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Sexual assault is any type of forced or coerced sexual contact or behavior that happens without consent. Consent is a clear “yes” to sexual activity. You know and understand what is going on and what you want to do, and you’re sober. It’s OK to consent and change your mind, even after sexual activity has started. Sexual assault is any type of sexual activity or contact that you do not consent to.

Sexual assault can happen through physical force or threats of force or if the attacker gave the victim drugs or alcohol as part of the assault. Sexual assault includes rape and sexual coercion. Rape is often considered the most severe form of sexual assault, is considered a crime in every state, and is punishable by one year to up to a lifetime in prison. States have differing statutes of limitations for sexual assault that is considered rape (penetration without consent or by use of force).

The sexual assault definition is as any sexual act that violates the victim’s sexual integrity. Sexual assault is non-consensual and does not depend on any specific part of the human body. A non-consensual sexual act is anything that lacks consent—or the. There are many different types of sexual assault.

Below is a list of the various acts that are considered sexual assault and abuse, as well as a short description of some of the most common types of assault. Sexual assault includes: Rape—sexual intercourse against a person’s will; Forcible sodomy—anal or oral sex against a person’s will. Sexual Assault: Definition Specific laws vary by state, but sexual assault generally refers to any crime in which the offender subjects the victim to sexual touching that is unwanted and offensive. These crimes can range from sexual groping or assault/battery, to attempted rape.

The statute states that sexual assault is defined as a person who commits a sexual act upon another person by: Threatening or placing the other person in fear Causing bodily harm to the person Making a fraudulent representation that the sexual act is for a professional purpose. Some workplace conduct is clearly sexual harassment—for example, unwanted kissing, touching of breasts or genitals, butt slapping, rape, other forms of sexual assault, requests for sexual favors, making sexually explicit comments, uninvited massages, sexually suggestive gestures, catcalls, ogling, or cornering someone in a tight space. What is considered sexual harassment at work? And how does it differ from non-sexual harassment? Sexual harassment in the workplace is a form of discrimination that includes any uninvited comments, conduct, or behavior regarding sex, gender, or sexual orientation.

Sexual Assault. Intentional sexual contact characterized by the use of force, threats, intimidation, or abuse of authority or when the victim does not or cannot consent.

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Definitions may vary from state to state, but sexual assault generally refers to any deliberate sexual contact to areas of the genitalia, anus, or mouth, or manual penetration of the victim’s body by way of force, threatened physical abuse, or abuse of authority or when the victim does not or cannot consent.

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The term sexual assault often refers to the entire continuum of criminal sexual behaviors, including completed or attempted unwanted sexual contact that may or may not include force, such as intentional grabbing or touching of the genitalia, anus, groin, breast, inner thigh, or buttocks.

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Sexual assault is a broader concept, defined as attempted or completed attacks that include unwanted sexual contact; it may include coercion or force, fondling, or verbal threats.

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Further, the presence of a weapon, two or more assailants, or incapacitation of the victim (whether unconscious, mentally disabled, drugged, etc.) constitute an “aggravated” sexual assault.

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[171] A sexual assault is a major sexual assault where the sexual assault is of a nature or character such that a reasonable person could foresee that it is likely to cause serious psychological or emotional harm, whether or not physical injury occurs.

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Sexual assault is generally defined as unwanted physical sexual contact that includes a range of behaviors from unwanted touching of a sexual nature to nonconsensual vaginal, anal, or oral penetration (rape).

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Statutes have created a new offense called sexual assault, defined in Texas as follows: “a person commits an offense if the person intentionally or knowingly caused the penetration of the anus or female sexual organ of another person who is not the spouse of the actor by any means, without that person’s consent.”

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Sexual assault Conduct of a sexual or indecent nature toward another person that is accompanied by actual or threatened physical force or that induces fear, shame, or mental suffering.

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Types of sexual assault include rape (sexual penetration), sexual assault (intentional touching of a sexual nature) and attempted or threatened rape or sexual assault (assault with intent to commit a sexual offence).

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Aggravated Sexual Assault Sexual assault, in most jurisdictions, is raised to the level of aggravated sexual assault if serious bodily injury results, a deadly weapon was used, or the victim was kidnapped.

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  • @AMAZE Org  how long in prison boy who 21 years old who rape or sexual assault girl who 21 years old in the UK should life in prison for sex crimes in UK

  • I was actually sexually assaulted by my older cousin this year in April and I’m sleeping over at his house on Saturday because I’m close with his sister and I’m scared of him

  • I’m here because I’m wondering if what happened to me counts as sexual assault. It happened when I was 9 or 10 but I forgot about it and randomly resurfaced when I was 19. I’m now 21.
    I don’t know. I feel like it’s something small, but everytime I think about it I feel disgusted and I wish it never happened. The memory always comes back when I’m in some of my lowest moods.

  • Thank you so much for saying that our body reacts. I was assaulted and I always feel guilty about it because of how my body reacted to the assault. Hearing two women talk about how our body reacts is very reassuring. “arousal does not equate consent!”

  • I was sexually assaulted from the age 4 or 5 to about 11 years old by a family member and every time I have sex Ed in school I already blow everything that they’re talking about and I’m honestly scared for my first time having sex because its traumatized me for life

  • so i get that sexual assault includes unwanted, invasive touching but what if the intent wasnt sexual? its still equally as painful and traumatic, but im not quite sure their intent was sexual

  • so…

    i was sexually assaulted by my 8 year old cousin. and I’m 12. i was way to scared to know what was happening. im so scared to tell someone. i don’t think anyone will believe me

  • I once got sexually assuted when i was 8 or 9 at the end i did’t know cuz i was that pure and could trust a stranger but now that im older i don’t know if he got caught since the next day he wasn’t there so he ran i guess now i know about this and i pretty much am more reserved and can defend myelf but i don’t know if it applies that im bi and ase sooo ya remember that if u get sexually assaulted tell someone you can trust even if they threathen u still tell someone they have no right to do that to u but i have a question doesn’t sexual assultment applies to pedos a lot?

  • This happened to me when I was around 8-9 (by my sister who was 3 years older than me) and I had to live about 12 years with her and just started remembering all the bad memories recently.

    I got mad at her one day and it came out, which obviously caused a whole situation.

    In the end one of my other siblings justified her actions by saying that she “didn’t get her period yet” or “didn’t know what she was doing” and I feel stupid for saying anything…

  • I had a friend who was toxic to me and other people but thank god I decided to end our friendship. In 9th grade, me and three other people, were playing around and my friend said something to me (wasn’t anything sexual I don’t think.) and then started to groped my genitals. I wasn’t comfortable with her doing it. I tried pushing her back but that didn’t stop her from doing it and after that I just gave up for some reason. After that, she went back to fooling around the other two. She only groped me for a few seconds and that was it. I didn’t really wanted her to do it and I was uncomfortable when she did it. I may sound stupid when I say this but I didn’t thought of it as being a sexual assault at the time. I didn’t thought it was till I thought about all the stupid stuff that I did after I ended our friendship.

  • I feel so heartbroken after hearing all of their stories… Especially the ones with the yellow outfitI just want to go give her a hug, I’m literally about to cry.

  • Is it sexual assault if your friend tried to carry you from behind but he grabbed ur chest area? After he did it I felt scared and he didn’t seem like he meant it but it was very akward and I was in shock.

  • What about if your parent or caregiver playfully hits your butt, but you can’t identify whether it’s sexual assault or not because it seems playful?

  • I’m always really worried that this can happen to my friend. That’s why I’m always with my friend,and when I’m not I always check her phone when I’m with her. I’m not mean I just don’t want this to happen to her

  • I love some of your videos but your first question to this interview is infuriating. “Were you asking for it?”, really? NO ONE would ask for it. NO ONE would want to be humiliated and violated in such an unforgiving way.

  • I feel bad for men who have been sexually assaulted. When a woman reports her case, The police actually do some thing. When a man reports his case, police laugh in his face.

  • Keep in mind:
    SEXUAL ASSAULT/RAPE HAPPENS TO ALL GENDERS.
    Even though the percentage of women/girls getting sexually assaulted/raped is higher than men/boys, that’s not an excuse to ignore the sexual assault/rape of men/boys.

  • I am looking for someone to talk to for advice on making a decision of whether or not to take my case to court. I was wanting to find a way to contact the lady in this video but I dont think her name was ever mentioned.

  • IMPORTANT THING: Men can be sexually assaulted too! If you are a man or boy, don’t be afraid to speak upit doesn’t make you any less manly.

  • When I was 10, I was sexually assaulted. It was horrible, I felt trapped, as if I couldn’t reach out to anyone, but I did reach out to the teacher. But she didn’t do anything. That made it worse, I eventually got depressed, and couldn’t live with what had happened to me. That’s why I’m writing this, to help kids who may be going through the same thing, I just want you to know your never alone and there’s people who you can talk to and understand you, if you still don’t feel confident I recommend kids helpline. Sexual assault isn’t a joke.

  • my assault and trauma resulted in me becoming a hypersexual person at a young age. it always made me wonder if it was invalid. i always thought that i had to be sex repulsed and disgusted but unfortunately i turned out like this. to this day i still wonder if everything was all in my head and it never happened since it was so long ago. i doubt my trauma’s validity often due to this.

  • I remember one time this guy kept trying to touch me down there and I kept pushing his hand away but he wouldn’t stop so I decided to be honest and said I’m not comfortable doing stuff like that and he said” Why did you get raped or something?” Completely caught me off guard so I was like well actually yeah I did. He then asked how so I told him the story and his exact words to me were “ You should really think about what you say because you can make OTHER people feel uncomfortable” then he raped me later that night all because I froze up once I realized omg he’s not listening to me It’s gonna happen again

  • I think we all need a friend like Sarah. I feel like kids especially middle schoolers or younger feel uncomfortable or distant with conversations like these. Im in middle school and every day I hear people mostly boys make jokes about rape and sexual assault and it just makes me feel very uncomfortable.

  • You cannot take back consent in North Carolina. It’s horrifying but true. You are giving false hope to North Carolinians with this video.

  • i’ll write my own answers to these questions

    1. were you drunk?
    no. during all 10 times it happened, i was sober. keep in mid these are 10 different assaults, all done within 7 years. i’m 15 by the way.

    2. what were you wearing?
    8/10 of the times i was wearing school uniform. i’m from a conservative school. my skirt in school is soooo long.

    3. men can’t be sexually assaulted.
    yes they can. i was assaulted by men and i’m a teen girl, but i have friends who have been assaulted by the same gender.

    4. why didn’t you fight?
    i was conscious the whole time. bear in mind these mostly happened in school, when i was 7 for the first time. i was afraid my assailant (schoolmate and sick old men) would kill me. i didn’t want to die.

    5. you must have wanted it a little bit
    NO. i would never wish this on anyone. that’s disgusting. I WAS 7.

    6. why didn’t you report it?
    i didn’t know it was wrong till i was 10. after that, i was too scared. i didn’t want to see my attackers in court or ever again. i’ve never told my parents. only my friends know.

    resulting from these experiences, i have depression and ptsd. please tell someone before it’s too late. you may be too scared to scream, but please know you are loved no matter what others say. i love you all.

  • I hate people who ask these things because I have been taken advantage of by several people, no I did not want it, I could not fight back I was a 5 year old and it continued until I was 13. I had several people say I was making it up

  • a female friend of mine was also sexually assaulted by her uncle.
    She was almost penetrated but luckily her mom got home on time.
    That’s what she stated to me.
    And she was only 5 that year.

  • The sincerity and helpfulness of this video almost had me in tears and I haven’t even been assaulted. I’m glad you and others like you are here in the world.

  • This was very informative, thank you!!

    In 8th grade a boy did something to me that I didn’t agree with, and I wasn’t sure if it was assault. Through this video I’ve learned it was

  • Someone said to me
    You must dress well in order to prevent the atmosphere for that when I didn’t even dress badly

    It made me feel bad and thought it was myself

  • When I was 8 or 9 my “friend” we were the same age. She said we were playing a game and made me take my pants down and started touching me and put her finger inside of me and she made me so the same thing to her as well. I blocked it out for 10 years but a few after she did that I still wanted to be her friend but one time I saw her with her friends and she was bullying me and her friends was laughing At me. Even after I still want to be her friend I was friends with her for 3 years and she would break my stuff and steal it. When I was 13 I was sexually abused by a boy the same age as me at the school desk I was supposed to help him with math and then I felt his hand on my legs and he rub me and touched me everywhere I got up and went in front of the teachers desk I wanted to tell her what happened but I didn’t so I grab a pen and sat back down next to him and he started to touch me again. When i got home I acted like I was fine. The next day mum woke me up for school I was scared so I told her. The police didn’t get involved cause me and him had autism and there was any cameras so he didn’t get in trouble only a person watched him for a week. He lied and said he he only touched my leg. The teachers said it was just puberty. The only thing that made me feel better was my blade to cut myself with. I’m 20 now and I’m still struggling with all these memories.

  • “You must have wanted it a little bit”
    Totally, I totally wanted to be groped by my abusive ex boyfriend after being told that I didnt want it about 3 times. Absolutely LOVED being guilt tripped into showing myself on call for him

  • If it happened at university/by another university student, you can also report to the title 9 office! It’s a non criminal investigation. (Being undocumented doesn’t mean you can’t file with the police) but this option is sometimes favored by undocumented students

  • This is so so hard and disgusting you had to struggle so hard to get justice And to try to prevent it from happening to anyone else! I’m so sorry. I’m so disgusted that if there isn’t physical evidence there isn’t Anything they can do to precede to prosecute the abusers! Omg please help survivors!

  • Adult: “Well, what were you wearing?”
    Me in highschool: “Besides the words stop and get off?”
    A: “You were probably wearing provocative clothing. So, what were you wearing?”
    M: “My primary school uniform trousers, shirt, and jumper…”
    A: ������

  • Where do people get the “You must have wanted it a little” logic from?
    Kinda makes me want to slap them and say “You must have wanted to be slapped, at least a little. Else why did it happen to you?”

  • Something I hide from my parents. Ive never talked about my brothers sexually assaulted me a couple times when he was drunk. He was my big brother. A lot bigger. I couldn’t fight. I was 10. He was 14. I didn’t like it. I still feel disgusted by it. And I have ptsd so next thing you know since I’m trans and wore tight jeans was bending over to pick up stuff from my locker. The guy who was known for sexual harassment groped me and I had a flashback. Fight or flight kicked in and I couldn’t control my movement. I just kicked my foot back right into the crotch section. I got a suspension. The boy got a detention…

  • “Why didn’t you fight?”

    It was my brother. I trusted him at the time, I was 12.

    I didn’t even think about reporting it until he threatened to do it a second time the very next day when i tried to ask why.

    After his threat I fled the room and told my parents. At the time they didn’t know who to believe. My brother claiming “it was probably just a dream.”

    Even now years later, i have this sense of fear around him, and i get anxious around older men.

  • Attention seeker?……… Seriously people need to grow up they’re not the victim, grow up, we are. Proofs? We couldn’t record. Court? We wouldn’t have enough proof or like me I was tricked to give out consent.

  • I know I’m late, but my favorite had been (TW) “oh what’s your problem I’m not just somebody whose trying to r*pe you” as he then assaulted me

  • I’m so very sorry this happened to you. Sadly, your case sounds like so many others and as you stated, most perpetrators do not spend any time behind bars. You are brave and strong for sharing. Thank-you! ❤️

  • “Why didn’t you fight back?”

    After some unsuccessful attempts to block and me momentarily freezing once it started, I denied that this horror was happening by falling in love with my abuser and convincing myself that the person has a right over my body. I didn’t realize the truth and gravity of what happened until I spoke with a therapist 1.5 years after the incident.

  • Thank you so much for making this video so people can be more thoughtful ������

    “Why didn’t you fight”… That one was hard bc I was sleeping and I was 12…

  • The way I see it. Due to the assumption of innocent until proven guilty courts and police must stay neutral. But if you are a outside party and especially if you are close to the person. Just believe them. You aren’t a lawyer or a judge. Your job isn’t to investigate the case leave that to the police. Just be there to support your loved ones. And even if you are a police officer and you technically have to stay neutral don’t act mistrusting and like you don’t believe them. besides the obvious part about being a good person the more you seem open and believing the more the possible victim is going to open up and share facts that can help to catch the guilty.

  • I was sexually assaulted last year by one of my best friends… I was only 8. Now I plan on telling my friend’s mom about it and talk it out. If my parents don’t agree to that then I don’t know what to do. I talked to the principal of our school last month and we talked it out. My assaulter walked in and said she was simply “trying to get my phone” to call home when she obviously WASNT. She called it a joke at first then she said she was trying to get my phone. She’s lying and trying to avoid getting in trouble. I feel she should be punished for it but I don’t know what to do… everyone is saying/implying that I can’t get help because nobody cares about it. I just really need advice right now… if anybody has any advice please don’t be scared to tell me.

  • Wasn’t this very difficult to tell at first and I think these people should not be there saying those things unless these are fake people and if not there could be many out there that don’t want to say it that feel not or offended by them speaking to them about stuff that are like this

  • There was this girl that told her story how a old man harrassed her multiple times and said that she doesn’t feel comfortable around old men anymore because she’s obviously traumatized and then a girls said like ” but old people are so nice how can you say that” YOU CAN JUST SAY THAT that’s so insensitive and stupid to say.

  • This is such a great video to watch whether you are experiencing it, experienced it or know anyone who did. My bestfriend had just told me she is being sexually harassed/assaulted by her friend’s older brother and I want to help her anyway can. Also, if you see this comment and you have experienced it or know someone, can you give me advice on how to help her. And for all of you that experienced it, I want you to know that whatever happened was NEVER you’re fault, you are certainly a brave person and hope you doing fine. ❤❤❤����

  • So sad that people do this I hope these guys and girls are ok they are all great people with nice fashion so I hope they have a great life ������

  • The idiotic questions pple ask is one thing but the attitude they ask them with makes me dumbfounded. When clueless pple ask why we don’t speak abt it, it’s because we really don’t have the patience to answer such questions. What’s the point of telling ignorant pple and asking them to take our pov, when the first thing these ignorant pple do is judge just as we breathe.

  • Thank you for raising awareness. I got told most of this when it happened to me in middle school (still am in middle school) and I was severely bullied.

  • “Did it feel good though?”
    “You must’ve wanted it.”
    “What were you wearing?”
    “Were you drunk?”
    “Why didn’t you fight back?”
    Honestly, the audacity of people sometimes. I haven’t been assaulted and I’m so sorry for any man, woman, and child that has been.

    If someone I knew was getting attacked by these questions, I would’ve lost my temper and just shouted:

    “Well, I don’t know! Why don’t you try to put yourself in the situation where a person is forcing themselves on and into you!”

    I’d probably curse too, just, people don’t understand unless they’ve experienced it as well.

  • I was sexually assaulted. But I wasn’t raped. He didn’t put his…. in me. He molested me. By law here it’s considered rape. But I’ve had people tell me that at least I wasn’t raped….. wtf! I’m scared for life. I have sever PTSD now. He was a man in his 70s and I was 18! I did report it. When the police talked to him he said “She’s 18 she said it was okay.” And he got away with it! Why? Because I was homeless so I must have wanted it. Hell no! Im terrified of him. It’s been 13 years but I still am afraid of him. Especially since his intent was rape. And I don’t know why he stopped. So I’m fu*ked up looking over my shoulder thinking he’s going to come back and finish what he started! So scary

  • I tried talking to my camp leader about it since one of the leaders in training was asking me to suck his…. So I told her that but instead of doing anything she yelled at me for saying penis and punished me for saying that word. I don’t think anything was done about even now.

  • never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never never
    Say “did you enjoy it?”

  • My sex life was Robbed before I ever had one by my mom’s pedophile boyfriend congratulations destroyed any needs or desires sexual needs at all ect stuff go’s

    Tell tell 3yrs ago I mange to get my groove back for the needs an want for sex again.! I’m slowly getting back into sex it took a while before hand sex to me was gross and disgusting I could not enjoy sexually related things because his disgusting gross ass took that away from me.. Looking at a penis was a deal breaker I would cover my eyes I didn’t wanna see naked people mating naturally weather it be porn or movie or in picks it was that bad

    I blocked from my life that was supposed to be the best time of my life turn out to be the worst time of my life I was traumatized as a child. Worse time for wanting

    To live like I ain’t shit just let me die already I’ve already had my pure innocence joy stolen from me let me go doing the time before anyone known that I was a RAPED VICTIM OF SHITTY PROBLEMS

    My big sister suggestion me to watch some porn I was not in to she didn’t know the dark secret why I didn’t care for anything sexually related. I didn’t but now that I’ve manga to try an tell to open up to some people sad part is my niece knows I don’t know how but she does I’m surprise she didn’t spell like milk she has a biggg mouth ive manga to get closure to my life step, closer to getting out it’s over along time ago but you never forget cuz it will always be there all you can do is move on
    he never got charged prosecuted or put in jail tf first person I told before anyone was my mom I was 18 the friction started the hate bashing jealousy etc you can name she didn’t even bat an eye when I said I was afraid!!!!!!! I got courage HUGE TO TELL HER IN A WAY THAT I KNOW HOW * she just looked at me stupid with confusion. And none Shalunt attitude like I don’t care if he raped you at 13 I’m going to stay with him regards no ones going to take him away from me I don’t give a damn if you’re my daughter deal with it grow up and move tf on the whole attitude I got no she didn’t tell me that I scene’s in her she didn’t even half to that morning she ask me did he cum? I said no I went on to school that was that. She never get me checked out to see anything like it never happened turned the other cheek she turned against me HOW YOU GO TURN YOUR OWN BACK ON YOUR BLOOD I’M YOUR DAUGHTER YOU BETRAYED ME TO STAY STAND STILL WITH A PEDOPHILE THAT CAME ON TO YOUR LITTLE 13 YR OLD GIRL DAUGHTER YOUR JUST AS DISGUSTING AS HE IS SICK FREAK!!!!!!!! ������������������������ boom you wanna disown me fine you can kiss my ass out of your life if I ever get right by gods grace* you will never see me again

    This was my discomfort pain to sex anything related, etc I promise to God I would start back to going to church change my life I’d stop believing the devil I come off of darkness edge an get right again an control my anger and bitter hatred towards my mom I was very depressed teenager in my life early adult hood. And suicidal I still am 0% courage an balls to go through its all good I have a long way to go..

  • “Why didn’t you fight”

    Because I was naive and I thought they were just playing with me����

    (I did at one point try to kinda fight them off tho)

  • I am so sorry you suffered I was sexually assaulted as a child n abused physically my whole life as a kid. I told the police n a teacher when i was a kid… no one helped me the cops told my dad what i said n he almost killed me as i swallowed my own blood i never told again.

  • It’s hard. There are some close friends who wanted to try to understand me, but they just don’t get it, especially it came to a point that I need to explain in details, it makes me feel that I need to “go through” it again, it’s tiring, it also felt very disrespectful when they started to say things like “maybe it’s not like that”. Worst part is there are some people will compare other’s sexual assault to yours and say yours aren’t that bad. Anything like this, should not happen, it’s wrong.

  • I recently had a vivid dream where I got sexually assaulted and it was traumatizing. I know it sounds stupid because it was just a dream but I remember it so clearly. My heart goes out to all girls who are sexually assaulted and hope they recover. Please speak up about it. <3

  • What the hell ever. I understand that there are women that truly have been violated but having a pig ouch your butt or boob or making rude comments is not a life altering event. Sorry, I only feel bad for women whole were literally raped or forced to do sexual acts. I do NOT feel sorry for women that had a choice and CHOSE to ignore all of the red flags and warning signs. Red Flag #1….. If there’s alcohol involved, it doesn’t make it right, but the risk of it happening increase. Red Flag #2….. If you think the person is a creep, don’t get separated from the herd. and… aside from that, most women are getting all dolled up with the entire idea of being seen, noticed and desired or else you’d all go to events dressed like a guy. Yes… it’s bait…fishing for the most successful guy, in your league, that shows promise of a decent lifestyle. It works in reverse too. I’ve had many women casually walk by in a bar and sneak a feel. I think she’s a cheap little (wh)…ore but I’m certainly not offended or feel the need to “talk about it”. Actually, she could have given me oral sex against my will and I still wouldn’t have been offended. If I HAD been offended, or if all dudes got so easily offended, half of you women would be unemployed, face plastered in the newspapers, registered as sex offenders and your lives would essentially be over. Bit of a double standard here, Ladies. I would say that women should stop with the prostitutes costumes and remedy most of the problem all by themselves. If it looks like a ho, dresses like a ho, talks like a ho, flirts like a ho, smells like a ho, hair like a ho, fingernails like a ho, makeup like a ho and acts like a ho……. logic must prevail.

  • It’s an instinct to play dead when danger arises that explains in some cases why people can’t fight back. The brain sees the rapist as a predator that wants to eat you and your body goes into lockdown, all the while you’re still awake

  • Why didnt I report it, because the first person, everyone loved, was the captain of the new cadet drill team in a school that holds jrotc in a really high light, and the second person was a dude, with medical problems and people sided with him because they thought he was vulnerable.

  • Hotlines won’t just leave it at a conversation. People don’t realize that ‘confidential’ doesn’t mean that it goes no further than the conversation it just means that they won’t publish it in the newspaper. ‘Confidential’ hotlines whether it be ‘Kids Help Line” or suicide hotlines, or drug hotlines, or assault hotlines etc always get the authorities involved. There is nothing confidential about them.

  • Im just in the comments to:
    say its stupid NO
    reply in mean ways NO
    respecting different people like transformers and thinking its cool being like that YES

  • Ladies, I see your point! You should be able to walk downtown at midnight, by yourself, wearing nothing but a thong bikini, without incident.
    Sucks that we live on the planet Earth, not the planet Should, don’t it?

  • I was five when I was raped. I was literally in Kindergarten and the lawyer apposing me was so aggressive that the judge had to step in.

  • The first person and third person… That’s my story.. the person I opened up to about my trauma..put me in the same situation again.

  • It was in middle school and the teacher was there and didn’t do anything and she saw. The first thing I got asked “why didn’t you do anything?” I was in sleep paralysis I couldn’t do shit.

  • Have you considered having a video talking about Military Sexual Assault? I don’t think I know a female veteran who doesn’t have a story. The process is terrifying and I was threatened with discharge if I didn’t make a statement regarding the assault of my roommate who did not want to report. We were later forced through a terrible court process that was entirely victim blaming and quickly disregarded due to “lack of evidence” even with a recorded confession. I guess I just think you’re a really great voice for those who have been hurt and most of us can’t come forward.

  • The “why do you talk about it” question seems valid imo. I mean if I went through something as traumatic as SA then I 100% wouldn’t ever bring it up, but then you see others talking about it. It’s more like a “oh I’m curious” than a derogatory question imo.

  • Women who show less skim are more likely to be targeted by predators. The assumption is that they’re not confident and will be too scared to fight back/report them. Literally no point in asking what they were wearing.

  • it was my uncle who assaulted me in 6th grade by touching my private part when i was sleeping and it was a stranger in a street who assaulted me by touching my private part in a crowd, people still tells me its not something to worry about and was my fault in some way? even my momma is like why didnt you tell me? dude i couldn’t even figure that out that something like that happened to me. how am i supposed to explain that?

  • We have to balance the argument because there are cases where women cry rape and drag the man through hell this should not happen to any person and the truth about be found regardless of who committed the offence be it male or female any one who makes a false accusation should face the same sentence as the person would of gotten if they had committed the offence

  • If you or anyone you know needs help, you may reach out for support:

    Sexual Assault Care Centre
    6779 0282 (Mon-Fri, 10am-10pm)
    sacc.aware.org.sg

    Oogachaga
    6226 2002 (Tue, Wed, Thu: 7pm-10pm; Sat: 2pm-5pm)
    Oogachaga.com

    #AimForZeroSG

  • Honnestly, I did not know that my boyfriend didnt want to do intercourse and stuff, but his body was responding positively, but he said nothing and just… followed the flow and then in the middle of the act he started to cry. He said he didnt want to. I felt a wave of guilt and disgust. I excused myself so much and now we are really communicating verbally if we want or not. Communication is important in a relationship… please please PLEASE ASK THEM IF THEY ARE REALLY INTO IT. DO NOT DO MY MISTAKE. ����⚠️

  • I was a 19 year old worker at a chain restaurant and saw a boss form another restaurant that I thought was friendly and relatively attractive for his age, around 10 years older than me. but when I started working under him, I realized fast that he liked younger ladies. said my butt looked good which made me self conscious of standing at the cashier affecting work, purposely squeezed next to me in a tight space which also made me uncomfortable when he’s around, and the straw that broke the camels back when I reached down to get something he kissed and sniffed my hand. I think that was like the okay this is making me really uncomfortable so I wanted to leave. but that wasn’t the only reason, tbh I shouldnt feel it since I think he did it to other girls as well, but I was flattered and sometimes even liked that he would compliment me or squeeze next to me. I think he got rather impatient overtime cos I wasn’t as efficient worker as others, so part of the reason I left was because he became less patient and more hostile. I also dropped a second hot bowl of soup on a customer. so I think I could have been easily sued even jailed for that due to me being weak / clumsy. so I understand where he was coming from, and the restaurant had to cover their the least to say inconvenience but I’m sure I had a hefty pay deduction.
    so I would think my accidental crimes were worse than his professional misconducts.

    if a girl / boy directly rejects advances tho whether through message or whatevr, a co worker especially a boss should be professional and stop so there’s no uncomfortableness or any further legal actions to take place. but of course a requirement to maybe his superior or hr so there’s threat of if he doesn’t stop what is making uncomfortable he would lose his job.

  • Nobody believed you when the Predator is had a Mask (be a kind Face but the trully is he is so rude)
    Crying and say the god will make karma is just make you little a bit more calm

  • I feel so angry for them. Being raped isn’t something you should be embarrassed, repressed, or normalized. It isn’t a se.xy thing to imagine. It’sgod. I can’t even believe that people are so disgusting.

    Edit: I just remembered that many people don’t think that a woman forcing a man, boy, or of any age to have sex with them isn’t rape. That’s just…

  • I think parents and teachers don’t just teach kids to protect themselves so they won’t be victim but rather teach them not to be the aggressors. It is so hard to live in a place where you don’t feel safe because you know most of the people blame the victim than the person who did the crime

  • Do not protect your abuser.
    I’ll say it again:
    DO NOT PROTECT YOUR ABUSER

    Because they won’t protect you, they’re just protecting themselves if they tell you not to tell anyone.

  • Okay, so I am not sure if this is called sexual assault or anything that is related to the word ‘rape’.
    When I was in kindergarten, I think I was 5yrs old that time(not too sure since it is a long time ago), my mom’s a teacher and she had to go to school that day. I was left at home, she called my cousin(male, 17yrs old) to babysit me. He was on his laptop, I got bored so I asked him, “Can you please play with me? I am bored.” And he answered something like, “Do you really want to play with me?” I guess he is hinting on something but me being naive did not understand it, instead I just nod my head. Then, he told me to lie down on the couch and asked me to close my eyes. I did as he told me. He pulled down my pants and start licking my pubic part. I immediately opened my eyes but he told me to closed them back. I asked him to stop. I didn’t remember what happen after that(like I said, it is 7 to 8 years ago and I was too small).I only remember that we did not have sex, he did not put his member inside me, which is a great relief to me now. ‘It’ happen in the morning, it take me a few hours to process the situation/incident, I only just came to realise that what he did is wrong(about the licking-pubic-part-thingy). When my mom came home, I just straight forward told her, “Mom, (cousin name) licked my pubic part this morning. My mom just stared at me with anger and confused emotions in her eyes, she told me to repeat it again. After that she has a serious talk with my cousin, I don’t know if she told his parents about ‘it’. All I know is I just got licked, on the pubic part that time. And now we never talked about it, I just pretend it never happened in front of the adults, and my mom seems unbothered now, even joking around with the cousin on our family gathering every Sunday. I don’t know if she is putting on an act. That cousin, he sometimes will spare a glance at me when I am on my phone or at the dining table. I think he is harmless for now. Last time he tried to get a glance on my phone when I am on it, I just gave hime a killing glare (I made the glare seem harmles to the adults but deadly to him) and warn him to give me privacy, he backed off immediately. And that is it, end of story.

    Guys, I don’t know if I make it sounded like I am just making a story but this really happened. I have just shared my biggest secret that not even my friends, classmates or teachers know about. Everyone have flaws just like me, people said they are envious of me being excellent in academics but they never know the pain, uncomfortableness, insecurity and every negative emotions that are hidden behind the smiling face. Thinking back now, looking through my memories, my experience, I really want to asked my mother “What really happened?” Did she talked it out with his parents? Did he lied to her, denying he didn’t do it and she actually believed it? I never know, I don’t have the courage to ask her, bacuse I am scared, scared that she might blame me for giving him the permission to touch my body and scared that she might even back him up. I shared this story with you guys to ask for opinions, as I, myself don’t know what I should do with it. Should I just move on and pretend it never happened or talk about it again and talk with my mom?

    P.S:Guys, I am sorry that this comment is so long and I might have a lot of grammar mistakes in it. I just want to hear others opinions on this ‘thing’ I experienced. Please don’t hate on me.

  • Honestly I used to be one of those ignorant people who would wonder “why didn’t they say anything”?�� cause I had never met anyone who actually went through that ����‍♀️
    But then when my sister came forward about being sexually harassed when she was 13 years ago by an older guy I didn’t know what to do ��
    I remember just crying and asking God why did that had to happened to her, cause she was always the quiet one and more of the smart and basically the perfect child��
    Well I guess that’s what I thought but in reality I didn’t know what she was going through.
    She has to be one of the most kindest person I know �� this also helps me understand why my parents are so careful and worried about me��
    it makes me so sad and angry that so many people get sexually assaulted��
    I hope anyone who’s been through something like that stay strong

  • I am especially uncomfortable with talking about this because it happened to a friend in church. she doesn’t know i know yet and im working on getting the proof. This guy could possibly be put in jail as a sex offender. I know I shouldn’t do this without an adult, but it feels better that way.

  • Thank you for this. I found this video comforting in a sense that it opens the eyes of the public about sexual violence. There are words that we can’t say. There are situations we can’t change. But what can we do is to make people understand what and how sexual assault/violence really is. I hope the people who watched, watches and will be watching this will get the message of this conversations. And to each person who brave the storm to speak about what they’ve been through, I hope I could muster the same courage as you do. And thank you so much. Keep safe everyone

  • Its worst when i told my parents about being sexually assaulted by my uncle and they said that he was only showing his love for me…i mean how a 17 years old would not know the differences between love and harassment

  • Nobody should live with sexual assault. No matter what orientation you have. No matter what your age was. No matter where you come from. It should not happen and the attention should be on the agressor and how to prevent sexual abuse all around…

  • “Why didn’t you fight?”

    Idk, the whole time he was pointing a gun at my head, I don’t think trying to fight would have been a good idea lmao.

  • Guys I need help my sister got sexual assaulted yesterday but the thing is our parents dont believe her and she is too scared to go to the police what should I do! Please comment telling me what to do

  • Im am truly glad they included the man because of course many people don’t acknowledge men as being victims but also because he discussed a topic that I feel has recently been added to the conversation.

  • Not having the same sexdrive in a couple can lead to sexual abuse. It does not mean that encouraging strongly your partner into wanting to do it is a consent. Dont do my mistake. The guilt is heavy. Communication is awfully important

  • When i was around 7 someone touched me i didnt cry or anything because i was shocked my mind went blank but i was able to stop him before the sitition got worse after that i never spoke of it i didnt tell anyone because i was scared and i didnt know what to do and i tried to forget about it until recently it started to effect me i guess thats why im always so concious of my surroundings

  • I personally felt really emotional when Devika talked about how by reason of her very early sexual violence experience, she felt like she was introduced to the pleasures of the physical body way before she was supposed to naturally. I have never previously heard someone saying that out loud. This means a lot to me since I am also a sexual violence survivor and I was 6-7yrs at the time, and I had grown more curious about physical pleasure at a rather young age due to this, and till date I always felt like it was something wrong with me, and that I was a young dirty child.This combined with my Indian family was been super hard, because we’re told that doing anything related to sex is dirty and makes you a bad girl. I had never correlated it to my sexual violence episode. Thank you for finally making me feel better about my younger self Devika. I’m 19 now and have finally achieved some closure.

  • It’s so hard for me I struggle with this I have four brothers and I get sexually assaulted every single day I can’t come clean it’s really hard to type this right now but for anyone else going through this like me stay strong.

  • It is very painful for me to watch this video. After someone abuses your body you only wish gruesome death to all rapist & child molesters. I can’t even watch commercials about sexual abuse.

  • Dr. Doe, Have you seen the documentary movie “The Hunting Ground” about sexual assault on college campuses? I found it very disturbing that women (and men) are not always safe from attacks and the colleges and universities many times side with the perpetrators (especially if they are star athletes). I would like to know your thoughts on this film.

  • i have been sexual assaulted for 2 years by my uncle…. i hated him
    he made me think that it was my fault….
    he had caused me Androphobia a fear of mens i cant take it.. i always had a mental breakdown
    edit:pls dont judge me

  • The worst thing for me is that people dont believe the victims, people dont care about them and the victims themselves didnt report to the police because they thought it is gonna get worse and they are not going to believe them or that they might even blame them for asking gor it, etc!!!Like, not even the police is trustworthy anymore.

  • They are all so eloquent about their journeys in processing and dealing with sexual violence, I hate that they went through what they did, but seeing how they are able to speak, educate and increase awareness about it now, speaks volumes about their healing and compassion for others to want to publicly share in their vulnerability. I have nothing but respect for them, and I hope things only become better for all who suffer in the same way. Much love guys.