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The best way to treat social anxiety is through cognitive behavioral therapy or medication and often both. You generally need about 12 to 16 therapy sessions. The goal is to. Alternative treatments for social anxiety disorder include such things as dietary supplements, aromatherapy, and yoga. Most alternative treatments have not been scientifically proven to work in.

Nonetheless, there are some commonly used treatment approaches for those with social anxiety. Cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT is an effective tool for combating social anxiety disorder (SAD). However, for many it is simply too expensive, or not something they’re ready to commit to right away. Managing Social Anxiety. For specific social phobias, the treatment may involve beta-blockers or benzodiazepines.

Often, doctors will use a combination of medication and CBT to treat social phobias. This is because. The best thing to do is to have a quick sustaining snack, like a handful of walnuts, or a piece of dark chocolate, along with a glass of water or a nice cup of hot tea.” In the long term, diet is.

The key to overcoming telephone anxiety is similar to treatment methods for other forms of social phobia-graded exposure and cognitive therapy and relaxation techniques: 1. As is the case with other anxiety disorders, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is often the best method for treating and curing the problem. Therapists give their patients tools for coping with their anxiety as. In the treatment of phobias, medications are used in conjunction with therapy and may not necessarily be a part of initial treatment. A class of antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake.

The best therapy for anxiety is without a doubt cognitive behavioral therapy. Don’t let marketers of unusual therapeutic techniques tell you anything, otherwise. Cognitive behavioral. One of the most important ways to treat different types of anxiety disorders is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, also called CBT.

According to HelpGuide, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps in.

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Treatment of social phobia with clonazepam and placebo.

“Massachusetts General Hospital. Tratado de Psiquiatría Clínica” by Theodore A. Stern, Maurizio Fava, Timothy E. Wilens, Jerrold F. Rosenbaum
from Massachusetts General Hospital. Tratado de Psiquiatría Clínica
by Theodore A. Stern, Maurizio Fava, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2017

Surprisingly, group cognitive behavioral therapy is also effective for social anxiety disorder.

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from Comprehensive Gynecology E-Book
by Rogerio A. Lobo, David M Gershenson, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2016

group therapy for social phobia.

“Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Social Anxiety Disorder: Evidence-based and Disorder-specific Treatment Techniques” by Stefan G. Hofmann, Michael W. Otto
from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Social Anxiety Disorder: Evidence-based and Disorder-specific Treatment Techniques
by Stefan G. Hofmann, Michael W. Otto
Routledge, 2008

Non-drug treatment for social phobia.

“The Handbook of Adult Clinical Psychology: An Evidence Based Practice Approach” by Alan Carr, Muireann McNulty
from The Handbook of Adult Clinical Psychology: An Evidence Based Practice Approach
by Alan Carr, Muireann McNulty
Taylor & Francis, 2016

One tentative algorithm for treating new patients with generalized social phobia is to begin with a benzodiazepine to reduce initial apprehension; then add an SSRI, stopping the benzodiazepine after the SSRI has begun to work; and then add CBT before phasing out the SSRI.

“Manual of Clinical Psychopharmacology” by Alan F. Schatzberg M.D., Charles DeBattista D.M.H. M.D.
from Manual of Clinical Psychopharmacology
by Alan F. Schatzberg M.D., Charles DeBattista D.M.H. M.D.
American Psychiatric Association Publishing, 2015

Enroll clientsin a small (closed enrollment) group for social anxiety (see “Shyness” in The Group Therapy TreatmentPlanner, 2nd ed. by Paleg and Jongsma; “Social Anxiety Disorder” by Turk, Heimberg, and Hope in Clinical Handbook of Psychological Disorders

“The Complete Adult Psychotherapy Treatment Planner” by Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., L. Mark Peterson, Timothy J. Bruce
from The Complete Adult Psychotherapy Treatment Planner
by Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., L. Mark Peterson, Timothy J. Bruce
Wiley, 2012

Difficult cases of social phobia or social anxiety (for example, you avoid a wide range of social situations or you are unable to attend important meetings at work) may be helped by SSRI antidepressant medications or another class of antidepressant drugs called MAO-inhibitors.

“Anxiety and Phobia Workbook” by Edmund J. Bournes
from Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
by Edmund J. Bournes
ReadHowYouWant.com, Limited, 2009

Second, social phobia goes with numerous ways of trying to protect yourself, such as keeping quiet, not letting people get to know you, avoiding eye contact and so on.

“Manage Your Mind: The Mental Fitness Guide” by Gillian Butler, R. A. Hope
from Manage Your Mind: The Mental Fitness Guide
by Gillian Butler, R. A. Hope
Oxford University Press, 2007

There is no known way to prevent the development of social phobia.

“The Encyclopedia of Phobias, Fears, and Anxieties, Third Edition” by Ronald Manual Doctor, Ada P. Kahn, Christine A. Adamec
from The Encyclopedia of Phobias, Fears, and Anxieties, Third Edition
by Ronald Manual Doctor, Ada P. Kahn, Christine A. Adamec
Facts On File, Incorporated, 2008

Group CBT is moderately effective with social phobia.

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by Catherine Ingram Fogel, PhD, RNC, FAAN, Nancy Fugate Woods, PhD, RN, FAAN
Springer Publishing Company, 2008

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  • Hi i have gad anxyet panickattacs dont sleping well have anxiety when going to sleep and are tens in The naigh and waek upp in The niaith. Are ther sameting to sleep on and taket tension? I have NO energi.

  • What exactly is Atoractove Secrets? How does this thing really work? I notice many people keep on talking about this popular social anxiety secrets.

  • I can talk for days with friends but when it comes to complete strangers and family i can never hold a convo i always end up just slowly removing myself from it. What can help this��

  • Ok, so I don’t really know much about this topic (anxiety) which is why I’m searching up about it as I have been thinking I might have some sort of anxiety. On top of getting a lot of anxiety in social situations that deter things for me in daily life I also have a problem expressing emotions, most often “love”. I do not have an explanation as to why, but I don’t like hugs or anyone touching me. I despise it. And saying the words “I love you” brings me GREAT discomfort. Like tasting something bitter in your mouth put into an emotion when I have to say those words. My family has always been very affectionate, and I was even “normal” when I was younger. I would give hugs and say I love you like everyone else. But one day my mom said it was like a switch flipped and I changed. I’m not really sure why and I never have been sure of why. Maybe someone in the comments will know if this is possibly related to some sort of anxiety or maybe it’s something else entirely?

  • Why are you comparing different medications by withdrawal symptoms? I thought you should compare them by efficiency and success rate!

  • I’m on Lexapro and I think it works pretty good for my anxiety, but even with 20mg Lexapro (max dose), I still need a little more help, so I get 2mg of Guanfacine, twice a day. I know it seems like a lot of medicine, but I have schizophrenia so my paranoia and anxiety are sky high. But I do find some relief with the help of these meds.

  • My social anxiety is so worse that when i buy groceries i pay the shopkeeper extra money because I cant calculate the stuff I brought accurately in the shop.happens everytime and its sickening

  • It doesn’t help when you have so many of your close friends telling you that you need to see a specialist to help cope with it, but the thought of even reaching out to a complete stranger to you makes you want to crawl into a hole. Not to mention the fact that your close friends telling you this makes you withdraw even more because they can early tell you have a disorder �� fun right?

  • I also have dealt with social anxiety since childhood, and I’ve slowly grown to become less anxious in public situations and am now able to speak to people with more facility. However, I do understand that anxiety never really goes away, because there are times where it still takes over me. Something I still find myself struggling with is speaking up at any given moment, as I still tend to plan out some interactions, like with phone calls.

  • I used to be pretty social or at least somewhat confident in myself. Short story, I had a teacher who enjoyed degrading his students and after his class I lost confidence in myself and my ability to communicate with others. I push myself to talk at school and present when I don’t want to, but it’s still very very hard and the build up is so horrible.

  • Get off social media, you don’t need toxicity in your life baby. Live in the present, if you’re depressed you’re stuck in the past, if you have anxiety then you’re stuck in the future.

  • I’ve searched this up because I was talking to someone new and I started shaking and my body was literally shaking and my teeth were like chattering

  • I literally forget to breathe when I’m around people and I get all delirious and sometimes bug �� I’m working on it tho and it’s sm better than it was 3 months ago because I rebelled this right as corona started

  • This was great, I’ve been looking for “how to help someone with extreme social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Qanwen Donuke Approach (do a search on google )? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my brother in law got cool results with it.

  • Hello, i just wanna say that i literally cried for 7 minutes before a zoom meeting because i felt like i’m the ugliest girl in class.

  • Jesus loves you❤️, in the Bible in Matthew 11:28-30 is written the words of Jesus; Come to me all you who weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Those are the words of Jesus. Also in the Bible is written in the books of Acts 16:31; Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household. God loves you, you can go through everything with the help of Jesus, have a good day.

  • Cheers for this, been searching for “drugs that get rid of social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my friend got great results with it.

  • The main cause of social anxiety for me is stuttering.. When ever I have presentation or talkin to teachers in my school I get anxiety cuz what if I stutter. I really hate this

  • social anxiety can be in many different ways there’s no literal definition, some people would rather not even say they have social anxiety and just call themselves shy, it’s hard, draining, and you end up not loving urself or ur life for it. just understand that thing will get better little by little, make that phone call and take it easy, then make another until it becomes more comfortable, understand also that you’re just human and ur process is and will always be different from anyone. if you really believe in ur heart u are not meant to sit in some corner being scared of the world then get up and face ur fear little by little. life works with effort some people are built with confidence others aren’t, the people with social anxiety think of life and things in a different way, to me we are the elite. the unique, the most overthinking but yet best people out here. live ur life and take it slow. ��

  • The best way to avoid SAD is to be yourself. Others stare or not give no damn and no concern. Peoples are like that only criticism is there. In reality if you look around no one is actually looking towards you so why to have anxiety for no reason it’s just a mental self torture created by oneself only. Therefore, just be in a regular way you are. This will definitely help you without medication after all it just a mental thinking who can be avoided if you don’t think in that way so.

  • Get off social media, you don’t need toxicity in your life baby. Live in the present, if you’re depressed you’re stuck in the past, if you have anxiety then you’re stuck in the future.

  • I was disgusted that when I mentioned to a friend about how certain negative behaviour come about because of bad parenting he shook his head in arrogance and disbelief that i was blaming parents. Even his father is a doctor, he is intelligent but look at how extremely naive he is. I was not merely blaming but simply pointing out that is why people have negative behaviours and that once they are aware of why they have it, they can then go about changing to their own person separate from their family. He is saying it from a comfortable position as he comes from healthy parenting. It’s shame people don’t understand unless they been through it themselves. I mean if not bad parenting, then what??? Even twins separated at birth having gone to different foster families are totally different in character. Just imagine a 16 year drug addict prostitute. 99% of the time, it’s because they came from a terrible traumatic background. So what the hell was this arrogant intellectual talking about?? He needs get some common understanding into his thick head.

  • I’ve gone through speech classes and smaller intimate group talks with friends and classmates but my social anxiety is still awful. It’s actually gotten worse over the years…

  • i have social anxiety and its so hard to get to school without worrying even just teachers calling out my name is enough to make me so scared

  • anyone else ever been turned down for a job because you were “too shy and quiet” and just “don’t seem ready at the moment”? cuz i have and it sucks

  • I think exposure therapy makes social anxiety worse, since you keep getting humiliated and feeding the anxiety so it becomes stronger and stronger.

  • TFW you have something to say, but not a single word leaves your mouth. However, sometimes a few words come out, like an escapee that has managed to flee a country, and I celebrate those victories. No matter how hard the situation gets, we shall celebrate and embrace small victories because we’ve come so far my friends.

  • It is a smashing one of a kind guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my coo-worker after many years got cool results with it.

  • that moment when you think you should get a therapist but that would require asking your parents so your social anxiety says no ��

  • People don’t understand the fear part. It’s no way you can face your fears and still not be afraid. It’s not a normal fear because it’s fearing what people think about you and that you will never truly know. The moment you step into the public you start thinking like, am I walking weird, will people know in different. We lack natural social behaviors that cannot be taught and look natural. For example the hardest thing for me is to make eye contact with people during a conversation. I don’t understand how to do it without looking like I’m staring at the person

  • Ill start off by saying a few of my fears are stigma from my mental illness and misspelling things because dyslexia…
    Your videos have helped not just me but people in a face book group that my friend and I started for mental health!
    So Thankyou for making them!

  • Hey! Not asking for medical advice, just want to hear from your experience.

    Been on lexapro 10 and buspar 40 for 3 months, helped me a lot and saved my career. I was wondering if you found from experience a small dose of wellbutrin xl or strattera helping augment some of the fatigue I get from lexapro. I’m already on vyvanse 60 by the way.

  • There’s a lot of shame around anxiety. It’s not just that you will be alone at work it’s also that you’re ashamed that other people don’t care about you

  • Just wonderful, been searching for “how do i get over my fear of embarrassment?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? It is a good exclusive product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my cousin got excellent results with it.

  • It also happens to you that you do not enter a clothing store or anything else because there is no one else inside and you are afraid of interacting with the salespeople or buy something because you were inside the store too long? I feel really bad when it happens to me.

  • i haved anxiety all my life pretty much,it started at 6 grade i was bullied a lot by other kids.That lead me to having OCD(repeating words in my head),witch lead me to my final disease schizophrenia.There is medicine for schizophrenia and am hanging out well.But i still have anxiety and all came togheter and my life is literally hell.I become religious and that’s the only thing that keeping me alive.If you have any advice for me please reply and make my life litle bit better.Thanks and always no mather how hard it is remember that you are not the only one.Thank you if you read this you make my life better.

  • I am studying to be a school counselor and I absolutely love your use of Socratic questioning to help the client. This is helping me a lot! It also seems if you’re using a person centered approach; integrating the two. Person centered bc i definitely see the empathy.

  • Having social anxiety as a 13 year old is so hard, I can’t even pay at the cash register without counting my money at least 15 times and whenever my teacher says get into groups of 3 or something I feel sick and think I am gonna crap myself no joke it’s horrible, I also have fear of exclusion too.

  • My social anxiety triggers when i think of going out side and my crush might see me or people that i used to know. that i might need to interact with them, but I don’t wanna and might call me rude.

  • This was great, I have been researching “how do you get rid of shyness to talk to a girl?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (do a google search )? It is an awesome one of a kind product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the normal expense. Ive heard some great things about it and my cousin got great success with it.

  • I have a social anxiety and I’m in slow death ��……..I want to change my life…I want to live in another country I am from Morocco in north Africa i wanna leave my city to start a new life in love and peace this is my dream…. I am 22 years old but the problem is that I don’t have the money to travel…My father is dead and my family poor….is a very difficult life and I wanna change my life for the better but I don’t know what I will do……….����

  • I have social anxiety I’m wanting to tell my parents but I don’t think they will be there for me and start judging me that’s why I have no friends

  • Cheers for this, I’ve been looking for “how do you overcome anxiety performance?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (should be on google have a look )? It is an awesome exclusive guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 got cool results with it.

  • I am now at a point, I really want to end my social anxiety. I start to realize, how much chances I am missing because of my social anxiety. I already made a huge progress; presentations aren‘t a problem anymore. I feel very confident even if I cant find the right words anymore, then I just stay chill and try to explain it otherwise. My problem is that I have anxiety when I am talking to teachers and even people in my class. But you know what? I don‘t want that anymore. Anxiety destroys my life and I am going to end this! I am going to use every situation to get over my social anxiety until it‘s non-existent.

  • Every time a teacher calls on me, or i just talk to someone who is not in my immediate circle of friends i get super red and start shaking

  • Winner of a video, been searching for “what is social media anxiety disorder?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (do a google search )? It is a great one off guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the headache. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my co-worker got amazing success with it.

  • Just wonderful, been searching for “social anxiety sufferers” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Telaavar Anxious Amanita (search on google )?

    It is a good one off guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the normal expense. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my cousin got excellent success with it.

  • Thank you so much for your videos! �� I’m a psychology major and your videos are really interesting and help me understand things better!

  • My mom asked me if I wanted to go to a therapist bc after months she finally realized something was wrong with me.:/

    But me being me I declined because I’m too afraid ��

  • Anybody know what is Atoractove Secrets about? I hear many people completely end their social anxiety with this popular anxiety treatment.

  • Wow i have been getting those symptoms but never realized it was social anxiety i just though i didn’t necessarily like the people i was with. But actually now that i think about its all about past traumtic events and who u are with and what this environment makes. U feel. Like there are certain ppl in school who i just immediately see and remember the one time they did something mean to me so i get anxious but lets say i never met that person before and they seem nice… i literally would not even flinch. I can engage in a conversation and be totally fine. But my only problem is probably activities like when we have to do something in a big gathering i get quite lost there. I feel like a puppy that needs their owner to guide them
    But overall anxiety really isn’t the end of the world its all just tiny little stupid and negative thoughts in your head that u can defeat i promise and try changing your environment if u can.

  • This person is already one step ahead at least they can get a job. I can’t even fathom being in a work environment. Or being interviewed.

  • What an amusing reason for enrolling on a public speaking class. Just imagining you walking into class and learning what it was makes me chuckle. Overall, great story and thank you for the new series:-)

  • As specialist, I believe Atoractove Secrets can be good way to completely erased your anxiety. Why not give it a chance? maybe it can work for you too.

  • I always feel unsafe in public place also in family meeting place. I only feel safe with my father,mother,sister,alone and with my one friend

  • Its crazy,sad,upsetting, disappointing n embrassing bcos all the comment represent me so much,,i hate being this me
    Sorry for bad english

  • Most of the anxiety persons are boy
    guess why!
    Boys can’t cry.
    Boys must be alpha.
    Boys must be muscular
    Boys can’t act like girl
    Boys have to prove theirself!!
    F*CK YOU ALLLL

  • Winner of a video, I been tryin to find out about “the anxiety cure book” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Telaavar Anxious Amanita (should be on google have a look )?

    It is an awesome one of a kind guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my friend after a lifetime of fighting got excellent success with it.

  • Evey time I’m going to see my best friends I get anxious like I have a party tomorrow and I feel like I’m gonna get bullied and I hardly have any friends cyst I don’t know how to start conversations

  • This was great, thanks, I’ve been looking for “natural remedies for overcoming social anxiety disorder symptoms” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (should be on google have a look )? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.

  • So idk I mean this is what happened at school or whenever I have to talk to someone new
    Tremor,dizziness,unmotivated,not confident,I wanna avoid,teary eye,scared,overwhelmed,tired,shortness of breathe when walking,chest pain when I breathed in and out

  • I have a social anxiety not for new people! People that I m regularly exposed to and you absolutely cannot avoid it. No problem going to the mall or places w strangers. Workplace however where I have a regular crowd of 5, and I know I’m being judged, for an hour before work I will get extreme anxiety /panic attack where I will shake and fell awful. Once I do GO, I don’t really have anxiety at work, but it did happen to be once or twice where like a wave, the anxiety came up, but was over quickly. Overall I end up having a great time at work, always loved and accepted. When I leave, I leave w a smile. So I don’t understand why I have this. I tried point touch therapy and still do it sometimes. I don’t know.

  • here’s a few tips to try
    Don’t take stimulants like alcohol and coffee
    Try to relax
    Exercise often
    Seek help from others
    (I read these and more tips on Trevs Panic Fixer site )

  • I’ve been diagnosed with Social Anxiety and today I got to school and started getting extremely nauseous and I was in band so it was loud I though I was gonna be sick I ended up leaving the room and drinking some water and then I threw up in a trash can I was so embarrassed and of course there’s covid so people thought I was sick and sense I threw up I had to go home and when I was packing up I left my mask in the auditorium with my instrument and got in trouble i cried for awhile after that

  • OR KLONOPIN which has zero side effects,zero drug interactions other then alcohol and has a LONG half life. The only downside is withdrawal if needed which can take months of tapering. Target the source of all anxiety which is Gaba…only benzos target the gaba receptors. What say you DR?

  • When I’m walking in walmart or school in big crowds my head always shakes a little I get so nervous seeing people coming my way or people behind me.

  • Does lorazepam cause dementia? I was doing so good on it and moved out of state. Now, my new dr doesn’t want me on that, says that new research shows it’s not so good. Now on hydroxyzine, I hate, I feel like I’m just drowsy/sleepy but not really help with the anxiety itself. Maybe I need to give it more time I don’t know. Do you think hydroxyzine is a good med for anxiety??

  • I’m not a doctor but the research shows aside from Paxil the others not having significant results.
    Is Esketamine considered in your practice? That may be worth trying but big pharma and insurers aren’t very nice.

  • Hmm what a enlightening video, I’m similar i talk way moore at home with family n close ppl idk if i had mutism, the QUESTION IS, is mutism worse than SA? Just came to my mind, the story is AMAZINGZ tho props to u i wish i had such opportunities or someone to push me to do it ����

  • For myself, I have always felt that CBT/exposure is something that won’t do much for me. I feel my SA symptoms most often come organically from my brain’s imbalance and not from thinking bad things into being, which is the basis of CBT. My disorder began and I tried so hard to be normal, the way I was before, and I couldn’t, my body and brain were betraying me. And my cycle of fear began off of the basis of my symptoms occurring without any just reason for them. And then I would avoid because I KNEW that the symptoms would occur in a social situation. The symptoms did not occur because I feared them, I feared them because they occurred. I would like to know your thoughts on this, please?

  • Have had this all my life, but have managed OK at times, and often not as well as I wanted. Gonna try that ladder approach, simple things first. I can do some of those.

  • I’m just watching this….complaining about the complicated steps. How am I going to overcome anxiety if I can’t talk to my family members except my parents!������

  • Loved the video! I just have a question, speaking in public would be a conditioned or unconditioned stimulus? and feeling anxious would be then a conditioned or unconditioned response?

  • Thank you for mentioning tapping as a coping mechanism/technique. I looked into it, and I think there’s something about speaking aloud to yourself, acknowledging your negative feelings, acknowledging the presence of your body, and declaring self-love and self-acceptance in spite of all of your fear that could really help me get over myself and give people a chance to get to know me better.

  • A little dosage of testosterone enanthate is an option? I tryed every Meds without benefits. What do you think? Im desperate. Im from italy sorry for my bad english. Thank you.

  • hi, my doc prescribed zoloft along with lyrica for severe anxiety and slight depression. zoloft 100 mg and lyrica 3×50. while i was slowly increasing zoloft 25,50,75 to reach 100 mg after 4 days in each dose i was a bit more calm with less worries and less brain fog. at 100 mg i become more anxious more agitation with mood swings and gas and a bit of buzzing in the head (but not tinnitus). i used xanax 0.5 when needed and stayed on 100 mg for 4 weeks but anxiety is almost as it was before treatment, btw lyrica doesnt help at all at that dose, i talked with doc and we agreed to get it back to 75 mg for 2-3 weeks to see how it goes and if necessary to reduce at 50 mg. What do u think doc? can less mg work better? or if i can go to lets say 200 mg will i get the sedative effects? of increasing lyrica at 3×100. thanx

  • Can I take lortab 10 using Zoloft? I have pain and take those but have avoided them since I have been on Zoloft 50mg for the past month. Thanks for any help you can provide.

  • Sir, I’ve been diagnosed with generalized anxiety and with social anxiety as well and am struggling with a depressive episode again. I’ve been facing this for three years and just got a therapist a few months ago. When I go out it doesn’t get any better I just accepted the fact that every time I go outside I have an anxiety attack but when I enter a building it goes away. Everytime I go out I feel the same way. No change. I’ve read somewhere that this makes a disorder chronical and that medication is needed. I don’t know if it’s correct I just read some studies on this topic. I’m afraid I can’t do the gradual exposure because my anxiety is in the max in the places I have to go to every day. I’m not sure about getting on medication hence the side effects. I would really appreciate your opinion on my situation. Thank you very much.

  • Cheers for this, I have been researching “severe social anxiety symptoms” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Telaavar Anxious Amanita (just google it )?

    It is an awesome one of a kind guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some decent things about it and my close friend Aubrey at very last got great results with it.

  • my anxiety gotten to the point where i cant enjoy online games anymore �� and i love online games, its just i have really bad social anxiety fear of judgment. it holds me back so much

  • I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my YouTube channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. ��❤

  • I’ve been using the “fake it til you make it” philosophy for as long as I can remember. So I rarely do anything social. I have a close group of people in my life, and the rest are static in the background.

  • Winner of a video, I have been researching “which hormone is responsible for confidence?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster (search on google )? It is a great exclusive product for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.

  • This was great, thanks, I have been researching “what does it mean to be painfully shy?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (do a search on google )? It is a great one off product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my work buddy got excellent results with it.

  • I’m researching treating shyness at home and discovered an awesome resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)

  • This was great, I have been researching “do i have social anxiety or just shy?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (search on google )? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my mate got excellent results with it.

  • I don’t have social anxiety, GAD for 3 months now and I became homebound because of fears of having an anxiety or panic attack, but I been leaving my house more often, I don’t to far but I still go out, I take it baby steps I found it easier to go to my backyard first, just to get that “outdoor” feeling than once I feel comfortable I go to the front yard, and slowly go for a walk in the front yard, once I feel comfortable I got slowly go further down, the street,

  • Paxil gave me a crawling sensation in the forebrain….. Effexor worked good besides whisky dick…. Goode Olde Prozak… You didn’t mention its not simply choosing a ssri…. they all effect different people differently and you shouldn’t expect the first one u try to work….  Tegretol kept hangovers away

  • i have been on zoloft for more than 2 months i started with 50 mg for 2 weeks then 100 mg for 40 days and now 150 mg since 17 days but i didn’t notice positive results..maybe a little….Do I use it for another month or increase the dose to 200 or go to another medicine?

  • Hello! I tried this type of meditation and got amazing results with it, I have much less anxiety now, it feels like it reduces my anxiety every time, I’m only 3 days in. It’s called “Transcendental Meditation” Today I talked to a girl with no stuttering, which stuttering is a symptom of GAD/SA. I don’t know what this meditation does but it’s amazing!

    Here’s how to do it:

    First of all do not eat for at least 2 hours before meditating, it can intefere.

    Meditate at least 2 hours before going to sleep, anything under that can make it hard to sleep as this meditation increases your alertness, it wears off after 2 hours.

    Meditate 2 times a day, with at least 6 hours between each session.

    Sit in a chair where you can move your head freely with no obstruction, for your first time do this in a quiet room. Repeat a syllable or any short word that has no meaning in your head, silently without your voice. So repeat a mantra in your head, it can be anything but since you are new to this try “Lam” or “Ram.”

    Start by letting your mind calm down for 30 seconds, then start repeating the syllable, repeat it SILENTLY in your mind, without using your voice. Repeat it 10 20 times then stop and it will automatically start repeating on its own. After you repeat it that many times, do absolutely nothing. Do not concentrate on it, just do nothing, let your mind do the rest, you need to do *absolutely nothing*. You will notice if you do absolutely nothing that your mind will remind you of the syllable without you having to do any effort, and this is fine, this is exactly how the meditation works. Do this for exactly 15 minutes, DO NOT go above 15 minutes, this could increase your anxiety levels temporarily and cause too much stress to release.

    Once the 15 minutes is over, slowly open your eyes to not shock your nervous system and STOP thinking the syllable. Now that you have stopped thinking the syllable, just rest with your eyes closed for at least 4 minutes, preferably 5, and keep sitting down. Now if you did everything right (Did not concentrate, rested for 5 minutes after meditating) you should notice less anxiety immediately after the session, especially if you suffer from severe anxiety like 90% of us do. If you haven’t tried this meditation yet, then please try it right now if you have time, you will be happy you did. This is obviously not a scam, I’m giving you a meditation course that usually costs $1000+ for FREE.:)

  • Winner of a video, I’ve been looking for “how can i increase my self worth?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster (should be on google have a look )? It is a great one of a kind product for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety without the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my colleague got great results with it.

  • This is just superb, I have been researching “overcoming social anxiety and shyness pdf” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (do a google search )? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my partner got cool success with it.

  • I am still DEATHLY afraid of spiders, although mostly just ones that look like (or perhaps even truly) eat small animals. I honestly believe my greatest fear as a creative person is that no one will care what I have to say or if it will even be good enough. I cope with it as best I can, although when my father passed in April 2015, it hit that much harder because he was truly my biggest fan and advocate for what I do. I try to do little things, yet there’s this part of me that feels at 35 I must do something big and bold or else be looking back and wondering “What if?”

  • This was great, I’ve been looking for “anxiety of meeting new people” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Qanwen Donuke Approach (do a search on google )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my partner got great success with it.

  • Doctor i have an anxiety disorder since 8/9 years i am working as a security officer i need to speak in redio communication always when some body call me i fell fear then fell like I cannot speak. So I went to psychologist dr given me propranolol 20 mg,amitripline25 and escitalopam 20 mg taking since 2 month becoming better but now also some time feel same like before so what is happening with me is it social phobia? Which is best medicine?

  • I don’t pass out or throw up when speaking to ppl, but I do get nausea headaches shaking and on occasion I end up crying in front of ppl when doing speeches. So embarrassing.i can’t tell if I have anxiety in general or social anxiety. Even just seeing ppl makes me anxious. Ppl have told me that I’m not actually socially awkward so I can’t figure out why I have such a big fear of this. It’s also kinda frustrating because my anxiety had actually gotten better until quarantine started and now I fell like I’m back where I started ����

  • Winner of a video, I’ve been looking for “ways to cope with anxiety and stress” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (just google it )? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my co-worker got excellent results with it.

  • What is Atoractove Secrets and how does it work? I hear many people completely end their social anxiety with this popular social anxiety method.

  • I was very quiet around everyone, including my family. I rarely ever went out and always thought something was wrong with me, until I read the Shyness and Social Anxiety System. Then I finally knew why I acted and thought the way I did. Its helped me become a little less shy, though its still a work in progress with a long way to go. Its helping me to change my thinking bit by bit, and helping me to see that people arent as scary or as judgmental as I thought. Now Im more comfortable with holding eye contact with most people. Click here for more info about Shyness and Social Anxiety System: https://tinyurl.com/Shyness-And-Social-Anxiety-Sy

  • I am pretty sure I have social anxiety, I am so scared of what people think of me and I overthink A LOT. Like A LOT. If I do something embarrassing i’ll remember it and i’ll overthink what people though of me for months. I suck at social interaction. But I don’t know how to tell my parents i’d like to go see a therapist or something to help me because I don’t think they’d belive me. I’ve always appeared as a very social and confident girl. I don’t know what to do.

  • Asking a woman out, probably the toughest one for me, was never good at that, like a disaster. So difficult even if she was interested.

  • Can someone please explain to me why doctors usually provide Antidepressants SSRI’s for GAD, social anxiety, and OCD? In the past I have taken Escitalopram, Citalopram and Wellbutrin none of them even helped remotely with any symptoms of anxiety. All of them except the wellbutrin made me tired and only helped with depression. I just recently met with a psychiatrist from my local hospital. He has put me on fluvoxamine its day 4 and feel nothing, im slowly titrating up. I expect it to take a few weeks but don’t have much hope because of my past experiences. I have a few friends that have very bad anxiety like mine and they were put on benzodiazepines. I’ve been battling this for so long I can barely take it anymore. Every time i mention anything to the doctors they just lecture me about how i don’t know anything. Im at the mercy of them and they don’t want to hear you. It’s so hard to get help. I thinking of giving this medication 6 weeks plus therapy, then check to see if this is working for anxiety. Might get family doc to mention to phyciatrist possibly going on something more for anxiety like clonazepam if these new meds dont work.

  • someone give me some advice so when i was a kid my dad abused my fav brother and when he did that i was YOUNG and i would always go hide and cry behind the bed i think i always kept a piece of that in me and since then it was hard for me to talk to people and to this day i still have social anxiety and it sucks because people at my school know me as “the shy kid” and i hate it please help sorry if that’s a lot but I’m tired of not being myself and I just can’t build up the confidence to tell me mom yet��

  • Its not that I dont wanna talk to people its I just dont know how/what to say… I feel like whenever I talk no one listens or like im just an embarrassment/incompetent person.. its tough to even open my mouth.

  • Why is everyone saing that i am just too shy when i literally scared and i just hate speaking with strangers, my voce craks and i speak like a dieing frog

  • I’m a girl who’s so scared of talking with another girl or higher ups, because here in my country, they’re more judgemental then boys my age or younger. They judge my appearance, asking about my scores, my future, my plans, what I do, my life, talk about how I walk, and I’m very very scared.

    There’s this girl who ask me a lot of things because she wants to know more about me. I know she’s kind and caring, but it makes me shivers. I keep thinking that someday she will know my flaws (or maybe it’s not a flaw but she’ll see it that way) and leave me or replace me with someone else because I’m socially awkward and boring.

    I’m very scared of people who ask me so many stuff because I think when they finally find something, they will go “AHA! I KNEW YOU WEREN’T A GOOD/NORMAL PERSON!”. I do try to talk to them calmly and as normal as possible, but it feels like I’m faking it and it’ making me overthink more.

  • Okay so my story:
    I’m not scared of really talking to people. But when I do, I just feel that they don’t really are interested in the stuff that I say and that they would rather not listen to me, because theyre wasting their time. That’s why I don’t talk that much and exclude myself out of conversations because I think they just see me as the one boring person that is there but not really at the same time. And that’s how I’m being treated, like I don’t matter, like I’m just an extra. So I rather to stay out of this whole social thing completely and lose myself in my own world (homework, school work, music, books, writing, my family, films and serieses). These things make everything seems like home, like my own little world and I’m happy with that. But I sometimes feel so awkward when I’m in social situations, like I’m doing literally EVERYTHING wrong and that the other people think I’m such a weirdo. But that’s the worst thing I can do and I know that. So from now on I’m going to fight my social anxiety and become a better person!!! ❤️

  • At school litterly while I talk to my friends I still start getting nervous thinking ima mess up or they are going to judge me by something by what I’m wearing even though there is uniforms-

  • I’ve been studying reducing shyness quickly and discovered an awesome resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you’re interested)

  • Good share on visualizing and actually getting out there and overcoming fear. I used to get anxiety in tight college classroom settings. Im glad I dont have to be in that setting anymore. Anxiety attacks all started in my head.

  • it was so hard for me to accept im socially anxious instead of shy. but when i share my feelings w my friends, (hoping they would understand) they just laugh and say ohh ur just shy… ��this all makes my anxiety worse…

  • Hmu if you have social anxiety I can totally talk you through it pretty quick and help you chill out a bit without medications it’s a state of mind and being in control that will make it tolerable and also unrecognized by others…

  • Who else is nervous to go to a grocery store by them selves? Like I feel like I don’t belong there, or that there’s something on my face,

  • My communications professor said I was the only student he ever had that got progressively worse grades on my public speeches. He was kind about it, but it’s not exactly the thing you want to be remembered for.

  • it’s the fact that people who don’t have this will never ever understand literally my social anxiety is so bad to point where i just wanna cry… and my voice starts getting shaky and everything then later at night i stay up feeling embarrassed. i just hate when people think im just weird or something then my sister gets mad at me when i don’t want to order my own food like she doesn’t understand.

  • Sometimes I avoid watching videos that give advice on how to overcome social anxiety because I know the things I need to do will be too much for me.
    Also, there’s hope for those who have social anxiety so extreme that they frequently have to deal with the physical symptoms that she talked about. All through my years as a teenager, I would avoid anyone or any situation that even made me slightly nervous. I’d start sweating, heart racing, can’t speak…it was a nightmare. I’m not 100% sure how these things stopped happening to me so often. I think at some point I heavily convinced myself that I didn’t care about people. I’m still nervous and all on the inside but the physical symptoms have decreased significantly. Also, I think I did exposure therapy on myself. I just forced myself to meet people when I would usually ghost them if they ever tried to meet me in person. It has helped tremendously. However, I still have the fear on the inside even though it doesn’t show as much outside. Now I just come off like I don’t care to other people lol…I guess it’s better than letting them see how terrified I am.
    I can also give presentations now without sweating profusely or losing my voice. I still shake sometimes but I can hide it better.

  • This was great, thanks, I been tryin to find out about “effective drugs for social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Telaavar Anxious Amanita (do a search on google )?

    It is a great one off product for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some great things about it and my close friend Aubrey finally got amazing results with it.

  • My anxiety triggers when i get called on to speak up on a virtual class meeting and i hate it cuz i always come up with the ” my mic isnt workin” excuse

  • How do you ask someone for help without asking them because I’m scared of talking about having social anxiety in fear of my worries getting pushed away like they usually are

  • Today I was my first day of school, as usual everybody already knew each other and I felt like everybody was watching me, I was there, standing alone like a dog while thinking what other people might think of me. In my new class I knew someone but they ignored me because I never talk, everybody sat down with their friends while I was the only one who was alone, eventually a boy sat down next to me because there were no places left, as the teacher was speaking I felt like my heart was going to explode, my mouth got dry and my throat tightened up, I couldn’t even speak, when I needed to say a simple “thanks” my voice was all shaky that you could barely hear me, my eyes got all teary that I was about to cry but I pinched my hand so I could distract myself. When I got home I really felt like heaven, alone in my bed, here with my phone writing down all I want, reading and doing what makes me happy hoping that the day would pass by slowly. Tomorrow I need to go back to school, and here I am, crying myself to sleep and scared of going to school and face like 970 people. I just want a therapist to help me overcome my social anxiety or maybe getting home schooled would be even better but I won’t dare to ask. People always say “you’re not alone” but I really do feel alone.

  • This is glorious, I have been researching “can you have social anxiety and social?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (just google it )? It is a great exclusive guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my co-worker got great success with it.

  • People can tell I am uncomfortable or awkward so they often respond with what seems to be anger, pitied amusement or reciprocal discomfort…which makes me more uncomfortable and awkward. Overall, it just really sucks basically going anywhere and ALLWAYS thinking that people are looking at me and judging me and when I see them actually looking at me or fidgeting when I come near, it just confirms my suspicions. I just wish I didn’t care and wasn’t so aware.

  • Wow, this made me tear up, it made me nervous and just.. very emotional. Diagnosed with social anxiety most of my life. It has been 4 years since I left my therapist, she left a bad taste in my mouth because she didn’t keep things confidential that she promised to. Recently though, I have been considering trying another. It scares the hell outta me to talk to someone but I have been only getting worse and feel I need to push out of my safe zone. I have heard wonderful things about CBT and, this video helps understand what I will be getting into & makes me a bit less anxious..
    I am just so bad at opening up, It will take time to trust a new therapist…

  • I have social anxiety all my life and never really knew what it was or never really wanted to except the fact that normal per say. But that’s so strange because I’ll like to be in crowds of people I like to be around people I like to be seen by people but at the same time get nervous when I’m around people and I don’t know how to hold conversations with people even family members cousins brothers grandparents mother. So I really needed this video.

  • No one is gonna see this but I have really really really bad social anxiety and anxiety. I’ve always had social anxiety ever since I was in kindergarten. I’m now In 8th grade and have bad social anxiety. Talking to people in public, presenting or speaking in public, taking to teachers or other classmates etc. I really want to be outgoing but I don’t know how.

  • Thank you but i still have a bit of it when i meet my teachers or othere older people but i am trying it to talk it through with my self to the teacher with be confidence

  • Wth I’m 25 and just realizing Ive suffered from this my entire life. Everything makes sense now and why I acted like that in certain situations. It is actually reassuring to know what it is after so many years.

  • These videos are so useful Dr. Tracey Marks. Thank you for being a reasoned medical voice on our digital platform filled with urgent misinformation over mental health conditions.

    There are so many people willing to jump in and make a diagnosis these days and so much of the info online is incorrect or like med circle hysterical itself! If we believed some of the stuff online the global population would have at least 3 separate DSMIV diagnoses for every individual on the planet.

    Thanks again:)

  • Winner of a video, I have been researching “why do i sweat so much in social situations?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (should be on google have a look )? It is a great one of a kind product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my friend got great results with it.

  • As an introvert I love my solitude time as much as I enjoy a room full of people where I can hide (a concert for example) but don’t make me sit and have dinner with a handful of strangers where I’m forced to speak cause I probably will puke on them or end up painfully bloated from holding the anxiety from showing. I fucking hate this shit

  • For me I have had quite serious social anxiety since starting at a new school last year and am worried about playing video games online with new people. But after watching this video I feel more confident and determined to face my fears. Thanks!

  • Me: how do i get better from social anxiety?
    Video: just be more social.

    Im sure exposure works, but i compare it to this scenario: someone is scared of heights, so make them just off a cliff and they’ll be less afraid

    Forgive me for being wary

  • Here is my story; I am 25 year old, O have always had social anxiety in high school, which is the reason for my bad grades. It got worse when I also had a physical health problem and pain, which changed the way I look as well which made me even more insecure,causing body dysmoprhia. I ended up doing a dead end job from age 19-25. With absolute no friends or social connections. Now I got into college. First day of class was very difficult. It was hard to be around people. Second day of class my nerves calmed down a little bit. Hopefully it gets easier. It’s basically a skills we haven’t learned, which we were supposed to learn in our younger days

  • it was my first day of school today and im a week absent so im very behind. throughout the whole day i felt like i was going to throw up the whole day bc i had no idea where i was going but everyone else did. it felt like everyone was staring at me all day so i just looked down and stared at the ground. i have no idea why im still nervous bc the school day is over but i just feel like im about to throw up. i cant see a physiologist or a therapist bc my parents do not care if im anxious and tell me to shake it off and that ill be fine. if you are feeling the same, your not alone.

  • The first time I knew my condition had a name was in 2010 and I was 18 years old then. I felt so relieved that it wasn’t something unheared of that was wrong with me. 10 years now, my anxiety has reduced like up to 70% but it’s still there especially when I have to attend an interview (I sometimes don’t show up and switch off my phone. I’m sometimes even too nervous to apply), introduce myself to a stranger on the phone, or get told I should prepare to host a meeting or give a speech or admonition etc.. the most part of my anxiety is stuttering.. I fear not to stutter and that fear in turn makes me more nervous and the cycle just continues

  • Many thanks, been searching for “cure social anxiety disorder naturally” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (just google it )? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got great success with it.

  • I feel embarrassed as i was speaking in a session but was stuck midway in a sentence. My mind stopped working, i didn’t know what to say. In addition, in this situation, my words were so scatter, unarranged & stammer. ��

  • In social settings I sweat alot and it’s hard for me to talk like I have to force my self and when I do talk I analyze my voice and what I said and how I said it.

  • It makes me feel better that people understand me. Having social anxiety isn’t funny and it often makes me make bad decisions. It’s a feeling that I can’t describe, like I get nervous with anyone and it’s like something gets to my head, something makes me not want to talk to people. My family thinks I’m normal and I’m always cheerful but if they knew how I really am in my head they would see that they’re wrong. This feeling makes me overthink, I often overthink many things and when I see someone staring at Me I automatically put words into their mouths and I always feel judged. People have said things to me and every night I think about what they say and I always tell myself that it’s true, and it gets to me. People don’t understand how I feel because I never want to talk to someone about this. People these days don’t know how it feels to be someone who is suffering or someone going through something and they never put themselves in someone else’s shoes so they don’t understand how it’s like and literally always say to just talk to people or just not be nervous. I just can’t describe how it feels to me so I’ll leave it there and hopefully no one I know sees this because I don’t want them knowing

  • My psychiatrist prescribed me fluoxetine 20 mg for my social anxiety and depression, will it works for SAD? She told me i have cluster c personality disorder (avoidant personality disorder) she also refers me to see a therapist for cbt. Will it works?

  • This was great, been searching for “beating shyness anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my friend got cool results with it.

  • This is just superb, I have been researching “how to get over social anxiety disorder” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some incredible things about it and my cousin got great success with it.

  • This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about “natural ways to cure social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some super things about it and my friend got great success with it.

  • Kudos for the video content! Excuse me for butting in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you thought about Mahorrla Execute Shy Method (google it)? It is a great exclusive product for beating social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some decent things about it and my buddy after many years got amazing results with it.

  • Do anyone know about Atoractove Secrets? Does it work? I hear lots of people completely end their social anxiety with this popular anxiety treatment.

  • This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about “how to overcome shyness and social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster (should be on google have a look )? It is a smashing exclusive guide for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety without the normal expense. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate got great results with it.

  • I have same problem. Like literally exactly like your life story, the way you described it. I’m middle eastern, so I always been very self conscious about my race (different) and I also have selective mutism. I grew up in the Middle East then moved to US for the school. I only realized that I had ADHD, anxiety, social anxiety, and depression when I moved here.

    “Minds are association machines” is all I needed to hear. On a separate note, it makes me think we’re a program.

  • Cheers for this, I’ve been looking for “social anxiety awareness” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Telaavar Anxious Amanita (should be on google have a look )?
    It is a good one off product for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my buddy after many years got astronomical results with it.

  • I don’t know if it’s my antidepressant that’s making it worse but I THINK I may have social anxiety. It’s almost always in social situationsthe thought of going to the mall has me having a panic attack, then when I go (only if I have to) the whole time I feel like I’m being judged by everyone and that something terrible will happen. It’s horrible then as soon as I am able to get alone I break down. Now I don’t know if it’s because of my Antidepressant, I’ve always had this fear but maybe it’s getting worse or I dint know.

  • This was great, thanks, I’ve been looking for “social anxiety new zealand” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Telaavar Anxious Amanita (do a google search )?

    It is a good one off guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some great things about it and my cousin after many years got great results with it.

  • Do natural popular anxiety treatment like Atoractove Secrets really work and if so, how effective are they? I’ve noticed several amazing things about this popular anxiety secrets.

  • When you want to become a valedictorian once you graduate but you have social anxiety and you need to speak in front of the crowd for your valedictory speech

  • My aunt always talks for me when I’m at a birthday party or something else cause of my dad, he body shamed me all the time and every time I asked him something he got mad and that’s how I got my social anxiety

  • Lots of students at college had this problem but they were proud of it. They were pre-med and engineering students. It worked out great for them.

  • I dropped it to focus on more challenging courses. My plan was to make speech and public speaking the very, very, very last course, so I could focus solely on that.

  • Butterflies are normal. I was nervous as hell too and you know what I did? I volunteered to do my presentation first in front of about 20 people that I didn’t even know. The professor said it was good.

  • Many thanks, I’ve been looking for “how do i stop being shy in public speaking?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? It is a great exclusive product for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my buddy got great success with it.

  • None of these suggested ‘options’ are viable for me.

    There is now where, and no one, I can go to for help. All attempts at medication have been total disasters, that left me worse off than I was before. (i.e. One of the antidepressants they put me one resulted in me developing agoraphobia.) CBT is has been a bust too, however where I live, when I was able to gain access to CBT, it was six sessions, The first was just the information dump, and the last was a ‘wrap up’, so really it was only four actual sessions, it was a group setting (I was the only person who attended more than one of them), and it was all done with power point slides, lots of pictures of kittens in baskets (I wish I was joking) and then you got to do a word seek puzzle, and colour a picture of a teddy bear. (Perhaps you see why no one came back).
    For context, getting into that ‘program’ took several university prof.s pulling strings, being on a wait list for two years, and I was ‘fast tracked’ because I was a very high suicide risk.

    CBT seems like it could be very useful, as a ‘band-aid’ but has zero function for people with serious issues.

    I am generally unable to start a conversation with anyone, including people I have known well for years. However I have never had a problem making speeches, or going on stage, even in front of thousands of people, and during my brief time in ‘Toastmasters’ I even won a few awards.

  • I also had selective mutism. Which is better, I’m no longer like that, still very quiet though, and have extreme social issues. The anxiety is so heavy when I talk to people in person or voice..

  • I cant talk to people when i do that i tremble and want to cry, i dont have any friends. I hate going out and meet people, i want to stay home and watch anime. In less then 2 weeks i have to start school, i am scared i dont want to go and be judged.

  • Doctor I’m having fear to go out in public cause i think they are looking at me and judging, I’m scared of picking up phone calls, I’m having lower level of self esteem, I’m having negative thoughts, I’m hopeless and worried about life… Doctor is there any cure for me???��

  • in my freshman year i had no social anxiety at all. i could talk to people, do presentations, and not be nervous at all but when i started my sophomore year, it suddenly got really bad. i couldnt participate in group discussions and the thought of doing so made my heart race and i got extremely shaky. i couldnt even get up to get tissues or go to the bathroom in fear that people would look at me and judge me. now my junior year just started after a long quarantine and i dont know what to do. i had to introduce myself to the class and it was absolutely terrifying. i really hope theres a second wave or outbreak at my school so i dont have to do any presentations. i hate myself

  • I have difficulty performing in front of my parents. I am comparatively better at socialising when my parents are not around. But when I am just with my parents or friends I am a chatterbox. I literally don’t shut up. But I am very quite around relatives. But I have a distinct anxiety of communicating with new people older than me or just certain people with whom I am not acquainted enough to know how to react to. Can you help?

  • I just watch your video and i like it..
    I am afraid of facing my weaknesses
    It’s hard for me to interact other people because of this..

  • This quarantine period made me think and realize how much I missed out on life and wasted some golden opportunities because of this goddarned anxiety. But I don’t want to get caught up in the past now! My goal is to make small steps to at least be 1% better than the person I was yesterday. I swear I just want to be better. Wish me luck! ��

  • I have such bad anxiety talking on the phone, and right now it’s screwing me up bad because I need to call a lot of people regarding furthering my uni plans and I literally just can’t bring myself to call. It’s either an email or just putting it off. Like the thought of calling someone makes me feel the anxiety of the drop in a roller coaster.

  • Am I the only who can communicate with strangers just fine but a huge crowd of strangers at a celebratory event makes you very anxious and want to cry ��

  • I’d rather eat a canon and pull the trigger. Anxiety is a defensive system. Heaven is on one side, hell on the one. Choose the right pill carefully.

  • Not the case for people that been bullied for years cause its wayy harder to change but possible. CBT has helpfull tools. I think its important to understand what your complexes that developed with the anxiety. For me it is connected to post traume therefor my cup of treatment is psychodinamic and cbt. Its important to understand that each his own. This is quite easy case and you caught it very early in life its not an option for everyone but thanks for the video, it is inspiring that there are people who working through the anxiety

  • I let mine take over where I’ve spent age 16-26 in my room. The negative beliefs are truth to me, they are fact. There must be a way out of it i know people have conquered this. But I tell myself that’s them, not me. They were not as severe as me, etc again instilling the idea that these thoughts are truth. Or that CBT is just ‘tricking’ myself into pretending the thoughts are not real.

  • I missed all my zoom calls i cant join im scared. I just feel a pain in my heart when im in front of people i want this pain to stop

  • Can’t it just be a part of someone’s personality (being more reserved and quiet) instead of being labelled as a form of mental disorder? When do we draw the line? Thanks!!

  • Are there different levels/ types of social anxiety. Because everything that I have heard in this and other videos have been relatable except the physical effects like fainting and sweeting

  • Shyness is social anxiety just not with many aspects and intensity. They basically have conversation social anxiety without the feeling like everyone is watching you aspect.

  • I am starting to overcome and manage my anxiousness and had the same therapy, my mentor right now would allow me to speak in front of small group, and now we are doing it in large group

  • Just wonderful, I have been researching “is social anxiety more common in males or females?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (should be on google have a look )? It is a great one of a kind guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my mate got excellent results with it.

  • I have been suffered from that feelings, and now also suffering.

    But I will told you that just told your parents about your anxiety disorder.

    They will help you to overcome from this disorder, if they are literate.

    And if you think that they will never help you or judge you, then you need to help yourself
    Just go and see a phycatrist, he or she will help you.
    You will think that they will judge you or your feelings,

    They will never judge you, even if you cry in front of them. They will give a hope.
    They will treat you like a friend. Even you can share your worst experience, worst feelings sadness and depression.
    And within a two or three months you will see a lot of changes…

    Never say that you don’t have money for that. And if you don’t have it then save for it.
    My parents even don’t heard words like depression, anxiety, social phobia.
    so, i decided to get the theraphy by own. I am not able to ask moeny from my parents for this. so i have saved moeny for that.
    After the theraphy i have seen a lot changes in my life.
    And if you do not wanted to get the theraphy then get the theraphy by own.
    Just by Reading alot self help books.
    Exercising daily.
    meditation
    Not suffering

    I know it’s difficult but,
    Getting the pain and overcoming the pain is better than staying in the pain

  • I just turned 13 and i dont know if i have social anxiety or i just get nervous at times, but everytime before school i get really nervous and sometimes throw up because im scared of going, im scared of being left out and sometimes i have those days where im really depressed, is this normal?

  • hey
    i really need to talk with my dad about my life
    its like needle wire stucked in my throat whenever i try to make a conversation
    m badly suffering from anxiety
    and this thing really sucks
    m like livin
    i need help from u guys if anyone can!

  • Church changed a lot of my social anxiety. I did the announcements and I became a choir member. Being a choir member I had lead parts so I was always challenge to be uncomfortable. I cried many of times. I’m not totally over anxiety but i am able to cope with my disorder without any medications. God and challenging my abilities help me to continue to move forward.

  • The things that kills me with exposure treatment for SAD is that it’s reversible. Spend some time not maintaining your ability to socialize (i.e. spend a couple weeks in quarantine) and you’re back to square 1. I’m so tired of this tbh

  • I am going to start my job on next week but still I am scared to go there. There are some negative thoughts inside me such as what if I could not meet my boss to complete my employment documents, what if I could not answer client’s enquiries clearly as I am scared to talk to stranger. This makes me have the avoidance for going to work and it is really painful for me. Can someone help me with this by giving me some suggestion? Thank you so much.

  • can I ask a question? I’m 13 years old and I’ve always been very shy and piss scared of talking to strangers. but the last few months, my everyday life has been really weird. last night i was with my good friends and maybe 7 others and just when we arrived i felt like i was going to throw up and i started shaking because the thought of so many people was just intimidating. I went home about 40 minutes earlier because I was about to cry, so bizarre was the thought of so many people. when I got home I started crying because it’s a whole new fear that I have not really tried before. I also almost always start crying when the teacher asks me a question in front of the whole class, because the thought of many people looking at me is disgusting. and i often lie in PE class that my knees are hurting, cause so many people are there, and im also scared of humiliating myself. and im also scared of inviting others over, because i dont htink im good enough for them… and also just the thought of my friends being out with a lot of people also scares me.. and omg when they dont answer before 5 minutes i freak out… help:( do u think it could be a form of social anxiety? probably not but I’m starting to shake at the thought of it. I have PTSD already and it has a big function on my anxiety about losing people. but this is really bad.

  • I am forced to show my face in school calls and i am terrified of it because I have really bad anxiety I feel like I am in a box being judged by everyone and everything.

  • I recently enrolled in a public speaking class of my own next semester. I had deliberately chosen it so I could get better at it, but when I thought about it later, I felt like it was a horrible idea. However, your video helped me rethink what the class would be like, and decreased my anxiety. It also gave me a better understanding of how to manage exposure therapy for oneself. Thank you <3

  • I totally would’ve freaked out if I was in a class that involved public speaking, let alone one that revolved around it. Weird thing about my anxiety is that it’s pretty severe but at its peak, I’m overcome with a sense of desperation that makes me do social things I wouldn’t otherwise be able to do in order to get out of the situation. As in, I get so anxious that I absolutely need to get out of the class and will go to the teacher and tell them if I really have to. But if I were in your situation, I would’ve just not attended class. I’ve literally hid in bathrooms for hours because I’ve been too scared. Funny how having social anxiety can make you too scared to see a therapist when they’re really the only one who can help you and so you get stuck not doing anything but wanting to.

  • so for quite some time i came across a video about social anxiety and some of the symptoms, and i clicked on it because i wanted to know more about it. during the video i felt myself relating to almost all of the stuff and that really scared me because i think i have mixed up my introverted self and shyness with social anxiety.

    the thing is, i’m not quite sure i suffer from it because i can do presentations in front of my class (i’ve known them all for 9 years so maybe that’s why), but the thought of going to a grocery store and having people look at me really scares me.

    i’ve been told by multiple people that i’m awkward and that i should be more confident.

    and whenever my friends try to take pictures or videos of me, i get so unbelievably uncomfortable because i can’t see how i look.

    another thing that makes me the most anxious of all is probably dancing, and the thought of going to a party where i’m ’expected’ to drink or dance with my friends. i know i can’t do that, and it feels like i will never be able to because i am so scared of what people think of me, or that i will do something that will embarrass me.

    the thing i’m most embarrassed about is probably that i can’t even show my face without makeup on to my parents, because i’m scared that they will think i am ugly.

    as i type this down i realise how stupid it is, but i’m too scared to reach out for help because i’m scared that my therapist will judge me or think i am too ugly.

    again, there are things I can do, like going to school, though i feel uncomfortable during all classes because i’m scared people are looking at me or think that i’m ugly. and it sounds so weird when i write it down, but i am so scared of what people think of me.

    if someone has any like idk, advice or knowledge idek, you could always tell me, i will really appreciate it:/

  • Im 20 i need to escape this its ruining my social life….Its started in my chilhood i was bullied from 4th grade all the way to 10thgrade…

  • I was extremely shy as a kid. I remember my mom tried to make me play soccer but I would freak out and end up on the bench crying for an hour.

    No clue how I’ve made it to 20

  • I dont even care about what they think about me im just worried about what if we cant start a conversation or things get awkward like someone asked me to play fortnite teh other day and i said no cause straight away i had a panic attack

  • Could I get some advice? So I have had one appointment with a Clinical Psychologist, and I have another one soon, and I wanna bring up that I think I might have Socia Anxiety but I don’t know how…

  • OMG i fit in all the caterories…Im being labbeled as a handicapped person help��…im given largactil but it don’t help me as i want it to be…

  • Thank you for sharing your story, I’ve had pretty bad social anxiety for years now but slowly I’m getting better. I can now make eye contact and I’m very happy about that:)

  • I have severe social anxiety. People try not to laugh at my strange facial expressions. When people see me they immediately lock there car doors and gather their kids out of fear. I try to take photes of myself to capture the strange expressions but i think i look normal. I dont have a clue of what expression creeps people out. I avoid contact with himans untill i can figure out my problem. Each time pepple react to my strange expressions i completely withdraw and enter deep depression.

  • Jesus loves you❤️, in the Bible in Matthew 11:28-30 is written the words of Jesus; Come to me all you who weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light. Those are the words of Jesus. Also in the Bible is written in the books of Acts 16:31; Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household. God loves you, you can go through everything with the help of Jesus, have a good day.

  • This video honestly sounds like a treating not heavy social anxiety but a kid who got bullied in school and got stolen his lolipop. It is far from reality, you know what is worst thing having social anxiety? being scared in public, it can end wrong really quickly like hospital quickly or you can come home and feel chronic social anxiety where even your own comfort zone doesnt help much(thats me) you shut in your home and never want to come out.

  • What social anxiety treatment would you recommend for someone who doesn’t have a professional to help them? any activities you’d recommend or is it specific to the person? Thank you for the vid, it was extremely helpful and made me feel less alone����

  • What do i do???? I’m an HSP (highly senstive person), with social anxiety disorder, living with a covert narcissist… honestly, I don’t know how to handle life anymore.

  • in this quarantine, my social anxiety getting worse because it has been a long time since I interacted with people, when I took my graduation certificate, I was sweating and shaking in front of the teacher and lost focus, he asked if I was sick? I was just trying my best. i hate this

    i want to be free from this feeling, I don’t have a friend since i was in kindergarten until now im 18 years old. i really hate myself

    sorry my bad english

  • I got prescribed lexapro for general anxiety disorder. After reading reviews I got horrified to even start it. So I told my psychiatrist and he prescribed me Cymbalta instead. Again doing research I’ve now scared myself out of starting that as well. In ur opinion are either of these safe choices?

  • I couldn’t even go to a supermarket cause my social anxiety would drown me. I avoided talking with people cuz after the talk was over I would constantly think what did I do wrong or whether I was awkward or not. I still have those feelings but not as severe as before. I still push myself very hard to go out and talk to someone. It’s frustrating and exhausting.
    One thing that disturbs me a lot is that to me it’s weird how people nowadays make real shyness, introversion or social anxiety (not the fake one where people say they are shy but show their dick or tits on camera) seem like cool. It is far away from being cool for us who have that. For those that don’t know what’s it like, be considerate. We are not anime characters.

  • I found out that the root for my social anxiety (still working through it) began after being molested for 4 years and burying shame because of it….feeling ugly, not good enough and keeping things to hide for that long without telling anybody….eeekkkkkk

  • I would probably slap anyone that answered all my issues with “So what would be so bad about that?” If she didn’t think her feelings were bad she wouldn’t need help. Thank goodness for really caring professional therapists!

  • I’d like to know that besides all the side effects whether it’s first-line treatment or second line treatment which antidepressant has been found to reduce social anxiety the best because a person like me who has schizotypal has very high extreme social phobia so I’d like to just know which one is the most potent including Maois and tricylics

  • What if that social anxiety disorder doesn’t stop you from trying new things? How do you fix all the times you get asked to leave with that anxiety because of their own social anxiety too? Do you painfully endure them long after most people would have given up or do you just move onto the next try to succeed maybe too soon after getting rejected again instead of counting your blessings first? Because in a world where fear of fear often seems to be reigning supreme while having a mild lung condition that limits your lung capacity when others seeing you behave different than they do it can arouse their social anxiety and if you are not aware of your own need to remember deep breathing the social anxiety can be going around the room in a vortex circle. Having a sense of humor about how people are funny helps.

  • Many thanks, I’ve been looking for “how is social anxiety disorder different from shyness” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Qanwen Donuke Approach (do a google search )? Ive heard some decent things about it and my mate got cool success with it.

  • I was very surprised to hear you mention body focused repetitive behaviors! I have trichotillomania (in addition to my SA) and I don’t really ever hear the condition discussed.

  • I tell people that social anxiety is a PHYSICAL condition with MENTAL symptoms. It derives from a lack of Serotonin, and possible imbalance in other neuro-chemicals, i.e. Dopamine, Norepenephrin, etc.. It is a basic survival state of heightened awareness required in the most dire situations, that is, to deal with a vicious lion in the bush. The problem is, there is no lion. The anxious person KNOWS THAT. Telling them “it’s OK, no reason to be stressed” does NOT help. It only makes it worse, since they already feel bad about being anxious. Anyway, one main trigger is social speaking. Practically everyone feel that “butterflies” anxiety, but for social anxiety sufferers, it’s like having to walk into a cage of lions. Again, we KNOW that there are no lions, but our body reacts as if there are. Positive experiences are critical to maintaining a functional life, as does familiarity and repetition. And although he didn’t mention it, getting the right medication (usually SSRIs) can mean the difference between a life of suffering, and one that seems worth living. Remember that we are treating a PHYSICAL condition with the meds, not a mental one. But if we lessen the physical condition, the mental component will be less severe. Then there’s years of therapy and practice to build up that library of positive experiences to give you some confidence in new situations, and to be able to recognize the onset of symptoms, especially panic attacks. Oh one more thing, social anxiety sufferers are experts at hiding the fact. So the next time you see that person at a party sitting in a corner trying to hide, they might not just be “shy,” but could really be suffering and need someone to get them out of the crowd where they can breath and get their head straight.

  • Hello, Dr. Mattu!

    I followed your advice on performing grounding techniques for my public anxiety. It worked!

    Every morning and night, i practice the 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 senses grounding technique.

    This afternoon, i went to the grocery store with no fear whatsoever. No panic attacks while waiting in the long lines either.

    Thank you so much for creating this channel!

  • But becareful, be social 50% not 100%, your job ( money), look, knowledge, faith, should be fifty fifty, 50% on your opinion and what you want and 50% on your environment opinion and what he want, be like a politician

  • I just got my first job ever since I left university and now its after 6 months and I quit by job. I can’t help myself to write a resignation letter. I can’t even type a single word. I was scared. Scared of what ��‍♀️i don’t even know

  • I’ve been studying top natural cure for shyness and found a fantastic resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you’re interested)

  • Hi, Dr Ali, I just wanted to thank you for this video. I did not know for sure I had anxiety issues, till I hit 30. I just thought something was very wrong with me and I was just weird functioning person. Honestly at 34 I still think that half of the time, and still avoid socialising. This video makes me feel that I can get better, so thank you for that.

  • Hello Dr. Carandang, I’ve taken Venlafaxine for social anxiety between August 2019 to January 2020, starting from 37.5mg and gradually moving to 225mg. I have decided to go back on them recently after 4 months and was prescribed 225mg. What’s your opinion about my doctors decision? I’ve experienced no side effects so far.

  • I did this…It did help in that i learned how to challenge my thoughts…But I did not find that the out of 10 or 100 hundered questions could help me connect….I think that anxiety is all
    in the moment and that in that moment then it feels off the charts….But when you have time to think and understand then you underestimate that number because you know that it is a very irrational feeling.There should also be an understanding of how ingrained these thoughts can become over a length of time.I had this and I did not get help for more than 20 years because i did not know what it was…It leads to depression,Perfectionism and so many other problems.I would dwell on bad memories and drag them up to crush myself,it was like i could not bear to feel happy.I still do this from time to time but finding somebody to to trust or talk to really does help.

  • I have social anxiety all my life and never really knew what it was or never really wanted to except the fact that normal per say. But that’s so strange because I’ll like to be in crowds of people I like to be around people I like to be seen by people but at the same time get nervous when I’m around people and I don’t know how to hold conversations with people even family members cousins brothers grandparents mother. So I really needed this video.

  • I was really quiet in school. I remember one person asking me why I never talked but I don’t remember answering him. Who knows why?

  • this is great the “putting the thought on trial ” is a great way to make it easy to remember in everyday life thank you for this video it refilled my motivation to keep doing the work

  • Your story is so inspiring! Indeed, when you start to shift your perspective towards dealing with social situations entirely, you can really make a big difference to your social anxiety. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • I am now at a point, I really want to end my social anxiety. I start to realize, how much chances I am missing because of my social anxiety. I already made a huge progress; presentations aren‘t a problem anymore. I feel very confident even if I cant find the right words anymore, then I just stay chill and try to explain it otherwise. My problem is that I have anxiety when I am talking to teachers and even people in my class. But you know what? I don‘t want that anymore. Anxiety destroys my life and I am going to end this! I am going to use every situation to get over my social anxiety until it‘s non-existent.

  • This was great, I been tryin to find out about “ask me my crippling social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Qanwen Donuke Approach (should be on google have a look )? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got great results with it.

  • I’m feel stress heartburn heart heaviness sort breath help less headhavyness like agoraphobia witch medicine I should take this plz dr help

  • I’ve had social anxiety for so long. I absolutely hate talking to someone on the phone when it requires relaying important information. I also struggle with being afraid of getting a negative reaction from strangers. That is why I let a complete stranger into my car even though I didn’t want to, and nearly had a heart attack from the amount of anxiety I was having.

  • Public speaking class was the worst. I would just think about all of the things that I had done wrong for days and became very anxious other people were judging me because of what I said.

  • I have generalized anxiety, panic disorder and social anxiety. While around friends I’m super chatty and I feel comfortable in being kind of a weirdo, but I’m terrified of talking to people I don’t know, because I dont know what they’ll think of me and how the conversation will go. The thing is, I’m an actress, I’ve been acting since I was a kid and I love it. I never felt shy to be on a stage, but that’s because it is a controlled situation, I know exactly what to say and do. I’d rather perform in front of 500 people than do small talk to a group of 5 strangers I just met. When I talked about this to my dad, he half-joking said “you’re an actress, just ACT confident”. I thought it was silly at first but then I realized it could work. When I met new people I pretended to be chill and confident (even though I was literally shaking and feeling like I was about to faint), and it worked! People would like talking to me and sometimes I would even comment on how I was nervous about going to that social event and they would reply with “but you look so confident!” and then little by little I would actually feel confident talking to them. Fake it until you make it haha. I still get very anxious when going to social events without people I know very well, but now I don’t cry in the car before going in and, even though I’m anxious, I can actually enjoy going and meeting new people.

  • Mine is weird. In work parties or even intimate dinners with extended family I fear having to interact or even fear being annoyed by others. I can be on a stage and give a speech or perform no problem. Tonight my neighbors who I know so-so and seem really cool, invited me to their bbq I want to go but I don’t really know them and I definitely don’t know all of their friends and family who will be there so it literally paralyzes me so I declined I said maybe I would pop in later on knowing that I’m not going to. It sucks because most of the time I’m content with being alone but I do like interactions with people sometimes and I would like to have gone over there tonight but I feel like I get so awkward that people think I’m strange or weird. So I just avoided all together. In the past it’s made a lot of people think that I was snobby or anti-social when that really was never the case at all. So then even if I decline I still feel some sort of fear of being misjudged. ��‍♀️

  • My friends will tell me that they have also suffered from that and overcomed that. But the reality is that they have never suffered. Only God knows that from which feelings I have been suffered. They told me that you are a looser who is not overcoming from that feelings. But they don’t know that how strong it is.

  • You may think you know what other people are thinking, or assume that they are thinking the worst about you. But I’d be willing to bet that most of the time, 99% of the time, you’re wrong, because most of the time people are thinking about themselves.

    The sooner you except that, the less likely you are to put yourself in a position that makes you uncomfortable.

    -Marc Maron

  • I have practical advice that’s worked for me in the past (I’m in a mess recently so might need to repeat it lol):

    Start working out regularly. Seriously, it’s a life changer, however cliche it might sound. Don’t overdo it if you’re a total beginner go with 3-4 times per week

    Start cold showers every morning. I didn’t believe it, but once I tried it, my mind was super sharp and I was able to focus on the present moment.

    Start meditation/yoga or both. Meditation is a must imo, but yoga also involves a bit of it so you can combine the two

    Start with gradual exposure. Basically, create a list of things to do ( it can be as simple as going to the mall, up to facing your worst fear ever). Then, rank these things. And then you should start doing things that are ranked lower on the list. Once you’re comfortable with that thing, move up until you reach the top. Know that this can take months, so don’t rush it.

    Intermittent fasting worked well for me, but I know it’s not for everyone.

    Combine all of these and you’ll see at least some results, I guarantee.

  • Number one fear: Spiders. We live in a place where they are always in our unfinished basement and are large. I’ve come up with a few ways to manage this. I check the stairs and walls before going into the basement. If there’s one on the wall, I won’t go down, but if it’s on a step and it’s not a big spider (pea-dime size body and small legs), then I can cause a vibration that makes it move, or I skip that step (if possible). If it’s on the floor, then I will go down, grab a broom or spray and kill it. I never used to be able to even kill one. Sometimes, if it’s on a wall but away from where I need to go, I’ll ignore it. Acknowledging that it’s there seems to help. I read that a fear of spiders and/or snakes might be an evolutionary trait, i.e., it developed as a safety feature in our ancestors. Any thoughts on that? I always thought it was simply because my mother modeled it for me!

  • Good info the greatest success that I have ever had was with the Seans Shy Program (just google it) without a doubt the most useful resource i’ve followed.

  • My biggest fears are bugs and germs/infections/infects/illness and traveling on my own. Don’t really have a solution for the first two, but I did find my fear of traveling on my own slowly decreased when I started visiting my sister more often or going to a class, basically just the same old routine, the same route always.
    And then I got less scared of taking new routes that I didn’t go yet, because I knew I’d eventually make it (even if I took the wrong train).
    Also, since I had such high motivation to visit my best friend (who lives in another country) I flew there myself. Which was a huge step haha, but I did it again and will visit her once more in a few weeks.

  • When I was in elementary, I am always nervous when I have a recitation or talking to another person that I don’t know because I was always judged so badly so I need to look myself because small mistake, people judging me. I was so embarrassed whenever people insulting me. I have actually a friend who is a boy and I have a crush on him. So when our graduation just around the corner, he is starting to ignoring me like he is hiding something. When my grandmother went home from meeting for graduation, she telled me why he is ignoring me because one of my classmate who is also my friend said why he is ignoring me is because that I am a fake person, just because of the usb files that my brother deleted it because he thought that our project is already got passed. I was so shocked and cried so heavily that why our friendship ends here when our graduation is near. Actually we are four friends, 2 boys, 1 girl and me and he is the closest to me among the three. In the next day, 1 of my boy best friend said that we should interact SECRETLY because he said that he is threatening him and my other friend to not interact with me because I am a fake friend, so we decided to do that. When we are in highschool freshmen, we are classmates again and my 2 other friends are in different section. When he have friends, he is starting saying to his friends that I am fake friend. And you know what shocking is, his friends didn’t believe him because for them I am a good person. In our math class I am sitting beside him because of sitting arrangement. When our class is not starting yet, he is insulting me without my name mentioned but I know that is me because we are not interacting each other, insulting me EVERYDAY but this insult makes me angry even HARDER. In my mind I was like” I really want to kill you” but I’m glad that my classmate trying me to calm myself down. Whenever he is insulting me, I really want to shout and punch him but my mind like this is wrong because he will accuse me a bad person. Whenever I got home I am always crying in front of my grandmother and comforting me. My nervousness becomes more severe because he is always laughing at me whenever I got embarrassed or even in just small actions. One day one of friend of him who also friend mine said that if he apologize to me, you have to race with him and you should be the winner and I said”this is a sh*tty way to apologize and I think that we should talk about this” but still doesn’t want to apologize to me just because I reject the offer. I always said sorry to him by texting but refuses it. If he really wants to apologize me then talk to me because I just only need an apology and I don’t want to be friend with him because of this situation. He just worsened my life and I don’t befriend with other people because this situation might happened again. I think almost all the part are not about social anxiety but I really need advice fo you guys and sorry if my english are not correct because English is not my first language.

  • Cheers for the Video! Forgive me for butting in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you thought about Proutklarton Being Quiet Plan (just google it)?

    It is a great exclusive product for getting rid of anxiety and panic attacks fast minus the normal expense. Ive heard some great things about it and my best friend Jordan after a lifetime of fighting got great success with it.

  • The best medication is alcohol but, it comes at a very high price. Aint nothin in this world for free. Other than that, any kind of sedative helps but your psychiatrist won’t prescribe more than maybe 8 of them because “I don’t want you forming a habit.” Ill take a habit over having a anxiety/panic attack just doing normal things.

  • possibly nobody cares, or this comment is lost with all the rest. But, my online classes started just a few days ago…. I had not felt symptoms of anxiety for 2 years. Yes, I am medicated for the same. I thought I would not be so overwhelmed by all this, but even at home I have strong palpitations, nausea and fear that I will do something stupid or ridiculous in front of my classmates… Mom has been very proud of me for not having any discomfort, I don’t want to disappoint her, because really my way of feeling is very stupid. shit:)

  • I suffered from both selective mutism and avoidant personality disorder. I grew up in an abusive house hold and was bullied all the time and sometimes I still am because of it and its miserable and bitter. But I think my plan is to join toastmasters. since your video gave me a little bit of hope that it might be fixable.

  • Exactly how I fell sometime especially when we have social gathering with my old friends and with my relatives also affect my job too in this social anxiety!

  • This is why I love staying alone I don’t really go out anywhere but now that school has started again I’m just really stressed I want to stay on my own but I can’t cause everyone just forces you to be social I’m really scared about presentations or making new friends I have nothing interesting about me to talk about ��

  • I’ve actually used weed for my anxiety, it worked at first but over the years after I smoke my anxiety worsens to where I just want to lock myself in my room and not talk to anyone

  • Hello! My name is Léda and I’m 13 years old. Yesterday my uncle and his girlfriend came to visit us. I was really excited to see them! When I came down from upstairs to greet them I just BLOCKED out and felt a little dizzy. I put my hands on my knees and bend down. They could clearly see something was up with me and I just told them I was tired. I felt really embarrassed and just wanted to go upstairs. The next day I just wanted to start a new chapter and have a really good day with them but when I saw them I hugged my Mom and told her ‘i cant do this Mom i dont feel good’ the same thing happend but worse. I didn’t see the things around me and the vision was just blurry. I sat down and told them I want to play board games with them but I cant contol my body shakinnggg from fear. They understood me but I don’t know what I’m going to do now. I’m really embarrassed to go to a psychologist but I know I need it. I also hate going outside beacuse I hate myself. The way I look, sound and act. Please someone!

  • Cheers for this, I been tryin to find out about “how many adults have social anxiety disorder?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (search on google )? It is a good one off product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the hard work. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my work buddy got amazing results with it.

  • Cheers for this, I’ve been looking for “what is a sentence for anxiously?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Beyophia Unimaginable Blaster (do a google search )? It is a great exclusive product for discovering how to say goodbye to your shyness and anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my buddy got cool results with it.

  • I have a severe social anxiety. It prevents me from interacting with people i want to hang out with. And also when i join groups on chats or some platforms, i always stay a silent reader because im so affraid that people will make fun of me or ask me a question i cant answer what will make them laugh. Its really controlling my live and i wish i could be more extroverted. Reading the comment section gives me a feeling that im not alone. Sorry for my bad english.

  • Dear doctor I am fear and anxiety patient..It affects my digestive system,nauseau and heartburn..I used Xanax.5mg…I started ssri fluxotine it gave benefits for 3/4 months dose was 20 mg…Then now it is not working my anxiety attacks and fear are back…..One doctor asked to double the dose to 40 mg fluxotine..But other doctor advised 10mg cipralex or esitlaprom…please advise sir what I can do…I started escitalpram 10 mg which have side effects initially for first 2 days..

  • This was great, been searching for “clark and wells social anxiety model” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my brother in law got cool results with it.

  • I have so much anxiety even just to go in a shop and ask for something. I practice in my head what I am going to say before entering and in general I avoid speaking to strangers. The most frustrating thing is that when I walk I feel constantly stared at and laughed at. If I see a nice shop window I don’t stop and look at it because I feel like people are judging me for what I “like”..same thing for example in libraries I’m too scared to pick up a book I’m interested in because I’m “sure” people will laugh at me or judge me… I’m worn out, I hate this

  • Just wonderful, been searching for “how to get rid of insecurity and social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Telaavar Anxious Amanita (do a search on google )?

    It is an awesome one of a kind product for removing the root cause of social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend Sam finally got great results with it.

  • My social anxiety is so bad that I won’t even go to the doctor about it, I know people can tell how anxious I get and doctors would friendly laugh or chuckle and not even mean anything by it but I still believe that they’re laughing at me

  • Winner of a video, I’ve been looking for “can you be outgoing and still have social anxiety?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (do a google search )? It is an awesome one of a kind product for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my friend got amazing results with it.

  • This is glorious, been searching for “how to treat social anxiety disorder naturally” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Qanwen Donuke Approach (just google it )? Ive heard some amazing things about it and my brother in law got great success with it.

  • This was great, been searching for “how to get over social anxiety in college” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Qanwen Donuke Approach (should be on google have a look )? Ive heard some great things about it and my mate got cool results with it.

  • What you’ve shared is very insightful for me. My fear is opening up to people. I fear that I might disappoint them. This led me to eventually avoiding any conversation that may result to a rather close or even acquaintance-like relationship. I was scared of speaking myself out. I shut down all my social media accounts and isolated myself fron the world. Eventually, it made me think that, I, as a pscyhology major and a mental health advocate, have not done much to reach out to people and help them and it has not benefited me as well.
    Now, I am glad I’ve watched your video because it helped me to realize that I am in the process of exposing myself to social situations. I always try initiating conversations now, and even opened a blog for writing my thoughts and for promoting the importance of mental health. I look forward to becoming more confident of my speaking and to encourage more people like me to speak up too.
    Thank you so much for what you’re doing to the community. You deserve much more recognition, Dr. Mattu!

  • I was suffering from anxiety disorder since 2017. Now i am taking medication from #planetayurveda and following these remedies also and feeling good.

  • i commented on this page 3 years ago and to see my comment today really brough home how much i have overcame social anxiety over the last 3 years,i never thought i would get to this point but the only answer is to put yourself into situations that bring on the anxiety,if your mouth is trembling,hands sweating,you just have to push through it,if i can do it anyone can!!!!

  • I hate my social anxiety because people either see me as really shy and someone to take pity over or someone who doesn’t at all want to talk to someone (which is the complete opposite)

  • For me I feel like I burden my friends with constantly talking about feeling anxious or negative self talk that I don’t talk to them about how I’m feeling cuz I feel like they won’t like me if I’m constantly a negative person. That I’ll kill the party vibes. So I end up feeling alone with my issues which makes it worse.

    Can anyone relate to the feeling of being isolated with your thoughts?

  • This is just superb, been searching for “dealing with social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Telaavar Anxious Amanita (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )?

    It is an awesome exclusive product for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some great things about it and my work colleague finally got astronomical results with it.

  • This is a fascinating video. I enjoyed the explanation of these tips. I released a video today on a similar subject matterI would enjoy it if you would take a look and let me know what you think! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PHFdXDJS83g

  • best medication for social phobia is Citalopram or xanax
    I’ve been on Paroxetine and it near killed me.. Sleep 2 hours, have mega panics attack 5 times stronger.. than normal like lion want to catch me, had huge depression,,. It was sick,.,. social phobic need calmants because they feel very nervous inside.. While paroxetine is antidepressant not calming your nerves but boosting it..
    paroxetine may be good but for people with depression they need activator.. For social phobic this mediation is not just usless but also deadly

  • The one thing I hate most about my anxiety is that I’m hyper aware of people’s reaction to my anxiety. Some people can be so cruel! Having a look of disgust on their face while I’m talking, agreeing with someone else’s point of view if I’m being challenged for what I said (group convo), or cutting me off because I’m not getting my point across clearly or fumbling my words. I just want to get to a point where I’m 100% comfortable just being me because people can tell when you’re not. Makes me want to lock myself in my room forever.

  • i hope i can become a changed person now that i’ve seen this video and thank you so much for this video it brings me hope and happiness��

  • Many thanks, I have been researching “what are the signs of anxiety in a teenager?” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Senonnor Puzzling Superiority (just google it )? It is an awesome one off guide for discovering how to conquer your social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my friend got great results with it.

  • Winner of a video, I have been researching “coping skills social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Qanwen Donuke Approach (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? Ive heard some super things about it and my partner got amazing success with it.

  • What’s so bad about not having friends? What’s so bad about being alone?…..wtf it’s just so great, why dont you try it “therapist”

  • I don’t get it. the therapist tries to find positive things that contradict the facts. what if I was a really bad, mean person and for example work as a drug dealer, etc. Do I have to live with anxiety? The Doctor tries to convince her that you are good person actually. What if not

  • LMFAO. Trying to treat the symptoms of a disease rather than treating the root cause. So typical of science. Let me tell you fuckers why you feel social anxiety. Your mind is producing thoughts irrelevant to the present moment or the thoughts that you do not want it to produce. That essentially means your mind is not taking instructions from you and until and unless you tame it, your condition will not improve. And you know what is the only tool that can help you get control over your mind? That’s meditation. Meditation is the only way you can 100% cure this problems of yours. The another method is mind programming, CBT being a part of it. Start meditating immediately under a master practitioner. Slowly your mind will stop producing negative thoughts and your anxiety will dissolve because the inception of all anxieties is the thoughts.

  • I’ve always felt like I have SAD but then I hear other ppls stories and I feel almost selfish because I don’t have panic attacks.

    I freak out at the thought of talking to someone especially strangers, my immediate thought is that there going to look at me and think wow what a weirdo.I think about first impressions and that how in the first 30s of talking to someone they then make a judgement of what kind of person you are so it’s just easier to hide away.
    Every stranger I see I immediately see them as hostile and try to move away, I think this may be linked to being bullied all through school.
    The strange thing is I’ve fought so hard to avoid being around people I’ve found that the safest thing for me is to stay inside and shut the curtains, this makes me feel safe and now part of me doesn’t want to get help because I’ve found away to cope and I’m scared to get help.
    Is this social anxiety disorder?

  • Cheers for this, I have been researching “tips to overcome social anxiety disorder” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of Qanwen Donuke Approach (search on google )? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my buddy got cool results with it.

  • The negative pattern is challenged with an alternative postive pattern. The therapist is showing evidence that her judgments about reality are not true. The client explains her negatives and postives with her rational conscious mind. Unfortunately the problem isnt what she thinks but judgement itself. To break the pattern of judgement of good or bad, negative or postive a different part of the mind needs to be engage. Thats the unconscious. That part deals in symbolism and metaphor. This conversation has no unconscious content. The client answers quickly with nothing that looks like deeper accessing of unconscious material. If there is alot of umming and arring and pausing or her eyes start blinking or she explains something in a metaphor or symbols come to her then your getting somewhere. I use a conversational approach in hypnosis. I ask the same kind of questions but many more abstract ones too. Once i see the unconscious signs i encourage more until trance occurs. Then just i give general suggests that the client applys there own meaning to to heal the problem. All by accessing there own unconscious resources.

  • That looks like a very easy client! I never see such people with SAD. But it’s a good video to see some techniques. Just the techniques, but not the empathy of the therapist.

  • I personally felt this approach; one question after another, was rather like an interrogation. I understand this is a model. and one that is probably used differently in reality. But for me, this session seemed rushed, with rash judgements being made, without really listening to what was being said!

  • “what would be so bad about not having any friends?”
    answer:” I’d feel so sad and lonely, I’d hang myself eventually
    “what would be so bad about you hanging yourself?”
    “well, lady, I won’t have the pleasure of being alive enough to whack you on the head for asking me stupid questions”

  • This is glorious, I have been researching “am social anxiety” for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried Qanwen Donuke Approach (do a search on google )? Ive heard some super things about it and my mate got amazing success with it.

  • The origins of my social anxiety are an interesting one. I used to be very confident, extroverted, and charmismatic… there was this one girl and I who were talking, but we never came to date.. she walked out of my life and it hurt real bad.. I told myself I would never let myself feel this bad again, so decided it would be best to feel nothing at all.. I started obsessing with psychopathy and serial killers… I loved the idea of being free, of being able to be without emotional bonds and negative feelings… so I tried to turn myself into a sociopath.. the way I went about it wasn’t good though, I deliberately broke social norms and purposely interpreted everything as bad or negative( because I was hoping this would mimic the feelings of trauma)… I would stare at people and instead of fake laugh like I used to at their jokes, I would just stare straight faced….this made me feel so intensely negative and I did this long enough that I developed social anxiety… now this shit is real bad and im very angry

  • Okay im 15 and im still so young and i have this and im now really gonna work on myself to get rid of this anxiety, i will try to talk more and to new people if i can and then try it with my family and so on….

  • I saw a comment in another video that said their anxiety is more of pre and post socializing. Which described me perfectly. Im about to go to a meeting eith friends and new pple i dont know. Im MAD scared that smth will go wrong and my stomach is in a huge knot and my heart is going so fast its hard to catch up… But as soon as i get there ill be fine. Itll go smoothly but when i come back home im gonna overthink EVERYTHING that happened that day

  • Excellent video! Extremely informative and very helpful. I have arachnophobia (fear of spiders) and from when I was little all the way into my adult life now, it’s stayed with me. However, around high school, when a hoard of giant spiders infested the outside patio door, I started to slowly overcome my phobia-or at least cope with it. Seeing the spiders not really going out of their way to break through the glass and attack me made me realize that they’re just simple, if not creepy, creatures. So, I reasoned that I wouldn’t let myself be afraid of them or kill them unless I saw them in the house or inside of where I may be like my car. If they were outside, I’d let them be; in turn, I managed to cope with my phobia and now I’m less afraid of spiders (but I won’t ever watch any horror movies or documentaries related to spiders as they trigger my anxiety).

  • … we can’t all be amazing. I think ACCEPTING that we are crap with some things and aren’t afraid to admit it helps:) social anxiety is all about protecting our ego. Once we accept what we struggle with and can see it face on it makes things easier.

  • I think the human desire to label all these so called mental issues is one thing that’s causing them, as a personal carer I’ve learned people tend to look at the disability before the person, we have this twisted idea of what normal is and try to push people to be what we think they should be, rather we should just accept them as they are and let them live the way they want to, if you fear driving ask yourself do really need a car? there are millions of people that live a good life without a car. if you are anxious in social situations who says you can’t live an isolated life with only the people who make you feel good? we need to steer away from this control system and bloody equality, WE ARE NOT ALL EQUAL, we are are individuals who each prefer different types of lives

  • You have very sexy deep voice I’m on Zoloft Im feeling drowsy and clinched jaw for some reason 6 days and feel no better I’m thinking about upping the dose to 100 my doctor still didn’t give the OK to do it but i m desperate to be happy a year ago my other doctor gave me 150 mg I told my doc and he still started me on 50

  • ahh, a good old thought record. I am currently studying the postgraduate diploma in cbt and it’s definitely interesting to see how the techniques i’ve learned thus far are being used and the therapist seems to be executing them quite well. I just stumbled upon this channel so it seems i’ll be watching some more videos to give me tips. Thanks

  • “What would be so bad about that?”
    Well…I might become suicidal because I’ve been rejected…
    “What would be so bad about th-shit hold on….uh….”

  • I’ve been shy since I was young but as I grew up it got worse and worse. Eventually my mom took me to a doctor to seek help and I was diagnosed with Social Anxiety, I’ve been taking antidepressants ever since. I still have social anxiety, it’s bad I have left my room in 3 days now. I can’t even interact with my family anymore I really hate how it ruined my life. I hate the way my brain works. I hate myself but I can’t stop.

  • Social anxiety is normal. Overly anxious people are on a higher intellect spectrum. You will struggle with it and then it will transform into MDD. Then you wont give a crap. Your brain is telling you “Okay now you are a old person” “Your maturity is way advanced because you are on a higher intellect,and there is nothing on earth that will stimulate you bad or good.” it is suffering. Normal people dont see the big picture.

  • Sometimes if I pretend like I’m a character in a show or a play like I’m doing a performance I can swing my way through it but that doesn’t always work.

  • really liked the video! I was wondering if you could talk about the anxiety of starting therapy with a new therapist because I am, and I’m terrified.

  • I’ve had social anxiety for as long as I can remember. Though, it started out very severely when I was younger, something called selective mutism. Which is a very severe form of social anxiety where children (usually younger) ‘decide’ not to speak to anyone. Or at least that’s what some people think. Though, to me it was more like I was physically completely incapable of doing so. No matter how hard I tried, not a single word would come out my mouth. I wouldn’t speak to teachers, friends, my grandparents and even my close immediate family (that I lived with) at one point. But it got bette. I slowly started to talk to more and more people. Now here I am. 16 years old. In my last year of secondary school. No longer classed as having ‘selective’ mutism. (Which I’m proud of myself for, because I’ve come a long way.) But I am still struggling with social anxiety in general. I can’t put my hand up in class. If attention is drawn to me, my face my burn up and turn right red which only makes me feel even MORE embarrassed. I avoid certain people and teachers so I don’t have to talk to them. I have very few friends. I’m afraid to participate in after school activities or during class etc. For example, everyone thinks that I’m just lazy because I never put effort into PE lessons, they pick on me. Call me lazy, boring, can’t be bothered etc. But the truth is that I just can’t put effort in because I’m so SO afraid of people judging me and pointing me out or congratulating me for doing well or for just being good at something. It would make me feel stupid. And I KNOW it’s insane. Trust me, I do. But it’s how my brain works and I can’t help it. You’d think that I’d think I get more attention drawn to me by not putting in effort and being ‘lazy’ but I think otherwise. And I can’t explain why. Maybe that’s a deeper issue, who knows. But another thing is I can’t even eat in front of people. I find it so difficult to actually eat or drink in front of someone. Because, what if I drop a bit of my sandwich or something is round my mouth or I accidentally choke on my food etc etc etc, in my brain, people are staring at me and judging me and just waiting for me to slip up in some way and when I do I’ll get laughed at and I’ll be humiliated for life. I can’t even discuss what I’ve eaten the day before or recently etc because I’m afraid that someone will judge me and think I’m unhealthy and call me fat and spread things about me. I remember this one time my friend invited me round her house for dinner and she wanted me to get on her school bus (I don’t usually get on buses) to her house with her and have dinner there with her. But I couldn’t. Because I was scared that I would have to socialise with people on the bus from my school that I don’t usually talk to. And that when I had dinner at her house, everyone would stare and I couldn’t handle eating in front of her (back then it was so bad that I would eat lunch at school, I would have to starve because I was so afraid of being judged, things are a little better now.) and then I thought that I could just not eat what she gives me but then I’d look like I’m ungrateful and spoilt and then it would be her mum that’s judging em instead. Do I just didn’t go and missed out on a fun opportunity because of it. I don’t even have the confidence to ask my mum if I can go to real CBT in real life. Which is why I’m here.Social anxiety stops me from living my life. Doing what I want to do. And I’m trying everything I can to make it stop and take back control. Because I would give absolutely ANYTHING to make that happen. And you should too. This is my story that I just wanted to share. It was more for me than anything. Just to go through everything with my self and try to sort things out in my head, if you get what I’m trying to say. But I’m hoping maybe other people can relate and know that their not alone and we just have to help each other get through this. If you read all this, you deserve an award ��. Keep trying. Never give up because remember, you’ve improved before, so you can do it again and again and again.