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Positive Parenting Tips. Español (Spanish) As a parent you give your children a good start in life—you nurture, protect and guide them. Parenting is a process that prepares your child for.

When setting consequences: Avoid ultimatums. Your teen might interpret an ultimatum as a challenge. Be clear and concise. Rather than telling your teen not to stay out late, set a specific curfew. Keep your rules short.

In This Section Gameplan for Positive Parenting Your Teen. Positive parenting a teenager? A terrific teen who’s responsible, Staying Connected to Your Teen.

Much of the same advice applies that was true when he was a toddler: Reconnect every. Respect your teen’s opinions and need for privacy. Encourage healthy self-care in the areas of sleep, exercise, food, etc.

The CDC’s (2014) tips provide a wealth of information for parents. Here are nine child-rearing tips that can help you feel more fulfilled as a parent. 1. Boosting Your Child’s Self-Esteem Kids start developing their sense of self as babies when they see themselves through their parents’ eyes. Positive Parenting Powerpoint Slides [ppt] Positive Parenting Slides (shorter version) [ppt] Positive Parenting Slides (Spanish) [pdf] Positive Discipline Guidelines [pdf] Positive Solutions for Families [pdf] Positive Solutions for Families (Spanish) [pdf] Positive. Implementing these 20 positive parenting tips is a solid method to bring more happiness into your home and will significantly expand the emotional well being of your child and family.

20 Positive Parenting Tips. Read on to find twenty positive parenting tips (plus a bonus hint). 1 – Give Positive. Fear, uncertainty, and being holed up at home to slow the spread of COVID-19 can make it tough for families to keep a sense of calm. But it’s important to help children feel saf.

America Is Facing a Teen Suicide Pandemic be a great way of helping to make co-parenting a positive experience. Here are some tips. children to see the positive qualities. Positive reinforcement is a key ingredient to positive co-parenting. Likewise, follow through on mutually agreed-upon rules.

If you’ve agreed on a set curfew, bedtime, or screen.

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Give your adolescents guidance, support, and rules to help them figure out how to be responsible for their lives; allow an appropriate amount of reliance on others, and at the same time, slowly give them greater amounts of freedom and independence.

“DBT® Skills Manual for Adolescents” by Jill H. Rathus, Alec L. Miller, Marsha M. Linehan
from DBT® Skills Manual for Adolescents
by Jill H. Rathus, Alec L. Miller, Marsha M. Linehan
Guilford Publications, 2014

The next chapters of the book go into specific supportive parenting things you can do, as well as ways to help your teen build resilience.

“The Transgender Teen” by Stephanie Brill, Lisa Kenney
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by Stephanie Brill, Lisa Kenney
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By reading and carefully following the advice this book contains, you can not only become a more effective parent, but also a more effective and happier person.”

“The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years” by Lisa W. Coyne, Amy R. Murrell, Kelly G. Wilson
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by Lisa W. Coyne, Amy R. Murrell, Kelly G. Wilson
New Harbinger Publications, 2009

As you go through the ups and downs (and you will!), keep in mind that you want the same things—for your teen to become independent and manage successfully on her own.

“Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential” by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
from Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential
by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
Guilford Publications, 2012

The “mantra” behind these tips is to give your teen plenty of support but also plenty of room.

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by David J. Miklowitz, Elizabeth L. George
Guilford Publications, 2007

Building Positive Parent—Teen Interactions: One-on-One Time.

“Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Third Edition: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment” by Russell A. Barkley
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by Russell A. Barkley
Guilford Publications, 2005

The new contented little baby book: The secret to calm and confident parenting.

“International Handbook of Philosophy of Education” by Paul Smeyers
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by Paul Smeyers
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By talking and listening to each other, you’ll build a trusting and respectful relationship that can offer your teen the support that’s needed now and into adulthood.

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In Step 1 we encouraged you to say “Thank you” for the innocuous little positives and nonnegatives in your teen’s behavior as a way of showing that you do pay attention to the positive things he or she does.

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by Russell A. Barkley, Arthur L. Robin, Christine M. Benton
Guilford Publications, 2008

Promote parental self-esteem through teaching about positive parenting strategies.

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  • Dr.. please put spanish subtitles so I can show my husband. I have an oppositional defiant 15 year old. He was in a therapeutic community for 6 months and he did well for 3 months but he is again into his rages, bad language, doesnt make real effort in school…we get frustrated and sad. Do de negotiate one bad habit at a time? Thank you, From Cartagena, Colombia

  • Take “Air” out and replace it with “Safety”, combine food and water to “Sustenance”, and add “Comfort”… and you have yourself a freebie list that reflects basic human needs.

  • It’s so funny that, I am a teenager, and just last night I was speaking out loud what I never got to have from a parent. And “love them no matter what, even if” just made me cry.

  • Thanks, Dr. Paul. Dealing with teens are difficult for sure. I have raised two, but stepping into a new relationship with my fianceé who has a 17 year old, who is a giant, has been more difficult, as he seems to try to use his size to intimidate his mom and then curses at her and is extremely disrespectful. He has never disrespected me, but as I am only there half-time, she struggles sometimes coming up with consequences that affects him. Once we are married, I am confident I can deal with it (thanks to your videos and his interactions with me when I am around), but in the meantime, she is struggling between being worn out from his behavior and trying to figure out how to deal with him without me and without dealing with the authorities (he isn’t violent… yet), just extremely ugly to his mother. I will continue to watch and learn!

  • The man of the house carries a burden that only another father understands. I have no children but through out time, I have come to realize the pain my old man went through while raising me. Today and age, I am the one having to look after his wellbeing.
    He has given me so much I cannot turn my back on him now when he needs me the most. God Bless mi jefito. Lo quiero mucho

  • I’m a teenager and I want to find out why I’m lazy and how to stop this unproductive habit. As a matter of fact, I am avoiding maths by watching this.

  • Why i am feeling that this man is trying to train a teen parent, not an adult parent. His way of taking is not like taking to an adult.

  • [Volume 3 of my journaling ��]
    Why I’m so big on understanding the temperaments is that depending on your teen, there are clear limits to what you can force them to achieve. Sanguine and Phlegmatic teens don’t have an innate desire for achievements like Cholerics, or the Melancholy’s need for perfection. I’m 18 (just graduated) and I have friends who are phlegmatic who set reasonable goals for themselves.
    Dylan for instance, a phlegmatic-sanguine, is extremely smart, but stated that he wasn’t like everyone else out there killing themselves and just took one AP course a year.
    After her junior year of pre-AP physics and dual credit classes, my other phlegmatic friend decided to take all regular courses and to just make good grades.
    One of my close friends who was also phlegmatic was driven to succeed above her older sister who was choleric. I think she felt that she was only truly worthy if she succeeded since her family status was so elevated. She was valedictorian for a few years, but then people began to talk behind her back, saying that she didn’t work hard and only did well because she was smart. How infuriating!!! You can’t magically become valedictorian in a 6A school without hard work. But anyways, the workload and the stress began to drag her down and she stopped coming to school for a semester. How toxic that people only value success. I would rather her be unsuccessful and content than feel depressed and that her efforts are never enough.

    Edit: I should add that in the last example her parents were not at fault. They were very kind people. Just keep in mind that there are reasons for an apparent lack of drive in your teen beyond a poor attitude or character.

  • I have a stage 3 girl at 16 and a stage 1 girl, sometimes like a 2 year old and hates me and blames me for her Papa passing from cancer 2 years ago. That child is making our life hell!

  • When you watch this to find out how bad your parents are at punishing you for barely being lazy because that’s what most teens are

  • I agree, except I would expound on teaching and advice along with providing love. My mom, a loving Sanguine-phlegmatic, was always a fantastic listener and gave me tons of advise and encouragement. Even when I didn’t want it, just by continually providing instruction in the way I should go, and by giving the time and attention to relate my day to her, she taught me how to deal with day to day problems and raised me to be more considerate and responsible. If your kids know you will listen and love them, as a parent I’d argue you can heavily influence and impact your kids decisions simply with advice from your own experiences and motivational words. There’s a verse that applies here: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6. Even if your teenager is horrible and rebellious now, if you know that you’ve done your best as a parent to guide them up until now, then you can rest assured that they’ll come back around eventually— kind of like with Zuko and uncle Iroh (sorry, avatar the last air bender reference:0). Just don’t prioritize your child’s achievements over their virtues and you’ll be fine. I know parents want the best for their kids and to see them succeed, but their character is what matters most in the long run. ��

  • Lol I’m a lazy kid 2, I’m really positive, I think I have a somewhat good humor, but not very self confident tho… been made fun of my body my whole life so I go to video games bc then ppl don’t see what I look like so I’m not judged:) but it’s become a super unhealthy habit.. I’m barely getting up to do anything, and spend hours and hours on my iPad and phone a day….I’m very very thankful for this video, i will try my best to follow along with this:)

  • I love the word convey.l had similar experienced…sis Vicky. Sometimes they are like King Kong.Ha! ha! Thank you!(lovely couple) from Malaysia ��

  • I think you should do reaction videos to movies with parenting.

    me personally i find the parents in the movie Easy A and Call Me By Your Name really inspiring.

    maybe cover those?

  • Thank you! Great video. Im having issues with my adult son keeping his bedroom tidy. Your video makes it clear to me that I need to use all Cs strategically without being heavy handed.

  • Im raising my grandson.
    Im ready to turn him over as a ward of the court!!!
    I have tried it all!!!
    He purposely does things to get me upset!!!!
    The thought that he does this makes me angry, because he purposelly wants to cause me to get upset!!!
    He doesn’t let up!!!
    It doesnt matter what I do!!!
    He wants to be dufficult, he will be oppositional, in any little thing!!!
    Its fucking maddening!!!
    He’ll pretend to compromise to get what he wants,then he’ll fuck me off!!! He purposely keeps the dishes he uses in his room til we dont have what we need. When I ask him to bring those dishes down, he’ll throw out drama saying he doesn’t have any dishes in his room!!!
    I tell him if he doesn’t bring them down, Im going to, go to his room and get them myself!
    He tries to intimidate me!!!
    I take him 100% seriously!!!
    Then he’ll tell me to shut up, he’s just playing!
    Funny how he’s just a kid and its okay for him to act the way he does, Im a grown ass adult and acting the way I do because of what he’s doing….
    Whats my problem, he says in a very mean manner!
    He has sociopathic or physcopathic tendencies!
    He is defiant, doesnt care what I say! He leaves after telling him no! Ive locked him out! He’s not going to school, he doesnt come home by 11. Ive locked him out, he kicks the doors,the windows, banging and hitting them!!! I called the police! They told me,I couldnt lock him out! He is a minor and I cant get in trouble, go to jail for locking him out!
    Then he needs to get home before 11!!! He needs to followcthe rules or there will be consequences!!!
    I told them to take me to jail then!!!
    I have had police scolding me!!! All in front of him! Now he basically feels he can do any fucking thing he wants! Because the police wont do shit to him. I can call them he says because they aren’t going to listen to me, they think Im crazy and they know I lie!!!
    He gets in my face, yells at me tells me if I touch him he’s going to punch me so hard it will kill me!!! He’s going to pick my ass up and throw me out onto the street so hard if I touch him, this while he is pushing me out the way because Im standing in his way!!!
    When he threatens me, or threatens to destroy my property I call the police. They come reluctantly now. Telling me I need to discipline him, one cop was more concerned that he was here a prior time when I had locked my grandson out,did I remember him?
    Instead of the reason why I had called this time, which was he had taken the router,the home hub and roku, because he wasn’t allowed to use wifi, then he had punched a whole in the wall. But, what triggered was he was angry that his brother and sister were going to come and visit, thinking that it was going to mess up his plans to go visit out were they lived at his step grandmothers!!!
    He pops pills, smokes marijuana, drinks. Hes dirty purposelly goes into the fridge without washing his hands because it bothets me!!! Instead of just washing his hands, he wants to argue with me that he already washed them before getting to the house!!!
    I basically avoid him, I cant stand him!!! It doesnt matter what I do, he wants to provoke an argument, push my buttons!!!
    I tell him, Im not in the mood for your shit! Take your sick shit somewhere else!!
    I smile and let him do what he does, knowing he’s doing everything to push my buttons!!!
    By making a mess in the kitchen purposely, leaving crumbs spilt juice whatever!!! If I dont tell him to clean up, he wont,he doesnt even when I tell him to! He’ll deny he did it!!! Saying it was already there! If he does clean it up its very little effort and not clean at all.
    He will, over react and go on and on about everything I follow through with!!!
    There are some things I will not let slide, everything os a battle with him! He wants to cause me harm, he said he was going to put me through hell before he turns 18 and leaves here!
    He scares me!!! The kind of scared that if he attempts to harm me,I will fight for my life!! If I cant get away!!!
    Its killing me raising this boy!!! All the reasons I took guardianship of him have been for nothing!!! I e done everything Ive needed to do to give him the opportunity to succede, he has done nothing but, faught me,going against everything that I have attempted to do to help him!!!
    I feel like i have failed him!!! I feel like, It was all for nothing!!!
    I was willing wanting to do this for my grandson!!! The reward was going to be his success! Over comming the tough behinning he had and succeding with my help and support, providing a stable home, environment,his needs being met and building our relationship.
    He tells me I wasnt a good guardian! I have ruined his hole life!!! I felt like slapping him!!! I have sacraficed having a relationship! Traveling, staying home, making sure I was available for him! Because no one wanted to babysit him!! Je was thrown out of the after school program!!! I was dropped from a job training program twice because I had to miss, dealing with issues he was having at school!!! Funny how it was the times I was working to better myself.
    Now he’ll yell all kinds of disrespecful things to me!!! I dont do shit all day,sitting on my ass sewing!!!
    He says he doesnt have to clean up, I dont do shit, I dont go anywhere,I can clean up!!!
    I tell him he’s out of his mind!!! He will clean up after himself!
    Help!

  • there are more teenagers that are watching this video than adults and that means that we are aware that we are lazy i’m a teenager too

  • I really enjoyed the content of this video. Thank you so much. I am seeing my parents struggling with my younger two sisters who are 12 and 18 years old, and found this video to be really helpful. I would love to share it with my mom hoping it can help her transform her anxiety to a productive approach. My parents don’t understand English though (it is not my first language) so I would love to know how to get the transcript of this video so I can translate it and share it with them! Will appreciate the response.

  • When you search these type of stuff becuz you have neglective parents that dgaf about you or your schoolwork until your rapport card comes

  • Oh the games we play starting from an early age. The young child feels forced to eat vegetables at dinner time (parents in control), but the child is waiting to get the upper hand, by not co-operating during toilet training (when the child is in control). ‘I will make you beg for it’ says the child in their mind. The same type of game will be played at a later stage in life (teenager). You need to love me, that is your role restricting access to technological gadgets/games is not true love it is conditional, tantamount to abuse hence teenager decides to leave home.

  • SO my boyfriend’s son is visiting for a short while (month or two) and he has not moved off the couch, his phone and video games are all he does. I think he is using his dad to get away from him mother and 2 sisters so that he may have more freedom on the couch here AND I think daddy knows this but won’t do anything about it because he is afraid his son will want to go home if he can’t get his way here while residing on my couch. His dad makes suggestions and tries to communicate but he gets absolutely nowhere and I can’t say anything because he is not my son and it will cause a rift between me and my boyfriend…so what is there to do about this?

  • Gosh you and your wife are an amazing team, I am a single parent with two children living in Northern Ireland and thankful for these tips ☺️☘️��

  • This is exactly what I believe as a parent. My frustration isn’t with my 18 year old highschool dropout with no job, no chores and no expectations. I’m not as upset leaving my house in the morning while my son sleeps until past 10 and spends the rest of the day playing video games, watching tv and surfing his phone. You can’t distinguish between his week and his weekend. I’m frustrated with his mom (my wife) who enables all these behaviors by allowing her life to revolve around him. He says jump and she asks how high. He has no need to do anything because everything is done for him and what’s worse is they are blinded by their own delusions that he’s actually doing good. I asked him what half of three was the other day and he couldn’t figure it out. He caused problems in school so instead of facing the consequences she pulled him out to homeschool which digressed to the point he just became a dropout because it wasn’t fun. He sent some random girl naked pics and instead of making him responsible for his actions and letting him experience consequences, mom called the other mom to explain why she should just let it go. I bought him a remote control car that he wanted and I explained to him that this was his car and he was responsible for it. If he drove it wrecklessly and break it or if he wanted to upgrade it he would be forking out the money not me. Well he broke it and chose to spend his money on video games so the car sat there. Well mommy and grandpa got upset so they took the car to grandpas and now grandpa pays for all of it. He played basketball for a short time and he was complaining about not being a starter and not winning very many games so I mentioned the coach saying they have to practice at home so I give him some things to work on and the wife comes in and says he can’t do that; practicing on his own isn’t part of his personality. So I look at my son and say you most definitely can do it and if you want to get off the bench and possibly win a game you have to do tour part. Somehow that comes across, to my wife, that I don’t believe in him and she does. I could go on for days with this. She wants us to be his happiness instead of teaching him how to create his own happiness. If it doesn’t put an instant smile on his face we can’t do it. She has made him a fully functioning quadriplegic. All his body parts work but he doesn’t use them. One last thing. I’m told all the time by my wife he can’t this and can’t that and can’t can’t can’t, but now wants to give him keys to a car. I couldn’t have a car until I had a job to pay the insurance, gas, maintenance. Every other parent we discuss driving with have very similar expectations, but my wife just wants to say here ya go. She’d take the test for him if she could. She wants us to get a dog because it would be good for him. I said school would be good for him but I don’t see anyone jumping into that. We have to do counseling with him and the doc sends us away with homework to do and when we get back I’ve done the homework and the wife didn’t. The doc says for whatever reason my wife lets him steamroll her and it’s not good. So when I say see doc she’s not doing her part. We need to address this problem so now I don’t get to go to the sessions anymore.

  • This is really useful as i see things more in pictures so the graph sticks in my brain. Its difficult when theres trauma involved as you have so much damage from the past, but I agree with the love no matter what.

  • A PARENTS JOB IS TO RESPECT THEIR CHILD. Forget control. Show them your intention is to support their well-being, not deprive them of pleasures. From preschool age they will be showing you their likes and dislikes. Providing games, toys, books, activities and events that they enjoy will bring them towards a career in the future.

  • If they are being lazy then don’t give ’em the food you cookin’ or buyin’ at the market store but this comment for South East Asian only this ain’t western country.

  • As a Parent I control the internet. I push a button on my phone and it goes away. My son used to have a phone but not anymore because he can’t seem to understand when the trash needs to be emptied. I love the leverage of electronics! Best form of punishment ever.

  • In a teenagers point of view, this would demotivate us. Parents just need to give time and not bother us during the stages of teen as we are most likely going through a thing called ‘identity crisis’. By intruding our personal space, personal life, taking back the things you give us, etc. would obviously tick us off. Parents should know that they took this risk and it is their duty to only keep us on the right track and not force us to accomplish their goals and control teenagers life.

  • Loving a teen isn’t a job! They just want to take risks and have fun. Stop them from doing really unsafe things but let them by young and have fun! Give them ideas of what to do and leave them to think about it! Don’t be naggy and controlling. I don’t like this man at all.

  • My daughter passed away. Her 4 children have lived with me for 6 years now. 2 are teens now. Their dad moved to another state and contacts them maybe once a year. Luckily (??) I am a fairly calm and practical person. This video makes sense, and helped me get a little more centered. Thank you.

  • What is difficult is taking away the computer since everything with respect to school is on the computer, specially right now. I’ve already installed a couple carrier apps to restrict data and another to restrict WiFi but he still has the computer which again he needs for school. I’ve been using the game of negotiability but it’s tough in this respect.

  • I am a lazy teenager, mostly because I got motivated with either a) “the great feeling you’re going to have after you did this” or b) punishments, not in the sense of deprivation of basic needs, just regular canceling of every and all the things I enjoyed (but luckily we as a family managed to sort out the domestic violence a few years ago).
    Now (since my parents stopped threatening me because I am a responsible person and an as-good-as-adult) I have great difficulty motivating me because apart from the positive feedback that my feelings are meant to give me and that I am unable to experience, I don’t know how to.
    I don’t expect an answer from Mr. Jenkins directly, but if anyone who reads this comment knows effective ways to get that positive response up again, I’d be really thankful if you could share it.

  • Thank you. This is great information. I’ve been trying to get my daughter into therapy, but she won’t go. I have a question. What do you do if you tell them you’re going to turn off the phone service and they say that they will move to their bio dads house and not say goodbye?

  • Gonna be honest I’m 17 and I’m pretty unmotivated because I am so unsatisfied with my life I’m pretty unpopular and still a virgin and have never had a girlfriend and I just don’t see the point In anything really I always just end up at the bottom of the pile in most situations and it’s just whittled my motivation down each time and no I’m at a stage where I just think why should I bother In life if I have nothing positive in life

  • I cannot thank you enough for all the clarification I got from your videos. I have four children and the eldest is a teenager, so this is my first encounter with the demands of parenting a teenager, which indeed is a turbulent ride. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for showing me how to enjoy the ride, despite the fact how bumpy it can often be.

  • I’m sensing medicated, drinky, drinky maybe, Not judging, But you really make it simple!! And thankyou so much for that!!!..I’m subscribing ��

  • After watching this i couldn’t help but see all the ways my dad has failed i will admit i have flaws i know this but dad? He’s on another level of failure

  • I like the first half very much @ 2:00 it’s eye opening when you say to focus our shift from all about us to all about them but then in the second half you contradict what you said in the first half. Laziness is not good for them but so is skipping school and going to bed late, everything they do is not good for them:)) “Not good for them” is not enough reason for me. if they are harming themselves or others or their future is at risk or they are wasting good opportunities in life I will bargain with them.

    From my experience, engineering privileges work for a while, like money if they are not too spoiled already, but after sometime it desensitize them. And in the greater scheme of things this 1+1=2 violates the principle of grace. The father of the prodigal son let him have his way so his son would evolve to the person he is on the inside. And we should let them have their way sometimes because we don’t want to mold them but we want to influence them.

    I would say the title of the video is misleading, it should be titled how to manage a hurtful over the top teen.

    Laziness could be caused by the (prosperity) having all they need and want, my daughter has money from her birthdays she doesn’t know what to do with! It could be not assigning them age appropriate responsibilities and doing every thing for them, depression and anti social behavior, fear of failure…ect