Dealing With the Dying of the Parent

 

The Grieving Process: Coping with Death

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what no one tells you about losing a parent…

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The Grieving Process: Coping with Death

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How to Cope with the Death of a Parent Take time for yourself. It is so important to take a break from the everyday stressors to allow yourself time to process Lean on your friends and family. Remember all those times you’ve been there for your friends during hard times?

Now it Learn more. Key points to remember about helping a child cope with the death of a parent after a death, many children want to share their story telling their story is a healing experience one of the best ways adults can help young grievers is to listen to their stories children also need continuity (normal. Losing a parent is always a major loss.

It is always a major loss and difficult to cope with whether the relationship was good or bad. The parent-child relationship is strong. When you have had a loving, friendly, happy relationship with your parent, their passing will create feelings of emotional turmoil and despair.

When a Parent Dies Dealing with the Death of a Parent. It’s always a shock. But grieving grown-up children may be surprised to find that despite the sorrow, the life changes following loss are often positive. Le Anne Schreiber offers a fresh look at a rite of passage.

It’s always a shock. Give yourself time to heal, and then reassess those ideas — the death of parent, as painful as it may be, can also provide you with the impetus to live your own life more fully. Other changes that may occur include becoming closer to your siblings or a surviving parent. You may emerge from the experience with more maturity and self-reliance.

Typical Reactions to a Parent’s Death While it is true that from the time you were a child you imagined, and perhaps feared, that your parent would die someday, you may not feel prepared for the overwhelming impact their death is having on you. A myriad of thoughts and feelings swirl around in your head. The death of a parent can revive past hurts or resentments or alter family relationships and dynamics. A family therapist can help address old and new conflicts, and teach constructive ways to heal. The death of a parent or sibling, then, can be a particularly devastating experience during this already difficult period.

At the same time the bereaved teen is confronted by the death of someone loved, he or she also faces psychological, physiological and academic pressures. While teens may begin to look like “men” or “women,” they. Coping with the Death of a Parent When my parent died, I felt a floodgate of emotions wash over me. I felt emptiness and loneliness inside.

I felt that not only had I lost someone dear to me, but I also lost a friend. The death of a parent with whom a child has a strained relationship can be doubly painful — even if the bereaved shuts down and pretends not to feel the loss. “Coping is less stressful when adult children have time to anticipate parental death,” says Jumoke Omojola, a therapist and clinical social worker.

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It is normal for intense sadness to recur for the child during special events, which would have been shared with a sibling, such as graduation or marriage.

“Oxford Textbook of Primary Medical Care” by Roger Jones (Prof.)
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by Roger Jones (Prof.)
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Remember that the key to helping your children recover and move forward from the death of their father is to always and forever continue to create an environment where your children know that not only is it OK to miss him, but it’s also OK to talk about him, laugh about him, and cry about him.

“Happily Even After: A Guide to Getting Through (and Beyond) the Grief of Widowhood” by Carole Fleet
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By remembering the children through stories and pictures, she can let them know it’s okay to feel loss but also remind them that one day they will all be together again.

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It is normal and natural to grieve.

“Encyclopedia of Trauma: An Interdisciplinary Guide” by Charles R. Figley
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As you, the bereaved parent, work through these feelings, you may feel a growing realization that the baby is gone and what might have been cannot be recovered.

“Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby” by Deborah L. Davis
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It is normal to feel sadness and depression following the death of a child; however, unlike the death of an older person, these feelings are often more profound.

“Emergency Care and Transportation of the Sick and Injured” by American Academy of Orthopaedic Surgeons
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Keeping a journal of therapy and/or writing a diary of all the events surrounding the loss helps parents find a place to put feelings, so that memories of this special child will never be forgotten.

“Infertility Counseling: A Comprehensive Handbook for Clinicians” by Sharon N. Covington, Linda Hammer Burns
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Just know that it is very natural, at a time like this, to remember family and friends who are no longer with you.

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Read books about feelings of grief and the process of recovery.

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Adjust to the shock and trauma of the death/loss and learn to cope effectively with the grief and the absence of the deceased parent.

“The Family Therapy Treatment Planner” by Frank M. Dattilio, Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr., Sean D. Davis
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  • I lost my kitty today. I lost her to cancer. I had no way to save her which is the worst part. I wish there was at least one thing i could do to save her. Even selling my house, I could do anything. R. I. P., Puma, 2007-2020. Thank you for making 13 years of my life so joyful and happy. You will always be remembered and I hope you’re getting all the snacks you want up there in heaven.

  • i don’t even know what to say at the moment. my online friend erik is likely dead from suicide. i barely knew him, but my god it’s punching me in the gut, over and over. i love you erik. you were so kind to me, the one time i spoke to you, when i was feeling suicidal. you were the kindest.

    rest in peace.

  • I lost the love of my life… my husband of 10 years… it’s been a little over a year and i still can’t believe it… i feel like it’s all just a bad dream and i’m still trying to wake up from it!! The sad part is that no one understands your pain. As much as time passes it’s all still in my head… i just wished he was still here with us… we miss him so much… life is just not the same without him ����

  • lost my boyfriend last thursday night, on suicide awareness day. He’s only 16, nearly 17. It’s excruciating to go to school and look at his empty seat beside me in every class. I hope that anyone who sees this can find some peace and healing, whether by ranting to strangers online, friends, or just spending some time alone.

  • dealing with the loss of my pet is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. I’m feeling everything and nothing at the same time, and seeing my family so broken with her death breaks me even more. This comes just a few months after a loss of a family member. this year has been so riddled with loss and pain and I’m struggling.

  • My mom just passed she got covid and she was only 49, I’m 17 and she was my everything, I just don’t know what to do I love her so much

  • I lost my mum when I was 13 (I’m now 23) She had battled a brain tumour for 11 years. I grew up with her going in and out of hospital (my grandma helped bring us up). It caused seperation anxiety when I was growing up and has left me with severe anxiety and depression. I hope people who have a stable childhood with parents who are there for them realise how lucky they are because it really sucks not having a parent to go to when you’re growing up.

  • My great uncle passed and I never even got to say goodbye because I couldn’t visit the hospital because I’m under the age of 16 I miss him so much I just wish I could see him one last time at least he’s with my great aunt up in heaven Rip love you ��

  • My uncle is currently in the emergency room…
    They don’t know if he’ll survive. We were never extremely close, but I’m devastated. I’m a few states away from him, so I saw him on FaceTime. It broke my heart…
    I saw him, the strong, fearless man I looked up to, hooked up to a hospital bed…
    I don’t want him to die. I’m praying (a very rare occurrence) for him to live. I feel so sad and angry at god and the world.

  • My granddad passed this morning.. he said he felt sleepy and died in his sleep.. he didn’t even get to see his favorite granddaughter turn 10.. Rest In Peace papa.. 9-13-2020

  • My dog died and I cant imagine going on like this he was a family member am I will never be able to see him again again on my bed or eating and its suckimg my soul dry i cant take its too much

  • I’ve lost 9 of the closest people in my life. I’m only 18. I can’t even get over one person without another ond dying. I have so much built up grief, and I have no idea how to even begin to get through it all.��

  • My mum just died 4 days ago. It was from Alcohol and prescription drug abuse. She was 58.

    My younger brother was the only one home, he put her to bed and checked on her 30 minutes later by coincidence. She was face down on the bed, she had suffocated and was too drunk to bring herself out of it whilst she was suffocating.

    He tried CPR before the ambulance came but she was already gone. My mum had a good life but it still feels like a nightmare.

    I love you mum and hope you know that. I am just glad I got to tell you that you will soon be a grandmother. Rest in peace mum, I miss you xxx

  • Hey at least she’s not in pain and in now were she was suppose to be in, she is something she always was. I hope she was happy while on this world.

  • My 21 year old younger brother passed away in a drowning accident on 11 Aug 2020. We were going through a very rough time some years back and he was always there to support me. He left me too soon. He was 5 years younger than i am but he always stood by me in all the rough patches of life. He was wise beyond his years. He was the one person who loved me beyond boundaries and barriers. He was my support in life and i hope he felt the same about me. I can never refill the hole that his loss has created in me but i wish and hope that he is in a better place.

  • My cat died while i wasn’t at home.. I came home and i found him laying on the ground.. I’ve had him since i was a little kid so it really hurts… I’ll never forget him.

  • Im just a very shy an i guess I can be labeled a loner. My two best friends where the first people to help me open up. They meant everything to me. If it weren’t for them I’d be lonely an scared of the world. I know im different but they made me feel like I was the same like everyone else. Years have past an im still hurting inside over it. I cried earlier about it but today was worse than others. I feel disconnected an i just wish they were with me still. I feel stuck. I need friends also need to communicate better an not shut down

  • My dad died yesterday, just a day after his birthday. I woke up to my mom screaming his name. I checked his pulse and there was nothing. I already knew he was dead but I still called 911 for help. I just fear I’m going to forgot about him. I miss him, I miss him a lot.

  • I lost my dog today. He was always there for me and i wasnt there for him in the end. I just want to hold him one last time like i did when i was upset in the past. I feel lost without him to help me grieve him. It hurts and I hate it. I couldnt bring myself to help bury him and i feel terrible for it. I didnt deserve him but I was greatful to have him.

  • I lost my mom almost a year ago and this was crazy accurate. I never realized that others felt the same about this topic. I am so proud of how brave you were to open up and talk about this, because it made me feel so much less alone. I hope you’re doing well. hugs girl ��

  • I just want each person on this thread going through loss to know that it’s ok to be sad and broken. You are human and if you grieve, it’s a part of your healing. Don’t worry about needing to feel strong. You are allowed to be broken. Your healing will come with time. ����

  • My aunt died from suicide August 30th. And I’ve been having so much trouble getting over it and I’ve been crying every night and all day sometimes. Some of my friends were getting concerned about me thinking I might head down the path she did. and my friend recommended this video to me so here I am to watch.

  • My grandmother passed away that I lived with my whole life, she was my best friend, and my problem is I feel If I reach out to someone they would think I just want attention or they just wouldn’t care so I just find myself alone crying every night

  • I lost my grandpa this morning. It hurts me a lot since my family is in Japan and I am in Germany, alone. In this pandemic, even if I flew to Japan right now, I wouldn’t be able to attend the funeral. The last time I talked to him was right before I was moving to Germany and was expecting to see him again and talk about the experiences that I went through here. I know my mom (his daughter) is secretly in a sorrow and pretending as if she’s okay. I know that because she’s very strong but sometimes very fragile. It’s so sad that I can’t be with her when she needs a huge hug.

  • I’m so excited because my broken marriage has been restored & my husband is back after he left me and our 2 kids for another woman. After 8 years of marriage, me and my husband has been into one quarrel or the other until he finally left me and moved to California to be with another woman. i felt my life was over and my kids thought they would never see their father again. i tried to be strong just for the kids but i could not control the pains that torments my heart, my heart was filled with sorrows and pains because i was really in love with my husband. Every day and night i think of him and always wish he would come back to me, I was really upset and i needed help, so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr.Akhigbe can help get ex back fast. So, I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a (Love spell) for me. 28 hours later, my husband really called me and told me that he miss me and the kids so much, So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and the kids. Then from that day,our Marriage was now stronger than how it were before,All thanks to Dr.Akhigbe. he is so powerful and i decided to share my story on the internet that Dr.Akhigbe real and powerful spell caster who i will always pray to live long to help his children in the time of trouble, if you are here and you need your Ex back or your husband moved to another woman, do not cry anymore, contact this powerful spell caster now. Here’s his contact: Email him at:Account: [email protected], you can also call him or add him on Whats-app: +2349021374574,THANKS TO Dr.Akhigbe

  • WARNING: I am talking about something rather depressing.

    I was watching this and realized that my mom might not be able to Handle her own oncoming death and that’s the part that really makes me cry. She’s almost fifty now and she’s young at heart, she had a nice enough time growing up, got to experience a lot of things but she still didn’t “grow up” so I really hope in the next 10 years she understands that everyone dies.
    But the fact that makes me cry the most is the time that she’ll realize that she won’t ever see me again and she loves me to death, we are like best friends, she once said she would probably kill her self if I died, and that WILL destroy her heart as will mine that she won’t ever see me again and me either to her. I hope she never realizes it and if she does, I hope she accepts that fact and we can last spend are last moments together in peace. (Thanks for listening, I needed that off my chest.)

  • I just lost my cat
    And oh god I fell apart
    I haven’t had able to do anything, just cry. She’s been in my life since I was really young, so it’s hard.

  • My 13 year old cousin drowned in a river yesterday. I still can’t process anything. We were pretty close and I still can’t believe he’s gone. I never thought this would happen ever. Like, it’s a bad dream or a sick movie or something. I would always see headlines about stuff like this happen but I never thought it would happen to us

  • Thanks for this advice. My mommy died of stage 4 cancer this year (3/27/2020) which really have taken a toll on my mental health. I’m naturally thin and have lost tons of weight due to depression. I’ve had many of hospitalizations due to my stress& gastritis. I’m praying for everyone who has lost someone dear to them��. It’s not easy, but we’ll get through ����

  • The 8th of this month will be exactly three months ago that a really good friend of mine suddenly passed away. I got the message of her passing while I was at work and I can genuinely say it’s the worst thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I’ve been staying home from work for about two weeks now because my health has been declining and I’ve nearly passed out at work due to poor diet and lack of sleep.
    I’ve never had to deal with grief before in such a way, I’ve never had to experience such pain before in my life and I just don’t know how to be okay. Food has lost appeal, sleep brings on nightmares, I can’t be around people for an extended period of time without feeling like I’m wanting to just sob my lungs out. I have people around me that tell me ‘it will get better’ and ‘it will be okay’ but how could it ever be okay without her here? Grief is difficult, grief is so very painful. I just don’t know how to deal with her being gone.

  • I lost my grandpa 8 years ago. Not a single day goes by, I don’t think of him. I was so so so attached to him. I was so close to him. He was my bestest friend, confidant and what not. Some days it’s hard to gulp that he is no more and other days I am ok, living the life but that void is always there and I know it can never be filled. The biggest regret of my life will be, I couldn’t say goodbye to him, it was so sudden. I am still angry at him that he didn’t say me goodbye. It’s been 8 long years, many things have happened but still I cannot move on about the fact that he is no more. Probably, I don’t want to move on, I don’t understand why there’s a hurry to move on as soon as someone leaves the world, I would like to hold onto it and carry that with myself and go on in my life…that’s what I have been doing. I wish I could rewind the best moments with him, when he used to tell me his life stories and so many things. I miss them, I miss you grandpa..I miss you so much, you had no idea what major part you had in my life as a guide, friend, confidant. I wish to go back in time and hug him and never let him go. I still remember that day when I got the news of his demise, I was devastated, I don’t want that kind of day to come again in my life. I went to his place seeing his lifeless body lying in front of me and I couldn’t help but break down holding his feet. He was the coolest person I know, he still is for me. Lot of things have changed since then…I was in 10th grade when I lost him, then after 2 years I went to college out of state, then now I am doing my postgraduation, it’s my final year…he hasn’t seen me doing all these..I am about to get a job next year…Your granddaughter is not small anymore. I wish you were here.
    Love you always…and miss you.

  • i wanted to tell my mom that i am gonna miss her and goodbye ma
    when she passed away i thought of jumping off the house
    then i realised that what would happen to my family then
    which my mom unfotunately did not
    sorry for every body who lost their mom

  • This video might not be copied well maybe but this channel has the original uploader in the channels tab of this account same for the original uploader I’m not saying it’s not stolen and she just stole this video behind her back I’m just saying it’s possible it’s not stolen and it was just re uploaded on this channel

  • Thank you this helped my little cousin died at 6 years old from brain cancer when I was 6 as well it’s been 4 years and I’m 10 now and this helped me a lot and I only was with him for a bit I wish he stayed longer and it was hard since my mom didn’t feel safe with me going to the funeral or memorial but he was a good cousin even if I only saw him for two Christmases and a birthday but those days were the best and anyone else with a dead family member rembember they miss you to so it’s not just you and I hope whoever you are reading this stay strong and it’s ok to cry and be sad from it

  • I lost my father when I was 16. I lost the remainder of my mother in 2017 and my only sibling in 2018. I still hadn’t finished mourning the loss of my mom when my sister died of cancer. I was overwhelmed by grief. Part of my feeling so lost was when something significant happened in my life, I wanted to run and tell them but realized I couldn’t. I started a journal -basically writing letters to my mother and sister. I’ve been writing every day for three years. I often tell them things I’d never tell even my closest friends; sometimes I just tell them what I did that day no matter how boring and mundane it is. I know neither of them will ever read these letters but I can express my grief or my pain or my joy. It’s been very cathartic.

  • I haven’t had anyone die quite yet, but I have a sister who hade her tonsils removed, but won’t take her medicine. She keeps complaining about the pain, and she won’t even eat anything and her throat is already infected. I don’t know what I’ll do if she dies, especially my other sister about the same age as her.

  • To my dear wife; God has taken home.

    Ripped from me, taken, no chance to say goodbye, or say I love you, no kiss, no cuddle. My heart burns for you, it is broken. But you are at peace with our Farther in heaven, I am happy for you. But, I feel so, so lonely and broken without you by my side, you kept me, guided me every single day, With your unshakeable loyalty and support, even with all my faults, you still loved me, truly Jesus is within you. You are the only person on earth that truly ever loved me, you gave everything for me, put me before yourself. You truly are my personal angle, my love. May our Great farther in heaven cover you in riches beyond measure, and his endless love and joy be with you forever. I would die 1000 deaths just to be with you in your arms for just another 5 minute. You have my heart for eternity, God bless you my dear loving wife. My love still burns like an eternal flame for you until the end of all things known and unknown.

  • lost my favorite cousin on my birthday. July 17, 2020. I was with him at the mall. My other cousin died too, they were together. Worst day of my life. I’ll never be ok again

  • My dad just passed away this morning, my mom, me, and my sister still doesn’t know how he actually died. I’ve been trying to deal with his death but I can’t. It’s currently 11:56pm, I hope whoever’s seeing this now understands that there not alone, no matter what��

  • I know peaple lost peaple and stuff but i just lost my rabbit at 4 yrs old and i hate how my other rabbit just doesnt have his freind anymore and that he died so young

  • Thank you so much for this this touched me so much you don’t even understand ironically my mom died on July 13th 2020 and her name was Don too…. this is very synchronistic I actually feel your husband’s energy also

  • Worthless,pointless pun of death. Nothing of value nor bothered to watch. Stick to her proudest accomplishment Trump blocking her. Trying gain fame. Failing.

  • My Mother passed away suddenly 2 weeks ago. I am really struggling with grief. She lived.with me but I wasn’t home when she.had.a.significant.health event.

  • My friend might be dead. He had been talking about how worthless he felt for weeks. Tonight, he told my other friend not to be surprised if he didn’t wake up tomorrow. I don’t want to believe him. I don’t want him to be dead. He’s one of my best friends.

  • Dang, this helped. I lost my grandpa and the night of his visitation, we got the call that my uncle passed away of a heart attack.

  • i lost my cat today. i never loved anyone as much as i love him. he was like my son, my everything… he was only 8, and he died because of thrombosis and weak heart. I feel like i killed him, because i didnt go to vet’s regular check ups, it stressed him out, and he was always looking so healthy.. i have no one but myself to blame. He was a pure love, true love… i cannot believe it… it was so sudden

  • I lost my 27 year old sweet beautiful daughter and only child on June 8. Her name is Alyssa Rose. I’m paralyzed with overwhelming grief, despair, depression, and anguish. I don’t know how to cope. I din’t understand how parents who have lost children get through it. I honestly want to die without her in my life. My heart and soul is gone. ������. I can barely function.

  • My uncle died of covid 19 he was one of the only people outside my close family and cousin who would come to my birthday and actually thought about me im in tears

  • My sister just got out of surgery and is having seziures, just in case I’m watching this because my mom is crying
    GUYS SHE STOPPED HAVING SEZUIRES AND IS GONNA BE OK!

  • i lost my grandma today. she lives in a third world country and we can’t see her because of covid. she was the kindest lady to anyone and would give you the shirt off her back even if she didn’t know you. the love in her heart was so comforting and it just hurts that i can never see her again. this is the first death i’ve ever experienced and i’ve never been so torn and heartbroken. we don’t even know the cause of death because the coroner would have to rule it as a covid death and they wouldn’t be able to have a funeral. i just miss her so much i talked to her a couple weeks ago and she told me she was so excited to come see us. i’m so thankful the last words i told her were i love you and i can’t wait to see you. i hope she’s doing well in heaven. she deserved the world and should’ve been around for much longer. i miss you so much grandma and all of the wonderful memories i’ve had with you. please watch over us and continue to pray. ❤️

  • The Scriptures hold out a wonderful hope for our deceased loved one. We read about the condition of the dead in Ecclesiastes 9:5,10, they are unconscious, as if sleeping. Jesus teaches us about death in the account about Lazarus his dear friend. Please read John 11:11-14, 43,44. Then, concerning our loved ones we read that the same will occur for those in the memory of God, John 5:28, 29. Most who are resurrected will be brought back to an earth under God’s Kingdom government. We pray for that, Matthew 5:10. These changes will soon take place on earth: Psalms 37:9-11,29; Revelation 21:4,5; Daniel 2:44; and then John 5:28,29. There is much to learn about the near future, our Creator has amazing things in store for those who worship Him with spirit and truth, John 4:22-24; Psalms 83:18; Isaiah 55:11.

  • my best friend died 4 hours ago, i can’t breath or think or move, i’m shaking and my heart is absolutely broken without him. he was so amazing and i loved him so much, i need him.

  • I lost my cat yesterday in a fight with a local dog. She was only 3 months old and realizing it now, 2 months with her was like a dream, she always made me smile. And since I’m usually a dog person having her was like an experiment, everything was new to me. She slept with me everyday and when I wake up she would nudge her nose to my calves.
    Her death was so unexpected it hits me tenfold.
    It was the first time I’m losing someone so special and seeing it right in front of me. Her last cry will stay as a scar in my heart forever.
    The way she slightly opened her mouth almost like she’s saying “I’m going” I had a break down right then. I didn’t know what to do..
    I kept on blowing in her nostrils but she began to go stiff it was killing me
    I’ve never cried like that in my life

    For the first time I realize losing your loved ones are never easy. You only know when you feel it

  • My nephew who was on the Marines passed away who was 21 years old. It’s so hard to believe someone with a beautiful soul has passed away in such a Young age unbelievable!

  • My grandmother has cancer and the doctors are saying she only has a couple weeks left. I’m quarantined because I was exposed to COVID-19. I love her so much and I don’t even know if I’ll be able to say goodbye in person.

  • I want you to know that your speech has truly touched my heart and helped me to understand what my perspective ought to be, losing my my mom to cancer changed the way I understand life or who I am as a son….. let me tell you, you have a bright future, and I hope the best for you….. thankyou for making this speech and sharing it with all of us. You are the Best!

  • My father passed away a week ago (18th August 2020) and I’m 18,a senior in high school…. He died suddenly of stroke, just minutes after laughing with us

  • I’m praying for all of you that have lost loved ones, pets, friends. I know it’s so painful and sad but keep going! Don’t give up, because they wouldnt want you to stop achieving great things. They are watching you whenever and wherever. Sending love to all of you that are going through this tough time

  • My father died at 1 am today and I couldn’t even say goodbye.The thing that hurts the most us that the last thing I said to him before he died was “I need $400”.I cant get over that.

  • My father passed away 12 days back. I don’t know what to do. He was a kidney patient too. I just want to die as well because I feel lost without him.

  • My mother died when I was 6 and my father died when I was 16. SO very hard. I had my grandmother for a while but I felt utterly alone and I still drift off to that place. Now I am a mom and i feel bad for my kids having no experience with their grandparents.

  • my family was small but now it’s tiny. both of my parents passed away in March. 18 days apart. i only now have my older sister and we’re not that close.. ive only seen her for a few years now. my 20th birthday just passed in June.. this birthday was so hard…. i feel completely alone. for the past serval days ive been feeling like being with my father.. but for your words.. i can relate. i hear you. thank you. you’re keeping me motivated.. thank you so much for your words.

  • my partner died last year, we were never officially married, but we lived together for almost 14 years, a few days after his death, my partners father sent me an email to say that now I have to do things on my own; and it hurt me as just because we weren’t married that I was somehow less than a family member, that I wasn’t considered anyone special to him {my husbands father}, I didn’t need to hear that at that time, and it made me feel worse; is that how people feel towards someone if they weren’t married? He wanted to marry me, but because I was receiving spousal support, he felt being married would jeopardize that, and it didn’t matter to me, but, really, it is a lot of hassle not being married when it comes to receiving the death benefit and other resources from the government. the government considers you married if you live together for 1 year or more, but other people seem to frown on you if you are not married! Dealing with grief and other peoples opinions is very hard at times:(

  • My mother passed away yesterday. It was quick and gentle, but the loss I feel is undescribable. I’m happy she’s free and my heart is at peace, but she was like my best friend and I feel like I’m missing half of myself. Nights are the worst because that was our time, as we were both night owls and that was our time to chit chat and bond. I was her caretaker during her illness, by her side day and night and was there as she passed. I feel so lost now.

  • Worst question you could ask a grieving child… how are you doing??? Are you ok??? SERIOUSLY??? Those questions don’t deserve any answer.

  • My father died in october 11 2019,
    I thought there was something deeply wrong with me with the lack of motivation and joy I have, I hope I can make things have sense again so I can enjoy and do things the same way I used to. My fathed died abruptly, got diagnosed with advanced gastric cancer with metastasis after one month of taking care of him at the hospital, traveling back to Mexico but trying to keep my job at the same time, it was so difficult, I had to travel back for work hoping he could make it a little bit longer, but he died when I was away. I know he was waiting for me because I could have a last videocall with him, still alive but unconscious, he passed away when the call finished.
    It just changed everything, I feel huge a disassociation and numbness, guilt and impotence.

  • My mom died from lequemia on 31st December 2010 and 25 yrs old
    I was 4at that time and its really hard to go through this its been 9yrs now and I’m still grieving more for reasons

  • My father died one week and two days after yours did, Adeline, and at the time of your talk you already had such precise words for the experience that I was nowhere near to having. You are such a talented speaker and writer, and your willingness to share your experience and your grief really is a gift to the world. I wish you the very best for your future and your life—I know your Dad is proud of you, as proud of you as I believe my father is of me.

  • My mom and I found out she had pancreatic cancer on September 12th, and she just passed away on Oct 10th. Literally not even a full month. We barely had time to process the word cancer, let alone hospice, and then death. Thank you so much for this video. <3

  • I lost my MOM way back in 1984:she died in a car crash,and it was 8 days before my 4th birthday.I lost my Grandma who raised my brother and I after we lost are Mother back in April of 2011:and just a short time later,I lost my brother in January of 2012.And in December of 2015,I lost my Grandpa to stage 4 lung cancer,Ironically enough he passed on December 14,and my mother passed on December 15.These 4 people met the world to me,and there hasn’t been a day that has gone by that I haven’t wished that I was with them.Grief is a bad thing,a very horrible thing,that can Latch itself on to you and never let you go,feeling like you were left behind by the most important people in your life,is a horrible feeling that I wish on no one.I’d give anything to be with my family again were I belong by their side…

  • I lost my grandpa 3 months ago and it was so painful. I can’t imagine what it is like to lose a parent and I’m really scared to lose everyone.

  • I lost my dad when I was 10 bc of a heart attack in his sleep, now that I have 17 my mom died for an infection on her liver, her body couldn’t anymore and suffered a heart attack, I miss them so much, she was my best friend, she was everything to me, my dad too, they left too early.
    I suffer depression since 12, sometimes I think about death, then I remember all the sacrifices my mommy did to give me everything I needed those years (since my father passed away) pls enjoy life.

  • I lost my dad 3 years ago and I lost my mom this year, 2/7, so about 2 months. I feel like I’m so small in the big world, and I just want to call my mom and talk to her. Sit down and drink coffee. We missed my dad’s passing by a few hours but I sat with mom when she drew her final breath. Told her “it’s ok, you can let go. We’ll be ok”, and literally as I said it, she got breathing pauses. The hospice staff had just been in there and hadn’t even left the floor. I larmed for them, they came back. Within 10-20 minutes from start of the pauses, she was gone. I was with the staff when they dressed her in the clothes she would be buried in. The first 24 hours just… hurt. I thought I would die from grief, it was so overwhelming. It’s gotten better but I still shed some tears every day, and some days I have a huge cry fest. Grieving is important and you can’t rush it.

  • My mother passed away April 13, 2018. She had cancer for 3 years, she survived and lived happily. She moved on, and enjoyed the world. It was a few moths before Easter, she was always cold and sick. When Easter rolled around she was very weak. She went to the hospital to find out she has pneumonia. She passed away a few months after, I didn’t even get to say goodbye. I would do anything to just get to say I love you. My mother passed when I was 7 and I have never been the same.

  • My boyfriend died 2 days ago and I have lost myself. I don’t know how to cope back up.. a prayer for him, 17 May 200211 August 2020♥️

  • To all of you: May the Lord Jesus Christ be with you, bless you and keep love in your heart forever and ever ❤️ I am so sorry for all of your losses.

  • I’m experiencing a feeling I never thought I would ever experience so early losing my dad. Don’t wish it on anyone ever. I hope I can learn to make peace and be strong for the family. RIP Dad.

  • yesterday I lost my dad.. he didn’t die from anything but we don’t know yet.. I feel like he passed away from stress
    I am eleven and watching this made me feel a bit better.

  • It’s interesting how various it is for people getting into an acceptance phase in losing a loved one.
    Months, years, decades, whatever it is for you, there’s nothing wrong with taking longer than others, we all need to experience greif in out own ways I think.
    I wonder how long it’ll take me. I’ve lost my grandfather years ago, and my father will be dead in the next couple/few weeks… And i am so much closer to him, I’ve already been grieving, which I expect will only increase.
    And I think it will take me a long time to adjust, and that’s just part of life, and I need to accept it, and that will just take as long as it needs to…

    My heart goes out to all of you that have or are experienced/experiencing loss. It’s a heavy part of life to take on. ❤

  • My father just went into hospital after he fought cancer for 6 years, I’ve been his carer the whole time.

    Then I get told this is it, he can’t come home, he has weeks left and now I’m in his house alone, in shock, I have been told his time is going for years, but when it finally slaps us with “your time is up” it’s put me in complete shock… I’m snapping between rage, depression, guilt for not doing more for him, greif, suicidal thoughts, and losing my shit. And trying to be normal for the people around me, but inside I’m a wreck… And he hasn’t even died yet!

    I feel like such a weak dickhead.

  • My mom passed away July 27 I’m 17 she was my best friend we went too concerts together roadtripped everywhere we loved the same music I always came to her when someone upsetted me or I cried and I go in her room everyday to feel a connection to her I was around her 24/7 im getting better and I have my moments but I know she isn’t gone forever and ill see her again and it won’t be anymore tears or feeling of loneliness she helped me with so many of my projects even when it was last minute I could depend on her for everything i felt like nothing could hurt me when she was here

  • Lost my dad two weeks ago and listening to these stories, it’s clear losing a parent at any age is painfu. My dad was only in his late 50s. It felt like someone stabbed me in the chest and I’ll never get back the person who understood me more than anyone.

  • Horrible losing a parent to cancer. It’s seeing them fade away and let go. I remember seeing my dad before he passed. He had gone blind, couldn’t speak or anything. I knew when I left that was the last time I’d see him. I guess he lives through me, I have his calm temperament. It’s just a shame he never saw me become a man.

  • My dad passed away 2 years ago due to complications with dementia. My mom was considered incompetent to take care of herself after trying her hardest to take care of my dad so for a time they both lived in a nursing home. I was guardian and conservator for my mom, I took her to all of her doctors appointments and been with her through her darkest times. 2 days ago after speaking with social workers we came to the decision that due to decline in health that she should spend her remaining days in hospice. I am 26 and this has taken an emotional toll on me. I am happy that my mom will no longer be in pain but I am sadden by the fact that some of her wishes will not come to fruition, her being a grandma and visiting Indonesia one last time. At times I feel like I failed as a son but I have been told that I have done everything that I could, I just hope that in her final days I can make it the best for her so that she no longer has to live in fear or pain. I love you so much mom.

  • It never goes away
    Car accident killed my mom I was with her I was critical should have died but God spared my life. 18 broken bones both legs 3 breaks each rods pins screws couldn’t save right one lost below the knee Right arm plates pins screws arm reworked
    Back fractured 5 vertabre ribs both sides I just want you to no even though I lost my mom n almost died myself God still performs miricales everyday I left out that I lost 5 pints of blood God is good.

  • I lost my dad in 1999, I was by then younger. Its 20years now but I still feel the empty gap. The song which was being played after he died makes me cry up to date. We cant just let go of the beloved dead of ours.

  • I miss him everyday more and more. He was my grandad but he raised me, taught me my core memories, how to ride a bike, to walk. The house feels empty now. It’s just me and my Nan. Sometimes I think I hear him singing but then I remember. I love him so much. Please make memories with your parents. Take pictures.

  • I just want to start off by saying thank you for making this video. I know that it wasn’t easy to talk about it, but it’s helping people even when you don’t realize it. I lost my father 6 months ago and even though our relationship was not the best, I still miss him every single day. The biggest thing that I can say that helped me was my support people, specifically people who had also lost their father (it helped me to feel like I wasn’t the only one). My fiancé and his best friend both lost their father as well as some people I met through support groups, and it helped me realize that I shouldn’t suffer alone. Some days are definitely harder than others, and today is one of those days for me, but I know that everything will be alright.

  • I lost my mother about twelve hours ago to an allergic reaction to fire ant bites. I told her about the mound, asked her to be careful, but I didn’t show it to her. I know I shouldn’t think these thoughts, but I keep thinking that she’d still be here if I did this, if I did that…Life is cruel.

  • My mom died of cancer when I was 8.. and my dad took care of us..as single parent…I think no one should do this…. every one needs a partner.. surviving us a single is not as easy as you think….with my mom’s memory…he lived for 10 yrs… and now he went to my mom…and there they are united… leaving me and my brother alone here��…. I am trying to overcome this..but their memories��… makes my eyes wet every night ����..but accepting everything is Life ✨

  • I felt numb how my dad died at my age of 10 if i did something wrong he’d always forgive me he’d spoil me it doesnt feel safe to sleep without a dad there to protect you i love you dad wherever you are

  • It’s been a week since my dad died.. he had turned 66 just a day before passing. He was totally fine that day, I talked to him just 20 minutes before he started feeling sick… he had a stroke and died three hours after at the hospital. When I arrived he was already gone. My dad was not only my father, he was my friend and my hero. I’m 23 years old and honestly I have never been this lost.. I miss him so, so much, it feels unreal, I go to his room all the time wishing to see him there but knowing he won’t anymore.
    I love you dad.

  • My dad passed almost 6 months ago. I had a shaky relationship with him and I felt like a monster for not crying when he passed.. it’s been difficult for me to process all of it even now. And I have a hard time getting upset. Obviously it hurts and I get aggravated at myself for the way I treated him and how I can’t even cry.. he passed away from a major heart attack at the age of 40 I was 15 at the time now I’m 16. Like I said he passed almost 6 months ago. February 15 2020

  • I lost my dad when i was 11. I still remember when someone knocked on the door while i was playing computer with a friend. I opened the door and saw two police officers asking for my mother. I never experienced uncontrolling grief as that moment. I remember the first night i went to bed. I was dreaming about him, waking up thinking “It was only a dream” Just to go out of my room to see my entire family just staring at me, of course it wasnt a dream. My mother did what the best mother would do, shielding me from everything leading up to the funeral services, trying her best to come to my male dominated sports, which my father normally did (Racing, Icehockey) But deep down, i still crave my dads happiness, i miss my dad saying he is proud of me. One last thing, i didnt have the chance to do this: For gods sake, keep EVERY SINGLE VIDEO of your parents. I dont know why, but having my dads memories going into a blur, and not remembering his voice is the worst thing imaginable.

  • My dad died because of pancreatic cancer he’s a public official in our city and he’s the most wise person I’ve ever known but i think I don’t have a proper person to rely on so that’s why it’s hard to move on

  • Yea cherish the memories…they live in our hearts forever…I know it’s easier said than done but that’s life…relive the moment when we accompanied them…sat with them..accompanied them for holidays or simply a hairdo down the street…holding their hands…hugging them…such wonder time we had…

  • I’ve been literally just looking around to see how to cope with a dying parent and then eventually for a dead parent because my dad doesn’t have much time left he’s passing away in some weeks and it feels horrible the feeling I have after opening up for him and telling him everything It still feels the same and sometimes worse. I don’t want to sound like a brat but I sometimes get angry at everything thinking why him/us/me what did we do to deserve this pain and struggle for 2 years now.

  • my dad took his own life 3 years ago when i was 17. i think that’s one of the hardest things to think about.. he died from his own hands. because of that life changing event, i completely altered myself as a person because i just couldn’t bare to hold on who i was when he died. death and grief absolutely CHANGE EVERYTHING in your life, even you.

  • What about if they passed away by old age natural causes? How would you feel?

    Personally I would be sad but I’d be at ease that they didn’t go by suffering at that It’s part of the life cycle.

    I would miss them very much though and would find it very weird to not have my parents during decades of living…

  • My dad died july 31 2020… my family and i did not expect it, it was all of a sudden when we got the call. we had not seen each other in 2 years and finally in 1 month we were going to reunite, i feel awful that we did not get the chance to hug each other one last time. I miss him so much, im 21 he was 50… i wanted us to be best friends, i cry all the time imagining all the amazing moments we had and also thinking about the moments that we would have created. I love you dad

  • I lost my dad 3 months ago May 6th and man it’s been one of the toughest up and down rides ever it’s ok to be sad man frustrated confused every emotion is ok it’s gonna b hard u won’t want to get up u will see images of him everywhere just know he loves u I have struggled so much with regret and frustration and that’s ok we all go through hard things and it is a huge block missing love your parents forever you never know ur last day with them ❤️

  • this made me cry so much. I lost my mom 3 months ago, she was only 65. I’m 23 and I’m probably gonna live most of my life without her. It’s so painful

  • I losed a dad bc he left US like not the world like but he still loves US and we love him but every time he comes back hes drunk and trys to hurt US now he cut his left arm

  • When people say ‘time will heal everything’, it is bullshit spoken by those who has never experineced a real loss. I lost my Mum to cancer, she was 53. It has been over two years, yet it still hurts every single day. In fact, I still cannot believe the fact that she is no longer living, which is crazy. I feel like I am living in a world that is not real, I feel dissociated if that make sense. She was the kindest person I have seen in my life, and she is the love of my life. My relationship with my Dad and brother have always been terrible. So during the first year after her passing, things have been extremely difficult, I was on my own. My friends were kinda useless (sorry if this sound rude), they just did not seem to care what has happened to me except for the first week. I was very suicidal. Thankfully, things have gotten better…but yer, I still miss my Mum EVERY single day, and the pain is not any less. It aches my heart so much whenever I imagine how she won‘t be there for my future wedding, it aches my heart whenever I think of how we have never travelled together or created some beautiful memories together. However, I know that she is enjoying eternal happiness with Jesus in heaven now. Thank you so much If you are reading this, because it shows that you care. God bless you and I am praying that you will be strengthen for whatever you are going through! ��������

  • My father passed away on the second of July, it’s now the 21st and I’m struggling. Me and my dad weren’t very close but we had a bond that I had with no one else. He was only 32 and left me behind. I still need him. May all the beautiful souls rest in peace ❤️

  • i had not seen him in 4 years because of foster care. i had hoped to see him when i was 18 but he died before i could even see him for the last time. not even a ****ing funural

  • i lost my dad when is was 8 years old. (drug overdose) i have spent 2 years trying to pretend he is still here. Does anyone have any suggestions. I am 12 years old now. it is still incredibly difficult.

  • The worst thing I’ve ever heard during a normal day is “grandpa died someone call an ambulance” the confusion. I was so scared. He was a great man. I miss him so fucking much