Weaning, Sadness, and Depression

 

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And, while weaning may be a natural part of your little one’s development that signals growth and independence, it can certainly be a time of sadness and depression for you. These feelings are normal and more common than you might think. Here are five reasons you may feel sad or depressed during the weaning process. Sadness and depression during (and after) weaning.

By Kelly Bonyata, IBCLC, Becky Flora, IBCLC and Paula Yount. It’s not unusual to feel tearful, sad or mildly depressed after weaning; some mothers also experience irritability, anxiety, or mood swings. These feelings are usually short-term and should go away in a few weeks, but some mothers experience more severe symptoms that require. Post-weaning depression is a term used to describe depression that can occur after a woman stops breastfeeding. It can come as a result of hormonal fluctuations and/or the psychological stress of.

There has been a great deal of attention on postnatal depression (also known as postpartum depression) in the last few Post Weaning Depression 7 Tips To Help Ease Sadness | BellyBelly Weaning can be an emotional time – especially when it’s your last baby. New Delhi: Post-weaning depression is a form of mental illness which can occur after a woman stops breastfeeding. Like other depression, it requires immediate medical attention.

It is a result of hormonal fluctuations and the psychological stress of weaning the baby away from breast milk in favour of semi-solid food. Susan Schade, a writer and 39-year-old mother of three, also blogged about her experience with depression and weaning. She said that it left her with what felt like the “worst PMS” she’d ever experienced. Schade was tired, nauseous, easily irritated and felt unexplained sadness.

After talking to her doctor, she found out that it was common for women to experience some depression after weaning due to a shift in hormone levels. It feels like the worst PMS that I have ever experienced. Emotionally, I feel like I did right around the time when I became pregnant. All depression is misunderstood but postpartum and post-weaning depression are especially hard because both conditions hit women at a time when other people insist they should be happy — a time.

Any history of anxiety or depression can also put women at a greater risk for both of those things when they wean, according to O’Neill. She added that weaning abruptly instead of. New Delhi, Aug 12 (IANSlife) Post-weaning depression is a form of mental illness which can occur after a woman stops breastfeeding.

Like other depression, it requires immediate medical attention. It is a result of hormonal fluctuations and/or the psychological stress of weaning the baby away from breast milk in favour of semi-solid food.

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When abrupt weaning takes place, it may be psychologically traumatic for infant and mother.

“Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession” by Ruth A. Lawrence, MD, Robert M. Lawrence, MD
from Breastfeeding: A Guide for the Medical Profession
by Ruth A. Lawrence, MD, Robert M. Lawrence, MD
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2015

Some women go through a grieving period after weaning.

“Maternal Child Nursing Care in Canada E-Book” by Shannon E. Perry, Marilyn J. Hockenberry, Deitra Leonard Lowdermilk, Lisa Keenan-Lindsay, David Wilson, Cheryl A. Sams
from Maternal Child Nursing Care in Canada E-Book
by Shannon E. Perry, Marilyn J. Hockenberry, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2016

Every psychologist will tell you that weaning is a sensitive time and potentially traumatic.

“My Child Won't Eat: How to Enjoy Mealtimes Without Worry” by Carlos González
from My Child Won’t Eat: How to Enjoy Mealtimes Without Worry
by Carlos González
Pinter & Martin Limited, 2012

Weaning is apparently quite traumatic for the!Kung, and several people that Shostak interviewed in her fieldwork had vivid memories of the unhappiness they experienced at that time.

“Encyclopedia of Medical Anthropology: Health and Illness in the World's Cultures Topics Volume 1; Cultures -” by Carol R. Ember, Melvin Ember
from Encyclopedia of Medical Anthropology: Health and Illness in the World’s Cultures Topics Volume 1; Cultures –
by Carol R. Ember, Melvin Ember
Springer US, 2003

Weaning did not involve punishment or abrupt cessation of nursing, but weaning conflict could be severe, involving protest and depressed behavior for weeks to months.

“Hunter-gatherer Childhoods: Evolutionary, Developmental, and Cultural Perspectives” by Barry S. Hewlett, Michael E. Lamb
from Hunter-gatherer Childhoods: Evolutionary, Developmental, and Cultural Perspectives
by Barry S. Hewlett, Michael E. Lamb
Transaction Publishers,

The signs of depression and the differences among normal “baby blues,” normal grieving, and postpartum depression should be explained.

“Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women's Health Nursing” by Sharon Smith Murray, MSN, RN, C, Emily Slone McKinney, MSN, RN, C
from Foundations of Maternal-Newborn and Women’s Health Nursing
by Sharon Smith Murray, MSN, RN, C, Emily Slone McKinney, MSN, RN, C
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2013

Social and emotional development is closely linked to the mother’s emotional state—60% to 80% of mothers experience “baby blues” in the first 2 weeks of life, 10% to 15% have postpartum depression during the first year of the infant’s life, and 0.1% to 0.2% present with postpartum psychosis.

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from Pediatric Primary Care E-Book
by Catherine E. Burns, Ardys M. Dunn, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2012

It is common for mothers to feel some regret or sadness when breastfeeding ends, even if they wanted to wean.

“Counseling the Nursing Mother” by Judith Lauwers, Anna Swisher
from Counseling the Nursing Mother
by Judith Lauwers, Anna Swisher
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2015

During this period persecutory and depressive anxiety are again and again activated, as for instance in the experiences of teething and weaning.

“Envy and Gratitude” by Melanie Klein
from Envy and Gratitude
by Melanie Klein
Free Press, 2002

Since the mother is, for her infant, his whole world, it is no wonder that some infants become so depressed during the peak of weaning—for the first time, they experience determined maternal rejection.

“Through a Window: My Thirty Years with the Chimpanzees of Gombe” by Jane Goodall
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by Jane Goodall
Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2010

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  • Brilliant video, I needed to hear that, thank you �� I haven’t given up yet but my milk supply is dwindling out of nowhere at 4 months despite pumping and supplements etc and my baby isn’t gaining enough weight. I never realised I’d be so heartbroken at the thought of giving up.

  • When I had my second baby, my first baby was barely 2 years old. Three months into having my youngest home, I found myself crying over everything. No reason for it. I would go to put my oldest, Alex, down for his nap, and then my youngest, Zach, would want to be fed. Since Alex didn’t want to go to sleep by himself, I would have to sit in there with him and feed Zach at the same time. Then Alex, though he had been weaned for over a year, would get jealous and feel like Zach was getting all of the attention. Then a temper tantrum would happen. I just didn’t know how to handle it, and I would get so overwhelmed that I would cry for much longer than Alex was pitching his own tantrum. This made me feel terrible; like I was neglecting my first born because he seemed like he felt like he needed more and I didn’t know how to cope and give him what he needed.

    Then, it got to a point to where everything that could go wrong, did, even though I am told by my husband that none of it was as bad as it was affecting me. My interest in everything declined. I neglected my husband and my children. I took care of their every need, don’t get me wrong. They were cared for. But I did not show the affection and I was not as present for them as I should have been. Luckily, I had a very special friend who noticed all of this and told me, well, basically made me go to the doctor. She noticed all the symptoms I was exhibiting of postpartum. So I did. I went and saw my doctor, and I ended up on an antidepressant, and I have no shame in admitting that. It was the only way that I could care for my children without breaking down at the drop of a hat. It helped me through the hard times I was experiencing. Now I have an overenthusiastic but loving 4-year-old, and a sweet as can be 2-year-old, and I am so glad that I took my doctor’s advice and started the medication. It helped me to really be present in their lives. There is nothing wrong with taking the medication that will help you. Postpartum is not to be taken lightly. I am proud that you were finally able to do so. Much love, from mine to yours darling. Enjoy that sweet child and wonderful husband you have, girl. You’ve GOT this =)

  • I have to stop breastfeeding because my baby still has jaundice and it’s because of my breastmilk and I’m so depressed, I can’t stop crying.. I didn’t know this was something that was going on with other women too

  • I’m so happy I found this video! I so needed this right now. I’ve been breastfeeding my baby since birth and he’s almost 7 months now and although I’ve loved it I know that it’s the right time to slowly wean him from the breast onto a bottle. His slow weight gain means that he probably needs just that little bit more from his diet but everytime I think about stopping I’m in flood of tears! I feel like my heart is being crushed slowly and it makes me feel useless as his mum. I didn’t know breastfeeding grief existed but I’m going to look into much more now…thank you again for making this video, you can’t imagine how much it’s helped me today.

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  • So happy to hear you are doing much better. Matt and your close circle of family and friends did the right thing by supporting you and being by your side. Matt saw the warning signs right on time and took action right on time.
    Depression in any way, shape or form is a thief. It robs us of our own thoughts and actions. It takes away our joy and replaces it with doubt, fear, and anger. It does not discriminate, it does not care about your appearance, stage in life or social status. It can damage or dissipate relationships and in the worst cases cause us to do and think the unimaginable.
    The best thing you can do with someone that’s going through this is to be understanding and supportive. Never judge but do influence them to seek professional help.
    Angela, thank you for sharing. I’m confident someone that is going through this will understand and seek help as needed.
    Sending you much love ❤️

  • After watching some of these videos, I think that I might be more than sad, but then I feel like Im just trying to make myself relate to everything and Im overreacting. I feel like telling my parents, but, honestly, I feel like as long as I’m physically healthy, I’m “ok” to them. I want to open up to someone, but I feel like my friends wouldn’t get it, cause I have set myself up as someone who is always carefree. This all leads up to me randomly typing up my feelings to strangers on the internet. Something I never thought I’d do.

  • Thank you for this video!
    I have a nearly 4 week old and only managed to bf for 2 weeks due to being in so much pain with breasts and nipples then having mastitis. I have been expressing little amounts but feel my supply is now drying up and it saddens me that my baby is now purely formula fed as I was so determined to bf for at least the first 3 months.
    I think you’ve totally nailed it with grief, I know he will be healthy no matter what but I still can’t help feeling a bit of a failure for not achieving my goal however I feel so much happier and physically healthier now he’s on formula x

  • Thank you for being so raw and honest. This is so important for other women and potential soon-to-be mom’s to understand that this could happen and to recognize the emotions/feelings that come along with pregnancy. Praying that God transforms your life through this hard experience and He is already using you to speak into others lives:)

  • Thank you for this. I definitely suffered with this (and still am 4 years on a bit). We put so much pressure on ourselves to always succeed, so all I could feel was that I had failed. The message that ‘breast is best’ from health care professionals doesn’t help when it’s not working for you, because you need different support. So much to say, but I’ll stop now x

  • i mean, i know what you mean, but I suffer from depression and it’s a little like sadness. sadness is classed as an emotion, but although it may seem extreme sometimes it’s not really the same as anger or bliss. sadness is your bodie’s naturaul reaction to loss. you’re brain is almost breaking from the loss sometimes, while other time’s it is really just a bit confused. in animals, it is the loss of a person or a thing, but since we’re humans it’s a little weirder. it can be the loss of a concept, like how you thought you were going to have a burger but the shop is out of stock. sometimes it’s the loss of a mindset, or the loss of your past. it gets very complicated since humans are complicated animals. but i’ve found that sadness is either very bitter and hurting and upsetting, or it’s confusing and teary and dull. depression has the same sort of aura as sadness, but feels a little more slumpy and worn. it doesn’t have the bitter upsetting side OR the confusing and teary side, because it is not your brains reaction to loss. so it’s like sadness but without the actual emotion part. i used to say “i feel sad” or “i feel upset”, but those are emotions and people thought i was just feeling bad that day. so maybe teachers could talk about depression and mental disorders and handling your thoughts and feelings in PSHE instead of those stupid reaction quizzes.

  • I watched to find an answer if Im just sad or beginning to be depressed…
    But still I don’t have an answer because all my behaviors are checked on both sides. I began losing interest to my personal hobby, but tho my empty feeling seemed to fade and come back. And what’s concerning me is even with simple things I get sad. Maybe Im just overreacting or maybe this is just sadness. I wish.

  • What an amazing incredible story I am not a mother yet but hearing your story if it happens. to me I’ll know what to do and focus on being healthy hearing your story was just so beautiful and you can hear the emotions in your voice stay positive, praying for you and from one gorgeous girl to another, stay strong!

  • I dont know to be honest.
    I have always felt bad about myself
    I starve myself at times and than eat whatever I can
    I cant sleep anymore and sometimes i oversleep
    I never leave my room and hate talking to people
    I dont like talking to people about my problems
    My parents are toxic and make me hate myself even more
    I dont even know why I am feeling this way
    I feel numb now,, the only way I can feel good is when I cut myself.
    I always fake a smile and hide my feelings but I dont want to look like I just want attention.
    I hate myself and dont want to be alive, I’ve felt like this for a year and a half now.
    I never shower anymore,sometimes it takes me 2 weeks until I bath again.
    Nobody cares and nobody has noticed.
    I dont know if i need help I think this is just normal right?

  • Normally I don’t comment on videos, but I wanted to thank you for this. I dealt with postpartum depression after I had my daughter in November. I felt so guilty and shameful for having these feelings when I should be grateful for my beautiful baby. I found relief with medication and therapy, and while I do have my days where I do still struggle at times (anxiety is something I’ve always struggled with), I’ve learned how to cope better. I no longer feel guilt or shame for having these feelings, and I know now that I’m not a bad mother for feeling this way. Sorry for the rant! Thank you again for sharing your story! Sending positive vibes your way, mama! ❤️

  • oh thankyou so much for making this video! My son is one week old tomorrow and I moved on from Breast feeding after day 3. He had a bad latch one day and my nipples got sore this however happened at the same time he was cluster feeding to order up his milk supply. He didn’t sleep all night i was in agony all night in a complete state of helplessness. I felt like the most awful mother in the world! Like I had failed before I had even begun. I began to dread every feed and I felt it was ruining my bond with him and that I wasnt enjoying motherhood like I had expected to. I was terrified to say to the midwife that I had made the decision to stop Breast feeding but she was the most wonderful midwife and put my mind at ease. I then felt like a completely useless idiot when I had to ask my mother in law how to make bottles because of course I never planned on having to do it. I am still feeling that grief/guilt when someone else feeds him or I worry our bond won’t be as strong. This video is exactly what I needed to feel better and more confident of my choice. Thankyou this has helped me more than you know xxx

  • Thank you for talking about this, it’s most definitely a thing and should be spoken about more freely. I like what you said about ‘moving on’ from breast feeding and not using negative language like ‘giving up’ when for most mums it’s more than likely not a choice they are making but a necessity due to circumstances beyond their control. ❤️

  • if you have depression try to smile it’ll make you better

    yeah if your going to get killed by someone, you smile to make it go away.

  • I know this video is about postpartum, but I experienced everything you were talking about during my transition into menopause. I think for women, it’s about our hormones. Yes, I felt so vulnerable and stripped bare after not sleeping more than an hour( if even that) for more than 6 months. I never thought that it was possible to survive on such little sleep. I was humbled down to the core of my being. I too, held out for far too long and didn’t want any medication. I had lost 30 pounds just by not having an appetite. My sense of smell was heightened and I couldn’t open the refrigerator. I never realized before how close I felt to rock bottom, that my survival was hanging by a shred. I finally took medication for depression and a medication for sleep. When you are feeling so low, you are the least likely to pull yourself out of it. I saw a functional medicine doctor also, but things just weren’t getting better quick enough for me. After a couple of months I started to feel more hopeful and more like myself. We do sometimes just need to accept help. I can honestly say that it saved my life. I have had hormonal problems all my life with endometriosis, migraines, postpartum with my 2 children, fibromyalgia. Get help if you need to ladies, sometimes we just can’t do it alone.

  • I had massive guilt with my third baby who is now 19 weeks old and i believe this is what led to my post natal depression and ruined my time with all my family for the first 8 weeks of his life. I really really wanted to breast feed him I’d done lots of research, bought everything I would need nipple cream nursing bras a pump so my hubby could feed him expressed milk. He was put straight onto my chest after birth only one breast was producing colostrum. The midwife syringed some of that Breast while my son was apparently supposed to instinctively know to nuzzle my other and start to feed. He didn’t so in the labour room they fed him the syringed milk. Then hours later up on the water he was screaming like he was hungry and a lovely midwife sat with me and tried to make him feed but he would do 6 sucks then stop latching. This kept going on all night. I was in agony with my stitches. Shattered from labour. No idea what I was doing breastfeeding wise. And at 4am in the morning we had to give him a bottle as he hadn’t eaten except the syringe milk and he took to the bottle straight away as the midwife who was helping me had wondered if he had tongue tie. But she put his lack of breastfeeding down to my breast been too big for his mouth. She also had said they couldn’t discharge me if I was syringe feeding which terrified me as the thought of another night on the ward and away from my hubby and kids was awful I wAnted us to be all together at home. So I think looking back I made abit of a rash decision quitting breastfeeding. However it really wasn’t working out and baby was getting stressed and hungry I was getting upset and worrying that he wasn’t eating and it wasn’t a happy experience for either of us. Then I went home and felt fine till day 3 when all my milk came in and I sat crying in the bath watching it all run out. I then tried expressing but couldn’t get enough out for him. But he’s the happiest baby on formula and he’s just started weaning after starting to steal food from my plate at tea times. The cheeky monkey. I think it’s awful and really said the amount of pressure we put on ourselves as mums. As long as baby is fed and thriving it doesn’t matter how the milk gets to them:-) it took me a lot of time to actually realise this xxxx

  • You see I know why im sad but I don’t know why I would want to die, why I feel worthless, why some days im fine and feel worthless and other days I just wonder wtf is wrong with me.
    Hardest thing for me is telling my parents, or siblings, friends, trusted adults. It’s fricking scary and the thoughts I have is the worst and what I think scares myself.

  • I feel guilt that my firstborn and I didn’t have the breastfeeding journey as my others. It is so more difficult than you think it will be. I am so chuffed though that it made me more determined with my next 3. I have vlogged about my journey on all 4 breastfeeding experiences and so this really struck a chord with me as I can really empathise with you. I had never thought of it being grief. I now can’t face stopping feeding my fourth baby, as it’s taken me to number 4 to get it right! X

  • Thank you so much for sharing this. Your story is the same as mine. My son had tongue tie too. He also had jaundice so I had a lot of pressure from healthcare providers to keep him hydrated. I really beat myself up as you did. You feel like you are the only one in the world that isn’t able to breastfeed. Thank you for helping me to realise that there is a name for the emotional time I went through. You have given me hope that I will be able to go on to breastfeed any future children I may have xxx

  • Thank you so much for sharing this. I felt exactly the same. I still feel very sad about it now and my eldest is 3. He had tongue tie and was a very sleepy baby who just didn’t want to feed. My husband put a photo of our baby on Facebook with him having a bottle and I still hate it now.
    My youngest is 9 months now and I’ve exclusively breastfed him and it’s probably the thing I am most proud of ever. I love it! I just wish I could have done it with my eldest.
    I love your videos. Thank you xxx

  • I completely relate to this. Taormina is now three and now I’m feeding Wolfie it reminds me of everything and how much I think it really did effect both of us as it’s so much more than nutrition and as a high needs baby she really needed me and I couldn’t provide what she needed. She continued to feed at the breast although there was no milk as she loved the comfort so we did that until 8 months when she gradually became disinterested. I also used to move all bottles out of photo shots as I didn’t want to broadcast what was happening as I feel so strongly about breastfeeding. I’ve just filmed a video on extended breastfeeding and common breastfeeding problems as I think there are just not enough resources out there about how hard it really can be. Thanks for such a well put video, I think it will resonate with a lot of people. xx

  • I have no idea, what’s wrong with me. I dont have a reason to be,,depressed”. I dont have abusive parents or siblings, the teachers like me in school and i have really good grades, but i feel like im not good enouch for something, that i cant describe. Do you have idea guys?
    (sorry for the bad english, correct me if i was wrong��)

  • Thank you for sharing your story. My 18 month just weaned and I started to feel crazy…sad crying all the time. I was snapping at my husband a lot and building everything up in my head. They finally decided to research if weaning has any effects on your hormones. I’m glad I know know. I thought I was just going crazy.