How you can Motivate Your Tween for his or her Goals

 

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How to Motivate Your Tween for Their Goals Be Upbeat. If you want your tween to embrace learning, or try new things be sure you present a positive and upbeat Be Inspiring. It’s always nice to hear upbeat stories of success.

Be sure to share your own stories about how you set. Step 1: Encourage your Teen to Write Down Their Goal Studies have shown goals are achieved at a significantly higher rate when they are written down. A teen might initially be resistant to the idea of writing down their goal: “I know I’ll do it!” or “Don’t you trust me?”. Help Your Tween Manage Her Periods and Emotions. By Jennifer O’Donnell How to Motivate Your Tween for Their Goals.

By Jennifer O’Donnell The Child Behavior Checklist. Medically reviewed by Steven Gans, MD Establishing Rules for Kids and Preteens. By Jennifer O’Donnell View More. In order to motivate your teenager, you must develop a relationship of trust.

To do so, strive to empathize with your teenager’s emotions, needs, wants, and goals. There are two types of empathy: affective and cognitive. Affective empathy is based in feelings, experiencing an emotional response in regards to someone else’s situation. It’s much better to encourage and compliment them on how hard they worked. Ultimately, that’s what matters.

So as a parent, I think it’s important to know what your kid’s goals are because then you can use that as a tool to motivate them. Your child’s goals may be really good and realistic. You can motivate your teens with encouragement which is very different from trying to get your teens to do what you want. Humor, collateral, let’s make a deal, and involvement are positive motivation tools.

There is one surefire way to get your kids to keep their agreements, and it’s called follow-through. According to Education World, there are six key secrets to successful goal setting that you can communicate to your students: Write clear and measurable goals. Create a specific action plan for each goal. Read your goals daily and visualize yourself accomplishing them. Ask your child to set a goal that is related to an area of interest or a change you would like to see in his behavior.

Remember that children, even in adolescence, can have a difficult time setting goals on their own. If your child doesn’t even want to do any homework at all, start small. Help them reflect back to what their hopes and dreams were when they were children and go from there,” she says. Teens need to clearly see their goals, whether it’s graduating from high school, going to college, or just passing the next big test.

But kids who struggle with school cannot be expected to reach their goals alone. Start by communicating honestly and frequently with each employee in your group, really getting to know your employees (and letting them get to know you), and infusing your team with your own optimism and vision.

List of related literature:

Foster their talents, feed their curiosity, and ask them about their dreams — girls need reminders every day that their dreams can come true.

“Sexy Feminism: A Girl's Guide to Love, Success, and Style” by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong, Heather Wood Rudúlph
from Sexy Feminism: A Girl’s Guide to Love, Success, and Style
by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong, Heather Wood Rudúlph
HMH Books, 2013

The key to motivating this teen is to offer the teen something that she wants in exchange for something that you want.

“Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential” by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
from Smart But Scattered Teens: The Executive Skills Program for Helping Teens Reach Their Potential
by Richard Guare, Peg Dawson, Colin Guare
Guilford Publications, 2012

Explaining that they will be able to do the things they enjoy (fully participating in sports, playing outside with their friends, and so forth) might be a better motivator.

“Clinical Asthma E-Book” by Mario Castro, Monica Kraft
from Clinical Asthma E-Book
by Mario Castro, Monica Kraft
Elsevier Health Sciences, 2008

Tween Instead of offering a reward, talk to your tween about what you think she needs to work on, whether it’s doing a better job on homework or taking on more chores.

“The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries” by Michele Borba
from The Big Book of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers to Your Everyday Challenges and Wildest Worries
by Michele Borba
Wiley, 2009

Remind them that their efforts now can help establish healthful habits that won’t collapse under the peer pressures of adolescence.

“Illustrated Manual of Nursing Practice” by Lippincott Williams & Wilkins
from Illustrated Manual of Nursing Practice
by Lippincott Williams & Wilkins
Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2002

Encourage them to do things that will help them feel they are achieving.

“Love by the Numbers: How to Find Great Love Or Reignite the Love You Have Through the Power of Numerology” by Glynis McCants
from Love by the Numbers: How to Find Great Love Or Reignite the Love You Have Through the Power of Numerology
by Glynis McCants
Sourcebooks, 2009

Urge them to establish realistic goals and outcomes so they can meet the rapidly changing needs of their toddler and learn to cope with typical toddler behaviors.

“Maternal & Child Health Nursing: Care of the Childbearing & Childrearing Family” by Adele Pillitteri
from Maternal & Child Health Nursing: Care of the Childbearing & Childrearing Family
by Adele Pillitteri
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2010

Provide advice to teens and parents about having realistic expectations; encourage them to agree on a level of normalcy and adequate rest for the teen so that he or she can still fulfill responsibilities in the home.

“Maternity and Pediatric Nursing” by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
from Maternity and Pediatric Nursing
by Susan Scott Ricci, Terri Kyle
Wolters Kluwer Health/Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2009

Talk to them, motivate them, help them to become something that they want to be.

“Come On People: On the Path from Victims to Victors” by Bill Cosby, Alvin F. Poussaint
from Come On People: On the Path from Victims to Victors
by Bill Cosby, Alvin F. Poussaint
Thomas Nelson, 2009

Don’t sweat those first steps, or try to rush them (if she’s not ready to step out on her own, no amount of parental prodding will motivate her to reach that milestone faster—and in fact, too much pressure can slow her down plenty).

“What to Expect: The Second Year” by Heidi Murkoff
from What to Expect: The Second Year
by Heidi Murkoff
Simon & Schuster UK, 2012

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  • My 10’year old boy. Was danceing for years untill lock down. Now he won’t do anything at home or anywhere i say his mates are doing it so you need to. Soon as I say he storms off.

  • This video is a great reminder to me to create a can-do environment in my home, as kids learn the best when motivation comes from within. I especially like the tips and the rhymes. I just subscribed to this channel so I can see more of your videos as they are released.

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  • ANSWERS:
    1. Difference between goal and wish.

    A goal without a plan is just a wish meaning a wish is something you dream of, and a goal is something your going to accomplish.

    2. Your goal must be clear and well defined.

    3. Why would you want your goal to be measurable?

    Tracking the goal is good to show progress and to keep us motivated. So you know you can accomplish setting your goal to high will drain you eventually.

    4. What might one feel if they set goals that are not attainable?

    One might feel their goals aren’t attainable if their to high, don’t set a goal if you don’t have the ability to keep it.

    5. How would you ensure that a goal is relevant?

    Pursing one goal at a time, make sure you have a purpose.

    6. What tools are useful in making sure your goals are time-bound?

    Keeping them on your mind so you don’t flop.

    7. However its actually an ongoing process ; it never ends. Your plans need evalution and revision so its important to stay flexible!

    Your welcome

  • Anybody who is watching this as an assignment for school should be grateful. These things are not taught in school when I went there. Consider yourselves lucky kids.

  • 1. I will learn holly Quran
    2.with my teacher to evaluate me
    3.l plan every day l will study ex friday and my lessons 3 times
    4. I will end insha’Allah in next Ramadan

  • Goal ; to start a permaculture project on a farm land in south India. Initial aim: to get support in the initially year from local authority. I have a month to reach how I can do this. Thanks

  • Ok, your wish of learning French reminded me something.
    So…..I also wanna learn Korean, because I like kpop, k-dramas and Korean music. The problem is I alway have to rely on subtitles that’s why I started to learn the language. So is it also useless??? Plz answer.

  • My major goals are
    1. Study much more so I can get a job when I turn sixteen.
    2. Save up $25 after every paycheck, and make 20,000 dollars in 3 yrs so I can move to LA.
    3. To to LATTC, and learn culinary to get my own restaurant.

  • i see young ones here commenting that theyre only watching this cuz their teachers told them to. take it from a 29 yr old who just started to take his life seriously. Dont take this for granted!:)

  • Excellent advice… “Man ever aspires to greater heights and loftier goals. He ever seeks to attain a world surpassing that which he inhabits, and to ascend to a degree above that which he occupies.” Baha’i Faith

  • My Goals:
    1. Improve my problem solving skills (within 6 months).
    2. Become a full stack web developer (within 2 years).
    3. Become a freelancer (within 4 years).

    These are my top 3 goals

  • Wish there was more than just one (failing) female figure in this. Makes me not want to use it as an educator. But the information is good.

  • I was a junior high and high school English teacher for almost 40 years, and I NEVER favored the boys; I was extremely fair, and mostly the girls would come to me between classes and after school because they were having personal problems. I always said the same things you’re recommending. I always told every kid that he or she could make mistakes and it was ok! I actually had a young man who was “challenging” in the classroom, come back to see me after school a few years later dressed in Navy attire and decked out beautifully! I said he looked wonderful and asked him why he was back here at school (especially in MY classroom!), and he told me he was there to thank me. I asked him why. He said he was going to commit suicide one day and had it perfectly planned out, but apparently while I was milking around the classroom (I always made it a point to check in on each student and ask how he/she was.), I said something positive to him, that I didn’t and don’t even recall, to him that made him change his mind about his plan. He decided to make something of himself and joined the Navy. If I had that influence in one young man, and saved a life, my entire teaching career was worth it. ��

  • Hello sir very well explained. Kindly share on which software which software you created this video. I will appreciate. Many thanks.

  • I love how you’ve illustrated this. SMART goals are ‘de rigueur’ in coaching and business and I find them very useful. I have often found it useful to make a distinction between ‘big dreams’ and ‘attainable goals’, as I’ve seen some people try to ‘SMART’ the big dream. I find it’s also work exploring impact bias. Thanks for this video!

  • Asking the RIGHT questions makes all the difference. Jean always provides excellent examples and tips parents can immediately put to use.

  • How does one decide what is relevant when they believe that most everything outside of eating, sleeping, and being living is irrelevant?

    I would like to learn a language, but at no point in the future do I ever see myself in a situation where I would need to know another language, except maybe Spanish but highschool has ruined that.

    What’s wrong with wanting to learn French because it sounds nice?

  • The presentation was so promising at the start:/ Why is the presenter wearing a skirt, blouse, wedding band, long hair and make-up? I think she read a book that was written 100 years ago and decided to do a 15 minute TED talk in 2016. You’re a little late my dear.

  • If there was “gender stereotyping in schools” and “bias in the classroom” that prefers boys and gives disadvantages to girls, then why are girls outperforming boys in PISA studies across the globe? No matter how (un)egalitarian a society, girls do better academically. How does this substantiate the theory of gender discrimination? Please explain.

  • What if her two girls grow up, and their biggest goal and dream for their lives is to be a stay-at-home wife and Mom? I’m sure this lady wouldn’t be okay with that.
    And that’s very sad.

  • I always tell my granddaughter to look at people as if she were blind and just look at their souls. I ask her, if I’m putting her to bed, to think of 3 things she’s grateful for. I doubt her parents do that! They are both too materialistic, and her dad, who is a great dad, but doesn’t believe in anything but himself, would never do that. She actually told me at 3 years old that her dad, whom she lives dearly, doesn’t think she does anything right. I grew up with that same type of father, but he was an alcoholic. I have NO idea why I have good self-esteem now, but it took many years to get that!
    I hope to God that my daughter can counteract that attitude.

  • I salute your statements,because you have addressed such a big issue.I am from India.In India there are tons of gender stereotypes.The only way to eradicate this belief is giving proper education, for which teachers are main.So I request my teacher community to start to think at least now, that why only few girls are trying to be prove that they are equally capable of getting success as men. but many girls are still considering themselves as they borne to serve male society. if they go apposite to this, they will get hell after death(it is complete non science).I am a teacher I am proud of myself,I never biased girls and boys.I call them with their universal identity i e kids, children, students.dear all.Thank you Samantha Ettus.

  • Some excellent points….I would only add that we shouldn’t limit them either waymy girls love princesses and legos: they have Thomas the train, Frozen and Moana. I show them the options and let them choose.

  • Okay. Hard to take an advise from a woman who wears skirt, make up, long hair, burgundy (I guess) color blouse, high hills..you get the point. She herself is selling her point of view but she’s so stereotyping herself with fashion and accessories typically wear by women. So unlocking the children’s potential is by being gender neutral?

  • How old is your data? Girls and women have been outperforming boys and men academically for years and the disparity is only growing. Let’s agree that there are many issues for girls in self-image and role-modeling but let’s not presume that these things don’t exist or don’t, in other ways, disparage boys.

  • True, there are stereotypes. However, I do not agree that boys are encouraged to speak more than girls. I believe it depends on the teacher, parents, etc.. The education seems to want conformity & students who are well behaved, not to be curious & ask questions. Change begins with each one of us..

  • Saying ‘you can be anything ‘ to your kids is just wrong and not true. It might be right if you were born in a developed country and you had a supporting family. For the rest of us It’s less than 1% chance of becoming what we want in our life. There is so many factors to this. This talk is so oversimplified. I would rather say to my kids ‘you can be happy in life no matter what’.

  • You are right we should unlock our children’s potential, but I don’t agree with people that don’t understand that there are biological and psychological differences between men and women, each have their own advantages and disadvantages over each other and we should not try to raise them the same way, they should learn that even though there are differences between men and women there is nothing wrong with it, we should not fight nature we should embrace it!

  • my girl, 10, told me that she doesn’t want to watch princess movies because they are weak, always they Waite for a prince to rescue them

  • I love so much of this talk and your work. As a mom who worked part time, full time and more as I raised kids (now 18and 21), I wish I recognized more of this as we were growing up. However, as a teacher, I cannot help but feel defensive. I have taught preschool through high school, trained hundreds of teachers and administrators in classroom management and social-emotional skills. I know the hard work and dedication teachers put into their classroom communities and into knowing each child. Like all other industries, I know this doesn’t apply to all. Just as your statements about teachers looking at and calling on boys 2/3 of the time is a generalization. Yes, there is data to back that up. But there is data to back up much of what happens in the classroom. As I listened, I couldn’t help but feel defensive as a teacher “no! that’s not what I do! that’s not what I have witnessed other teachers doing.” I hope that your viewers recognize this doesn’t apply across the board and that many, if not most, teachers work diligently to help kids see humans as humans and not to foster subtly nor overtly stereotypes. It’s our awareness, collective and individual, that helps create the shift not sweeping generalizations.

  • “Do you have any dreams or goals that you’re currently working on?”

    Since last month I’ve been learning a programming using JavaScript language on a website called khan academy.
    My goal is to create personal or public games.
    And honestly it’s going good.
    I still have many things to say, but I don’t want to explain too much.

  • I love this video thank you, Jean for giving parents such sound, proven and usable advice on how to motivate our kids. The transcript with captions are wonderful!!

  • Ask just one question per discussion! That’s where I fall short. Especially with boys, they can’t talk long about it. Patience is a virtue, I remind myself impatiently. I need more patience, and I need it right now! Rhymes are also nice.

  • Wonderful video, Jean. The idea of “Can-Do” is so powerful and as usual, this video includes many solid, actionable suggestions for parents and children.

  • Great video Jean! having confidence to tackle challenges is so important, and increasingly so, it seems, given the problems so many kids have “adulting” these days.

  • We sell ourselves short every time we say, “I can’t,” handing the task to someone who is at least willing to try. That’s the behavior we parents need to model, tackling tough jobs ourselves, working hard to accomplish something even if, in the end, we come up short-so much better than always relying on someone else or standing in the background and letting other do all the heavy lifting and get ahead.

  • Engaging questions about that oh-so-important topic: motivation. I especially like Jean’s ideas to pick just one question for discussion and to follow Can-Do attitudes with praise. A video well worth watching!

  • For many years Jean Tracy has been empowering parents as well as kids through her website. Her website http://www.kidsdiscuss.com is packed with valuable information.

  • Soooo how about when a perfectly capable child who can write neater than most adults, scribbles through there homework leaving it messy cause they just finished a 6 hour school day? Hes 8 and doesnt care what it looks like but the teacher wants it neater

  • Great Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your opinion. Have you ever tried Peytonivon Abs Takeover (google it)? It is a good one of a kind product for mastering life with this simple goal setting technique minus the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my work colleague got cool results with it.

  • Another fantastic educational video that can offer parents actionable advice to motivate their child. I always appreciate Jean’s user friendly advice that is perfect for all parents to implement easily into their busy lives. 5 stars!

  • My school goal is to have a higher GPA in school to get into a good college. My personal goal is to pass my drivers test which is going to be next year. I am going to be a sophomore in high school so I want to try to pass my drivers test.

  • This was a great video For me, as a teacher, I am going to use Step 2) What is your motivation for a goal? That is so important, the why of “why” you’re doing something! I’ll show the students this tomorrow! Thanks

  • Hey Bro I Love The Content Its Really Helpful. I Just Would Like To Ask What Animation Style Is This And What Software You Used? It’s Really Nice!

  • It a great idea to break big goals into smaller ones. Sometimes larger goals can feel overwhelming so breaking them up into something you can tackle not only helps monitor your progress but it also makes it a little bit less stressful