How you can Respond Whenever Your Teen Daughter Calls Herself Fat

 

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But the way you respond to those sorts of phrases makes a big difference in how your daughter feels about herself. What to Do If Your Teen Says She’s Fat If your daughter says she’s fat, here are some things you can do. First, the bad news: Your daughter told you she thinks she’s fat. Now, the good news: Your daughter told you. “It’s always good when your child is coming to you because that means they. So, when your daughter does call herself fat, as her parent your instinct might be to immediately brush off her concerns by saying something like, “Don’t be silly!

You’re beautiful!” The thing is, though, that response might actually do more harm than good. Q: My 6 year old daughter has started to complain that her legs are fat. First of all I didn’t expect self image problems until she was closer to her teens and second she is a tiny string bean at.

If she, for example says “I am fat” or “I have a big nose and its ugly,” instead of responding by saying, “You’re not fat” or “Your nose is not big,” you could instead tell her how beautiful she is, tell her that she is unique, and that she is perfect in your eyes, no If’s And’s or But’s. This is so important. Pick an affirmation like, “I love myself,” or “My body is awesome because it is mine,” and recite it together with your daughter in front. Of course, that isn’t saying you should agree with your girlfriend when she calls herself fat.

You just want to sit back, listen and never disagree. Then you can work from there. Let her vent about it. She will appreciate it.

We promise. List The Good Things About Their Body. So she is not feeling herself because of her weight.

Understandable. Your daughter will seem very mature one day and then silly and giggly the next. But as much as we want to connect, we don’t want to be their buddy. Teens need us to be their moral compass and to. Your adult child holds you emotionally hostage by threatening to hurt or kill herself or himself.

Adult children who are truly at risk for self-harm need to be taken seriously. Explain that you understand your teen feels miserable. Say something like, “It sounds like you’ve given up” or “I think you feel there’s no way out.” Gently point out that suicide is not a solution. Try saying something such as, “I know there are options that could help, I’d like you to at least try them.” Let your teen know you are worried.

Don’t downplay your concern about their.

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Don’t praise her for being thin and don’t make teasing or chiding comments about her being chubby or needing to lose a few pounds.

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We began tapping on the anger behind her rebellion response, and soon she began remembering the many passive-aggressive comments her dad had made over the years about her weight, frequently pointing out thinner women and mentioning how good they looked.

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As a result, and for reasons we don’t fully understand, dieting may seem like an attractive solution to your child— something she thinks will “really help me feel better about myself.”

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If you have said negative things about fat people to your daughter, she may be trying to assure your love by controlling her appetite and being thin.

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I told her that childhood weight issues are complex and a topic of debate among parents and pediatricians alike.

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If you have an overweight daughter, you need to understand that you, more than any other person in her life, are in the best possible position to help her reach a healthy body composition.

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Ask her to assess your child’s BMI (see the One Simple Solution box) and recommend the best approach to help your child lose weight.

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If your daughter’s weight and height curves aren’t suddenly parting company, there’s no need to worry that she’s overeating.

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Talk show programs with titles like “You’re Too Fat to Wear That,” “Mom I Don’t Want to Be Fat Like You,” and “You’re Too Fat for the Beach” continue the freak show tradition of ridiculing fat women.”

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Address the whole child—emotionally, socially, mentally, and physically—as you address weight management.

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  • Your talk reminds me of the ‘personal legends’ we are encouraged to follow per Paolo Cohelo’s The Alchemist. Live your dream, Laurence!

  • karens be like to there kids: your fat and im not| but still even to this is fake shes is still hurt because she is also that weight in the stuido i wish that was not true

  • God bless all of you and remember you are beautiful just the way you are don’t talk bad about yourself because god gets sad because he spent so much time making you and he loves everything about you have a great day ��

  • I’ve always said that I want to be a teacher. And while that is true, what people don’t know is that I also want to be a poet and an activist and a public voice and a million other things that I’ve deemed unrealistic and given up on. I only just turned fifteen and I’m set on being a teacher and nothing else because that’s what is ‘realistic’ within my universe.

  • Lol this is exactly how my childhood was and I was a thin kid. Now I have lots of self esteem issues. Attention parents, either don’t be assholes or don’t have kids

  • So, you’re telling me, if I have kids (Which will never happen) I should just keep my mouth shut? I’m going have to discuss this with my Bf in the future and he’ll be soooo confused. XD XD XD my pets are confused already. I talk to them all the time, and they’re either busy licking themselves or fighting with each other. Btw, my boyfriend’s name is Bluffy 227. He’s a amazing male animator. I found him on YT a year back and I’m in love with him. �������� He’s my new crush! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ My tail is wagging just thinking about him. (Obviously the tail is on my Oc!) so yeah. X)

  • This really got me thinking, I’ve always said I want to be a doctor or a lawyer since my mom worked as a lawyer before and my dad worked as a doctor, but if I’m being honest I want to make other people happy and perform publicly. Maybe a comedian or something, I just want others to have a good time.

  • My accepting parents still think I want a balanced education even though deep down I long to be a musician with all of my soul. I still cannot bring myself to tell them though and the secrets that I keep are very self harming and cause depression and anxiety. I feel like indeed a lot of teens feel exactly as I do

  • When I was young I always wanted to get to get a dog. I loved dogs and I so badly wanted someone who would not judge me for my many flaws. A friend, a companion who would just be there for me, when I just wanted to cry without beeing asked questions, but didn’t want to be alone. I was ready to take care of him. At least I thought. I never got one, so I never had the chance to try. Every time I would bring up the subject my parents would tell me why we could not have a dog. The city would not be right for him, we couldn’t take him on holidays and everything they could think of. They alsways ended when I started crying. After a while I didn’t even wanted a dog anymore. I just wanted to hope. But every time I told them it would end the same way. I even started changing my dream pet to something different. A cat, mice, birds, rats, foxes and even genetically engineered animals that don’t exist. But they still didn’t get the point, that the only thing I wanted was a dream. A dream I could talk to someone about. I am creative. I can imagine having a pet. But I never had normal wishes since then. They just got impossible, because I felt that, whatever I was ready to give, it would not be enough. Not all my freetime as a child was enough to get a dog, so why try anything else? At the moment I want to be in the future, want to be a robot or another animal. And if I have to be humand here, I want to buy a huge patch of land. With forests and rivers and lakes and just try to survive there with a group of people. Only using what nature can give. Those are the things I wish for, what I can tell people, because they wouldn’t say anything against the totaly impossible. And as a job..I want to be an astronaut. But I don’t think I can do that. I would have to start working now. And I really don’t feel like working for something for 15 years that is as unlikely as it cn get.

  • This is not ok I have had that at age 7 and it’s it hurts when someone else tells you about your body and what’s not perfect about your body

  • As a former fat kid I wish my parents would have done smth about that. Sugarcoating the situation doesn’t help. But ofc the dress is ugly and moms approach was too harsh.

  • My mom always says alot to like this and some reason it hurts me��
    Much more when we yell at me and said words that aren’t meant to be heared ������

  • I guess it’s USA only
    I’m French and live in France
    I’ve been to Poland,England,Italy and may other countries and I’ve never seen this happen directly

  • I have anxiety social anxiety and my dad says I can’t hold ur hand all the time but the thing is he does not understand cause he does not have it and I find it hard to ask a simple question to someone like for a pair of shoes (shoe size) I can’t do it cause I’m too shy to do so unless it’s talking about something ik about a hobby I do for something than I open up but any other time I can’t really do it that easily I’m 14 btw and an girl who was bullied for nine years which caused this anxiety in the first place my mum on the other hand has better understanding about it than my dad does I just can’t see why he can’t be better at understanding or at least he could try to help me with it at least

  • The problem with this thinking is that it consumes us people and we’re all examples of it
    Even me……
    I wanted to become a musician, and dancer
    I’ve started medical school last year

  • passion, dreams, and job security are all driving a car, job security is on the gears so the car doesn’t break down, passion is accelerating, and dreams have the wheel.

  • According to the National Institutes of Health, obesity and overweight together are the second leading cause of preventable death in the United States, close behind tobacco use.

  • That woman is mean to her daughter, and I have a big stomach!(no I’m not fat, I have a average body, so I eat some of vegetables, CARROTS, AND CUCUMBERS.)

  • WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YA MOM CALLED YOU FAT?!

    Me: I would slap my mom in the face (JK my mom is to kind to call me fat ofc every mom is to kind) xD

  • My friends asked what I wanted to be when I was older I said an actress they laughed at me they said I’d be better off as a teacher. Now I’ve been questioning if I should keep this dream. But my mom supports me. And that’s all that matters and I love proving people wrong anyway. ��

  • I want to be a therapist or physiologist or whatever it’s called because I’d like to help people and I’m really empathetic and what not.

  • My mom is like that, it’s sad and I feel like a hero each day I wake up alive. I’m not suicidal but it just doesn’t feel right, lose some kilos= you’re beautiful, it’s so hard for me, from the one hand, I feel like I want to be skinny, on the other hand I don’t wanna fall for the lies of this industry…. I’m confused and I hope no-one feels that way…

  • If a child is overweight, it is usually down to the Parents. It could be she is being pressured mentally by her mom. It is more than overeating.

  • I want to be a painter but my father said it doesn’t pay off that much he said that he will support me painting only as a passion or a hobby not as a career so I chose to do business