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Frankly, going to college just isn’t necessary any more. Furthermore, experience will almost always trump a degree at this point… More and more jobs do not even necessitate a college degree. The one exception to all of this is that if you do not go to college, you have to work your face off 24/7/365.. Absolutely humbled to have my good friend Adam Braun be on this episode of the #AskGaryVee show. If you don’t know, Adam is an entrepreneur, New York Times best selling author, and philanthropist. Adam created Pencils of Promise, a non-profit educational organization, as well as MissionU.. If you want to go follow Adam on social media, you can find him here: Twitter https://twitter.com/adambraun. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/itsadambraun. If you guys want to check out the full episode of this #AskGaryVee show, you can find it here: https://youtu.be/SZfoc7tw1u0. —. ► Check out my main YouTube channel here:. http://www.youtube.com/c/garyvee. ► Find #AskGaryVee here:. https://www.facebook.com/askgaryvee. —. Gary Vaynerchuk is a serial entrepreneur and the CEO and founder of VaynerMedia, a full-service digital agency servicing Fortune 500 clients across the company’s 5 locations. Gary is also a prolific public speaker, venture capitalist, 4-time New York Times Bestselling Author, and has been named to both Crain’s and Fortune’s 40 Under 40 lists.. Gary is the host of the #AskGaryVee Show, a business and marketing focused Q&A video show and podcast, as well as DailyVee, a docu-series highlighting what it’s like to be a CEO, investor, speaker, and public figure in today’s digital age.. Make sure to stay tuned for Gary’s latest project Planet of the Apps, Apple’s very first video series, where Gary is a judge alongside Will.I.Am, Jessica Alba, and Gwyneth Paltrow.. —. Follow me online here: Main YouTube: http://youtube.com/c/garyvee. Instagram: http://instagram.com/garyvee. Facebook: http://facebook.com/gary. Snapchat: http://snapchat.com/add/garyvee. Website: http://garyvaynerchuk.com. Soundcloud: http://soundcloud.com/garyvee/. Twitter: http://twitter.com/garyvee. Medium: http://medium.com/@garyvee. Planet of the Apps: http://planetoftheapps.com. Podcast: http://garyvaynerchuk.com/podcast. Wine Library: http://winelibrary.com
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Can You Keep Your Child Safe at College? Marcia Mangum Cronin. Discuss what your child can do to be safe in social and dating situations. Rather than telling your teens not to go to parties or drink or do drugs, discuss the potential consequences of those actions. Talk about what they can do to avoid being vulnerable, like never leaving a.
To help you stay safe (and healthy) this fall, we’ve put together practical tips you can use, whether you’re moving back to campus for in-person classes or staying socially distanced behind your computer screen. Safety tips for in-person classes. Read your college’s plan for resuming classes this fall.
You’ll find important information. College campus safety is a big issue. You can probably think of several instances in the last few years when campus safety issues were in the news. The good news is that most college campuses take. What are some other steps my child can take to stay safe at college?
Give your young adults these safety tips to help keep themselves and their belongings secure while they’re away from home. Tour the campus during the day to familiarize yourself with the facilities. Tell a friend or roommate where you’re going before venturing out. Help us to help your child and their friends stay safe Students can find talking to adults difficult or intimidating when it comes to personal subjects or difficult situations.
If you suspect your child, or your child’s friend, is suffering from bullying, emotional, sexual or. Even if students are trying their best to follow guidelines and stay safe, they’ll likely be faced with a flood of small decisions that could impact their exposure to the virus. There’s no limit in how much money you can put into a UGMA or UTMA, but this is best with a child whom you believe is responsible.
Your. Before we delve into the safety app must-haves, let’s talk about what safety apps are and how they can help you keep your children safe. A safety app is an application you can download that is designed to help track your child’s location, monitor their text messages and calls, block certain content by using kid-safe search engines and set.
Written by Kohl’s Safety and Injury Prevention Program It is in every parent’s interest to keep his or her children safe at all times. We tend to associate safety with areas in which we are most familiar, like our home, but did you know that about 4.5 million children are injured at home every year? The house contains multiple objects that can cause injuries in children, such as toys.
Your child going to college will affect your auto insurance. If your child will move out of your home to attend college, whether across town or out of state, notify your auto insurance agent or insurer, says Carole Walker, executive director of the Rocky Mountain Insurance Information Association. Discuss your specific situation, your concerns and all of your options when you have a child going to college.
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This can be quality time with your child, but remember that ultimately it is the student who must want to go to the college, regardless of the parents’ views.
Chance encounters with parents around campus or in the community are great opportunities to let them know what is going on in your program and report on the child.
A parent who abuses a child through isolation may not allow the child to engage in appropriate activities with his or her peers, may keep the baby in his or her room or may prevent teenagers from participating in extracurricular activities.
Some schools may decide to act on behalf of the child, others may decide to seek consent through an Acceptable Use Policy signed by students and parents at the beginning of the year, while others may take no responsibility at all and leave it up to parents.
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I had no problems with crimes and felt safe while at school and in my dorm or apartment.
Chance encounters with parents around campus or in the community are great opportunities to let them know what is going on in your program and to report on their child.
Your child isn’t going to college or even living alone anytime soon, so there’s no reason to be alarmed by the fact that he or she doesn’t seem close to being able to handle these responsibilities.
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Thank so much my just called saying he’s having a hard time, this is his freshman year i cried.. Thank you, his dad is going to visit him today to talk to him I needed to hear this. Blessings to you
My ex (without my knowledge) had huge student loan debt. This turned into a problem in our marriage. I grew up differently than lots of kids today. My parents never went to college/couldn’t afford it. So I began to feel like I was covering costs to help him cover his huge debt. I too barely went to college. It was a struggle for me but I came out with very minimal debt. I paid for things and then he’d spend lots of money of stuff/so he couldn’t wouldn’t pay the debt down. Over time this led to resentment. He’s now successful and attempted to cheat on me which led to our divorce. The new girlfriend makes practically no money only works part time, and he makes now a six figure salary. Again, to me his life makes no sense. All I can say is in college, try TRY to keep your debt down as much as possible. You won’t make that good paying job at first to pay it all off.
Thank you Mel. My son started at university (college) in February. He’s usually a very driven and independent young man, but recently started having panic attacks and suffering debilitating anxiety. He’s doing everything he can to be busy, and is doing exceptionally well academically. He’s always been the child I had to tell to put the homework down and go and be a kid… to balance his study and social life. Have never told him what he should do, but encouraged him to follow his heart, do what he feels drawn to, and that he is smart enough to work things out, but I’ll be here if he needs me. After a few weeks, I started receiving texts and phone calls from a very distressed and hysterical “boy”! This is not the same intelligent, together and easy going young man I dropped off a few weeks earlier. He’s a mess in ways I’ve never seen with him before. Not knowing what else to do, I called my boss (old school friend whose son is the same age as mine) and told her what was happening, and that I would not be at work for a few days. She was very supportive, and told me to take the time I needed to help him over his new hurdles. I drove the 5 hours to where he was and took him out for dinner (The issues at the time, were in the dorm rooms) and it was what he needed at that time. We spoke, he told me how he would approach his new obstacles and he started smiling again. All seemed ok for a couple of weeks after my return home, he just needed to know he could call and be supported. But recently has been reaching out and telling me he’s really “down”. He’s told me that he can’t sleep, is having panic attacks and is saying that he is very anxious most of the time. He’s not the type of person to wallow and is usually proactive in trying to solve his own problems… his mantra is “it’ll bother me until I do it, so I’ll just get it done”. He’s sort out help, took himself to counselling and has been referred to a health service for youth. After a conversation in which he mentioned he wasn’t sure what else he could do, I sent him a “gift”… your audible book “The 5 second rule”. He responded to the gift by texting “I’ve come across the 5 second rule before, but haven’t read the book. Guess I forgot to make it a habit. Thanks mum”. I also sent him a link to sign up for “Mindset reset” to which I had signed up for moments before he texted (I also sent it to my husband and my mother and have printed the guide out to work on with my younger son who is 12 years old). Waiting to hear from him to see if he’s listening to the book and signed up for the mindset reset. I might need to reach out and let him know I’m still in his corner at some point in the near future, but I’ve never been a helicopter parent, letting him make mistakes but making sure I’m there (Not necessarily physically) if he needs me… Fingers crossed. I’m not at all an anxious person, and trust my son to make good decisions, but this is testing me. Thank you Mel, for providing hope and a means to support my son as he learns to use new tools to cope with his new, more independent life as an adult, and tools to help me remain my usual calm self, while he does ❤
Omg I needed to hear this. My first born is going off to college next Friday and he came to me in tears, with no rational reason. HUGE slap in the face as a single mom. I don’t know how to handle this. He picked the because it has everything he’ll need to live out his dream, and now he’s crying says he doesn’t want to go. Please help me. I don’t know what to do.
i have to say, western parenting makes sure their kid thinks about their life and teach them how to be independent, kids won’t come back and no money for them when they get old. asian parenting makes sure their kid know how to be rich in order to make them rich after they get old. totally different perspective, thats why 99%western kids are happier than 99%asian kids
Figure out what you WANT to do and WORK HARD AT IT… day in and day out. It’s as simple as that. If what you’re doing isn’t worth eating shit for, then your stakes aren’t high enough!
She says “I want to be free to parent my own children” but if you want t be free to parent your own children don’t you think you should do so vs putting them in day care? Because the moment you put them there you’re counting on a daycare operator to exercise his/her common sense. Judging by the fact that Trump is getting nearly half the vote we can easily surmise that common sense is not that common! IMO, Yes, there’s no question that there’s excessive regulation in many things out there, but I’m not sure trusting common sense is enough when it comes to protecting that which matters most.
Through high school, our kids had light part time employment, but their JOB was to do their best in school. They all did very well, and received college scholarships in varying degrees. Our son started last week. He earned a full tuition scholarship. In order to keep it, he must maintain an aggressive GPA. He will not have a paying job right away, as we discussed that his “salary” (scholarship) is more than any job he could have while maintaining his standing. He has a full understanding of that value, and the consequences of not “showing up for work.” I fully agree with your other points, and this one if he did not have the scholarship.
So true! My daughter changed her major freshman year BEFORE classes began. She knew what she wanted, and she was right. She got involved in so many different clubs until she found her passion. She wound up becoming president of a club, and making the most of her college experience. The ONLY advice we gave her was to try as many new things as possible that she never tried in high school. We never got on her case about it once college started, however. She is out of school now, and she said that she has no regrets. She did everything she wanted to do in college, and made the most of her college experience. We never called her, or texted her first (unless there was a family emergency, of course).
Totally agree with making the kids earn their spending money. It definitely teaches discipline and money management before they’re suddenly swamped with all their own bills. This is some great advice. Cheers!
right after WWII, just one parent had to work, and could still buy a house, car, invest, and still send your kids to college…now both parents work, and can’t do any of those things.
Really well organized and presented. The social media aspect is crucial to understand. Remember making a collect call home every other Sunday to hear familiar voices? So fortunate my parents prepared me for college on all these points even in the Dark Ages.
I hate college so much but I’ve been here for 3 years already and I’m not even half way done. I feel like I’ve been wasting my life away �� is it still worth it to drop out?
Once again, thanks again for your words of wisdom. I am getting ready to send my daughter off to college next week and these are great reminders for my us. I am sure we have rough waters ahead but I agree with all of your points and I will have to exercise control and remind my wife of these as well…
Only problem is… In Africa, you can work ur Ass n Face off.. Ur whole life and Still die Poor! With or Without a degree. So am going without da Degree. Thanx Garry! Love from. GHANA
I hate how my mom is telling me to go to college and my grandparents tell me to go to college but the only one in my family that actually seems happy with where he is at the current moment is my dad who didn’t go to college. I wish I could just leave with no responsibilities and just surf maybe work here and there at a golf course that I’m working at. Life seems so pressured to go to college and fuck man why can’t I just cruise and see what happens. My moms side is like go to college!!! I know I won’t be happy. Life is fucked man.
The problem is you can’t do something’s without a degree and if you don’t want to go to college but want to be something like a doctor your basically fucked because u need a degree to do that and if you don’t want to go to college then you can’t be a doctor it’s fucked up bro
I’m tired of my cousins and my sister putting me down because I’m not in college! It’s annoying they think they’re all that. I try to distance myself. It’s bullying and I have learning disability.
Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations for a guy that wants to make a good amount of money for the sole purpose of using it to travel (whenever he wishes) as well as give back to the communities around the world? Does not have a college degree, but does have knowledge/experience pertaining to a few particular skills and natural creativity. Completely disregards materialism and normality. He simply wants the freedom to travel and go about his day as he chooses rather than be confined to a strict schedule or 9-5 job for the rest of his life. Any advice, tips or secrets are much appreciated!
I need some help here… I’m a fairly smart student in highschool taking all honors and AP classes, currently a sophomore (15 turning 16 years old this year). Schools about to end in a month and I have 2 AP exams going on. All the stress is on me right now and it’s forcing me to take a look at everything around me. Do I really want to go to college? I don’t have a goal and I have absolutely no clue what to do if I were to finish college. I do however have other interests outside of academics and college. I’m interested in streaming video games, cooking, trading etc. My parents say it’s a waste if I don’t go to college because of how smart I am and to an extent I agree but wtf am I going to do other than stressing myself for another 6-8 years, accumulating college debt, and most importantly wasting time. I’m so close to the real world and I’m worried about fucking myself over. I just don’t want to be working a 9-5 job for the rest of my life but I might have to if I don’t come up with a choice soon. I don’t have many interests too, what if they don’t work out? Will I just work in McDonald’s or something for the rest of my life? It’s 3 AM, I feel like I’m in a shitload of shit rn, just letting my thoughts out.
I’m sorry, but if your waiting to teach your kids how to earn their own money and pay bills at the college level, it’s to late. you have already taught them that they live in a world of entitlement.
I think people should value doing their dream job, having a great time doing so and meeting great and happy / positive people who grow along with the one person, and that idea the one person has grows into a massive group of people with the same idea, and that idea then eventually grows into a mega / multi billion dollar business, which is what nearly all business should value (and I know some do), over the businesses employees only thinking about becoming wealthy and becoming wealthy only. Also, some workers think daily about becoming wealthy, (which is not a problem), but can be if they are constantly thinking of it 24/7, and that can stress out workers a lot, and make them become extremely stressed, which is not good at all.
I think all business big and small should value having a great time working as a massive or small group, creating ideas that grow into something bigger, and having a great time doing so, over becoming wealthy and only becoming wealthy.
1. Take a GAP year overseas. 2. Do a 3-4 year undergraduate course in something you’re passionate about. 3. Have a side hustle during those 3-4 years. 4. Return to travelling and working abroad. Thoughts..?!
Just join the military. You get great benefits, stay healthy, pride, etc. rank up and reach the end of the enlisted ranks, and after 20 years, you’ll be chillin��
I don’t want to go to college. I want to do the stuff I love. But I do want to go to art school somewhere in Southern California. And I want to try and be a dancer for celebrities but that’s a dream, I don’t really think I could do it irl. My parents really wanted me to go into law or nursing. But I can’t handle it. I’ve had ideas of it but never really thought that if I’d actually enjoy my life while doing it. Performing and all that stuff is what I love. Iam doi community college tho
(If anyone has names of art schools in Southern California to share please do).
Some colleges cost a lot and you still don’t learn enough to get a job, even if they didn’t want previous experience. Earn skills, not piece of paper that doesn’t mean shit if can’t guarantee you any job in the industry. Bootcamps, certificates, internships do that.
Well, these fucking women need to stops insisting on these goddamn rules. FOUR children all in daycare? There’s your fucking problem. Get your ass out of the workforce sweetie and stay home and raise your kids.
Thanks, Mel for this video. Especially on the people not pushing their kids or others into a major. Both my parents had passed on before I graduated High School and my advisors told me to pursue a business degree rather than going after art.
This lead to 5 years and 4 jobs of absolute misery. Now I’m about to be 26 and am just now returning to my original interests.
Since i graduate in senior high, i decided not to go to college because of financial but this always fuck up my mind. What will be i in the future if i do, thats sucks
Thank so much my just called saying he’s having a hard time, this is his freshman year i cried.. Thank you, his dad is going to visit him today to talk to him I needed to hear this. Blessings to you
My ex (without my knowledge) had huge student loan debt. This turned into a problem in our marriage. I grew up differently than lots of kids today. My parents never went to college/couldn’t afford it. So I began to feel like I was covering costs to help him cover his huge debt. I too barely went to college. It was a struggle for me but I came out with very minimal debt. I paid for things and then he’d spend lots of money of stuff/so he couldn’t wouldn’t pay the debt down. Over time this led to resentment. He’s now successful and attempted to cheat on me which led to our divorce. The new girlfriend makes practically no money only works part time, and he makes now a six figure salary. Again, to me his life makes no sense. All I can say is in college, try TRY to keep your debt down as much as possible. You won’t make that good paying job at first to pay it all off.
Thank you Mel. My son started at university (college) in February. He’s usually a very driven and independent young man, but recently started having panic attacks and suffering debilitating anxiety. He’s doing everything he can to be busy, and is doing exceptionally well academically. He’s always been the child I had to tell to put the homework down and go and be a kid… to balance his study and social life. Have never told him what he should do, but encouraged him to follow his heart, do what he feels drawn to, and that he is smart enough to work things out, but I’ll be here if he needs me. After a few weeks, I started receiving texts and phone calls from a very distressed and hysterical “boy”! This is not the same intelligent, together and easy going young man I dropped off a few weeks earlier. He’s a mess in ways I’ve never seen with him before.
Not knowing what else to do, I called my boss (old school friend whose son is the same age as mine) and told her what was happening, and that I would not be at work for a few days. She was very supportive, and told me to take the time I needed to help him over his new hurdles. I drove the 5 hours to where he was and took him out for dinner (The issues at the time, were in the dorm rooms) and it was what he needed at that time. We spoke, he told me how he would approach his new obstacles and he started smiling again. All seemed ok for a couple of weeks after my return home, he just needed to know he could call and be supported. But recently has been reaching out and telling me he’s really “down”. He’s told me that he can’t sleep, is having panic attacks and is saying that he is very anxious most of the time. He’s not the type of person to wallow and is usually proactive in trying to solve his own problems… his mantra is “it’ll bother me until I do it, so I’ll just get it done”.
He’s sort out help, took himself to counselling and has been referred to a health service for youth. After a conversation in which he mentioned he wasn’t sure what else he could do,
I sent him a “gift”… your audible book “The 5 second rule”. He responded to the gift by texting “I’ve come across the 5 second rule before, but haven’t read the book. Guess I forgot to make it a habit. Thanks mum”. I also sent him a link to sign up for “Mindset reset” to which I had signed up for moments before he texted (I also sent it to my husband and my mother and have printed the guide out to work on with my younger son who is 12 years old). Waiting to hear from him to see if he’s listening to the book and signed up for the mindset reset. I might need to reach out and let him know I’m still in his corner at some point in the near future, but I’ve never been a helicopter parent, letting him make mistakes but making sure I’m there (Not necessarily physically) if he needs me… Fingers crossed.
I’m not at all an anxious person, and trust my son to make good decisions, but this is testing me.
Thank you Mel, for providing hope and a means to support my son as he learns to use new tools to cope with his new, more independent life as an adult, and tools to help me remain my usual calm self, while he does ❤
Omg I needed to hear this. My first born is going off to college next Friday and he came to me in tears, with no rational reason. HUGE slap in the face as a single mom. I don’t know how to handle this. He picked the because it has everything he’ll need to live out his dream, and now he’s crying says he doesn’t want to go. Please help me. I don’t know what to do.
my son has just started his freshman year at college. this is exactly what we are going through! thanks for the advice, I feel much better…
i have to say, western parenting makes sure their kid thinks about their life and teach them how to be independent, kids won’t come back and no money for them when they get old. asian parenting makes sure their kid know how to be rich in order to make them rich after they get old. totally different perspective, thats why 99%western kids are happier than 99%asian kids
Figure out what you WANT to do and WORK HARD AT IT… day in and day out. It’s as simple as that. If what you’re doing isn’t worth eating shit for, then your stakes aren’t high enough!
Can I add one more; do NOT call the University on your kid behalf. Let them figure things out and deal with administrative procedures.
She says “I want to be free to parent my own children” but if you want t be free to parent your own children don’t you think you should do so vs putting them in day care? Because the moment you put them there you’re counting on a daycare operator to exercise his/her common sense. Judging by the fact that Trump is getting nearly half the vote we can easily surmise that common sense is not that common! IMO, Yes, there’s no question that there’s excessive regulation in many things out there, but I’m not sure trusting common sense is enough when it comes to protecting that which matters most.
Through high school, our kids had light part time employment, but their JOB was to do their best in school. They all did very well, and received college scholarships in varying degrees. Our son started last week. He earned a full tuition scholarship. In order to keep it, he must maintain an aggressive GPA. He will not have a paying job right away, as we discussed that his “salary” (scholarship) is more than any job he could have while maintaining his standing. He has a full understanding of that value, and the consequences of not “showing up for work.” I fully agree with your other points, and this one if he did not have the scholarship.
So true! My daughter changed her major freshman year BEFORE classes began. She knew what she wanted, and she was right. She got involved in so many different clubs until she found her passion. She wound up becoming president of a club, and making the most of her college experience. The ONLY advice we gave her was to try as many new things as possible that she never tried in high school. We never got on her case about it once college started, however. She is out of school now, and she said that she has no regrets. She did everything she wanted to do in college, and made the most of her college experience. We never called her, or texted her first (unless there was a family emergency, of course).
Totally agree with making the kids earn their spending money. It definitely teaches discipline and money management before they’re suddenly swamped with all their own bills. This is some great advice. Cheers!
right after WWII, just one parent had to work, and could still buy a house, car, invest, and still send your kids to college…now both parents work, and can’t do any of those things.
Really well organized and presented. The social media aspect is crucial to understand. Remember making a collect call home every other Sunday to hear familiar voices? So fortunate my parents prepared me for college on all these points even in the Dark Ages.
I hate college so much but I’ve been here for 3 years already and I’m not even half way done. I feel like I’ve been wasting my life away �� is it still worth it to drop out?
Well said Mel ��
We are in this big test “life ” we have everyday new challenges to grow up and become the best version of our selfs.
Thank you mel
Once again, thanks again for your words of wisdom. I am getting ready to send my daughter off to college next week and these are great reminders for my us. I am sure we have rough waters ahead but I agree with all of your points and I will have to exercise control and remind my wife of these as well…
Only problem is… In Africa, you can work ur Ass n Face off.. Ur whole life and Still die Poor! With or Without a degree.
So am going without da Degree. Thanx Garry! Love from. GHANA
I hate how my mom is telling me to go to college and my grandparents tell me to go to college but the only one in my family that actually seems happy with where he is at the current moment is my dad who didn’t go to college. I wish I could just leave with no responsibilities and just surf maybe work here and there at a golf course that I’m working at. Life seems so pressured to go to college and fuck man why can’t I just cruise and see what happens. My moms side is like go to college!!! I know I won’t be happy. Life is fucked man.
The problem is you can’t do something’s without a degree and if you don’t want to go to college but want to be something like a doctor your basically fucked because u need a degree to do that and if you don’t want to go to college then you can’t be a doctor it’s fucked up bro
I’m tired of my cousins and my sister putting me down because I’m not in college! It’s annoying they think they’re all that. I try to distance myself. It’s bullying and I have learning disability.
Does anyone have any ideas or recommendations for a guy that wants to make a good amount of money for the sole purpose of using it to travel (whenever he wishes) as well as give back to the communities around the world? Does not have a college degree, but does have knowledge/experience pertaining to a few particular skills and natural creativity. Completely disregards materialism and normality. He simply wants the freedom to travel and go about his day as he chooses rather than be confined to a strict schedule or 9-5 job for the rest of his life. Any advice, tips or secrets are much appreciated!
I need some help here… I’m a fairly smart student in highschool taking all honors and AP classes, currently a sophomore (15 turning 16 years old this year). Schools about to end in a month and I have 2 AP exams going on. All the stress is on me right now and it’s forcing me to take a look at everything around me. Do I really want to go to college? I don’t have a goal and I have absolutely no clue what to do if I were to finish college. I do however have other interests outside of academics and college. I’m interested in streaming video games, cooking, trading etc. My parents say it’s a waste if I don’t go to college because of how smart I am and to an extent I agree but wtf am I going to do other than stressing myself for another 6-8 years, accumulating college debt, and most importantly wasting time. I’m so close to the real world and I’m worried about fucking myself over. I just don’t want to be working a 9-5 job for the rest of my life but I might have to if I don’t come up with a choice soon. I don’t have many interests too, what if they don’t work out? Will I just work in McDonald’s or something for the rest of my life? It’s 3 AM, I feel like I’m in a shitload of shit rn, just letting my thoughts out.
I’m sorry, but if your waiting to teach your kids how to earn their own money and pay bills at the college level, it’s to late. you have already taught them that they live in a world of entitlement.
What do if u don’t go to colleges lol
Get a fucking Job go to a trade school or well become a drug dealer and level up to drug lord….��
I think people should value doing their dream job, having a great time doing so and meeting great and happy / positive people who grow along with the one person, and that idea the one person has grows into a massive group of people with the same idea, and that idea then eventually grows into a mega / multi billion dollar business, which is what nearly all business should value (and I know some do), over the businesses employees only thinking about becoming wealthy and becoming wealthy only. Also, some workers think daily about becoming wealthy, (which is not a problem), but can be if they are constantly thinking of it 24/7, and that can stress out workers a lot, and make them become extremely stressed, which is not good at all.
I think all business big and small should value having a great time working as a massive or small group, creating ideas that grow into something bigger, and having a great time doing so, over becoming wealthy and only becoming wealthy.
1. Take a GAP year overseas. 2. Do a 3-4 year undergraduate course in something you’re passionate about. 3. Have a side hustle during those 3-4 years. 4. Return to travelling and working abroad. Thoughts..?!
Just join the military. You get great benefits, stay healthy, pride, etc. rank up and reach the end of the enlisted ranks, and after 20 years, you’ll be chillin��
I don’t want to go to college. I want to do the stuff I love. But I do want to go to art school somewhere in Southern California. And I want to try and be a dancer for celebrities but that’s a dream, I don’t really think I could do it irl. My parents really wanted me to go into law or nursing. But I can’t handle it. I’ve had ideas of it but never really thought that if I’d actually enjoy my life while doing it. Performing and all that stuff is what I love. Iam doi community college tho
(If anyone has names of art schools in Southern California to share please do).
Some colleges cost a lot and you still don’t learn enough to get a job, even if they didn’t want previous experience. Earn skills, not piece of paper that doesn’t mean shit if can’t guarantee you any job in the industry. Bootcamps, certificates, internships do that.
Well, these fucking women need to stops insisting on these goddamn rules. FOUR children all in daycare? There’s your fucking problem. Get your ass out of the workforce sweetie and stay home and raise your kids.
Thanks, Mel for this video. Especially on the people not pushing their kids or others into a major. Both my parents had passed on before I graduated High School and my advisors told me to pursue a business degree rather than going after art.
This lead to 5 years and 4 jobs of absolute misery. Now I’m about to be 26 and am just now returning to my original interests.
Since i graduate in senior high, i decided not to go to college because of financial but this always fuck up my mind. What will be i in the future if i do, thats sucks