Closeness Following a Diagnosis

 

Sexual Healing 17: Sex, Sexuality and Relationships After A Diagnosis Of Cancer

Video taken from the channel: LGBT and Cancer Staffordshire


 

Sexuality: Retaining and Rediscovering Intimacy

Video taken from the channel: Stanford Health Care


 

INTIMACY AFTER TRAUMA | BIG SIS ADVICE

Video taken from the channel: Meghan Hughes


 

Love and Intimacy with Cancer: Through Diagnosis, Treatment, and Survivorship

Video taken from the channel: Stanford Health Care


 

WEBINAR: Staying Mindfully Connected and Experiencing Intimacy after a Cancer Diagnosis

Video taken from the channel: Canadian Cancer Survivor Network


 

Sexuality and Intimacy After a Cancer Diagnosis: Melissa’s Experience

Video taken from the channel: cocaovarian


 

22 with terminal cancer: Canadian gymnast grapples with a life-changing diagnosis | Before & After

Video taken from the channel: CBC Docs


No matter what condition you’ve been diagnosed with, you don’t have to resign yourself to a life without sex or intimacy. Talk to your doctor. Tell your doctor how important your sexual life is to you.

I know this might be difficult, particularly if you’re not used to talking. “Cuddling, holding hands and gentle touching are all forms of physical intimacy that can play a role for couples dealing with a dementia diagnosis,” she says. “However, dementia doesn’t mean that a healthy sex life is no longer possible. In fact, it can be a wonderful source of support, comfort and pleasure for many years to come.

What about intimacy if one partner has been ill? If you or your partner have been sick with COVID-19 and are now recovering, this CDC page explains ways to prevent the spread of germs, including not sharing bedding –– or presumably, a bed –– and abstaining from all intimate contact until. at least seven days after symptoms first started. As a mental health therapist, I work with people who are trying to rediscover their sexual selves after a cancer diagnosis. Everyone I see has one thing in common – they are hungry for connection.

It’s a basic human need, but one that is often overlooked in healthcare settings. One way that people can find connection is through intimacy. onreproductive” cancer types and 84% of partners caring for a person with cancer involving “reproductive” sites reported an impact on their sexual relationship. Cessation or decreased frequency of sex and intimacy was reported by 59% of the women and 79% of the men. Renegotiation of sexuality and intimacy after cancer was reported by only 19% of the women and 14% of the men.

Reasons for. Why You Might Have Intimacy Issues After Trauma In addition to withdrawal and feeling disconnected, a multitude of other trauma symptoms can interfere with a relationship. After. Yet retaining intimacy in your relationship both during and after your breast cancer ordeal is critical to your overall recovery.

And single women who want to become part of a relationship worry how breast cancer will affect their prospects, about how and. The findings are of significance to clinicians because sexual well-being is central to psychological well-being and quality of life, and sexual intimacy has been found to make the experience of cancer more manageable and to assist in the recovery process. © 2012 Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, Inc. Dr. Guntupalli masterfully tackles the complex implications for love and intimacy that are too often overlooked and underdiscussed when it comes to cancer.

Regaining intimacy accelerates the path to regaining health and this book is an insightful, powerful guide to doing exactly that. Bill Frist, MD, former U.S. Senate Majority Leader. Vaginal bleeding, including bleeding after sex, can be a symptom of cervical and uterine cancers.

These cancers are most common in women over age.

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If you were comfortable with and enjoyed sexual relations before starting therapy, chances are you will still find pleasure in physical intimacy during your treatment.

“Consumer Health USA” by Alan M. Rees
from Consumer Health USA
by Alan M. Rees
Oryx Press, 1997

This suffering results from the expectations and responsibilities placed upon the significant other to care for the patient, the mutual experience of intensified needs brought about by the patient’s illness, and the often rapidly changing needs of both the patient and the significant other.

“Palliative Care Nursing: Quality Care to the End of Life” by Marianne Matzo, PhD, APRN-CNP, FPCN, FAAN, Deborah Witt Sherman, PhD, APRN, ANP-BC, ACHPN, FAAN
from Palliative Care Nursing: Quality Care to the End of Life
by Marianne Matzo, PhD, APRN-CNP, FPCN, FAAN, Deborah Witt Sherman, PhD, APRN, ANP-BC, ACHPN, FAAN
Springer Publishing Company, 2018

As for physical intimacy, you and your partner will probably need some time to get reacquainted with each other after an episode.

“The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide, Second Edition: What You and Your Family Need to Know” by David J. Miklowitz
from The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide, Second Edition: What You and Your Family Need to Know
by David J. Miklowitz
Guilford Publications, 2011

A key to helping patients with BPD is recognizing their fears of both abandonment and intimacy.

“Psychiatric Nursing: Contemporary Practice” by Mary Ann Boyd
from Psychiatric Nursing: Contemporary Practice
by Mary Ann Boyd
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2008

FP (for both closed and open questions): Information is gathered and exchanged, clarifying symptoms, emotions, reactions and their impact; continue to build trust and relationship; encourage disclosure, sharing and intimacy, caring, commitment, connection and engagement.

“Occupational Therapy for People Experiencing Illness, Injury Or Impairment E-Book(previously Entitled Occupational Therapy and Physical Dysfunction): Promoting Occupation and Participation” by Michael Curtin, Mary Egan, Jo Adams (PhD)
from Occupational Therapy for People Experiencing Illness, Injury Or Impairment E-Book(previously Entitled Occupational Therapy and Physical Dysfunction): Promoting Occupation and Participation
by Michael Curtin, Mary Egan, Jo Adams (PhD)
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2016

In couples’ therapy, clinicians will need to address the partners’ intimacy compatibility.

“Close Relationships: A Sourcebook” by Clyde Hendrick, Susan S. Hendrick, Susan Hendrick
from Close Relationships: A Sourcebook
by Clyde Hendrick, Susan S. Hendrick, Susan Hendrick
SAGE Publications, 2000

This may be overcome if both partners are able to discuss their anxieties, either with each other or facilitated by a healthcare professional.

“Gynaecology E-Book: Expert Consult: Online and Print” by Robert W. Shaw, David Luesley, Ash K. Monga
from Gynaecology E-Book: Expert Consult: Online and Print
by Robert W. Shaw, David Luesley, Ash K. Monga
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

Has there been physical contact within the therapy relationship previously?

“Treating Adult Survivors of Childhood Emotional Abuse and Neglect” by Elizabeth K. Hopper, Frances K. Grossman, Joseph Spinazzola, Bessel A. van der Kolk, Marla Zucker, Christine A. Courtois
from Treating Adult Survivors of Childhood Emotional Abuse and Neglect
by Elizabeth K. Hopper, Frances K. Grossman, et. al.
Guilford Publications, 2018

At that point, the therapist can choose whether to probe for shared experiences, or wait until a similar theme appears in the couple’s interaction.

“Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Fifth Edition” by Alan S. Gurman, Jay L. Lebow, Douglas K. Snyder
from Clinical Handbook of Couple Therapy, Fifth Edition
by Alan S. Gurman, Jay L. Lebow, Douglas K. Snyder
Guilford Publications, 2015

THERAPIST: Can you tell Linda now about how you feel about not being able to be as intimate as you would both like.

“Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples” by Leslie S. Greenberg, Susan M. Johnson
from Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples
by Leslie S. Greenberg, Susan M. Johnson
Guilford Publications, 1988

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  • Cancers never a gift but the realization it gives you of what’s really important and what’s not is indeed an awakening. Not without cost of course and for me i shall be seeing the inside of a day treatment ward for the rest of my life but i also meet my better half because of it and that over 20 years ago now. Life isn’t fair and it can beat you to the ground if you let it but its not how long you got but rather if you get up off that ground and live it to the fullest. Tamara O’Brien lived hers and lived large you should do the same.

  • My older sister died of cancer, it was really heartbreaking cause the first time she got diagnose it was already stage 4 and it was her birthday.

  • Ugh I’m so thankful for this video. I finally have a video I can relate to about rape and sexual assault. Thank you for this; thank you for telling your story so that we can feel connected and not alone. This is a serious topic!! Thank you for opening up! I can refer to this video when I’m feeling alone/ having triggers, and it makes me feel
    So much better knowing that more people know how I feel. ��

  • Can you make a video for us victims to send to our partner? You are so well spoken and I feel like I’d be rly helpful for him to see

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  • I saw the video without reading the text or comments below. I watched the video and at the end I thought, that maybe she is lucky and will have some more years. Then I realized she was not that lucky. Oh gee. Makes me very sad. My deepest condolences to all the people who loved her.

  • I find it strange that people who want to live lose their life, but there are so many people that ask God to take them every night and never get taken. Life can be so unfair.

  • Thank you so much for talking about your experience and continued process for healing. I was in a sexually abusive relationship for 5 years. I got out about 4 years ago and have been so hard on myself for not being over it by now, but the more I talked about little things here and there with friends I really trusted, the more I understood that it takes time. So much time. And it may not be fair that I have serious triggers, but it’s more unfair to shame myself for not being healed fast enough. The amount of perspective that is shifted in abusive situations is insane, so it’s incredibly helpful to hear how someone else is trying to process their trauma. Thank you for sharing. It means more than you even know.

  • I was molested by girls at a very young age and I never talk about it. I buried it in my head for a long time because I still think my situation isn’t “bad enough” and talking about it makes me feel uncomfortable. I’m triggered by a lot of things but this is one thing that I feel I haven’t allowed myself to fully heal from since I just keep it in a black hole and forget about it. I commend you Meg for being brave enough to not only call but to share your most dark times with us. This is one of a million reasons why I love you Maurice ����

  • A trusted male in my life tried to rape me when I was 8 and have had a few more incidents since and now I’m 15 and am dating a guy who I really trust so thank you so much for this because I was so scared and this helped a lot

  • Give this a read.
    I am a vocalist in a band. It took us years to develop to what we are today. Before the corona pandemic hit the world, we were working on our first album. It was pretty special for us.
    Then it all stopped, I moved back to my parent’s home thousands of kilometres away because I felt I would be safe there.
    My aunt, who stays with my parents got diagnosed with stage 3 cervical cancer. It was pretty hard for me, considering that the pandemic was in it’s full swing and visiting a hospital is pretty risky, especially for my diabetic dad. This was the fourth case of cancer in my dad’s family. My dad’s two brothers and my grandmother had already died from the disease. It is easy for us to get demotivated after the history. So I had been in incharge of their well being. This week my maternal uncle who is really close to me had a heart attack, it was pretty near lethal. He is still in the ICU. He has also contracted covid.
    All my maternal uncles and their families have contracted covid. My dad is showing symptoms. Right now I am self quarantining myself because I had been down with fever and a runny nose. Pretty sure I have contracted the disease from my uncle.
    Trying to stay positive af. Playing video games, eating healthy, positivity.

  • Cancer or no cancer, you learn the life, hard way… When one is holding too much into life, almost trying to take control of life, there’s this one moment that gonna awake us up from the illusion we are merged into. It gonna remind us that our only true inheritance is death. Everything else comes next.

  • Thank you so much for sharing your story, Meghan. I know how hard it must be, but here you are, showing up for those of us who are struggling. I’m so sorry about your trauma, you are heard & your story is valid! Your encouragement & advice will help a lot of people process their feelings & feel safe in sharing. ❤️

    I have been sexually abused different ways throughout my life, but it is the recent trauma that I’ve been through that has really brought so much pain in my life. I just recently got out of a situation (that went on for many years) with someone who was a sociopath. I didn’t realise at the time (although I had many gut feelings), but I was being emotionally & sexually manipulated. It wasn’t until I spoke with my therapist & read an article she recommended, that I learned the true extent of what I had been through. When you’re being manipulated both emotionally & sexually, your consent is based on a lie, therefore making it very much like rape. Learning almost overnight the extent of everything, it made me feel sooo many thing’s.. it was a huge trigger & brought back all the other sexual trauma I had experienced.

    Telling my therapist, family & best friend was the first step in my healing. It was hard, but it was necessary.

    I recently shared my story on Instagram after coming out of a deep depression due to this. I was scared to share, but I woke up that morning knowing I had to. Spreading awareness is so important & I’m glad we have people like you, who use their platform to do just that! You’re truly such a blessing ��

    I will say that sharing & speaking up about my story has been one of the most freeing thing’s I’ve ever done!

  • I do not understand this. How is it possible? I know cancer is somewhat of a medical mystery but holy shit a girl so young and healthy? There’s nothing you can do to protect yourself.

  • What an amazingly beautiful young lady. I coach athletics and find it to be a great way for young people to grow both emotionally and physically. I do hope that we will find an effective and affordable cure for all types of cancer within her lifetime. Maybe it’s a far-fetched hope, but science has advanced greatly. Let’s make this happen so that people like her can be with us for a long time. She is truly beautiful.

    Both my parents died from cancer. I know how it puts life into perspective

  • At 20, I was diagnosed with stage for Crohn’s disease. At 21, my entire large intestine ruptured, I died for two minutes, they were able to resuscitate me and go on to perform at 12 hour surgery where they found two small tumours growing on the outside of my now shattered large intestine. If they had gone unnoticed any longer, it would’ve killed me in six months, I literally had to die to save my own life. But that was just the beginning. I’m now 51 and I’m permanent long-term disability. I’ve had 37 surgeries they have removed over 95% of my G.I. tract. I’ve had four relapses of intestinal cancer at the same time. Chances of survival were 5%, 10%, 5%, 5%… I’m 51 now, cancer free, intestine free, but still alive, so hell yes, it is an awakening, but if I have to be honest, there’s a lot of times I wished I wasn’t alive, because living like this with so much missing inside, has turned my life upside down and backwards more times than I can count. Is it wrong to say I wished that the cancer had killed me instead? Not being able to eat hardly anything, being sick every day of your life, not being able to do any of the things you used to enjoy, and being just plain miserable all the time, is too high of a price to pay for just being alive. There’s a big difference between living, and being alive. Unfortunately I am the latter, living is the most important, when you can do things that are fun, things that make you happy, even if it means going to work, I would give anything to be able to return to work, and have my life back. I did manage to get my degree while going through all that crap, and manage to work often on for almost 25 years, but it finally reached a point where I’m just too sick to do anything. Never confuse living for being alive, because being alive itself isn’t enough, if you have no reason to live, and life is nothing but unbearable pain day after day for the rest of your life, then I’m not living, I’m just alive, but dead, or rather, waiting for death to finally take me, so I can finally live again on the other side, and I know there’s another side, because when I died, I got to see what awaits us, and it’s absolutely wonderful, I can’t wait to get back to it, but at the same time I can’t abandon all those people in my family who gave everything up to help me get through it. Be thankful you’re not me, I wouldn’t Wish this on anybody, the only claim to fame that I can make is that the cancer diagnosis percentages are never correct, the doctors are only going by the textbooks, and everybody is different. Unfortunately our survive for times when I should’ve died, sounds crazy I know, but if I knew what I was going to be facing after surviving everything, I would’ve gave up and let the cancer take me, because this is not living, it’s a State of perpetual pre-death.

  • I struggle with intimacy with my husband of 6 years because of childhood sexual trauma brought on by close family members. If this is you as well, you’re not alone. It may feel it sometimes, but I’m here for you.

  • Thank you thank you thank you for this relevant video I didn’t know I needed. You’re amazing for making this, sharing your story and helping others. Sending you and everyone else a whole lot of love and healing x

  • Abused a week ago right after you posted this… just now watching it and I keep getting goosebumps. Thank you for sharing your voice

  • We never know how strong we are amazing she would pick the girl with cancer instead she was free truly living not existing most people just die without knowing their worth love themselves but she truly lived and is still living love never dies

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  • Tamara O’Brien was my girlfriend, and I’m incredibly lucky to have been able to spend the time together with her that we had. It makes me happy to see that her story is being shared around the world. Tams you are my angel. I’ll love you always and forever

  • thank you so much for doing sextember and talking about important topics like your trauma, self pleasure and having your first time. I’d never had a ‘sex talk’ or proper sex-ed so I’ve always looked to the internet and people like you to be able to have conversations like these. you’re an absolute angel. thank you so so much from the bottom of my heart for being vulnerable and open. i love you!:)

  • It happened to me with somebody I was in a relationship with. It took me a while to accept it as well. I definitely still struggle with it in a new relationship (together 3 years now). A lot of times I won’t even have a trigger, I’ll just start crying after and i have no idea why. Thank you for talking about it ❤ the police got involved in my situation and I made the decision not to press charges because I knew there wasn’t any proof and I definitely didn’t want to see him in court. I still have a hard time accepting it because it was in a relationship and I blocked a lot of things out for about a year and honestly don’t remember a lot. But then I have to remind myself that I said no. He knew I wasn’t into it because I was just laying there, motionless, crying. It’s so hard to even accept the fact that it happened sometimes ��

  • Hello Meghan. After watching this video I realized I was underplaying an incident that happened to me. I had been holding it in. I took your advice and decided I was ready to talk to my husband about it. I had told him about it after it happened but could never tell him how I felt. I was scared. Now I finally feel a weight lifted and feel like I can exhale again. This video helped me even when I thought I didn’t need it. Thank you

  • It is the emotional distress that her mother put on her as a little kid that has caused her cancer. 2yr olds don’t want to b gymnasts. They want to run around n act silly. Cancers r caused by deep emotional wounds and a toxic environment.
    U cannot cure Cancer with Western Medicine. Nor with Surgery. Definitely not with Chemotherapy, which is pure poison. U need traditional Herbal treatments like Ayurveda if u really want to cure Cancer and live long.

  • I’m glad she said cancer is not a gift. I watched my partner fight cancer for over 3 years, he lived 1 month over what they said he would. He fought hard & remained positive throughout. To hear someone you love & planned on spending a lifetime with tell you they are dying & there’s nothing they can do is beyond heartbreaking. Miss him every second of everyday. Her positivity and honesty was inspiring, sad to hear she has since passed. RIP beautiful girl♥️

  • This video really changed my life I feel a pathehtic parasite letting life pass gone by I promise I will stop complaining and value the life

  • I went through something 5 years ago and now I need some more time in the beginning of every relationship. I need to be in control about the first times. I don’t need to be dominant but I need to be the one that decided when the first kiss/ sex whatever is going to happen. Cos if the partner is making that decision for me, that freaks me out cos it reminds me of what happened. But after some months into the relationship I‘m completely fine with everything:)

  • wow, as of today 9-13-2020, there have been 175 trolls who’ve supposedly seen this incredible tribute to an amazing life and actually used their time to give this a “thumbs down”…… what happened in your life that you could be this level of lunacy? whatever happened in your life, I hope that some day you grow up……

  • I was sexually assaulted in April of 2015 as well. He planned the whole thing, pressured me to drink too much, and may have even drugged me. I thought I was safe with him because he knew I was dating a friend of his. I went through the whole process of reporting him when I found out he’d done the exact same thing to at least 2 other girls that I knew. What made it worse was my then boyfriend was an absolute dick about it. Not supportive at all. Made it all about him. Ended manipulating and emotionally abusing me for a year after until he cheated on me while we were in London together. It’s been 3 years since I’ve been with anyone. I definitely have a lot of walls up. It’s very upsetting.

  • I work at Fair Haven in Indiana. It is a sexual assault support system. We do individual sessions for FREE. We also have group therapy. We have a crisis line if anyone needs to reach out. It does not matter where you are located. Google “Fair Haven highland Indiana”. You can text the crisis line or call. You could also chat with an advocate online. We have many choices for you. We can also give you resources closer to your home. ��❤️

  • Thank you so much, I reported my abuser last month and I swear I’m fine until I get triggered so thanks for making me feel like I’m not alone

  • As a Social worker in my early days your video series and this episode in particular is incredibly important. You r such an eloquent compassionate person who delivers a message in down to earth terms. I wish this whole series could be shown in schools. U r am amazing young lady with wisdom beyond your years❤️����

  • Thank you for making this video. I’ve had it in my watch later for a while now but kept putting it off, but now that I’ve watched it I feel so comforted. Thank you for opening up & sharing your experience & how to evolve after the fact