Is Quitting Ever Okay in Kids’ Sports

 

5 REASONS WHY I QUIT WRESTLING

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Should You Let Your Kid Quit A Sport?

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9-year-old announces retirement from sports | ESPN

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A Doctor’s View on Attrition Rates in Sports and Why Kids Quit

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Why Do Kids Quit Sports?

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falling out of love with my sport

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Why Are Kids quitting Sports?

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If your child plays sports, sooner or later you’ll deal with a declaration of “I’m quitting!” But before you say no—fearing your child will be branded a quitter for life—hear him out, and try to understand his motives. Better yet, develop an anti-quitting plan even before your child signs up for a new sport. Let kids play with their friends, not with a recruited roster of junior all-stars Take whatever time is necessary to explain and work with kids on new skills Don’t push kids to the point of. Experts say the key to determining if quitting is a good or bad idea is communication. The problem is that kids, especially teenagers, aren’t always forthcoming about their feelings.

In. Boy was he right. I think I knew it at the time, but I laced my fingers behind my head and said, “It’s all good.” I stuffed the memory of baseball in the bottom of my closet and covered it with a pile of dirty socks and wool blankets.

There it sat. I hid other regrets there as well, but quitting baseball was the biggest lump in the closet. According to a poll from the National Alliance for Youth Sports, around 70 percent of kids in the United States stop playing organized sports by the age of 13 because “it’s just not fun anymore.” I.

A total of 75% of all kids quit youth sports by the age of 12. With all the travel to and from practices and games, and the hundreds of weekends spent on a playing field, court, or ice rink, I bet you wish you were one of those 75% of parents with a kid that wants to quit. In Burn Out, Motivation/Goals, Problems in Youth Sports Ever notice how quitting is vilified as the worst thing you can possibly do, as the mark of failure and shame, a sign of weakness, and as the last possible option in nearly ANY situation, but especially in sports?

Strean thinks children often quit because sports have become too organized and competitive. “As soon as you put uniforms on kids, it is no longer about fun and having a. Kids typically “burn out” in a certain sport for one or two reasons: 1) Kids specialize in the sport year round and/or 2) Parents and coaches have impossibly high expectations for the kids that they feel like they can never live up to. 7) They “don’t like the coach”. Most kids quit organized sports by age 13 and it might not be the worst thing As I write this, I have the weather channel on in the background.

I am monitoring the rain, torn between hoping it arrives before 11 am and wanting it to hold off long enough for my five-year-old to have his last little league game of the year.

List of related literature:

• How would the family feel if the child quit or played a different sport?

“Athletic and Sport Issues in Musculoskeletal Rehabilitation E-Book” by David J. Magee, James E. Zachazewski, William S. Quillen, Robert C. Manske
from Athletic and Sport Issues in Musculoskeletal Rehabilitation E-Book
by David J. Magee, James E. Zachazewski, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2010

Other young athletes may not enjoy sport, but continue to play to please a pushy parent or coach.

“Coaching Children in Sport” by Ian Stafford
from Coaching Children in Sport
by Ian Stafford
Taylor & Francis, 2011

When sports stop being fun, kids tend to drop out.

“Sports Ethics for Sports Management Professionals” by Patrick Thornton, Walter T. Champion, Jr., Lawrence Ruddell, Larry Ruddell
from Sports Ethics for Sports Management Professionals
by Patrick Thornton, Walter T. Champion, Jr., et. al.
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2011

“I want my son to learn how to be a team player,” said a father whose ten-year-old son plays at least one after-school sport a season—sports that he will not be playing when he is thirty years old—in addition to at least two other after-school activities at any given point in time.

“Parenting by the Book: Biblical Wisdom for Raising Your Child” by John Rosemond
from Parenting by the Book: Biblical Wisdom for Raising Your Child
by John Rosemond
Howard Books, 2007

However, if the sporting experience is poorly structured, with coaches or parents who are more interested in winning than in children having fun or learning, then children can develop negative self-esteem and lose self-confidence.

“The Biophysical Foundations of Human Movement” by Bruce Abernethy, Stephanie J. Hanrahan, Vaughan Kippers, Laurel T. Mackinnon, Marcus G. Pandy
from The Biophysical Foundations of Human Movement
by Bruce Abernethy, Stephanie J. Hanrahan, et. al.
Human Kinetics, 2005

Some studies in England, for example, report that up to 70 per cent of all who participate in youth sports choose to quit.

“Developing Youth Football Players” by Horst Wein
from Developing Youth Football Players
by Horst Wein
Human Kinetics, 2007

If not, they will eventually find more satisfying sports or activities or drop out altogether.

“The Coaching Process: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Effective Sports Coach” by Lynn Kidman, Stephanie J. Hanrahan
from The Coaching Process: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Effective Sports Coach
by Lynn Kidman, Stephanie J. Hanrahan
Taylor & Francis, 2010

It has been estimated that approximately 70% of children participating in any one sport will stop playing in their early teenage years.

“Encyclopedia of Sports Medicine” by Lyle J. Micheli, M.D.
from Encyclopedia of Sports Medicine
by Lyle J. Micheli, M.D.
SAGE Publications, 2010

This is the age that kids are most likely to quit teams because sports are too competitive or are no longer considered enjoyable.

“The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries” by Michele Borba
from The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries
by Michele Borba
Wiley, 2009

Like many adolescent girls, Jasmine had enjoyed sports (volleyball, in her case) at eleven years old, but by fourteen felt “I wasn’t ever going to be good enough, good like some of the other girls, so yeah, I quit.

“The Wonder of Girls: Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters” by Michael Gurian
from The Wonder of Girls: Understanding the Hidden Nature of Our Daughters
by Michael Gurian
Atria Books, 2002

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  • Thank you ESPN for virtue signaling yet again.
    Apparently parents telling their kids to “keep their head up” is no considered bad.
    Unreal.

  • I feel u bro I was wrestling my first year in a new private school and I got put in all AP/Honors classes, I would wake up go to school, get out of school,practice till 5:30, go home and do hw till 7, math tutoring till 9, more hw till 10, sleep. repeat…. I got so depressed and stressed I though some bad things and almost made some bad decisions but with finals week coming up it was too much, luckily I talked to some people and I ended quitting but I feel u bro… I like wrestling but there is no way I can rejoin the team, I agree with u, I like wrestling but it’s too stressful and I have depression, ADHD, and anxiety. it was all too much

  • same with softball ive been playing since i was 6 im 14 years old now my moms the team mom and she would be pretty bummed out about me quitting since i was the best pitcher on my team and she has spent alot of money on my lessons and practices and my travel ball dues shes so stressed though and i feel bad so i feel like quitting would probably relieve that stress. I have also done dance since i was about 6 as well and i love it i still do it and i want that to become my main and only focus. I want to be a professional dancer and a successful model or actress in the future but maybe one day if i keep praying that one day i will just be living my dream. ��

  • Omfg����‍♀️ That’s so true. When my coach teaches us a new move, we start drilling, and another coach tells us not to do it like that. So I’m hearing like 5 different ways to do one move����‍♀️ and it gets so confusing, like what am I supposed to do??

  • Thank you for making this video. I am going through a similar thing with singing. This really helped me understand some of the things I am feeling.

  • ive recently been thinking on quitting the sport, im decently skilled, and im always working hard, but i really hate cutting weight, ive cut 15 pounds this year and currently weigh 120, and it really sucks trying to maintain this weight, somedays ive been in pain because i cant eat inorder to get down to weight, the sport is still fun but im either just going up a weight and wrestling JV (Our 126 is a beast), or quit.

  • “Winning isn’t everything, it is the only thing.” Vince Lombardi

    If nine year olds can’t handle the “pressure” of youth sports, they will not be able to handle the PRESSURE of professional sports.

  • dontretirekid is catchy, but it makes me think it’s aimed at the kid and not at everyone else. the video clearly explains that, but I do wonder how many influential figures will take the time to look into a hashtag that doesn’t mention them…

  • Now I know that I’m 3 or so months late but, did I just hear he’d rather play Fortnite than do wrestling. Now that’s not the best mental decision, all of the other reasons are very understandable. But I do hope that you’re not playing Fortnite 24/7. But if wrestling isn’t your sport like others, then you do you and I hope no more negativity comes to you. Btw I like your “What wrestlers do” videos.

  • Honestly this was Deep… Parents push children into to sports and are so tough on them that it isn’t fun anymore.. Coaches are the same..

  • This is a very deep and thought-provoking video, just that y’all joke too much to get the point. Parents and coaches put too much pressure for excellence in youth sports that kids end up not having fun and hating what once was their passion.

  • WTF? This kid should never wear a pair of Jordans again lol. All those ppl pushing are helping u. He wouldn’t make out alive in Marshawn Lynch’s camp, soft ass kids

  • I think this is a serious video of ESPN trying to get parents and little league coaches to stop and think of all the pressure some are putting on kids and ruining sports for them. It’s been a problem since at least I was a kid through whole 90s probably longer. Some of these parents treat 9 yr old like they’re in the majors and it’s a shame.

  • It was about time the sports program knows what it feels like to be on the decline in schools.

    Arts and Music: Who then now, sports?

  • I quit. Stuff piled up and it became a chore, and not fun. The whole stuff of ” if you can make it through wrestling” you’ll make it through anything in life is BS

  • You just described what we all go through man……but if you’ve gave it your all and your just simply done there’s nothing wrong with that

  • He just might not be good! Might not have what it takes.. he can be social media famous tho.. but that takes hard work as well. Hopefully it’s a joke, but if it’s not.. it just shows me a lack of perseverance, heart and determination to deal with life’s obstacles. Your raising a quitter

  • Do point of the video is trying to make sports fun again for kids because now a days sports isn’t the same how it used to be parents, coaches are taking the game very serious and kids are only 9 and they can’t have fun because they take it too serious.

  • When my dad was the coach of my little league team he’d call out parents that were going too hard on their kids and always emphasized having fun to the players. Unfortunately when it comes to higher tiers of youth play thats not the case.

  • This is gonna be the next 2K storyline. Retire as a kid, make a comeback as a walk on in college and eventually take over the league.

  • Well,I guess the media is right, Father Time does catch up 2 everyone, sorry 2 see him [email protected] his peek of his career,maybe 1 day he will surprise everyone and make a comeback like Jordan did.��2 c him go,he will b missed. P.S He will Definitely will b in the Hall of Fame. He has my vote. At least I have all his games recorded and I can relive his greatness moments. He was a legend, they’re never be anyone like him every again Long live THE GOAT.

  • Wrestled for 6 years. Wanted to quit plenty of times, many of my friends did. For some reason I never quit. I credit the will to continue and not quit as to why I have become successful later in life. Never quit, work hard when others stop. It will pay off massively later in life

  • PSA for idiots (read all the comments): This is meant for the helicopter parents living out their dreams and shortcomings through their children, instead of just letting them have fun playing the game.

  • This is actually pathetic! ESPN is trying to make a point here and its a Wuss ass, excuse making, skinny jean wearin, soft as hell point! I dont have words for this!

  • I feel you brother. Im a sophomore and this is my 2nd year. I’m out for the season cuz of second impact syndrome from wrestling. And my coach is so toxic and I want to do something that’s more healthy for me and stuff. I also broke my elbow last year from it and idk wrestling is really messing my body up. Should I continue it next year or just be done with it? I also really feel forced cuz like,, I feel like ill let ppl down.

  • This is deep for me, quit my job coaching after 8 years, 17 years in the sport I did since I was a kid….. wasn’t fun anymore, hated the ppl I was around….. this is about mental health and ppl just like “ESpN mUsT bE FallIng oFf…”������ ok I got u, keep playin

  • Completely legit to simply get fed up with stuff and to gradually realise that it doesn’t make you happy anymore. Doesn’t make you less of a man, or less brave. It takes a certain level of maturity and guts to say “I don’t have to do this if it doesn’t make me happy” and voluntarily step away from it. You have nothing to prove to anyone but yourself.
    You’re way cool, man. Hope you’re enjoying your life more now.

  • You all have years in front of you of work, work and more work. In your down time, do what you like and enjoy, cos one day it will be work stress plus home life stress,

  • Totally understand dude. Unlike a job, wrestling means absolutely nothing to your future life. If you’re not enjoying it, just quit. Life will go on just the same just without the hassle of wrestling

  • Okay, so I know this was posted a year ago, but… I’m a girl and I wrestle, I’ve been doing it for seven years now. And I totally get your antics. I just watched it because… well, I’ve been thinking of quitting, I’m the only girl on my middle school team, my coach is sexist and I’m constantly being treated differently… thanks for sharing your amazing reasons!!!

  • Wow I know that feeling! I dedicated 6 years of my life to a sports and it ended in failure. I made it a video about on my channel. It’s good to know that I’m not the only athlete that has gone through this. Keep pushing ����

  • I feel like my coaches trap me into the sport I’m a junior in high school and have wrestled since 2nd grade I’ve grown out of it and I hate going to practice and I lost all my passion for the sport however I made it to the state tournament last year and I live in Ohio so you know how our state tournament is lmao I basically went 0-2 and then left

  • There was no reason why he should made this video. Now he’s gonna make Wrestling look bad. Why are there more likes than dislikes? For Everyone who dislikes the video have high IQs.

  • I’m a gymnast, I was a dancer most of my life but I’ve been doing gymnastics for about 3 years now. the first gym I went to wasn’t very serious. We did very little conditioning and it wasn’t the best if you were at a lower level and competitive. I went there for 2 seasons where I completed levels 3, 4, and 5. I decided I wanted something more challenging and more like the competitive gymnastics I always heard about. I wanted to push myself to be a better athlete. I was doing 9-12 hours a week at the time but felt it wasn’t enough because of the level I wanted to be. I ended up going to a new gym in summer 2019 and it was HARD. This gym was extremely hardcore and tough and I wanted to quit after one day. But I didn’t let myself I was just starting to become good. I liked my coach and the gym so I stayed. My coach moved away and I got a new one. I can’t put this any other way, she was just annoying but at the same time, I had a soft spot for her as she was very understanding most of the time. I genuinely felt comfortable talking to her and I’m a very shy, anxious person so that doesn’t happen a lot. I got moved up to train with the higher level girls and the owner of the gym and a former olympian became my coach. There were 3 other girls in the group one level 7, one level 9, and one level 10 I trained 16 hours a week and they all trained 25. they were better than me but they were also a higher level. The part about them being better got stuck in my head, I began to doubt my ability and compare myself to them. Two of them were also younger than me. I wanted to train with my friends that were closer to my level. Don’t get me wrong I love those 3 girls but it was hard for me. I finished the season feeling burnt out and being 100 percent sure I wanted to quit. My anxiety got so bad I didn’t even want to walk in the gym. I was tired. Then coronavirus happened. I needed the break and when the gym reopened I quit because I was so stressed out by it. I didn’t miss it until I quit. So here we are now. I want to train but I don’t, but I also don’t want to give up. My friends my level would be training with me and we would all be working on similar things. They are my closest friends and I want to practice and compete with them and maybe I would feel like my coach liked me more. there are 4 events bars, beam, vault, and floor, I am in no way and all-around 1st place winner. I was in dance but I quit for gymnastics because I thought it was my passion and lost my love for it. I can get a 1st place on one event sure but I’m not an all-around type. I try my best but seem to make improvements very very slow if at all. Looking back at the videos of me before COVID I think… wow, I was good. even though at the time the videos were taken I thought I sucked. I’m going back to the gym in a few weeks because I know I still want to do it but I just feel burnt out. I searched up “how to love your sport again” and found this. I wanna keep trying so I hope training goes well

  • Hey man its understandable, I had to quit my Senior Year as well, I had enough of the teams and coaches bullshit they pissed me off. It was fun for me as well, but as it went on it lost its flare for me and I started hating it.

  • I have really fast metabolism to where I can eat a whole thing of Casey’s pizza and lose 3 pounds, but I usually stay at a natural weight. (Right now: 116-119)

    Reasons why I want to quit:

    1 Everyone around me expects me to lose weight and wrestle at 113 when it’s actually making my body more tired, I’m constantly starving, and overall my health is diminishing and I feel like I’m not even motivated to do anything whatsoever

    2 I cant focus on school because I’m too tired too, even though I wanted to not go out this season and focus on school

    3 It used to be fun like a team sport, and yeah I have the same problem with negative energy. There’s a lot of favoritism going on too, which just makes me more aggravated

    4 I feel like my dad doesnt actually care about me or my health but cares more about my wrestling career. I just wished he could understand what I’m going through, which he did, but once I hit 115.5 he immediately turned against me.

    5 I have hypermobility problems and I continue to get injured with them, mainly my shoulders and my hips. Every time they’re inflamed, (usually when I get put into a hard half), I can barely lift them up and they hurt really bad.

    Overall, I’m not motivated to wrestle anymore and am wondering how I should deal with this. I was thinking of just telling one of the coaches that I never wanted to go out but my dad forced me too, but I also feel like the coach will protest against it, telling me to stay. Or should I just talk to a counselor first?

  • Wow… i really needed to hear this. Ive always realized that i never smiled when I competed and id always cry after i won.. i never really gave much thought to it until now. I guess i was mistaking the feeling of belittlement as happiness and the drive to do better… thank you:)

  • They put the temp in our wrestling room to 105 ��. 3 hours of running or drilling everyday up until our first tournament on the 18th ��. But i haven’t wrestled since 7th grade… help me ������

  • Ok if you rather go home and play video games than wrestle you’re a bitch but yet again I’ll have to agree with you on the whole practice and wrestling part I hate practice with a passion but I love to wrestle so I get you on that one and same with the coaches

  • You’d regret this decision for the rest of your life…trust me! Even with bad coaches, & probably should’ve used your summer to figure out how to transfer to better program. My Coach quit on our team when I was a returning Senior, when 4 of our Seniors(my junior year) left. Real kick in the gut. You will regret this decision man. Don’t QUIT! You’ll be 30 before you know it and regret this choice! Don’t do it!

  • HAHAHAHA… This is for all those psycho ass parents who don’t know shit about sports and take all the fun out the games for their kids

  • Every problem you listed with your experience in wrestling traces directly back to the coaching staff. Unfortunately, you rarely get any chance to choose any wrestling program other than the one program at your school.

  • I’m only 14 I have had back problems for 3 years I have had neck problems for 2 years I have pulled both my shoulders and my right knee is in bad pain right now I have also had 1 concussion I know what your saying but your team being bad is your team our highschool is chill

  • i fell out of love for cheerleading which i thought i was gonna do forever as a kid and i cried almost every night wondering what happened. and now i regret stopping the sport

  • Don’t listen to the negative people, man. It really sounds like that room had some toxic vibes coming from it, along with the people. Honestly, do what is best for you. I don’t think that “you’re a bitch for quitting.” That’s just bullshit, because those people don’t really understand why you’re quitting. As long as you’re happy and doing what you think you should do, everything’s all good! Good luck, man, take care. Looking forward to future videos!

  • Kids are getting lazier, weaker mentally and less disciplined. No wonder they’re playing less sports. When you play sports you develop energy, stronger mentality and you become more disciplined which will help throughout life. Parents need to step up because kids can’t raise themselves.

  • Dude life’s hard and you just have to push hard at practice, your lucky you don’t have regular practice then club practice right after that and you don’t wrestle in the hardest state to wrestle in, Pennsylvania

  • I totally agree it is very hard on ur body and it sucks believe me im a wrestler too and I agree it really does suck but ik that God can give me the strength to pull through it. Your not a b***h for quiting wrestling I always think about quiting but in the end I love the sport and I know that Pain Is Temporary and Pride Is Forever that quote is actually on our wall in our wrestling room but I totally understand why you would wanna quit I have been there before.

  • Personally I don’t agree that wrestling won’t do anything for you. But I totally understand why he quit. Trust me it’s a hard fucking sport. Drilling 3 hours every single day is difficult. I have been wrestling for about 5 years now and I don’t see me quiting but that’s just me. Everyone has there on goals and priorities in life and I can understand that. All I can say is I respect your decision, but I hope you come back into this sport.

    Edit: I just saw the video he made about coming back into this sport. Nice.

  • I decided to quit wrestling because every night I would come out of practice with a throbbing headache. If your body is in a room with the mats as old and hard as possible, and the room gets kept at 70° f, as soon as you take 1 hit, and by that I mean as much as tripping, you’re gonna almost die. I also quit to persue my REAL passion wich is bike riding, I decided to move on to greener pastures.