How you can Respond Whenever Your Teen Daughter Calls Herself Fat


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But the way you respond to those sorts of phrases makes a big difference in how your daughter feels about herself. What to Do If Your Teen Says She’s Fat If your daughter says she’s fat, here are some things you can do. First, the bad news: Your daughter told you she thinks she’s fat. Now, the good news: Your daughter told you. “It’s always good when your child is coming to you because that means they. So, when your daughter does call herself fat, as her parent your instinct might be to immediately brush off her concerns by saying something like, “Don’t be silly!

You’re beautiful!” The thing is, though, that response might actually do more harm than good. Q: My 6 year old daughter has started to complain that her legs are fat. First of all I didn’t expect self image problems until she was closer to her teens and second she is a tiny string bean at.

If she, for example says “I am fat” or “I have a big nose and its ugly,” instead of responding by saying, “You’re not fat” or “Your nose is not big,” you could instead tell her how beautiful she is, tell her that she is unique, and that she is perfect in your eyes, no If’s And’s or But’s. This is so important. Pick an affirmation like, “I love myself,” or “My body is awesome because it is mine,” and recite it together with your daughter in front. Of course, that isn’t saying you should agree with your girlfriend when she calls herself fat.

You just want to sit back, listen and never disagree. Then you can work from there. Let her vent about it. She will appreciate it.

We promise. List The Good Things About Their Body. So she is not feeling herself because of her weight.

Understandable. Your daughter will seem very mature one day and then silly and giggly the next. But as much as we want to connect, we don’t want to be their buddy. Teens need us to be their moral compass and to. Your adult child holds you emotionally hostage by threatening to hurt or kill herself or himself.

Adult children who are truly at risk for self-harm need to be taken seriously. Explain that you understand your teen feels miserable. Say something like, “It sounds like you’ve given up” or “I think you feel there’s no way out.” Gently point out that suicide is not a solution. Try saying something such as, “I know there are options that could help, I’d like you to at least try them.” Let your teen know you are worried.

Don’t downplay your concern about their.

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Don’t praise her for being thin and don’t make teasing or chiding comments about her being chubby or needing to lose a few pounds.

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We began tapping on the anger behind her rebellion response, and soon she began remembering the many passive-aggressive comments her dad had made over the years about her weight, frequently pointing out thinner women and mentioning how good they looked.

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As a result, and for reasons we don’t fully understand, dieting may seem like an attractive solution to your child— something she thinks will “really help me feel better about myself.”

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If you have said negative things about fat people to your daughter, she may be trying to assure your love by controlling her appetite and being thin.

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I told her that childhood weight issues are complex and a topic of debate among parents and pediatricians alike.

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If you have an overweight daughter, you need to understand that you, more than any other person in her life, are in the best possible position to help her reach a healthy body composition.

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Ask her to assess your child’s BMI (see the One Simple Solution box) and recommend the best approach to help your child lose weight.

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If your daughter’s weight and height curves aren’t suddenly parting company, there’s no need to worry that she’s overeating.

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Talk show programs with titles like “You’re Too Fat to Wear That,” “Mom I Don’t Want to Be Fat Like You,” and “You’re Too Fat for the Beach” continue the freak show tradition of ridiculing fat women.”

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Address the whole child—emotionally, socially, mentally, and physically—as you address weight management.

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  • Your talk reminds me of the ‘personal legends’ we are encouraged to follow per Paolo Cohelo’s The Alchemist. Live your dream, Laurence!

  • karens be like to there kids: your fat and im not| but still even to this is fake shes is still hurt because she is also that weight in the stuido i wish that was not true

  • God bless all of you and remember you are beautiful just the way you are don’t talk bad about yourself because god gets sad because he spent so much time making you and he loves everything about you have a great day ��

  • I’ve always said that I want to be a teacher. And while that is true, what people don’t know is that I also want to be a poet and an activist and a public voice and a million other things that I’ve deemed unrealistic and given up on. I only just turned fifteen and I’m set on being a teacher and nothing else because that’s what is ‘realistic’ within my universe.

  • Lol this is exactly how my childhood was and I was a thin kid. Now I have lots of self esteem issues. Attention parents, either don’t be assholes or don’t have kids

  • So, you’re telling me, if I have kids (Which will never happen) I should just keep my mouth shut? I’m going have to discuss this with my Bf in the future and he’ll be soooo confused. XD XD XD my pets are confused already. I talk to them all the time, and they’re either busy licking themselves or fighting with each other. Btw, my boyfriend’s name is Bluffy 227. He’s a amazing male animator. I found him on YT a year back and I’m in love with him. �������� He’s my new crush! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ My tail is wagging just thinking about him. (Obviously the tail is on my Oc!) so yeah. X)

  • This really got me thinking, I’ve always said I want to be a doctor or a lawyer since my mom worked as a lawyer before and my dad worked as a doctor, but if I’m being honest I want to make other people happy and perform publicly. Maybe a comedian or something, I just want others to have a good time.

  • My accepting parents still think I want a balanced education even though deep down I long to be a musician with all of my soul. I still cannot bring myself to tell them though and the secrets that I keep are very self harming and cause depression and anxiety. I feel like indeed a lot of teens feel exactly as I do

  • When I was young I always wanted to get to get a dog. I loved dogs and I so badly wanted someone who would not judge me for my many flaws. A friend, a companion who would just be there for me, when I just wanted to cry without beeing asked questions, but didn’t want to be alone. I was ready to take care of him. At least I thought. I never got one, so I never had the chance to try. Every time I would bring up the subject my parents would tell me why we could not have a dog. The city would not be right for him, we couldn’t take him on holidays and everything they could think of. They alsways ended when I started crying. After a while I didn’t even wanted a dog anymore. I just wanted to hope. But every time I told them it would end the same way. I even started changing my dream pet to something different. A cat, mice, birds, rats, foxes and even genetically engineered animals that don’t exist. But they still didn’t get the point, that the only thing I wanted was a dream. A dream I could talk to someone about. I am creative. I can imagine having a pet. But I never had normal wishes since then. They just got impossible, because I felt that, whatever I was ready to give, it would not be enough. Not all my freetime as a child was enough to get a dog, so why try anything else? At the moment I want to be in the future, want to be a robot or another animal. And if I have to be humand here, I want to buy a huge patch of land. With forests and rivers and lakes and just try to survive there with a group of people. Only using what nature can give. Those are the things I wish for, what I can tell people, because they wouldn’t say anything against the totaly impossible. And as a job..I want to be an astronaut. But I don’t think I can do that. I would have to start working now. And I really don’t feel like working for something for 15 years that is as unlikely as it cn get.

  • This is not ok I have had that at age 7 and it’s it hurts when someone else tells you about your body and what’s not perfect about your body

  • As a former fat kid I wish my parents would have done smth about that. Sugarcoating the situation doesn’t help. But ofc the dress is ugly and moms approach was too harsh.

  • My mom always says alot to like this and some reason it hurts me��
    Much more when we yell at me and said words that aren’t meant to be heared ������

  • I guess it’s USA only
    I’m French and live in France
    I’ve been to Poland,England,Italy and may other countries and I’ve never seen this happen directly

  • I have anxiety social anxiety and my dad says I can’t hold ur hand all the time but the thing is he does not understand cause he does not have it and I find it hard to ask a simple question to someone like for a pair of shoes (shoe size) I can’t do it cause I’m too shy to do so unless it’s talking about something ik about a hobby I do for something than I open up but any other time I can’t really do it that easily I’m 14 btw and an girl who was bullied for nine years which caused this anxiety in the first place my mum on the other hand has better understanding about it than my dad does I just can’t see why he can’t be better at understanding or at least he could try to help me with it at least

  • The problem with this thinking is that it consumes us people and we’re all examples of it
    Even me……
    I wanted to become a musician, and dancer
    I’ve started medical school last year

  • passion, dreams, and job security are all driving a car, job security is on the gears so the car doesn’t break down, passion is accelerating, and dreams have the wheel.

  • According to the National Institutes of Health, obesity and overweight together are the second leading cause of preventable death in the United States, close behind tobacco use.

  • That woman is mean to her daughter, and I have a big stomach!(no I’m not fat, I have a average body, so I eat some of vegetables, CARROTS, AND CUCUMBERS.)


    Me: I would slap my mom in the face (JK my mom is to kind to call me fat ofc every mom is to kind) xD

  • My friends asked what I wanted to be when I was older I said an actress they laughed at me they said I’d be better off as a teacher. Now I’ve been questioning if I should keep this dream. But my mom supports me. And that’s all that matters and I love proving people wrong anyway. ��

  • I want to be a therapist or physiologist or whatever it’s called because I’d like to help people and I’m really empathetic and what not.

  • My mom is like that, it’s sad and I feel like a hero each day I wake up alive. I’m not suicidal but it just doesn’t feel right, lose some kilos= you’re beautiful, it’s so hard for me, from the one hand, I feel like I want to be skinny, on the other hand I don’t wanna fall for the lies of this industry…. I’m confused and I hope no-one feels that way…

  • If a child is overweight, it is usually down to the Parents. It could be she is being pressured mentally by her mom. It is more than overeating.

  • I want to be a painter but my father said it doesn’t pay off that much he said that he will support me painting only as a passion or a hobby not as a career so I chose to do business

  • im fat but ma parents would never do that they said im fat but im beautiful and other fat people should feel that too
    because fat people are beautiful����

  • Must say the title is misleading because if you’re parents want you to lose weight there’s nothing wrong with that but you shouldn’t shame them for being overweight that’s just nasty

  • I would just say that’s so rude you should not say that that’s just rude and it’s your daughter why would you say that to your daughter like I have a daughter I don’t know her like that even though she’s kind of fat I love her even though she’s that I don’t care that she flagged for anything she wants if she want something I’ll give it to her

  • Brilliant speech, insight and passion! We all need to be encouraging young people to continue to dream & be who they were born to be not what society says they should be. Thank you ��

  • Just live life and see what happens, don’t restrict yourself with any one life goal or expectation. Your dream job might be something you don’t currently know exists

  • I want to go to art school and escape my tiny town. I’m just going to school because I have to. Whenever I tell adults I want to do art for a living, they look at my grades and say that I’m wasting my potential. My brother wants to be a nurse like me mother, and my father is an engineer. I feel really bad about not continuing a nonexistent legacy that I shouldn’t feel obligated to uphold, but I do because my parents say so. I’d tell my parents I want to be an artist and the first thing they say is, “Marry rich.”

    I don’t want children either, so I’m disappointing on that level as well.

  • Does anyone know why exactly Gen Z is so dejected (for lack of a better word)? Like, if only a few kids thought they were insignificant, it’s a problem with their personal lives, but when it’s hundreds if not thousand of kids, then there is a problem with how we were brought up. Why do you think we are like this?

  • This hit close to home because I have an eating disorder. I binge eat but desperately try to restrict (and fail). I have terrible insecurity about my body and face and most of it was started by my family’s comments. Can anyone relate?

  • This Ted talk really struck me hard. All I could think about is how I finally got the courage to tell my dad that I wanted to be an animator, and he laughed just to tell me “You’ll never be an animator, tons of people can draw better than you.” I still want to be one to this very day.

  • Honestly, if I could, I’d be with the stars and planets. I’d go where no human has ever been. I’d see things I’ve only ever seen in pictures from telescopes. I would love to go and explore and experience things that I had never even dreamt of. But I can’t for several reasons, 1) our universe is really really big and we’re really really slow 2) we’re not far enough to do that in the time my body can do that 3) there a lot I can do here, and learn here, there’s always more to learn, plus I would probably die pretty quickly if anything bad ever happened but at lest I got to go to space.

  • FAKE!!!! 0:39 when he jumps up it is so staged. Guys if you can’t do a simple Real video, why make a video at all? There’s Literally no point in faking this video

  • My mom always says alot to like this and some reason it hurts me��
    Much more when we yell at me and said words that aren’t meant to be heared ������

  • The thing that society influences us is sad reality. Adults believe that these three jobs are respectful and give financial stability. While we teens want to do what we love and what gives us happiness, the society wants us to pursue those big 3 professions. I am 13, I want to become an archaeologist because that us what gives me happiness, but my parents and relatives want me to become a doctor. I always debate amongst myself “Do I have to be what I want or what others want?” I never had the courage to talk to my parents about this, which eventually gets ne frustrated. I think many teens go through this, and this is why they are misunderstood. If parents are reading this, please know the reason why.

  • You ever have a really strong hobby but never realize it’s your passion due to your parents not seeing the potential in it?

    Yup, that’s me. I didn’t realize drawing was my thing until I became 20 and failed a year in college.

    Now I know that no one’s backing me up, but I’m gonna carve that path if it doesn’t exist… I do wish I realized that earlier though.

  • “Can I say something? You absolutely disgust me”

    Yeah says the idiot plastered with tattoos and ear piercings. You literally look disgusting. And he swore in front of the kid.

  • Ok I maybe get that girls call guys assholes, but they are not in europe (especially netherlands) so beautifull girls, come to the netherlands ��

  • I have watched the movie the clique where the red head girl is shopping with her mom and she is like saying she has to fit in to the smaller size

  • Thanks for your message. Your message helped me to decide my aim and to become significant person in life������. Keep it up TEDx talks������

  • One of the best videos I saw!!
    Actually I am not good at back replying people ( I’m an introvert) I just walk off silently but this girl replied well to all the annoyers!
    Cool and great job����

  • ok, i love his humor. it’s not overdone, but it’s so gen z! this man is so smart & inspiring. what a legend. i hope there are more people like him in this world.

  • it is so weird that the mom’s name is Michelle because my mom’s name is Michelle and the kid’s name is Nicole, which is my mom’s best friend’s name. And another thing is is that the kids’s names are Nicole and Nicolette, lol-

    also, I was like, 0:43 wtf we just started, and now John is like, “we are recording 1 last time” that got me so frickin confused �� but then I realized this was a different vid �� –

  • I am a little over weight and it makes me feel really self conscious and one day I told my mom and she helped me get in a diet but now it’s all she talks about. She points out when shirts don’t fit right or if I’d look better in a bigger size or if I should cover up my pimples. I know she is trying to get me more self aware and confident but it’s become a lot and I stress over my appearance a lot more now and I don’t know what to do

  • We need to normalize chubby ness I mean she is beautiful and I was so overweight when I was around her age and I did modeling when I was 11

  • Me: I want to drive super cars on the track

    Teacher: but you have bad grades in my class

    Me: but I know more terms then you

    Teacher: to bad, ya gotta pass me class to
    Maybe I do but ELA has no place on the track

  • I love it when strangers start having a heart-to-heart and wholesome uplifting conversation with a child and then John just walks out from the back like “lol jk theyre actors”

  • Im sorry u dont have to be mean but alot of kids need to lose grandson is 15 weighs 240 pds my granddaughter is 16 weighs 230 they need to lose granddaughter has sugar she and her brother have stretch marks all over. Id never same them but i do tell them to cut out the carbs and thoses streach marks arent going away..if they would each lose at least 50 pds they would be happy cause they complain over their weight and i try to help them not hurt them..never shame a child never..

  • Going to school that’s not the case in 2020 you just eat your breakfast and then you go on that computer not so hard anymore right

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  • I see all these comments abt how the overweight actor must feel about auditioning for this. But did you not her John say our young actor is fully prepared for Michelle’s hurtful words

  • Hello new Friend really like your videos..Would like to invite you to my YouTube channel. Will appreciate if you could support me..hope to see you there.��

  • I know how she feels. I need to lose weight myself. One of the reasons why i wear a scarf��. It was nice how that man cared but he was rather inflexible based on his anger and language.

  • Listening to this, and listening to people’s stories reminds me of what I did when I was really young. I was just a young kid, and I wanted to be a singer, a writer, or an artist. Three careers which I really loved, and I still love all three of these things. However, all I ever heard when I thought about any of those three careers was that those were going to be impossible to make it in. It’s impossible to become a singer because think about how hard it is to just get your name out there. In all three of these careers, it was all about how impossible this was. When I first got to high school I had kind of decided. I would be a more realistic career, one that was something that I could do. I turned my head to cooking. However, when I went to fill out what I wanted to be when I got out of high school, a chef wasn’t even my fourth option. I wanted to do anything to do with art or programming. And it kind of made me realize that I had given up on something I was so passionate about. I wanted to do art, it was what I loved. Recently I decided to continue pursuing art. Not because I disliked cooking, but because I love art more than I love cooking. Anyway, this is just what the video reminded me of ^^

  • OH MY GOD!!!!! I was not expecting those kind of reactions from the men!!!!!!
    from now on i will respond everyone ������ so funnyyyyy
    the “son” part was priceless!

  • I dont have much of an experience, mostly because im a kid mostly but because i understand them this is one said in most my story animated stories so,(your such a disappointment) it hurts them inside or ot just completely breaks the bond, trust me i live with it

  • They’re really good actors, and the people who stepped in are good sports, because I would love to strangle the mom, and I would cuss her out of I saw that in a store

  • If I could redo my life, I’d strive to become a the best i can be in the arts and music production, but i guess i cant anymore as I’ve built myself on the basis that education in the only way to succede, always pressured by my parents to do well in school and get the highest grades i couldn, now i am in a bind, currently this is my best choice, but honestly i hate it, but at least, i will have an easy life in the end, but I’m not sure if it’s worth my happiness

  • I’m fat but boys still like me Like my crush �� �� ♥️I feel so bad for the girl:( just because this is fake it maybe real to somebody ��

  • Yeah my mom and dad fight and and when I cry no one sits down with me. Mom be like even my used to not care is that my fault all I have to do is housework and over that u don’t do anything only your elder sister did

  • But the mom is not wrong, fat acceptance makes you die earlier just facts 8/10 obese people die 10 years younger than people w normal weight (With all respect)

  • I would tell my daughter u need to lose weight but in a nice way I just want my daughter to be healthy and working out it good for u

  • I got 96% or 99% but I am not the first I am 2nd
    Mom should tell why didn’t got the first rank
    Friends feel jealous and they will no talk or play
    I will cry I don’t got the first rank
    This is how the smart kids life

  • What would you be doing 15 years from now if you could do or be anything you want? uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

     What do you want to do with your education? Traditional school is a waste of time. I’d rather use that time to find a goal in life.

     What are your hopes for your kids? 

     What do you want your child to achieve?

     Do your parents know what your dream is? What dream?

     Do you believe you are significant? no

  • 2:32
    God his voice is so deep until he revealed his sunglasses and his face is the face of an 8 year old if it wasn’t for the mustache lmao.

  • I’ve wanted to study literature in school meaning to specialize in that area. They said it’s not the best choice but I believe I would’ve excelled at it because I love that stuff. Being who I am I like to be in a good position between my peers in terms of academics because competition is real where I am. However I took science as speciality and now I have to study accordingly in order to have good grades, thus I won’t have the time to read, analyze passages, learn languages and go in depth of literature especially while investing in music. I wish I had faith in my dream which is to major in french literature and specialize in Chinese language in order for me to become a translator, travel all across asia and europe for business and become a significant worker in the field. Yet, reality is I’ll just go along this path I’ve chosen myself just because it’s “smart” and aim to have the possibility to enter dentistry or a honorable business school…

  • Girl you need to lose some pounds not kidding actually need to sorry girl I did not want to call you this but you need to lose some pounds at least 10 pounds a week

  • Even within the secure occupations there’s fear of failure. I haven’t even started uni yet, and I’m already scared that, even if my chosen subject basically guarantees me a job (Literally, only like 2% of graduates from the university I’ll be attending are still unemployed two years after graduation), I still feel like, since there are so many people who are better than me, they’ll be the ones to get the good jobs and get somewhere in life. Workplaces are looking for the most qualified, and as long as there are people better than me, I won’t be the one getting that job I really want. It honestly just feels hopeless. Like, if you’re not the absolute best at what you do, you won’t get your dream job.

  • Making fun of your kid in public for being fat is wrong, but there’s nothing wrong with not allowing your kid to eat a donut if they’re overweight because it will help them in the long run

  • I think some teens are scared to try to achieve their dreams because they are afraid of not going anywhere with their dream. Holding down a job may be a waste of time and potential, but it gives you (some) financial security.

  • My mom bought a tablet when I was little soon I got addicted.
    Then today THEY said it’s your fault that your addicted.
    I’m like xhjwixbndibxmwoabx whyyy? It’s ur fault not mine!

  • Random guy: you absolutely discussed me!
    Everyone: OHHHHHHH!!!!! OH WOAH OK HA!!
    My dad: calm down!! I’m trying to sleep!
    Me: �� sorry

  • When I was 13, I said to people that I wanted to be an astronomer because I was really interested about space and my mom was really prod of it. One year later, I’ve realized that it’s not for me even if my passion about it is still there. So now, I’ve finally found my way and wanted to be a music producer. The thing that bother me now is to tell this to my parents because of my former envisaged carrier. Lately, my note at school aren’t really great and they are afraid of my future, telling me that if you wanna do that kind of my dream(that they assume that it still to be an astronomer) you should have really good marks even if they don’t know what I wanna do.
    Since about a year, every time I go back from school, I sit on my computer to train myself to be a music producer by watching tutorial and livestream of my favorite artists till 11:00 pm. But my parents believe that I’m just watching some YT memes, lazing around and neglecting study and homework, that it’s not benefit for me. Sometimes, I’d like to tell them what I’m really doing and prove them that I really have worked hard for months but for my own dream.
    I am now 15 and there is only two years before I finish school and I still did not find the courage to tell them I wanna do.
    This talk hit me so hard in different level. I wish I’ve seen this video before.

  • I never thought this was unusual….? My mom says that to me every time we go shopping like…. giving examples of girls who are too slender and get anything they want to wear and If I want to get the same…. I have to loose weight….. when did this become so….. UNcommon?

  • I’ve always known “kids” are far far smarter than us “adults” think. I had no problems allowing my 3 year old to use my $5,000 stereo. But I micromanaged when they first used a sharp knife years later.

  • I was in year 6 / 5th grade when I started self harming (11-12) and tried to kill myself when I was in year 7 and 8. I’m 13 now I constantly want to kill myself so it’s 14 and below.

  • Well it’s ok kid my parents call me a pig and that’s ok to be fat because it doesn’t matter you know? As long as your healthy it’s all right.

  • I now how it fells I am also just like you in real life I’m on a diet I don’t eat chocolate�� chips or nothing sweet donuts�� all I can do is stay home and cry about How will I lose weight instead I have to eat����������������������������������������I have to eat all fruits

  • So no one is going to talk about the lesbian at the end of how double standard she was by calling them out then use the same tacky lines on her?
    No one saw that?
    Oh okay i see how it is..

  • Why would a mom fat shame her own daughter like I kind of chubby and my mom didn’t even say anything about it she was just like she was on a diet and like I decided to join in and Chi like she had cheat days and she was actually being really nice about it and now I’m actually you know skinny

  • School gets in the way of what I really want to learn, I wish I could drop out and persue learning different skills and techniques to become a professional juggler.

  • I’m 15… I’m told by everyone around me that I will never amount to anything special. My parents don’t tell me that because they are my parents…but the facial expressions when I tell them I wanna work at NASA…I wanna a mathematician…they tell me to try and I’ll get there..but there facial expressions say…you’ll never be able to do that……..I love math I l love science I love space…..what other job it perfect for me than NASA I think….than I think….everybody’s right…..”I’ll NEVER be anything special”

  • When I was a teenager, I didn’t think I would make it to 20. I’m 26 and every year when my birthday comes, I think the same thing “I never thought I would make it this far..” I’m not in the place I thought I would have been by now, and I still don’t know what my purpose is or why I’m here. I gave up on my dreams years ago, and have basically just been surviving instead of living.

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  • I don’t even know what to say or think at this point. It feels like I need to scream to save myself but no one can hear me or understand why I’m doing it.

  • I used to have such a dream of becoming something specifically ever since I was little until my middle teen years.. I got laughed at and told I wasn’t smart enough, or that I am too fickle and I’ll never make it, or that its such a waste of time that there’s no point.. To be honest, my high school grades the past 4 years have been crashing, I don’t know what I’m even waking up and getting out of bed for… and I don’t have a goal because the ones I had were too good for me, or they were ridiculous and shameful. I can’t even remember what my goals were that I was SO passionate about back then. I think that people need to make a change and support growing minds who are searching for real self fulfillment of THEIR OWN, not what someone else thinks has meaning. Just making a point. Oh yeah, that’s what I wanted to do, be a public speaker XD lmao but mom says they are just searching for attention and they are worthless. nice

  • For a long time I did want to be an engineer, because I liked building stuff.
    But then highschool did an excellent job at making me hate maths with a passion…
    and also I found out game design was an option.

    But now that I’m nearing the end of my game design studies, I’m not entirely sure I wanna do this anymore either…

  • It doesn’t matter how much you weight, you must always be strong. Don’t let others make you feel sad. Just be yourself and confident. It is alright, everyone is beautiful, and no one is perfect. Stand up for yourself ❤️

  • I have an 11-year old daughter who is a little overweight. It started when she began puberty at 9. She’s very self-conscious about it. I tell her there’s a good chance she’ll slim down as she grows taller, but she’s a kind, sensitive and loving girl who is beautiful inside and out and knowing that, and learning to love herself, is much more important than being a certain size. I can’t imagine talking to her the way the mom in this scenario does!

  • This is so true, I am thirteen and my parents have done almost practically everything mentioned, I feel bad, they should watch this, obviously

  • I’ve been heveier since I was little and I’ve never slimmed but I’m comfortable with my body and every girl and guy should be comfortable with themselves

  • I thinks parents schould never say When I wont be around anymore you will be sorry but then it will be too late to their teens or kids

  • Lmao that mom is asian parents but karen ������ if you’ve never been with an asian parent they will not hesitate to say “Oh my god you are so fat! You need to go on a diet-” but they would NOT hesitate to feed you everythingthat’s one reason why some asian children are not slim-

  • 2 things can be true at once. The mother shouldn’t have been rude and made fun of her publicly, but being overweight is unhealthy and it’s bad to tell people that you shouldn’t try to lose weight and become healthier.

  • It don’t make sense to me, if a chick walk up and talk to me I will give her audience. It’s not a big deal, yelling like a dummy to a woman is stupid, walking up like a gentleman and trying to make a friend isn’t. Liberals with their sense of humor

  • Damn Americans(including me )don’t know what respectful speech is first this he said is “u disgust me” woahhh u just stepped on a dozen land mines

  • In School

    Me: I wanna be a digital artist Uwu

    Teacher: But your doing really bad in everything except art

    Me: That’s okay? Right I wanna do digital art-

    Teacher: Well to bad to be an artist ya need really good grades in all the classes that have nothing to do with art

    Me: makes sense

  • I was once inspired to be a writer when my poem was published in a book but those dreams were easily crushed by my parents who forced my to be a doctor. Thu book was published when I was around 10 and now I’m 12 and a writer on wattpad.
    My parents ate still forcing me to be a doctor because I have no other choice.
    To everyone out there, do not do what I did!
    Stand up for yourself.

  • I used to be chubby when I was around the age 10 and my mom used to pick on m and tell me I needed to lose weight and I developed eating problems and lost a bunch of weight and now I still have those I need to lose weight words in my head

  • Talk to her about it that’s all you can do even though you feel like hitting her but that’s not the mature thing to do. Also tell the daughter she looks beautiful

  • (previously mom and I have a big fight )
    me: (crying in my room)
    phone rings: I look it says message from mom then I read the actual message it says (don’t be mad )
    I replied: why?
    her reply: because I don’t like it when you are sad.

    that is what happens all the time

    #10. “You’re okay.” 0:50
    #9. “I’m so fat!” 1:50
    #8. “Hurry up!” 2:47
    #7. “Don’t be sad.” 3:50
    #6. “Let me do it.” 4:50
    #5. “You’re so incredible!” 5:52
    #4. “Good job!” 7:10
    #3. “You need to set a good example for your little brother/sister” 8:04
    #2. “Go kiss Grandma.” 9:02
    #1. “I’m so proud of you!” 9:55

  • As someone who has struggled with her weight since I was 10, I would have been disgusted and I would have jumped in so fast that mom’s head would spin.

  • Is it just me or does he kinda sound like a whiner? At the same time idealistic. That he thinks that everyone. Every. Single. Person. Should feel significant. That’s the problem NOW. Everyone’s “personal “ truth. Facts are now subjective. He believes that we should be in a world where every kid WANTS to go to school.

    No one WANTS to go. Even if it’s fun or entertaining.

    And thinking that feeling self important and somehow these kids would benefit from even MORE confidence boosting, self aggrandizing, “you’re perfect the way you are”—which they interpret as “I don’t need to change. You have to accept me the way I am. I am just as important as everyone else and I DESERVE respect automatically. And entertain me so that I can somehow enjoy school, or you’re a failure as an instructor—

    What if we said that to our bosses? Lol.

    No wonder these kids, when they say they don’t care, they truly don’t care. We are creating an environment that churns out sociopaths.

    The ability to prioritize and evaluate what is more important on a large scale—is disappearing. So often, you get the reply if “well that’s MY truth” as if that’s the answer to why you disagree, as if there isn’t a right answer and you’re damaging their minds by suggesting that they’re ever wrong.

  • yeah that’s alright what you said but why our education system not support us to acheive our goals or dreams does not matter what we became system teach us sciences,math or etc.but why education system not understand what we want what is our passion or what we want to become may be we get extra ordaniry grades in our passion which we dont get in sciences or mathes

  • i have my friend was looking all the girls and called me fat wtf
    i not fat btw
    and if someone calls you fat your still butfull just the way u r remember that
    stick ur head up and ignore all of those people
    we r all butfull
    stay safe

  • It’s not what she’s says, it’s how she says it. Kids don’t need to be called fat and humiliated, but DAMN…they do need to maintain a HEALTHY weight. If she was that sauce while being active and eating clean most of the time, then so be it. Let puberty deal with the weight. But if she’s a couch potato that sneaks junk food, then YES she needs to be monitored. Parents aren’t doing their kids any favors by trying to avoid hurting their feelings and letting them be unhealthy.

    Former Fat Kid

  • the way I see it if you don’t want to be fat shamed don’t be fat aka a little piggy
    Quit being lazy quit over eating and quit eating people������������������������

  • It’s all about how you handle life.

    You can either cry around and try to make yourself a victim, pitying yourself OR don’t take anything as an Insult and take life more easy and roll with it and have fun / make banter of some situation like this lady right here.

    Be confident lmao.

  • We all eat candy and we’re all fat doesn’t means we have to not eat we all need to eat it’s better bc whenever we be good we get a treat we all eat like candy �� cake cupcakes so no need to be mean to others

  • When kids (especially teens) ask their mum or dad to knock before coming into their room,and mum/dad say “it’s our house”,I think that it’s wrong,because they always tell us not to come in their room,not to touch their stuff,but what do they do? They go to the kid’s room,and touch their stuff,and if we don’t want to give our parents our phone,it doesn’t mean that we are hiding something.

  • Well my mother often called me ugly because I did inherited my looks from my father. My mother’s family are blessed of good appearance from my half Spanish grandmother. That’s why I often compared to my cousins…�� And she often look at me with disappoinment…��

  • The mum is discussing; she she never go through puberty or just became an eating disorder specialist…. hope she has massive menopausal weight gain ��