Ideas to Stop Toddler Hitting


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Here are 9 tips to stop toddler hitting: Be There To Handle It “Between the ages of 2 and 3, toddler social emotional development is such that children may Understand the Behavior It’s important to realize that toddlers need to act out. “Toddlers do a lot of learning from React. As soon as your child hits (or if you can stop him as his hand goes up), take him away from the situation right away. Get him to relax by having him run around outside or take a few deep breaths.

Once he’s regained his composure, explain what he did wrong clearly and simply. (Don’t overexplain, because he won’t understand a complex explanation.). How to Stop a Toddler from Hitting Causes of Toddler Hitting. Toddlers may not realize that hitting can hurt, because a sense of compassion isn’t Solutions for Toddler Hitting. The way you react to your child’s lashing out is the key to nipping it in the bud. Here’s The Bottom Line.

With young toddlers, one way to teach them not to hit is to demonstrate gentle touch. “If Sebastian wasn’t angry or upset, but just hitting to hit, we’d say, ‘Ouch, that hurt me. Can you show me a gentle touch?’” says Robson. “We’d gently stroke his head or arm or wherever he had hit us. Discipline Tips for Stopping a Child From Hitting Others Talk with your child before he joins others in a playgroup about appropriate ways to act. Tell your child what you expect in easy-to-understand language. Once your child is old enough to really understand what you are saying, he is old enough to begin learning right from wrong.

HOW DO YOU GIVE A TODDLER A TIME OUT? FIND A PERMANENT TIME OUT LOCATION. We were putting my daughter in time out wherever we could.

If we were in the living WALK OUT OF THE ROOM. This trick works wonders. When your toddler goes into time out, walk out of the room and ignore GET DOWN TO THEIR.

Here are a few ideas to get you started: Use your words. Help your child learn to use words instead of hitting. Walk away. Teach your child to walk away when they feel someone is treating them badly.

You don’t want them walking away Go to your quiet corner. Make a special corner where your child. Reinforcing good behaviors with positive consequences can encourage your child to stop hitting.

For example, reward your child for using “gentle touches.” Break the day up into several time periods where he can earn stickers or tokens for good behaviors. You can also praise your child when they use gentle touches. Recognize your child’s feeling or goal.

Let your child know that you understand what he wants to do: You want to play with the water, but you cannot spill the water from your sippy cup on the floor. Or, You are really angry. You want to stay longer at the playground, but it. Keep your toddler active. You might find that when your toddler doesn’t get a chance to burn off her abundant energy, she’s a terror at home.

If your child is high-spirited, give her plenty of unstructured time, preferably outdoors, to let off steam. Get help if you need it.

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Teach him to tolerate pinches and hugs and the inadvertent bangs and bumps that an uncoordinated toddler may accidentally inflict.

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When your child takes a swing at her playmate, say firmly, “Don’t hit!

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When the toddler hits or bites another child, calmly remove the offender from the situation.

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If necessary, gently but firmly separate the children so the child who hit will not do it again, saying, “Hands are not for hitting.

“Hands Are Not for Hitting” by Martine Agassi, Marieka Heinlen
from Hands Are Not for Hitting
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A note about hitting: In my experience, when toddlers laugh while they’re hitting, run away (while laughing), or repeatedly try to touch things they’ve been asked not to (also laughing), these are almost always veiled requests for Movement fun.

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Solution: Try putting a small wrist weight on his hands to help him keep them down, or put a small toy in each pocket and encourage him to play with the toys and stop the waving.

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Positive reinforcement, redirection, and time­outs are appropriate for most toddlers.

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Hold their hands while speaking softly if they are prone to hit or throw during their tantrum.

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For example, you might say to your child, “Stop hitting.

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If the toddler has learned that he can’t stop Dad from hitting, he may redirect his control needs to compulsively arrange objects.

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  • My 6 year old nephew needs help. He’s autistic and has violent behavior. He hits with a closed fist, he bites, he bangs on the wall, table, destroyed furniture, he screams and yells, and he even touches your breast or legs when it’s a female. When I visited he bit me so hard, and I couldn’t take it anymore I just left. I feel so sorry for my sister because there’s no relief. He’s like this daily. Anything you suggest? He’s seeing a psychiatrist, going to aba, but nothing works.

  • What if I just generally get very easy very fast….?
    Everything literally and I can’t control it and apparently people fear me when I’m angry but they tell me they like me alot when I’m not angry and that I’m very nice and polite

  • Its very informative. If the quality of recorder is better, it would be easier for a English as second Lagrange speaker like me. The sound seem to have echoes.

  • My 1 yr old hits the 3 yr old. The little one slapped the other one the other day just because the 3 yr old fell down. The 3 yr old cried so hard and kept pointing at the 1 yr old. Actually thr 1 yr old is 1.5 yrs old. I’m so frustrated. I’ve already said no, other people say he doesn’t know what he is doing but I’m just so frustrated. The 3 yr old does not deserve it.

  • I just start to pretend to cry when she hits me and she starts to say sorry and give hugs plus kisses. She stopped hitting me after she realise that she was hurting me

  • What do you do when your 2 and a half year old smacks you without reason? Like out of nowhere? Mine does both when he is frustrated and just because….I have tried hugging him but he is all over the place, I’ve tried talking to him calmly then he just screams & smacks me again. I am at a loss…

  • Yes it’s very simple, I raise three children and they never did any of that. Because when they did something wrong you spank their butt on there but a few swats is all it takes and they learn how to behave and they learn the authorities and their home. If you discipline your child when they’re young they will grow up to be absolutely lovely people if you do not they will grow up to be self-centered, selfish, out-of-control, very unpleasant people and/or worst of all end up in prison or in jail

  • My 5yrs autistic nephew mostly hits himself because of unable to say, he mostly like to do things which he wants and to avoid others say he start hitting himself. How this can be controlled?

  • I’m not a parent, I’m just fed up with my brother. He’s too scared to hit me so he runs to my mom or gramdmother to smack them with whatever he’s got in his hands.

  • I do all of this but my significant other doesnt. I’ve expressed these idea and she gets pissed says she doesn’t appreciate being told how to parent… she has 3 wonderful girls and we have a 4year boy. I expressed that boy and girls are not the same and I also dont want my child to be raised with fear. Through intimidation or sarcasm. Communication and calm attitude are what I try to Express

  • This advice seems like it’s adding an awful lot of extra attention to the hitting behavior… it’s reinforcing what the toddler used to get your attention… hitting.

  • This video didnt help:( my toddler things hitting is funny, he uses hitting for everything, when he is angry, frustrated, and when playing.. i have used all techniques, calm and collective, yelling, time out, spanking, removing him from the situation, shifting is attention, i tried ignoring him… nothing works, i dont know what else to do ��‍♀️��

  • Honestly the best video so far that is giving me results is a video where a mother was talking about how to get her infant to stop hitting, and what she did was she took the toddler’s hand, and said “gentle”. And, at the same time, showing him what that is when he touched her face. I tried this with my 12 month old daughter, and it’s working. I still have to show her but she ges it and now she is touching my face in a gentle way, and when I praise her for it, she claps:)

  • Tried this…didn’t work he just continued to push and hit his baby sister. Tried to ask what he was feeling, he just ignored me and wandered off. This happens several times every hour and I’m exhausted

  • plz help me. my elder son was very
    much obedient, calm at the age of his first 2 yrs. but after that I become pregnant. I couldn’t give him proper time. Now he is too much stuborn, always screaming, even hitting his lil bro sometimes. what can I do? only he acts very gently if he get anyone who is at his age.

  • I love that you point out that “no” and “stop” are SURVIVAL words and that kids should know them. I hear and read all the time about how we shouldn’t use “no”.. but it is important for them to know and understand it. Thank you for sharing all this advice!

  • Really helpful. Confirmed how I have felt but this a great teaching to follow when self doubt appears. It also brings clarity to the approach I have been trying to achieve. Thank you!!

  • This is amazing. Thank you. So simple. Great advice. Any advice for a parent with anxiety? I go straight to yelling and my kids have a bad attitude and it’s because of me I am not calm and my anxiety when they do crazy things gets the best at me. I will work on this. I will pray about it

  • My son is 3 and is pretty mean to other children. He pulls hair, pinches, bites, and scratches. He’s even broken a kids glasses once. He does have a speech delay and we think this is why he is doing this. It’s not normal if your child is always doing it, regardless how many times to tell him no.

  • Hi Mary, my son is 5 yrs old now, he always banging his forehead and hitting his chin and chest when he is irritated especially at night time, he hate to go to bed. I am so frustrated and don’t know what to do to stop him. I am so afraid if he might have brain damage later on if he keep doing it. Please advice me!

  • Adults dont need you to repeat all your words over and over. I can see th hat you would drive a child mad with too many words! The information you shared could have been relayed in 3 minutes. Just Kiss it….

  • Although i appreciate the advise and how calm you are and all of your experience as a mom, a nurse, a BCBA and a PhD, but all of your videos are very redundant. I’ve been forwarding your videos to my sons kindergarten teacher who is a special ed teacher my son has weekly and even daily meltdowns but it would be helpful to have more solution based strategies. When you say “make a plan” after Assesment of frequency and severity we need to know more about the plan. Please make videos with “20 things you can do to help your child have a successful day in school or his special day class so you can go to work without getting called everyday to pick him up “

  • Hello, what would you suggest doing when your child hits and you do exactly as you’ve suggested in your video, but, they in turn become even more frustrated and begin throwing objects like toys, books, etc.

  • I’m seriously overwhelmed with my kids… Both of them hit people and scream at people. I feel like poop about the behavior they display everywhere we go.

  • I love that you say, “I’m not going to let you hit” instead of “we don’t hit” or “you don’t hit” (or even “no hitting!”) because it takes the onus of responsibility off the child, who was clearly feeling out of control, to put it where it belongs with the parent. Does this help relieve pressure on the child?

    My next question is how to catch yourself before you get to “out of control” mode (yelling, etc.) as a parent instead of during or after? Especially with multiple children (babies and toddlers), multiple stressors (no sleep, tight budgets, family friction, etc.). It’s easy to tell yourself you won’t pop off next time but things build up and eventually sometimes people do. What then?

  • My 2 year old always hits when he’s angry and cries and he now started stomping. I always hold his hands when he’s hitting and say no, that we do not hit. Yet it didn’t help.. I hope I can finally stop this behaviour. Thanks for your video!