A viewer is feeling bad about himself for causing this friendship go to south. He felt he did something to precipitate the rift. Listen, this friendship might have ended anyway, and I’ll tell you why.. Find clothes/jewelry from my videos here: http://www.amazon.com/shop/mariedubuque. Marie Dubuque continues to talk and talk about love and friendship. Don’t forget to subscribe!
Have you ever wondered whether you have toxic parents? What are the signs of toxic parents? What are the things toxic parents say? Many parents say emotionally harmful things that can have lasting negative psychological effects. A toxic environment at home can lead to many detrimental self-esteem and mental health problems. Do you find yourself or someone you know relating to these? If so, consider sharing this video to help us promote awareness on this topic and community bonding.. Suggested Videos:. 8 Toxic Things Parents Say To their Children (PART 1). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GS_mATLF7BE. 7 Signs You Have Toxic Parents Part 1. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6lPizkUbT54&t=62s. 7 Signs of a Toxic Family. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_A67wxucLo. Toxic Family Dynamics Playlist. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gexW0lfBMKE&list=PLD4cyJhQaFwUBqYtKiLDQx2yEsKx_aLD0. Credits. Writer: Laura Santospirito. Script Editor: Denise Ding & Kelly Soong. VO: Amanda Silvera. Animator: Tris Canimo. YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong. Citations: “Abuse Defined.” The National Domestic Violence Hotline, www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined/.. “Child Emotional Abuse.” Prevent Child Abuse America, preventchildabuse.org/resource/preventing-emotional-abuse/.. King, Stephen. Stephen King’s Danse Macabre. New York: Everest House, 1980.. “Age of Majority.” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 4 Jan. 2020, en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_majority.. Shorey, Hal. “Dismissing Parents and the Rejected Adult Child.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 7 May 2019, www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/the-freedom-change/201905/dismissing-parents-and-the-rejected-adult-child.. Interested in reaching out to us? Contact [email protected]
Children with dyslexia may sometimes also struggle with anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. This session will: Teach effective, strength-based ways parents can discuss dyslexia with their children. Create a model for aiding children in achieving a positive identity. Review practical, easy to use anxiety and mood management techniques parents can use. Identify the red flags of more serious anxiety and mood disorders. Our presenter, Dr. Roberto Olivardia, is a Clinical Instructor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School and Assistant Psychologist at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts. He maintains a private psychotherapy practice in Lexington, MA, where he specializes in the treatment of attention deficit hyperactivity. disorder (ADHD), learning disabilities, body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD).. **********************************************. Visit Us: Learning Ally: http://learningally.org. Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/LearningAlly.org. LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/groups?home=&gid=2644842&trk=anet_ug_hm. Twitter: http://twitter.com/Learning_Ally. Instagram: http://instagram.com/Learning_Ally
In this episode, Tina describes specific problems created during estrangement by the parent’s low self-esteem, and what you can do to improve your self-concept. She also talks about why adult children become estranged after going into therapy. It may not be why you think it is.
If your child is being bullied, or has even witnessed bullying, you’ll know that it has a profound impact on their self-esteem and wellbeing. In this video I advise how, as a parent, you can help by offering these practical and proven ways to address bullies. Help your child grow in self-confidence and self-esteem as they navigate challenging social situations at school.. If you work with children and would like to be sent a copy of my Anti-Bullying Program, please send an email to [email protected] to request it, we’d love to share that resource with you.. ● Subscribe to my channel for more life-changing videos: http://bit.ly/marisapeersubscribe. Marisa Peer is the author of ‘I Am Enough’ and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy®️(RTT). Marisa Peer is an English best-selling author, nutritionist, relationship therapist, hypnotherapist trainer, and motivational speaker. She is using hypnosis for anxiety, weight loss, addiction, and overcoming fear.. She has spent over 30 years working with people including royalty, rock stars, actors, professional and Olympic athletes, CEOs and media personalities and has developed her own style that is frequently referred to as “life-changing.”. ● How Rapid Transformational Therapy Works: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwPaSP-yWcIE9W6JgE9w5ow. ● Marisa Peer Playlists: ➢ Be Confident and Believe ‘I Am Enough’: https://bit.ly/MP-YTconfidence. ➢ Marisa’s Most Loved Videos: https://bit.ly/MP-YTMostloved. ➢ Meditate with Marisa: https://bit.ly/MP-YTMeditate. ● Step into your best life by taking Marisa’s FREE Mini Series:. ➢ Self Esteem Mini Series: https://bit.ly/SelfEsteemMP-YT. ➢ Healthy Relationships Mini Series: https://bit.ly/relationshipsgiftMP-YT. #marisapeer #bullying #selfesteem
No child should suffer depression and anxiety without help, seek professional help for you and your child and here’s some resources for educating yourself along the way:. .
Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: http://amzn.to/1jOAGeu.
How To Get Unstuck From The Negative Muck: http://amzn.to/1Pj1b7O.
Depression and Your Child: A Guide for Parents and Caregivers: http://amzn.to/1LiG97G.
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What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety: http://amzn.to/1JThS2M. Watch more How to Deal with Child Anxiety & Depression videos: http://www.howcast.com/videos/517475-Helping-a-Child-Deal-w-Low-SelfEsteem-Child-Anxiety. I want to talk to you about how to help a child with low self-esteem. Low self-esteem means that the child really isn’t feeling so good about themselves, and you want to figure out a way to help them with that. Now, of course, the impulse as a parent is to rush in and say, “You’re great. You’re terrific. I love you, somebody will. Everybody will know that,” and just give them all those things you do to make them feel good from where you stand. But it doesn’t mean that that’s how they feel on the inside. Unfortunately, parents have a tough job. They’re going up against a lot of things that influence their children, from pop culture, from media to their peers, kids have a lot of things influencing how they feel about themselves. And what you want to do is help kids feel good about themselves on the inside, regardless of all these messages that they’re seeing and hearing from the outside, and it’s not easy.. Now, some kids may be just more prone to feeling bad about themselves, or a little more insecure, or a little more anxious or worried in general, and embarrassed. There’s a few things that you can always do to try and help boost your child’s self-esteem or make sure that they have a positive self-image. One is watch your own comments about yourself and about other people. If you’re somebody that’s always competing with the next door neighbor or with those images in the media, your child’s going to pick up on that and think that that’s important. You also don’t want to compare children one to the other or to some standard that really doesn’t fit for them. You want to help them with thoughts that are positive, so give them ideas and ways to puff themselves up and feel better about themselves as opposed to negative thoughts that they may have in their head. So talk to them about things that they can do and say about who they are and what they do and what makes them special. You may want to sit down and make a list with them and talk about, “Why are you kind of important and special?” and “What makes you the kind of friend your friends like?” or “What are you good at in school?” or “What are some of the qualities that make you unique?” and have your child be paying attention to those. You want to also put your child in situations where they will start to feel better about themselves and be doing things and with people that make them feel happy, make them feel strong and confident.. Now the last thing is, there’s no question that at some time in a child’s life things aren’t going to go their way. What you want to do is make sure that they’re prepared and can somehow withstand whatever those difficult times are, those rejecting comments, those negative experiences in their life. So that no matter what goes on on the outside, they can still feel positive about their own qualities on the inside. Make sure you expose your child and your family to all sorts of kinds of people, so that they understand that there’s a range of people and abilities and styles out there, so that they can understand that there’s a tolerance for difference. And also, at times, you’re going to have to make sure that you’re there for your child whether they succeed or they fail, so your child can learn for themselves how to manage both success and failure.
Want to help your child to grow feeling happy and secured aside from always wanting to be on their game of getting all possible opportunities in life? Watch and consider these wise guides from Dr. Paul Jenkins on how boost a child’s self-esteem.. Watch and Enjoy! Dr. Paul Jenkins. HELP & RESOURCES: = Website: http://www.drpauljenkins.com/. Books & CD’s: http://drpauljenkins.com/products/. MUSIC. = Track: Kisma We Are [NCS Release]. Music provided by NoCopyrightSounds.. Watch: https://youtu.be/WfluodjOkOk. Licensed under Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0. = Video by Nate Woodbury. BeTheHeroStudios.com. http://YouTube.com/NateWoodburyHero
THURSDAY, Nov. 6, 2014 (HealthDay News) Kids who believe their friends like them, no matter what, may be less prone to feeling bad about themselves when things go wrong, a new study hints. Researchers found that when they had public school students think about times when their friends showed them.
Being connected to other people who care about her is good for your child’s self-esteem. It gives her a stronger sense of her place in your immediate and extended family. And being connected to friends and people in the community helps your child learn how to relate to others and can boost her confidence. Here are some ideas for nurturing your child’s self-esteem.
Friendship is a big part of building positive self-esteem, too. That doesn’t mean kids have to have tons of friends or be popular. Just having one friend who accepts you for who you are can make all the difference. Read about how to help grade-schoolers and middle-schoolers connect with other kids. Your Child’s Self-Esteem Starts With You For example, a friend of mine’s daughter was often praised for her early love of healthy food.
Always having preferred a bowl of blueberries to a. Increasing children’s self-esteem by raising the bar as parents. How you communicate with your children goes a long way in shaping their self-esteem. Here.
Your child’s judgment of him or herself influences his or her friends, if they get along with others, the kind of person they marry, and how productive they will be in the future. If your child is experiencing self-esteem issues, it will affect their creativity, integrity, stability, and can and even affect whether he or she will be a leader or follower. We may be known that there are many factors that affect adolescent self esteem. Children begin to develop self esteem while very young. Parents, friends, teachers and the television all the surroundings of the children contribute a.
Your child’s self-esteem will suffer when they realize that they can never be perfect. Show your child that you value effort and progress. These are actions that anyone can achieve.
6. Avoid over-praising. Your child knows when your praise is excessive. Give praise when recognition is due. Also, praise your child for making a good effort.
Sex Pressure. Sexual pressure exists everywhere in a teen’s life and can cause her to go against her own moral code 3. This pressure comes in both direct and indirect forms, as even if a teen’s friends do not put direct pressure on her, she still knows about her friends’ sex lives and wants to conform 3.In some cases, conforming to everyone else’s actions becomes more important. About the Book Author. S. Renee Smith is a renowned self-esteem and branding expert, speaker, author, and resource to the media.
Her expertise in personal and professional development and ability to inspire others to make positive, permanent changes has made her a sought-after consultant and speaker to Fortune 500 corporations, universities, government and.
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If your daughter lacks self-esteem, she may be vulnerable to the taunts of her peers who might accuse her of being prudish, unpopular, uncool,
Much of self-esteem building relates to positive interactions, and since children often mirror their parents’ feelings, create laughter and encourage your daughter to laugh at herself.
from being a confident and very assertive child, my daughter had become insecure and obsessed with her body image, and (as she saw it) her inadequate intellectual abilities as she grew older.
Having discussed your daughter’s external image, including her body and her clothing, we now turn our attention inward and focus on helping girls with ASDs feel good about themselves.
If they feel insecure now, help them understand that it means the inner part of themselves is developing, and that it’s a normal and healthy part of growing up.
If you find ways to help your child improve his self-image, whether on his own or through outside counseling, that, combined with exposure to new friendship possibilities, may help your child to eventually choose friends who are also more to your liking.
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I go to therapy for my social anxiety and depression, it’s really hard mentally to do things in a day and my mum doesn’t realize it. She is reminding myself everyday that I’m a failure and do nothing. Everytime I feel better and think that I’m on the right path my family have to remind me of negative things. (I’m sorry if I writed something wrong in English it’s not my first language:)
Thank you for making this video. It’s been a real struggle since it happened 7 months ago and I’m clearly not over it because I still care about this friend…It’s very upsetting especially when I think about the good times we’ve had and when we went thru rough times too…Is there still hope? The thought of them not being present in life milestones such as my future wedding depresses me. I really miss this friend. I just hate my life and myself for letting this happen the first place ��������
Hi Dr.paul thank you so much for these videos. I am currently working with ethnic minority families who’s mother tongue is not English and wondered if I could use these materials and translate them in the appropriate ethnic language.
My longest, closest friend of 18 years ended the friendship and it was super tough for me but it takes time and I’ve realized how much of the problem was her perception of things and even though she said really unkind things, it is up to me to move on and just understand that it’s another phase of my life. I will meet other people, I always have even though I don’t have a bazillion friends. I’ve realized that friends have a shelf life and sometimes it’s longer, sometimes it’s shorter. And we drift apart. And not to be jealous that other people stay in touch longer or through other means while I’m left in the dust.
Hello Marie, Glad to see you again! I want to ask you something, I have a crush on someone but the thing is he never initiates to text or approach me first. But when I text him, he’s acting like he’s interested and try to keep the conversation going. I’m confused:/
Wow. I never knew to get him to do even just do chores was so important. I’m not letting him wiggle out of anything anymore, no wonder he doesn’t want to try to do anything. Arrg! It’s my fault for not pushing hard enough.
Wow! This was excellent! You hit the core issues and helped me understand that as helpless as it feels to be estranged, I can take control of my part by nurturing my self esteem. I’ve never heard it put quite this way and it really helps. Thank you!
everytime i try watching your vids i can’t finish it cz i tear up everytime and i don’t like it…. like the second they start speaking about all that it just hits me personally and i just tear up.
The only thing i’m sure of, is that Pink Diamond wasn’t well treatened by Yellow and Blue Diamond. And then she left Homeworld, and became just “Rose”……………………….. But that’s just Steven Universe, a cartoon that really teaches us to grow up and mature.
My mom says she wishes I was never born, I’m gonna send you to your dad, wants me to “be normal”, calls me fat, “it was YOUR fault that dad left”, “be more like _”.I’m very much positive that my mom is toxic
I can’t tell my mom about my problems because she always never understands me. She acts like she knows how I feel but she doesn’t. I come to her for help but she just yells at me in return. She also has cursed at me and told me I’m stupid. She keeps comparing me to my sister. I can’t wait for when i’m old enough to work and have my own house
Wow, this is really interesting. My mother tried to keep me safe by dissuading me from ever taking a risk. After I left my controlling xh, I spent about five years reading, googling, thinking……… I felt I knew all about self-esteem, but it was all theory no practice, and I still felt very frightened of life. If somebody said ”go for it” I still felt like opportunities were for ”other people”. It was only when I stepped out of my comfort zone and took risks (some that payed off and some that didn’t) that I began to feel better about myself, like I had some power. I’m so relieved I understand this in time to try and encourage my kids (12 and 15) to face challenges. I won’t shame them if they’re not ready though. I just watched your confidence for kids clip too and I’m going to encourage my son to build that second ikea desk that arrived today:-p even though the first one is wobbly. He’ll make a better go of the second desk! I’ve watched so much about self-esteem on line and it’s rare to see it articulated, that part that self-efficacy plays in how we feel about ourselves. I love your channel. So glad I found it.
What if the kid decides before hand that i know you will not give me this or take away this. And says you dont love me. He has trouble every day at school and gets angry when said a No go things, and gets very disrespectful towards adults. Get extremely scared during the day and night to be alone. Says I am a bad boy because I was born like this. Says I cant do it or I cant do it right or good and every one calls me dumb. What should I as a parent do to help him. He has, anger management, difance, and not abiding by the rules; problem. He starts with silly stuff and does nit stop till shouted at and that can last for a very long time.
One time in second or third grade i was telling my dad about how nome of the kids at school didn’t want anything to do with me and he replies “Well maybe it’s because you always say stuff like next time you do that I’m gonna do this or something like that like your mom does” (they were divorced by then) so I told my mom about it and her answer to it was “yes I set boundaries for myself” idk why I’m saying this buuuuuuuuut……. Meh ��
My mom rarely says that something is my fault, instead she says “You haven’t done your part, that’s why things are like this, everything could’ve been better if you just tried a little more”….and then she says she’s not blaming me, that’s not my fault, it’s just that I haven’t done what I was supposed to……….well in the end, I know that I tried, and (when she say “your part” is because she moved to another county with me and I had a lot of problems at school since I was technicall by myself) now I’m going to see a doctor because I might have social anxiety, but yeah, sure, I just haven’t tried enough of course.
I have had quite a few of these things said to me by adults as a whole not just my parents, but who else has gotten these things said to them, and how did you react? im actually kinda curious to see if we all felt a little different about these comments and how they lingered for us after.
Respect is earned! If it is free,then it has no value! Its cheap! I live by this moto”to get respect from me, respect me as well”… You are not responsible for your age,race,gender,looks,parents’ wealth,etc..so don’t use them as excuses to get cheap respect!
Welcome back, Marie! I’m glad you were able to take the time for yourself. Your videos and advice have helped me with a dying friendship I’ve had these last few months and this one definitely helped me get closure and an understanding of what the other person may be feeling.
Love you Marisa. My girl is in yr2 and she is a happy confident child but life doesn’t stop in primary school. So I’m going to share this powerful lesson with her to prepare her for the world ahead. ����
Hi Marisa, would it be possible for you to make a video on how to get over being bullied in your past? (I am similar to those you mentioned in your video, now adults whose lives are still horribly effected by the bullying they endured in the past.) You are wonderful for making so many great videos and I appreciate all that you have done to help us try to have a happier and healthier life. Thank you for all you do and continue to do.
My friendship of 20+ years was over too. Don’t be upset man. Everybody experiences the same. It’s just that we are those sensitive ones who mull over things.
So glad to see a video from you, Marie!! I have truly missed hearing your voice & “ingesting” your wisdom. I have so many questions to ask that I would love to hear your thoughts on them. I hope to see & hear more from you, Marie! Blessings��
Believe me i cant wait to move out there are worser words my parents say to me and my life would be happy without them especially my dad my mon i love but not my dad i hate him
When I want to discuss any social and mental issues with my parents they don’t wanna hear my opinions. My dad always told me that why are you thinking about others, think about yourself. Go to study and get a job. I also don’t have that kind of friend with I can share everything that’s why I wanna share these things with my parents, but they wanna hear anything. But I can discuss many things with my siblings now and I feel Good when I discuss things with them.
I am 12 years old and my parents dont do any of this and it hurts me that they could be a whole lot nicer if they wanted to by just saying something nice to me instead of “YOU ARE AN EVIL LITTLE GIRL THAT TAKES AFTER HER GRANDMOTHER AND TRIES TO BE JUST LIKE HER” i really ust want to be like anyone at this poiny because all i feel inside is helpless and hatred. I cant help but say something back to make her know like shes the one being evil and hard on me. I am only 12 and i dont understand. Is she right? Is my grandmother a bad person? Will i be a bad person if iwant to be like her in so many ways because my own mom refuses to make me feel wanted? i just want a little love and respect, i know i know, “KIDS ARNT SUPPOSED TO GET RESPECT UNTILL THEY KNOW HOW TO CLEAN AND BE MATURE” or is that just another thing my parents says to make me feel unwanted so i can do what ever she wants to feel useful. Am i not good like any other child? Is this what i deserve till im 18? I hope not and i hope any other child doesnt.
Thank you so much for this video. You always have perfect timeing with your videos:) you have defintly touch me so much about my own mental capability. So again thank you so much
My gram threatens to sent me to my mothers’ all the time. My mother hates me but loves my younger sister and older brother. I constantly wonder if running away would be for the best but I know that it won’t help at all.
If my mother die, idc. This doesn’t mean I didn’t love her, Its the opposite. If I give attention to a toxic person, they will think they can be mean to you forever and nothing will happen to them. She will be alone until she die’s because she did it to herself. She left me a couple of times alone in our house when I was 3. Now she’ll going to have the same treatment. I never talked to her again This means growing.
I go to therapy for my social anxiety and depression, it’s really hard mentally to do things in a day and my mum doesn’t realize it. She is reminding myself everyday that I’m a failure and do nothing. Everytime I feel better and think that I’m on the right path my family have to remind me of negative things. (I’m sorry if I writed something wrong in English it’s not my first language:)
Thank you for making this video. It’s been a real struggle since it happened 7 months ago and I’m clearly not over it because I still care about this friend…It’s very upsetting especially when I think about the good times we’ve had and when we went thru rough times too…Is there still hope? The thought of them not being present in life milestones such as my future wedding depresses me. I really miss this friend. I just hate my life and myself for letting this happen the first place ��������
Hi Dr.paul thank you so much for these videos. I am currently working with ethnic minority families who’s mother tongue is not English and wondered if I could use these materials and translate them in the appropriate ethnic language.
My longest, closest friend of 18 years ended the friendship and it was super tough for me but it takes time and I’ve realized how much of the problem was her perception of things and even though she said really unkind things, it is up to me to move on and just understand that it’s another phase of my life. I will meet other people, I always have even though I don’t have a bazillion friends. I’ve realized that friends have a shelf life and sometimes it’s longer, sometimes it’s shorter. And we drift apart. And not to be jealous that other people stay in touch longer or through other means while I’m left in the dust.
Hello Marie, Glad to see you again! I want to ask you something, I have a crush on someone but the thing is he never initiates to text or approach me first. But when I text him, he’s acting like he’s interested and try to keep the conversation going. I’m confused:/
Wow. I never knew to get him to do even just do chores was so important. I’m not letting him wiggle out of anything anymore, no wonder he doesn’t want to try to do anything. Arrg! It’s my fault for not pushing hard enough.
Wow! This was excellent! You hit the core issues and helped me understand that as helpless as it feels to be estranged, I can take control of my part by nurturing my self esteem. I’ve never heard it put quite this way and it really helps. Thank you!
everytime i try watching your vids i can’t finish it cz i tear up everytime and i don’t like it…. like the second they start speaking about all that it just hits me personally and i just tear up.
The only thing i’m sure of, is that Pink Diamond wasn’t well treatened by Yellow and Blue Diamond. And then she left Homeworld, and became just “Rose”……………………….. But that’s just Steven Universe, a cartoon that really teaches us to grow up and mature.
My mom says she wishes I was never born, I’m gonna send you to your dad, wants me to “be normal”, calls me fat, “it was YOUR fault that dad left”, “be more like _”.I’m very much positive that my mom is toxic
I can’t tell my mom about my problems because she always never understands me. She acts like she knows how I feel but she doesn’t. I come to her for help but she just yells at me in return. She also has cursed at me and told me I’m stupid. She keeps comparing me to my sister. I can’t wait for when i’m old enough to work and have my own house
Sometimes people can partner up with someone who completely change their personality. They change, not you.
And Marie, I would still continue to text someone back who was a lovely friend from the past who supported my last business.
Wow, this is really interesting. My mother tried to keep me safe by dissuading me from ever taking a risk. After I left my controlling xh, I spent about five years reading, googling, thinking……… I felt I knew all about self-esteem, but it was all theory no practice, and I still felt very frightened of life. If somebody said ”go for it” I still felt like opportunities were for ”other people”. It was only when I stepped out of my comfort zone and took risks (some that payed off and some that didn’t) that I began to feel better about myself, like I had some power. I’m so relieved I understand this in time to try and encourage my kids (12 and 15) to face challenges. I won’t shame them if they’re not ready though. I just watched your confidence for kids clip too and I’m going to encourage my son to build that second ikea desk that arrived today:-p even though the first one is wobbly. He’ll make a better go of the second desk! I’ve watched so much about self-esteem on line and it’s rare to see it articulated, that part that self-efficacy plays in how we feel about ourselves. I love your channel. So glad I found it.
I’ve been watching 2-3 videos everyday religiously. I tried one of ur tip and I must say it worked like a magic. Thank you from my heart.
What if the kid decides before hand that i know you will not give me this or take away this. And says you dont love me. He has trouble every day at school and gets angry when said a No go things, and gets very disrespectful towards adults. Get extremely scared during the day and night to be alone. Says I am a bad boy because I was born like this. Says I cant do it or I cant do it right or good and every one calls me dumb.
What should I as a parent do to help him. He has, anger management, difance, and not abiding by the rules; problem. He starts with silly stuff and does nit stop till shouted at and that can last for a very long time.
One time in second or third grade i was telling my dad about how nome of the kids at school didn’t want anything to do with me and he replies
“Well maybe it’s because you always say stuff like next time you do that I’m gonna do this or something like that like your mom does” (they were divorced by then) so I told my mom about it and her answer to it was “yes I set boundaries for myself” idk why I’m saying this buuuuuuuuut……. Meh ��
My mom rarely says that something is my fault, instead she says “You haven’t done your part, that’s why things are like this, everything could’ve been better if you just tried a little more”….and then she says she’s not blaming me, that’s not my fault, it’s just that I haven’t done what I was supposed to……….well in the end, I know that I tried, and (when she say “your part” is because she moved to another county with me and I had a lot of problems at school since I was technicall by myself) now I’m going to see a doctor because I might have social anxiety, but yeah, sure, I just haven’t tried enough of course.
I have had quite a few of these things said to me by adults as a whole not just my parents, but who else has gotten these things said to them, and how did you react?
im actually kinda curious to see if we all felt a little different about these comments and how they lingered for us after.
Respect is earned! If it is free,then it has no value! Its cheap! I live by this moto”to get respect from me, respect me as well”… You are not responsible for your age,race,gender,looks,parents’ wealth,etc..so don’t use them as excuses to get cheap respect!
Welcome back, Marie! I’m glad you were able to take the time for yourself. Your videos and advice have helped me with a dying friendship I’ve had these last few months and this one definitely helped me get closure and an understanding of what the other person may be feeling.
Love you Marisa. My girl is in yr2 and she is a happy confident child but life doesn’t stop in primary school. So I’m going to share this powerful lesson with her to prepare her for the world ahead. ����
Hi Marisa, would it be possible for you to make a video on how to get over being bullied in your past? (I am similar to those you mentioned in your video, now adults whose lives are still horribly effected by the bullying they endured in the past.) You are wonderful for making so many great videos and I appreciate all that you have done to help us try to have a happier and healthier life. Thank you for all you do and continue to do.
OH MY GOD-
“Your too immature”
TOO RELATABLE….I cosplay and my parents tell me that all the time!
And also….everything else is extremely relatable as well….
My friendship of 20+ years was over too. Don’t be upset man. Everybody experiences the same. It’s just that we are those sensitive ones who mull over things.
So glad to see a video from you, Marie!! I have truly missed hearing your voice & “ingesting” your wisdom. I have so many questions to ask that I would love to hear your thoughts on them. I hope to see & hear more from you, Marie! Blessings��
Believe me i cant wait to move out there are worser words my parents say to me and my life would be happy without them especially my dad my mon i love but not my dad i hate him
My parents: * calls me fat and ugly *
Me: * tells them to stop *
My(Filipino) parents: *gets mad at me because I “talked back”*
Me: ������
When I want to discuss any social and mental issues with my parents they don’t wanna hear my opinions. My dad always told me that why are you thinking about others, think about yourself. Go to study and get a job. I also don’t have that kind of friend with I can share everything that’s why I wanna share these things with my parents, but they wanna hear anything. But I can discuss many things with my siblings now and I feel Good when I discuss things with them.
I am 12 years old and my parents dont do any of this and it hurts me that they could be a whole lot nicer if they wanted to by just saying something nice to me instead of “YOU ARE AN EVIL LITTLE GIRL THAT TAKES AFTER HER GRANDMOTHER AND TRIES TO BE JUST LIKE HER” i really ust want to be like anyone at this poiny because all i feel inside is helpless and hatred. I cant help but say something back to make her know like shes the one being evil and hard on me. I am only 12 and i dont understand. Is she right? Is my grandmother a bad person? Will i be a bad person if iwant to be like her in so many ways because my own mom refuses to make me feel wanted? i just want a little love and respect, i know i know, “KIDS ARNT SUPPOSED TO GET RESPECT UNTILL THEY KNOW HOW TO CLEAN AND BE MATURE” or is that just another thing my parents says to make me feel unwanted so i can do what ever she wants to feel useful. Am i not good like any other child? Is this what i deserve till im 18? I hope not and i hope any other child doesnt.
Thank you so much for this video. You always have perfect timeing with your videos:) you have defintly touch me so much about my own mental capability. So again thank you so much
My gram threatens to sent me to my mothers’ all the time. My mother hates me but loves my younger sister and older brother. I constantly wonder if running away would be for the best but I know that it won’t help at all.
If my mother die, idc. This doesn’t mean I didn’t love her, Its the opposite. If I give attention to a toxic person, they will think they can be mean to you forever and nothing will happen to them. She will be alone until she die’s because she did it to herself. She left me a couple of times alone in our house when I was 3. Now she’ll going to have the same treatment. I never talked to her again This means growing.