If you were terminally ill, would you spend your savings to extend your life? Here’s the choice one 57-year-old father made. #TalkingPoint explores #endoflife care this Thursday, 9.30pm on Mediacorp Channel 5. http://bit.ly/1smD3K0. Special Thanks: Kwok Fook Chuen. Producer: Gosia Klimowicz. Digital Producer: Sarah Yang
In this moving and poignant talk, Jane relates her experience of helping her husband have a “good death” and what she learnt from the process and how it can help us all prepare for that 100% chance the chance that we might die some day.. Jane Duncan Rogers is a Life and Death coach, and author Gifted By Grief: A True Story of Cancer, Loss and Rebirth, and of Before I Go: Practical Questions to Ask and Answer Before You Die.. .
She has over 25 years experience in the psychotherapeutic field, both in training and working with individual clients, and now runs Before I Go Solutions, a community interest company dedicated to educating individual, groups and organisations about all end of life matters.. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
www.ContextwithLorna.com | 70% of Canadians will die in hospital. And no one has thought as long and hard about how we die as our first guest. Dr. Balfour Mount is known worldwide as the father of palliative care. He is a cancer doctor who is no stranger to suffering himself-having survived Cancer three times, including esophageal cancer-which permanently affected his ability to sleep and speak.
Sky News has learned that one in four terminally ill people who need end-of-life care are not receiving it due to a lack of funding.. Two-thirds of hospices had their NHS funding cut or frozen last year, but with an ageing population, demand for their services is growing.. So what pressure are they under, and what help do they need? Our health correspondent Paul Kelso has this special report.. SUBSCRIBE to our YouTube channel for more videos: http://www.youtube.com/skynews. Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/skynews and https://twitter.com/skynewsbreak. Like us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/skynews. For more content go to http://news.sky.com and download our apps: iPad https://itunes.apple.com/gb/app/Sky-News-for-iPad/id422583124. iPhone https://itunes.apple.com/gb/app/sky-news/id316391924?mt=8. Android https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bskyb.skynews.android&hl=en_GB
At age 78 John Hawkins, a New York psychotherapist, was near death from lung disease, and seemingly at peace. Hoping to inspire a conversation about facing death, he let photographer Joshua Bright take pictures of his last days on Earth, at home in hospice care. Susan Spencer reports.
Lani Leary and Allan Kellehear explain what a “good death” is and why it’s important to talk about what it means to have one.. An excerpt from “Confronting Mortality: Faith and Meaning across Cultures” featuring Steve Paulson, Allan Kellehear, Lani Leary and Jeffrey Kripal.. The New York Academy of Sciences. Wednesday, February 5, 2014. http://www.nourfoundation.com/confronting-mortality
Emily Meier, PhD, a clinical psychologist at UC San Diego Health, recently studied research from around the world on death and identified 11. Hospital chaplain, Fr Peter Harries, says a good death may involve reconciliation with God or family members. “It’s about tidying up loose ends in their lives. For other people it’s about times with family, friends, and those who are significant to them. It’s about. According to an Institute of Medicine report, a good death is: “Free from avoidable distress and suffering for patient, family and caregivers, in general accord with the patient’s and family.
There are some who believe that calling a death “good” is a value judgement that might not necessarily belong to the patient. As a result, a newer model for working with the dying has been. good death Medspeak A term that reflects individual preferences for how a person wants to die. For many people, factors that constitute a good death include dying at home, with family and friends and without stressful physical symptoms (nausea and vomiting, pain, dyspnoea, respiratory tract secretions, pain, and agitation). Vox populi.
From the MDMD perspective, a “good death”, for some people, means taking control of the manner and timing of their end, with professional guidance and assistance. Painlessly slipping into unconsciousness and death, without having to fight to stay alive as long as possible when quality of life has permanently diminished unacceptably. Experiencing dignity in the dying process. Having family present and saying goodbye.
Quality of life during the dying process. A good relationship with health care providers. A miscellaneous. To have time to say goodbye, and control over other aspects of timing. To be able to leave when it is time to go, and not to have life prolonged pointlessly.
Debate over whether people are dying badly or well obviously depends on a definition of a good death. The first good thing about death is that I will never have to speak to anyone at a call center ever again. If there are call centers in the afterlife, then I will know for sure that I’m in Hell. “A good death is the best death that can be achieved in the context of the individual’s clinical diagnosis and symptoms, as well as the specific social, cultural and spiritual circumstances, taking into consideration patient and carer wishes and professional expertise.”.
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The ideal death is a “great death” for which one has prepared and that can be shared with large numbers of relatives and friends.
If we consider any death to be good, it is a death that comes at the end of a good long life; an early or unexpected death is considered a particularly bad death.
A Good Death meant dying peacefully in your own bed, surrounded by family and friends, with a clergyman on hand to administer the Last Rites and your children brought in to kiss you goodbye.
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We talk, quite naturally, about “quality of life”, but rarely about “quality of death”. When a person is dying and knows it and is bed-ridden in a hospice, basically just waiting for that moment, why not have rooms in which an entire wall (or the ceiling) could serve as a giant screen on which the patient could view images and videos of significant moments and events of his or her life, or stunning views and sounds of nature, or a quality video about a place, a city, a country, they’ve always wanted to visit but never had a chance to? It’s not like we don’t have the technology… but we are still dying between three yellow walls while we could instead be dying with a smile on our faces. (And I wrote this before seeing the “light show” on the ceiling at 3:49, which only serves to demonstrate that the idea is quite feasible).
I see an awakening in the country I’m in, thanks to other countries who share. Due to Religion I was limited in my thinking growing up and death was terrifying. A heaven or hell sort of thing. Now Ive come to believe we have a spirit/soul and that spirit may stick around with who we love. We are not sent to some unknown place missing those we leave behind. What if we are creating our own heaven right now? What if heaven is all around us just a frequency away? I was once pronounced dead in a serious car accident however, I felt as if I just stepped aside, very warm happy and aware of all around me.
This is what I used when my nephew’s condition became very grave. He was able to die at home; though it was my husband, a family friend, and I who were with him. They helped me let my nephew go.
Everyone should have a ‘good death’, no matter who you are or your status in life, whether you’ve contributed much or little. No matter how dedicated hospital/hospice staff are and how much they strive to make your final hours as comfortable as possible it must be the aim of so many terminally ill people to die in familiar surroundings with those they love being the last faces they see before they leave this Earth.
I work in a hospital as a psych liaison and by far my biggest frustration is dealing with doctors who don’t allow their patients to die in comfort. The lengths they go to keep a dying person alive is disgraceful. First do no harm also applies to allowing a terminal patient to die in comfort and dignity. Families need to explore these issues before their loved one is actively dying. A recent patient had a tube in his rectum, a tube in his bladder, on a ventilator, was septic, and had a pressure wound on his sacrum so large and deep you could see the bone. He developed peritonitis. But his physicians wanted behavioral health services involved in his care to be sure we were at the ready in case this guy woke up because he had schizophrenia and needed to be immediately medicated in case he woke up. They were more worried about him potentially being a behavioral problem than they were his comfort. It was disgraceful.
Am 30 n with seriously terminally illness” have been hated for so many years n got no friends “ I committed suicide but failed now I just want to end up in hospice n die peacefully…
Being in health care I’ve seen easy deaths and I’ve had to deal with people who fought it right up until the end. I’ve prayed with and for them when they took that last breath, and I held their hand and gave them permission to go to the light. I was my mom’s caregiver when she took her final breath also. She died from lung cancer that spread. She died a good death. She died with me by her side just the two of us. Just the way she wanted. I miss her every day!
My Dad was heading towards the end of his life He wasnt hungry but fancied some salad cream on a piece of bread One of the cleaners went home and got the salad cream she had for my Dad I can never thank her enough for such kindness Dad ate two mouthfuls next day at tea time he died cradled in my arms Just me and my little Dad. It was a lovely end of life he had no pain I held him close to me and sang to him and kissed the top of his head then he was gone Jenny
Thank you Jane, you only have to look at the faces in the audience to see that you have their full attention! I am going to share this as I want everyone I know to watch it. x
Death is part of life. A good death can happen. It just takes honesty and kindness and lots of patience. When an admired celebrity takes up a cause, the cause often advances. Thank you Mr Wise for this beautiful statement.����
I really found your book, I know it wasn’t meant to be a book on your sister Claire and your caring for her really sad, fascinating, but I don’t think you would be able to reply to this comment as this video was quite a while ago, I’m very very sure that you have been asked about your take on euthanasia, but it’s a very taboo subject,but I’d like to see your opinion on it at some point, be it pro or against…x
My grandmother died from cancer years ago and we could not have done it without hospice care. They made it so easy to help make her last days the way she wanted. She was at home with family.
Something about being so close to death seems beautiful. By what I understand, being so close to death is sobering, humbling, eye-opening, and without room for frivolous nonsensea lot of raw humanity coming out regularly.
My grandmother was dying and we couldn’t get her damned caregiver to stop calling 911 who would rough her up and dump her in the bright and noisy ER…the hospital (Kaiser) finally kindly moved her into a beautiful end room, which we decorated with old photos and her things…she died peacefully there…
Hospice is a joke I hate hospice they never help my daddy but comp care really did it’s sad to watch people go thou this but hospice is the worst I have ever witness!!!
A good death to me is allowing “me” to exit the way I wish. NO extra steps for something is moments away.WE cannot turn back any of this, WE will all go through it at some point in life. I feel horrible watching those so terrified of dying they are afraid if they close their eyes,they will never open them again. I’ve witnessed those that are more ready than you could imagine and I’ve witnessed the horror of fear and the unknown.It a cycle WE ALL will encounter and while the flesh of this body will turn to dust,the soul is very much alive and ready for the next journey. I believe strongly in Déjà vu. I’ve encountered it myself several times.My only mistake was not noting the time,place or manner in which I encountered it so I could research it. While I don’t wish to leave this earth,I’m at peace knowing I’ll be back.I believe our Deja vu encounters are not only of places but people too.I see no point in lingering,helpless for the benefit of a few.My uncle had a VERY good death and at his funeral not a tear shed.I was so happy for him,how could I be sad.
My dad was 45 when he lost the battle with cancer i was 23 it broke my heart in a whole different way than ever before!! My dad had 2mnths in the Rotherham hospice i take my hat off to the nurses,staff and volunteers they cared for my dad and helped me beyond their duty of care even after he passed. They truly are Angels
When my great grandmother died they just said sorry shes gone but they said it with no empathy then the cop that rode around us on the way to the funeral didn’t even out ������
Beautiful story. It’s inevitable. Why not make it “good” when you can? Euthanasia is sometimes better to end people’s suffering as well. Why are people and doctors so afraid of it? Make it normal and more natural and talk about it more and people will ultimately be less afraid when it’s their turn to transition. The “Circle of Life.”
We talk, quite naturally, about “quality of life”, but rarely about “quality of death”. When a person is dying and knows it and is bed-ridden in a hospice, basically just waiting for that moment, why not have rooms in which an entire wall (or the ceiling) could serve as a giant screen on which the patient could view images and videos of significant moments and events of his or her life, or stunning views and sounds of nature, or a quality video about a place, a city, a country, they’ve always wanted to visit but never had a chance to? It’s not like we don’t have the technology… but we are still dying between three yellow walls while we could instead be dying with a smile on our faces. (And I wrote this before seeing the “light show” on the ceiling at 3:49, which only serves to demonstrate that the idea is quite feasible).
I see an awakening in the country I’m in, thanks to other countries who share. Due to Religion I was limited in my thinking growing up and death was terrifying. A heaven or hell sort of thing. Now Ive come to believe we have a spirit/soul and that spirit may stick around with who we love. We are not sent to some unknown place missing those we leave behind. What if we are creating our own heaven right now? What if heaven is all around us just a frequency away? I was once pronounced dead in a serious car accident however, I felt as if I just stepped aside, very warm happy and aware of all around me.
This is what I used when my nephew’s condition became very grave. He was able to die at home; though it was my husband, a family friend, and I who were with him. They helped me let my nephew go.
Everyone should have a ‘good death’, no matter who you are or your status in life, whether you’ve contributed much or little. No matter how dedicated hospital/hospice staff are and how much they strive to make your final hours as comfortable as possible it must be the aim of so many terminally ill people to die in familiar surroundings with those they love being the last faces they see before they leave this Earth.
I work in a hospital as a psych liaison and by far my biggest frustration is dealing with doctors who don’t allow their patients to die in comfort. The lengths they go to keep a dying person alive is disgraceful. First do no harm also applies to allowing a terminal patient to die in comfort and dignity. Families need to explore these issues before their loved one is actively dying. A recent patient had a tube in his rectum, a tube in his bladder, on a ventilator, was septic, and had a pressure wound on his sacrum so large and deep you could see the bone. He developed peritonitis. But his physicians wanted behavioral health services involved in his care to be sure we were at the ready in case this guy woke up because he had schizophrenia and needed to be immediately medicated in case he woke up. They were more worried about him potentially being a behavioral problem than they were his comfort. It was disgraceful.
The Swedish way of preparing for death has me open to thinking about this some more.
I think it’s a very mature and sobering way to live life which is beautiful. Living in truth is freeing so that should be beautiful!
Good deal Wise.
Am 30 n with seriously terminally illness” have been hated for so many years n got no friends “ I committed suicide but failed now I just want to end up in hospice n die peacefully…
Being in health care I’ve seen easy deaths and I’ve had to deal with people who fought it right up until the end. I’ve prayed with and for them when they took that last breath, and I held their hand and gave them permission to go to the light. I was my mom’s caregiver when she took her final breath also. She died from lung cancer that spread. She died a good death. She died with me by her side just the two of us. Just the way she wanted. I miss her every day!
My Dad was heading towards the end of his life He wasnt hungry but fancied some salad cream on a piece of bread One of the cleaners went home and got the salad cream she had for my Dad I can never thank her enough for such kindness Dad ate two mouthfuls next day at tea time he died cradled in my arms Just me and my little Dad. It was a lovely end of life he had no pain I held him close to me and sang to him and kissed the top of his head then he was gone Jenny
Thank you Jane, you only have to look at the faces in the audience to see that you have their full attention! I am going to share this as I want everyone I know to watch it. x
My stepdad in skilled nursing facility….he qualified for hospice… Does hospice still provide skilled care and custodial care??
My father came home on Hospice in February 4, 2020 and went to be with the Lord on February 10, 2020. Optimal Hospice was wonderful.
Death is part of life. A good death can happen. It just takes honesty and kindness and lots of patience. When an admired celebrity takes up a cause, the cause often advances. Thank you Mr Wise for this beautiful statement.����
I really found your book, I know it wasn’t meant to be a book on your sister Claire and your caring for her really sad, fascinating, but I don’t think you would be able to reply to this comment as this video was quite a while ago, I’m very very sure that you have been asked about your take on euthanasia, but it’s a very taboo subject,but I’d like to see your opinion on it at some point, be it pro or against…x
My grandmother died from cancer years ago and we could not have done it without hospice care. They made it so easy to help make her last days the way she wanted. She was at home with family.
Something about being so close to death seems beautiful. By what I understand, being so close to death is sobering, humbling, eye-opening, and without room for frivolous nonsensea lot of raw humanity coming out regularly.
not sure why this showed up in “recommends” but thank you whoever posted it and thank you Mr Wise for talking about death good or otherwise
My grandmother was dying and we couldn’t get her damned caregiver to stop calling 911 who would rough her up and dump her in the bright and noisy ER…the hospital (Kaiser) finally kindly moved her into a beautiful end room, which we decorated with old photos and her things…she died peacefully there…
Hospice is a joke I hate hospice they never help my daddy but comp care really did it’s sad to watch people go thou this but hospice is the worst I have ever witness!!!
A good death to me is allowing “me” to exit the way I wish. NO extra steps for something is moments away.WE cannot turn back any of this, WE will all go through it at some point in life. I feel horrible watching those so terrified of dying they are afraid if they close their eyes,they will never open them again. I’ve witnessed those that are more ready than you could imagine and I’ve witnessed the horror of fear and the unknown.It a cycle WE ALL will encounter and while the flesh of this body will turn to dust,the soul is very much alive and ready for the next journey. I believe strongly in Déjà vu. I’ve encountered it myself several times.My only mistake was not noting the time,place or manner in which I encountered it so I could research it. While I don’t wish to leave this earth,I’m at peace knowing I’ll be back.I believe our Deja vu encounters are not only of places but people too.I see no point in lingering,helpless for the benefit of a few.My uncle had a VERY good death and at his funeral not a tear shed.I was so happy for him,how could I be sad.
My dad was 45 when he lost the battle with cancer i was 23 it broke my heart in a whole different way than ever before!! My dad had 2mnths in the Rotherham hospice i take my hat off to the nurses,staff and volunteers they cared for my dad and helped me beyond their duty of care even after he passed. They truly are Angels
When my great grandmother died they just said sorry shes gone but they said it with no empathy then the cop that rode around us on the way to the funeral didn’t even out ������
Beautiful story. It’s inevitable. Why not make it “good” when you can? Euthanasia is sometimes better to end people’s suffering as well. Why are people and doctors so afraid of it? Make it normal and more natural and talk about it more and people will ultimately be less afraid when it’s their turn to transition. The “Circle of Life.”