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Presented in partnership with AnxietyBC and The FORCE Society For Kids’ Mental Health. Video Description: Anxiety is the most commonly diagnosed mental health condition in children and youth. 1 in 4 children experience significant anxiety at some point in their lives. This video explores common childhood fears and how parents can respond with empathy, and coach children to think helpful thoughts and gradually face their fears. Check out: https://www.anxietybc.com/parenting/parent-child. Presenters: . Christine Yu, M.A., R.C.C.: Christine has worked extensively in the field of anxiety, both as a researcher and a practitioner. In addition to individual and family therapy, Christine conducts workshops and presentations about childhood anxiety for schools and parent groups around the Lower Mainland.. Victoria Keddis, PiR: A Parent in Residence with The F.O.R.C.E. Society for Kids’ Mental Health is a parent with lived experience. Victoria is a certified FRIENDS for Life and FUN Friends Parent Trainer which has reinforced the learning along the way.
On December 14, 2012, the day Adam Lanza killed his mother, then walked into a school in Newtown, Connecticut and shot 20 first graders and 6 brave educators, I shared my struggles as a parent of a child with mental illness on my anonymous blog, the Anarchist Soccer Mom. The post went viral, and it caused quite a bit of controversy. In that post, I wrote, “It’s time to talk about mental illness.” Why? One in five children has a serious and debilitating mental disorder. More than 4600 children and young people die each year from completing suicide. And yet across America, parents are struggling to find solutions for their hurting children. Too often, the only solution is jail: between 50 and 75 percent of children in juvenile detention have mental illness, often untreated, at a tremendous cost to taxpayers and society. Parents feel isolated, alone, and afraid. Pervasive stigma prevents us from even talking about our needs. One mother told me, “I know this sounds terrible, but I wish my daughter had cancer instead of a mental disorder. At least then I could talk about it.”. It’s time to talk.. In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
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With my wife out of town for work, it took me two “rest” days before I could finally get in a run. In those days, I had to manage the girls by myself, work a ton, clean up a lot of poop, clean up after the dog, and just try to make it through the week. I took a moment out of the day to get home early, reload on food and clothes for the remainder of the week, and then go for a run.. The run wasn’t the best run I’ve had. I don’t think I like running on two days’ rest, and I wasn’t able to escape work pressures, even while out on the lakefront path. Overall, the run was a perfect synopsis of the week I’ve been having. I guess you just have to have one of those weeks, sometimes.. But we just have to get through it.. Thanks for watching. Leave a comment to let me know you stopped by! -- Subscriber count at time of upload: 639. twitter: https://twitter.com/wordofko. instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kofuzi/. shot on:. sony a6300 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007GK50X4/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B007GK50X4&linkCode=as2&tag=kofuzi06-20&linkId=147b80e983f180644955c8771124ce06. iPhone 7 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01LYT95XR/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B01LYT95XR&linkCode=as2&tag=kofuzi06-20&linkId=668291bea8a9298d1b78c784973902ed. hero 5 https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01M14ATO0/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B01M14ATO0&linkCode=as2&tag=kofuzi06-20&linkId=ca5117bd8cb0e2d3873afc9ed9715d11. my two favorite gopro accessories: clip https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01FQGTBRK/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B01FQGTBRK&linkCode=as2&tag=kofuzi06-20&linkId=a284bdbded27561926bef0222c21f9c2. skeleton housing https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00SAYRYBQ/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B00SAYRYBQ&linkCode=as2&tag=kofuzi06-20&linkId=f4c82e534563118fa1c2db95abb428cb. edited in: final cut. music: Joakim Karud Rock Angel (Vlog Music No Copyright Funky Background Music For YouTube). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sYxVx5ampCc. end card music: Jim Yosef Checkered. https://soundcloud.com/ninety9live/jim-yosef-checkered
Crystal runs away from home leaving her mother to fear for the worst. Agustin visits the doctor to discuss a potentially life threatening surgery to fix a deformation in his face, but makes progress back at school dealing with his anger issues brought on by bullying from other kids.. On Chicago’s West Side, there is a school for the city’s most at-risk youth — the Moses Montefiore Academy. Most of the students at Montefiore have been kicked out of other schools for aggressive behavior, and many have been diagnosed with emotional disorders.. Last Chance High takes viewers inside Montefiore’s classrooms and into the homes of students who are one mistake away from being locked up or committed to a mental hospital.. Subscribe to VICE News here: http://bit.ly/Subscribe-to-VICE-News. Watch from the start on vicenice.com: https://news.vice.com/videos/last-chance-high-episode-one?trk_source=236-show-video. Check out the VICE News beta for more: http://vicenews.com. Follow VICE News here: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/vicenews. Twitter: https://twitter.com/vicenews. Tumblr: http://vicenews.tumblr.com/
www.mottnpch.org. About 25 percent of parents who have children aged two to five say their children get three or more hours of entertainment screen time a day, well beyond recommended limits, according to a new poll from the University of Michigan.. In the latest University of Michigan Mott Children’s Hospital National Poll on Children’s Health, a little more than half of those parents do try to set some limits by location: banning media devices from places like the bedroom or at mealtime.
How Parents Can Find Time to Run Invest in a Jogging Stroller. Although it makes your run a little harder, running with a jogging stroller is a great Find a Gym With Childcare. Parents who have joined a gym that provides babysitting often wish they had done so earlier. Break Up Your Runs.
Don’t. Take a parent-child class such as karate or yoga. You get both fitness and together time, and kids usually love sharing an activity with mom or dad.
Plus you can practice with each other outside of class time. Modify your favorite workout so that your child can join in, or at least ride along. If you’re a runner, for example, it’s.
How Parents Can Find Time to Run Whether the kids are babies or youngsters, attempting to balance working with looking after their needs (along with all your other obligations) might be hard. Here are a few strategies for parents that are looking for time for you to manage: Invest in a stroller. Working parents: exercise over lunch or on the road. Join a gym near work and exercise over lunch, or use lunchtime to walk or run.
Join a gym near work and exercise over lunch, or use lunchtime. Can parents really find time to exercise and stay in shape? When you have babies, your parental role can consume the majority of your free time.
Most couples who have kids, find it challenging to re-engage in activities they used to enjoy together before the kids made their grand entrance. As the household baby chores pile u. Summer is the perfect time to play outside with your young family, as they can easily find ways of keeping themselves busy for hours.
Football, stone painting, insect hunting, swing ball, a paddling pool, and chasing each other around can provide endless hours of fun and frolics. Take a lunchtime exercise class, which fulfills both your exercise time and personal time. Less formally, leave your spouse on kid-duty for an hour at a time on a weekend morning so you can go enjoy something fun and frivolous, like a walk through a bookstore or a latte run. If your family isn’t all that active, give yourselves about 6-8 weeks to get ready. Find a “fun run” for your first race.
These 5Ks are usually familyand kid-friendly with a mix of walkers and. Reach out to people you can trust and perhaps talk it over with them. After a week, your rational brain will probably have had time to make a decision.
This is different for each case, and so you should weigh the consequences for running away if your parents were to find you. Some parents get mad at yo. Finding time to reconnect away from the kids can help to remind you of how you got into this lovely mess in the first place, and why you wanted to share your lives together. “If you just wanted a roommate, you could find someone else,” says sexologist and relationship expert, Dr. Logan Levkoff.
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Parents employ a fixed schedule (e.g., 5 minutes) or one that involves progressively longer intervals (e.g., 5 minutes, 10 minutes, then 15 minutes) of waiting before checking on their child.
Although, like most working mothers, Farat runs from dawn to dusk and performs a running logistical exercise in her head, she has found or made time in which to begin a foundation course by distanced learning for university entry.
Parents’ work and activity schedules spilling over into the evening hours may also conflict with time for sleep, by pushing the dinner hour and homework time later and later.
Once you establish how much of their time it takes for your family to run well, and how much of their time and energy it takes to do well at school, whatever is left over can be given to hobbies, sports, friends, and other activities.
Start off spending fifteen minutes on the activities (adjust the time upward for older children) and gradually increase the time to about thirty minutes.
Researchers and health care providers recommend that schoolage youth participate daily in 60 minutes or more of moderate to vigorous physical activity that is developmentally appropriate, that is enjoyable, and that involves a variety of activities.
Within their family’s scheduling of jobs, self-improvement, and leisure activities, preschoolers learn to fit their routine habits of eating, sleeping, and playing.
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Ahh..being a single is parent is hard. I can understand because I did it for close to a year. I was on my knees by the 7-8 months. I hope your wife is back by the time you read this comment. Loved the video though. Bdw my GoPro also behaves sometimes like that and the fix I do is that I take out the battery and put it in again. Works like charm always.
Crystal need somebody to except her the way she is. Her mom seems like she puts her down a lot. Crystal might have a low idea of herself because her mom is constantly putting her down. High school is very important, but life goes on after.
I feel so bad for the boy��he doesn’t deserve to be there his anger isn’t Bc he wants to be angry it’s Bc people make fun of him intentionally and the only way he can express how he feels is thru negative actions I feel soooo bad����watching him broke me☹️
I just found this. More people need to watch it. My son is also mentally ill. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with and it is very hard to locate help with children like this
No mental illness is just something that humans made up because they are scared of showimg their true feelings no matter how bad or good it is she is right that we have to talk about our feelings but mental illness is some thing that they made it up so no one go out of the box
I love how we are constantly told to limit screen time without any real concrete ways how to.. I remember my generation growing up with tons of screentime and we turned out ok… also sending our kids out to play outside on their own isn’t an option anymore so…
As soon as she started speaking, I suspected she was Eric Walton’s mother. Then the picture appeared, and voilà! What puzzles me is how dissimilar are the ways in which both refer to how they have endured that critical period in their lives.
The funny thing is that one day that daughter is going to be in her mother’s position (or even worse) worrying about her own kids. Then she will understand.
If i was at the school id hang with Augustin and defend him bc i had a friend who had a disability and he was bullied so bad and he wanted to kill himself but he didnt have a gun so everyone found out and one kid followed him home and shot him 34 times,and he was so nice they didnt have a funeral for him bc his body was in a horrible condition since he was shot so much times
I don’t like anyone who wants an “obedient” child or wants to have “control” over them. You teach your kid life skills, you teach them how to deal with real-life issues, you teach them life and social skills to take care of themselves, not to obey your commands. That’s how you create kids who hate you, who resent you, either they rebel like Crystal, or they end up terrified in the world and unable to make decisions for themselves. Her mother has an air of “I’m the mom, I’m doing well, this is her fault” but Crystal is just responding to the attitude she was raised with.
This talk brought tears to my eyes several times. I gravitate to people with mental illness. My best friends have schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and social anxiety disorder. I try to be supportive and understanding, and they all really are some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met. They are just misunderstood and they tend to be afraid of treatment because of the lack of flexibility and kindness in the treatment arena. Please get behind the cause of accepting and understanding mental illness!
Do you folks know that mental illness/ disorder isn’t just depression. It’s an illness of the mind. Including eating disorders, bulimic, anorexia. Parkinsons, schizophrenia, bipolar, Alzheimer, etc. etc., there are hundreds. I haven’t even watched the video, just read some of the comments. Most of you need to get educated. It’s like saying a health illness is only a sore throat!!!
Agustin makes me sad. You can tell he’s a good kid and doesn’t deserve to be put in a shitty school like that. I hope he meets someone who treats him like a human being and makes him feel normal
I have watched this 3 times now and it moves me to tears every time. I was a child like your son. I was denied those opportunities. Stigma is alive and it is real, but so is hope. Thank you for your bravery and honesty.
I’m a 32 year old woman and I made a lot of bad decisions which led to incarceration,,if I would’ve listen to my mother and grandma I would have accomplished many things…..if this girl in this clip could see this…..SHAKEBACK NOW WHILE YOUR STILL AHEAD..YOUR MOM LOVES YOU❤️����
I thijnk that agustin looks fine just because he looks different doesnt mean that he should be disrespected same with black males it doesnt matter about your skin color it matters about how the racist act and i feel like blacks should not have to be racialy profiled just cuz their black and im white and i think that just because their black doesnt mean that their going to steal something yes their some blacks that have made some bad choices but guess what theirs alot of whites that dont make good decisions ALL LIVES MATTER ����������������
I see ALOT of good teachers on these shows and I bet they are underpaid in these schools and that is truly the saddest part a lot of these kids DEPEND on one good teacher to lead way when their home life is in this state Fund these schools �� and stop playing games
Amazing talk, Liz. I read your article and understood, and now your TED talk, wow! I’m the mother of twin, 28yr old sons, with schizophrenia. I KNOW what you are saying, and I agree with every word. Let’s end the stigma!
Thanks doc! I took a deep breath and did it! I am abroad, away from my teens. I shop for them online and they can’t be bothered (free)-returning items so I can be refunded. I told them if they don’t return items, there is a 3 month ban on new clothes. They immediately returned goods, and ensured they told me I had an “attitude” in giving that ultimatum! Lol. Of course I have watched your other vid and know not to argue! Lol! Phew! Thanks a million doc!
Great topic. Any tips for grandparents who knows that the mothers form of discipline is screaming and spanking with a spoon? Because it hurts more per her words to my son. I’m guessing prayer. But how can I speak truth to into him the one day a week that I have him? Obviously I won’t say anything bad about his mom but is there any way to counteract the bad?
The true struggle parents, family, friends is knowing that their child, friend or family doesn’t feel sad, they feel extreme sorrow, they feel loved or hated no in between and most of the time they feel rejected as I feel they know they’re different and most of the people like them need love and I understand that but not most people do, in fact most people do not know how to even have sympathy towards the immediate family or the child going through the storm, yes that’s how it feels, a storm and you do not know when the light will shine or if it will end sadly like it does for a lot of families, with suicide… yes that’s a reality, you want to love them except they don’t want as they are not able to change their perception of you as you are probably the “bad guy” there trying to enforce healthy boundaries or concequences and rewards, providing medical resources and advising on taking they’re medication, and on that note there are so many trial and errors, that just complicates things even worst, they only feel 1 way your “the bad guy”… takes a lot for them to live a joyful life and that hurts so much because they don’t ‘t deserve that at all, but they can’t get past the 1 way they feel… the reality is sad no one seems to care most of the time, I am a parent of a mentally ill child, I understand… everyone you shared your story with probably turned their back as it was “too much” for them, they don’t have time, they have their own lifes and parents like myself our mission is to help their children like my daughter find joy… mental illness stigma will never end unless you go through it yourself, you will never understand unless you live it, it’s not a God thing, it’s not a race thing, it’s a valuable life thing. I hope that there could only be more research and true real life resources for our kids, our future… I hope my testimony shares insight to the realities of parenting and overall experience with mental illness with everyone involved. It’s a big thing and it’s a real thing.
Children are especially at risk staring at a screen for long periods of time can hinder sight over time because of the strain it puts on the eyes. For parents, they need to protect their children’s eyes by putting blue filters on all digital devices (computers, iphones, ipads, etc.) There are many recommended blue screen filters these days and one of them is the ocushield screen protector. It’s beneficial and reasonable for daily use. I’ve tried it myself.
I am one of those parents that sat back and watched a child more than two in the struggle and I want to know what to do about it I want to turn this around just the other day somebody in Boston just got killed by their child that was diagnosed with me to end this I want to learn how to be an advocate cuz I’m tired of parents dying and getting killed by their children that they are trying to help with mental illness it’s now getting wrap it and crazy they’re not bad people they just struggling in life and I’m tired of them being dropped in put in with people that have drug abuse issues because that is not their issues it is not as same as being an addict they do not choose this situations somebody needs to speak up they’re not criminals
I’ll never understand. We recognize and treat diseased kidneys, hearts, livers,eyes, ears, lungs, brain trauma, but why not the mind? Why not the study of the brain? The part that affects our mental health? It’s as important if not more so than any of the other diseases. Why do we allow this?
Okay, I don’t blame crystal. But at the same time, why would she say that about her mother. Her mother is the only person in the world that will always love her and be there for her. And crystal saying that she won’t feel that sad about when something happens to her made me mad. It’s just sad that where she was raised at and grew up around made her think like that and make her choose the wrong.
I remember being a teenager like her saying similiar things about not caring about my mother, now im an adult with 3 children and i cant explain the level of empathy i have for my parents now. I cannot imagine the day i have to walk this earth without their presence. Nobody will ever love you like your mother.
Lol glad I sat down with my dinner and started watching the video, lol # unpredictable Hope things turn around for you dude:) Small coffee is the way to go then.
How do you handle being the nice mom and wanting to buy your kids things. I have this problem now. I dont know how to limit it because I want to get him things but want him to work for it. How do you know when you should and shouldnt and when do they absolutely deserve it. When do you tell them no and what do you say when you tell them the reasoning
One is not supposed to talk about his child mental illness. Yet when one knows a mother has a child with mental illness, she is often accused of being the cuprit of her child mental illness.
Mass murderers and dangerous children/individuals don’t really have mental illness, they have psychopathy which is more of a personality disorder. Lumping psychopath in with depression linked suicide is not okay. It’s adding to the stigma that people with mental illness are dangerous and a threat to society, which is usually not true at all. Psychopathy should be the subject of this conversation, NOT mental illness
I saw the TEDx talk by Sue Klebold before I saw this one. It’s crazy that this has only about 1% of views comparing to that Sue Klebold. Of course, part of it probably is because of Sue Klebold’s son will always be associated with Columbine.
But in the wake of the most recent tragedy like this in the US, I think talks like this should be shared broadly and greatly. One instances like this is already too many. Yes, the fact that people like these shooters’ family members come out to speak probably will not heal too much relative to the wounds that these shooters caused. However, the fact that these family members were willing to come out to speak about their experiences… we as society should accept the information with open arms. I can’t imagine what these family members are going through. However, I am sure each time they go out on a stage like this, they need a lot of courage to speak to educate us.
I really am so glad that I found your channel. I always knew my parents way was not the way but my worry for my kids often made me more strict than I should be at times and my husband to be too lenient or too strict. Having a teen who is strong willed and me having health issues is difficult but these tips really do help immensely. Thank you and Vicky so much for all that you do. You are both so very helpful.
Soon as I would have heard her say I meant nothing to her she’s out of my house you could have never thought you are going to sit here in my face and tell me you don’t respect me or love me but you can eat my food use my water and electricity goodbye
Can anyone give me any tips on how to be a mother to an mentally ill child?? It seems no matter what I do his behavior gets worse. PLEASE I NEED HELP ASAP!
You know what I think it is interesting is that I watched another Ted Talk by Eric Walton. He said he had a mental illness, he was sent to prison at 11 years old, and he spoke about the blog post that his mother wrote, “I’m Adam Lanza’s mother after the school shooting, and the picture that she show looks very similar to the one that he show. Is it just a coincidence or is that boy that spoke in the other Ted Talk her son?
I personally go back and forth about this topic within my family and extended family. my children are now 14 & 16 however have been on mobile devices for years. It is a juggling act! I’m glad my children are growing up in healthier ways and involved with Extracurricular activities!
We raise our child by this principal: freedom by performance. Is that healthy dr Paul? If they do what they need to do on their list we give the freedom on thing we control on our list
Scenario: one bedroom for four kids ages 1,3,6,10. The two babies are asleep, but can still be awakened easily. The two older kids are hyperactive because they are tired and we are putting them to bed. Mommy and daddy are tired and don’t want the babies to be awakened so we can go to bed too. What is the enforceable limit in this case for the two older kids as we are trying to keep them quiet so they don’t wake the littles? Thank you!
I have recently switched off the beeping sound whenever you switch the GoPro on and off. Went for a run the other day on the trails and somehow got it mixed where I recorded the “off” times. haha
I don’t usually comment on youtube videos, but this was the most hypocritical, humiliating, stigmatizing, disturbing, disgusting, sickening TEDx Talk I have ever seen. Is she seriously first linking “mental illness” to homicide and violence, comparing it to cancer and then saying “oh, and we need to stop stigma”? If we associate “mental illness” with extreme violence as she is suggesting, then of course people with that label won’t have the opportunities (friends, education, work) that other people have! I really hope that one day young people like Jani Schofield and her son will start to speak up for themselves. Because their parents DO NOT speak on their behalf. We need to seperate the interests and needs of children with mental health issues from those of their parents. Sadly growing up with parents who believe you have a brain disease is not really empowering or enabling you to shape your own ideas and opinions. Often when I see these “parent advocates” I think to myself and I know this is politically incorrect to say: I’m not surprised their kids don’t get better. Persons with annoyingly hysterical attitudes and low empathy lacking in self-restraint seem to be overrepresented in this group. Whenever I hear these people talk I am literally grateful that my parents (even though they have made many mistakes) are the way they are. I have, as a teenager, been labeled “severely mentally ill”, a “danger” to myself and others, been stigmatized and psychiatrized, been told I needed care for the rest of my life until I managed to escape from this so-called care. I am now living independently, studying and holding a scholarship. YES, stigma is still a problem, even if you manage to go on with your life. Talks like that of Liza Long make it WORSE.
My father is mentally ill. Not until I watched this video did I realise I am just as guilty of stigmatising mental illness as anyone else. If I, who experience it so close to home, can be so narrow-minded then I am not surprised everyone else is too!
The problem is the psychiatric drugs do not stop these tradegies & suffering. If these drugs cured we would not be having these convos & would not be having mental health disability rolls growing. The “treatment” is flawed & 12 Step religion is not a cure for adiction either.
Power full message and presentation, it’s time to talk about the Stigma to end it and a time machine is a metaphor i use in understanding PTSD or C-PTSD for myself and others.
Bless your heart. We do need to collectively change the stigma. I am also a mother with severe mental health issues. It has been debilitating for me. I have gone through the NAMI education class which really opened my eyes and was helpful, yet my heart aches every day watching his illness get worse and he doesn’t realize he has an illness. That as you probably know is called Anosognosia. My heart is aching today as I just had a very disturbing interaction with him. He’s 27. I pray for peace for the mentally ill and their families. This is such a horribly tough time right now. Thank you for speaking up. I am so sorry for the repercussions which resulted from doing so.
He is not a bad kid. He can’t help the way he is. Mental illness is very difficult to live with and is judged so harshly by society and people that don’t understand
My heart goes out to Ms. Long & her family! ❤️ all I have to say is: she is lucky her & her son were born white……. else he’d be a jailbird for the rest of his life. A white family is witnessing the everyday scrutiny of most poor, inner city families! That being said, this shouldn’t happen to anyone, anywhere
I am moved to tears. My son also has bi-polar and is on the austism spectrum disorder scale. He was taken from me at 12 for not attending school. It has been a hearbreak. I suffer from mental illness and have been empathetic to him to a fault sometimes but this woman is so right. We are afraid of what we don’t understand. The brain is much more mysterious than the body and people fear thinks they don’t understand and I think this is why the funding is not there as much and the support as a society is not there either. People can be fickle.
Might I suggest a little screen time with the crompet! https://www.audible.com/pd/B083Z9TH3H/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-179384&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_179384_rh_us
My child has depression too I see scrapes with n her hands every morning it’s so hard I don’t believe in drugs and at therapy she cries she’s only ten she needs to live her life happy
Wonderful, heartfelt presentation that my wife could also give. We lost a child who suffered from Bi-Polar disorder for more than 12 years and recently took his own life. He wouldn’t stay on meds, was in and out of hospitals, and at variouis times was homeless. Years ago he was discharged from a hospital after a week’s stay and his first day home refused to take his meds. We tried to reach his counselor for help.and he never called back. There are numerous stories such as this.. As a society, we do not treat the mentally ill. We do what litlle insurance will provide, send them to prison or leave them on the streets or let things go until they hurt someone or themselves. Isn’t it about time to do somthing?
I have a question (I don’t know if it has been answered in another of your videos since it’s been a few months that I’ve found you and I’m watching them slowly and taking down many notes!). Here it goes: How do you enforce the limita that you set. How? Which practical examples can you give me? Thanx in advance and hugs from Patagonia, Argentina ��
Thank you, thank you, Liza Long for your courage in pushing the plight of young people coping with serious mental illnesses and their families into national consciousness. There are many issues which we parents need to understand and help the public understand if we want to improve the utterly inadequate state of care for people with mental illnesses. I discuss some of these in my articles for Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/susan-inman
Very good and clear videos. Thank you for sharing. Giving some examples would realy help understand the information. For example when you say rules should come from love, what does that mean. Is teaching them manners love, for example?
Thank you so much Dr. Y Dra. I greatly appreciate this video! I now see the differences of those two very important elements that I totally had mixed up. Keep in bring it more advice because receptive & willing to learn/change my old ways for the health & sake of my beautiful fam(self too).
Most of the people here are parents but I’m a teenager going to be adult next month but all I think is I am a 2 year old cause I can’t do any discussion for my own self even in choosing career for my self but I don’t know how to deal with them cause my mother is never ready to listen to anything I want to say so please make a video for us kids to how to deal with my mother please
We need to have the stories spoken with our names. However.. we need to share our sorrow and our stories.. It is my problem and my families problem. One is five children in the USA has a serious and debilitating mental disorder. We ignore the families with mental illness. We look at everything else.. but we do not discuss this.
Do you know any brown people, for you could be mother of them also? Latina etc? You named white mothers and Asian. Great speech, but I am brown, and I am the mother of all children, but you must know, when to hold them, and when to fold them. Everyone is mentally ill, but when you start planning murders, then you need to be in a padded cell for life. Medications are not helping.
The boy bone problems is going to be very successful in the future keep up the good grades in school the sky’s the limit for you buddy xoxo God bless you and your family xoxo
This wasn’t mental illness this was autism, mental illness doesn’t manifest until teenage years, kids don’t even have a personality till around teenage age.
illness won’t begin until those same years.
this kid had autism he was banging his head like autistics do and other things thats a genetic birth disability this was all her fault get genetic counseling
My biggest challenge is my 17 year old son. He’s not motivated and he’s failing three classes. Do you have any suggestions for me? I know I can’t control what he does and doesn’t do. He doesn’t do his work. Were so discouraged and just don’t know how to help him. At this point it seems like we care more about his future than he does.
Ahh..being a single is parent is hard. I can understand because I did it for close to a year. I was on my knees by the 7-8 months. I hope your wife is back by the time you read this comment. Loved the video though. Bdw my GoPro also behaves sometimes like that and the fix I do is that I take out the battery and put it in again. Works like charm always.
The dignity that poor kid is displaying is so incredibly inspiring. I only hope that I face adversity in my life with his courage.
Crystal need somebody to except her the way she is. Her mom seems like she puts her down a lot. Crystal might have a low idea of herself because her mom is constantly putting her down. High school is very important, but life goes on after.
I feel so bad for the boy��he doesn’t deserve to be there his anger isn’t Bc he wants to be angry it’s Bc people make fun of him intentionally and the only way he can express how he feels is thru negative actions I feel soooo bad����watching him broke me☹️
Does anyone else find it ironic that a story about limiting screen time includes a nearly 4 minute video about limiting screen time?
I just found this. More people need to watch it. My son is also mentally ill. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with and it is very hard to locate help with children like this
And then there are my parents that deny that mental illnesses exist. And say that my boyfriend and a therapist just convinced me that I was sick
No mental illness is just something that humans made up because they are scared of showimg their true feelings no matter how bad or good it is she is right that we have to talk about our feelings but mental illness is some thing that they made it up so no one go out of the box
I love how we are constantly told to limit screen time without any real concrete ways how to.. I remember my generation growing up with tons of screentime and we turned out ok… also sending our kids out to play outside on their own isn’t an option anymore so…
The mother is the problem. I would hate to have someone point out flaws and making me feel Like I’m doing something wrong. Ofc SHES angry and violent
As soon as she started speaking, I suspected she was Eric Walton’s mother. Then the picture appeared, and voilà! What puzzles me is how dissimilar are the ways in which both refer to how they have endured that critical period in their lives.
The funny thing is that one day that daughter is going to be in her mother’s position (or even worse) worrying about her own kids. Then she will understand.
Nothing like tough lo ve….from a young age be toough on them…then be sweet….the real world is not going to kiss your feet
If i was at the school id hang with Augustin and defend him bc i had a friend who had a disability and he was bullied so bad and he wanted to kill himself but he didnt have a gun so everyone found out and one kid followed him home and shot him 34 times,and he was so nice they didnt have a funeral for him bc his body was in a horrible condition since he was shot so much times
I don’t like anyone who wants an “obedient” child or wants to have “control” over them. You teach your kid life skills, you teach them how to deal with real-life issues, you teach them life and social skills to take care of themselves, not to obey your commands. That’s how you create kids who hate you, who resent you, either they rebel like Crystal, or they end up terrified in the world and unable to make decisions for themselves. Her mother has an air of “I’m the mom, I’m doing well, this is her fault” but Crystal is just responding to the attitude she was raised with.
This talk brought tears to my eyes several times. I gravitate to people with mental illness. My best friends have schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and social anxiety disorder. I try to be supportive and understanding, and they all really are some of the most amazing people I’ve ever met. They are just misunderstood and they tend to be afraid of treatment because of the lack of flexibility and kindness in the treatment arena. Please get behind the cause of accepting and understanding mental illness!
Do you folks know that mental illness/ disorder isn’t just depression. It’s an illness of the mind. Including eating disorders, bulimic, anorexia. Parkinsons, schizophrenia, bipolar, Alzheimer, etc. etc., there are hundreds.
I haven’t even watched the video, just read some of the comments. Most of you need to get educated.
It’s like saying a health illness is only a sore throat!!!
Agustin makes me sad. You can tell he’s a good kid and doesn’t deserve to be put in a shitty school like that. I hope he meets someone who treats him like a human being and makes him feel normal
I have watched this 3 times now and it moves me to tears every time. I was a child like your son. I was denied those opportunities. Stigma is alive and it is real, but so is hope. Thank you for your bravery and honesty.
I’m a 32 year old woman and I made a lot of bad decisions which led to incarceration,,if I would’ve listen to my mother and grandma I would have accomplished many things…..if this girl in this clip could see this…..SHAKEBACK NOW WHILE YOUR STILL AHEAD..YOUR MOM LOVES YOU❤️����
I thijnk that agustin looks fine just because he looks different doesnt mean that he should be disrespected same with black males it doesnt matter about your skin color it matters about how the racist act and i feel like blacks should not have to be racialy profiled just cuz their black and im white and i think that just because their black doesnt mean that their going to steal something yes their some blacks that have made some bad choices but guess what theirs alot of whites that dont make good decisions ALL LIVES MATTER ����������������
I see ALOT of good teachers on these shows and I bet they are underpaid in these schools and that is truly the saddest part a lot of these kids DEPEND on one good teacher to lead way when their home life is in this state
Fund these schools �� and stop playing games
Amazing talk, Liz. I read your article and understood, and now your TED talk, wow! I’m the mother of twin, 28yr old sons, with schizophrenia. I KNOW what you are saying, and I agree with every word. Let’s end the stigma!
Thanks doc! I took a deep breath and did it! I am abroad, away from my teens. I shop for them online and they can’t be bothered (free)-returning items so I can be refunded. I told them if they don’t return items, there is a 3 month ban on new clothes. They immediately returned goods, and ensured they told me I had an “attitude” in giving that ultimatum! Lol. Of course I have watched your other vid and know not to argue! Lol! Phew! Thanks a million doc!
Great topic. Any tips for grandparents who knows that the mothers form of discipline is screaming and spanking with a spoon? Because it hurts more per her words to my son. I’m guessing prayer. But how can I speak truth to into him the one day a week that I have him? Obviously I won’t say anything bad about his mom but is there any way to counteract the bad?
The true struggle parents, family, friends is knowing that their child, friend or family doesn’t feel sad, they feel extreme sorrow, they feel loved or hated no in between and most of the time they feel rejected as I feel they know they’re different and most of the people like them need love and I understand that but not most people do, in fact most people do not know how to even have sympathy towards the immediate family or the child going through the storm, yes that’s how it feels, a storm and you do not know when the light will shine or if it will end sadly like it does for a lot of families, with suicide… yes that’s a reality, you want to love them except they don’t want as they are not able to change their perception of you as you are probably the “bad guy” there trying to enforce healthy boundaries or concequences and rewards, providing medical resources and advising on taking they’re medication, and on that note there are so many trial and errors, that just complicates things even worst, they only feel 1 way your “the bad guy”… takes a lot for them to live a joyful life and that hurts so much because they don’t ‘t deserve that at all, but they can’t get past the 1 way they feel… the reality is sad no one seems to care most of the time, I am a parent of a mentally ill child, I understand… everyone you shared your story with probably turned their back as it was “too much” for them, they don’t have time, they have their own lifes and parents like myself our mission is to help their children like my daughter find joy… mental illness stigma will never end unless you go through it yourself, you will never understand unless you live it, it’s not a God thing, it’s not a race thing, it’s a valuable life thing. I hope that there could only be more research and true real life resources for our kids, our future… I hope my testimony shares insight to the realities of parenting and overall experience with mental illness with everyone involved. It’s a big thing and it’s a real thing.
Children are especially at risk staring at a screen for long periods of time can hinder sight over time because of the strain it puts on the eyes. For parents, they need to protect their children’s eyes by putting blue filters on all digital devices (computers, iphones, ipads, etc.) There are many recommended blue screen filters these days and one of them is the ocushield screen protector. It’s beneficial and reasonable for daily use. I’ve tried it myself.
I am one of those parents that sat back and watched a child more than two in the struggle and I want to know what to do about it I want to turn this around just the other day somebody in Boston just got killed by their child that was diagnosed with me to end this I want to learn how to be an advocate cuz I’m tired of parents dying and getting killed by their children that they are trying to help with mental illness it’s now getting wrap it and crazy they’re not bad people they just struggling in life and I’m tired of them being dropped in put in with people that have drug abuse issues because that is not their issues it is not as same as being an addict they do not choose this situations somebody needs to speak up they’re not criminals
I’ll never understand. We recognize and treat diseased kidneys, hearts, livers,eyes, ears, lungs, brain trauma, but why not the mind? Why not the study of the brain? The part that affects our mental health? It’s as important if not more so than any of the other diseases. Why do we allow this?
Okay, I don’t blame crystal. But at the same time, why would she say that about her mother. Her mother is the only person in the world that will always love her and be there for her. And crystal saying that she won’t feel that sad about when something happens to her made me mad. It’s just sad that where she was raised at and grew up around made her think like that and make her choose the wrong.
I remember being a teenager like her saying similiar things about not caring about my mother, now im an adult with 3 children and i cant explain the level of empathy i have for my parents now. I cannot imagine the day i have to walk this earth without their presence. Nobody will ever love you like your mother.
Lol glad I sat down with my dinner and started watching the video, lol # unpredictable Hope things turn around for you dude:) Small coffee is the way to go then.
How do you handle being the nice mom and wanting to buy your kids things. I have this problem now. I dont know how to limit it because I want to get him things but want him to work for it. How do you know when you should and shouldnt and when do they absolutely deserve it. When do you tell them no and what do you say when you tell them the reasoning
One is not supposed to talk about his child mental illness. Yet when one knows a mother has a child with mental illness, she is often accused of being the cuprit of her child mental illness.
Mass murderers and dangerous children/individuals don’t really have mental illness, they have psychopathy which is more of a personality disorder. Lumping psychopath in with depression linked suicide is not okay. It’s adding to the stigma that people with mental illness are dangerous and a threat to society, which is usually not true at all. Psychopathy should be the subject of this conversation, NOT mental illness
I saw the TEDx talk by Sue Klebold before I saw this one. It’s crazy that this has only about 1% of views comparing to that Sue Klebold. Of course, part of it probably is because of Sue Klebold’s son will always be associated with Columbine.
But in the wake of the most recent tragedy like this in the US, I think talks like this should be shared broadly and greatly. One instances like this is already too many. Yes, the fact that people like these shooters’ family members come out to speak probably will not heal too much relative to the wounds that these shooters caused. However, the fact that these family members were willing to come out to speak about their experiences… we as society should accept the information with open arms. I can’t imagine what these family members are going through. However, I am sure each time they go out on a stage like this, they need a lot of courage to speak to educate us.
This is just a perfect mirror to how some of my weeks go. Between the dogs and kids. Admittedly one of the dogs is motivation for some running.
I really am so glad that I found your channel. I always knew my parents way was not the way but my worry for my kids often made me more strict than I should be at times and my husband to be too lenient or too strict. Having a teen who is strong willed and me having health issues is difficult but these tips really do help immensely. Thank you and Vicky so much for all that you do. You are both so very helpful.
Soon as I would have heard her say I meant nothing to her she’s out of my house you could have never thought you are going to sit here in my face and tell me you don’t respect me or love me but you can eat my food use my water and electricity goodbye
Can anyone give me any tips on how to be a mother to an mentally ill child?? It seems no matter what I do his behavior gets worse. PLEASE I NEED HELP ASAP!
You know what I think it is interesting is that I watched another Ted Talk by Eric Walton. He said he had a mental illness, he was sent to prison at 11 years old, and he spoke about the blog post that his mother wrote, “I’m Adam Lanza’s mother after the school shooting, and the picture that she show looks very similar to the one that he show. Is it just a coincidence or is that boy that spoke in the other Ted Talk her son?
I personally go back and forth about this topic within my family and extended family. my children are now 14 & 16 however have been on mobile devices for years. It is a juggling act! I’m glad my children are growing up in healthier ways and involved with Extracurricular activities!
We raise our child by this principal: freedom by performance. Is that healthy dr Paul? If they do what they need to do on their list we give the freedom on thing we control on our list
Scenario: one bedroom for four kids ages 1,3,6,10. The two babies are asleep, but can still be awakened easily. The two older kids are hyperactive because they are tired and we are putting them to bed. Mommy and daddy are tired and don’t want the babies to be awakened so we can go to bed too. What is the enforceable limit in this case for the two older kids as we are trying to keep them quiet so they don’t wake the littles? Thank you!
I have recently switched off the beeping sound whenever you switch the GoPro on and off. Went for a run the other day on the trails and somehow got it mixed where I recorded the “off” times. haha
sorry I would whooped Crystal’s ass…I have a 14 yr old and no WAY NO HOW…BE HOME BY 10PM! MY ASS. MY 14 YR OLD NEEDS TO BE HOME BY 6PM
I don’t usually comment on youtube videos, but this was the most hypocritical, humiliating, stigmatizing, disturbing, disgusting, sickening TEDx Talk I have ever seen. Is she seriously first linking “mental illness” to homicide and violence, comparing it to cancer and then saying “oh, and we need to stop stigma”? If we associate “mental illness” with extreme violence as she is suggesting, then of course people with that label won’t have the opportunities (friends, education, work) that other people have! I really hope that one day young people like Jani Schofield and her son will start to speak up for themselves. Because their parents DO NOT speak on their behalf. We need to seperate the interests and needs of children with mental health issues from those of their parents. Sadly growing up with parents who believe you have a brain disease is not really empowering or enabling you to shape your own ideas and opinions.
Often when I see these “parent advocates” I think to myself and I know this is politically incorrect to say: I’m not surprised their kids don’t get better. Persons with annoyingly hysterical attitudes and low empathy lacking in self-restraint seem to be overrepresented in this group. Whenever I hear these people talk I am literally grateful that my parents (even though they have made many mistakes) are the way they are.
I have, as a teenager, been labeled “severely mentally ill”, a “danger” to myself and others, been stigmatized and psychiatrized, been told I needed care for the rest of my life until I managed to escape from this so-called care. I am now living independently, studying and holding a scholarship. YES, stigma is still a problem, even if you manage to go on with your life. Talks like that of Liza Long make it WORSE.
That Sanchez girl is so spoiled that’s why she is the way she is her mom just let her do whatever she wants what do you expect she’s gonna be a thug
My father is mentally ill. Not until I watched this video did I realise I am just as guilty of stigmatising mental illness as anyone else. If I, who experience it so close to home, can be so narrow-minded then I am not surprised everyone else is too!
The problem is the psychiatric drugs do not stop these tradegies & suffering. If these drugs cured we would not be having these convos & would not be having mental health disability rolls growing. The “treatment” is flawed & 12 Step religion is not a cure for adiction either.
Power full message and presentation, it’s time to talk about the Stigma to end it and a time machine is a metaphor i use in understanding PTSD or C-PTSD for myself and others.
Bless your heart. We do need to collectively change the stigma. I am also a mother with severe mental health issues. It has been debilitating for me. I have gone through the NAMI education class which really opened my eyes and was helpful, yet my heart aches every day watching his illness get worse and he doesn’t realize he has an illness. That as you probably know is called Anosognosia. My heart is aching today as I just had a very disturbing interaction with him. He’s 27. I pray for peace for the mentally ill and their families. This is such a horribly tough time right now. Thank you for speaking up. I am so sorry for the repercussions which resulted from doing so.
He is not a bad kid. He can’t help the way he is. Mental illness is very difficult to live with and is judged so harshly by society and people that don’t understand
My heart goes out to Ms. Long & her family! ❤️ all I have to say is: she is lucky her & her son were born white……. else he’d be a jailbird for the rest of his life. A white family is witnessing the everyday scrutiny of most poor, inner city families! That being said, this shouldn’t happen to anyone, anywhere
I am moved to tears. My son also has bi-polar and is on the austism spectrum disorder scale. He was taken from me at 12 for not attending school. It has been a hearbreak. I suffer from mental illness and have been empathetic to him to a fault sometimes but this woman is so right. We are afraid of what we don’t understand. The brain is much more mysterious than the body and people fear thinks they don’t understand and I think this is why the funding is not there as much and the support as a society is not there either. People can be fickle.
Might I suggest a little screen time with the crompet! https://www.audible.com/pd/B083Z9TH3H/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-179384&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_179384_rh_us
My child has depression too I see scrapes with n her hands every morning it’s so hard I don’t believe in drugs and at therapy she cries she’s only ten she needs to live her life happy
Wonderful, heartfelt presentation that my wife could also give. We lost a child who suffered from Bi-Polar disorder for more than 12 years and recently took his own life. He wouldn’t stay on meds, was in and out of hospitals, and at variouis times was homeless. Years ago he was discharged from a hospital after a week’s stay and his first day home refused to take his meds. We tried to reach his counselor for help.and he never called back. There are numerous stories such as this.. As a society, we do not treat the mentally ill. We do what litlle insurance will provide, send them to prison or leave them on the streets or let things go until they hurt someone or themselves. Isn’t it about time to do somthing?
I have a question (I don’t know if it has been answered in another of your videos since it’s been a few months that I’ve found you and I’m watching them slowly and taking down many notes!). Here it goes: How do you enforce the limita that you set. How? Which practical examples can you give me? Thanx in advance and hugs from Patagonia, Argentina ��
Thank you, thank you, Liza Long for your courage in pushing the plight of young people coping with serious mental illnesses and their families into national consciousness. There are many issues which we parents need to understand and help the public understand if we want to improve the utterly inadequate state of care for people with mental illnesses. I discuss some of these in my articles for Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/susan-inman
Very good and clear videos. Thank you for sharing. Giving some examples would realy help understand the information. For example when you say rules should come from love, what does that mean. Is teaching them manners love, for example?
Thank you so much Dr. Y Dra. I greatly appreciate this video! I now see the differences of those two very important elements that I totally had mixed up. Keep in bring it more advice because receptive & willing to learn/change my old ways for the health & sake of my beautiful fam(self too).
Most of the people here are parents but I’m a teenager going to be adult next month but all I think is I am a 2 year old cause I can’t do any discussion for my own self even in choosing career for my self but I don’t know how to deal with them cause my mother is never ready to listen to anything I want to say so please make a video for us kids to how to deal with my mother please
We need to have the stories spoken with our names. However.. we need to share our sorrow and our stories..
It is my problem and my families problem.
One is five children in the USA has a serious and debilitating mental disorder.
We ignore the families with mental illness.
We look at everything else.. but we do not discuss this.
Do you know any brown people, for you could be mother of them also? Latina etc? You named white mothers and Asian. Great speech, but I am brown, and I am the mother of all children, but you must know, when to hold them, and when to fold them. Everyone is mentally ill, but when you start planning murders, then you need to be in a padded cell for life. Medications are not helping.
The boy bone problems is going to be very successful in the future keep up the good grades in school the sky’s the limit for you buddy xoxo God bless you and your family xoxo
This wasn’t mental illness this was autism, mental illness doesn’t manifest until teenage years, kids don’t even have a personality till around teenage age.
illness won’t begin until those same years.
this kid had autism he was banging his head like autistics do and other things thats a genetic birth disability this was all her fault get genetic counseling
My biggest challenge is my 17 year old son. He’s not motivated and he’s failing three classes. Do you have any suggestions for me? I know I can’t control what he does and doesn’t do. He doesn’t do his work. Were so discouraged and just don’t know how to help him. At this point it seems like we care more about his future than he does.