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Should your child share your bed?

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Dr. Basora-Rovira reminds parents that under the age of 12 months, there should be absolutely no bed-sharing. The AAP updated their sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) guidelines in 2016 to recommend room-sharing for the baby’s first year, but to avoid bed-sharing due to accidental suffocation risks. The primary reason many mothers choose to bed-share with their infant is to promote prolonged breastfeeding.

Last year, a study claimed that mothers who bed. It’s OK to Share a Bed with Your Toddler, Study Finds Co-sleeping with your toddler isn’t likely to cause negative social or cognitive problems, a new study finds. (Image: © ©. Children who share the same bed with their parents are at a higher risk of sudden infant death syndrome compared to kids who sleep separately. That is why most experts suggest seeing what works best for the entire family, given that everyone gets a good sleep every night. To reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), the Canadian Paediatric Society recommends that you share a room, but not a bed, with your baby.

You should never share a bed with your baby if you or your partner has been drinking alcohol, taking drugs or. But if parents are uncomfortable cuddling with their opposite-sex child in bed, then they shouldn’t do it. “The discomfort will undoubtedly get communicated to the child and confuse or upset them,” she says. “Whether cuddling or sleeping, the most. Infant Bed-Sharing Alert Preschoolers aren’t the only kids snoozing next to a grown-up at night—many babies are too.

However, bed-sharing puts infants at risk of accidental suffocation, and the. Parents who co-sleep with their children report that they have no idea how they got to the point where their beds are consistently occupied by both children and adults. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that infants do not share a bed with anybody else, to prevent the risk of getting accidentally suffocated by a parent or bedding, or trapped in the space between the bed and the wall. Room-sharing is encouraged, however.

There may not be a set age where you should transition your child to a bed. But there are a few telltale signs that indicate it’s time for an upgrade. In general, if you see your child exhibiting.

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For example, the American Academy of Pediatrics (2016) has recently revised their guidelines on safe infant sleeping environments, which include room sharing but not bed-sharing, ideally for the first 12 months, as a means of reducing risk of sudden unexpected infant death syndrome.

“Handbook of Infant Mental Health, Fourth Edition” by Charles H. Zeanah
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by Charles H. Zeanah
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Younger adults with infants or young children in the house should be discouraged from sharing a bed with their children.

“Encyclopedia of Sleep” by Clete Kushida
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by Clete Kushida
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• If you choose to share a bed with your baby, please discuss this with your baby’s doctor to make sure you are doing so under the safest possible conditions, as there is a small but real risk of accidental suffocation associated with this practice in infants under age 1 year.

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by Jodi A. Mindell, Judith A. Owens
Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

The risk of infant bed sharing is increased in infants who have no identified place to sleep, have health or care issues, and are breastfed.

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Mothers who do not breastfeed but who bed-share with the baby do not appear to automatically assume this protective sleep position, a finding that suggests that, for those not breastfeeding, a safer way to assure sensory proximity is a three-sided samesurface crib attached to the parent’s bed (refer to Figure 6.2).

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by Mary Jane Maguire-Fong, Marsha Peralta
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Some counselors suggest that partners who sleep apart should set aside time for cuddling, skin-to-skin contact, chatting, and lying down together to reconnect, because even if their shared sleeping times were miserable for both of them, cosleeping can be very important for intimacy and empathy.

“The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life's Most Essential Skill” by Karla McLaren
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Infants should sleep in a shared room but in a separate bed.

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Bed sharing with young infants is a dangerous practice and should be discouraged.

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The American Academy of Pediatrics has stated that bed sharing can be hazardous under certain conditions, and in 1999 the Consumer Product Safety Commission recommended against parents and babies sleeping together at all.

“The Nursing Mother's Companion” by Ruth A. Lawrence, Kathleen Huggins
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by Ruth A. Lawrence, Kathleen Huggins
Harvard Common Press, 2005

• Inform families that adult beds have potential risks and are not designed to meet federal safety standards for infants.

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Elsevier Health Sciences, 2015

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  • Just came across your video and it is truly wonderful! My baby is now 5 months old and we’ve been bed-sharing the whole time and plan to for years to come. What gets me about the myths, is that they are so close-minded! As you mentioned, the majority of the world co-sleeps to some capacity, and well, many families have more than one child (they found a way to get creative!), those kids still aren’t sleeping with their parents, and they all learned to be independent when the time was right, etc.

  • Been sleeping in my parents room since 2001, junior 1 bedroom apartment bunk bed. Wasn’t until 2016 we moved out, but I didn’t mind it and would do it again if had to happen again.

  • It is not dangerous unless you are a non attentive parent…people that roll over on and smother their child are in the same league of people who leave a baby in a hot car. If you are always thinking of your child harming them will be the last thing you do.

  • I’m so glad I found this video! My son is almost a month old he’s breastfed and I was getting no sleep with him sleeping in his bassinet. He likes to nurse through out the night. I’m basically a paci lol. I was very nervous to put him in bed, and I still am but it has just become natural I guess. When my daughter was about 11 months I ended up sharing the bed with her because of our living situation at the time. Now she is 3 and I am having a hard time getting her to sleep in her own bed/bedroom. She moves a lot in her sleep and likes being close to me so it’s not safe to have her in the bed with the baby.

  • My husband and I tried to get my baby to sleep in her bassinet but she’d wake up 10 minutes after putting her down. I ended up just taking her into the bed with me and putting her back to sleep. She only wakes up once at night to feed throughout the night. Her quality of sleep is so much better and in the morning we both are much more well rested.

  • I get not sleeping every night, (you want them to be able to sleep on there own) but like if my daughter is sick or has a nightmare I’m not gonna send her back to her room. (Keep in mind she is 6)

  • if you want to know more about co sleeping with your babies, here my review its honest and im a breast feeding mum!

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  • My daughter is almost 19 months, and still can’t stand to wake up with a blanket even slightly covering her. I’ve noticed now I don’t use or worry about blankets as well �� ��‍♀️
    And yessss. I finally got sleep when I decided to bring her to sleep with me. Golden ��

  • When done safely, and using safe sleeping practices(no blankets above mom’s waist, no pillows, firm mattress, no swaddled and a breast feeding mother), co-sleeping with a baby who nurses, it is actually SAFER than using a crib in a separate room. Babies NEED to be fed every few hours. Waking to feed helps reduce SIDS. I don’t know who created the notion that an infant should not eat every few hours, but it’s ridiculous.
    Not to mention, infants are designed to need nurturing. Adults don’t like sleeping alone, why should a helpless infant? Babies want to be near mom, they want to be warm. It is biologically natural to safely cosleep.
    Besides, humans are the only species that don’t share sleeping spaces with their young.

  • From India… All most all mums cosleep… It’s just normal thing to do… You are there for baby when they are vulnerable… Most countries in eastern world have strong family bonds…

  • See I have been stressing out because my 10 month old just doesn’t want to sleep in her pack n play by the bed. If I’ve tried getting her to go to sleep in it and finally give in and lay her next to me she goes right to sleep. I love sleeping with her. It makes me feel a stronger bond, etc. of course I want to do what is best for her but I don’t see the harm. I co-slept as a baby and am a very independent and capable adult. I cannot see just letting her lay there and cry unnecessarily. It hurts my heart!

  • I am currently cosleeping with my 9 month old daughter… I love it! but she still wakes up every 2/3 hours to nurse.������
    What can I do to help her sleep throughout the night? ����

  • If you advocate for this then you are part of the problem. Teaching a child to be independent at night is an important lesson that a child needs to learn for later in life. You are not doing your child any favors by making them dependent on you being there to sleep. And in some cases you are driving a wedge between yourself and your partner. It is not healthy for the child. You are depriving them of the self confidence they need to become independent.

  • You really went into some detail with the sex part. IF two parents have the same schedule than you get home spend time with kids, dinner, relax etc, and then its bed time. If your kids wont sleep alone you have to lay with them until they sleep which usually means parents fall asleep. Otherwise do sneak into the bathroom and lock the door while kids watch TV?

  • I wonder why co-sleeping should be problematic. It is the most natural thing. Sooner or later children will leave anyway, so enjoy staying close to them. Never had a sleepless night.

  • That first myth is just so so true! Everyone always thinks it’s so dangerous when they first hear it but when I explain it, they actually say it makes sense:)

  • Thank you so much for all of the information you just shared. My family is not supportive of me breastfeeding and co sleeping with my 30 month old daughter and it’s nice to be able to ease my mind and stop worrying if I’m doing it right! I admire your love for life… struggles and all!

  • AMEN to this video! I am a proud co sleeping mom to my now 21month old son and it was very much intentional. Thank you for speaking about your experience, busting myths and trying to help others understand that co sleeping IS NORMAL and very, VERY much okay. I do plan on co sleeping with our next one (due in July). So again…THANK YOU.
    P.S. Months ago I successfully weaned from breastfeeding and continued co sleeping thanks to your videos.

  • Me and my boyfriend talked about cosleeping before our little was born and he was on board. Then the hospital scared him into not letting me cosleep with our little at all. I coslept with my parents, he co slept with his. Someone help me convenience him that it will be Okay.

  • I’m 13 going 14 I sleep with my mom in the same room we have another one idk I do sleep alone but Its colder over there and hfe bed is better I’m ashamed

  • This was the first video of yours that I watched. I had terrible anxiety about co sleeping but my baby refused to sleep in her bassinet since the day she was born. There was no swaddle tight enough to get her to sleep soundly for more than 10 minutes on her own. I knew I wanted her next to me but all the nurses and doctors in the hospital scared me.. I bought her the dock a tot and that didn’t work either. So anyway… here I am 3 months later, full on co sleeping with my baby girl.
    Which by the way, as much as I love having her close, I kinda wish we would have kept her in her own bed lol. Sometimes I just wanna move freely without disturbing her sleep! haha but i guess we’ll know for next time!

  • I co slept for a long time with my son (i only stopped because he started to roll and fall off the bed) and he is not spoiled at all. People actually comment on his high level of independence for his age. He’s nearly 2 years old and he can just quietly play by himself for long stretches of time, discovering new things and showing them to me from time to time.

  • My 11 month old co-sleeps and nurses to sleep: naptimes and bedtime. I plan to return to work soon and am anxious how he will manage napping without me. Anyone else who has been through this situation?

  • Nirsing my son22 and 1/2 months. Thought that dude was gonna be on the boob til college. One day he was like…. “Meh”…and I was like.. “Meh?” and he was like “Meh…..”. I cried.

  • Pediatricians here do not recommend sleep training at all for several reasons. I wouldn’t so it any Way. You can be Lucky but most of the Babies and toddlers Wake up a lot. So you do whatever works and provides the most sleep for everyone. And that is cosleeping for most of the families i know. First we used an attached bed, as soon as he was crwaling he slept in our bed. Up to 13 hours straight. Thats Great ans i won’t touch that Running System.

  • Co sleeping with your child is a Really bad idea because it means when they age they will continue to depend on YOUR bed running YOUR blissful sleep.

    Sharing a bed is blinking irritating lol

  • You have a lot of good points, and I like how you are trying to teach how to cosleep safely. But a lot of comments center around the mom loving cosleeping, but not around what is best for the baby. There is also a lot here supporting side-lying breastfeeding until you fall asleep. This I will say is pretty dangerous. I am a postpartum nurse, and have found more babies than I can count suffocating under their mother’s breast, arm, or blanket. I also know of several cases even in my own small city of babies who have died while cosleeping, even where people had previously coslept with other children with no problems. Just because many people have done it with no issues, and maybe even someone has done it themself with no issues, does not mean that something bad can not happen. At least the separate attachement is better, or just a basinet beside the bed.

  • Everyone in my place co sleep. Crib or bassinet is new to us. We have two bed one king n queen bed connected together n the baby sleep in between. Plenty of space. N not one of sids reported from our place. Plus we have a thing against women drinking alcohol in our culture so that’s never a prob. I was just curious about the crib n then I came across co sleeping as a no no for westerner

  • “…Would not be roused by rolling over on to a child…’ That one always gets me. Where is the common sense in these warnings? Great video!

  • Me and my two months old boy are taking naps together in our bed, but he sleeps in is own bassinet at night next to the bed. Co sleeping during night seems a bit too dangerous to me because I tend to sleep real tight. But the naps with him are amazing, he sleeps very well and I can get some rest too:)

  • Yes thank you for this video it is true this topic is not being talked about I co slept with my oldest daughter when she was born now I gave birth to my second daughter two weeks ago and I bought a crib for her and a Moses as well and u know what I tried not to co sleep plus my health visiter says I shouldn’t but this lady needs to understand my baby doesn’t want to sleep alone!!!!! Lol �� the other day I tried putting her in her crib and I was up till 6 in the morning because every time she fell asleep in my arms I put her in her crib and I go in my bed and boom not even one minute she was up and fussing so now I just shared my dirty secrets and I love u for sharing this video I haven’t came across a video like this one before yes I understand it’s important to be alert and safe sleeping is important and I’m a safe sleeper and yes I was sharing bed with my mom and dad as well

  • I know this is an old video but I really need to know if you put your newborn directly in your bed with you do you have to have a firm mattress? I need to know this.. Everything else I’ve got covered.

  • So this is very interesting. So here in Kenya the little dirty secret is when you want to sleep separately with your baby. A high percentage of People just look at you like are you crazy??? So I wanted my baby to sleep in a bassinet from day 1. woah! I did it for one night, the next night my baby was fussy and didn’t like it and also I was not getting any sleep from moving around breastfeeding my baby and also being anxious about baby. So I followed my mum’s advise and put the baby next to me and breastfed while lying in bed. I get very good and satisfying sleep and I am so attached to my baby. Best thing is breastfeeding has become quite easy. Love it

  • I don’t wake up to most noises and I’ve hit my husband several times in my sleep I move way too much I know co sleeping isn’t for me based on that but I’m still wondering if it’s safe at all

  • So I reallly want to co-sleep & so does my sweet 3 year old. The ONLY thing is.. when I put him down to sleep we do the bedtime routine… he is literally a drunken octopus flipping around for 2 hours before he actually passes out. I’ve been trying this with him for 1 month now and it’s not getting any better. Any tips to help stop the drunk octopus so this CAN work for us? Haha

  • Hi i just stumbled upon your chanel and i love it this this video was very useful and informative, now i have a question, cuz i haven’t found any information at all on my co-sleeping situation, im the proud mother of a 3 month old baby, Erika, she is very attached to me and we thought she was a high maintenance baby but it turns out its just her awful colic, cuz when she is not in pain she is sweet and funny and just great, she is not super chill cuz she is very active and cuz she is in pain most of the time it’s hard for her to relax, and its also hard for her not me near me and my magical healing boobs, so we co-sleep it happened naturally, didn’t even realize it and one day i was a co-sleeper, the thing is that we don’t do it like apparently everyone else does…she doesn’t sleep next to me, she sleeps on me, especially cuz of the position on wich she feeds, and the fact that we both fall asleep while feeding at night, and also, cuz next to me is not an option, she doesn’t accept it and my bf does not agree with it… Any ways the thing is that i can’t find any info on how to safely do that, i have taken my own precautions, but i just don’t know if im doing it right, i have created sort of like a nest around me, and on the edge of the bed there is as co-sleeping crib so the nest can’t fall apart and the baby can’t never fall…do you know any info on what im doing? know other people on the same situation? Am i just doing something dangerous? Thank you!!! And congrats on your wonderful chanel ��

  • Yay to this video!! Co slept with my first daughter, currently cosleeping with my second daughter. My first daughter is super independent and confident.Made my son (first born and didn’t follow my instincts) sleep on his own and he is very nervous and insecure. Don’t know for sure that’s related but it’s interesting to me.

  • I completely agree. I co slept with my daughter for years and never had issues. And then when it came time to it i put her in bed right next to mine. It was more important to me for her to not feel alone and to feel i was there when or if she needed me. Most importantly feel that bond/ closeness and love. Loving, snuggling n being affectionate is not spoiling your child!

  • Also, can we take a moment to think about how amazing it is being able to cuddle into your child after a long day. Some days are stressful and busy, and you maybe feel like you’ve told them “in a minute darling” too many times. Or maybe they’ve been pushing your buttons a little and you feel like you’ve done nothing but clean up toddler destruction.. then you get into bed and snuggle into your toddler and take just lay with them peacefully, as often they don’t even hold still long enough for hugs anymore.

  • It’s pretty normal for asian families. Even when i was around 13 i would sleep with my parents if I had nightmares. I used to have severe anxiety and co sleeping made me feel safer

  • I’ve co slept with my son since he was around 9 months old? We both love it. We have a solid 8-10 hours of sleep a night. He’ll drift back off it he does wake up. He’s 16 months now and yeah, perfect for us.

  • How is co-sleeping with a baby an issue? Like I live in Ireland and when I was younger I would often take naps, with my three week old brother! Co-Sleeping is so normal to us that when the heating was out I(Aged 10)would sleep with my mother and my little brother would sleep between us. One thing I would note is we would pull the pillows away from the middle of the bed and put the bottom half of his body under the duvet with us to keep him warm. This was a standard double bed, and we all slept fine, sometimes better cause he would stir less between us. Though getting woken for school with baby kicking your ribs never got easy

  • My daughter is 3, nearly 4 and she sleeps in my bed most nights, in a lot of cases this is because the child won’t sleep in their own bed. But my daughter would quite happily sleep in either bed, she will however still come through to me if she stirs. I have her in my bed because I like to sleep beside her, I’m a single mum so I have the space in the bed, and it feels a lot more natural and safe. I breastfed so a lot of the time she would be in beside me, I’ve noticed that as a mother you’re never fully dead asleep, there is always a part of your brain thinking about your baby, at least for me it was this way. Bedtimes are really nice for us, sometimes there is some fuss, and maybe some tears, but never tantrums like I’ve seen or I even pulled as a child, and they always end nice with a story and hugs. I don’t know if it’s the way I’ve done things as she’s grown, or if I’m just lucky. She’s always been an amazing sleeper

  • Every songle country in the world co-sleeps. Its the most natural thing in the world. Its just a silly money-making plot. Co-sleep with your baby. They need their mom.

  • It is very cold where we live and spiders etc are not out of the question so we are not overly keen on having our bed on the floor and I have concerns that the bedrails (even the ones that do flip down to get in and out) might be dangerous for babies under 18months? If you are only using a pool noodle with a rolling baby is a king size bed wide enough or would you need a superking? Are pool noodles breathable enough? Is their a non toxic alternative and can they still find a way of getting over the noodle or are they old enough at that point that they can safely get in and out of bed themselves?

  • You got a million of compliments from people who love the video. However, I see these are mostly women. Mostly moms. I hope you may then still enjoy one more happy comment from a guy. Yes. At 8:20, I agree with all claims, and thought I would make you happy to let you know (btw: my kid was co-sleeping with his mom for too long to admit, so I am NOT entirely ignorant in the matter):)  … keep promoting smart lifestyle!!!

  • American culture is like no having no culture at all because everyone coming to the US was different so they kept their different ideals to themselves to become one country as a result America just does everything different from the rest of the world.

  • My daughter was in her bassinet fine for the first few weeks but she has since taken a huge turn for the WORST!! I am TIRED! And she will not sleep longer than 20 minutes!! I know that the lack of sleep is effecting my patience. I am going to try to cosleep tonight. Wish me luck!

  • I’m going to guess that people who cosleep after they are kindergarten are less likely to be independent, perform well academically, go getters, adventurers, and innovative

  • My grandmother let my younger cousin sleep In her bed and he didn’t stop sleeping in bed with her till she died [ he was 14]

    My boyfriends parents let his younger brother sleep in there bed [he’s 10] just started sleeping in his bed

    I’m personally to scared to sleep with the baby in the bed

  • me and my wife refused co sleeping until our child is strong enough and smart enough to a able to get up and get off our bed on their own and strong enough to do it. So we didn’t start until she became 2 yr old and showed those characteristics. Plus make it easy for us that I co sleep with our 2 yr old while my wife focus on new born.

  • Just want to say I applaud how flexible you are as a mama! You truly put your kiddos first in a makes-sense-kinda-way whereas the majority of our culture is all about what’s convenient for the parent despite the discomfort or even damage to the child. Well done mama. It just makes sense!

  • Cosleeping is making me dislike my wife and children. It teaches the baby not to sleep if mom gets out of bed. So it’s become, if moms up everyone’s up situation. It can lead to being a single mom.

  • My plan was to never co sleep I was against it, my daughter would wake up every 3 hours when she was in her pack and play bed and I was so exhausted and just start putting her in the bed and would sleep ALL night 8 hours. So I am now a co sleeping mom and we both get our full sleep. Also my daughter doesn’t like a blanket either and she is 2

  • My mother-in law is driving me crazy with “no! Don’t have her sleep in the bed with you” I’m buying you a crib “ and she’s not even born yet!… I’ve got a month to go. I’m from South Africa and I live in Florida, here co sleeping is a problem but back home it’s so normal. And I fully plan on co sleeping with my babygirl. I’m a light sleeper so she’ll be fine. Thank you for this video��

  • I love how you touched on the scientific things such as sleeping with your baby can stabalize both mother & babies breathing & heart rate also that moms usually stir a few mins before baby needs them & the myth about children not being independent due to co-sleeping, theirs actually scientific evidence that says children whom are kept close to mom, co-sleep, that they grow up to be very independent and are able to maintain closer relationships & friendships than children who are pushed into their own beds before they are ready. I read all about all of this stuff when my daughter was born 14 months ago, THANK YOU ��❤️ for THIS! Hugs from Canada ������ ALSO when I mastered breastfeeding lying down �� GOLD! sleepy dust for everyone!

  • I so needed this video and all of these comments. My baby is 3 weeks and co sleeping is what works for us, but I keep getting told so many of these myths and I don’t let it change what we’re doing but it does bother me and keep me thinking.

  • There is nothing more warmer, safer, and more comfortable than Mommy’s bed. I’m in my 40s and have a better mattress then my parents, still their nest is more comforting than mine. My teenage boys are the same with my bed but no they refuse to sleep with me.
    Co sleeping is innate in all cultures but why we chose to separate ourselves from our children during the most vulnerable precious moments has to do with our history and culture exceptsnce.Upper class societies generally did not sleep with their children so all classes adopted this method of parenting as

  • Im nearly 13 and my dad force me to sleep with my mom i have my own room and want to sleep by myself but for some weird reason I’m not aloud to which really annoys me cuz my mom and.dad always make me sleep with my mum PLEASE HELP and tell me why their doing that

  • First World problems. It is u natural to have your baby sleeping in another room. The mayority of People in the World dont even have an extra room or even a room!. Do what ever works for your family

  • Good for you guys talking about co sleeping! I wish you had gotten into how they do it differently in other countries more though and why these families feel it is safe. I had to co sleep with my daughter because I had to have my episiotomy restitched and was breastfeeding and was in so much pain there was no other way it would work but I always made sure to go by all the safety rules for co sleeping and was very careful and protective of my daughter. Once she reached an age where she moved around move I kept her in her crib more because I was not comfortable with her in my bed but that was completely up to me and I think it is a personal decision. I used to be completely against it until I was trying to live off of half an hour of sleep a night for weeks and just couldn’t do it anymore. At least with her in my bed I was getting at least 2 or 3 hours a night and felt a bond I could never have imagined before. I love my baby and want to keep her as safe as possible but i believe there is way to do that while co sleeping

  • Girl thank you for this video. My husband is from Guatemala and he balked so hard at the idea of buying a crib. We didnt even use it lol. Except to cage son as a toddler when i had to get a shower lol. Breastfeed. Cosleep. Its soooo worth it.

  • I’ve been co-sleeping with my kids since birth, they still love it, but after 5 years I am suffering from all sorts of back and arm aches�� Can’t wait to kick them out within a year or two.

  • Hey Amanda! Binged on your videos awhile back and am now finally getting around to commenting ( #MomLife). I loved this video and it reassured me that yes I am normal! Haha! I co-slept and am still co-sleeping with my 1 year old and it felt so nice to hear someone speak of their experience, but also the reasoning behind co-sleeping. I think, in society, we’re quick to dismiss our inner voices and I think if more people listened to themselves and their babies they might be surprised as to where it wouldlead them. I know I was!:)

  • I love the idea of more time/bonding with my children. So the myths that you mentioned are not really the reasons why I plan on not co-sleeping. I think my main concern is I feel like it would take away from the time I share with my husband. With our busy schedules, bedtime is one of the few points during the day we get to connect and enjoy our alone time. And I want to make sure I’m putting attention on our relationship as well as the one with our child ❤️. Curious how other people’s experience for this had been like

  • I would say do not sleep with down comforters and do not sleep with pillows or pillow toppers. Babies can’t sleep on an indented surface or it can impair their breathing.

  • My babys all slept in their own bed, newborn to two months in a bassinet in my room, then to their own crib, in their own room. In the US it is encouraged to not sleep with baby bc of rolling over on them, poor sleeping for parents and baby. Baby needs their own crib, no bumpers, pillows, stuffed animals, blankets, just dressed warmly on an approved mattress with a tight fitting fitted sheet. We are encouraged to not hold baby to sleep bc we could fall asleep and drop the baby, and the strict guidelines do work. SIDS is a very big issue here. Cps can actually remove a child or not release them home from the hospital until they perform a home check to make sure the baby has their own bed that’s approved and safe.

  • Here in the Uk co sleeping is a massive taboo. All the midwives i spoke to told me it was a horrible idea. But i the first week in with bubba was a nightmare without co sleeping he just flat out refused to sleep in his bassinet or cot. So we both ended up being sleep deprived and stressed out

  • Of course if the baby dies….then what? What is so wrong with just having the crib next to your bed? This video is wrong….and people need to realize that even one death from co-sleeping should never happen.

  • If I get older and have children I will not share my bed with children I’m afraid I will crush them or they will start kicking me BTW I’m 11����

  • I personally wouldn’t place the baby in my bed. I would worry too much about the risks. Although I 100% advocate for using co sleeping cribs. The baby is no further away from you than they would be if you placed them in your bed, and you barely have to move to breastfeed. Can someone explain to me why some parents directly co-sleep rather than using a co-sleeper? It just doesn’t seem safe to me, I know mums have great intuition and are unlikely to roll on their babies but it can still happen.

  • Holy crap I needed this video!!!! I’m a first time mom…my daughter is 1 week 5 days old and she is having a really hard time sleeping at night..and the only thing that seems to be working is when she is in bed with me…I been feeling so guilty and like I was doing something wrong!!! This made me feel so much better! ��

  • Okay. Now I need to know… is it only Danes who places their children outside in a pram when they nap through the day? Obviously we have baby alarms on them and keep an eye on them. And we don’t just leave them crying outside. Since day 1 my sister took her naps in a pram outside our house, in that way she got fresh air. In the nursery (vuggestue) she went to the parents brought their pram and the child would sleep outside in that.
    As for nighttime I have always slept in a bassinet/crib right beside my parents bed and whenever I needed to nurse my mom would bring me over in her bed and nurse me, then put me back.

  • When someone says “you can do your own research” this is a clue that they are pulling things out of the air. Instead of looking for sources which confirm your bias, use actual peer-reviewed research and provide links to these in the comments. It’s not hard; just copy and paste the links.

  • I sleep with my son (he’s 2 weeks old) Because other wise he wakes up screeching. Plus it easy for me to just roll over and breast feed him and then go back to sleep.

  • This did not help at all?? Im a new mom and I have so many questions on co sleeping and this wasn’t really informative on how to actually co sleep. Like how is the intimacy between your spouse, or does co sleeping with a toddler mean you all go to bed at the same time? Im just super frustrated I can’t find any answers just very passionate women telling how great it is??? Ugh

  • I’m American, and I slept in my own crib from birth. My mom slept on the floor beside my crib, though, and when she would get up and try to sneak out, I would always wake up and have to fall asleep all over again. I was a clingy baby:P

  • The reason co sleeping is taboo is because medical professionals make moms feel like they will kill their babies if they even think of sleeping together.

  • To each its own…I dont believe in co sleeping.
    My children slept in their crib from day one.
    If you are scared you can put an angel care mattress in their crib which will make an alarm if no breathing is detected within 1 minute.

  • Thank you for this video! We just decided to cosleep at five months old because that is the only way we can get good sleep for long periods of time. I’ve been feeling anxious about even though I LOVE IT and feels right.

  • People who are struggling with the question of co sleeping with their baby or not, watch the documentary The Milky Way. They cover the benefits of co sleeping and how it’s only dangerous when the baby is formula fed and the parents don’t do any research on how to co sleep with their baby.

  • I co slept with my mom and till this day i sleep in the bed with my mom when i visit her. she used to try and transition me to my bed by sleeping with me in mine and i would leave her in my bed and go to hers lol. i plan on co sleeping with my baby

  • No, I know 3 people whose children died during co sleeping. 2 children were from the same mom and dad.The children were rolled over on and parents didn’t wake up when it was done. The other one died when it went between the mattress and the headboard.This happens allot.It is dangerous

  • Im 14 and I still sleep in my parents room. We have another room in which I can sleep in but my parents wont let me sleep there and I dont even know whyy, it seems weird tho

  • My baby has silent acid reflux, so I’ve been holding her every night. I’m one of those women who has fallen into co-sleeping for safety. Have to figure out some way to get some sleep!

  • Thanks for sharing such a positive experience! In Russia (where I’m coming from) co-sleeping is normal, but people mostly find it exhausting. I really liked your attitude and in general the way you speak! ����

  • Sleeping and breastfeeding was honestly a saviour, this is why I say she was a great sleeper, because she would sleep and eat and I would sleep too. She would feed for hours at a time, maybe partly for comfort. I remember my midwife telling me there was no way she was feeding for 2 hours.. I was just thinking “tell me more about that when it’s your nipple she’s attached to for hours” ������

  • As a child, I was never afraid of the dark but I do recall my whole family piling in the same bed during late night thunderstorms. it was the safest place in the world to me