show me the say respect he has toward his father, instead of a nasty attitude. Sure, I was frustrated, so I had a rude tone of voice and I raised my voice, but I wasn’t calling him names or insulting him, or anything like that. Then my husband said it’s his house we live in, not mine, because he has a job and I don’t so what he says goes and he says the kids don’t have to listen to me. SO, my son told me, “Yeah, if you don’t like my attitude you can move out!”

    My husband has been telling the older children that I am “bullying” them any time I tell them they can’t do something they want to do, or tell them to do a chore, or lecture them for something bad they did (like bullying the smaller children, or lying, or talking back when they can’t go somewhere or do something they want to do). Seriously, I can tell my 8 year old to take a shower and brush his teeth, three different times over a three hour period, nd my husband will tell him, “You don’t have to listen to that naggy bit**. She is just bullying you, because she doesn’t like you.” Then the next time I say the smallest thing to that son, such as, “Hey, can you bring me your dinner plate so I can wash it, please?” He will say something like, “Stop nagging me! I know you don’t like me, but you don’t have to bully me all the time!”

    At one point, my eight year old son’s teacher contacted me and said my son was acting odd at school, because any time she got on to him in the slightest, such as saying, “You need to sit back in your seat, stop talking to your friends, and focus on learning,” he will start whining ang getting very defensive. He’ll say things to her like, “Why are you picking on me? You’re just bullying me because you don’t like me.”

    Well, both I and his father talked to him about how he needs to mind and respect his teacher and take responsibility of his behavior instad of blaming her by saying she is picking on him. He hasn’t done that at school anymore. But, he and the teenagers still act this way and say these things to me. I know it’s because their dad keeps undermining me.

    Of course, I get angry when they act like this, and I have yelled at them and had a rude tone of voice with them when they act like this. I have called them, “brats,” and “idiots,” and even cussed at my husband and them (I’ve said something like, “shut the Fu** up! You’re being an ASSHO**.”) before. But, I have only cussed like that twice, over an 1 1/22 year period, when they are yelling, insulting, and name calling me daily over that same period of time. But, I almost never do that; because I purposefully try to avoid doing or saying anything that makes the lies my husband keeps propagating against me to seem true. But, lately, for about 1 1/2 years, they have been acting like this, my husband and the three teenagers, and now the 8 year old, on a daily basis, over and over again. Sometimes one child will go a day or two without acting this way, but the other kids and my husband will; so everyday at least three people are acting like this toward me. I am to the point where I actually feel like I want to try to take just the two littlest kids and move out and give up on a relationship with my other kids, unless they grow up and realize their dad is brainwashing them against me. I think this is what he is trying to make me do. But, I don’t want to give up on them and abandon them, because I love them, even if they don’t care anything about me.

    He is doing this on purpose too. His mother is estranged from him and the rest of his siblings and they call her by her first name instead of mom. He admitted to me that when he was a child and teen he hated his mom nd thought she was a terrible person, and he and his siblings all told her on an almost daily basis that they didn’t love her and they wanted her to leave, because their dad kept telling them she was a bad person and she didn’t love them. He also slandered her, but at the time he believed the lies about his mom, and only years later did he find out they weren’t true (like she supposedly cheated on the dad, over and over again, when she never did). Eventually, their mom got sick of it and left. Most of her kids have admitted to me that they know their dad tried to brainwash them against her and they treated her horribly; but, they still want nothing to do with her and hate her because she left them.

    So, my husband is trying to do to my kids what his dad did to him and his siblings. I don’t want to leave and abandon my kids. But, my heart is breaking every day because I am being accused of being a horrible person, and everyone is treating me like trash constantly, when I really haven’t done anything wrong, except for on rare occasion raising my voice (one or twice a week) or cussing (one every 6-8 months), because of the constant verbal attacks.

  • I chosed not to ever become a dad as a teenager, now I’m an adult. I’m married an I have a teenage daughter �� (my wife had a daughter when I met her).

  • As a mother with my 13 year old that screaming and crying is when I walked away. Ignored him straight up. Thank God it worked and those tantrums didn’t last long. That’s just my tactic I employed and the way I was able to help fix it. I dont want to be a parent in the comments acting as if I have the answers it just so happens that worked for me. I have a 15 month old daughter and twins on the way and it can be a completely different case with them. But I do believe not giving into that behavior can curb it. To me it seems like they repeat it because it gets them the attention they are demanding good or bad.

  • This is a classic example of behaviour modification. Children love praise and love to work towards a goal or positive outcome. You take positive reinforcement away what’s the point of working well with others? If there’s no bonds being made, or progress being shown, why bother? Poor kids, it’s the lack of organized consistency in their environment.

  • I want you to know that I love your videos……I’m grown up myself, now, but since I’ve left home, My mother has adopted my cousins two young girls. Now they’re teenagers, and she is having a very difficult time with them (to tell you the truth, I know from experience that she can be over bearing and short fused). Well, a Professor of mine had suggested this particular video for her and I’ve gotta tell you, after watching it myself, THIS IS PERFECT ADVICE FOR ANYONE STRUGGLING WITH A WILLFUL TEEN!! Thank you, so much for doing this and take care.:)

  • I think the results are really good with most of these children. However, they are in a foreign place to their own homes. I also think Supernanny’s approach is more concise, quicker, and implements compliance much quicker in the child’s normal surroundings. Kudos to these women!

  • Thank you for sharing this with parents. You have change my stile of life by just loving my daughter and being positive when talking to her. You are a master of psychology. ���� thank you.

  • My 13 year old is being very rude and disrespectful to my new partner. We recently moved from Canada to the States to start a new life with him. And this challenging behavior has been going on way before he entered into our lives. She doesn’t like him and thinks he is too bossy. Meanwhile she is totally bossy, demanding, disrespectful to both of us, rude, and angry. She’s ok as long as she is getting what she wants. My partner feels upset about how she treats him, and wants to give her consequences for being rude, like turning off the WiFi. I am a bit nervous that will only make her more resentful. I have tried talking about what she is feeling with her, and have explained that I want to live in a happy home and can she please be nice to him? But she doesn’t care, and says she will only be nice if he is nice. Any advice about how to navigate this situation would be appreciated!!!

  • instead of judgement i wish the parents could all receive some loving positive input. i wish they could have days off that they could look forward to when they would be pampered and desensitized. children are wonderful gifts and some people just need a little knowledge and guidance with methods to help them be successful at child rearing.

  • Is the child screaming at 16:46 because he doesn’t want to go home because he’s had a good day? Or is he screaming because he’s the last one left in the room and he’s unaware why/how everyone’s disappeared? Perhaps he despises his home life and simply doesn’t want to go home so he rages at his mother? It is so hard to communicate with or understand a non-verbal child’s needs.

  • Sir I appreciate your suggestions. My Grandson Is 16 and we are beyond this! He has dropped out of school, he is drinking,smoking, popping pills, he has stolen some items from me, hes disrespectful! He threatens me, he is nothing but obstructive! Meaning, he will be opposite of whatever I say, ask, of him to do! If I say up, hes going to say down!
    He loves, being defiant! He sneers this devilish sneer on his face, he purposely is trying to push my buttons, this is what I have an issue with! He refuses, to bathe, I’m so uncomfortable in my home!!! He refuses to clean up after his self, and will purposely continue, to harass me, going into my room to get what it is he wants that I have removed from his access! He doesnt care what I say!
    I have tried everything, I barely hanging on to being the adult in the home! He is trying to intimidate me, by the fluctuation of his voice, yells at me curses at me, calls me bitch hoe, I need to take my ass out in the street were I belong and sell my ass! He calls me crack head, crazy, I’m weird, I’m stupid, I need help, all this with the intent to get me to loose my temper!
    Sometimes I do! I cuss his ass out! I tell him to stop talking to me this way, he says no, he doesnt have to!
    No consequences are ineffective or rewards really matter to him!
    Hes hurting! I know he is! Hes angry! I think hes very confused!
    He doesnt like to be told a dam thing, not even to clean up after his self!
    He does and says things with the intent to hurt me, my feelings!
    I tell him, if you dont want me telling you shit then do what your supposed to do! That is go to school, cleaning up after his self, follow the rules!
    He is manipulative! Vendictive, a liar! Takes no responsibilty for anything! It’s always someone else’s fault, never his! He wants things, yet will not do what needs to be done to do what he wants!?
    Playing foot ball, grades and needed to be C or higher, one semester only!
    The nicer I try to be, the worse he gets!
    I’m drained, I’m very sad, hurt! Frustrated, desperate, feel like I’ve failed him! Very concerned about his future! No school, anger management, lies, irresponsible! How will he maintain a job?
    I’m afraid he’s going to be an abusive man to women!
    Because he is cowardly!!! Hes really a scared kid! But. He displays anger, trying to be a bad ass, someone who he is not in anyway!
    I’m afraid for his safety because he hangs out with.
    His behavior!
    The only thing he is doing is getting home by 11 pm.
    Which I’m grateful for! He has to be here by 11 or he gets locked out the the night!
    There have been time when he has arrived late! He doesnt want to hear shit, just open the door he says. Quit talking to me he says. I dont let him in with that attitude! Hell bang,yell and knock on the door,Ive called the police! Yhey do nothing! Im the one that can get in trouble necause hes a minor and I’m responsible!
    I dont care! Take me to jail! He needs to hey his ass home on time, if he doesnt want to get locked out!
    I mean that shit! I have to do something! I keep yeinh him this is going to happen and nothing happens, no consequences I need to do something to show him I’m serious there are consequences got his actions!
    I’m am the adult! You will follow the rules here. Or find somewheres else to stay!
    I’m having a difficult time loving him right now!!!
    He turns people against me, lies about why things are the way they are! He says it’s because I dont want to hey him back in school that’s why hes not going! He doesnt want to go! He would love to see me go to jail!
    He was dropped from school, please help.
    I’m making my self ill!

  • I work a a clothing store and distracted parents are everywhere. Today a most extreme example was I was ringing up another customer, when to my left I hear a thud noise. Idk if the kid was climbing on the cart or what, but when I look to my left, this little 5 years old boy is stuck under a shopping cart. I had to jump from my other customer to lift the cart off him, and then when the boy started crying and screaming, I see the dad look up from his phone and then come to comfort the child. Oh gosh… Please parents just pay a little more attention!

  • I have a bonus daughter that takes things from her dad and my home. (in this case it was a new shirt I bought my oldest daughter.. all kids got new clothes for school). So, most of the kids share clothes and some are swapped. That isn’t the issue. I saw her put it in her bag. I asked if my daughter told her she could have it.. of course it was said that she did. But the next time my daughter was home she was mad her shirt was gone. My bonus daughter now says she didn’t take it and I accused her of being a thief. Which all I said was it was in her bag. (Her dad heard me). Anyway him and I are moving so I packed up all the clothes to back to their mom’s. In thesr clothes she “finds” the shirt.. which I know for a fact wasn’t there. So her mother calls her dad saying I called the daughter a thrift and the shirt was in there and I’m overstepping my place. Anuway I feel like this child is trying to get her mom to hate me which in return will cause issues for her dad. She 100% lied to make me out to be a yelling, name-calling crazy woman, and a liar.. she’s 13. I just don’t know what to do to stop the lying and to make peace with her. She came over last night and didn’t say anything about it to me.. it hurt me horrible!

  • Geez,I thought I was gonna feel better watching this. Sitting here crying dealing with my incredibly disrespectful 3 teenage daughters. This video made me feel worse. I will find somebody else’s video. Here is the thing I have done all of what u said on this video doesn’t even work. I was looking for more positive light not don’t be neglectful, they control this they control that. Not words I needed to hear at all.

  • I came back here to rewatch it after one year. My 13 going to be 14 yrs old boy doesn’t grow any mature yet has becoming worsened. Reading the comments below, I know I’m not the only one who is on this roller coaster ride alone. Teenage hormones confuse me, I’m so discouraged by his behavior & everything going on in our life. I wish there’s a portal that I can speed travel to another time, places where I can be a happy person again. I woke up to prepare breakfast and packed his lunch as usual today. But I didn’t want to look at his face even though he said good morning (reluctantly) to us. No conversation in the car only good bye from him when I dropped him off at school. I don’t know, I am tired, I actually don’t mind paying a bit more so that kids can stay longer in school. Having someone who is not their family members to teach them family value, moral standard are way more effective than us, their own parents.

  • Yeah ok, I want to see you be positive when your daughter spits in your face and disrespect you, I want to see you smile and be positive when they steal from you. This is why I hate psychiatrist. Do people have no clothes, nothing better than an old school beating Once in a while