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What Happens When You Want to Have Sex, But It Hurts? For many women, sex can become painful and difficult around menopause. While the symptoms of estrogen loss can be distressing, they can almost always be treated. “Pain during sex not only ruins the moment, it can have much greater consequences: fear of sex, lowered sex drive, and overall loss of intimacy,” says Debra Herbenick, PhD, a professor.

The easiest fix to treat painful sex is the use of a lubricant. Use a few drops for you and have your partner rub a few drops all over themselves so you both are ready to go. What Happens to Relationships When Sex Hurts Women who suffer from the chronic-pain condition vulvodynia often feel isolated from their partners. But a better medical understanding is helping. If you get pain during or after sex, your body may be trying to tell you something is wrong, so don’t ignore it.

See your GP or go to a sexual health (genitourinary medicine, or GUM) clinic. You may find talking about sex embarrassing, but remember that doctors are used to dealing with problems like this. Pain during sex can affect both men and women. First thing’s first: Not having sex doesn’t mean you’re broken. It can be a choice, a change of life, or loss of interest, and that’s perfectly fine.

Here’s what you need to know about. If you have pain in your penis or genitals during sex, it could be a sign that something’s wrong. Go to a nurse, doctor, or your local Planned Parenthood health center to get checked out. Anal sex may hurt the first time (and every time) if you don’t use lube. If you want to have sex but feel anxious about it, plan to do it in a place you find comfortable. An unfamiliar or uncomfortable location could make it hard to focus on what’s going on and enjoy what’s happening.

Foreplay. Anxiety about the first time you have sex is pretty common. However, foreplay may help reduce your anxious feelings. I really want to have sex for the first time.

But I am only thirteen. I know vaguely what to do and I know to use protection. But I was talking to my 17-year-old cousin (who has had sex before) if it hurt his girlfriend the first time.

And he had said that she was screaming and she felt as if she wanted to die. If the stomach distress persists yet you still want to hit the sheets, the right sex position is key. “Sex can be tricky when you’re feeling bloated and gassy,” says Dr. Chutkan.

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When you do have sex, it may be painful due to an episiotomy, tenderness, or lack of vaginal lubrication (caused by hormonal changes, particularly in nursing women).

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Painful Intercourse In women, painful intercourse can be caused by vaginal infections, insufficient vaginal lubrication before intercourse (usually the result of not being sufficiently sexually aroused), and anxietyproduced spasms of the muscles surrounding the vagina, which makes vaginal penetration painful.

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A variety of physical conditions can cause pain during intercourse (dyspareunia) and result in vaginismus.

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If intercourse continues then the lack of lubrication worsens the pain.

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Painful intercourse is also called dyspareunia or coital pain.

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Dyspareunia (painful intercourse) can occur because the vagina becomes smaller, the vaginal walls become thinner and drier, and lubrication during sexual stimulation takes longer.

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The pain is real and makes intercourse unpleasantorunbearable.

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I have heard that losing your virginity hurts but it can’t be that bad.

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Some women find sexual intercourse painful for several months after

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The pain is most likely due to intense friction, alleviated by lubrication.

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  • I loved her documentary, why? Because it shows a side of her that kind of explains who she is, her multiple selves, her hardworking, and how tough she is with the guys who are not supportive of her work. The director is great, picked up all the right elements.

  • Im 30 and im still a virgin..im so scared of the pain because before and my ex bf tried it and it so much pain even its not come inside and i stop from it and never continue everytime me and my bf try it i always scared becoaude i remembered the pain i felt before.. i have trauma or phobia now.. help me i want to give this to my bf now.

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  • When I have sexual intercourse it feels impossible for it to go in even when I’m aroused enough. It feels like a stinging sensation. I did have an abortion but it’s been like it before but I don’t know if it made it worse.
    My partners penis is very wide and I’m not so I wasn’t sure if it was even that. I have no idea what this is and it upsets me so much�� I’m also on the pill but I’m not sure if that’s it?

  • I had a friend with similar experiences (myself included) where so many doctors in the UK just DON’T listen to you and fob you off with paracetamol because they don’t have the knowledge or maybe even empathy to take things further for women and gyno difficulties. It turned out after so many different symptoms and tons of pain that my friend had endometriosis and I was diagnosed with PCOS (years and years later when I already had a feeling it was deep down). Amen to this woman and everything she has been through, I know it’s expensive to have these things done but this is why we pay taxes and even pay some things for the NHS because we know our bodies and know there’s something wrong so we have to push for these scans and surgeries because we will suffer otherwise.. I hope every one out there finds a good doctor that listens and takes them seriously and helps them in the best way they can.�� P.s sorry to come off so mad and preachy but I’m really done with the mistreatment of so many women because of doctors like this.

    And on the flip side her husband sounds so lovely and supportive, I hope we all have someone like this in our life’s, if not now then soon��♥️

  • Amazing how you put your words out there, so well composed, but still manage to be yourself & make everything comfortable. Thank you for this very informative VIDEO GIRL, a lot can benefit from it ❤️

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  • Virgin or not virgin who cares if u are? Their is nothing wrong with being both of them,u can still feel pleasure even if your a virgin,experience things��.

  • I’m honestly surprised Shallon didn’t mention how Paris’s trauma seemed to have ‘stuck’ her at the age she was traumatized. Does anyone else notice how Paris owns / wears certain things a preteen would? Or how some of her hobbies are similar to a young girl’s?

  • I’m a 21 year old virgin and i have so many questions and concerns i have about losing my virginity
    Will i be wet enough?
    Will he fit in me?
    Will i achieve a orgasm the first time?
    Will it hurt?��
    I have so many things i am concerned about and wondering what i should do.��

  • instead of being scared, know your body. is your period okay? i mean is it happen regularly? or is it painful like extreme cramp on your womb? if yes please meet the doctor bcs that’s a symptom. if not, never scared of having sex. yes it’s painful for some people who has lower pain tolerance, but what if you’re a strong woman? im not convincing anyone to do sex, but im convincing everyone to not be scared of something that might not happen to them. be aware of your body and always to do safe sex.

  • Watched the documentary as soon as it hit available today. Took me the whole day with quarantine, family and WORK to get through it but I loved it!! Keep em’ coming, Shallon. �� Good stuff

  • I am so happy today. I was diagnosed with Herpes simplex virus 1 & 2 seven years ago I lived in pain with the knowledge that I wasn’t going to ever be well again because my family Doctors and dermatology told me that there was no cure, but I needed to be normal and get my life back. I contacted so many herbal doctors on this issue and wasted a large sum of money but my condition never got better I was determined to get my life back so one day I saw Mrs. Carol’s post on youtube under a video titled “How to get rid of Herpes virus Fast”. and how Dr.Aloha saved Her from HSV2 with herbal medicine I contacted Dr.Aloha through his email: [email protected]@t we spoke on the issue I told him all that I went through and he told me not to worry that everything will be fine again and that he will help me. so he prepared the medicine and sent it to me through UPS courier delivery service with instructions on how to use it, after 14 days of usage I went to see the doctor for a test, the results came out Herpes 1&2 negative, I am so thankful now. this testimony is real.thanks to Dr. Aloha God bless you. you can also call/text: +1(202) 871-3222

  • I think communication DURING your first time (and even times after) is really important. Communicating that something hurts or that you want to stop is important and COMPLETELY OK. I’m in a relationship and my partner was so incredibly understanding and gentle so I felt safe saying that something hurt or for us to take a couple seconds. If you don’t feel safe with the person you are taking to bed, don’t take them to bed. Your safety is the number one priority.

  • So far none of these happened to me during or after sex…but however my balls did got infected..lol had very dirty unclean sex I guess.this girl..mmmmm was unclean down there..lol. Guys don’t go through it..your balls are so like a rock when infected..have safe sex guys..

  • its funny how you’re the same age as Paris yet looks 20 and u literally look 50. its the narcissism in u that’s rotting u alive or jealousy who knows

  • The main difference between the rich and the poor is that the rich KNOW that $ can not buy happiness. She has “everything” but yet has nothing. I feel sorry for Paris Hilton after watching her Documentary. She seems broken DEEP down inside. Both of her parents are HUGE narcissists. No wonder Paris feels she can not trust. No wonder she likes having pets, she was treated like one by her parents. Mom justifies abandoning her at those “Emotional Growth” schools and even pats herself on the back by claiming it was good(?!?!?) for her.
    Unfortunately, I know this scenario all too well myself. My step mother and her family are rich and the same stuff like Paris has played out similarly in my half siblings. They live unfulfilled lives with constant self indulgencies and they are empty, distrusting, and miserable people. I guess the best way to explain it is it is like gravity. It is good and people need it to be strong and healthy. When astronauts go into space for prolong periods of time they get weak because their bodies do not have to work as hard as on Earth. Being independently wealthy is like antigravity. People need resistance in life to be happy.

  • Losing virginity without pain is a myth, since tearing the hymen cannot be prevented. Whatever amount of lube you use, it will not prevent the hymen from tearing, because the opening above/in the hymen is nowhere near large enough the let the penis fit in. The hymen is not flexible enough to endure such huge stretching without getting ripped.
    The fact that the hymen has an opening does not make ripping it less painful. It’s NOT true that the hymen has no nerve endings. The hymen is rich in nerve endings and often also in blood vessels.
    Non-penetrative activities such as sports or horse riding can NEVER tear the hymen because the hymen is 1 to 2 cm inside the vagina, so it takes a real penetration to tear the hymen. No sport involves vaginal penetration, so the hymen CANNOT get torn just because of any sport activities.
    Tearing the hymen causes excruciating pain, since it’s tearing a living tissue with no numbing. It feels like getting operated on without anesthesia.

  • I love your videos. I just wish you would slow down your speaking speed. Personally, it’s a lot of information to receive at such a high speed. Thank you for your work!

  • It’s not fun to suffer from PE, however it is something that can be easily taken care of as long as you’re doing the proper things. Just maybe try something such as what’s pointed out in Greyzar Drinbo’s website (googl him), plenty of men have used it to become dominant for at least thirty minutes in action.

  • I know you made this video a long time ago and I don’t know if you can see this comment. but your video has helped me not to worry until I come to have my first sex

  • Shallon
    Thank you for being unapologetically you. Thank you for being as brave as you are to speak freely under the microscope of critics. Your videos genuinely make my life better.

  • The dialing down your empathy is CRUCIAL ladies!!! Seriously….it will change your life. You have to stop, that’s where so many women’s misery truly lies.

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  • This is why I dont rush and I’m glad. Learning is way better then not knowing anything at all and then your hurt your self thus losing your virginity just ruins that fun moment you thought it was going to be.

  • Virgins out there DO IT WITH THE RIGHT PERSON and DO NOT do it from peer pressure from your friends or others around you.There is not a timer to loose your virginity, YOUR body YOUR rules❤️

  • I was watching rugby and this came on my feed. Wtf so I guess the pain of being tackled without pads playing rugby has the the same affect as having sex like she is saying. Holy smoke what happened to my rugby feed. Smh

  • I think I have a testicular hydrocele secondary to an op for twisted testicle had years ago and since then always assumed the pain was blue balls as I get it when there’s too much drawn out excitement (or dry humping when I was younger) with a new partner.

  • I usually enjoy your videos but you need to slow your roll. I do not agree with you. She is not a narcissist. She clearly explained why she created the life she hasit was all as a result of what she endured. It is not her fault she, unlike the other survivors, had the money to come out of that a bit better. So very firmly, take that narcissist finger and point at self right nowyourself. Have some more respect for others, and their journey. You’ve completely diminished and discredited her bravery to come forward and talking about her personal life, goodness gracious!!

  • It’s not fun to suffer from PE, however it may be something that could be easily cured as long as you happen to be doing the right things. Maybe try something such as what’s described in Greyzar Drinbo’s site (googl him), many men have used it to be dominant for hours in action.

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    Paris Hilton: makes a candid documentary about being abused

    Shallon Lester:OMG IM A NARCISSIST TOOO ITS GREAT ISNT IT!!!!

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  • Why is painful intercourse more common among women than men? Here’s why:
    Once Adam and Eve commited the sin of tasting the fruit from the tree of knowledge, Eve was punished, (for offering it to adam) and from then on, she experienced pain during intercourse and child birth. Painful sex is more common among women than men.God punished women with PAINFUL
    biological weaknesses. They are:

    1.) Having a hymen, which, if remained intact, can tear and hurt a woman during sex,
    2.) Vaginal dryness – if a woman is not aroused, sex can vaginally hurt her. IF a man is not
    aroused, its not genitally painful for him.
    3.) Painful first time intercourse, since virgin vaginas are not strong enough to accommodate a penis.
    While most virgin penises do not feel pain during first time.
    4.) Menstrual cramps
    5.) vaginismus, vulvodynia, yeast infections
    6.) Painful childbirth

    As God’s punishment for Eve, God made women weak. Women got so weak that a man’s punishment is to work hard to provide for a woman. 
    Both genders are punished, but since Eve had sinned first, her (and all women’s) suffering is more biological.

  • Depends… 1 step…The girl should be wet… 2 calm…
    The fist time of my girl friend… She take a lot of blood… She was wet but tense. I was very very hard and my size hurts her.

  • I tried to have sex for the first time the other day and it didn’t go in�� we didn’t do foreplay I think that’s the reason but I’m worried

  • I was able to get rid of my herpes virus with herbal medication I got from Dr.Ozuka, this great man used his herbal medcine to cure me after many years of suffering from herpes

  • Just a guy out here learning because he has never had sex with a virgin girl before anyone have advice? I have had sex with multiple women but none of them were a virgin at the time but this girl i met she still is and i don’t want her to be in any kind of pain

  • @shallonlester I saw the Paris Hilton documentary & cried! I cant believe how much she went through. Also, her mom looked like she was going to cry when Paris showed her the picture on her phone & spoke about the trauma she has, but I saw no tears. She hid her face but no teas when she removed her hand from her face. thats was weird. My mom would have been crying.

  • Why is painful intercourse more common among women than men? Here’s why:
    Once Adam and Eve commited the sin of tasting the fruit from the tree of knowledge, Eve was punished, (for offering it to adam) and from then on, she experienced pain during intercourse and child birth. Painful sex is more common among women than men.God punished women with PAINFUL
    biological weaknesses. They are:

    1.) Having a hymen, which, if remained intact, can tear and hurt a woman during sex,
    2.) Vaginal dryness – if a woman is not aroused, sex can vaginally hurt her. IF a man is not
    aroused, its not genitally painful for him.
    3.) Painful first time intercourse, since virgin vaginas are not strong enough to accommodate a penis.
    While most virgin penises do not feel pain during first time.
    4.) Menstrual cramps
    5.) vaginismus, vulvodynia, yeast infections
    6.) Painful childbirth

    As God’s punishment for Eve, God made women weak. Women got so weak that a man’s punishment is to work hard to provide for a woman. 
    Both genders are punished, but since Eve had sinned first, her (and all women’s) suffering is more biological.

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  • I feel like i realy need more examples to write the story about oneself. I feel like it could help me but… i just wished i had more examples ��

  • idk if im a virgin or not, but im a very sensitive person, so i hate looking at/describing/touching those things… so im probably never gonna do it.

  • Losing virginity without pain is a myth.
    First, the hymen DOES HAVE never endings. Losing virginity without pain is a myth, since tearing the hymen cannot be prevented. Whatever amount of lube you use, it will not prevent the hymen from tearing, because the opening above/in the hymen is nowhere near large enough the let the penis fit in. The hymen is not flexible enough to endure such huge stretching without getting ripped.
    The fact that the hymen has an opening does not make ripping it less painful. It’s NOT true that the hymen has no nerve endings. The hymen is rich in nerve endings and often also in blood vessels.
    Non-penetrative activities such as sports or horse riding can NEVER tear the hymen because the hymen is 1 to 2 cm inside the vagina, so it takes a real penetration to tear the hymen. No sport involves vaginal penetration, so the hymen CANNOT get torn just because of any sport activities.
    Tearing the hymen causes excruciating pain, since it’s tearing a living tissue with no numbing. It feels like getting operated on without anesthesia.

    It’s also impossible to relax the vaginal muscles, because the severe pain of tearing the hymen will cause vaginal contractions, the vaginal muscles will clench while the penis is being forced into the constricted vagina, which makes the strong pain even worse. Neither the woman, nor the man can prevent the first time from being a painful horror.

    The first sexual intercourse is a brutal act.

  • When I annihilate the cervix I made this girl do the “robot” and squeal like a pig! She was gyrating and grunting for about 10 minutes after I was done. And one eye was twitching and she had a neck tick. I said I was going to the bathroom, but ran out of her house and never saw her again. I hope she’s ok?