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Myth: Sleep training (or NOT sleep training) my children could harm them in the long term. Fact: There’s no data to show either choice hurts your child in the long-run. TUESDAY, May 24, 2016 (HealthDay News) Common techniques for helping babies and parents sleep at night seem to carry no long-term harms, a small trial finds.

The study tested two methods: “graduated extinction” (also known as “controlled crying”) and “bedtime fading.” The former strategy is aimed at letting babies “self-soothe” on their own, without. While it’s still unclear which method will work best for each baby and family, mounting research suggests that the practice of letting a baby cry for short intervals while learning to put herself to sleep is not inherently harmful —and does not seem to cause long term emotional problems for the baby or disrupt the parent-child bond. Sleep training is harmful because it confuses the child over the long-term. While, most babies that cry-it-out will eventually stop expecting the attention, help, and comfort they crave for a short period of time, childhood is a time of milestone after milestone and life just doesn’t cease because a child enters the picture. So, no, I am not going to argue here that sleep training will be psychologically harmful to your baby, though I encourage you to check out another blog post with my Top Ten Tips for Coping With Your Baby’s Sleep.

I am going to be talking here about someone who I KNOW for certain can be damaged by sleep training advice: MOTHERS!If sleep training is so harmful (according to up to date research), why is it still legal and, even in most countries, recommended by the department of health? Health departments and academies, at. While it may involve some tears, sleep training isn’t harmful for babies, who often learn to be super sleepers in just a few nights. Sleep training is the process of helping a baby learn to fall asleep and stay asleep through the night.

Some babies do this quickly and easily. But many others have trouble settling down to sleep – or getting back to sleep when they’ve wakened – and they need help along the way. Even though, Sleep training is the most popular methods of improving a child’s sleep habits, it may not always lead to positive results as intended.

You need a good sleep; so does your baby. Your baby shall thank you even more if you do not insist on sleep-training them. Sleep is important in mental, physical and emotional health. The first year with your baby should be a joyful, precious, and peaceful time.

Don’t let behaviorist ideas or sleep training mandates take that away.

List of related literature:

Avoid having the infant sleep in a prone position, overheating the infant, or letting the infant sleep with another person; provide a firm sleeping surface; allow no loose blankets, pillows, or stuffed toys in the infant’s bed; avoid smoking during or after pregnancy.

“Study Guide for Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women's Health Nursing” by Sharon Smith Murray, MSN, RN, C, Emily Slone McKinney, MSN, RN, C
from Study Guide for Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women’s Health Nursing
by Sharon Smith Murray, MSN, RN, C, Emily Slone McKinney, MSN, RN, C
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2013

Sleep training schemes and forcing the baby to “cry it out” to “teach him to sleep longer” are devastatingly harmful to the baby and detrimental to the mother–baby relationship (KendallTackett, 2013; Middlemiss et al., 2012).

“Breastfeeding and Human Lactation” by Karen Wambach, Becky Spencer
from Breastfeeding and Human Lactation
by Karen Wambach, Becky Spencer
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2019

Not only does the baby benefit from the enhanced emotional intelligence and greater cognitive development of proper sleep, but the parents will also reap its rewards.

“The Baby Sleep Solution: A Proven Program to Teach Your Baby to Sleep Twelve Hours aNight” by Suzy Giordano, Lisa Abidin
from The Baby Sleep Solution: A Proven Program to Teach Your Baby to Sleep Twelve Hours aNight
by Suzy Giordano, Lisa Abidin
Penguin Publishing Group, 2006

Although most studies find that sleep training can alter a baby’s behavior, there is no evidence to suggest that these changes last and some concern as to their long-term effect on babies.

“Infant and Toddler Development from Conception to Age 3: What Babies Ask of Us” by Mary Jane Maguire-Fong, Marsha Peralta
from Infant and Toddler Development from Conception to Age 3: What Babies Ask of Us
by Mary Jane Maguire-Fong, Marsha Peralta
Teachers College Press, 2018

Avoid allowing the infant to sleep in a prone position, overheating the infant, or letting the infant sleep with another person; provide a firm sleeping surface; allow no loose blankets, pillows, or stuffed toys in the infant’s bed; avoid smoking during or after

“Study Guide for Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women's Health Nursing E-Book” by Sharon Smith Murray, Emily Slone McKinney
from Study Guide for Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women’s Health Nursing E-Book
by Sharon Smith Murray, Emily Slone McKinney
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2018

The premature infant is most at risk, spending up to 20 hours a day asleep, 80% of which may be in active REM sleep compared with 20% in adult sleep.

“Physiotherapy for Respiratory and Cardiac Problems: Adults and Paediatrics” by Jennifer A. Pryor, Ammani S Prasad
from Physiotherapy for Respiratory and Cardiac Problems: Adults and Paediatrics
by Jennifer A. Pryor, Ammani S Prasad
Elsevier Health Sciences UK, 2008

Evidence suggests that there is no advantage for an infant sleeping away from the company of caregivers; however, there are some conditions that promote a safe sleep environment.

“Encyclopedia of Family Health” by Martha Craft-Rosenberg, Shelley-Rae Pehler
from Encyclopedia of Family Health
by Martha Craft-Rosenberg, Shelley-Rae Pehler
SAGE Publications, 2011

There was a 176% increase in autonomic activity and an 86% decrease in quiet sleep duration during mother–newborn separation episodes compared with skin-to-skin contact.

“Breastfeeding Management for the Clinician” by Marsha Walker
from Breastfeeding Management for the Clinician
by Marsha Walker
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2016

Fears about Your Baby’s Sleep Many parents feel anxious when the baby is sleeping.

“Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby” by Deborah L. Davis
from Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby
by Deborah L. Davis
Fulcrum Pub., 1996

Anything in your baby’s sleep environment that is not dull (toys that make noise or light up, mobiles) is counterproductive to your sleep goals.

“Precious Little Sleep: The Complete Baby Sleep Guide for Modern Parents” by Alexis Dubief
from Precious Little Sleep: The Complete Baby Sleep Guide for Modern Parents
by Alexis Dubief
Lomhara Press, 2017

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  • I’ve seen mom’s speak about this method on their blogs and everyone praises them for it. I understand why some people might think this is a bit harsh, but why praise the moms and bash the doctor? Bash them both if you want to go that route, or praise them both.

  • Don’t talk to them, don’t sing to them what the heck!!! Babies don’t need only to be fed and changed!!!what about their emotional needs!!! What is the message that you are trying to communicate to your baby!!! I am emotionally unavailable!! And I will never be there for you if you need me!
    I watched this video out of curiosity as it was recommended to me but what a waste of time…this video is pur garbage, saying this as a mother and as a psychologist.

  • This is horrible. I’m 24 and don’t sleep through the night. Sometimes I need comfort from my husband or a drink because I’m thirsty. To the mamas watching this in desperation I see you. I feel your tiredness. There are things to help you definitely shouldn’t be up every 45 min but please know you don’t have to follow this guys advice. It’s ok to comfort your baby or hold them as much as you want. I have a YouTube channel or Instagram if you want to connect about sleep @kristen.lemmon

    Just a mama not a sleep consultant or anything

  • This is so cruel. Doctors clearly care more about pleasing tired parents than about what is best for the child. Do you think it’s natural for a child to learn to self soothe before they can fend for themselves? Why? The baby is crying for a reason they need a lot of physical touch and affection, they need assurance they are protected and cared for by their parents. It’s not a trick to keep you up…

    Psychologically this sort of thing causes so much damage. It’s really awful what you’re teaching.

    You think your baby actually learns “oh! I get it. At night, they will come to feed me and if there’s a ‘REAL’ emergency, but they won’t hold and comfort me, because they want me to learn to self soothe!” NO! Your child learns “my parents will not be there to give me affection and I cannot rely on them to comfort me.”

  • My son is 6 months. And when he wakes he is actually hungry. He sleeps through until 5 am some days then others he will wake 2 times. He wakes up out of sleep and realizes he is hungry. What can I do for him? I don’t want him to be hungry. But I also know for a fact he can sleep until morning.

  • Neglecting your child at night because their crying is so wrong!!! Look up the stress levels that is so bad for their small brains ������

  • Even the name Training tells you how wrong it is!!!!!!!!!!!!! You think your child is yours and you can do whatever you like? Train like an animal? Even animal doesn’t deserve to be left crying Alone!

  • It is totally wrong to suggest “training” even for 4 month old baby and say that it’s okay to let them cry for 30 minutes or an hour. No pediatrician would suggest or allow it. Baby isn’t crying for no reason. Crying will demage so many things in brain it will never recover. This video content is very incompetent and wrong! Am so sorry for your baby, who has to suffer through crying because you wanted to have a little bit more sleep!

  • I am delivering my 4th child in 6 weeks and i feel so much more prepared this time around because of the advice you have given. Even though i am alone and my husband works out of state i know if i use those techniques instead of screaming and crying and freaking out…i will rock this L nD!!

  • Love your teaching method! Thank you for this video i cannot afford the taking cara babies class and this was so helpful..also thank you for teaching me how to breathe during a contraction to get the best results from our surges

  • Hello, I encountered the problem of my child not sleeping at night and I found the solution on this website: and also I wrote to them on this email: [email protected]

  • At what age can you start sleep training. My baby is still a very new newborn. I know that sleepless nights are normal, but he just wants to feed constantly every evening and I’m at a loss for what I should do to break this habit.

  • Hi Bridget! Thank you for your super informative videos!:) About the sound machine, do you start using it right from the start when baby’s still a newborn? Is it better to only use it at night or also during naps?:)

  • Hi
    Your video is super helpful. My baby is 4 months old. Also, I have learnt that we shouldn’t wake in the night time to feed. Is that true? I tried him not feed at night but it looks like he was hungry at night and I had to feed him. Please let me know how to work on feeding at night time.

  • Thank you so much for all your videos!! I followed your videos through my pregnancy and they were so helpful. Now baby Adam is here and he’s only two weeks. Still soaking in all the info you provide to make sure I can be a great mommy. Thank you for all the grateful tips!

  • Hey Bridget! I love your videos. I am pregnant and wondering are there any books you recommend for creating healthy sleep for babies?


    “To put the baby to sleep, you shouldn’t hold, sing to, rock, or caress them. Simply put the baby to sleep without touching them, say goodbye to them with a few words, and turn off the light when you leave the room.”

    The same author has announced NOW that studies have shown babies under 6 months old, breastfed CANNOT sleep through the night, they are hungry and need their mother.

    Cry is the only thing babies have to call for help and someone published a book saying you should not respond to the basic instinct of holding your baby crying for their mom. MILLIONS of copies were sold.. I see this method recommended and taught by YOUTUBE moms every day.

    Now, these babies are adults and you start to see the consequences of this “method”[email protected]

  • Many thanks, I been tryin to find out about “best ways to make a baby sleep” for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about Qeysaiah Baby Bangka (just google it )? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my co-worker got excellent success with it.

  • This is incredible nonsense. I’ve never sleep trained and don’t intend to. But she’s babbling about ideas and opinions. The fact that you have to buy her book to find the “research” tells me that she’s spouting a tiny bit of quackery.
    “Babies shouldn’t experience cortisol”. Well, if a baby isn’t “experiencing” cortisol they have a serious adrenal glad issue and have no circadian rhythms whatsoever. If you oppose sleep training, fine. Don’t act holier than thou and vomit this nonsense to already guilt-ridden parents.
    So incredibly sad.

  • Hey Bridget, you’re simply awesome ��
    So my baby and I are not there yet, he’s almost 4 weeks old and going through the 3 weeks growth spurt so he’s nursing a LOT and cries out loud quickly when he wants to eat.
    I feel exhausted at times but can’t always manage to eat something/use the bathroom/take a shower.
    You said we can’t spoil too much a newborn.. but is it okay to let him cry a little while I do one of these basic needs? Any alternative?

  • So my little one was born May 30, 2020 and shes a baby that is easily startled and doesnt like to be startled at all she even scares herself it’s hard to put lay her down, change her diaper, etc. How can I make things easier for her especially diaper changing she literally screams bloody murder during every diaper change she doesnt like it at all any suggestions

  • i am a new mom and have 6 weeks old baby takes cat nap all day long for like 5-20 minutes and sleeps like 7-8 hours at night including Feeding se ssion.she Doesn’t want to stay at her bed or crib. Always wants to be held on arms and keep moving. And cries and fusses a lot frequently. It seems she wants to sleep or feeling sleepy but wakes up instantly.i can’t swaddle her as its very hot here and she doesn’t feel comfortable in swaddle. It has become very hard to maintain other chors during the day with this going can i make my baby to take long naps for at least half an hour during the day..badly need help.

  • I love your videos and found some of them really helpful and empowering during my pregnancy, so thank you for that �� im concerned that some very tired and new mummas will see this video and think that they need to sleep train their baby. Sleep is developmental and babies will get there + there are things you can do to help your baby with sleep that don’t involve leaving them to cry. I just want to put that out there so people watching this know there is an option and you don’t have to sleep train if it doesn’t sit well with you x

  • I sleep train my daughter and it works perfectly fine. I was sleep trained as a baby and here I am living a perfect life ��‍♂️ it isn’t abuse. Hell my dog used to leave her puppies when they would cry out and they would just fall asleep. We aren’t dogs obviously but many animals do the same with their young it’s not uncommon

  • I heard that there was something called sleep training. It is supposed to help your baby to get on the right schedule when it comes to sleeping. I want to know if anyone has heard about this.

  • Hello! Do you recommend weaning night feeds (he will now turn 4 months old and weights over 18lbs, the doctor said it’s ok to cut it out, he would usually only wakes up once at night) and also cut the pacifier and the swaddle and train naps all at the same time? What do you think of transition swaddles?

  • Hi! Thanks for your videos!
    I have a five week old baby girl and have a question. She never falls asleep unless she’s on us or near us. Once she’s asleep she can sleep independently in her bed for naps and at night. Is it normal that newborns don’t fall asleep by themselves? Is that okay for future sleep training?

  • Im not a parent yet but I do want kids in about a year or so. To start at least. So Ive been doing my research on all sorts of things. I do have an almost 5 year old step son but he still sleeps in bed with my bf (we dont live together yet). I dont think that I would ever do that. Sleep training does seem to work for some people and some people also disagree. Im not sure yet what i’ll do but I love the idea of babies finding ways to self soothe and be independent. And i think its great when children can sleep in their own rooms and being secure that mommy and daddy will be a room away if they need anything. But its hard bc my bf wants our babies to sleep in bed with us. I guess we’ll see what happens. We have to compromise somewhere in the middle. I just dont want my kids to be too co dependent, more so as children.

  • Dear mommy,
    I am confused.
    I am used to falling asleep in your soft, warm arms. Each night I lay snuggled close to you; close enough to hear your heartbeat, close enough to smell your sweet fragrance. I gaze at your beautiful face as I gently drift off to sleep, safe and secure in your loving embrace. When I awaken with a growling stomach, cold feet or because I need a cuddle, you attend to me quickly and before long I am sound asleep once again.
    But this last week has been different.
    Each night this week has gone like this. You tucked me up into my cot and kissed me goodnight, turned out the light and left. At first I was confused, wondering where you’d gone. Soon I became scared, and called for you. I called and called for you mummy, but you wouldn’t come! I was so sad, mummy. I wanted you so badly. I’ve never felt feelings that strong before. Where did you go?
    Eventually you came back! Oh, how happy and relieved I was that you came back! I thought you had left me forever! I reached up to you but you wouldn’t pick me up. You wouldn’t even look me in the eye. You lay me back down with those soft warm arms, said “shh, it’s night time now” and left again.
    This happened again, over and over. I screamed for you and after a while, longer each time, you would return but you wouldn’t hold me.
    After I had screamed a while, I had to stop. My throat hurt so badly. My head was pounding and my tiny tummy was growling. My heart hurt the most, though. I just couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t come.
    After what felt like a lifetime of nights like this, I gave up. You don’t come when I scream, and when you do finally come you won’t even look me in the eye, let alone hold my shaking, sobbing little body. The screaming hurt too much to carry on for very long.
    I just don’t understand, mummy. In the daytime when I fall and bump my head, you pick me up and kiss it better. If I am hungry, you feed me. If I crawl over to you for a cuddle, you read my mind and scoop me up, covering my tiny face with kisses and telling me how special I am and how much you love me. If I need you, you respond to me straight away.
    But at night time, when it’s dark and quiet and my night-light casts strange shadows on my wall, you disappear. I can see that you’re tired, mummy, but I love you so much. I just want to be near to you, that’s all.
    Now, at night time, I am quiet. But I still miss you.

  • My baby is almost 1 month old. How do I get her to sleep in her crib or bassinet? She only wants to sleep on me. All she does is cry.

  • Just wondering how to approach baby through the night? My nearly 5mo old has been sleeping with me and wakes up every 1-3hrs (he nurses back to sleep). Do I do the time intervals again and again through the night? Thank you for your videos!

  • I think you should start addressing mommas AND daddys in your videos. A lot of the info you put in your content is stuff I want my husband to be watching and learning, as it pertains to him just as much as me. Just a thought. ��

  • I thought your channel was about natural and gentle approaches to childbirth and infant care. This content, where you are obviously on the fence about such harsh methods as “cry-it-out” sleep training, is incongruent with that aim. How disappointing.

  • You are such an amazing giver. I found your videos so helpful. And i am glad i found ur videos even though it was my last week of gestation. I gave birth and now my newborn is here by the grace of Almighty. So following u for the newborn care advices. Keep spreading such knowledge and love of birth. You are just amazing Bridget!! ♡

  • “I recommend following this guide if you want to learn how to put your baby to sleep quickly&safe: it worked in 2020 for us, very well explained”