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There are a multitude of parenting books written specifically about sleep training methods, some of which involve letting your baby cry for periods of time. While it can sound harsh, the idea. Although “crying it out” as a sleep training tactic is not recommended for newborns, if you’re about to start crying hysterically, it’s OK to put baby down in a.

Parents were encouraged to let their babies cry it out as early as the 1880s as a means of germ prevention. The idea was that if you touched your baby as little as possible, they’d be less likely. Recent studies suggest it’s typically okay to let your baby ‘cry-it-out.’ Learn when it’s permissible to use ‘the cry it out method’ — and when to intervene. What Science Says About Letting Your Baby ‘Cry It Out’.

Leaving an infant to ‘cry it out’ from birth up to 18 months does not adversely affect their behaviour development or attachment, researchers from the University of Warwick have found, they also. So yes, how long you let your baby cry is strongly dependent on their age – at least in regards to sleep training. The window of opportunity for crying it out starts between 4-6 months of age and closes by 12-18 months old. Children in this age range can be allowed to cry it out. If you’re trying the CIO method at nighttime, you should let your baby cry it out for naps too.

But if your baby’s naptime is typically on the shorter side and only lasts 30 minutes or so, you may want to limit how long you let her cry (to around 10 minutes) before you try another sleep training method or even give up on the nap for that day. But “cry it out” (CIO) simply refers to any sleep training approach – and there are many – that says it’s okay to let a baby cry for a specified period of time (often a very short period) before offering comfort. DON’T try cry it out sleep training too young. You should always use gentle methods to help your baby learn to sleep well during the newborn stage, and even at 4 months – 6 months, you will likely want to go for gentler approaches. DON’T night-wean at the same time you are using cry it out.

Don’t let your baby or toddler cry indefinitely until he falls asleep. This can make cry it out unmanageable for both you and your baby. Instead, choose a length of time for one “attempt” (usually 30-60 minutes).

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For example, when the baby wakes in the morning, he may not cry for the parent to come but instead will play—with objects in his crib or with his own voice—for up to half an hour before becoming fussy and alerting the parent to come.

“Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner's Guide” by Douglas Davies
from Child Development, Third Edition: A Practitioner’s Guide
by Douglas Davies
Guilford Publications, 2010

Far better to let the baby cry it out.

“Mothers and Others” by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy
from Mothers and Others
by Sarah Blaffer Hrdy
Harvard University Press, 2011

It is never appropriate to “let a baby cry it out,” make a baby cry to “teach him a lesson,” or deliberately ignore a baby’s cries (Middlemiss et al., 2012) Prompt response reduces the baby’s stress, enhances parental enjoyment of the baby, and increases parents’ confidence in their new role.

“Breastfeeding and Human Lactation” by Karen Wambach, Becky Spencer
from Breastfeeding and Human Lactation
by Karen Wambach, Becky Spencer
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2019

Educate parents that normal crying increases by the time the infant is 6 weeks old and diminishes by about 12 weeks.

“Maternity and Pediatric Nursing” by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
from Maternity and Pediatric Nursing
by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

• After 6 months, if the baby wakes at night and cries, parents should be encouraged to go and check to see if anything is wrong, such as being too cold or too warm, but not to take the child out of the crib.

“Leifer's Introduction to Maternity & Pediatric Nursing in Canada E-Book” by Gloria Leifer, Lisa Keenan-Lindsay
from Leifer’s Introduction to Maternity & Pediatric Nursing in Canada E-Book
by Gloria Leifer, Lisa Keenan-Lindsay
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2019

It is never appropriate to “let a baby cry it out,” make a baby cry to “teach him a lesson,” or deliberately ignore a baby’s cries.

“Breastfeeding and Human Lactation” by Karen Wambach, Jan Riordan
from Breastfeeding and Human Lactation
by Karen Wambach, Jan Riordan
Jones & Bartlett Learning, 2016

The cries are so painful for parents to hear that they may spend many sleepless nights doing whatever they can to quell their baby’s cries-holding and rocking the baby for hours until exhausted, even driving around aimlessly so the rhythms of the car can lull the baby to sleep.

“When the Body Is the Target: Self-Harm, Pain, and Traumatic Attachments” by Sharon Klayman Farber
from When the Body Is the Target: Self-Harm, Pain, and Traumatic Attachments
by Sharon Klayman Farber
Jason Aronson, Incorporated, 2002

The baby cannot be spoiled by being soothed when she’s crying, and parents can never be remiss by soothing her when she’s crying.

“Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society” by Stuart Shanker
from Reframed: Self-Reg for a Just Society
by Stuart Shanker
University of Toronto Press, 2020

Repeated studies have proved that nothing is gained by letting a baby “cry it out.”

“Christian Education: Foundations for the Future” by Robert E. Clark, Lin Johnson, Allyn K. Sloat, Kenneth Gangel, Edward Hayes, Wayne Widder, James Wilhoit, Wesley Willis, Warren Benson, Lynn Gannett, C Fred Dickason Jr, Dennis Dirks, Irving Jensen, Lawrence Richards, Michael Lawson, Robert J. Choun Jr, C Keith Mee, Valerie Wilson, Robert Clark, Pamela Campbell, Stanton Campbell, Perry Downs, Brian Richardson, Stanley Olsen, Carolyn Koons, Julie Hight, Marlene LeFever, James Plueddemann, Colleen Birchett, Marta Elena Alvarado, Johng Ook Lee, Doris Freese, J Omar Brubaker, Donald Geiger, Ray Syrstad, Dennis Williams, Harold Westling, Mark Senter III, Richard Patterson, Julie Gorman, Wesley Haystead, Lowell Brown, James Slaughter, Wayne Rickerson, Craig Williford, Cliff Schimmels, Robert Barron
from Christian Education: Foundations for the Future
by Robert E. Clark, Lin Johnson, et. al.
Moody Publishers, 1991

A baby will cry if his diaper is wet or soiled, and if he is hungry, too hot or too cold, tired, gassy, in need of love or comfort, or sick.

“The Baby Owner's Manual: Operating Instructions, Trouble-shooting Tips, and Advice on First-year Maintenance” by Louis Borgenicht, Joe Borgenicht
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by Louis Borgenicht, Joe Borgenicht
Quirk Books, 2003

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  • I don’t believe in CIO but my daughter is 15 months old and wakes 6+ times a night. I have several migraines a week, severe post natal depression and anxiety and our life is falling apart around us so what do we do??

  • Oh my goodness! All these it’s cruel and evil comments. These are the people who end up with monster kids. If the baby is clean, fed, safe there is no reason to notlet them cry it out. It won’t hurt them and it’s not neglect.

  • Bed time is sleep time, once they are down don’t pick them up again, tune out the cry and go to sleep yourself. If you keep picking them up it will only make them want to be picked up more and more and you will never sleep again. All this crap about emotions and feelings i read needs to stop you don’t want a baby that grows up needy and weak. do the right thing and let them cry till there’s no cry left and you will have an emotionally strong and independent child witch god knows we are short of in this day and age. Thanks

  • If women in our society (and parents in general i guess) had more support, this wouldn’t even need to be done. If families were helping as a whole, (in some cases if just DAD would freaking help), baby would never need to “cry it out”. This method is a result of caregivers having limited time and energy. This is just a symptom of the fact that not enough people are able/willing to help raise the baby.
    I know that this is very common in our society. The whole “village” doesn’t help raise her, and so she is left to cry because mom and/or dad are so unbearable stretched thin by their exhaustion, responsibilities and adult life.
    It’s just a shame and a fact in our world today.
    On the other hand, there is bed-sharing. Of course with the whole “SIDs” thing this is feared. And there are risks of course. But i think that it is natural to sleep with your baby if you take a lOT of precautions and do your research on the safest way to do it; i believe they will sleep way better and so will you.
    I also think you should probably be breastfeeding though if you do this, because you will be more sensitive to your child’s every move if you are breastfeeding; and they will also be more alert than a formula-fed baby (but not always i guess, but usually).

  • This is insane! Poor babies! No wonder there are so many brain damaged people in this country. Parents these days just want to bring a newborn home and want to him to sleep, eat, dress, take baths, clean after himself and possibly start working all by himself.

  • I hate the “sleep training” methods. If parents read opinions of psychologists they would understand how bad leaving a baby to cry really is. We often think that feeding a baby and changing a baby are the only needs but they are not! Babies need to feel touched and kissed just like they need to eat and be changed. Don’t wait when your baby starts crying!

  • We tried this briefly, but gave it up. I went without sleep many nights and worked full time. My boys are older and no longer want cuddles and affection from old mom. I do not regret one sleepless night holding and rocking my babies. I promise you, you will not look back on those first months and think “gosh, if only I had slept more.”

  • This is incredible nonsense. I’ve never sleep trained and don’t intend to. But she’s babbling about ideas and opinions. The fact that you have to buy her book to find the “research” tells me that she’s spouting a tiny bit of quackery.
    “Babies shouldn’t experience cortisol”. Well, if a baby isn’t “experiencing” cortisol they have a serious adrenal glad issue and have no circadian rhythms whatsoever. If you oppose sleep training, fine. Don’t act holier than thou and vomit this nonsense to already guilt-ridden parents.
    So incredibly sad.

  • Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to my family members advising me to let my baby cry and not mollie cuddle him. But my heart never allows me to let him cry, as I know his only way of communication is through crying. They don’t cry out of spite, but because they have no choice.

  • Girl stop this is not evident base this is something you just came up with. If the child had had all needs met it’s ok to let them cry. Why would a child be frightened there is a such thing as attachment and spoiling kids.

  • Quit being complacent in male genital mutilation. It’s not medically indicated ANYWHERE on the planet:

    The Royal Australasian College of Physicians (RACP) (2010)
    The RACP states that routine infant circumcision is not warranted in Australia and New Zealand. It argues that, since cutting children involves physical risks which are undertaken for the sake of merely psychosocial benefits or debatable medical benefits, it is ethically questionable whether parents ought to be able to make such a decision for a child.

    Royal Dutch Medical Association (KNMG) (2010)
    The KNMG states “there is no convincing evidence that circumcision is useful or necessary in terms of prevention or hygiene.” It regards the non-therapeutic circumcision of male minors as a violation of physical integrity, and argues that boys should be able to make their own decisions about circumcision.

    Canadian Paediatric Society (CPS) (2015)
    The CPS does not recommend the routine circumcision of every newborn male. It further states that when “medical necessity is not established, …interventions should be deferred until the individual concerned is able to make their own choices.”

    British Medical Association (BMA) (2006)
    The BMA considers that the evidence concerning health benefits from non-therapeutic circumcision is insufficient as a justification for doing it. It suggests that it is “unethical and inappropriate” to circumcise for therapeutic reasons when effective and less invasive alternatives exist.

    Danish Medical Association (DMA) (2016)
    Circumcision of boys without a medical indication is ethically unacceptable when the procedure is carried out without informed consent from the person undergoing the surgery. Therefore, circumcision should not be performed before the boy is 18 years old and able to decide whether this is an operation he wants.

  • People have become more weak minded, In our family all babies cry it out, an none get what they want, an we all grew up strong minded, unlike other spoiled pussies out there,

  • I believe this to be partly true, however families need a balance. An adult’s and baby’s mental health are equally as important, not one more than the other. The baby needs to be calmed to avoid negative psychological impact. The adult may sometimes need to step away, to keep from becoming frustrated and angry with the baby. And taking care of yourself does not, in anyway mean you are causing detachment issues in your child. As a mom myself in the past 3 months, I have come learn balance is of utter importance to not our the adult, but the baby. The more calm and collected I am, the better and more efficiently I can soothe my baby.

  • Babys don’t need to be trained. They learn to fall asleep, when they’re old enough. If you’re not okay with it, then don’t get children. My opinion. I never let my son cry and always picked him up. Now he’s not even 3 months old and sleeps up to 10 hours at night without waking up and he’s also able to fall asleep on his own when he’s tired. I guess he feels safe because he knows, that mommys there. I want him to knwo, that I’ll always be there when he needs me. And he’ll also know it, when he’s 20 years old.

  • I am not an expert but I regularly visit an orphanage and one thing that will strike you is that the babies do not cry. That is because they have learned that crying is useless, no one will hug them and cuddle them. Crying it out reminds me of those babies.

  • Babies that rarely cry for no reason grow into adults with relatively high IQ; babies that cry incessantly grow into adults with low IQ. Does crying affect IQ? Does innate IQ affect crying? Is there no causality between the two? Who knows, but I suspect innately low IQ leads to crying (due to boredom) and incessant crying, in turn, probably adversely affects brain development.

  • I have the hardest time taking advice from someone that clearly isn’t going through the thick of sleep deprivation. My first baby was a decent sleeper and I didn’t let him cry it out. But baby number 2 is different… he’s 8months and simply won’t sleep on his own. I’m working on an adjusted cio method because I am not a functioning mother anymore. I let him know I’m there for him but have to let him learn that sleeping on his own is ok.

  • I dont agree. My parents used that method with me and im not emotionally detached at all. However, i do agree that if the baby is too youn then it isnt a good idea to do so. All i can say to everyone who doesnt agree letting their children cry it out occasionally is ok: good luck with having a needy and greedy toddler who has no idea how to fall asleep on their own and has no back bone������

  • Hey nurse dani, my nine month old can’t stand being put in the crib or the play pen while I do chores around the house. I’m not planning on keeping her there for extended periods of time. Like 15-20 minutes a time. But the second I put her down and walk out of sight she goes nuts. I’m don’t know if it’s harmful or helpful to let her cry and I want the best for her but as a dad I’m not sure if I’m being cold. Any advice would be great. Thanks in advance and thanks for all the great videos.