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THURSDAY, Nov. 6, 2014 (HealthDay News) Kids who believe their friends like them, no matter what, may be less prone to feeling bad about themselves when things go wrong, a new study hints. Researchers found that when they had public school students think about times when their friends showed them.

Being connected to other people who care about her is good for your child’s self-esteem. It gives her a stronger sense of her place in your immediate and extended family. And being connected to friends and people in the community helps your child learn how to relate to others and can boost her confidence. Here are some ideas for nurturing your child’s self-esteem.

Friendship is a big part of building positive self-esteem, too. That doesn’t mean kids have to have tons of friends or be popular. Just having one friend who accepts you for who you are can make all the difference. Read about how to help grade-schoolers and middle-schoolers connect with other kids. Your Child’s Self-Esteem Starts With You For example, a friend of mine’s daughter was often praised for her early love of healthy food.

Always having preferred a bowl of blueberries to a. Increasing children’s self-esteem by raising the bar as parents. How you communicate with your children goes a long way in shaping their self-esteem. Here.

Your child’s judgment of him or herself influences his or her friends, if they get along with others, the kind of person they marry, and how productive they will be in the future. If your child is experiencing self-esteem issues, it will affect their creativity, integrity, stability, and can and even affect whether he or she will be a leader or follower. We may be known that there are many factors that affect adolescent self esteem. Children begin to develop self esteem while very young. Parents, friends, teachers and the television all the surroundings of the children contribute a.

Your child’s self-esteem will suffer when they realize that they can never be perfect. Show your child that you value effort and progress. These are actions that anyone can achieve.

6. Avoid over-praising. Your child knows when your praise is excessive. Give praise when recognition is due. Also, praise your child for making a good effort.

Sex Pressure. Sexual pressure exists everywhere in a teen’s life and can cause her to go against her own moral code 3. This pressure comes in both direct and indirect forms, as even if a teen’s friends do not put direct pressure on her, she still knows about her friends’ sex lives and wants to conform 3.In some cases, conforming to everyone else’s actions becomes more important. About the Book Author. S. Renee Smith is a renowned self-esteem and branding expert, speaker, author, and resource to the media.

Her expertise in personal and professional development and ability to inspire others to make positive, permanent changes has made her a sought-after consultant and speaker to Fortune 500 corporations, universities, government and.

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If your daughter lacks self-esteem, she may be vulnerable to the taunts of her peers who might accuse her of being prudish, unpopular, uncool,

“Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe” by Meg Meeker
from Raising a Strong Daughter in a Toxic Culture: 11 Steps to Keep Her Happy, Healthy, and Safe
by Meg Meeker
Regnery Publishing, 2019

* What raises/lowers your child’s self-esteem?

“Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem: A Photocopiable Activities Book Second Edition” by Alice Harper, Deborah Plummer
from Helping Children to Build Self-Esteem: A Photocopiable Activities Book Second Edition
by Alice Harper, Deborah Plummer
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2007

Much of self-esteem building relates to positive interactions, and since children often mirror their parents’ feelings, create laughter and encourage your daughter to laugh at herself.

“Black Women's Mental Health: Balancing Strength and Vulnerability” by Stephanie Y. Evans, Kanika Bell, Nsenga K. Burton
from Black Women’s Mental Health: Balancing Strength and Vulnerability
by Stephanie Y. Evans, Kanika Bell, Nsenga K. Burton
State University of New York Press, 2017

It’s more about her own insecurities as a parent as a mother.

“Once Upon a Time in England” by Helen Walsh
from Once Upon a Time in England
by Helen Walsh
Grove Atlantic, 2015
from being a confident and very assertive child, my daughter had become insecure and obsessed with her body image, and (as she saw it) her inadequate intellectual abilities as she grew older.

“Hop on Pop: The Politics and Pleasures of Popular Culture” by Henry Jenkins III, Jane Shattuc, Tara McPherson
from Hop on Pop: The Politics and Pleasures of Popular Culture
by Henry Jenkins III, Jane Shattuc, Tara McPherson
Duke University Press, 2003

Compared to the preschooler, then, her self-esteem depends more on her awareness of how she is perceived by others.

“Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner's Guide” by Douglas Davies
from Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner’s Guide
by Douglas Davies
Guilford Publications, 2010

Having discussed your daughter’s external image, including her body and her clothing, we now turn our attention inward and focus on helping girls with ASDs feel good about themselves.

“Girls Growing Up on the Autism Spectrum: What Parents and Professionals Should Know About the Pre-Teen and Teenage Years” by Shana Nichols, Liane Holliday Willey, Ginamarie Moravcik, Samara Pulver-Tetenbaum
from Girls Growing Up on the Autism Spectrum: What Parents and Professionals Should Know About the Pre-Teen and Teenage Years
by Shana Nichols, Liane Holliday Willey, et. al.
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2009

If they feel insecure now, help them understand that it means the inner part of themselves is developing, and that it’s a normal and healthy part of growing up.

“How to Talk with Your Kids about Sex: Help Your Children Develop a Positive, Healthy Attitude Toward Sex and Relationships” by Dr. John Chirban
from How to Talk with Your Kids about Sex: Help Your Children Develop a Positive, Healthy Attitude Toward Sex and Relationships
by Dr. John Chirban
Thomas Nelson, 2012

Quite often parents worry about their child’s self-esteem.

“Child-Centered Play Therapy” by Risë VanFleet, Andrea E. Sywulak, Cynthia Caparosa Sniscak, Louise F. Guerney
from Child-Centered Play Therapy
by Risë VanFleet, Andrea E. Sywulak, et. al.
Guilford Publications, 2011

If you find ways to help your child improve his self-image, whether on his own or through outside counseling, that, combined with exposure to new friendship possibilities, may help your child to eventually choose friends who are also more to your liking.

“When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You” by Jan Yager
from When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You
by Jan Yager
Touchstone, 2010

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  • I go to therapy for my social anxiety and depression, it’s really hard mentally to do things in a day and my mum doesn’t realize it. She is reminding myself everyday that I’m a failure and do nothing. Everytime I feel better and think that I’m on the right path my family have to remind me of negative things. (I’m sorry if I writed something wrong in English it’s not my first language:)

  • Thank you for making this video. It’s been a real struggle since it happened 7 months ago and I’m clearly not over it because I still care about this friend…It’s very upsetting especially when I think about the good times we’ve had and when we went thru rough times too…Is there still hope? The thought of them not being present in life milestones such as my future wedding depresses me. I really miss this friend. I just hate my life and myself for letting this happen the first place ��������

  • Hi Dr.paul thank you so much for these videos. I am currently working with ethnic minority families who’s mother tongue is not English and wondered if I could use these materials and translate them in the appropriate ethnic language.

  • My longest, closest friend of 18 years ended the friendship and it was super tough for me but it takes time and I’ve realized how much of the problem was her perception of things and even though she said really unkind things, it is up to me to move on and just understand that it’s another phase of my life. I will meet other people, I always have even though I don’t have a bazillion friends. I’ve realized that friends have a shelf life and sometimes it’s longer, sometimes it’s shorter. And we drift apart. And not to be jealous that other people stay in touch longer or through other means while I’m left in the dust.

  • Hello Marie, Glad to see you again! I want to ask you something, I have a crush on someone but the thing is he never initiates to text or approach me first. But when I text him, he’s acting like he’s interested and try to keep the conversation going. I’m confused:/

  • Wow. I never knew to get him to do even just do chores was so important. I’m not letting him wiggle out of anything anymore, no wonder he doesn’t want to try to do anything. Arrg! It’s my fault for not pushing hard enough.

  • Wow! This was excellent! You hit the core issues and helped me understand that as helpless as it feels to be estranged, I can take control of my part by nurturing my self esteem. I’ve never heard it put quite this way and it really helps. Thank you!

  • everytime i try watching your vids i can’t finish it cz i tear up everytime and i don’t like it…. like the second they start speaking about all that it just hits me personally and i just tear up.

  • The only thing i’m sure of, is that Pink Diamond wasn’t well treatened by Yellow and Blue Diamond. And then she left Homeworld, and became just “Rose”……………………….. But that’s just Steven Universe, a cartoon that really teaches us to grow up and mature.

  • My mom says she wishes I was never born, I’m gonna send you to your dad, wants me to “be normal”, calls me fat, “it was YOUR fault that dad left”, “be more like _”.I’m very much positive that my mom is toxic

  • I can’t tell my mom about my problems because she always never understands me. She acts like she knows how I feel but she doesn’t. I come to her for help but she just yells at me in return. She also has cursed at me and told me I’m stupid. She keeps comparing me to my sister. I can’t wait for when i’m old enough to work and have my own house

  • Sometimes people can partner up with someone who completely change their personality. They change, not you.

    And Marie, I would still continue to text someone back who was a lovely friend from the past who supported my last business.

  • Wow, this is really interesting. My mother tried to keep me safe by dissuading me from ever taking a risk. After I left my controlling xh, I spent about five years reading, googling, thinking……… I felt I knew all about self-esteem, but it was all theory no practice, and I still felt very frightened of life. If somebody said ”go for it” I still felt like opportunities were for ”other people”. It was only when I stepped out of my comfort zone and took risks (some that payed off and some that didn’t) that I began to feel better about myself, like I had some power. I’m so relieved I understand this in time to try and encourage my kids (12 and 15) to face challenges. I won’t shame them if they’re not ready though. I just watched your confidence for kids clip too and I’m going to encourage my son to build that second ikea desk that arrived today:-p even though the first one is wobbly. He’ll make a better go of the second desk! I’ve watched so much about self-esteem on line and it’s rare to see it articulated, that part that self-efficacy plays in how we feel about ourselves. I love your channel. So glad I found it.

  • I’ve been watching 2-3 videos everyday religiously. I tried one of ur tip and I must say it worked like a magic. Thank you from my heart.

  • What if the kid decides before hand that i know you will not give me this or take away this. And says you dont love me. He has trouble every day at school and gets angry when said a No go things, and gets very disrespectful towards adults. Get extremely scared during the day and night to be alone. Says I am a bad boy because I was born like this. Says I cant do it or I cant do it right or good and every one calls me dumb.
    What should I as a parent do to help him. He has, anger management, difance, and not abiding by the rules; problem. He starts with silly stuff and does nit stop till shouted at and that can last for a very long time.

  • One time in second or third grade i was telling my dad about how nome of the kids at school didn’t want anything to do with me and he replies
    “Well maybe it’s because you always say stuff like next time you do that I’m gonna do this or something like that like your mom does” (they were divorced by then) so I told my mom about it and her answer to it was “yes I set boundaries for myself” idk why I’m saying this buuuuuuuuut……. Meh ��

  • My mom rarely says that something is my fault, instead she says “You haven’t done your part, that’s why things are like this, everything could’ve been better if you just tried a little more”….and then she says she’s not blaming me, that’s not my fault, it’s just that I haven’t done what I was supposed to……….well in the end, I know that I tried, and (when she say “your part” is because she moved to another county with me and I had a lot of problems at school since I was technicall by myself) now I’m going to see a doctor because I might have social anxiety, but yeah, sure, I just haven’t tried enough of course.

  • I have had quite a few of these things said to me by adults as a whole not just my parents, but who else has gotten these things said to them, and how did you react?
    im actually kinda curious to see if we all felt a little different about these comments and how they lingered for us after.

  • Respect is earned! If it is free,then it has no value! Its cheap! I live by this moto”to get respect from me, respect me as well”… You are not responsible for your age,race,gender,looks,parents’ wealth,etc..so don’t use them as excuses to get cheap respect!

  • Welcome back, Marie! I’m glad you were able to take the time for yourself. Your videos and advice have helped me with a dying friendship I’ve had these last few months and this one definitely helped me get closure and an understanding of what the other person may be feeling.

  • Love you Marisa. My girl is in yr2 and she is a happy confident child but life doesn’t stop in primary school. So I’m going to share this powerful lesson with her to prepare her for the world ahead. ����

  • Hi Marisa, would it be possible for you to make a video on how to get over being bullied in your past? (I am similar to those you mentioned in your video, now adults whose lives are still horribly effected by the bullying they endured in the past.) You are wonderful for making so many great videos and I appreciate all that you have done to help us try to have a happier and healthier life. Thank you for all you do and continue to do.

  • OH MY GOD-
    “Your too immature”
    TOO RELATABLE….I cosplay and my parents tell me that all the time!

    And also….everything else is extremely relatable as well….

  • My friendship of 20+ years was over too. Don’t be upset man. Everybody experiences the same. It’s just that we are those sensitive ones who mull over things.

  • So glad to see a video from you, Marie!! I have truly missed hearing your voice & “ingesting” your wisdom. I have so many questions to ask that I would love to hear your thoughts on them. I hope to see & hear more from you, Marie! Blessings��

  • Believe me i cant wait to move out there are worser words my parents say to me and my life would be happy without them especially my dad my mon i love but not my dad i hate him

  • My parents: * calls me fat and ugly *
    Me: * tells them to stop *
    My(Filipino) parents: *gets mad at me because I “talked back”*
    Me: ������

  • When I want to discuss any social and mental issues with my parents they don’t wanna hear my opinions. My dad always told me that why are you thinking about others, think about yourself. Go to study and get a job. I also don’t have that kind of friend with I can share everything that’s why I wanna share these things with my parents, but they wanna hear anything. But I can discuss many things with my siblings now and I feel Good when I discuss things with them.

  • I am 12 years old and my parents dont do any of this and it hurts me that they could be a whole lot nicer if they wanted to by just saying something nice to me instead of “YOU ARE AN EVIL LITTLE GIRL THAT TAKES AFTER HER GRANDMOTHER AND TRIES TO BE JUST LIKE HER” i really ust want to be like anyone at this poiny because all i feel inside is helpless and hatred. I cant help but say something back to make her know like shes the one being evil and hard on me. I am only 12 and i dont understand. Is she right? Is my grandmother a bad person? Will i be a bad person if iwant to be like her in so many ways because my own mom refuses to make me feel wanted? i just want a little love and respect, i know i know, “KIDS ARNT SUPPOSED TO GET RESPECT UNTILL THEY KNOW HOW TO CLEAN AND BE MATURE” or is that just another thing my parents says to make me feel unwanted so i can do what ever she wants to feel useful. Am i not good like any other child? Is this what i deserve till im 18? I hope not and i hope any other child doesnt.

  • Thank you so much for this video. You always have perfect timeing with your videos:) you have defintly touch me so much about my own mental capability. So again thank you so much

  • My gram threatens to sent me to my mothers’ all the time. My mother hates me but loves my younger sister and older brother. I constantly wonder if running away would be for the best but I know that it won’t help at all.

  • If my mother die, idc. This doesn’t mean I didn’t love her, Its the opposite. If I give attention to a toxic person, they will think they can be mean to you forever and nothing will happen to them. She will be alone until she die’s because she did it to herself. She left me a couple of times alone in our house when I was 3. Now she’ll going to have the same treatment. I never talked to her again This means growing.

  • My Problems:

    1. Chores

    Mom: Have you done the dishes?
    Me: Yes mom, I have
    my little sister puts a plate in the sink –
    Mom: Let me see… You liar!
    ������
    Me: I-
    Mom: Look! There’s a plate that you haven’t washed! You’re grounded for the next month!��
    Me: sighs
    My POV: I can’t argue with her anyways

    2. Threats

    Mom: How much did you get for PE?
    Me: Uhh well-
    gives my mom the report card –
    Mom: *C+??*�� This is unacceptable! Ohh just you wait, you’re moving out when you’re 18!
    Me: But PE isn’t-
    Mom: That’s not illegal right? I mean, you are going to be an adult soon

  • All fun and games but what are u gonna do about it, ur a kid u got nothing to say about it and if u do speak up u are being “disrespectful”. I’m 18 now and live on my own but if i stand up to my parents (we love each other but they are toxic) I’m apparently still disrespectful. And i often still bow or bite my lip because i need their financial support and don’t want a fight. I still haven’t figured out how to make them stop with this behaviour, but as long as I’m a child in their eyes nothing i say will be taken seriously.

  • Sometimes you just have to move on. I not long ago lost my best friend of 25 years. Tried to hold onto but it just wasn’t possible. Doubt we will ever speak again but have to move on. It was kind of like the end of a marriage that you knew was coming

  • Thankyou Dr I need you opinion about this question my son asked me. He think I am overprotective mom and ask me to let him walk to the closest store to my him self. Is this a good idea? He is 12 yeas old what is the age appropriate let him walk or do something by him self is that help him to build his self confidence?thankyou for your time.
    Thankyou for sharing this video.

  • Last month an online friend of 18 months ghosted me for no apparent reason. I’m okay. I didn’t take it too hard but I was confused. They simply did not value me and I’m glad I don’t have to waste anymore time on them.

  • Single women are bullied also. Bullied by neighbors, destroy their property landscaping cars. Well bullied or stalked is also a form of bullying.

  • My parents always say that 18 and older shit lmao also yesterday our microwave won’t work since my dad always slams it then when it doesn’t work he said “y’all always messin/breaking everything.

  • Also, find your tribe. Bullies are less likely to bully kids that are with someone else or in a group. Same with work. If you are being bullied at work make friends with at least one or two other coworkers that will be a support system. Also, bullies target kids and adults that will not fight back or say anything. Let the bully know that if they don’t stop there will be consequences. At work, if bully does not stop harassing you will report them to HR.

  • This is so true. In life, you come across situations where you have to cut off certain people and move on. I have done that and we all have to do that at some point in our lives. With time, our minds, perceptions about life, etc. change, you can’t help it and it is very healthy to vibe with the people who match that energy of yours that you give off now because the more you hold on to people who no longer are on your level of thinking, the more upset and frustrated you would be. It’s not healthy to keep forcing friendships. That would do no good to you nor the other party. What needs to be let go of, needs to be let go of. I think the term, “self-love” would describe this situation well enough, rather than the term “selfishness.”

  • Please include solutions or advice too. It will be helpful for many going through this. Problems can be discussed but providing solutions with them will be a lot helpful.

  • When i’ll grow up, i think i wanna be the Most Supportive Dad. Kids doesn’t need to be insuteld or hurt. And that’s why i’ll support my child when i grow up. I’m just determined.

  • What if I ended a friendship because it was a narcissistic relationship where they used me as a sponge to express their issues and eventually started to drain me and bring me deeper into their mindset? Am I selfish? Probably just aware that they bring me no positivity and I have every right to bless them and let them go.

  • Saying things are easy but facing the real world,,gets ugly…..I lost my hair..I am 22..I can’t even describe how much ridicule I have to go through cz of this…These established parameters of beauty in our society really takes the life out of me….in last 4 years I have not uploaded a single profile picture even in my whatsapp..I decided to quit all social media platforms cz of this depression…I haven’t been talked to a girl in last 4 years…how could you possibly expect ma’am that I will develop a self esteem….I love your work..No.doubt in your potential.you are good at what you do…But u know what being in my shoe sucks and life feels a burden and no motivational speaker or their methods worked for me…sadly Not even yours..smtimes the only thought that gives me some peace of mind is that of death…Can’t wait for this shiity life in this shitty world to be over..

  • I have a friend who I met when she was losing her husband to lymphoma, I am a former nurse and I stayed by her side after he died and we did things together each weekend. She would be really down some days and I tried to help her through her grief. She went to a grief counsellor, went to Church meetings at her church and visited relatives that I encouraged her to develop a stronger relationship with and they lived nearby (cousins). She decided to start her own grief group at the co-op where we live and she met a man who joined who had also lost his wife to breast cancer about the same time that my friend lost her husband. She and this man got together and then I was the person who suddenly she had no time for..no more weekend excursions to the farmer’s market, or shared dinner. Slowly I decided to let the friendship go as she was trying to see where her new relationship would lead. I am divorced with no children so I always wanted a sort of sister like friendship and I was happy to have found it with her and for a time I had someone to do things with. She now devotes her spare time to her new relationship and I see her only in passing. I have been alone since then. I am social and I volunteer at my Church and I am a Docent /tour guide at a historical property in town, but I do not go out of my way to go beyond acquaintances, male or female. Sometimes we are in person’s life or they may be in ours for a purpose, and then they move on. Mine was to get her through her initial grief period. I wish her and her new friend all the best.

  • I do not ever rescue, never have. however I have one that has to make the same mistakes over and over and over again, then he gets it. or just choses not to listen. what gives? or choses to not want to take responsibility for him self by fallowing the rules like he is suppose to. are jobs as parents also is not to love them but to be their parents first, then maybe be friends.

  • i guess people are just in your life for a season or a reason. Last year a friendship of mine ended…and i considered him a good friend…one i havent had in a long time but as time progressed i started noticing things that seemed off. long story short, he turned out to be a sociopath that was just manipulating me…after a lot of sorrow i cut him off (like formally sat him down and said i could no longer do “this” and he didnt want to end it but i was emotionally drained already). a month later, a colleague from work comes into my life and we ended up playing WoW together lol…he came in my life to help me get through it and several months later, he was out of my life (almost no contact…he just got busier) but i learned then that people do come for a reason or a season and my sociopath friend came into my life to teach me about what red flags to notice from others and to learn about some of the “not-so-good” people that are out there. And my other friend that i played warcraft with came into my life, for a season, to help me get over it and not feel alone (we played nearly everyday for months) and im thankful for both experiences and people….even if one had emotionally drained me. Now i have a new friend, not perfect, he has his flaws that i can equate with the sociopath dude i used to know, but hes definitely a step up from him but i just keep it casual with him. i know the only people that are meant to be in your life, forever, are blood related people…your family. everyone else will come and go (even possibly your spouse).

  • My mom constantly told me as a teenager she would put me in foster home or a juvenile home. I had to move out to live with my dad to escape. She always manipulated me. She blamed me for my parents divorce as a child.. she called me b*** and m***f** as a child. Told me I was nothing and would never be nothing. Then demanded respect.

  • The worst thing is that, it’s not just with parents. But also with Friends. They say bad things too. But that doesn’t matter with the Video.

  • She seems so unplugged from all the bull in the world, she not a mainstream thinker like most I feel she is quite the intellectual

  • Thanks so much for this! I was at a loss as to how to carry on with my sweet shy little boy an it was breaking my heart. So comforting to have practical things to try!

  • I know that I have had some fall outs in friendships, the worst was when my friend thought she could easily beat me up and put her fist in my face and I’m not a violent person but when you do that to me a switch flips, and well, I lost it. We didn’t speak for years after, but a year after that we made up, and we’ve been best friends ever since and that was a major bust up but we found our way back to each other and it got back on track. I would say a major cooling down period is usually in order depending on what’s been done and if its meant to be it will work out but you have to get used to being without this person in your life because if they say all is forgiven and come back, you could be a dog chasing its bone that’s being dangled, because they also have to value you as a friend too and treat you respectfully xxx

  • So glad youre back. I missed you. Your videos havw helped me. I have been watching them since 2016 and was disappointed when you werent posting this year but im glad your back

  • I told my mom to help me with my deppresion she said it was a phase its not. Im suffering from anxiety, deppresion,cutting and suicidal thoughts I dont like myself at all im getting no help and i don’t want you to feel my way. You be you I will try to get help can you give me nice comments it will mean alot maybe save my life I would like if you did! Just remember somebody Will love you and always will

  • This video rings all sorts of bells for me, having experienced all those issues in my childhood myself. I so wish they’d been someone to help me negotiate my way through that impressionable phase of my life.
    Thanks for posting.

  • The same thing happened to me with a friendship of 3.5 years. One day we’re baking cookies and laughing, the next day she’s not replying to my messages (aka completely ghosting me). It’s been two years now….and I’ve run into her at Starbucks and the grocery store twice. Both times, she’s seen me and run away. I’m so confused…what happened?! There was no fight, no disagreement…nothing! We were BFFs and then nothing?! From 100 to 0?! I’m so confused:(

  • I remember when i didnt do my homework my mom said she would cut my hair instead of saying “Then do your homework now but Im not gonna Help you.”

  • Yah I got the your so immature one a lot when I first got into anime. Then I sat them down and showed them each a show that was stuff they tend to like in normal tv thier not dig anime fans but they understand why I like it so much

  • But everyone situation is different.. you don’t know their circumstances are. Before assuming something ask about it.. Alot of people have different responsibilities in life and family’s and kids also.. it’s good to ask the person whats is the deal…. but everyone is so busy.. but you need to look down onto the person first.

  • My Dad used to call me Cupcake (as in insane) when I was a young teen. Years later and he knows now that I was just acting normally because my brother and sister both acted similarly when they reached that age. I don’t think it had any negative impact other than me not talking to him, I actually accepted myself more.

  • Today my mum said that when she was younger she had to do lodes of chores and that I have it easy and theres no reason for me to feel sad.

    Nice to know my feelings aren’t valid
    That’s a great thing to tell someone with depression

    She also said she wants to send me to boarding school and then laughed at me when I started crying

  • It’s rare to keep friendships that last for decades. We evolve as people and so do our interests, desires, and values. People who no longer vibe with us do so for a reason and friendships that dissolve are an inevitable consequence it’s not a bad thing.

  • I AM the kid, I’m watching this to help myself because I’m worried about telling my parents. My Mum and Dad can be a bit overwhelming when it comes to trying to deal with negative feelings ��

  • One of my past friends have been avoiding me on social media if that makes any sense and I wanna unfollow her so bad but I’m not strong enough��I know it sounds stupid

  • All of the videos on this Chanel are amazing, could you find a way to put subtitles on so it can be reached by a wider community? that would be awesome!!!! thank you for all of your advice!!

  • Hi,Ms. Marie!
    Just found out about this channel recently. I watched a couple videos of yours. Been learning lots of great things from you! Keep it up!

    However, I also have a problem. If you could help me with this, by uploading your advise to your future vids, it would mean the world to me.

    I have a group of friends. Mixed boys and girls, and most of them are in a relationship with one another. We are all great friends. However, all of the boys started to be jealous of me because I can sort of easily cope with their girls. I mean, I’m a lady’s man. I know how to be a fine lad and to be a good friend as well. Traits that the ‘boyfriends’ considers flirty.
    What do I do? I mean, I never intended to interfere with my friends’ relationships. I just happen to be a gentleman who is perceived as a flirtious man.

  • Yep. All of these they did to me. That is why I hate them and live my life WITHOUT them, when seeing them i pass by like they are strangers.

  • My parents have already decided my entire future. I’ve never been asked ‘DO you like this? Are you happy? Are you okay? Or never heard your the best ����

  • My mom said she wants to send me to boarding school and now I’m actually in a boarding school (yes seriously rn!) but it’s pretty peaceful to stay away from the,

  • Thank you for this helpful video! I’ve shared it here on my blog: https://mountainmamasepicure.blogspot.com/2019/10/10-wonderful-ways-to-encourage-children.html

  • Moi j’ai été placé en famille d’accueil et ma famille disait toujours ce genre de chose à moi alors qu’ils adoraient mon petit frère c’était pratiquement un dieu pour eu…maintenant j’ai un appart et j’ai coupé les ponts avec eu mais ça été très dur

  • Hey Marisa! Been a straight A student throughout school, the first headgirl of my school, sports girl, won incessant trophies for my house of which I was the captain, been a part of almost all extra curricular activities right from elocution, debates to singing and dancing YET I have been bullied badly in school to the extent of being called a witch, being stoned and outcasted! That made my academics suffer couldn’t score well in the final year but as soon as I was out of school, I started on a clean slate & today I’m a doctor all thanks to my parents and loved ones who never let me feel down!! Miles to go before I sleep!!����

  • Marie, is it cruel to be friends with an ex if they still have romantic feelings for you, even if you’ve made it clear that you don’t feel the same way?

  • the saddest thing i heard from my parents is that i can’t sing.. and told me to stop singing when i always love to sing. and they do this to every artsy things i love that they consider “useless” and “waste of time” like drawing, dancing, listening to some music, etc.
    i never been able to do what i want:(
    I LOVE art. even my mbti is an Infp, which is considered an artsy and creative personality. when i told my parents about my mbti, they said “but you’re not good at art!”
    i wanted to go to an art school but my mom said it won’t give you much money, and I can’t draw.

  • welcome back!!:):) I love watching your videos whenever they are available!
    Do you have tips for how to get along well with an office mate? I’m having the hardest time making new friends both inside and outside of work. Just with the regular day-to-day things, I would really like to know how people form relationships with rapport with people that they work with. I started a new job about 6 months ago but still feel very new and out of place. It is difficult for me to be talkative, but my office mate is, and I think I might be off putting. Is there a way to be more talkative or to explain that I’m not rude, but just quiet sometimes?

  • Thank you for such an amazing video! Often times, we forget the bully themselves need as much help as those being bullied. Thanks for pointing out that great point:)

  • Yes!Hi Marie, Welcome back!

    This happened with me too, My best friend of eleven years has married a woman that can’t stand me, and it has ended our friendship.I wasn’t even invited to their wedding, I found out about it on Facebook. Nothing I’ve done has been able to mend our long term friendship which took half our lives to build. My friend and I are still cool with each other but she is a wall between us that will not be knocked down.So I gave up, which was really hard because I am the type of person who only has one close friend at a time.

    Your videos have really helped me through this process, and I am much stronger because of them.Thank you so much❤️. BTW you look amazing, so glad your posting again.

  • And i make my parents proud, ’cause Swim is kinda my thing. My parents don’t use any of these Toxic Words. But of course there’s always arguements between us. But i’m very understanding of what they tell me. ‘Cuz they’re right in a certain way. And that’s why i love my family.

  • i guess my parents think that materialistic things bring me happiness. they buy me stuff and expect me to feel thankful and show respect when they keep on giving ve comments. then when i tell my mom that for once you should tell me to do things politely. eg im just chilling in the kitchen talking nicely to her and she says in a very bad way that you never do anything to help me in the house. i agree i dont. but if for once she talked politely maybe i would do it happily. Thats not all. everyone in my family calls me fat and tell me to lose weight constantly. Even my little brother calls me moti (hindi for fat) rather than saying my name. my mom dosent support my dreams and wants me to become a doctor/ engineer. she picks on every little mistake i make. I just 13 this month.

  • I missed you too! I have lost friends just because there was a disagreement, one that didn’t need to be a problem if only the friend would have allowed me to believe what I believe. They were angry because I didn’t come over to their way of thinking. Over the years I have developed friendships that appreciate the way I think and I appreciate their way even if we don’t completely agree. These are such blessings to me and I hope to them. We can all grow when we just respect that others have a right to their own way and beliefs.

  • I rlly cried seeing sad comments… But when i always come home she always ask what i did get… i feel like im a robot working everyday… She always says ” WHY U ALWAYS STAY IN THAT STUPID PHONE?!” It hurts my feelings im only staying bc she never has time for me like cleaniess its more important? Her cleaniess was never fun, i rlly dont understand.. i wonder how she feeled when she was young… Yes phones didnt exist… But now they are… I only play on my Tablet and phone bc im just having fun? Nothing else has left to me. I only left a friend… The old friends doesnt even care about me. They will just care when ur dead or having cancer… Its like in the movies! I think everyone had this problem..
    “When ur parents says that ur not good enough”
    ” Having problems with ur brain..”
    ” Getting yelled everytime ur doing homework”
    That hurted me so much…♡ My parents now just ask me for grades.. I dont know where ever i will go… That will destroy me in a few weeks♡ Parents always can kill u and destroy u like ur a robot to them… ♡

  • Me: can I go out for volleyball. Dad: what does that have to with me? Me: I guess I can be out then. Would he come to a game?

  • Some friendships are life long though. Its not as rare as people think atleast not where I’m from. I couldn’t imagine losing my closest friends. It would honestly kill me for that to happen to me, especially with my best friend. I would be devastated. Brad i love u bro. ������

  • I have watched ur video i love it,i have a question my 7 years old daughter can’nt play out side and can not face other children,what ever they say her she can not reply them,i very tensed about please help me

  • I’m so happy you are making videos again! I watched you while I was in highschool and in a couple months I am starting my last year of university and your advice has helped me throughout the past few years. While you were away I would watch your past videos. Thank you!

  • I meant to also add, I never expect him to do anything he can not handle or has not already shown me that he can do. yet he will screw up anyway.

  • I subscribed a few weeks ago, your videos are some of THE MOST TRULY HELPFUL anyone can find on the internet. I was a bit sad that the last video was so long ago but WHAT A SURPRISE to get a notification for this! I can’t wait for your new uploads:)

  • The fact that my parents said all this things to me, no wonder i had depression at 13 yo, the saddest part it’s that they keep putting th blame on me for just “not being happy”

  • I remember one time I was stuck on this one math problem for homework and my mom told me “do you need a tutor or something because this is getting ridiculous” and I don’t have bad grades or anything it was just that one problem. So I went to the bathroom and started crying because she was basically saying are you stupid, then I heard my mom talking to one of my sibling saying she’s crying in the bathroom again. And she sounded annoyed. She knew I was upset and crying and she just got annoyed, this really hurt and it still does

  • Such a perfect video at the right time! I had this male friend and just friend, I’ve known him since we were eight and we are grandparents now. We fought over French politics through emails, but not only that: he is supposed to be a specialist of communication and marketing, it’s his job, but he refuses to use any social media. I explained to him that he couldn’t do his job properly without at least knowing how it was working, even if he was not using them personally. He made fun of me, tried to imply that I was the fool. I lost my appetite for arguments through emails and actually I don’t have the time for that. I am sad and confused because I realized that I never knew who this guy was. Internet forces us to make the spring cleaning, even in relationships. The problem is that I couldn’t totally respect him anymore, because I felt his knowledge was fake. He had no curiosity to learn, even if he hated it. I am a very curious person. It couldn’t work anymore between us, but sometimes I’m wondering if I was not too harsh in my decision. But also arguing through emails, he loved provoking me, is such a big loss of time…

  • Bullying is a horrible thing for anyone to experience. Remember that the bully does what they do because the only way they feel ‘good’ or ‘worthy’ is when they bring other people down, so it’s all about their own self esteem. It is not about you. ✨
    Love and light to all

  • My Dad used to tell me that it was my fault that I was bullied and nobody wanted to be my friend.
    My Mom used to tell me that it was pointless for me to practice certain sports because WE weren’t skinny enough.
    I love them to pieces, but these words stuck with me to this day.

  • “Set them up for success” I’m doing that with chores for my 7 year old. He’s recently been diagnosed ADHD, so he’s feeling bad because of all the negative feedback he gets at home, and sadly, at home too. kMaking his bed was just too much of a challenge for him and it became a frustration, instead of a success with a reward-based APP. I removed that chore and added something I knew he could handle. Much better outcome. I’m ok with having him try things but if it’s creating a negative situation, it’s a fail, in my opinion.:-)

  • 1:45 the parent in the video is literally my mom telling me i look too crazy with my clown IT cosplay… Parents can be so narcissists sometimes, and they don’t let us be who we are. So just be who you are, no matter what they say. Otherwise you won’t feel free.

  • I decided to stand up for myslef against my mum cos she was treating me like poop and she said I’m a ungrateful bitch even tho she threatened to knock me out ;-;

  • Dear Marisa, my doughter is 13 but she look bigger and think like 16 ore more…and doesn’t like to go to school, now is the first higher school because all in her class are too little…( she told me this today, after the first day..) please, help me, how can I do with her? what I have to tell her? thank you very much!!!!! your videous are simply wonderful and helped me very very much

  • I tried so hard, but I was not successful….my daughter now is disabled because of bullying. That is a crime. Uptill now people bully her in the street, telling her bad things although they do not know her. It is a shame. I did all a mother is able to do. I was helpless in a way. She is pretty and her heart is on her tongue. That’s all.

  • I ended a 15 years old friendship
    Why?
    She left me because she was ignoring me and she spent all of her time with her boyfriend and I was in a really hard time she wasn’t there when I needed her
    So bye ���� I deserve a better friend ����‍♀️��

  • Oh yes, a video suggested to remind myself of the toxic mother i have, thank you ��
    Oh a serious note, it’s true that getting like this and hearing that other have a well do start to make you think this is normal. And even if you knew it was toxic then, let’s be honest, we all thought it made us stronger or we “came out fine”. When in reality, it affects us in our adulthood without us realizing it

  • I watch this beside my momand I turn up the volume on purpose so she can hear itbut she just say “turn down the volume it’s too loud and annoying.”��️��n����️

  • i’m reading all these comment s and i feel so bad for all these people with toxic parents. and this just reminds me how lucky i am to have such good parents. I hope everyone here has a good life later in is happy

  • Excellent review as always Mrs. Dubuque! In my opinion, friendships are just as important as a romantic relationship and if friendships come to an end, they can be just as heartbreaking as well, especially when you’ve been knowing this person for a very long time. Can you do a video on whether or not if extroverts and introverts can be friends? One of my friends is an introvert and his other friend is an extrovert and his extroverted friend is always psycho-dialing or blowing up his phone whenever he doesn’t answer him right away and he’s always trying to change him by telling him things like “you need to get out more”, “you need friends “, “you need a girlfriend ” and things like that and my other friend is content with his life and being the way he is because he’s working towards his goals on having a career and he told me that he’s not focused on being in a relationship or having a whole bunch of friends right now.

  • When I was younger I genuinely thought it was fine until I got to my teen years.. I’d tell people abt it then they’d be really surprised..

  • Just a comment from over here in the UK, very good points for the IPP, amazing, will be setting up to implement that with my son asap as he is showing more and more, the signs of being worn down with feelings of being inadequate. Preparing him with scenarios will be good to use, I had already used it to some degree regarding bullying but this is so amazing. Thank you for posting.

  • I’m so glad you’re back! your videos helped me so much and it’s great to see you helping people again. This video really speaks to me as I’ve recently had a situation where a friend slowly let me go from their life, and even when I begged them to tell me if something was wrong they just said they didn’t have the energy to text people (we live 3 hours away and meeting up is really difficult, especially with her having a lot of anxiety) and we just drifted apart. It hurt a bunch and still does but I’m slowly moving on. The part that hurt the most was trying to figure out what I did wrong to make her hate me so much. But this video really did help me try to get through the self-doubt I’ve been feeling about the situation. This is a bit of a rant but if you read through it thank you, and if you have a similar story type it up, I think it would be great to really see I’m not alone in this situation <3

  • Mom: does/says things rude
    Me: gives her a list of things I find rude so I’m not rude back
    Mom: proceeds to yell at me for trying to actually help the situation stop/not happen again

    Mom: is rude/mean
    Me: mad @ her and don’t want to be around her so I leave/not talk to her
    Also Mom: wHy ARe You MAD alL A SuDdEn?! Or wHy aRenT YoU nOt tAlkIng To ME?!

    Mom: rude/mean
    Me: tells her to stop and that it’s rude
    Mom: makes a huge production and then acts like I did something to her although I try and actually help the problem.

    (Here’s some of my problems I did it cus other ppl were doing the same thing:/)

  • Holla! Nice video you have there! On a separate note; have you bought from ” Vidadsmedia Child Anxiety Treatment ” (Have a quick look on google…cant remember the exact words)? My neighbors wife had some dealings with them and was impressed by their unbelivable treatment when the Anxiety issue was completely cured!

  • Thank you for your amazing continuous knowledge, ideas moreover tutoring to maintain my venture to getting more consciously informed and as a consequence spiritually connected.

  • Love your advice Marie! Sometimes you just grow out of friendships (it’s happened to me also) & it’s very sad, but you have to move on.