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Spanking, then, can be one effective discipline option among several in a parents’ tool chest as they seek to steer their children away from negative behaviors and guide them toward ultimately. For some parents, spanking is a natural form of discipline—perhaps they were spanked as a child themselves. Others see it as a good punishment when a child is about to get hurt or finds themselves in a dangerous situation (running across a parking lot or. A child who gets spanked for arguing with their sibling won’t learn how to get along better in the future.

Effective discipline teaches a child new skills and builds their competency and confidence. Spanking degrades trust and self-confidence, while only teaching a. Even some opposed to physical punishment consider a spanking perfectly acceptable when the safety of the child is at stake. A child, for instance, who reaches to touch a hot stove or darts into the street, might need to be admonished immediately and forcefully. “Spanking is not fun for me.

Spanking is a calm application of discipline that is appropriate to a specific behavior. Often parents will ask, “How many times do I have to tell you that?” If simply telling a child made them obey, we wouldn’t have to repeat ourselves so many times. Spanking is only one tool in disciplining children. Spanking is a controversial method of disciplining children.

There are many adherents to the maxim: Spare the rod and spoil the child. At the other end of the spectrum are most pediatricians. Striking a child, as long as it’s within the context of reasonable discipline, is legal in all states.

But spanking — when dealt in anger as it often is — sometimes crosses over into our legal definition of child abuse. So the courts are often left deciding what blows are abusive and which are parenting. A common form of physical punishment for modifying the behaviors of children is spanking, which involves striking the buttocks with an open hand (often repeatedly). Spanking is a common form of.

But there are some studies out there that suggest spanking administered by “loving, well-intentioned parents” in a “nonabusive, disciplinary” environment can be an effective form of punishment. The. Indeed, it is an ironic aspect of the prevalence of spanking that the practice, employed most often to reduce child aggression, per the evidence actually increases it.

From a Psychoanalytic Theory.

List of related literature:

Would the authoritative parenting style allow the use of spanking as a means of control?

“The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home” by Jack O. Balswick, Judith K. Balswick
from The Family: A Christian Perspective on the Contemporary Home
by Jack O. Balswick, Judith K. Balswick
Baker Publishing Group, 2007

It is not necessary because spanking does not work better than other methods, and it is not appropriate because of the harmful side effects of spanking.

“Beating the Devil Out of them” by Murray Arnold Straus
from Beating the Devil Out of them
by Murray Arnold Straus
Lexington Books, 1994

Not surprisingly, a child who is spanked will comply quickly with the parent’s wishes.

“Parenting: A Dynamic Perspective” by George W. Holden
from Parenting: A Dynamic Perspective
by George W. Holden
SAGE Publications, 2014

Spanking as a disciplinary technique has probably been around since people have been having children.

“Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development, the Life Course, and Macro Contexts” by Anissa Taun Rogers
from Human Behavior in the Social Environment: Perspectives on Development, the Life Course, and Macro Contexts
by Anissa Taun Rogers
Taylor & Francis, 2016

In summary, physical discipline is apt to foster compliance and be perceived as legitimate when (a) it is mild (e.g., a spank to the buttocks with an open hand); (b) is administered by a caring, supportive parent; and (c) the child is between 2 and 6 years of age.

“21st Century Criminology: A Reference Handbook” by J. Mitchell Miller
from 21st Century Criminology: A Reference Handbook
by J. Mitchell Miller
SAGE Publications, 2009

Physical punishment or spanking should never be used in infancy.

“Maternity and Pediatric Nursing” by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
from Maternity and Pediatric Nursing
by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

Although some cultures condone the use of corporal punishment for disciplining of young children, it is not an effective means of behavioral control.

“Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics E-Book” by Robert M. Kliegman, Bonita F. Stanton, Joseph St. Geme, Nina F Schor, Richard E. Behrman
from Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics E-Book
by Robert M. Kliegman, Bonita F. Stanton, et. al.
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2011

Spanking in anger administered by parents as a release for their own pent-up emotions is totally inappropriate and can lead to child abuse charges.

“Introduction to Maternity and Pediatric Nursing E-Book” by Gloria Leifer
from Introduction to Maternity and Pediatric Nursing E-Book
by Gloria Leifer
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2018

Secondly, physical discipline of any kind (including spanking) is never appropriate (see here for appropriate and effective ways of disciplining a toddler).

“What To Expect The 1st Year [rev Edition]” by Heidi Murkoff, Sharon Mazel
from What To Expect The 1st Year [rev Edition]
by Heidi Murkoff, Sharon Mazel
Simon & Schuster UK, 2010

Spanking, by contrast, need not be (and perhaps cannot be) severe enough to cause injury or degradation, if it is to be pedagogically effective.

“Social Issues in America: An Encyclopedia” by James Ciment
from Social Issues in America: An Encyclopedia
by James Ciment
Taylor & Francis, 2015

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  • In my family, we do use spanking as one aspect of discipline but is never the only method and used only in times of escalation in discipline or through immediate correction that matches the severity of the problem that needs correcting. Typically when physical correction is used, it is after multiple attempts of telling them what they need to do. During this process I will punish by taking away fun activities such as playing on a phone, going outside, electronic devices, etc. Further, depending on the situation, we will make sit still and be quiet as a timeout type punishment. After that, we will then tell them that if they continue to misbehave we will spank them. Then if the poor behavior continues we follow through and say again the reason for the spanking was because of this. We are sure to count to 1-5 with every spanking as to not go overboard and to eliminate the chance of abuse.

    It is not a debate that our history in civilization has used physical discipline throughout history including in biblical times. That isn’t necessarily the argument however. The question that should be asked is is the discipline being used being effective in correcting the poor behavior. I believe that spanking may not be for every child but there are children that physical correction is the best method. This obviously does not include abusive correction.

    Just some thoughts on what we do.

  • Yes, I was given the odd smack when I was younger if I had a smart mouth or was a little so and so. Beating is different to a disciplinary smack. I have turned out perfectly fine, I was taught respect and I know it’s not okay to hit people to resolve issues in everyday life and I would rather know I’ve done wrong and sort myself out with fear of consequences than find out the hard way later on. I feel like this is why children are becoming more disrespectful and bratty because they are never taught there are consequences to your actions as a child anymore. Half my generation need a good slap to learn some respect for others because respect is becoming a rarity unfortunately!

  • As a kid, I was spanked when I did something bad. Because of this, I learned a very important lesson…

    Don’t get caught.

    Frick if I can remember whatever bad behaviour it was that got me spanked in the first place, that’s long gone from my mind. The only lesson that’s stuck with me is don’t get caught.

    I can’t help but think that this probably wasn’t what I was supposed to learn…

  • Your main job as a parent is to make sure your child is adequately socialized by age 4, Because that is the age where the primary socializing influence moves to the peers and the society. And if your child is a little monster, none of the children want to play with them ( the primary form of socialization); And all the adults that say they’re happy to see them will be lying. There is little hope for such a child to ever catch up, And we’ll only find companions in “bad company”.
    That said, “effective discipline” rests on establishing authority, And a strong link between cause and effect. People whose parents fail to establish these things tend to have serious authority issues, And to feel that there is something fundamentally wrong with society when consequences come to bear for their actions freely taken.

    Loving discipline should follow the rubric of minimum necessary force to get the job done. That “job”, is to derail self-destructive and anti-social behaviors before they become established. And while you are trying to come up with some clever intelligent verbal substitutionary non-physical correction, Your child’s dopeministic reward center is already reinforcing the questionable behavior as “something gotten away with”.
    And if it’s a wishy-washy discipline, your child’s brain Starts creating a little cost-benefit sub-personality That will also lead them into a “what I can get away with” mentality.

    The benefits of a swift effective Discipline is that it leaves? Absolutely no room for these sabotaging sub-personalities to take root.

    And done effectively early enough they will create a process in your child where the harsh exercise of physical discipline will rarely have to be repeated, save with the most willful children. (Who tend only to be “hardened” by Wishy washy correction.)

    Plus When you say no and your child (perhaps grudgingly accepts it rather than face discipline), there is room for trying to raise their wisdom level.

    I cannot count the number of things my dad said “no” to that I didn’t understand at the time, but which saved me a world of hurt because I respected his authority.

  • The scribes were reading the Bible and were stuck in laws and rules.
    Using a verse in the Bible that says to discipline your child with a rod could mean to use the rod of truth,to teach it by talking to it about the heaviness of it’s behaviour and to use consequences to correct it.When researches show that these are effective nonviolent and not dangerous methods to correct a child why take the risk to hurt it?
    God wants people to be wise not just follow commands and laws like being blind.

    John 5:39 Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.
    Many Christian people think that sticking to commands and laws is the answer but God wants them to understand deeply His Spirit.

  • In today’s age, everything is “wrong”….. Next thing you know kissing your own kid is going to be a crime. Let people raise their family how they choose to. Mind your own business and if “science doesn’t care if your were spanked…” Then we don’t give a rats ass what you have to say.

  • Spanking is needed and can be used as long as you dont do it in a way toactually hurt or bruise them. Verbal lectures can be worse than a spanking it just depends on how ut comes out and who its coming too. Most verbal things turn into emotional abuse.

  • Spanking is really the cultural norm. I used to think it was okay, although I did not see a strong biblical case for spanking. It wasn’t until I had my own child that I started to question many cultural norms regarding parenting. Frankly, I don’t see God using punishment as a means to instruct. I see God using consequences to teach and leading by example, but punishment is typically so severe that is leads to loss of life or limb. God takes our punishment on Himself in the person of Jesus Christ. I believe the word discipline is more accurately understood as instruction rather than punishment. There is a way to instruct and enforce boundaries for children without physical violence.

  • I feel like once your kid gets to a certain age all that works is punishment and some people do go overboard when it comes to spanking like I was spanked twice on the butt with a belt and that was it and plus spanking doesn’t really do anything because most kids would rather get spanked then grounded

  • The Bible is clear about physical punishment for children. If you want to denied it that’s your choice. If you want to follow those methods is also your choice. But the truth is undeniable. Everyone can read it.

  • I hate spanking my child, nothing else works except a spanking. In public my son will yell at me and talk in a very bad way. I spank him to let him know it’s not ok, first warning doesn’t work then i try time out( that never works) so I usually spank him when I get home and he learns. I explain why I spank him and he learns. Studies are useless bc every child is so different.
    There are times when talking works but in public my child will not listen no matter how much I explain. I am in tears by the time I get home. I spank him out of love not anger. When everything else was tried and it doesn’t work. My child is incredibly defiant and strong willed! I wish I had the answer but if it’s so hard with a child that laughs in your face when you lovingly correct him.

  • I really think it depends on the individuals experiences. I was hit as a child and I’m a great person but I’m fucked up mentally, I’ve got social problems self image problems and had suicidal thoughts at a young age. my parents were split and I lived with my mum for majority of the time,visiting my dad every second weekend, for me it wasn’t good because from a young age me and my mother have had a bad relationship and my dad and I love each-other to pieces so I was miserable,felt like I was hated and called white privileged by my siblings and mother because I was the palest and “wanted things my own way” (my dad white and mum indigenous Australian)

  • I think some parents don’t realize that once a child reaches a certain age, they become independent enough to antagonize the parents. The child will only become angry at the parents, and will always see themselves as the good person. Children are smart enough to think for themselves, but stupid enough to not be able to see from their parents’ point of view.

  • I think spanking is wrong because it can have different effects on people, some can turn out okay but for me i have anxiety due to my pcos and i don’t know why but i never really gotten along with my dad, i can talk to anyone in my family but can’t talk to my dad because of my anxiety. He also use to spank his dog and his dog would never go near him.

  • My mom used to spank me and I tUrNeD oUt fiNeReeEeeE lol no tf I didn’t but I don’t get how someone could hit a kid. Like I couldn’t bring myself to do it, I’d be physically unable to. I don’t know how so many parents (including my own mOtHeR) do it