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Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research. Perhaps, a new study suggests. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. THURSDAY, June 15, 2017 (HealthDay News) Could your smartphone prompt a toddler tantrum?

Perhaps, a new study suggests. Young children. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships.

Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. Young children whose parents interrupt family time by pulling out their smartphones or tablets appear more prone to misbehaviors, such as whining, sulking and tantrums, the research revealed. [post_ads]Study author Brandon McDaniel coined the term “technoference” about five years ago when researching technology’s intrusion into face-to-face interactions and relationships. Child Behavior Management looks that a kid’s misbehaviors when parents focus on their smartphones rather than the time they are spending with their kids.

Kids Misbehaving When Parents Focus On Mobiles. about 170 and tried to understand whether use of tech instruments by parents gives rise to child behavioral problems. Results do suggest. In addition to simply reducing the amount of time that kids spend looking at the screens of smartphones and other electronics devices, parents should take care to schedule annual eye examinations for their kids, teach them to position devices at an appropriate distance from their faces when using them, adjust the brightness of devices and instruct them to take breaks every 10 to 20. (Reuters Health) Parents who are constantly checking their phones for texts, emails and cat videos may be more likely to have kids who misbehave than.

Several recent research studies show the damage parents can do when they’re physically present, but distracted and less responsive because they’re attending to their smartphones. Study #1: Moms.

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Earlier the problems were pertaining to their naughty behaviour but now most of the parents have complained about mobile addiction and it has been growing day by day severely.

“Education on Digital Cultural and Social Media” by Dr. S. Saileela and Dr. S. Kalaivani
from Education on Digital Cultural and Social Media
by Dr. S. Saileela and Dr. S. Kalaivani
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Ironically, one factor that has played a role in pulling parents out of parenting is our reliance on devices.

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from “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility
by Ramani S. Durvasula Ph.D
Post Hill Press, 2019

Is it because the rise of smartphones has made permissive parents of us all?47 Certainly, we are seeing a rise of authoritarian rhetoric in political circles, but this has done nothing to stem the tide of internalizing and externalizing problems.

“Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society” by Stuart Shanker
from Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society
by Stuart Shanker
University of Toronto Press, 2020

Overall, these studies suggest that parenting quality is directly affected by technology use in terms of decreased responsiveness and perhaps harsher parenting when parents do respond.

“The Oxford Handbook of Cyberpsychology” by Alison Attrill-Smith, Chris Fullwood, Melanie Keep, Daira J. Kuss
from The Oxford Handbook of Cyberpsychology
by Alison Attrill-Smith, Chris Fullwood, et. al.
Oxford University Press, 2019

Second, parental effect on children’s excessive use of smartphone is an important issue.

“Internet and Technology Addiction: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice” by Management Association, Information Resources
from Internet and Technology Addiction: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice: Breakthroughs in Research and Practice
by Management Association, Information Resources
IGI Global, 2019

And some parents might be surprised to know that children could also be critical of their peers’ inappropriate use at certain times (e.g., if some children were on their smartphones when the social occasion was such that other children co-present felt they should interacting face-to-face).

“The Oxford Handbook of Mobile Communication and Society” by Rich Ling, Leopoldina Fortunati, Gerard Goggin, Yuling Li, Sun Sun Lim
from The Oxford Handbook of Mobile Communication and Society
by Rich Ling, Leopoldina Fortunati, et. al.
Oxford University Press, Incorporated, 2020

These processes evolve from earlier discipline, communication, and problem-solving processes at home, now extended to activities not immediately under parents’ (and other adults”) purview (Kerr & Stattin, 2000).

“Causes of Conduct Disorder and Juvenile Delinquency” by Benjamin B. Lahey, Terrie E. Moffitt, Avshalom Caspi
from Causes of Conduct Disorder and Juvenile Delinquency
by Benjamin B. Lahey, Terrie E. Moffitt, Avshalom Caspi
Guilford Publications, 2003

Failing to enforce rules might also indicate that parents do not often update strategies as their children become more independent electronic technology users.

“The Psychology and Dynamics Behind Social Media Interactions” by Desjarlais, Malinda
from The Psychology and Dynamics Behind Social Media Interactions
by Desjarlais, Malinda
IGI Global, 2019

Finally, resisting is an attempt by some parents to stop what they see as the inexorable march of technology into their family’s life.

“Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out: Kids Living and Learning with New Media” by Mizuko Ito, Sonja Baumer, Matteo Bittanti, danah boyd, Rachel Cody, Becky Herr Stephenson, Heather A. Horst, Patricia G. Lange, Dilan Mahendran, Katynka Z. Martínez, C. J. Pascoe, Dan Perkel, Laura Robinson, Christo Sims, Lisa Tripp, Judd Antin, Megan Finn, Arthur Law, Annie Manion, Sarai Mitnick, David Schlossberg, Sarita Yardi
from Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out: Kids Living and Learning with New Media
by Mizuko Ito, Sonja Baumer, et. al.
MIT Press, 2019

While there is empirical evidence on the patterns of Internet and cell phone use by adolescents, less is known about the characteristics of the families that incorporate these technologies into their families’ activities, and what kind of shared activities are replaced thereby.

“Computer-mediated Communication in Personal Relationships” by Kevin B. Wright, Lynne M. Webb
from Computer-mediated Communication in Personal Relationships
by Kevin B. Wright, Lynne M. Webb
Peter Lang, 2011

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  • Simply put, It’s important to give kids encouragement and praise when they exhibit good behaviors. It’s great to hear this sort of thing. I don’t want to be an angry adult with kids. I’ve found at times I fall into the trap with my nephews.

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  • I haven’t heard ONE funny thing out of any one of their mouths!!! BUT they can’t seem to STOP laughing at themselves!!! What a bunch of idiots!!! No wonder I’ve never heard of them!!!!

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  • Wonderful advice! I’m struggling with my 12 year old son & I’m at a loss… Thank you for posting this video, it’s given me so much to think about!

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  • Thank you! This was helpful. I am a 23 y/o male, and the ‘difficult teenager’ in my life is not my own child, but my ‘teen-aged’ kid-sister! Her father is absent, and our mother—although she does try (atleast these days)—has never had the best parenting skills. I grew up without a father myself, and I was definitely the “crash-dummy” child. But my sister told me early on that she looks up to me as a “father-figure” of sorts, and I take that role very seriously! (Even though I didn’t necessarily ask for it, I’m happy to oblige— especially if it means that my sister might have a better shot at a good life than I had!) but she’s in those years where she wants to be oppositional to EVERYTHING! It’s hard for me to balance being the “cool older brother who has her back” but also the “man of the house”, and the person who sometimes has to get onto her about things like school & chores and whatnot.. But I found this information very useful! Thank you again!

  • Hello, what if my husband interrupt about I learn to you. Husband always agains with me. And show how bad I’m to my kids. So my kids don’t lessen to me.

  • That “physical prompt” stuff. I.e. holding the uncooperative child in place has pretty much universally been deemed a bad idea. Not expressing an opinion on it myself. I don’t know. But I do know its not done anymore.

  • for some reason white people can,t control their children. the parents are afraid of their brats. oh i wish i could get my hands on those little monsters.

  • I’m glad I found this! I have two daughters 18 and 15. I am a single mom. The good news is they don’t give me headache at the same time, they alternate!!! ����‍♀️

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  • I think this I might work, but my fear is my child has just learn to do without things he wants in order to do and act as he wishes. Could it be because I’ve been to strict in the past?

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  • Dr. Jenkins, I wish I had known about you when my “angel” son was in 7th grade. In middle school and currently a rising Junior, I know believe all/most children will go through these challenging years. I can handle the physical needs, but the mental needs, “Oh boy!” Although, my husband and I have figured it out to choose love and positiveness, we do not want to fall into the trap of enabling, just because we can. Thank you for your advices. You have the qualifications, experiences, and a great way of communicating. I am now a subscriber.

  • It all sounds so logical and achieveable, but it doesnt help you when there is just a big “F*** you” on the other side, no matter what. I really gave it up. I dont have the endurance anymore to fight or discuss any of my decisions. Little things, like a “Pls don’t wear your dirty shoes in our house.” and as an answer:” she just went the whole way through the house in her dirty shoes.” And this is just a tiny example. You can copy it for nearly every situation. The only way for me atm, is to ignore everything completely, other wise we would have fight, after fight, after fight. And this is something I really could not handle. I am a peaceful person, and I really dont like to fight all day long, it burns me out and makes me ill. I am now just waiting for her to move out. Isn’t this sad? Sry for my english, it is not my main language.

  • I really appreciate this video but this is difficult. How many of us can really feel we can show unconditional love when all interactions of daily life are defined by such a transactional relationship.

  • Well, I’ve watched a lot of parenting videos from a lot of channels, and have yet to find anything that references the problem I am having and how to fix it.

    I have an very unloving marriage. My husband has bipolar depression and he goes through very aggressive mood swings with me. He was very abusive to me in the past. He is less abusive than he was, but he is still extremely verbally abusive to me. He used to accuse me of cheating on him, and flirting, even though he admits I actually gave him no reason to believe these things. In actuality he is the one that has cheated on me. Yet, he would call me all sorts of names, cuss, scream at, and threaten me. Now that I am older, heavier, and less attractive, he rarely accuses me of cheating, but he still verbally attacks me, because I am supposedly “trash,” “a useless excuse for a human,” “a piece of sh**,” a “cu**,” a “bit**,” “a loser,” “worthless,” a “nigg**,” etc. He says these things in front of the kids too. I have tried to take the kids and separate from him in the past, but I always ended up having to go back to him before I got court ordered child support, because I was on the verge of being unable to pay rent and/or utilities. Truthfully, neither he or I can afford to support the children if we separate, because we will both have separate rents and utilities to pay.

    Anyway, lately, the things he says about me have rubbed off on the kids. The older kids are very disrespectful toward me and the younger children. They are not usually like that to my husband or to each other; and they are always nice to people outside our family. But, when they do something they shouldn’t, such as being extremely rude to the smaller children, and I tell them they should stop and I try to reason with them as to why the way they are behaving is wrong, they just mock me, yell at me, insult me, and sometimes call me names. Then I will try to send them to their room or take away privileges (like using their cell phone, or not allowing them to play video games, or not allowing them to go to their friends’ house for dinner). But, they will tell me I can’t tell them what to do, because their dad is the boss and he’ll take their side and let them do whatever they want. I tell them I am their mother and I will discipline them when I see fit.

    One of them literally told me, “If you don’t like what we do, just ignore us instead of disciplining us. If parents love their kids they should let them do whatever they want, because it’s better for their kids to grow up to be annoying adults than for the kids to grow up to hate them.”

    Anytime I lecture them about something they’ve done wrong they tell me I’m “punishing” them. As if telling them how their inappropriate actions affect others and reasoning with them on what they could do instead, is a punishment. I am not talking about harping on a subject and nagging. I’m talking about just mentioning it to them right after the did something wrong.

    The other day, my older son brought my younger son to tears, because when he asked him to play with him, he told him he was an “annoying loser,” and “No one likes you. Go die in a hole.” I told him he had to apologize. He then told me I was a “loser,” an “worthless,” and “no one cares about you,” and that supposedly everyone “sees you’re nothing but fat, lazy, trash; because all you do is stay at home with kids,” (he was talking about his two sisters that are too young to go to school).

    I told him he wasn’t allowed to use his cell phone. He played on it as I told him this, and said he doesn’t have to do what I say. Of course, his dad said he could continue to play on his phone. I told my son that I am his mother and I do have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that both myself and his father have a right to tell him what to do. I told him that even though his dad was saying he didn’t have to listen to me, he knows in his heart that he does. I reminded him that when his dad tells him to do something, or not to do something, I never tell him he doesn’t have to listen to him, because it’s disrespectful and rude for one parent to do that to the other. I told him I expect him to show me the say respect he has toward his father, instead of a nasty attitude. Sure, I was frustrated, so I had a rude tone of voice and I raised my voice, but I wasn’t calling him names or insulting him, or anything like that. Then my husband said it’s his house we live in, not mine, because he has a job and I don’t so what he says goes and he says the kids don’t have to listen to me. SO, my son told me, “Yeah, if you don’t like my attitude you can move out!”

    My husband has been telling the older children that I am “bullying” them any time I tell them they can’t do something they want to do, or tell them to do a chore, or lecture them for something bad they did (like bullying the smaller children, or lying, or talking back when they can’t go somewhere or do something they want to do). Seriously, I can tell my 8 year old to take a shower and brush his teeth, three different times over a three hour period, nd my husband will tell him, “You don’t have to listen to that naggy bit**. She is just bullying you, because she doesn’t like you.” Then the next time I say the smallest thing to that son, such as, “Hey, can you bring me your dinner plate so I can wash it, please?” He will say something like, “Stop nagging me! I know you don’t like me, but you don’t have to bully me all the time!”

    At one point, my eight year old son’s teacher contacted me and said my son was acting odd at school, because any time she got on to him in the slightest, such as saying, “You need to sit back in your seat, stop talking to your friends, and focus on learning,” he will start whining ang getting very defensive. He’ll say things to her like, “Why are you picking on me? You’re just bullying me because you don’t like me.”

    Well, both I and his father talked to him about how he needs to mind and respect his teacher and take responsibility of his behavior instad of blaming her by saying she is picking on him. He hasn’t done that at school anymore. But, he and the teenagers still act this way and say these things to me. I know it’s because their dad keeps undermining me.

    Of course, I get angry when they act like this, and I have yelled at them and had a rude tone of voice with them when they act like this. I have called them, “brats,” and “idiots,” and even cussed at my husband and them (I’ve said something like, “shut the Fu** up! You’re being an ASSHO**.”) before. But, I have only cussed like that twice, over an 1 1/22 year period, when they are yelling, insulting, and name calling me daily over that same period of time. But, I almost never do that; because I purposefully try to avoid doing or saying anything that makes the lies my husband keeps propagating against me to seem true. But, lately, for about 1 1/2 years, they have been acting like this, my husband and the three teenagers, and now the 8 year old, on a daily basis, over and over again. Sometimes one child will go a day or two without acting this way, but the other kids and my husband will; so everyday at least three people are acting like this toward me. I am to the point where I actually feel like I want to try to take just the two littlest kids and move out and give up on a relationship with my other kids, unless they grow up and realize their dad is brainwashing them against me. I think this is what he is trying to make me do. But, I don’t want to give up on them and abandon them, because I love them, even if they don’t care anything about me.

    He is doing this on purpose too. His mother is estranged from him and the rest of his siblings and they call her by her first name instead of mom. He admitted to me that when he was a child and teen he hated his mom nd thought she was a terrible person, and he and his siblings all told her on an almost daily basis that they didn’t love her and they wanted her to leave, because their dad kept telling them she was a bad person and she didn’t love them. He also slandered her, but at the time he believed the lies about his mom, and only years later did he find out they weren’t true (like she supposedly cheated on the dad, over and over again, when she never did). Eventually, their mom got sick of it and left. Most of her kids have admitted to me that they know their dad tried to brainwash them against her and they treated her horribly; but, they still want nothing to do with her and hate her because she left them.

    So, my husband is trying to do to my kids what his dad did to him and his siblings. I don’t want to leave and abandon my kids. But, my heart is breaking every day because I am being accused of being a horrible person, and everyone is treating me like trash constantly, when I really haven’t done anything wrong, except for on rare occasion raising my voice (one or twice a week) or cussing (one every 6-8 months), because of the constant verbal attacks.

  • I chosed not to ever become a dad as a teenager, now I’m an adult. I’m married an I have a teenage daughter �� (my wife had a daughter when I met her).

  • As a mother with my 13 year old that screaming and crying is when I walked away. Ignored him straight up. Thank God it worked and those tantrums didn’t last long. That’s just my tactic I employed and the way I was able to help fix it. I dont want to be a parent in the comments acting as if I have the answers it just so happens that worked for me. I have a 15 month old daughter and twins on the way and it can be a completely different case with them. But I do believe not giving into that behavior can curb it. To me it seems like they repeat it because it gets them the attention they are demanding good or bad.

  • This is a classic example of behaviour modification. Children love praise and love to work towards a goal or positive outcome. You take positive reinforcement away what’s the point of working well with others? If there’s no bonds being made, or progress being shown, why bother? Poor kids, it’s the lack of organized consistency in their environment.

  • I want you to know that I love your videos……I’m grown up myself, now, but since I’ve left home, My mother has adopted my cousins two young girls. Now they’re teenagers, and she is having a very difficult time with them (to tell you the truth, I know from experience that she can be over bearing and short fused). Well, a Professor of mine had suggested this particular video for her and I’ve gotta tell you, after watching it myself, THIS IS PERFECT ADVICE FOR ANYONE STRUGGLING WITH A WILLFUL TEEN!! Thank you, so much for doing this and take care.:)

  • I think the results are really good with most of these children. However, they are in a foreign place to their own homes. I also think Supernanny’s approach is more concise, quicker, and implements compliance much quicker in the child’s normal surroundings. Kudos to these women!

  • Thank you for sharing this with parents. You have change my stile of life by just loving my daughter and being positive when talking to her. You are a master of psychology. ���� thank you.

  • My 13 year old is being very rude and disrespectful to my new partner. We recently moved from Canada to the States to start a new life with him. And this challenging behavior has been going on way before he entered into our lives. She doesn’t like him and thinks he is too bossy. Meanwhile she is totally bossy, demanding, disrespectful to both of us, rude, and angry. She’s ok as long as she is getting what she wants. My partner feels upset about how she treats him, and wants to give her consequences for being rude, like turning off the WiFi. I am a bit nervous that will only make her more resentful. I have tried talking about what she is feeling with her, and have explained that I want to live in a happy home and can she please be nice to him? But she doesn’t care, and says she will only be nice if he is nice. Any advice about how to navigate this situation would be appreciated!!!

  • instead of judgement i wish the parents could all receive some loving positive input. i wish they could have days off that they could look forward to when they would be pampered and desensitized. children are wonderful gifts and some people just need a little knowledge and guidance with methods to help them be successful at child rearing.

  • Is the child screaming at 16:46 because he doesn’t want to go home because he’s had a good day? Or is he screaming because he’s the last one left in the room and he’s unaware why/how everyone’s disappeared? Perhaps he despises his home life and simply doesn’t want to go home so he rages at his mother? It is so hard to communicate with or understand a non-verbal child’s needs.

  • Sir I appreciate your suggestions. My Grandson Is 16 and we are beyond this! He has dropped out of school, he is drinking,smoking, popping pills, he has stolen some items from me, hes disrespectful! He threatens me, he is nothing but obstructive! Meaning, he will be opposite of whatever I say, ask, of him to do! If I say up, hes going to say down!
    He loves, being defiant! He sneers this devilish sneer on his face, he purposely is trying to push my buttons, this is what I have an issue with! He refuses, to bathe, I’m so uncomfortable in my home!!! He refuses to clean up after his self, and will purposely continue, to harass me, going into my room to get what it is he wants that I have removed from his access! He doesnt care what I say!
    I have tried everything, I barely hanging on to being the adult in the home! He is trying to intimidate me, by the fluctuation of his voice, yells at me curses at me, calls me bitch hoe, I need to take my ass out in the street were I belong and sell my ass! He calls me crack head, crazy, I’m weird, I’m stupid, I need help, all this with the intent to get me to loose my temper!
    Sometimes I do! I cuss his ass out! I tell him to stop talking to me this way, he says no, he doesnt have to!
    No consequences are ineffective or rewards really matter to him!
    Hes hurting! I know he is! Hes angry! I think hes very confused!
    He doesnt like to be told a dam thing, not even to clean up after his self!
    He does and says things with the intent to hurt me, my feelings!
    I tell him, if you dont want me telling you shit then do what your supposed to do! That is go to school, cleaning up after his self, follow the rules!
    He is manipulative! Vendictive, a liar! Takes no responsibilty for anything! It’s always someone else’s fault, never his! He wants things, yet will not do what needs to be done to do what he wants!?
    Playing foot ball, grades and needed to be C or higher, one semester only!
    The nicer I try to be, the worse he gets!
    I’m drained, I’m very sad, hurt! Frustrated, desperate, feel like I’ve failed him! Very concerned about his future! No school, anger management, lies, irresponsible! How will he maintain a job?
    I’m afraid he’s going to be an abusive man to women!
    Because he is cowardly!!! Hes really a scared kid! But. He displays anger, trying to be a bad ass, someone who he is not in anyway!
    I’m afraid for his safety because he hangs out with.
    His behavior!
    The only thing he is doing is getting home by 11 pm.
    Which I’m grateful for! He has to be here by 11 or he gets locked out the the night!
    There have been time when he has arrived late! He doesnt want to hear shit, just open the door he says. Quit talking to me he says. I dont let him in with that attitude! Hell bang,yell and knock on the door,Ive called the police! Yhey do nothing! Im the one that can get in trouble necause hes a minor and I’m responsible!
    I dont care! Take me to jail! He needs to hey his ass home on time, if he doesnt want to get locked out!
    I mean that shit! I have to do something! I keep yeinh him this is going to happen and nothing happens, no consequences I need to do something to show him I’m serious there are consequences got his actions!
    I’m am the adult! You will follow the rules here. Or find somewheres else to stay!
    I’m having a difficult time loving him right now!!!
    He turns people against me, lies about why things are the way they are! He says it’s because I dont want to hey him back in school that’s why hes not going! He doesnt want to go! He would love to see me go to jail!
    He was dropped from school, please help.
    I’m making my self ill!

  • I work a a clothing store and distracted parents are everywhere. Today a most extreme example was I was ringing up another customer, when to my left I hear a thud noise. Idk if the kid was climbing on the cart or what, but when I look to my left, this little 5 years old boy is stuck under a shopping cart. I had to jump from my other customer to lift the cart off him, and then when the boy started crying and screaming, I see the dad look up from his phone and then come to comfort the child. Oh gosh… Please parents just pay a little more attention!

  • I have a bonus daughter that takes things from her dad and my home. (in this case it was a new shirt I bought my oldest daughter.. all kids got new clothes for school). So, most of the kids share clothes and some are swapped. That isn’t the issue. I saw her put it in her bag. I asked if my daughter told her she could have it.. of course it was said that she did. But the next time my daughter was home she was mad her shirt was gone. My bonus daughter now says she didn’t take it and I accused her of being a thief. Which all I said was it was in her bag. (Her dad heard me). Anyway him and I are moving so I packed up all the clothes to back to their mom’s. In thesr clothes she “finds” the shirt.. which I know for a fact wasn’t there. So her mother calls her dad saying I called the daughter a thrift and the shirt was in there and I’m overstepping my place. Anuway I feel like this child is trying to get her mom to hate me which in return will cause issues for her dad. She 100% lied to make me out to be a yelling, name-calling crazy woman, and a liar.. she’s 13. I just don’t know what to do to stop the lying and to make peace with her. She came over last night and didn’t say anything about it to me.. it hurt me horrible!

  • Geez,I thought I was gonna feel better watching this. Sitting here crying dealing with my incredibly disrespectful 3 teenage daughters. This video made me feel worse. I will find somebody else’s video. Here is the thing I have done all of what u said on this video doesn’t even work. I was looking for more positive light not don’t be neglectful, they control this they control that. Not words I needed to hear at all.

  • I came back here to rewatch it after one year. My 13 going to be 14 yrs old boy doesn’t grow any mature yet has becoming worsened. Reading the comments below, I know I’m not the only one who is on this roller coaster ride alone. Teenage hormones confuse me, I’m so discouraged by his behavior & everything going on in our life. I wish there’s a portal that I can speed travel to another time, places where I can be a happy person again. I woke up to prepare breakfast and packed his lunch as usual today. But I didn’t want to look at his face even though he said good morning (reluctantly) to us. No conversation in the car only good bye from him when I dropped him off at school. I don’t know, I am tired, I actually don’t mind paying a bit more so that kids can stay longer in school. Having someone who is not their family members to teach them family value, moral standard are way more effective than us, their own parents.

  • Yeah ok, I want to see you be positive when your daughter spits in your face and disrespect you, I want to see you smile and be positive when they steal from you. This is why I hate psychiatrist. Do people have no clothes, nothing better than an old school beating Once in a while

  • All of those kids are special needs, my god my brother needed that type of special needs class, his tantrums were atrocious and never really ended, he just became an adult and conuldn’t be told what to do anymore. He’s now a drug addict on probation who’s in and out of jail frequently.

  • My brother is a bother!!! He thinks I need discipline for everything! Wanting to wear crop tops, DISCIPLINE! I want a boyfriend, him: you don’t need a boyfriend! But he had a girlfriend at fifthteen and I’m now I’m 15! He kissed her, went over her house, he even slept in the same bed as her!�� because I’m his little sister, he don’t understand��

  • All you have to do is look at the parents (mutant inbreds) to see why the brats turned out the way they did. England is full of freaks.

  • I respect you as a Dr. but no teenager will be in control at a place where I pay all the bills, buy food, etc. Now they have some privileges but no control. That’s what’s wrong with this generation to much control has been placed in their hands.

  • Absolutely agree. (Btw I’m a dad now, son born 19/10/18!) This should also apply to Mum University?! I’m always asking my wife to not use the phone when interacting with me, spending time with me or even just eating together (especially at restaurants). I really dislike it when my own father and siblings sit at the table (in the restaurant) and there’s no interaction. It’s such a horrible sight. And if the person then submits to the idea of putting down the phone, there’s just awkwardness. So to avoid awkwardness, just don’t even use the phone unless you’re having fun and showing each other stuff. Maybe.

  • Wow! Nice tips!
    You voice it out so well.
    In my coaching sessions I say don’t get into a power tussle with your teenager. By here you put it so well.
    Permission to use these in my coaching sessions.

  • How can we encourage our teens(age 14) to get involved with activities both in school and after especially when we know their strengths?  Should we make them do something when we assume (know) they will like it and thank us afterwards? They say “no” to almost everything we suggest.  In the past, they both happily participated in different things, including sports, camps, and a few clubs.  Note:  they are not lazy and very good academically.  THANKS!

  • My little brother is sometimes really sweet, and sometimes more than frustrating.
    I admit, mom and dad have very different views on parenting. My dad is never firm with us, and now that he’s older it’s getting worse because hasn’t got the energy to actually take away privileges, even if he wanted to.
    So my brother now has no problem saying out loud that “dad is being annoying” or that he doesn’t love our aunt or the he simply won’t do this or that in the rudest voice possible. He has a lot of gaps in his social understanding. He takes things that his bullying classmates said or did and says we’re doing the same to him, which is far from the truth. He takes every joke as mocking, he takes offense at anything and you literally need to step on shells when he’s around. That’s still not enough, most likely you will be a villain in some way or another.

  • You take a belt to their butt. Thats how you do it. Whos the boss you are a dumb teen? You are very dumb if you let your kid run all over you.

  • Can u do a video how to deal with teenagers on their phone? My son always on his phone playing games n I want to know how to dealing without controlling him.

  • Hello sir from india..my son is 16 years old..he us totally out of control..very harsh shouting at parents lazy itresponsilble not intrested in education..he always wants to play games on phone and hangout with friends..eat outside food..doesnot like to take suggestions iam literally dying and failed in bringing up in right way plz help me how to put him on right path

  • Yes you are so right I do it with my stepson who is so disrespectful and rude. I only wish I can get his mama on the same page. Provide food, roof over his head, clothes whatever kind I pick out and I ignore him. He always comes around after acting out when he sees that I’m paying him no attention. Wanting to talk to me and help me out around the house.

  • Dear Sir,
    I really appreciate your effort to educate parents first that how to deal with adhd kids. My son is 14 years old n has been hyperactive throughout his childhood. First we parents thought that he may be mischevious but later on we realised he is having problem in learning school tasks. He is a bit talkative, aggressive with his younger sister but quite good with elder sister n brother. He cannot memories well his school home works.
    It feels that his mind is stuck badly.he makes the same mistakes after learning or practicing.
    Contrary, he is good in playing video games, making papers aeroplanes,some home chores.
    When we teach him, he seems distracted easily by watching clock or just started touching hair or rubbing hands etc.

    I am quite upset becoz he was doing o’levels but could not qualify in good marks. He himself thinks that his memory is weak.

    I want to know is his behaviour cureable without medicines??
    Secondly, he seems misfit for science, commerce nd humanity subjects then what other option is left for me to educata such boy who seems uninterested in studies. Plz suggest me something which can be helpful in his studies. Regards

  • I’m a teenager, and though I could easily see this strategy could crash and burn if used the wrong way, it’s also the solution for the reason I dislike a quality of parents. What I don’t like about parents is that I know that they can be fair and good and play control games, negotiate, and all, but at the end of the day, they could lose their temper, if things aren’t going the way they want it to in their own game, they could easily just rip the whole game down and make us teenagers do whatever they want us to do, wether we want to or not, wether it’s fair or not and there’s nothing we can do about it, not that I speak from experience, but the just knowledge that someone has so much power over us can make us want control.
    I don’t want people to get the wrong idea about us though, we’re not all rebellious, pubescent, control obsessed teens as most grownups seem to think we are, just because grownups think we’re all at the “most awkward stage in life” and our state of emotion is always “fragile” and aren’t quite “mature enough,” doesn’t mean we have to be treated like we are, yes, some of us are like that but you all don’t have to treat us like we are, the ideal teenager that most grownups see is a stereotype, a very strong one but not really an accurate one either. All grownups were teenagers once and you have to remember how it felt, how you thought good parents should be, how we reason, how you reasoned when everything that you had was not completely yours, that it was all subject to someone else’s power, and that is how we are.

    (p.s. My parents are great, I just think a lot about things and like to have some control, plus I’m just sharing an opinion and sorry if I offended anyone, I didn’t mean to, and this video was great)

    #coolpsychologist

  • Absolutely right! I have an old-type mobile. When I am out driving I first charge up the battery, put it in the mobile and take it with me… for emergencies only!!! I never use it for anything else. When I return home I remove the battery from the mobile and put the two in a drawer, and there it stays until I need to drive the car again. My brain-dead bank wants me to have a smartphone so that they can send me an access code to use my account via a smartphone. Otherwise, I won’t be able to access my account on-line as normal. But I refuse to purchase a smartphone. Period!!!

  • I like your idea but teens now a days are way different. Just as your example about access to being driven to school. You have mentioned in your other video to not bail out. So as parent we tried to negotiate but was rejected. The teenager figures out a way, walking to school as an example. We let them control their actions and let them understand the consequences. But what if for example they arrived to school late and got asked why he/she is late? Obviously the child will then say, “ well mom/dad didn’t drop me off because I didn’t agree with their terms.”. So what will happen next? Teacher/s will get involve and parents are in trouble. What I am getting at is, it is really hard sometimes to do things with our children for the sake of good intentions if there are someone trying to get involve and takes away our right for being a parent. Another thing is that teens believe they have rights for everything and if their rights were not validated it can get messy. Even if it means humiliating their own parent/s.

  • the poor child at 10.10 was so confused he had said thank you but obviously teacher didnt hear him and then he was wondering what he had done wrong, poor kid, then his behavior escalated.I also agree that some of these children are on the spectrum xx

  • Im just constantly smiling throughout your video,u have such a funny way of explaining it anyway thank u so much for sharing the knowledge,it helps me in a big way.

  • Interesting how this topic ends up being discussed today because earlier today I had discussed the same topic with one of my coworkers

  • Wow I am so greatful I found you You really made me feel better and gave me some valuable advise I think could actually help us Thank you ��

  • How do you have control when a couple of teens (strangers) come up to you in the street and start to be aggressive? I had a couple of teen girls come up to me while unlocking my bike, one of them started to kick my bike for no reason. I told her to stop many times staying calm but she didn’t stop. I noticed they had just been to the shop to by food which she had in her hand she already started to eat and drink, so I hit her food out of her hand onto the floor to stop her fixation on damaging my bike and to show her consequence on damaging my property. Then I crossed the road to bike home when she come running after me to throw the rest of her drink at me but failed because her can was empty. I didn’t turn around, I just got onto my bike and rode off. Was this the right thing to do? If I had my phone out and recorded it I could have used this to say stop or i will take this recording to the police but I didn’t think of it at the time. There is no respect for the elders these days. I’m a parent of one 8 year old and I’m 45 year old.

  • At my school during quarantine we had to bring yoga mats to school to eat out side we would sit on it so when I was sitting on it I said oh it’s time to do yoga so I did a impression of joe

  • Notice the response after when dean gets a whooping? He didn’t continue trying to test his mom after that, just crying. You can say it’s abuse, but it’s only abuse if you leave bruises and whoop them just because with no reason to. Exactly why most Hispanic and black households have children who won’t talk back and act out against their parents, because they get that tail tanned everytime they talk back and act out.

  • If my child doesn’t want to revise with me or show me homework, I understand that is their choice but should I restrict what I provide until they do what I want?

  • Freaking awesome video. Being a troubled and disorderly teenager in my past I cant tell you how accurate and truthful this video is. It was always hard for me to pinpoint why I behaved the way I did but looking back I now see as I developed my identity my ego was not going to let my parents control who I was choosing to be resulting in a horrendous battle of control.

    Not until my parents finally decided to love me for who I was did I decide to comply and find mutual respect.

    They are now my BEST FRIENDS and I choose to hang out with them more than just about anyone else on this earth. Thank you for sharing the light.

  • When was this video made? Why aren’t the first two little boys loose in the back of a moving car? It is against the law for the 4 year-old not to be in a car seat.

  • thanks for this…. now i know what i should control and let teens who think they are mature take the consequences for thier actions

  • This looks early 90s or so. The cars tell me that lol and that the kids are not in seat belts in the Swindon family. Wonder exactly how long ago this was?

  • I agree completely. More and more parents are busy entertaining themselves on their phones when they are supposed to be watching their kids and… when their kids acted up they just give their kids their own phones to play with.

  • I have numerous questions about how to become the eldest sibling, can I make a video request about that topic? Because my siblings are way younger than me and it’s so hard to keep them in one piece most of the time… Thanks

  • Im watching this video b/c I cant deal w my 17 y/o sons attitude anymore. Im a single mom and its just me and him in the house. I think he resents not having a man around. I can’t even hit him anymore b/c hes bigger and stronger than me. Hes such a rude moody person and I don’t understand why b/c he has everything he wants and needs. Hes going away to college in the fall and I can’t wait but I hate feeling that way.

  • When they stick their tongue out and spit at you, pop them under the chin so they can bite their tongue. They will stop that immediately.

  • I like very much all the info but man… Very tiring listening to someone speaking softly then LOUDLY the softly then LOUDLY… This remind me of some pastor in churches, so tiring!

  • Its sad the way mothers are like robots to their phones…ignoring their children.

    U see it everywhere.
    Unfortunately the lack of face to face and verbal interaction will have dire consequences for children growing up as its the fundamental way they learn to interact with other human beings.

    Its like mothers dont realise the consequences which most likely will result in attention seeking behavioural problems later on.

  • It is so sadly just as bad in England……they are oblivious to the children in their care…..watch how many are on the mobile and pushing the push chair across the road at the same time…..watch them in fast food outlets…..watch them anytime and see it……mobiles are ok people but there is a time and a place……few will see it that way unfortunately…….a catastrophe will have to occur before they realise how pathetic they are…yet they will still seek to apportion the blame elsewhere…..look at boy and girl on a date….how often are they on their mobiles….do they actually converse with each other?…….does anybody else think that that is rude and ignorant behaviour from both?

  • All of these teenagers are commenting and making excuses. I’m 25, so I still have good memories from my teen years. Listen teens, even if you are a teen, do not speak for all teens. Everyone is different. Some teenagers have good excuses for their rebellion, but some teens are just lazy and mean because they want to get all of the benefits without putting in any work. Most teens just don’t want anyone telling them to do anything

  • If the kid is just spoiled and overindulged, go ahead and chuck him out of school. But if the kid has some emotional disorder, that’s another story. I taught ED kids, and here’s what I observed. The parents are stupid and use aggression to get them in line. When they get older and bigger, it doesn’t work anymore. Then the teachers are left to handle it.

  • My problem with my18 year old son is mostly with my wife (his mother). We’ve been in family counseling for years before I asked her to just stop coming. She enables our son and doesn’t bother listening to the docs and counselors. She says it’s her job to protect him as a mother. She says she’s afraid he is going to fail, she’s afraid he’s going to hurt himself(think self inflicted here), she just wants him to not have struggles and be happy. This is where she makes her parenting decisions. He has very few, very menial chores that she does for him more than enough for it to be addressed. He has no boundaries, no consequences and no expectations. She actually set a good boundary a couple months ago; he can’t have his cell phone if he doesn’t have a clean room. There has been zero follow through on this. His room is trashed and he has his phone. If I enforce that rule that she came up with then I have both of them upset with me. I bought him an r/c car and told him it was his responsibility. He had to pay for it if it broke or if he wanted to upgrade it. I did this so he could start practicing making money decisions and earn some integrity by knowing he’s the one making his car run. Well the car broke and it sat there because he was spending his money on other things so his mom and her daddy (another dysfunctional story) took it to his house and now he takes care of the car. Not only did they kill the opportunity for him; the car has been upgraded beyond his capabilities of controlling it and now it sits because the fun has been taken out of it. And I’m the bad guy. Our son was on a basketball team and said he was tired of sitting the bench and he would like his team to win some games. I talked with him about some drills he could work on that the coach gave him and his mom jumped in and said he can’t practice on his own; it’s not his personality. And I’m the bad guy that doesn’t believe in him. Just the other day he interrupted a conversation I was having with our daughter and when I asked him to go away for right now he flat out said no. This happened several to the point he squared up like he was ready to fight. It stopped because our daughter ran to tell mom. I made him stay in his room the rest of the night so I was in trouble with her and still am several days later. There was a point years ago that I couldn’t handle any more and I started becoming a raging lunatic. I then sought out our counselor originally for myself because I said I can’t act like this even though this insanity is happening. She wants me to have a meaningful relationship with our son, but binds my hands and legs to do it. It’s set up for failure. I showed him how to do stained glass and everything was fine until he showed us his project. It was falling apart while he was showing it off. The two of us went to the garage and troubleshooted the issue. We found what step he left out and I patted him on the back and said he’ll figure it out. I went back inside and you heard a huge crash (he slammed his work in the garbage can). She got mad at me and texted her daddy that everything was fine and I said something to our son and upset him. So I was in trouble. Our son told me he was just frustrated and I didn’t say anything wrong. Oh well he wasn’t going to stand up for me. We were watching Mr Rogers neighborhood with Tom hanks. We got through t about the first 5 minutes when my wife and our daughter went outside for some reason so to make small talk with our son I gave him my idea of how I thought the movie would end. He went outside and I sat on the couch waiting for them to come back in. Oh they came back in all right. She was yelling at me because our son told her I was really talking bad about her and not the movie. After we discussed it she said it was a misunderstanding, but oh well. No apologies, no discussion with our son and she still didn’t talk to me for days.Engaging with him is a slippery slope for me so I keep to myself more these days and she’s mad at me for that. I get in trouble either way I go. I used to go to our sons personal counseling meetings with my wife. The doc would give us homework to do like write down some boundaries and consequences for us to discuss in the next meeting. I came with my homework done and she didn’t do any. I asked the doc why we don’t address this and that’s the last meeting I was asked to come to. I talk to the pastor at our church and he says this shouldn’t be happening, but oh well. He’s not saying anything. Our friends say this is sad, but oh well they aren’t saying anything. My son has put bleach in my wine bottle and her answer was to take both our kids and moved out for several months. I didn’t have one child stay with me the entire time. He put bleach in my wine bottle because I said he wouldn’t have his phone for the weekend if he didn’t get his room clean. He knows I mean what I say. The night before we saw a movie where someone was murdered that way. Within a couple days of being gone her dad bought him a new remote control car. The second our son isn’t smiling they panic and turn into little clowns trying to cheer him up. They are the only ones who think they’re doing just fine and I’m out of control. If we had video cameras in our home you would see it all. How do you help a cub when the momma bear that’s protecting it is the one that injured it? I’m literally going insane. I hear everyone saying doing abc is crucial to him growing. Everything I stand for and am fighting for parallels what they all say, but my wife and her dad live in a different world and nobody will call them on it. Not one damn person! He’s 18 with no job, isn’t in school. He is on electronics at a completely out of balance amount of time. I know you’ve reached out for me to call you, but I’m not the one that needs the intervention. I’ve been handling my end and my wife will even testify to the fact that I’ve really reeled it in, but that just gives them the ability to continue untouched. If I don’t say anything everything is fine, but I can’t continue to dismiss these core values and morals we are supposed to be instilling in him and look the other way. He’s been baker acted. He’s sent nude pictures to girls who didn’t ask for them. She refuses to face her fears and insecurities so that she can be the mom he needs. She doesn’t realize she makes these decisions to ease her anxiety not for our sons benefit. Sometimes I think because they work so hard to stifle my voice in the matter and project their garbage onto me, I feel they don’t want to understand. This is truly dr Phil show material. PLEASE GOD HELP!!!!!

  • My kid thumps and gets physical with us if we ask to complete the school assignments and threatens us with self harming and using bad words.my kid recently turned teen.how to deal with it. As we live in an apartment so its difficult. Please suggest.my kids was not like this before.

  • 36:00 why is she arguing with him….?didn’t they advise her to ignore his bad behavior? She just goes home and continues her bad parenting habits, you would think she would realize that her child is not the soul problem but that her parenting is part of the issue as well as her sons bad behavior. I’m not saying that she is a horrible mother but she knows her son has an issue with his behavior yet she doesn’t s seem to want to correct her parenting to help him correct his behavior.

  • I really believe that a place should be provided for parents to bring their screaming, hitting, kicking, biting, nose picking, finger sucking miserable little animals that are semi disquised as human children and leave them. Sort of like the program that is set up for new borns to be given over. These parents are clearly overwhelmed by their children, who knows why, but they are incapable of turning things around. Why should both parents and children have to remain together just because the parents gave birth to the child.

  • Why is she giving him a token for acting like that? I understand ignoring him but really come on praising him while acting like that makes me sick. How is that teaching him to stop acting like that. He thinks it’s ok to do! and

  • I dealt with my teenager everyday and it’s a challenge. Will try to use this method on her. Will come back and watch it again for review. Specially now for online class.

  • Gonna take a stab and say Joseph and those twins are autistic. Its a shame they’ve probably been labelled naughty their entire lives judging by how old this doc looks, I wonder where they are now.

  • I have a 17 yr old who is very disrespectful. She lost akot of her priviledges over the years because of that. She made friends with a group of kids who do pop pills, get drunk, high and constantly fight each other. She started running away. Her and her friend stole from a salon. My husband got her and turned her in. He brung her home after they released her but she put up a struggle. She rather be out because says shes free to do whatever she wants. My husband told her either she gives 100% cooperation in behaviour or she goes straight to rehab. She calmed down and listened. We did struggle with her attitude though. Last night she was so disrespectful that we ended up in a really bad argument. The next day she was ok until we asked to do laundry. She refused to do it right and was so disrespectful. She ended up leaving to my moms. It makes me feel like i failed so badly. Im also scared for her. What do you advise?

  • All those who are talking about birth control and so on: why you are watching this if you are so disgusted of having kids? You should not watch this if you are not brave enough to have kids-this program and other similar ones are for parents, not for all of you!

  • Wow, so this is the upbringing that made us millennials into what we are now. “Praise the kids whenever they do anything”, Jesus…

    Old boy at 14:18 must have some disorder, he doesn’t like clapping all that much.

  • As the mother of 3 boys, and now the proud grandma of 4! I was really impressed by this video, and the modern way of handling children with problems! My boys just got a ‘wallop’ on their bottoms and I never really had these sort of problems! But my children DID develop other troubles in their mid to late teens, which sadly has affected them as adults! I lost my eldest at 25 to a drug overdose (not suicide) my youngest has a lifelong weight problem, and the middle one has insulin dependent diabetes,causing heart defects in middle age! So you just never know for sure what’s ahead!!

  • Lovely video��. It made me draw a conclusion that teaching does not take place a stage three. We only have 8 years to teach about values and characters or rather it is very minimal

  • Thank you for your teachings. I’ve learnt so much through them and discovered how effective they are. But here I question if this kind of transaction can be beneficial for teenagers. It sometimes turns into a conditional love, where the child is not loved for who he is but for who he is supposed to be. And I want to make the child understand that school can be a useful tool in his future and not that he has to perform well so that he can get some advantages. I think it’s needed to establish deals and to negotiate and understand each one’s expectations but I don’t think a parent should impose to the child how often to go to school and how to perform because as you said “It’s not in his power and the teen will find ways to not do it”. Missing school can be connected to the emotional struggle the teen goes through and I think it’s better to see the cause of this behavior. I think what you propose is needed but I don’t like the “if you do that….then, I will…” approach. It sounds like conditional love.

  • He’s got her pretty well trained at 22:48 “I know it’s wrong [to take big brother’s ball away from him and give it to little brother] but anything to shut him up.” He has her trained to give him what he wants or he’ll scream till she does.

  • I’m so glad that I found this channel, I have a daughter that just turned 16 and thinks that she owns my house. It’s given me a whole lot of inspiration on how to handle some of the situations that come up.

  • Thank you very much sir for your valuable ideas on how to deal with our teenagers. You have really helped me a lot especially to know that I was doing most of the things correctly.

  • Oh my, I fell in love with Dean. I have taught many behaviour-disordered students, just like him, who everyone else will label as “incorrigible” “unteachable”. Some years I will have several of these students in my class (breaking contract rules) simply because other teachers refuse to take them. I can’t imagine any child being so disruptive they are expelled from school by grade 3 (although I’ve taught a few who have come very close because they are a danger to other children). No child wants/chooses to be ‘extremely naughty’; it’s simply the behaviour that has worked for them in their day to day survival. Kids will rise to whatever expectations you set for them. If you set extremely low expectations, they will easily oblige.

  • I guess it may well depend on the child in question. It’s certainly not a simple yes or no. I wouldn’t have a problem with them having a phone, but not a smart phone.

  • I don’t believe in demons but these kids here…. WTF? I think it would be beneficial to study the how. How does this happen. I think more preventative measures with the parents would be more beneficial than trying to fix the problem after it happens. There should be more parent support groups aimed at preventing this from happening in the first place.

  • genius! After watching this I decided to feed my kids oatmeal for every meal until compliance and respect are in place. I’m already at peace ��

  • I love your videos! I will say proverbs says a wise son brings joy to his father but a foolish one brings grief to his mother. We have all been on the wrong side of this as teens. On the parent side I can testify that wise proverb is true. I gotta work on staying positive like you said because my son will probably pull through this like most of us did.

  • These are the same kids that have to grow up and work with your kids. When the teachers started playing with them and evolving them in the activities, the kids got happy and well behaved. Parents aren’t engaging these kids at home. That lady who’s boy had the tumor in his mouth, her husband keeps her pregnant!

  • When the show started my thought was, “Get these kids medication!!!” But OhEmGeee, what a turn around for many of the kids! Probably a few fall on the autism spectrum and/or have ADHD and do need meds.

  • See the thing is, If you put a bunch of well behaved kids in there and do the activitys their doing then that would be a blast for me! I would wanna stay

  • I see they hushed up real quick after a pop lol. But on a real note a child screaming that much at every single thing has to have something not quite right with them. You can’t be happy to scream that much. But when children are misbehaving these days ( 2018) it seems most are quick to say it’s a disorder when the child prob just needs morals and discipline like things taken away etc. But back in the day they were pretty firm on discipline.So for a child to continue to act this way even with stern discipline then there is something wrong.

  • The first few minutes I didn’t like this and thought this dude was cracked, but for whatever reason I kept listening and I am so glad I did. I’m gonna go watch that Be Positive video next. Thanks sir!!

  • The phone isn’t good for a kid anyways, not close to him anyways. We
    won’t get into the radiation issues. I love this idea, no phones until
    he goes to sleep. I doubt women could do this haha. But this is a good
    idea overall. get a flip phone! I vowed to always make time for my kids.
    I am not a phone lover anyways.

  • Stop ✋ kicking boys but you don’t smack them Rachel or say shut up �� but put on the naughty step and if they get up put them back quitely and they will soon see your not giving in Rachel but Rebecca is a good girl poor Rebecca has 2 naughty big brothers Rachel has 2 naughty sons

  • Problem is… if I don’t buy my daughter some thing she really wants, but I already own… She takes mine or steals it off her bigger sister or her friends. So I still loose. I still have no control over what I provide for her. What then?������������������

  • I have been very broken over issues with my teens. Thankyou for eloquence and simplicity: I am mastering “my job is to love them”, and that’s helpful and I am duly humbled you put it into perspective. I appreciate the creative way you highlighted and defined what all control teenagers have, although I was whimpering “buts” and “no’s” as the scales seemed to, (at first) tip all their way. Defining the control over things I have REALLY helped. My anger and frustration has CALMED. I feel positively about the future. With tears in my eyes, I thank you. Peace

  • Now that’s the way the world works if you can’t listen you learn the hard way. I’m proud of that little guy and the way the teacher handle it. GREAT GREAT JOB.

  • For children rolling around the back seat of the car, kicking & fighting, maybe putting on their seatbelt would help keep them on their own side of the car.

  • I have raised 3 kids, and misbehaving was NEVER allowed, my kids never cried for a toy or sweet in the shop…I made it clear to them, before we went anywhere, you bring any trouble, there will never be a next time, either in the shop or a friends party…I never spanked them, but lecture and keeping my words, worked magic, I used to give them just a look and they knew its time to cut it…they are now all grown ups, great educated young citizens and my best friends………