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Teen Discipline: Strategies and Challenges Typical Teen Behavior. Teens like to test the limits of their independence. 1  So don’t be surprised when your teen Common Challenges. By now, you only have a few years left to prepare your teen for the real world. And it can be tricky Discipline.

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13-Year-Old 14-Year-Old 15-Year-Old 16-Year-Old 17-Year-Old 18-Year-Old Discipline Advice Parenting Tips In This Article Table of Contents. The way to deal with missing homework assignments is by teaching your teen better organization strategies and time management. You should discipline destructive behaviors that involve choice.

Impulsivity is a biological symptom of ADHD, but that isn’t an excuse for shoplifting or other irresponsible actions. The Teen Brain; Supporting Healthy Decisions; Success in School & Life; Changing How We See Teens; Communication Strategies. Talking With Teens; Parenting That Works; Discipline & Monitoring; Facing Challenges; Building Character. Character Strengths; Communicating Values; Role Modeling; Resilience; Health & Prevention.

Parents’ Self Care. Of course, some teenagers may deliberately challenge your boundaries to see if you mean what you say, and test how much they can get away with. apply the communication skills and strategies. Oppositional Defiant Disorder Strategies: 8 Discipline Rules for. Children with oppositional defiant disorder are blatantly disobedient, disrespectful, and confrontational. Standard discipline doesn’t work.

Instead, follow these strategies for how to discipline a child with oppositional defiant disorder: 1. Treat before you punish. Turn discipline moments into learning opportunities. Remind your child that we all make mistakes, then invite him to brainstorm better ways to deal with a similar tempta-tion or stress in the future. Listen to his ideas and value his input. It shouldn’t just be your way or the highway.

2. Discuss why it’s wrong. Make sure your child under Discipline is about teaching, not punishing or controlling your teen. To encourage your teen to behave well, discuss what behavior is acceptable and unacceptable at home, at school and elsewhere.

Create fair and appropriate consequences for how your teen behaves. Social, Emotional and Behavioral Challenges When schools fail to provide enough support for students, the social, emotional and behavioral challenges that often come along with learning and attention issues can lead to serious consequences. These include social isolation, disproportionate disciplinary rates and an increased likelihood of skipping school, dropping out and becoming involved.

If you have a child with disruptive mood dysregulation disorder (DMDD), then you have experienced the challenges of parenting a DMDD child. DMDD children present as chronically irritable and angry, which can make the road to effective parenting a complex one.

List of related literature:

Many discipline guides, as you may have noticed, offer suggestions for how to administer punishments and rewards more effectively, the goal being to make children back down and give in.

“Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason” by Alfie Kohn
from Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
by Alfie Kohn
Atria Books, 2006

In summary, the time-out discipline strategy does work for some situations and some parents.

“Raising Children Who Think for Themselves” by Elisa Medhus M.D.
from Raising Children Who Think for Themselves
by Elisa Medhus M.D.
Atria Books/Beyond Words, 2011

All discipline strategies should be used after first working to develop a foundation of consistently positive and loving relationships and in concordance with positive reinforcement to increase appropriate behaviors.

“Principle-Based Stepped Care and Brief Psychotherapy for Integrated Care Settings” by Alexandros Maragakis, William T. O'Donohue
from Principle-Based Stepped Care and Brief Psychotherapy for Integrated Care Settings
by Alexandros Maragakis, William T. O’Donohue
Springer International Publishing, 2018

For these teens, the most powerful motivator is to be on their own and out from under parental directives and control.

“Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential” by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
from Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential
by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
Guilford Publications, 2012

For adolescents, these targets involve applying similar contingency management strategies in self-discipline, including favoring reward over punishment as a method of influencing their own behavior.

“Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Suicidal Adolescents” by Alec L. Miller, Jill H. Rathus, Marsha M. Linehan, Charles R. Swenson
from Dialectical Behavior Therapy with Suicidal Adolescents
by Alec L. Miller, Jill H. Rathus, et. al.
Guilford Publications, 2006

The goal of discipline is to encourage and reinforce positive child behaviors, eliminate inappropriate child behaviors, improve parent-child communication, and meet parental needs.

“Health Promotion Throughout the Life Span E-Book” by Carole Lium Edelman, Carol Lynn Mandle, Elizabeth C. Kudzma
from Health Promotion Throughout the Life Span E-Book
by Carole Lium Edelman, Carol Lynn Mandle, Elizabeth C. Kudzma
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2017

Discipline at this stage in development may also be easier than it will be during adolescence when teens begin to assert their independence and may resist discipline.

“Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development, the Life Course, and Macro Contexts” by Anissa Taun Rogers
from Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development, the Life Course, and Macro Contexts
by Anissa Taun Rogers
Taylor & Francis, 2016

Parent sessions focus on facilitative parenting strategies for maintaining a warm parent–child relationship, supporting children’s peer relationships, addressing problem behaviour, coaching effective responses to bullying and conflict, and communicating with school staff.

“Handbook of Australian School Psychology: Integrating International Research, Practice, and Policy” by Monica Thielking, Mark D. Terjesen
from Handbook of Australian School Psychology: Integrating International Research, Practice, and Policy
by Monica Thielking, Mark D. Terjesen
Springer International Publishing, 2017

Discipline should guide, correct, strengthen, and improve the child’s choices.

“Journey Across the Life Span: Human Development and Health Promotion” by Elaine U Polan, Daphne R Taylor
from Journey Across the Life Span: Human Development and Health Promotion
by Elaine U Polan, Daphne R Taylor
F.A. Davis Company, 2019

Alternative discipline strategies should be offered, such as the “countdown,” along with consistent limit setting, clear communication of rules, and frequent approval.

“Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics E-Book” by Robert M. Kliegman, Bonita F. Stanton, Joseph St. Geme, Nina F Schor, Richard E. Behrman
from Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics E-Book
by Robert M. Kliegman, Bonita F. Stanton, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

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  • Thanks, Dr. Paul. Dealing with teens are difficult for sure. I have raised two, but stepping into a new relationship with my fianceé who has a 17 year old, who is a giant, has been more difficult, as he seems to try to use his size to intimidate his mom and then curses at her and is extremely disrespectful. He has never disrespected me, but as I am only there half-time, she struggles sometimes coming up with consequences that affects him. Once we are married, I am confident I can deal with it (thanks to your videos and his interactions with me when I am around), but in the meantime, she is struggling between being worn out from his behavior and trying to figure out how to deal with him without me and without dealing with the authorities (he isn’t violent… yet), just extremely ugly to his mother. I will continue to watch and learn!

  • Finally! We finally have the instruction videos that God forgot to send with our children when they were born! Priceless. LOL. Thanks Dr. Paul.

  • I believe in punishment for bad behavior. Take everything away starting with the phone. Everything, but the bed and five sets of cloths. Make them earn it back one at a time..

  • Oh the games we play starting from an early age. The young child feels forced to eat vegetables at dinner time (parents in control), but the child is waiting to get the upper hand, by not co-operating during toilet training (when the child is in control). ‘I will make you beg for it’ says the child in their mind. The same type of game will be played at a later stage in life (teenager). You need to love me, that is your role restricting access to technological gadgets/games is not true love it is conditional, tantamount to abuse hence teenager decides to leave home.

  • How are we teachers supposed to help these disadvantaged and vulnerable children if we have groups of 30, 32…? It is impossible.

  • Military School mandatory in Israel at 17. Make it 14 in North America. Its only then we will have a generation of MEN and WOMAN as easy as pie. No Gurus required!!

  • I have a stage 3 girl at 16 and a stage 1 girl, sometimes like a 2 year old and hates me and blames me for her Papa passing from cancer 2 years ago. That child is making our life hell!

  • Perfect timing coming across your videos… i will try to incorporate this in our home. Feel like I yell and fuss at him all the time

  • Im raising my grandson.
    Im ready to turn him over as a ward of the court!!!
    I have tried it all!!!
    He purposely does things to get me upset!!!!
    The thought that he does this makes me angry, because he purposelly wants to cause me to get upset!!!
    He doesn’t let up!!!
    It doesnt matter what I do!!!
    He wants to be dufficult, he will be oppositional, in any little thing!!!
    Its fucking maddening!!!
    He’ll pretend to compromise to get what he wants,then he’ll fuck me off!!! He purposely keeps the dishes he uses in his room til we dont have what we need. When I ask him to bring those dishes down, he’ll throw out drama saying he doesn’t have any dishes in his room!!!
    I tell him if he doesn’t bring them down, Im going to, go to his room and get them myself!
    He tries to intimidate me!!!
    I take him 100% seriously!!!
    Then he’ll tell me to shut up, he’s just playing!
    Funny how he’s just a kid and its okay for him to act the way he does, Im a grown ass adult and acting the way I do because of what he’s doing….
    Whats my problem, he says in a very mean manner!
    He has sociopathic or physcopathic tendencies!
    He is defiant, doesnt care what I say! He leaves after telling him no! Ive locked him out! He’s not going to school, he doesnt come home by 11. Ive locked him out, he kicks the doors,the windows, banging and hitting them!!! I called the police! They told me,I couldnt lock him out! He is a minor and I cant get in trouble, go to jail for locking him out!
    Then he needs to get home before 11!!! He needs to followcthe rules or there will be consequences!!!
    I told them to take me to jail then!!!
    I have had police scolding me!!! All in front of him! Now he basically feels he can do any fucking thing he wants! Because the police wont do shit to him. I can call them he says because they aren’t going to listen to me, they think Im crazy and they know I lie!!!
    He gets in my face, yells at me tells me if I touch him he’s going to punch me so hard it will kill me!!! He’s going to pick my ass up and throw me out onto the street so hard if I touch him, this while he is pushing me out the way because Im standing in his way!!!
    When he threatens me, or threatens to destroy my property I call the police. They come reluctantly now. Telling me I need to discipline him, one cop was more concerned that he was here a prior time when I had locked my grandson out,did I remember him?
    Instead of the reason why I had called this time, which was he had taken the router,the home hub and roku, because he wasn’t allowed to use wifi, then he had punched a whole in the wall. But, what triggered was he was angry that his brother and sister were going to come and visit, thinking that it was going to mess up his plans to go visit out were they lived at his step grandmothers!!!
    He pops pills, smokes marijuana, drinks. Hes dirty purposelly goes into the fridge without washing his hands because it bothets me!!! Instead of just washing his hands, he wants to argue with me that he already washed them before getting to the house!!!
    I basically avoid him, I cant stand him!!! It doesnt matter what I do, he wants to provoke an argument, push my buttons!!!
    I tell him, Im not in the mood for your shit! Take your sick shit somewhere else!!
    I smile and let him do what he does, knowing he’s doing everything to push my buttons!!!
    By making a mess in the kitchen purposely, leaving crumbs spilt juice whatever!!! If I dont tell him to clean up, he wont,he doesnt even when I tell him to! He’ll deny he did it!!! Saying it was already there! If he does clean it up its very little effort and not clean at all.
    He will, over react and go on and on about everything I follow through with!!!
    There are some things I will not let slide, everything os a battle with him! He wants to cause me harm, he said he was going to put me through hell before he turns 18 and leaves here!
    He scares me!!! The kind of scared that if he attempts to harm me,I will fight for my life!! If I cant get away!!!
    Its killing me raising this boy!!! All the reasons I took guardianship of him have been for nothing!!! I e done everything Ive needed to do to give him the opportunity to succede, he has done nothing but, faught me,going against everything that I have attempted to do to help him!!!
    I feel like i have failed him!!! I feel like, It was all for nothing!!!
    I was willing wanting to do this for my grandson!!! The reward was going to be his success! Over comming the tough behinning he had and succeding with my help and support, providing a stable home, environment,his needs being met and building our relationship.
    He tells me I wasnt a good guardian! I have ruined his hole life!!! I felt like slapping him!!! I have sacraficed having a relationship! Traveling, staying home, making sure I was available for him! Because no one wanted to babysit him!! Je was thrown out of the after school program!!! I was dropped from a job training program twice because I had to miss, dealing with issues he was having at school!!! Funny how it was the times I was working to better myself.
    Now he’ll yell all kinds of disrespecful things to me!!! I dont do shit all day,sitting on my ass sewing!!!
    He says he doesnt have to clean up, I dont do shit, I dont go anywhere,I can clean up!!!
    I tell him he’s out of his mind!!! He will clean up after himself!
    Help!

  • Hey Paul and Vicki. Thanks so much for posting this. I really needed to see this today. I’ve had a horrible day, in lockdown, with my boy/girl twins today. They are at a stage where they join forces against me at the moment and they are so hurtful. Your tips and perspective advice is very helpful.

  • I am desperate. My daughter has done no school work since school shut down with COVID. She is on the path to failing Grade 10. She has been lying to us all this time about doing her work. We finally caught on when her teachers reached out. I have tried the nice positive route but I am completely at my wits end. My husband and I have busy jobs and are still working full time from home. I have two other kids to home school. I wish she would step up but she is not. We’ve arranged for calls with her teachers to prioritize her assignments and still she’s done nothing. When I try to help or try to take some control to help her set a schedule she completely shuts down. She won’t engage in anything else. The more I try to put consequences in front of her the more she pushes me away and shuts down. I fear there’s something else going on. HELP!!!!

  • You two have helped me so much. As I sat here crying, because I’m asking myself where is my little girl. Why is she acting like this, she is 13 turning 14 in a month. I had to take a moment to gather my emotions. But I still didnt know what to do with the way was acting, yelling at me, and asking help with homework. Then nevermind I know bow to do this…goes on. But I want to ” thank you, both because I learned alot then I have learned lastnight with my 13 almost 14 outburst. You two gave some Good advice. Thanks again! For sharing your knowledge to help improve the relationship with family’s

  • I like the “do over” I’ve done that before and my daughter looked at me like I was insane, and was mad.. but she eventually gave in and smiled at me.

  • great vid, but pls fix your audio problems. The video suddenly turns down in volume every now and then. A little annoying and distracting

  • My son is over 20 now. My husband is pushing him to join his business and my son is not yet ready to take responsibilities it seems. I have tried to convince my husband to be little easy on him,let it be a gradual process but he and his parents dont get it. They want him to join and start tackling and learning whole thing. My son has problem to express himself before his father and grand parents,he confines in me but that too not much. Recently when he spoke to me he looked helpless (he expressed he doesnt want to be part of this ). I am worried about him. I know he can do it but at his own pace, He has joined office just a month back and his father doesnt want him to take things so easily. I dont know what to tell my son and talking to my husband is useless,i have done it many times,which didnt work. Can you pls guide me on this. His father has kind of dominating tendency.

  • What would you adivise to do with a bratty student who hits his parents at home, and acts out at school? Plus the principal will not discipline this student, and the teacher of the student feels virtually helpless.

  • What if you do all of this, but the student still smashes the windows in your classroom, laughs while doing it then throws glass at the teacher. Also, what if the parents are always drunk, high or beat their child? How do you build a relationship with the parents then?

  • I cannot thank you enough for all the clarification I got from your videos. I have four children and the eldest is a teenager, so this is my first encounter with the demands of parenting a teenager, which indeed is a turbulent ride. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for showing me how to enjoy the ride, despite the fact how bumpy it can often be.

  • Hi. I am a 15 year old girl. Here’s some tips and insight… for what it’s worth I guess.

    I found this video in a group chat my mom is in with a lot of my friends moms.. “empathy” does not all of a sudden “kick in”… there are no stages. The term “stages” suggests that our emotions and outlooks progress in one direction as if we are not human beings with ever changing perspectives and emotions based upon events in our lives and what is going on in our head. Also, nobody likes to be referred to as an “animal” or a “different animal”.
    Many teenagers feel misunderstood. Try to relate to them. I wish I could say more but it’s hard to generalize a huge group of people. Also, I agree with the do over concept. Being a teenager is incredibly frustrating because we are told to act like adults yet feel that we are treated like children. I hope I was able to provide at least a little bit of a picture of some teenagers minds as a 15 year old.

  • A very heart felt and emotive presentation given by someone who obviously cares and is very knowledgeable in their field and as the parent of a disruptive child who has now grown up to be a successful business man it shows that time and effort and understanding works,well done Debbie proud of you, Dave Martin.yes that one.

  • Please. I hope it’s not too late. Our twins are going off to college this summer. Our oldest twin is sooooo disrespectful. Damn if I do.. damn if I don’t. She calls me names, stomps around the house and makes demands. I am fighting this with love. I am in tears EVERY DAY. It hurts.

  • Teenagers are a whole different animal ooh you are so right Dr Paul! Thank you both for your advice and examples. Having a hard time at the moment with my 14 yrs old. You have open my mind “Enjoy the moment, enjoy them! Honour their experience”

  • Yesterday my mother got home from work and realize that the trash was not taken out and blows wind out her mouth by telling and screaming and shouting so at heights at her 13 year old grandson throwing a argument and I got in and told her to call down not to yell ask him nicely but people defended that this is her apartment that she could tell and that things were not being done in the house that it’s her right excuse to flight fight like too uncalmly.

  • 😀 Really!
    That didn’t help at all, you just make me feel more bad about myself trying to look for a way to do the exact same thing you’re saying!

  • My daughter is now 17, but when she was 16 she decided to go live with her dad permanently (we had joined custody with equal time). He is the more lenient parent, I had more rules and expectations from her. She now only contacts me if she needs or wants something, but also has the attitude that she doesn’t need to listen to me anymore. I’m not sure how to turn things around. I want to help and do things for and with her, but I feel used. Do I let her use me or cut her off since she made the decision to go live with dad?

  • Lovely video content! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you researched Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a great one of a kind guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the headache. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my good mate called Gray at very last got cool success with it.

  • Every child is different. She is right when it comes to learning where the behavior is coming from. There are always situations where children act out due to being hungry, living in an abusive environment at home, or not knowing where he or she will even be sleeping that night. We are more than just teachers. Show the child you care and they will show you positive behavior.

  • How would you teach an 11yr old preteen to handle internal and external expectations. I heard an interview by Robert kiyosaki with Gretchen Rubin, author of “The Four Tendencies,”. Could you cover how to develop good ways to handle expectations?

  • My 14 year daughter has autism and she has been bullied at school for almost 2 years now. I’m starting to think she takes it out on me and her brother. She gets made really easly and then brakes down and twll me she had another bad day at school. I don’t know what to do. Advice??

  • I was a teenager once, but i was raised with a cain in school and discipline at home, and today Im a Man. I have a teenage Son, and we parents have to understand them, love them, be scared of them and all that nonsense. i tell my Son…. do all the crap you want when you can afford to live on your own. Get married, have children and continue with the crap with your wife as well, as long as you do it in Your home. Not in my time. THEY CANT CAUSE, THEY ARE ALL BULLIES!! GIRLS OR BOYS!! Make military school a MUST then we will not need Gurus to tell us how to raise these opportunist kids. Amen

  • Why is this video getting so much hate?? She’s absolutely right. The behaviour of these kids can make us feel powerless and frustrated. Remembering that those behaviours are always stemming from somewhere or something directly impacts the way we choose to handle those children and compassion is always the way forward.

  • I enrolled to complete a post-grad degree in primary education, and ended up discontinuing the course.

    One of the foundation units was solely focused on teaching us that ‘Teaching is problematic’. While we all want the best for students, teacher are challenged by government standards, societal expectations, and those in higher positions who hold very traditional views towards teaching and learning. Those are the types of people who reinforce views such as ‘teachers are there to transmit information, students are there to absorb this information’.

    It’s what we call ‘mass education’. Mass education started during the industrial revolution Prior to that, education was not something everyone received. It was only for those who could afford it, and the type of education those students received back then was more personalised.

    Today’s mass education looks at efficiency and works like a factory production line.

    Focused on increasing the number of graduates (product output).

    Pushing out cookie cutter children through batches (Age/Grade level).

    There is no differentiation/diversity It’s a standardised process. All children as essentially on a conveyor belt, being fed information, and the end product is essentially a child being able to regurgitate the information.

    Teaching in this system is very standardised It doesn’t care if students have individual or special needs. If you can’t keep up, you get booted off to ‘special school’ or ‘special class’. It’s very sad.

    As much as I advocate for changes such as inclusive education (allowing students with disabilities to participate in mainstream classrooms), and as much as I am against rote learning and drilling children, it’s very hard to change the system, when there are people above you who are ‘more experienced’ and think their method is better, who will turn you down.
    They want us to conform.

    Also, you’re working under the pressure of meeting education standards Teachers are working to teach students XYZ within a tight deadline, so they don’t have time to manage behaviour in class. They say disruptive students take away from valuable learning time for other students. I know it’s not right to exclude them, but many teachers I know, and research also shows, that teachers don’t feel prepared to take in those students.

    It’s easy to think that all teaching involves is photocopying worksheets and giving it to students, because after all, we have all observed school on the daily (as we were all once students). It looks easy, but the amount of administration and ‘politics’ involved. It’s crazy.

    It’s not just “I will shut the classroom door and teach my children” It’s ‘what do the parents want me to do’ ‘what do the head teachers want me to do’ ‘and the principal?’ and what about the government and other regulatory bodies?’

    There also seems to be more emphasis on standardised testing now So teachers feel forced to teach students to memorise XYZ to pass the exam. This means children have less opportunities to work on their own projects based on their interests, to explore etc. Instead, they’re stuck with a textbook.

    But! If you are resilient, you can try to become a teacher. I was too naive and it just demotivated me. Don’t be like me. If you’re passionate about changing things, and you’re prepared to face rejection, but have the resilience to get back up, then go for it. We need people like you. There are lots of theories on transforming education Look at constructivism, inquiry-based learning, Montessori, Sir Ken Robinson (love his work!), Vygotsky. Look at Universal Design for Learning framework too:)

  • Many kids today don’t sleep 8 hours a day, don’t eat breakfast before school, sit in front of a screen for at least 8 hours a day and drink energy drinks to keep awake. If I did that I would be climbing the walls too.

  • It is clear this teacher is very devoted, but I wish she had gotten into specific reforms and strategies. We have to do so much already, we need practical advice and more support. We know things aren’t working the way they are now, but how can we make it better?

  • I was once in healthcare for several years, and many forms of autism are caused from vaccinations, it is clear to us but we can’t say much, or we may lose our jobs. ��

  • Excellent Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you tried Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a smashing one off guide for becoming an excellent parent minus the hard work. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my buddy at very last got cool results with it.

  • This is so generalized it’s annoying. Why is she putting it on teachers? This is terrible. There are many levels of disruptive behavior, some are mild some are dangerous. Ugh

  • Send the kids to the state hospital and boot camp! Bring back the paddle! Work on the kids who are high IQ and with good behavior.

  • I agree to a certain degree on what are is saying but when u have a huge population of children with behaviour in a school, it’s tough. Some kids, you just can’t reach.

  • The children are out of order because they are injected from birth with others DNA, autism. Discipline has been banned etc. When this stops, children will be back in order. SIMPLE!

  • Love the do over…. I’ve made plenty of mistakes… Some a bit bad. We so talk it out. But a do over is good. Wish I could do over the last 5 years

  • Thanks for the Video! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard about Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (search on google)? It is a good exclusive product for becoming an excellent parent minus the headache. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got cool success with it.

  • Recap:

    1. Understand control and maturity
    2. Keep a positive perspective
    3. Convey liking and enjoyment
    4. Do do overs
    5. Honor their experience and intelligence

    Happy parenting everyone.

  • Children follow people first and then the follow rules. So true!!! They need a demonstration of each of the things that they are expected to do and demonstrations of the kinds of people that they’re expected to become. I have one student I’m considering find out how to reach… When he had just left the hospital, he started having chats with classmates about different things, throw things around the classroom and play around occasionally without acknowledging my presence in the classroom. He probably doesn’t have the right role models at home… I think that his father is absent because his mother must raise him herself. I think this may seem difficult but I must say that if teachers must call on students, they must not do it excessively. Let it be known what the expectations are before starting or continuing lessons.

  • Hi. My 14 year old son has had it easy all his life, good grades with minimal effort. I am unable to motivate him now to put in more effort to go from good to excellent! Please help!

  • My parents were always giving me the worst possible advice!
    I had to learn by trial and error, but my 5-year younger brother(only sibling) figured that out b y observation.
    By the time he became a teen he figured out to ask Mom’s advice, hear her out, AND DO THE POLAR OPPOSITE, and he became the functional adult

  • I love the word convey.l had similar experienced…sis Vicky. Sometimes they are like King Kong.Ha! ha! Thank you!(lovely couple) from Malaysia ��

  • I do not find your methods practical. Some kids are monsters. You pretending to being miss sunshine isn’t helpful. Fake sincerity isn’t effective against stupid and disrespectful kids and parents that sometimes are worst than the students. ��

  • Your tips sound very useful. Could you please explain more about helping kids to set goal and get reward? How can we start to talk about goal with kids? Where are the rewards come from? Teacher buy them?

  • Listen, we want to destroy education in your country by creating policies that allow juvenile delinquents to ruin the learning experience for all the other students in the classroom. We will ensure that consequences and discipline become a thing of the past. We want chaos and disorder to fill your land. Be sure to vote democrat!

  • You telling me that you give your own food to your poor student. Kudos to you for being the unknown daily hero that almost nobody notice. I appretiate that even without knowing you personally

  • It would be great to see videos of this in action, with short edited clips of the behaviors and how they change over the weeks with your responses to the student. But there is probably some policy about not filming children in classrooms?

  • I teach toddlers and recently three year olds as well and I understand sleep is very important but it is difficult to do when I am studying to obtain my cognitive studies degree.

  • Can u please give me an example for students and teachers behaviour like “How students behaviour affect their relationship to their teacher”

  • Haha. I have 3 angry teenagers in our home who dictate the chores when I ask them to clean up �� their bathroom that they use. That’s not my chore they say. It’s been super frustrating ��. we’re calling their side of the house the ghetto. Lol

  • In regards to student/teacher relationships, There is a video by TEA that states that we ARE NOT to be friendly with students. To me, that means No relationships are ALLOWED. Can you elaborate on this? I’ve been a teacher for 1.5 years and NO ONE has been able to explicitly explain the code of ethics for teachers

  • Bring back the paddle, the psych hospital, and the behavior unit! Ticket parents and children. They should not be in the regular classroom. I had a desk thrown at me, I’ve been bitten, kicked, threaten and cussed at by a first grader.

  • If only I could just give you one sweet hug because I am starting to melt.
    Here I am taking a mental look at My Life back in Elementary School back
    in around 1983 while I am watching you asking myself ( an autistic person who was once an autistic student ) what I really could have had more of in
    Elementary School because I really like it when one shows that much patience and openheartedness.

  • This series has been very helpful. Classroom Management is something I have been striving to get better in this area since I am a 1st year after school program teacher. I will definitely be using these tips during the next school year. Thank you.

  • Oh my!! I really needed these tips because everything I was doing was wrong!!! I used to rise my voice to get some difficult students attention because I was afraid of not having control. I mean some students are not interested in my class and now I see it was my fault I don’t know what I’m going to do now but at least I have a clue where to start… Thanks a lot

  • “Students that keep us on our toes with challenging behaviors.”

    If you work with middle or high schoolers it’s more like: “Students that keep us disturbed with wildly inappropriate behaviors.”

  • I am a summer camp counselor for a daily summer camp not the overnight ones and usually what I do when a camper is having a meltdown or acting out or testing the counselor I remove them from the camp class that we use and walk them up and down the hall of the school and ask them exactly why they were acting this way and what sits on their mind and after a while they become calm and explain what is wrong and I help them work it out a bit and after they realize that it’s ok to feel stressed or angry at something they are ready to get back into our class and continue our camp activities

  • I have so much respect for my teachers in the past… I was a difficult kid, but they were always there to support me and never lashed out or acted annoyed.

  • Thank you for including the advice to enjoy the adventure and appreciate that your child is maybe not the same child as they transition through adolescence and to acknowledge the intensity and reality of their feelings. It’s hard being a teenager and as parents we are so afraid for our kids and the inevitable pain of these years but they have to experience it for themselves and if we can be there to validate their experience it will make us a support to them instead of always a critic.

  • Thanks for sharing this series, it’s super helpful! I recently started substituting so these tips will come in handy as the students test me daily. I realized that I really do take rude behavior personally so that’s something I should definitely work on.

  • My son 6yr old, he’s not responding in the class room there is no eye contact. Mam said no response, no eye contact, no minkle with the other students. I don’t what should I do

  • My four-year-old will throw his food and when I tell him to stop he says no I will not stop I will be bad and then he throws it again. I tell him that he will have to go to bed or that he won’t get a treat if he doesn’t listen and he still says I will be bad and does it. This kind of behavior is happening a lot more now. Seems like the more I try to talk about punishment or speak to him about misbehaving less it matters and he gets kind of violent