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My Child Won’t Go Potty in Public Restrooms Take an Insert or Sit with Your Child. Sometimes you can make an unfamiliar place feel more friendly by bringing Avoid the Splash. Another obstacle can come from the splash of water when a child is going poop. This can be a big issue Go Somewhere. Among the toilet training challenges that you might be dealing with is a child who, despite using the potty regularly at home and in public, refuses to use it at day care or school.

As frustrating as this is for you and your child’s caregiver, it is not uncommon. Q: My daughter is 4 yrs old and has a real fear of public restrooms. When she realizes that she has to go she will start to cry and scream, making a huge scene.

As if potty training isn’t hard enough, there is also the challenge of having your child go to the washroom in public. Many children have increased anxiety when it comes to using a public restroom. There are several reasons that might cause your child to display this anxiety resulting in avoidance of using the bathroom. Later toilet-training, like late walking, may be your child’s normal developmental pattern and one shared by mom or dad when they were in training. The nerves and muscles involved in potty training may not be mature yet.

Suspect this cause if your child has been on the late end of normal in other developmental milestones. After a pre-determined number of successful days, have a celebratory potty party. Run the faucet while your child is on the potty to induce the urge to pee. Visit the potty after each snack or drink, when they wake up in the morning and after naps, and at bedtime.

Visit the potty after running, climbing or jumping activities that stimulate the urge to pee. Place a potty chair where your child is most comfortable—in. Pack some tissues or wipes in your bag, in case the bathrooms are short on supplies, as well as a change of underwear.

And just before you head out the door, try to get your child to sit on the potty or toilet. Don’t say “You have to go to the bathroom before we leave,” because most children will tell you they can’t or don’t need to. Some children fear public bathrooms, so prepare for that, too. It can also help to make changes to your child’s diet or use fiber supplements or stool softeners. However, you should check with your doctor first for specific advice.

My daughter will be 3yrs old in Oct. Shes great at home going potty she wears toddler undies and everything. But when we go to a store she’ll say she has to go potty. But once we get to the bathroom she starts screaming and cry. She is afraid of the tiolets flushing cause they are too loud. Idk what to do. Cause i cant control how loud they are.

Past kindergarten, the bathroom is most likely located outside the classroom, so kids might be shy about having to raise their hand to ask to go or worried about finding their way there and back. They may be grossed out by the smells coming from multiple stalls, embarrassed by the sounds they make or anxious about a noisy toilet or hand dryer.

List of related literature:

These fears are usually seen in toddlers (18 months and older) and are focused on fears of the toilet, or more specifically, fears of falling into the toilet.

“Cognitive-Behavioral Play Therapy” by Susan M. Knell
from Cognitive-Behavioral Play Therapy
by Susan M. Knell
Jason Aronson, Incorporated, 1995

Some children have developmental conditions that make toilet training more challenging.

“Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics E-Book” by William B. Carey, Allen C. Crocker, Ellen Roy Elias, Heidi M. Feldman, William L. Coleman
from Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics E-Book
by William B. Carey, Allen C. Crocker, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2009

If this behavior continues past four years of age, it’s reasonable to consult a pediatrician or psychologist with experience in helping families with toilet training

“Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care: 8th Edition” by Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman
from Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care: 8th Edition
by Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman
Gallery Books, 2004

If toileting refusal continues past four years of age, it’s best to consult with a pediatrician or psychologist who is experienced in helping families with toilet training problems.

“Dr. Spock's Baby and Child Care: 9th Edition” by Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman
from Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care: 9th Edition
by Benjamin Spock, Robert Needlman
Pocket Books, 2011

Unfortunately, many people stop their toilet training when their child is successful with scheduled trips to the bathroom.

“The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children with Autism and Related Disorders” by Mary Lynch Barbera, Tracy Rasmussen
from The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children with Autism and Related Disorders
by Mary Lynch Barbera, Tracy Rasmussen
Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2007

If child is fearful, have him or her open door for escape, then flush.

“Occupational Therapy for Children and Adolescents E-Book” by Jane Case-Smith, Jane Clifford O'Brien
from Occupational Therapy for Children and Adolescents E-Book
by Jane Case-Smith, Jane Clifford O’Brien
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2014

Parents or caretakers, or both, need to be educated in making the toilet a pleasant place to visit and should stay with the younger child, giving encouragement and praise for appropriate effort.

“Psychiatry” by Allan Tasman, Jerald Kay, Jeffrey A. Lieberman, Michael B. First, Mario Maj
from Psychiatry
by Allan Tasman, Jerald Kay, et. al.
Wiley, 2011

Provide a quiet activity for the child and make sure the toilet is comfortable and in a nonthreatening environment.

“Wong's Essentials of Pediatric Nursing9: Wong's Essentials of Pediatric Nursing” by Marilyn J. Hockenberry, David Wilson, Donna L. Wong
from Wong’s Essentials of Pediatric Nursing9: Wong’s Essentials of Pediatric Nursing
by Marilyn J. Hockenberry, David Wilson, Donna L. Wong
Elsevier/Mosby, 2013

Access to a toilet or potty, with privacy for older children, daily at this time may be beneficial.

“Textbook of Interdisciplinary Pediatric Palliative Care E-Book: Expert Consult Premium Edition” by Joanne Wolfe, Pamela Hinds, Barbara Sourkes
from Textbook of Interdisciplinary Pediatric Palliative Care E-Book: Expert Consult Premium Edition
by Joanne Wolfe, Pamela Hinds, Barbara Sourkes
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

Some kids with ASD have a hard time with public bathrooms at restaurants, theaters, and other places.

“The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (And Their Parents)” by Elizabeth Verdick, Elizabeth Reeve, M.D.
from The Survival Guide for Kids with Autism Spectrum Disorders (And Their Parents)
by Elizabeth Verdick, Elizabeth Reeve, M.D.
Free Spirit Publishing, Incorporated, 2015

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  • Connie thank you so much for sharing this tip & advice for all & future parents. No doubt that many miss you more than words can explain

  • I remember years ago my mom used to love Connie and all the what’s up moms family she used to get all the advice from here and now she is like a super mom to me we love you Connie

  • One more thing: Please don’t refill your water bottle with its opening touching or too close to the water spout! I see this everywhere, no matter the education level. This isn’t common in North Asia.

  • Who’s from singapore too?I only dont like it went people never flush the toilet in public….I MEAN LIKE WHATS THERE TO SHOW OFF SIAL.COLOUR?

  • Achha aap hme 7:49 par hand wash karna sikha rhi ho par tab to band kar lo mam pani rhega toh hi hand wash kar ske ge na ����������

  • And I already knew about this from a book from my country(Indonesia) talking about SG, which means they know better…
    Huh, go figure.

  • Surprisingly great tips and you make me laugh (bonus points for that)! I love how you practice listening to the Holy Spirit in various day to day situations and the positive perspective of “training ground”. Your kids are super cute in the background too.

  • Great ideas! I love ‘hands on your belly’ idea for the bathroom. Parking by the cart return is a must no matter how far you have to walk! I love grocery shopping with my 5 kids too! For our crew, they have assigned spots and they hold a certain part of the cart. I put the smallest one on my back so the second smallest can ride. The next two hold the right side of the cart front and back and my oldest was next to me on the right.

    I love your positive encouragement and thinking! I can tell you’re doing a great job and your a good mom and household manager.

  • For some reason sometimes rust comes out of the tap in my house.. Contacted pub one time and they said my neighbours faced the same problem.

  • im try for fasting when im 2nd junior high school,i always cheating,drink tap water.But i dont have any problem on my stomach.

  • 11.03Muslims, if you eat rich like that, you can’t because Islam is taught to eat well eat sitting down, drinking sitting down, eating with your right hand only. If we buy food outside the house but there is no place to sit, it’s better to eat at home

  • What if a handicap person needed the loo and your in it you shouldn’t be doing that at all because it is difficult for a handicap to go to the loo in a normal one and it is hard to get a wheel chair in a normal toilet

  • The other problem in Singapore, a real bugbear, many F&B are refusing to offer water (including tap water) free. Insisting that we purchase their bottled water.

  • No point installing water dispenser all over, if members of the public do not take care of it. Like spitting in it or dumping their litters on it.

  • I’m not saying it’s bad, but can ppl stop saying “Connie isn’t dead… she’s alive in our hearts” and stuff like that. Death is a real thing. Connie just finished the big race early, she’s waiting for us st the finish line. (:

  • Can’t say that for Long Island, New York…where dioxins are killing us & the cancer rate is higher that any surrounding city. ������

  • 7:51 Make sure to turn off the water when washing your hands so you don’t waste water and turn it back on when you wash off the soap then turn it back off

  • My daughter was in pull ups. And I fell ya Connie because my daughter was in diapers Until she was 5 and other than that she was in pull ups until she was 4.

  • I know we all miss Connie and we hope she is watching her family and keep them safe. But please stop saying rest in piece not because I don’t care she passed away but all her videos are “rip Connie” but why can’t we say “these hacks are amazing and help me and my kids and you are so smart and you are dearly missed”

  • Well, at Marina Bay, China tourist go to water coolers and rinse spit their filthy smelly mouths after a meal. DISGUSTING BEHAVIOUR.

  • You go F&B restaurants that serve free ice water all are tap water anyways.

    Source: I work in F&B restaurants and I was the guy who had to fill your glasses with tap water. And yes, we staff drink tap water too. Still alive, just so you know.

  • I always get water from water cooler. I hope the relevant maintenance authority do maintenance on the filters of these machines. I personally have not seen any maintenance being carried out on such machines before.

  • I feel like tap water from public toilets have a different taste than the water I get from my water filter machine at home, but I still drink tap water from public toilets when I’m outside because I know it is safe.

  • Man, there they worry about safe tap water being actually safe while here, they dont even make the tap waters clean. Man lucky Singapore.

  • this makes water coolers so much more easier for me to drink from,, I use to fear that when I top-up my water bottle there’s many bacteroids in it because of where it comes from and all the drinking habits of people like licking and spitting,, but now I know that there’s actually a cleaner inside the machine it makes me feel better!!!