When Moms Become Caregivers Strategies for Taking care of an ill Child


How to CARE for your SICK Baby

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Caregivers’ Survival Guide: How to Care for an Elderly

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I’m My Mum’s Carer (Young Caregiver Documentary) | Real Stories

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Tips for Caregivers Real Life Tips for Kids With Autism

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Caregiving Tips for Aging Parents

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How to Relieve the Stress of Caring for an Aging Parent: Amy O’Rourke at TEDxOrlando

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Here are her tips on caring for a sick child. Be honest. It’s important to be clear and open when helping a child adjust to a serious medical condition. You can’t promise that everything will be fine. “You definitely don’t want to lie,” says Dr.

Jones. But be sure you give her information in. Sickness in your child makes you feel worried. Especially this situation puts working parents in puzzle.

They might get confused whether to ask for leave in the office or leave the child at the daycare. Does your child need to see a doctor? This article helps you deal with the sick child at home. Information is available online, at disease-specific websites, at Family Caregiver Alliance, through your medical providers, Area Agencies on Aging, some employee assistance programs, support groups, senior centers, and your community. Start with saying “I am a caregiver and I need help.”.

Only child caregivers can easily neglect their own needs and become isolated or overwhelmed while caring for their parents with no one else to share the responsibility with. Read our tips on how to balance caregiving with a life of your own and see which resources can help if you’re an only child caregiver. An Only Child Caregiver.

When mom or dad gets older or gets sick, you want to do everything possible to care for them. But even with the best of intentions, being a family caregiver is extraordinarily hard work. The emotional and financial tolls associated with being a family caregiver are well-documented: According to AARP, family caregivers provide nearly half a. Additional Support for Caregivers.

If you’re not able to leave your loved one at home but need emotional support, an online support group might be a good option. Be careful not to give out detailed personal, medical, or financial information to anyone online to protect against fraud or scams. Get Paid as a Caregiver for a Family Member.

A caregiver helps a person with special medical needs in performing daily activities. Set personal health goals. For example, set goals to establish a good sleep routine, find time to be physically active on most days of the week, eat a healthy diet and drink plenty of water. Many caregivers have issues with sleeping.

Not getting quality sleep over a long period of time can cause health issues. Talk to caring people for practical caregiving information and help finding local resources/services. Contact your local Family Caregiver Support Program. There are several ways to become a paid caregiver.

You can be hired by: A home care agency, adult family home, assisted living facility, or nursing home and be paid by the agency or facility to provide care. Talk about wages and paydays, health risks, scheduling, and how respite care and caregiver sick days will be handled. • Draw up a personal care agreement that will serve as a contract between the caregiver and the care recipient. If the parent you are caring for is eligible to receive Medicaid, you may be able to get payment for the care you provide under the Cash and Counseling program.

This special program provides for payments that go directly to you as the family primary caregiver so that you can meet all of the expenses that come with the care that you provide.

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Suggest that they bring in lemon popsicles or fruit ices, and lotions or oils with a strong lavender or citrus scent for nursing staff to #1 and #3 Education and Training: Instructed and educated family in OT plan of care.

“Adult Physical Conditions: Intervention Strategies for Occupational Therapy Assistants” by Amy J Mahle, Amber L Ward
from Adult Physical Conditions: Intervention Strategies for Occupational Therapy Assistants
by Amy J Mahle, Amber L Ward
F.A. Davis Company, 2018

• Nurses should support and encourage mothers during these early days and weeks.1 The nurse’s guidance in helping a mother with simple caregiving tasks can be extremely valuable in helping her to overcome anxiety.

“Klaus and Fanaroff's Care of the High-Risk Neonate E-Book” by Jonathan M Fanaroff, Avroy A. Fanaroff
from Klaus and Fanaroff’s Care of the High-Risk Neonate E-Book
by Jonathan M Fanaroff, Avroy A. Fanaroff
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2012

They should be encouraged to seek help from health care workers in the community when the infant manifests any one or more of these signs: poor feeding, poor sucking, or crying; cold to the touch; difficulty breathing; change in color; or convulsions.

“Fanaroff and Martin's Neonatal-Perinatal Medicine: Diseases of the Fetus and Infant” by Richard J. Martin, Avroy A. Fanaroff, Michele C. Walsh
from Fanaroff and Martin’s Neonatal-Perinatal Medicine: Diseases of the Fetus and Infant
by Richard J. Martin, Avroy A. Fanaroff, Michele C. Walsh
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

Nursing assessment should also focus on maternal confidence in basic newborn care skills, such as comforting strategies, formula or breast-feeding, bathing, and diapering.

“Perinatal Nursing” by Kathleen Rice Simpson, Patricia A. Creehan, Association of Women's Health, Obstetric, and Neonatal Nurses
from Perinatal Nursing
by Kathleen Rice Simpson, Patricia A. Creehan, Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric, and Neonatal Nurses
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2008

♦ Evaluate caregiver practices, and adjust them to support patient’s sense of control (e.g., if patient always bathes in the evening to promote relaxation before bedtime, modify care plan to include an evening bath rather than following hospital routine of giving a morning bath).

“Manual of Medical-Surgical Nursing Care E-Book: Nursing Interventions and Collaborative Management” by Frances Donovan Monahan, Marianne Neighbors, Carol Green
from Manual of Medical-Surgical Nursing Care E-Book: Nursing Interventions and Collaborative Management
by Frances Donovan Monahan, Marianne Neighbors, Carol Green
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

• Communicate with the patient and other caregivers.

“Legal Aspects of Health Care Administration” by George D. Pozgar, Nina M. Santucci
from Legal Aspects of Health Care Administration
by George D. Pozgar, Nina M. Santucci
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2016

Give the patients and/or family caregivers the opportunity to discuss prevention and control measures while demonstrating procedures such as hand hygiene to assess their ability to comply with care techniques.

“Fundamentals of Nursing E-Book: Active Learning for Collaborative Practice” by Barbara L Yoost, Lynne R Crawford
from Fundamentals of Nursing E-Book: Active Learning for Collaborative Practice
by Barbara L Yoost, Lynne R Crawford
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

Teach the patient about good nutrition, hygienic practices, and adequate rest.

“Lewis's Medical-Surgical Nursing E-Book: Assessment and Management of Clinical Problems, Single Volume” by Mariann M. Harding, Jeffrey Kwong, Dottie Roberts, Debra Hagler, Courtney Reinisch
from Lewis’s Medical-Surgical Nursing E-Book: Assessment and Management of Clinical Problems, Single Volume
by Mariann M. Harding, Jeffrey Kwong, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

Collaborate with the caregiver and discuss the care needs of the client, disease processes, medications, and what to expect; use a variety of instructional techniques (e.g., explanations, demonstrations, visual aids) until the caregiver is able to express a degree of comfort with care delivery.

“Nursing Diagnosis Handbook E-Book: An Evidence-Based Guide to Planning Care” by Betty J. Ackley, Gail B. Ladwig
from Nursing Diagnosis Handbook E-Book: An Evidence-Based Guide to Planning Care
by Betty J. Ackley, Gail B. Ladwig
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

• Teach the patient and family members to wash hands well, use disposable towels to dry hands, and keep hands away from the mouth.

“Straight A's in Nursing Pharmacology” by Lippincott Williams & Wilkins
from Straight A’s in Nursing Pharmacology
by Lippincott Williams & Wilkins
Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2007

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  • I want to respond to all the people who have commented that “she obviously is an administrator”. Everyone has parents. How can you so easily assert that she just goes back to her “normal” life after work. You, are not listening to what she said. We can’t fix it, no matter how much we’d like to change the situation. So, in order to preserve our sanity, we must learn to except some things and try to find things that are mutually uplifting. Please, let’s stop reading things into other people’s comments. Don’t become “toxic” to one another. Continue to try and find the help you need. There are so many good people giving very good advice. Find the ones that work for you.

  • Majors of the Presentation

    1. Don’t deny the reality that your parents are getting old. Accept it and act accordingly.

    2. Don’t try to become parents of your parents,always treat them with the same respect. Parents just don’t like it.

    You are responsible for your parents, don’t insult them by bossing around.

    Don’t go for the unnecessary checkups, if you are not going to do anything for final result.many checkup but no surgery.

    Aging is a one way transition.
    Always look for what your parents want, don’t impose what you want for your parents. As young childrens, we try to reverse their process of aging.

    3. Aging or getting old is change of LifeStyle.
    Being with old age is a great opportunity to slow down and get into their perspective.

  • I am a single child of my parents. I woke up one morning when I was 30 only to come back from a jog to see my father passed away from a heart attack. I quit my job to move inn to be with my mother (professor of Sociology at state university) and just when I was gaining momentum in life, mother was diagnosed with polymyositis ( autoimmune disorder) & astrocytoma grade III brain tumour. My world crashed. She underwent surgery n chemotherapy and three years later she has lost all speech n the function of a right hand. Did I came close to loosing my mind? Yes. Did I at one point of time thought of just running away till I eventually drop dead? Yes. Did I thought of abandoning my mother at a care home so that I can live a “happy” life? Yes. I am guilty of thinking all of this n more. YET! I love her more than my life and I stay put right here with her. Caring for her as much as possible. I am single so it hurts often not having anyone who can hold my hand n embrace me once in a while…but knowing that my mum smiles every morning when she see’s me and sometimes folds my clothes with the same love that she had when I was a kid..makes me feel very very deep down inside that… I’m doing the RIGHT thing. Thank you

  • An absolutely beautiful speach! Thank you for the compassion and understanding. Learning to connect with our parents in such a vulnerable time of life maybe the lesson of connection that we all need.

  • Parents 94 and 93 just moved them into a retirement home and feeling guilty. Dad with dementia and mom with head trauma from fall recently.. your TED talk helped me. Want and need more. Thank you! Jerry Nichter

  • God Bless You. If you only knew how I needed to hear that today! I do hate where it’s going. I realize it’s a part of life, but it is so hard and I so didn’t think it would be this hard. Knowing that she’ll be with my Dad and at peace is a blessing. Thank you for helping me understand why I feel the way I do a changes today because of you.

  • I hate it I have no patience. Slowing down = frustration and annoyance and depression and anxiety. I am not cut out for elder care.

    I evacuated my parents from their retirement care home to isolate with me for the duration of the pandemic and they are driving me around the bend. I only just got them moved in to their retirement home in December! I do what I need to to get them looked after shopping done and meals on the table then lie in bed depressed. The best part of my life is when a good song comes on at No Frills supermarket. The sound of my mother’s complaining nagging voice repeatedly nagging my demented father over and over again about the same things that do not matter is torture. They try to help but just generate chaos instead. Yes I can keep ahead of it but it is wearing. I wish she would just shut up.

  • And my tip to Relieve the Stress of Caring for an Aging Parent: IE: the manipulation and guilt is!!??? Not here in this video.

  • I’ve been taking care of my father for the last 2 plus years with major heath problems solo. No siblings live nearby. The stress has become unbearable and too much. I just want it to end.

  • When she said i love working with old people i know she full of it. No one want to care for old people especially in america. People are too busy with their lives or too busy enjoying their lives to take time care for an old person. Sad but its the truth. I would not want my kids to waste their time taking care of me when im old. I had my time and want them to enjoy theirs. So live your live when you can and let your kids live theirs. Dont hate them cause they cant take care of you.

  • wow, amazing children! such huge hearts to give back to their mothers! you see so many children only want! not give! Its a right! here there’s such wonderful kids! that don’t look at it as a burden but their love for their mothers, is outstanding credit to how they view life, as you only have one mother and when sick they are there for their mother! it does some at a cost to their health but they over ride it and keep helping their mother. that’s love unconditionally!��

  • Different strokes for different folks because I know rich people with 11 kids and 37 grandkids, but their parents are in the nursing home. Sacrifice?

  • He didn’t want to go into a nursing home and I understand why or even having a home care provider while they were away. Why? You’ll be amazed how many respectable people ABUSE the elderly.

  • My mother took a leave of absence from work and my aunt moved back from Texas. They gave my grandfather loving care from 2001-2005.

  • After my grandfather had that stroke and heart attack, losing his ability to walk and speak again, it was his daughters, my mother and aunt who cared for him at home for years.

  • Just listened to a lecture that gave me very little useful information. When you are in the trenches, this kind of talk is useless, and possibly damaging. I took care of my father who died of cancer in 2008. My husband helped me immensely. Then we took care of my mother in our home until her death from cancer in 2009 on my father’s birthday. By the time my mother had died, my blood pressure was 160/100, I had gained a significant amount of weight and was in very poor health both emotionally and physically. I was forced into a situation where I had to begin taking care of myself or I would drop over of a stroke. My family physician threatened to put me on blood pressure medication if I didn’t start eating healthy and exercising regularly to pull my blood pressure down. So I followed doctor’s orders and turned my health around. Then we finished that chapter of our lives where our daughter graduated from high school and left for college at a school over 1,000 miles away from our home. So we had to deal with that adjustment. Two years ago we made the decision to have my husband’s parents who are both in their mid to late 80’s live with us in our home as they were no longer safe living alone in their own home. They do not speak English, do not drive and are completely dependent on my husband and myself. So this talk about getting a 10 year break in between raising our kids and caring for our aging parents does not apply to my life and I would think many people find themselves in the same situation. The most serious problem with this talk is that this presenter never gave any practical advise as to how we as care givers can better take care of ourselves while taking care of everyone else. We already know that caring for our loved ones is a special experience that we should hold close to our hearts. Otherwise, we wouldn’t be here. Perhaps as a licensed psychologist myself combined with many years of care giving for multiple elderly loved ones, I should write and present MY OWN TED TALK; one that can actually benefit the care givers. Let’s face it, that’s why most of us clicked on here in the first place.

  • My mom told she feels like going on the road & dying. I told her that’s her choice as shes choosing it. Its not my fault what u choose to do with your life.. then she said fine then put off the light & let me sleep..:/
    Yea you can’t be rude or insulting to them. Being strict is ok.. ur rude they will never listen..

  • You live in stress 24/7 when you are caring for an elderly parent — especially when they are uncooperative. I live this. I love my Mom dearly. She is dependent on my wife and I to take care of her. This has been going on for the better part of 8 years now. She does nothing to help out the situation. She’s like a petulant child who eats stuff she’s not supposed to. She constantly does things that endanger her health and safety. Of course when things go sideways, she never means anything by it, but we are left to pick up the pieces. You are constantly on guard that the next crises will hit every time you get any period of calm. My wife and I have basically had no life because we don’t dare leave for vacation. Every time we try, the next crises hits.

  • Wonderful. So true! Hate the way all the medical providers treat elderly either like China or children and want to take their last year’s from them and lock them up in nursi g homes. There is a place for these homes but not 1 size fits all. Some elderly treasure their freedom and we should not steal it from them!!!

  • She has good information. But if you don’t take care of a parent(s) 24 hours a day, than you wouldn’t understand. I took care of my step-father for years, it will wear you out! I built a house and put an apartment on the side for my Mother, seems like she wants to control everyone’s life..smh…she is 85 years old and has always been this way..I have tried for 11 years to take care of her. Now I’m putting my house up for sale and getting an apartment, because I’m tired…and have the under eye bags and high blood pressure to prove it! She doesn’t want to live with my brothers or sister, but I can’t do this anymore. I would never want to live with my kids and depend on them to take care of me. It’s so overwhelming!

  • This video made me cry because now I realized why I am sometimes stressed taking care of my mom. Its because I am in denial that she is getting weak. This relieved my stress a little and helped me even understand my mother more…

  • I’m gonna rob a bank when I’m to old to care for myself.. I hear the federal prison has the better accommodation then the nursing facility

  • I feel silly posting because I’m 21 and everyone is dealing with so much more, I hope the stress is alleviated for y’all. My mom (51) and I care for my grandmother (85) and these ‘tips’ will not help with abusive eldersthey are determined to drain you of what life and time you have to spite your youth, and caregivers aren’t allowed to live. She will not let us leave the house, hardly even to work, and we have curfews even if the other caregiver is home. She doesn’t regard us with any affection, we are her stafflower than human, and to her we are only capable of incompetence. Dealing with this behavior for nine years, let alone my mother holding out for 50+, is absolutely unjust. Trying to get help is mountains after mountains, and we are guilt tripped and beraided for even asking to hire help so we can leave the house. No one should survive like this. I love my grandmother so, so much, but we are so brokenshe has made sure our lives are only for her.

  • Useless. You’re a PAID carer. It’s not written about, not because we’re afraid of age but because it’s taken for granted that women carevfor elders

  • I’m 23 years old. My mother died three years ago (yesterday would have been her 53rd birthday) and my dad will be 70 in December. I live with him and do things for him that he is no longer able to do especially with a recent blood clot incident that placed him in the er. But also i live with him because i understand how lonely he would be if he was in the home by himself as he misses my mom dearly. There are habits that he has that i wish he would stop but i know that it is not my place as the child to insist that he stop. My brothers and i make sure even with our own lives to have that quality time that we have with our dad before he is gone. We have learned that we do not have our parents for as long as we would prefer to have them since our mom passed at just 49 years old. My mother was diagnosed with late stage ovarian cancer and we all took care of her up until her final days when she was placed into hospice care and then passed less than 24 hours later

  • Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents، Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt nor repel them but address them in terms of honour.

    And out of kindness، lower to them the wing of humility and say، “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood،

  • It’s been a year since I quit my job and moved back home to care for my 79 year-old mom. I’m only 35… and I’ve gained more weight, I feel stuck sometimes. I feel like my life is on pause mode. I don’t get to meet my friends anymore. I haven’t been in a romantic relationship and cannot imagine meeting someone soon. My savings are dwindling… I wonder what will happen in the future. My siblings live in other countries and all have their own families to take care of. I love my mom, but we get into arguments sometimes. It gets really overwhelming to be alone in this journey.:(

  • at 38, and having been mangled by a truck vs bicycle accident and failing health, dealing with one of my elders seems an impossible mindfack invented to torture me. i can get frustrated but am able to just chuckle. repeating things is agonizing, and being blamed for their ideas is…agonizing. but at the end of the day, i go home and lock my door, dream of having friends. and take pleasure in the thought of a (veggie) burglar beating me to death with a shovel

  • I’m 30 and i gave up everything to take care of my dad with ALZ and my grandparents who raised me. This started 5 years ago. Both grandparents have passed, and my dad is still hanging on but going into a facility next month. I feel like my life is nonexistent and i’m beyond lonely.

  • This Ted Talk is not helpful at all, it only made me feel even worse about my situation. I am 33, my husband is 35. For 10 years he has been taking care of his mother, 68, after three strokes. His dad passed away 12 years ago. When I met my husband I knew about the situation, accepted it and have been helping him since we got married two years ago. At first it was easy, I remember she used to have a routine, she was still able to do sertain things like wheeling herself to the kitchen and preparing a sandwich. Over time, as she got used to me being around, she became more and more dependent. She just decided she was afraid of walking with a cane and that was it, she doesn’t do anything without us helping her and it hasn’t been easy at all. I even had to quit a job job that I loved and started working from home because it is easier if she needs me. My mother in law is not just physically dependent, but also tries to live life through us, or at least that is what I feel. If we want to do something she wants to do it too, if we say something she has an opinion about it, if we want to travel she wants to travel with us. We can’t even invite people over because she wants to be part of it too and sometimes it is just imposing and embarrassing.
    For me it is challenging because most people who go through this are a little older, have lived their lives, are more stable and my husband and I are still quite young and wanting to do things differently. She is also much younger than most “aging” seniors but she is just physically dependent. He has talked about taking her to a senior community but it just makes me feel guilty and like I am the problem, so I always say no. We want to do so much but we both feel trapped. We don’t even talk about having kids or not because this situation will only make it more difficult. I feel I need guidance and understanding and this video only made me feel even more guilty.

  • this whole comment section is complaining about dealing with abusive and toxic parents and how this video isn’t helpful. I would suggest to them to google or youtube something with the words:” Abusive and toxic parents.” This isn’t a clickbait video, this title literally says ONLY “Aging parents.”