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FRIDAY, March 9, 2018 (HealthDay News)—Most people seem comfortable with their health care providers asking about their sexual orientation and gender identity, a new study finds. The finding comes on the heels of earlier research that indicated many health care providers believed that such questions would offend patients. Now a new study by Mayo Clinic suggests that these worries were unfounded: The findings show that up to 97 percent of patients are comfortable. New Mayo Clinic research suggests up to 97 percent of patients are comfortable with their health care provider asking sexual orientation and gender identity questions.

FRIDAY, March 9, 2018 (HealthDay News) Most people seem comfortable with their health care providers asking about their sexual orientation and gender identity, a new study finds. The finding comes on the heels of earlier research that indicated many health care providers believed that such questions would offend patients. FRIDAY, March 9, 2018 (HealthDay News) Most people seem comfortable with their health care providers asking about their sexual orientation and gender identity, a. Ask Away, Patients Say FRIDAY, March 9, 2018 Most people seem comfortable with their health care providers asking about their sexual orientation and gender identity, a new study finds.

The finding comes on the heels of earlier research that indicated many health care providers believed that such questions would offend patients. FRIDAY, March 9, 2018 (HealthDay News) — Most people seem comfortable with their health care providers asking about their sexual orientation and gender identity, a new study finds. The finding comes on the heels of earlier research that indicated many health care providers believed that such questions would offend patients. The long-term objective is to develop best practices for patient-centered approaches to routinely collect SO/GI information in the hospital ED.

Methods: This project is a 3-year, 3-phase study to develop ways to ask hospital ED patients about their sexual orientation and gender identity. And this leads to another potential complication—how comfortable are providers with asking patients these kinds of sensitive questions? The Wired piece references a 2015 report which found that 33 percent of transgender people surveyed had at least one negative healthcare experience in the past year related to their gender identity. Nearly all said they were “comfortable” (90%) or “neither comfortable nor uncomfortable” (8%) with being asked about their sexual identity.

This research indicates that people are willing to answer personal SOGI questions—so let’s talk about how best to ask them.

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Conversely, even though the patient presents at the time as male, the patient may request the nurse to use female pronouns (she, her, hers) because the patient identifies with a female gender identity.

“Medical-Surgical Nursing: Patient-Centered Collaborative Care, Single Volume” by Donna D. Ignatavicius, M. Linda Workman, PhD, RN, FAAN
from Medical-Surgical Nursing: Patient-Centered Collaborative Care, Single Volume
by Donna D. Ignatavicius, M. Linda Workman, PhD, RN, FAAN
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2015

Exploration of gender identity should be nonjudgmental, and the mental health therapist should not impose their narrative on the client.3 The mental health professional should ask about gender identity in an open-ended way, without a binary assumption or an assumption that any given transition steps need to be taken.

“Comprehensive Care of the Transgender Patient E-Book” by Cecile A Ferrando
from Comprehensive Care of the Transgender Patient E-Book
by Cecile A Ferrando
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

Many of the questions are very personal and may not be suitable for intake screening at a first appointment, when individuals may feel nervous about attending a counseling or therapy session to discuss gender-identity issues for the first time.

“Transgender Care: Recommended Guidelines, Practical Information, and Personal Accounts” by Gianna E. Israel, Donald E. Tarver
from Transgender Care: Recommended Guidelines, Practical Information, and Personal Accounts
by Gianna E. Israel, Donald E. Tarver
Temple University Press, 2001

This prevents assumptions of a patient’s gender identity, mitigates potential biases, and normalizes discussions around gender identity for the patient.

“Textbook of Physical Diagnosis E-Book: History and Examination” by Mark H. Swartz
from Textbook of Physical Diagnosis E-Book: History and Examination
by Mark H. Swartz
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2020

These expressions may include clothing, hairstyles, and body language—changing one’s “social presentation.”4 Each transgender person is different in how they choose to express their gender.

“Wendy Carlos: A Biography” by Amanda Sewell
from Wendy Carlos: A Biography
by Amanda Sewell
Oxford University Press, Incorporated, 2020

An example of this inquiry: “Out of respect for my patients’ right to self-identify, I ask all my patients what gender pronouns I should use for them.

“The Equal Curriculum: The Student and Educator Guide to LGBTQ Health” by James R. Lehman, Kristine Diaz, Henry Ng, Elizabeth M. Petty, Meena Thatikunta, Kristen Eckstrand
from The Equal Curriculum: The Student and Educator Guide to LGBTQ Health
by James R. Lehman, Kristine Diaz, et. al.
Springer International Publishing, 2019

First, the gender identity or sexual orientation of the patient should never be assumed based on name or outward appearances or even name in the medical chart; transgender Table 6.1 Interviewing techniques

“Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Healthcare: A Clinical Guide to Preventive, Primary, and Specialist Care” by Kristen Eckstrand, Jesse M. Ehrenfeld
from Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Healthcare: A Clinical Guide to Preventive, Primary, and Specialist Care
by Kristen Eckstrand, Jesse M. Ehrenfeld
Springer International Publishing, 2016

Most importantly, the nurse needs to ask all patients open-ended questions, such as “How do you describe your gender identity?”

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from Maternal Child Nursing Care in Canada E-Book
by Shannon E. Perry, Marilyn J. Hockenberry, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2016

Transgender patients themselves are often excellent resources: most transgender people do not mind being asked pertinent questions that demonstrate concern and respect.

“The Fenway Guide to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Health” by Harvey J. Makadon, MD, Kenneth H. Mayer, MD, Jennifer Potter, MD, Hilary Goldhammer, MS
from The Fenway Guide to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Health
by Harvey J. Makadon, MD, Kenneth H. Mayer, MD, et. al.
ACP Press,

While these roles represent options for psychologists in the treatment of transgender veterans, it is important to recognize that treatment and the process of acknowledging and accepting gender identity is an individualized process.

“Handbook of Military Psychology: Clinical and Organizational Practice” by Stephen V. Bowles, Paul T. Bartone
from Handbook of Military Psychology: Clinical and Organizational Practice
by Stephen V. Bowles, Paul T. Bartone
Springer International Publishing, 2017

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  • I have no doubt as to how traumatizing acceptance can be. Propaganda begins at setting grounds for the eventual deception. Trouble here is with the use of the confused, and their psychosis, for this agenda. Laws require solidarity in words. Words are losing meaning. Otherwise, laws are meaningless

  • I just watch your you tube can you help me because I have feel transgender woman hear is my name Charles keener
    2918 southbrook road
    Baltimore Maryland 21222

  • I am so confused. I hear someone say things like, “They called me ma’am” or “They called me sir and I was offended.” My genuine question is, what are people supposed to do? How am I supposed to look at a person and know they are non binary and use neutral pronouns accordingly?? What pronouns do I use at all? Live and let live lives here. You do you boo boo, genuinely not a problem at all. The problem is how am I supposed to identify what you are expecting me to identify followed by using correct pronouns which are impossible to do without sounding like a piece of garbage? How did it become my job to know what’s going on so you aren’t offended when I had no clue in the 1st place?!

  • i never really had a problem with people calling me a girl, miss, woman, it made me feel powerful, but one day i looked in the mirror and thought “bruh,, what if i didn’t have boobs” and now im in constant existencial dread

  • I am 14 and I have been dealing with conflicting ideas. I do not feel comfortable as my birth gender and hate anything associated with the feminine features of me. I think I am FtM but I really don’t know. I prefer he him pronouns but I also like they them. I have been feeling masculine for the past 4-5 years and have been out to my friends as most likely trans for the past year. I am so confused but I know that I am not a woman for sure.

  • I am 15 and have been out as trans (ftm) to friends and my mom for a few years. I just came out to the rest of my family a few months ago. I get told a lot that I act feminine(people tend to say that I talk very fast and a lot making me seem more feminine and I also have interest that people see as more feminine). Everytime I hear comments like this I get so paranoid that maybe I’m not really trans since I still act this way. Even tho I get gender dysphoria and these comments make me feel dysphoric I still worry and I hate it. Does anyone else get this feeling and get worried that they aren’t trans cuz others say you act too feminine or masculine?

  • I’ve been struggling with my gender identity sense I was about 5 (I’m 13). I was assigned female at birth but never really felt like I was one. At first I thought I might be genderfluid but after looking into that a bit more I’m most certain I’m not, then I looked into non-binary, which I’m positive I’m not. My friends suggested I might just not like my bodyIt really doesn’t feel right… Lately I’ve been looking into transgender (fmt) and I’m slowly becoming more positive I might be… This video helped clear a couple things up to! Thank you for making these awesome educational videos!

  • When you told us to ask ourselves the key questions it really helped me figure it out more thank you!! This video was very helpful! ��

  • When I was very young i put on a dress. I loved the way it felt on me. I would look in the mirror and like how I looked and felt. I got an erection. I felt satisfied. I wondered if other boys reacted the same way.
    As a teen i would dress up. I even snuck out in my sister’s clothes at night and drove around in my car. I wished I could do that every day. I started fantasizing about having sex as a girl while wearing bras and makeup.
    I know I want to be a woman. I want to look,live and love as a woman. I always felt my life would be amazing as a girl. I would accept having a period and pregnancy. After all that is part of being a woman and I wouldn’t want anything less.

  • ‘And god confused their languages’. This is tower of babel malevolence x10000000000. This is an alien agenda for sure. They’re preventing our civilization from going past a certain point. Makes us easy to kill/harvest.

  • that’s such a good way to present the question. another good question is “do you want to live as (assigned gender) for the rest of your life? do you want to be an old (assigned gender)?” thank you for the video! love your accent ����♥️����

  • Victims of The Frankfurt School 9 point agenda from 1923. Please check out out. Just do a YouTube search for The Frankfurt School.

  • I always remember as a child, wanting to play with the boys, wanting to be known as a boy. I didn’t really mind having long hair and that. But things became different when I started to go through puberty, I lost my androgynous body, and couldn’t shake the uncomfort that people were now seeing me as a girl. I often experimented online making myself known as a male but it would always be revealed that I was really afab. I recently came out to my mom about this, and she refuses to call me by the right pronouns because she thinks i’m making a mistake. I dont know. I feel suicidal. I don’t think I’m making a mistake but I dont want to lose my relationship with my family. It’s so, so incredibly hard. Thank you so much for your video though.

  • I had forgotten this up until now, but I remember when I was 9 or 10 and my parents and I were eating dinner together after I had got back from my first sleep-away camp and my dad got up to use the bathroom and so my mom and I were having this deep meaningful conversation and then she said something and I broke down crying saying I wanted to be a boy. Also a couple years before that I asked my mom if anyone would ever look at me and think I was a boy and when she said that I had very feminine features so probably not, I went and cried in my room

  • Just came over to see the comments to this video that I didn’t watch, because the title of it tells me all I need to know… it is filled with nonsense. Anyway, I am so relieved and glad to see so many comments rejecting this crap as the retarded bullshit that it is. This is what happens when you let the Left indoctrinate your kids with untrue retarded bullshit. Oh, and by the way, science does not prove that gender is a social construct, science proves that there are indeed only two genders, male and female, and perhaps you’ve heard of the science that PROVES this, it is called, biology.

  • Many of today’s teens are not into all this non binary nonsense. This is especially true outside the left wing bubbles. Perhaps some teenagers who are against the non binary agenda should be interviewed as well.

  • Be a woman might be too intimidating to a shy transgender! “Recognized” as a woman by the world might be a weaker claim nevertheless more important for some people.

  • The earliest in my life that I felt even a slight strange feeling of discomfort was in second grade. I felt like I fit in more with the boys rather than the girls and I was and still am pretty masculine. I had called myself a to,boy but the discomfort just grew as puberty began. Although I already know that I am trans, I know many people including myself struggle to accept that factor or even question whether or not we’re really trans.
    This video helped, thanks.:)

  • I’m not sure even. I don’t necessarily feel uncomfortable being a girl, but whenever someone confuses me for being a guy, I like how it feels. But I’m afraid of transitioning and realizing it was a waste of time and I’m not trans. Idk

  • This help so much I am a male but when I had 15 I woke up and felt there was something wrong with how I felt about being male I am now 17 and trying to figer out if I am trans

  • honestly ive been kinda certain im trans for a few years now but ive never been able to do anything about it since my family would probably just disown me and idk if id ever be able to pass so for now im kinda just hardcore closeted nb tbh

  • is it ok that i’m a “stereotypical” non-binary person, such as being flat and having short hair and dress in things like plaid?
    i’m only doing it because if i wear a dress or suit everyone will call me he or she

  • Considering your questions about wanting to feel like a woman and wanting to be a woman has helped by giving me greater insight. I have been going through the most serious self examination of my entire life in the past two years wrestling with my intense late onset gender dysphoria (I am now 74). I finally had to seek counseling recently because I felt so overwhelmed by it. I have only had two sessions but after the second I came out to my spouse as transgender and have begun to present as female at home with her support. There were times when I felt certain my inner woman had begun to dominate my personality, well before I was able to express my feminine nature outwardly. So I asked myself the question, do I want to feel like a woman or be a woman? In the process of trying to answer I considered whether or not these are mutually exclusive. What this has revealed to me is that, regardless of the male body I happen to occupy, I feel I am a woman at the core of my being and then realizing this is the best I have ever felt about myself.

  • I came out at 15 years old in 1995! Think about that. Aww poor 17 year old had to tell people more then once. At least you are still alive & excepted!!

  • I used to be really bad, never get out of bed and stuff. I would cut myself and be suicidal about it, it was terrible. This was only last year. Now im better but whenever the word trans or topic is brought up I just get really anxious and uncomfortable, now I have just given up on thinking i can be a girl or not, society will hate me and ill have to stay who I was meant to be, its just really hard. Im just so confused on what to do because I feel like all ive become good at, is silencing the thought. My parents wont help me, and im going nowhere.

  • I studied and became a Psychilogist while living in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Also lost my spelling and grammar there. I AM A WOMAN. always knew.

  • so, I do not understand why they all just talk about fashion either. I thought I might be non-binary, because of the fact that there are times when I feel good enough in my “female” body, and then there are times where it doesn’t feel right at all and I struggle with feeling like a gay guy kissing my boyfriend when at other times I feel pretty good being his girlfriend. But maybe that’s what they call genderfluid, I don’t know and it doesn’t matter. I appreciate that on those days where I feel less a women I am able to express those feelings with fashion more masculine and binding my pretty big boobs and thanks to those people in the video it’s not just me people stare at. So, after all, I’m glad there are so many different people and the world.

  • When i was around 4 or 5 years old and i was still religious i always asked god if i could wake up as a boy the next day. and the question “what would you want to wake up as tomorrow” really helped me! thanks!

  • ok, i guess i’m now 100% sure i’m a trans man.
    i’d like to just not have this feelings, but it doesn’t go away that easily
    at least now i know what to do and that i’m not alone:)

  • I feel more and more certain that I’m not cis, but I don’t understand what I am. I feel like I might be genderfluid because everyday my answers to these questions changed, but I might just be a binary woman, or a gender neutral person. I’m so confused, and I wish there were more resources for figuring out what gender you are, and not just figuring out that you aren’t cis because those two things are very different.

  • An obcessive defense against separation, differentiation, and individuation, to an ultimate adult identity. A diffuse state where one does not need to make an ultimate choice of one’s identity: an obcessive (ambivalent) absence of choice, these undifferentiated people desire that state should be considered as a healthy choice, albeit a non-choice. Omitted are the life styles, accomplishments, and achievements these individuals have obtained in life to validate their claimed maturity, and their need to assert that this non-choice can lead to a productive, healthy lifestyle.

  • You mean just being a human?

    “Acknowledging a wider range of experience” I have all types of emotions, thank God and I hope everyone has. But I am still a man.

    And as far as clothing goes… I can wear angel wings, timbs, lederhosen and a propeller hat. I don’t need to be gender less for that ����‍♂️.

  • I didn’t really pay any mind to gender or gender expression when I was younger, I was more of a tomboy but I did enjoy wearing dresses from time to time. I just dressed how I wanted and all that. (I also just realised that I got along a lot better with boys than girls and the girl friends I had were all tomboys in their own right.) But, now that I’m going through puberty, I can’t help but feel like this is all wrong. When you asked if I wanted to feel like a man or be a man, I knew with certainty that I wanted to be a man. The only issue and the only thing making me doubt this is the fact that my dad is transphobic and just last week we got into an argument and he shouted, “You’ll never be a man!” I wasn’t out and I didn’t come out, I used me being trans as a hypothetical when we were arguing, but that one sentence has stuck with me and has been making me feel pretty awful and uncertain. I want to get help and therapy so I can work through all my confusion but I don’t want to talk to either one of my parents about it. What should I do?

  • If I could press a button and be a woman I would do it without any hesitation. I also saw a gender swap photo of myself and broke down crying with joy and sadness at the thought of what could never be. I still don’t think I’m trans though. Anyone have any thoughts?

  • i’ve never wanted to be noticed. i’ve never had a problem with my body but always had a problem with how people view me. i feel more like i’m playing the part of me than being myself. i feel like the reasons for all these little things like not wanting to shave & being resentful at being forced to wear dresses might all just be pieces of a puzzle that’s taken 23 years to fall together. i’m more okay with living as a woman now than i used to be but i can’t say that i don’t wish all the time that i was a guy. I have to really think on if i want to feel that way or be that way. i can’t say i view myself as a guy right now because everything about me is so female but i WANT to. more than anything i want others to view me that way too. i think it took me this long to realize there’s a conflict here because i really never felt insecure about my body like all the other girls but now i realize i never identified with my body to feel bad about it. i never saw it as my body. i used to look in the mirror & not identify with that person at all. it was very jarring. i don’t know how to feel about all of this popping up now. i kind of want to be wrong about thinking i’m trans but i think maybe that fear is half the reason it’s taken this long to be open to the idea that it could be the case. i don’t want to lie to myself if there’s something here i have to know. thank you for the insightful video & a for having a place where i can vent my feelings & put my thoughts into words.

  • I came out as gender fluid to my fiancé after watching the Bohemian Rhapsody movie in December. I love her and she’s my best friend, but I’ve told her a number of times that I want to be beautiful and handsome for her. And she always says to me you are going to be the perfect husband, I should be happy but there is that part of me that wishes they were different

  • I didnt feel this way until about 5 months ago, is that normal? Or is this a phase, because I dont have many signs of when I was a child. Maybe if I know that I’m trans I’ll come out to my parents and my mom will tell me signs

  • Whats the difference between a non-traditional man/woman and a non-bianary? How would you even know that you’re non-bianary without creating a stereotype of men/woman in your head, and then base it off of that?

  • At 5 yrs old my mom said I always told her I wanted to be a girl and that never changed I pretended well, but I never really “fit” in with the boys. I’ve been trans for as long as I can remember but I didn’t come out until I was 22.. I’m 24 now

  • All I see are men who aren’t manly men and women who aren’t girly girls.. Simple as that but nowdays everyone wants to be this special class of people and over complicate things.. Its ridiculous